143 thoughts on “How should a 30 year old man be dressing? Oxfords? Turtle necks? Suits? Should I drop the Vans, jeans, and hoody?

  1. Anonymous says:

    >Oxfords? Turtle necks? Suits?
    depends on lifestyle and career.
    >Should I drop the Vans, jeans, and hoody?
    emphatically yes

  2. Anonymous says:

    If you are 30 years old and can’t even figure out how to dress despite infinite resources at your disposal then you aren’t really a man but a manchild, closer to a woman or a pet than a man

      • Anonymous says:

        maybe in pakistan lol

        Guys wearing sneakers and hypebeast clothes have that “getting blowjobs from 14 year olds at the skatepark” energy

        Adult men should dress to signal they are emotionally mature and ready to settle down with a woman their age and support a family

        are people really still butthurt about hypebeast? isn’t that like 10+ years ago?

        OP here, I feel old some days. Some days I think the best of life is over and its time for the good lord to take me.
        […]
        Yes well put. Im trying to not looks like a boomer but not like a highschooler either. A sign that Im older now is to somehow figure it out

        you might want to stop taking advice from LULZ, just a thought

        • Anonymous says:

          >you might want to stop taking advice from LULZ, just a thought
          Well, I bought leather boots and a button up shirt. Felt nice in them so it wasnt the worst advice. My desire to wear different clothes has been a personal one not influenced from LULZ.

  3. Anonymous says:

    Just turned 28:
    >loose 501s on my skinny ass legs
    >fading solid color t-shirts ive owned since I last upgraded my wardrobe at 18
    >dirty vans
    why are you not /nevertouchwomencore/ like me?

    • Anonymous says:

      thats what i dont want to be like anymore. i look like a child dressing like I did in highschool but half bald. its a bad look.

      • Anonymous says:

        Buy rogaine and dress like the people around you do. Go to a decently trendy part of your closest town, look at what people there dress like, and base it of that.

      • Anonymous says:

        Where do you live anon?

        You can just polomax if you want something fancier than a t shirt.

        Once you get rich enough people dgaf and just wear t shirts again

  4. Anonymous says:

    If you are still dressing like a high schooler, then some khakis and some button up shirts are all you need, assuming you have a pair of leather shoes. If you need shoes, for your first pair don’t go for something too formal. Either a plain toe boot or a blucher style shoe.

  5. Anonymous says:

    There’s a happy medium between looking like you’re stuck in your teens and dressing what a 14 year old thinks an adult should dress like. Things like jeans and t-shirts are acceptable, you just have to pick ones that have a more mature style. For example, you shouldn’t wear a star wars graphic tee, but a well-fitting plain black tee is perfectly fine.

  6. Anonymous says:

    >Should I drop the Vans, jeans, and hoody?
    Those are fine for doing yardwork or lounging around the house. Just don’t wear them in public.

    Personally, I think the most overlooked aspect of dressing like an adult is fit. Children don’t wear well-fitting clothes because they’re always growing. Mom buys them clothes a size too big to grow into and then the sleeves are too short before they know it.

    At 30 you’re done growing (assuming your weight doesn’t fluctuate and you grow or shrink horizontally) so you can get clothes that actually conform to your body’s contours.

    • Anonymous says:

      This. Nothing looks sloppier than a guy wearing clothes that don’t fit him.

      https://i.imgur.com/5xTjCKr.jpg

      How should a 30 year old man be dressing? Oxfords? Turtle necks? Suits? Should I drop the Vans, jeans, and hoody?

      >How should a 30 year old man be dressing?
      This, on the other hand, is such a broad question. So much depends on lifestyle and location. There’s no one answer.

      A shitty-but-accurate tip is to start spending money. If you’re 30, you should be well-established in your career by now. You’re making decent money. Your peer group mates are making similar. No more bargain bin jeans and freebie t-shirts.

      • Anonymous says:

        to add to this, when youre 30 and nearing CEO position and pay, you should look clean and professional. dont wear neon or bright colors
        also get a few bespoke suits and shoes
        i recommend Brioni or Kiton for suits
        gaziano girling or lobb for shoes

        • Anonymous says:

          My brother in Christ, your average 30 year old is not and will never be a hecking CEO. What sheltered trust fund kiddie world do you hecking live in?

          • Anonymous says:

            If you don’t make 100k in your 30s you are a failure at life
            Go wear sneakers to your mcjobs

          • Anonymous says:

            100k in a major city is effectively poverty tier. 60k in a small or medium sized city with a less inflated cost of living is comfy. You’re a child with zero life experience.

