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Hello please tell me how to not be ugly. Im 28 and have a fucking terrible hairline please tell me how to fix it.
Hello please tell me how to not be ugly.
Im 28 and have a hecking terrible hairline please tell me how to fix it.
Also my facial hair grows in patchy, probably specifically to spite me.
Am I just hecked? any advice please. Thank you.
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Dude you’re fine keeping it like that, people can rock receded hairlines just fine.
For facial hair try shaving your beard into a goatee, I see in this pic you can square off your sideburns to that horizontal level it seems to be leaning to naturally. Another option is clean shaven face.
The downside to balding is you can’t really make hair longer than you have it look good since it’d be missing volume anyways.
>Dude you’re fine keeping it like that, people can rock receded hairlines just fine.
This. So tired of people saying just shave it off.
I’m saying keep it short and cropped because the longer a hairstyle is the thicker the hair needs to be to work and you can see it’s thinned out as well as receded. That length he has, could be a little longer but not much.
yeah ok so, first, my condolences. god must’ve been drunk when he made you.
secondly, advice i can give would be:
– get rid of that "beard"
– gain some weight
– get a better pair of glasses
– start spending some time in the sun
– start working out
– stop wearing fluro colored clothing
– smile more
Take the hair system pill
worst advice in the thread
not really
yes, really
there are legitimate ways of making him look decent, from dressing in proper adult clothes like this
guy said (instead of dressing like a literal child – see
), to going for the scheming asexual billionaire look like
said or even gym/neck maxxing and getting swole in general, see –
,
for the love of god do not pick the easy way out, change nothing and just glue a hecking wig to your head, its not a hecking hair system…
its a wig
and sure you can wear it, but just call it a wig, ill laugh at you (or behind your back) whenever you call it a "hair system"
youre a fraud
>for the love of god do not pick the easy way out, change nothing and just glue a hecking wig to your head, its not a hecking hair system…
>its a wig
>and sure you can wear it, but just call it a wig, ill laugh at you (or behind your back) whenever you call it a "hair system"
you can call people frauds and laugh all you want, but hair is everything. high quality hair systems (or wigs as you prefer) look very realistic and there’s nothing wrong with wearing one.
I’m not trying to be offensive, but the reality is that most women find the vast majority of bald men unattractive. The only men who can pull off the shaved head look are top 5 percenters like Jeremy Meeks and Johnny Sins who both have impeccable chiseled jawlines. And let’s be honest, OP does not fit that bill.
you saw OP’s old pic. He looked ten times better with hair. Having something on his head is going to make him look a lot better than any stylish clothes or going to the gym.
stop trying to stigmatize men for doing whatever is necessary to look good. We let women get away with it on every opportunity, by wearing tons of makeup, wearing hair extensions, and wearing push-up bras.
enough is enough. women in the West have higher standards than they’ve ever had. men need to take every necessary step to make themselves look their best.
Have you noticed it’s only baldies that seethe at hair systems (wigs)
HEY NICE HAIRLINE NORWOOD!
yeah a lot bald guys want to bring you down to their level. reddit is full of soijaks telling other guys to shave their heads when they’re just an NW1 or NW2.
but I wouldn’t put all the blame on baldies. men in general want other men to look worse. it’s less competition that way. a lot of the posts on here are just downright stupid and leaves me suspicious that people in here are not actually trying to help him out
his hair situation is not good, but he still looks better with his hair grown out than he does completely shaved. he has virtually no eyebrows and people are also telling him to get rid of his glasses when he absolutely needs them.
best comments are from those telling him to grow a hecking beard when it looks he can only grow a few sparse pubes on his face
All this guy needs is a tan, wig, and workout and he’d be very normie passing on his way to Chadlite
Norwood 1 is a default hairline.
