gotta learn to love and accept yourself nigga, or if there are parts you can change, which you can change a lot of things, then work on that.
And lots of guys will tell you to go to the gym to get women. Wrong. You go to the gym to improve your health and wellbeing. This goes for any change you want to make, you have to make it for yourself, not others.
I'm not talking about whatever your obsessed mind considers incel fantasies. The point is that if nobody ever loved you, you can't convince yourself that you're worthy of love without being delusional, as your lived experience fundamentally goes against that idea.
1. Most relationships fail at some point. Statistically, that’s just true. A lot of people think they’ve got their soul mate, only for it all to come apart tragically at some point.
2. To me, being alone is a freeing feeling. Having no obligations to anyone means that I never have to worry about feeling guilty, exhausted, or frustrated over the 24/7 requirements of being in a relationship. I never have to worry about losing the love of my life if I ever find myself in a bad spot and am having trouble dealing with it. At all times, I’m free to do what is best for me. And anything I do for others feels like a blessing, rather than just what is expected. Best of all- no drama. Ever.
Honestly, I am happy being alone. I do worry about what happens late in life, but getting with someone just because you’re afraid of getting old and dying alone is a terrible idea for so many reasons. Starting with the fact that they may go long before you do, making the last part of your life that much more miserable.
This guy is right. A ton of people rush into serious relationships with the wrong person or with blatant red flags, and don't think of the consequences.
>To me, being alone is a freeing feeling
It also offers you the opportunity to take risks that you may not have been able to had you had a partner, or children. Like, if you had an opportunity to pursue a high risk, high reward job opportunity, you could do so without jeopardising the stability of your household.
>but getting with someone just because you’re afraid of getting old
I feel like a lot of people pursue relationships with this mindset. Motivated by fear or something outside of love. Some people, especially as you get older, start to scramble for a relationship because they want kids. They overlook the catalyst for everything, which should be love, and then they end up tied to another person without the thing that keeps the ship afloat.
>Starting with the fact that they may go long before you do, making the last part of your life that much more miserable.
Yeah. I've thought about that. That seems really sad. Sometimes I watch true crime stories about people who lost their families in horrible murders, and it's so tragic to think that in an instant everything can be taken away from you.
This, it's hard - very hard - to not give in to darkness. despite what a lot of hustlers tell you, there is an awful lot that's out of our control. love is one of those things especially if you're an introvert - but don't give in to despair.
>studied hard >Had a shit office job but make good money >Have a son with wife >He is sever autist >He is 9yo >Can't talk only makes weird noises >Only play with baby toys >He have to wear diapers because somedays he refuses to go to the bath >Some days he becomes agresive amd destroys the house >He only sleeps 3-4h >No sex with wife (sex drive goes to 0 when you don't sleep a full night for years) >Only fun thing of my life is playing some vidya in the bus to work >Regret not being a comfy happy neet
I already found her, and she left me
my interest isn't 0 but considering how awful the experience was I am in no rush to repeat it
If I find my one and only, I find her. If I don't, I don't. If that girl was my one and only? Maybe God will make it right. Or maybe not.
I care only to help others, I don't need a wife for that.
as long as you believe that you’re worthy of love, then you’ll find someone
It was over before it even began. If nobody loves you, how do you believe you're worthy of love?
gotta learn to love and accept yourself nigga, or if there are parts you can change, which you can change a lot of things, then work on that.
And lots of guys will tell you to go to the gym to get women. Wrong. You go to the gym to improve your health and wellbeing. This goes for any change you want to make, you have to make it for yourself, not others.
You have to be delusional to believe something in the face of constant contradictory evidence.
You have to be delusional to believe that incel fantasies are "evidence".
I'm not talking about whatever your obsessed mind considers incel fantasies. The point is that if nobody ever loved you, you can't convince yourself that you're worthy of love without being delusional, as your lived experience fundamentally goes against that idea.
You are confusing me with someone else. I don't even know what point you are trying to make.
If you don't even have reading basic comprehension there's really nothing I can tell you.
What is the point you are trying to make?
Not Op, but be delusional then. You'll probably have a better chance at happiness.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLH7yUwkBPg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fIsy_HSHkKo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3tEogFzFQew
Personally, I think about 2 things:
1. Most relationships fail at some point. Statistically, that’s just true. A lot of people think they’ve got their soul mate, only for it all to come apart tragically at some point.
2. To me, being alone is a freeing feeling. Having no obligations to anyone means that I never have to worry about feeling guilty, exhausted, or frustrated over the 24/7 requirements of being in a relationship. I never have to worry about losing the love of my life if I ever find myself in a bad spot and am having trouble dealing with it. At all times, I’m free to do what is best for me. And anything I do for others feels like a blessing, rather than just what is expected. Best of all- no drama. Ever.
Honestly, I am happy being alone. I do worry about what happens late in life, but getting with someone just because you’re afraid of getting old and dying alone is a terrible idea for so many reasons. Starting with the fact that they may go long before you do, making the last part of your life that much more miserable.
This guy is right. A ton of people rush into serious relationships with the wrong person or with blatant red flags, and don't think of the consequences.
Will you be happy being alone in your 50s/60s/70s when you start having serious health issues?
Read what I wrote.
>To me, being alone is a freeing feeling
It also offers you the opportunity to take risks that you may not have been able to had you had a partner, or children. Like, if you had an opportunity to pursue a high risk, high reward job opportunity, you could do so without jeopardising the stability of your household.
>but getting with someone just because you’re afraid of getting old
I feel like a lot of people pursue relationships with this mindset. Motivated by fear or something outside of love. Some people, especially as you get older, start to scramble for a relationship because they want kids. They overlook the catalyst for everything, which should be love, and then they end up tied to another person without the thing that keeps the ship afloat.
>Starting with the fact that they may go long before you do, making the last part of your life that much more miserable.
Yeah. I've thought about that. That seems really sad. Sometimes I watch true crime stories about people who lost their families in horrible murders, and it's so tragic to think that in an instant everything can be taken away from you.
Life isn’t always fair, all we can do is try our best every day and see where it leads us
This, it's hard - very hard - to not give in to darkness. despite what a lot of hustlers tell you, there is an awful lot that's out of our control. love is one of those things especially if you're an introvert - but don't give in to despair.
Find one what?
I keep trying and trying. Giving up is for retards.
>studied hard
>Had a shit office job but make good money
>Have a son with wife
>He is sever autist
>He is 9yo
>Can't talk only makes weird noises
>Only play with baby toys
>He have to wear diapers because somedays he refuses to go to the bath
>Some days he becomes agresive amd destroys the house
>He only sleeps 3-4h
>No sex with wife (sex drive goes to 0 when you don't sleep a full night for years)
>Only fun thing of my life is playing some vidya in the bus to work
>Regret not being a comfy happy neet
That's tough. Do you love your son?
I already found her, and she left me
my interest isn't 0 but considering how awful the experience was I am in no rush to repeat it
If I find my one and only, I find her. If I don't, I don't. If that girl was my one and only? Maybe God will make it right. Or maybe not.
I care only to help others, I don't need a wife for that.