      • Anonymous says:

        Nobody is well-established in their career at 30 anymore. This isn’t 1998. Most people under 35 are unemployed or underemployed.

        • Anonymous says:

          >Most people under 35 are unemployed or underemployed.
          Where did you get that stat? The most recent data I can find doesn’t break it down to such granularity.
          I found stats from 2020 that 21% of workers in the US under age 26 are un-/under-employed. (Underemployed in this case meaning that they work part-time but would like to work full-time.)

        • Anonymous says:

          >Most people under 35 are unemployed or underemployed.
          Where did you get that stat? The most recent data I can find doesn’t break it down to such granularity.
          I found stats from 2020 that 21% of workers in the US under age 26 are un-/under-employed. (Underemployed in this case meaning that they work part-time but would like to work full-time.)

          Underemployment to Millennials means "I don’t want to start at the bottom and move up, I want to start at the top and move sideways".

          Underemployment to Zoomers means "My friend makes 6 figures doing TikTok videos. That’s what I feel I deserve as an intern."

          • Anonymous says:

            Underemployment to this Millennial means, "I received a diploma in web development but I’ve been a security guard for years since".

  7. Anonymous says:

    OP here. I bought some kakis and button up shirt. I tried putting on some nice looking leather shoes but they constricted my feet so much, it was painful. they did look kind of nice but theres no way I could walk around in something like that.

    • Anonymous says:

      Then buy shoes that fit correctly you hecking stupid. Don’t go off your sneaker size. Too narrow or too short in the toe box? Try a different width.

    • Anonymous says:

      Get some decent leather lace up boots. Redwing or similar. Lands End and Ralp Lauren have decent Ranger boots that last forever.

    • Anonymous says:

      you look stupid. id never dress like this.

      >Should I drop the Vans, jeans, and hoody?
      Those are fine for doing yardwork or lounging around the house. Just don’t wear them in public.

      Personally, I think the most overlooked aspect of dressing like an adult is fit. Children don’t wear well-fitting clothes because they’re always growing. Mom buys them clothes a size too big to grow into and then the sleeves are too short before they know it.

      At 30 you’re done growing (assuming your weight doesn’t fluctuate and you grow or shrink horizontally) so you can get clothes that actually conform to your body’s contours.

      post a fit

      Yea lets get some examples. The shoes is especially hard to decide on. I want something casual for everyday wear but also mature.

      • Anonymous says:

        >I want something casual for everyday wear but also mature.
        If you want sneakers you can get the gats preferably from margiela

  8. Anonymous says:

    I’m going to start dressing smarter. I’m 30 now. Time to put things into perspective. I can’t wear trainers and trackie bottoms anymore. It’s time to put a little effort in. Shirts. Trousers. Nice shoes. Smarten myself up. Clean shaven. Always. If I respect myself, others will respect me. That comes through how you present yourself initially. Time to get a move on

  9. Anonymous says:

    What are you supposed to have on your feet that’s more grown up than trainers but not as formal as dress shoes?

    • Anonymous says:

      Ive never seen anyone bad mouthing suits in real life. This fear of being overdressed is an exclusively online phenomenon

    • Anonymous says:

      True, but there’s nothing wrong with an unstructured sport jacket with jeans or contrasting color chinos for casual wear.
      Naturally, this depends a ton on your social circle. If your friends are all still wearing anime t-shirts then, yeah, you’ll seem overdressed.

      • Anonymous says:

        >unstructured sport jacket with jeans or contrasting color chinos for casual wear
        Also works the other way

  10. Anonymous says:

    I used to dress like the guy on the far right and everyone constantly made fun of me, from relatives to friends and coworkers

    Now I just wear streetwear shit, but I also noticed I had lot less luck with girls

  11. Anonymous says:

    I think the guy on the right looks best. Best mix of "normal" casual and class. I’d probably lose the coat because I just don’t wear sport coats, but he looks great.

      • Anonymous says:

        blue khakis/Chinos/slacks
        belt and shoes can be bought at Aldos for cheap. just light brown /beige.
        very spring those light leathers. good time to get some now.
        I wear a matching blue /navy collared shirt to be honest, to go with the pants, and it’s good.
        wear a cap if it’s too formal for your environment

  12. Anonymous says:

    Maybe something like this would be good for everyday wear. I could even spice it up with some more patterned sweater instead of a flat color.