>Have you noticed it’s only baldies that seethe at hair systems (wigs)
i dont care if you wear one
dont call it a hair system
youre not an engineer, youre a dress up boy pretending hes not wearing a wig
you’d still get beat up into a pulp 50-100 years ago for even thinking about it
youre weak, childish and ultimately – playing into these witches demands will be your downfall
>HEY NICE HAIRLINE NORWOOD!
yes, i am indeed, an adult man
Seethe baldy and yes it’s a wig and I think you’re forgetting that most elite and politicians wore wigs in the 1700s to 1800s so stfu Norwood
>you can call people frauds and laugh all you want
i will
>but hair is everything.
maybe to you, or the shitty people youre trying to attract
>high quality hair systems (or wigs as you prefer) look very realistic
true
>and there’s nothing wrong with wearing one.
youre a clown
>I’m not trying to be offensive, but the reality is that most women find the vast majority of bald men unattractive.
who cares what women think?
when they start prefering trannies will you start taking hrt?
>Having something on his head is going to make him look a lot better than any stylish clothes or going to the gym.
wrong, get a hecking wool flat cap if youre so desperate (alongside proper trad/ivy clothes)
>The only men who can pull off the shaved head look are top 5 percenters like Jeremy Meeks and Johnny Sins who both have impeccable chiseled jawlines.
only because of morons like you playing into their demands
stop being weak
stop whoring yourself out for easy attention
be your own man, know your value, despite what random whores think
>you saw OP’s old pic. He looked ten times better with hair.
he was a kid, now hes an adult, accept the changes your body goes through tranny
>Having something on his head is going to make him look a lot better than any stylish clothes or going to the gym.
wrong
>stop trying to stigmatize men for doing whatever is necessary to look good.
no
>We let women get away with it on every opportunity, by wearing tons of makeup, wearing hair extensions, and wearing push-up bras.
i dont
>enough is enough. women in the West have higher standards than they’ve ever had
yeah so play into their demands to raise the bar even higher moron
this is the most based post I’ve seen this year. thanks anon
>DONT LOOK GOOD AND SUCK IT UP LIKE ME, IM A MAN THATS WHY IM UGLY
Ok, Norwood
>>DONT LOOK GOOD
who said you cant look good?
i gave you a prescription to look good without needing to wear a wig
>AND SUCK IT UP
suck what up?
growing up is normal
your body goes through changes
theres nothing to suck up
its normal
>IM A MAN THATS WHY IM UGLY
balding is not ugly
balding is masculine, thats all that it is
if women (poor judges of character) decide being masculine is not attractive i will not give in to their demands
being masculine is more important than being deemed attractive by a defective – plenty fish in the sea – product
real women do not care if you have hair
and if they do you shouldnt care anyway
theyre just women
a lush head of long pretty hair is a feminine trait
might aswell transition if thats what you want to chase as an adult man
>balding is not ugly
Cope
You know if you could push a button and get your hair back you would, and trolling aside I hope you have this same energy when it comes to young men taking hormone blockers
>Cope
ok
>You know if you could push a button and get your hair back you would
its not my priority if such magical buttons existed
id like to push one to get perfect gigachad body/charisma/philosophy knowledge/understanding more languages
these are far more important (at least to me) than hair
if you dress properly, like an adult – see trad/prep/ivy then being bald is not really that big of an issue
Do you feel the same way about guys who take finnistride because I would say that’s gaygier you literally heck your test and reproductive system up, also peace to you bald bro I’m just fishing for (yous) and coping about my own hairloss
i never wanted to bother with that shit myself, but id understand taking fin/mino A LITTLE bit more than wearing a wig (id just feel like a clown/puppet dancing for womens approval – when they are the ones that should be dancing for mine) everywhere i go
but even so its still laugh worthy in my head
like comeon youre going to smear shit on your head everyday for the rest of your life?
thats some funny shit, but hey, at least when youre out and about (and if some of your hair regrow/stay on your head for longer) you’re not an actual fraud
a wig is just too hecking wacky
peace to you too
and to cement by point about dressing better
look at this
no matter what kind of hair you have
this cant be your unironical everyday fit
hes got to be trolling
to cement my point*
I love your attitude I used to have this but my hair literally crushed my self esteem never thought anything could bring me down especially something so vain, but I can tell people have been treating me different, it’s the same way when I was a fat kid before I got fit and grew into my face, normies will shit on you for sport the second you slip off the mountain
>smearing glue on your head
Tape actually
Bro he has to be trolling
>flat bill
>shitty button up
>ugly swim trunks lmao
>balding is not ugly
>balding is masculine, thats all that it is
lmao cope. balding is a genetic defect. not only do women find bald men physically unattractive, they also instinctively avoid bald men because androgenetic alopecia (male pattern baldness) is a sign of poor genetic quality and poor health.
AGA is linked to so many diseases, including enlarged prostate, prostate cancer, coronary heart disease, high cholesterol, diabetes, Parkinson’s disease, etc.
having that stupid horseshoe on your head is a sign from nature telling women to not breed with this dysgenic failure.
Also I shaved my
Baldlet and a beardlet
I genuinely rarely see this combination. Maybe start working out?
head recently when i was drunk.
it’s over, my nigga
5’4 redditor NEET who plays Nintendo DS all day – core
>5’4
He’s 5’4"?!
>Height wise I am about 5’9
WHOA.
WHOA.
WHOA.
WHOA.
STOP!
I didn’t realize you were 5’9", OP.
This changes everything.
You’re only 3" short of being 6’0".
That’s the answer to your problems.
Once a man is 6’0"+, nothing else really matters.
You can be bald, an ex-con, poor, unemployed, an addict, etc, etc., if you’re 6’0"+, nothing else matters when it comes to women, life, and career.
You will get promotions at work, just for being tall.
You will get laid, just for being tall.
Everyone will like you, just for being tall.
heck a hair transplant.
Leg lengthening surgery can add up to six inches to your height.
Save up for that and in the mean time, wear some shoe lifts to bring you up to 6’0" in height.
All of that is void if someones dick is bigger than yours and their face isnt ugly.
In order of importance: Face>Dick>Who cares
No way lmfao
I’ll agree face is the most important but height affects far more facets of life than dick
Having a microdick is the biggest death sentence there is but being tall will get u a lot further than having a big dick in most facets of life
This is true.
Why?
Because most people never see your dick and they just assume it is huge if you’re tall.
You dont understand man. You never had a woman on here knees worshipping your cock with two hands.
Having a good face and a big cock is the ultimate combo.
Can confirm.
Big cock is the best.
Men want to be you.
Women want you to own them.
Yes, a big cock is important but it’s the girth that matters the most.
Yup.
I mean thats good and all.
But a longer cock is better than girth, just for the psychological effect that creates more arousal.
You got any man with a wide chode beat when a chick can wrap both her hands around your cock and worship it. And the fact that you can literally put it down her throat or touch her cervix will create much more arousal. You just get to spots other men will never.
You literally own every inch of her. You can make a woman come with just your fingers so width doesnt matter.
If you are short no woman will see your "big cock", so stop coping
STOP heckING LOOKING AT ME
Purple contacts, shave facial hair, shave head, anime wig
Train your goddamn neck Black
how do you train your neck?
Looks pretty solid. Go for a clean shave (both head and face), get rid of the black glasses and do neck curls. If possible emphasize your brows a bit. 6,5/10
Step 1: lift weights for 2 years 5 days a week
train your neck dude, you have no idea the difference a strong neck makes
also lose the geek glasses, and dress more like an adult
probably gonna shave tonight
You have worse problems. You have hyperopia evidenced by the magnification of your eyes in the photos. This means you’re statistically very likely to have a low IQ. You can get plastic surgery, tan, get blue eye contacts, and hair transplants and look better but you will never be able to increase your low intelligence by much.
go all in on becoming a millionaire
That is what I feared. Thanks.
last pic, also i have social anxiety pretty hardcore, virgin, etc. anything i can do to improve my looks at least?
The anxiety thing is the most important thing to work on. I can give you a list of different outfits to wear, but you’re just gonna feel terrible in everything because you lack confidence in yourself. If you can afford it or have insurance, I would recommend seeing a psychiatrist and therapist.
I do have insurance luckily and am currently on 2 prescribed medications for anxiety, Escitalopram and Quetiapine.
While those 2 medications stopped me from experiencing a suidical breakdown type thing daily, the only real way I can go outside and even speak to people is by getting high and drunk. I smoke weed, drink vodka and snort coke and only then can I interact with people. Sorry for the infodump but I am definitely trying to work on the anxiety. easier said than done i guess.
lmao druggie alcoholics are so insecure frfr
>psychiatrist and therapist
All they’re going to do is give him pills. If you’ve got brain problems you have to work them out for yourself and accept the reality that it’s never going to completely go away.
shit teenager advice
About your looks:
Hair: 1-If you do the estrogen people are saying in this thread you’re stupid.