  13. Anonymous says:

    I turn 33 this year and get mistaken for 22-26 even though I’m never clean shaven. If I shave I’ll get carded 100% of the time. I wear whatever the heck I want and feels right for the moment. Seriously just hecking lol @ coming in here and asking what “SHOULD” a 30 year old wear. Absolute joke.

      • Anonymous says:

        You’re equating “growing up” with “subscribing to a particular societal standard,” looks like you’re the one who needs to (spiritually) grow up. hecking NPC.

        • Anonymous says:

          >You’re equating “growing up” with “subscribing to a particular societal standard
          No, learn to read. The I DON’T LE GIVE A SHIT KEK attitude is juvenile.
          >DUDE NPC
          Yep, indeed you are a 17 year old trapped in an aging body

          • Anonymous says:

            Stop replying to yourself.
            This poster is correct:

            >DUDE JUST DO LE WHATEVER YOU WANT KEK
            Juvenile attitude, some people never grow up

            It is juvenile and a staple of teenage years to reject societal standards and expectations, this is why you have so many wacky and edgy styles in teenagers. Actual adults understand the importance of it, it has nothing to do with being an ‘npc’ in fact, an ‘npc’ would like every other teenager, reject millennia long traditions and expectations in favor of some stupid delusions of individuality and ‘feelings’.

            Societal standards are there for a reason, only a stupid teenager rejects them. You literally are in your fedora atheist phase and can’t grow out of it

      • Anonymous says:

        you’re such an obnoxious tard. what anon was saying is that not everyone will look good in the same thing, and it’s stupid to ask for some kind of OBJECTIVE advice for what ANY man should wear in his 30s.

        • Anonymous says:

          He is already hecked up

          >be low test
          >cant get a gf
          >wont have kids
          Or
          >take test
          >balls shrivel
          >wont have kids

          I would still ask a doctor, maybe he is not pozzed and can help him somehow

          • Anonymous says:

            Yes and no.
            My test was super low before starting and I could go back to that.
            But i see no reason for stopping anyway and it’s like 10 minutes and nice a week.

    • Anonymous says:

      So youre 33 and people think you still look like a child. Good job? I think thats the opposite of what OP wants.

  14. Anonymous says:

    >suede classic sneakers
    >more wool
    >oversized half sleeve shirts
    ultimately true maturity is rejecting western fashion and going for trad wear

  15. Anonymous says:

    >Should I drop the Vans, jeans, and hoody?

    no jeans
    no sneakers
    no t-shirts
    no hoods
    no logos
    no backpacks
    no wallet
    no beard
    no short hair
    no phone case
    very few keys
    preferably no bags at all
    Actually just look at plebs and do the opposite.

  16. Anonymous says:

    I think it highly depends on your occupation, lifestyle, locale and the sort of image you want to project. It’s easy to say what you should not do but harder to say what you should do.

  17. Anonymous says:

    depends on career/location/personality/build
    don’t dress like a highschooler if you don’t look like a highschooler
    those outfits you posted work on a skinny metropolitan guy but if you’re anywhere that isn’t a city in the northeast or have a build other than skinny you will have to figure out what works best for you

  18. Anonymous says:

    I am 28 and a regional director at an F500

    I work a brooks brothers Oxford with a vest or pullover and dark jeans 90% of the time.

    For summer I just wear a bunch of Lululemon polos.

    Business casual is an easy bet as you get close to 30

  19. Anonymous says:

    Workwear, americana and classic menswear erring on the side of casual, with the occasional gorpcore, Ivy/prep and streetwear sprinkled in.

    Pull up to the Drake’s London website and have a look at their lookbooks and there you have it.

  20. Anonymous says:

    Experiment with being a stolen valor guy for a while. Military fatigues are really affordable and you should be able to grab a few discounts before the whole facade unravels in a public confrontation with a furious marine or something.

  21. Anonymous says:

    I wonder if streetwear and all the other manchild fashion statements are just a payop to infantilize and castrate men

    I spent a ton of money on this shit but I think everyone is looking at me and laughing at me when I am wearing new balance dad shoes and hoodies
    I felt a lot more confident when I was in college and wore chukkas and slim fit buttonup shirts

    • Anonymous says:

      a part of looking good is your body language. if you feel comfortable in your clothes and that you can act in your best, like your clothes magnify who you are, then you should wear that. if youre wearing clothes you dont like, it feels foreign or uncomfortable on you and then your body language is uncomfortable too.

  22. Anonymous says:

    if you’re balding, go full webercore. otherwise, just go with chinos/khakis and shirt or jumper if you don’t care that much about fashion. also, wouldn’t consider any of those fits amazing.