2-
This is not a good look. You are too receded. You need to buzz your hair shorter.
3-You are not a hair transplant candidate. Don’t even think about it, you’re going to go broke and botch yourself
4-I personally do 1.5mg DUT, RU, tret, minox. Worked well for me, but I’m a diffuse thinner, not sure it would work for a receder like yourself
Or maybe get a hair system. Probably THE BEST option
Body:
You are a skinny fat guy. Stop being like that
Beard: If you aren’t going to always shave then microneedle+tret+minox to get a better beard
Face: It’s over.
Literally doesn’t even look like the same person. I thought it was a different anon
So yeah, stop taking meth and get a hair system
Being a virgin is based. I’ll be honest your looks are pretty rough (men just age porly it’s not your fault) but virginity is one of the best moral qualities you can have.
Digits of truth.
Wear a hat. How old are you?
I usually do wear a hat and I am 28.
i like to swim unfortunately and also if i made a friend or wanted to get into a relationship at some point the hats gotta come off.
Hit the gym, get your diet and skin in check, and get a hair transplant.
>i like to swim
try to build a swimmers body then.
Thats fine, attraction happens in like the first second Look up thin slicing. Even if they eventually notice youre bald the hat is still helping you.
>"im 28"
>"how old are you?"
get help, stupid.
Things I did before the hair transplant:
>Use minoxidil (stopped because it’s a pain in the ass to apply it)
>Use finasteride
>Wear a cap
Out of these 3, wearing a cap has been the best thing I did of all. It fits me way better than I expected. But, anyway I went for a hair transplant. Alternatively, you can have a look at hair systems. It has its advantages like instant results, cheaper (in the short term) and you can change your style whenever you feel like it.
As for the beard, I think there are also hair transplants for that. You can go check with a doctor.
I also tried and gave up on minoxidil since it was a hassle like you said. The cap and finasteride sound interesting and I will look into them, a hair transplant is probably too expensive for me, but thank you for the advice.
you aren’t on fin anymore after the transplant? unless your baldness completely stopped (unlikely) your shit will be full on JUST in a few years
Change the incel glasses, grade 1 shave your head, get fit.
Too far gone for a transplant mate, just embrace it and get ripped.
I feel like this is probably my best bet. Thank you.
Np, no-one can be a twink forever.
First rule get in shape though and close buzz the hair, then look for a cool pair of glasses that suit you, could be aviators of the oval ray bans. Could try some sleazy styles once you’ve got a bit of confidence, being fit will give you that.
seconding
I don’t think it’s too late though. If you are in a better financial condition in the near future, consider going to get examined and get an opinion.
And yeah, getting advice from your parents is not probably a good idea. My mum was supportive but concerned. My dad is balding since he was 25 and he disagreed with me having a hair transplant, like it’s unnecessary, like, why I’m wasting so much money into that if I could just embrace it and accept myself. Needless to say, after I did my transplant, my mum is very supportive and my dad is actually thinking about having one himself
You guys literally call all glasses incel or onions.
That’s because they are. Either get eye surgery or wear contacts. For backup glasses, only wear sharp, nazi-esque (Hugo Boss) glasses
this is the only correct, realistic answer OP. Do this and continue working on whatever hobbies, skills and career you have.
Most realistic option
Like these anons said.
Drop the glasses
Drop the reddit beard
Drop the goofy hat
and put some meat on your neck and shoulders.
It’s the paleness too. If he had MT-2 and sun he’d look at least bearable.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
trust me, I know.
You don’t have great genetics but you can change your shirt for something that looks better for a start.
I actually thought it looked good on me but heck.
Any suggestions, I assume a dress shirt or something? I do have a bunch of them actually.
So far this thread has actually been quite helpful.
Tough to get honest advice from your parents/etc.
any more advice is welcome needless to say, I appreciate it all. I will check back here periodically for any suggestions or insults or whatever.
Thank you everyone
Also here is a picture of me from around 1-2 years ago. probably better? idfk
100x better, not just because of the hair. You almost look like a functional human being in that one.