  23. Anonymous says:

    what do you mean "should"? you think the fashion police will arrest you if you wear the wrong pair of shoes?

  24. Anonymous says:

    I need a new pair of shoes. I already have black Chelsea boots, black oxfords, but I want something casual that I can wear comfortably for long periods of time / walk around in. I’m replacing my NB 574s. Any recs?

    • Anonymous says:

      This. The only thing you should be wearing is a baseball cap and a hoodie, so people do t recognize you when you go to a brothel, since over 30 you will never get good pussy

  25. Anonymous says:

    This is what a real, normal grown man looks like. Anything more is pure gayry. Don’t listen to these closeted homos, just spit in their faces.

  26. Anonymous says:

    At 30 you should be wearing what you find interesting, what you like, or what you think communicates your values generally. That’s it, there isn’t very much more to it. The only thing you should avoid is trying to impress others with your purchases, so don’t be a 30 year old hypebeast, but generally even 20 year olds should avoid this.
    30 is a weird age for style because there seems to be this personal push to grow up at that age. You’re solidly not a kid anymore, even though you still kind of feel like a kid, and you’ve hopefully got a real job at this point, so there’s this weird internal monologue going on that’s telling you that you can’t wear shorts or plain t shirt anymore for some reason. The one other thing I can think to avoid at this age is trends, but even then if you like aspects of a current trend then use it, just don’t trend hop unless you genuinely enjoy following the fashion meta and spending a lot of money of shit you’ll get rid of before the next season.
    Something you have to keep in mind is that this mindset lasts for probably like 5 years or so at the earliest, and almost completely falls off at 40 for 99% of dudes. At 40 the majority of dudes have reverted to jeans and t shirts again, only really wearing mature outfits when needed, which is honestly not a common occurrence.

  27. Anonymous says:

    hell yeah I love these threads. best of /fashion/
    >actually when I turn 30 I’ll just wear suits every day because it is a crime to do fashion outside of your teens and 20s

  28. Anonymous says:

    Guys wearing sneakers and hypebeast clothes have that “getting blowjobs from 14 year olds at the skatepark” energy

    Adult men should dress to signal they are emotionally mature and ready to settle down with a woman their age and support a family

  29. Anonymous says:

    I’m only wearing a wallet if I have a jacket on. In warmed weather I only have some bills and ID and debit card. I’m already carrying keys and a hecking phone in my pockets, heck this shit.

  30. Anonymous says:

    Yes. Turtlenecks, suits, and semi formal boots and shoes are very good. Knits and sportcoats too.
    You should have never worn hoodies and vans

  31. Anonymous says:

    I turned 30. Some things I noticed.

    Don’t dress like you’re 20. You should have some signal of maturity. But at the same time not looking like you’re turning into an old man.

    • Anonymous says:

      OP here, I feel old some days. Some days I think the best of life is over and its time for the good lord to take me.

      I turned 30. Some things I noticed.

      Don’t dress like you’re 20. You should have some signal of maturity. But at the same time not looking like you’re turning into an old man.

      Yes well put. Im trying to not looks like a boomer but not like a highschooler either. A sign that Im older now is to somehow figure it out

  32. Anonymous says:

    30 here
    Black denim+black/olive/grey tee+boots is my default look. Sometimes I swap the tee for a white button down. For outerwear I rotate between an olive corduroy chore coat, an unstructured navy cotton blazer, and a black western snap overshirt
    ez

  33. Anonymous says:

    >le good looking wasp/med man fashion

    It takes certain looks to pull of a look like that. Imagine a stemcel dressed in that. You just look like a autistic try-hard.

  34. Anonymous says:

    Never change your style. There’s nothing more soi than a man who follows trends to the grave. Dress for the occasion with your style. If that means vans with an ocdb or some shit then that’s what it means. Christmas dinner is not for conforming into being a geriatric, it’s for dressing for Christmas with YOUR STYLE. If vans are your style then vans are universal. heck the agest bullshit

  35. Anonymous says:

    I’m 36 and people are always telling me I dress too OLD. I mostly just wear straight cut jeans, casual button up/pearl snap shirts, and western boots (pic related is a typical fit, disregard the gun) but everybody’s always pushing me to wear black more, wear graphic tees and sportswear, etc. I don’t really get it and I feel like I’m gonna look ridiculous dressing the way they want me to.

  36. Anonymous says:

    Can I wear a patterned button down shirt like this under a black two piece suit or would it look too douchey?

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