Go to the gym, find hobbies that involve not sitting around indoors, do what makes you happy. It will radiate from you and make you not look like a dead-eyed incel.
Also shave. Every day.
Being bald or ugly shouldn’t stop you from making male friends at least, there are worse looking people that have friends
Not sure what I can do about the dead shark eyes but I will take the shaving every day to heart which I should have realised a while ago honestly.
And I do enjoy swimming, but i stopped biking and need to start again. Thank you.
this is infinitely better. is this what your hair looks like if you grow it out now, or did you lose more since then? if you can grow it back like this, do it. i thought your hair was too from gone based on the OP, but maybe even worth hopping on finasteride/minoxidil.
also use minoxidil for your beard
you look great in this pic! i truly believe that if you just dress nice in any way similar to that you will always look like a pretty normal person. i don’t really dig the arm scar but the scar on your face is kinda cool.
you don’t look creepy to me. hope you can learn to like yourself some more
this is literally an incredible photo compared to the first one you look like a different person, especially the shirt and backpack looks cool.
Somehow this thread got more attention than I expected, probably because of my terrible OP image, anyways thank you all for your input it has been actually very helpful, except for the wojack poster heck that guy.
I think i have an idea of where I need to go.
I’m gonna try shave my head and face cleaner and post another pic in the meantime.
Again thank you all for the input this has been very helpful
Thanks I like the shirt but the backpack is actually a sling from when I hecked up my arm biking lol.
Broke it into 3 or 4 parts and impacted my shoulder. Fun stuff.
pic for attention whoring
from a hopeless khhv permavirgin incel to someone who can actually have sex. this is the power of hair. you shouldve taken finasteride years ago, but now the best thing is to save up for a transplant (its cheap in turkey) or just go for a hair system
Yeah, hair looks good
got potential, scar is fine
You don’t look creepy at all to me, you just look tired and unhealthy. Uninterested and uninteresting.
why the heck did you cut your hair?
gay
keep it long, only grow the goatee/soul patch part so you disguise the parts that don’t grow
get a tan since you seem to have dark circles under eyes, that makes you look mongoloid
work out
drink water
take vitamins like heck and take care of skin
wear simple basic quality clothes and wear cologne
invest in yourself
balding is an absolute death sentence, holy heck
honestly OP just wear a wig or something idk
Update for anyone who cares for god knows what reason. I shaved my facial hair but am hesitant to shave my head again as I was wondering if i could figure out a longer haircut that works. We will see.
Anyways I also have a (cool?) scar on my right upper arm. is it cool or just kinda gross? It was from a biking accident and I had a metal plate which was eventually removed.
Scar in next pic
Just shave your head or get a toupee, or hair plugs. It will grow back if you don’t like it. The important thing is to try.
Confidence will get you women more than anything because women rank confidence more important than anything. To help your eyes, practice in the mirror raising your eye brows just slightly to have a more friendly and open expression.
Also you help social anxiety though practice. It sucks but the more you imagine doing it and do it the more comfortable you’ll be. The fact you swim is great and I hope you meet a cute swim gym girl.
Meant eye lids not eye brows.
So far the only way I can build up the confidence to go the nearby beach alone and snorkel is for me to be coked up, baked and drunk. Only then can I not feel creepy for some reason.
I have honestly totally given up on attracting a girl I just want to not be some sort of goddamned pariah.
yeah it sucks
I went to one finally a few years ago and got onto my meds and disability which helped kinda I guess?
I know I was hoping I would be able to grow some decent facial hair but that didnt go so well.
Thank you for the input all.
Also I shaved my head last night and am mowing my lawn; so no glasses. Again any input is appreciated.
Updated pics
I look angry in them but I think that is probably just the sun or something
bald Zelensky
honestly dude you can make it work. you’d probably look good in a beanie and some more stylish glasses. glasses that are maybe thin and delicate because your look is pretty aggressive. I don’t know if you want to be that hipster looking guy but I’m sure some women will heck it. besides that try to build some muscle. not even a lot is necessary. merely the process of exercise will boost your confidence.
also keep taking selfies but really analyze them. see how to make your smile work and look at how your expressions come across. a smile comes from the eyes so you have to really try to relax when you smile otherwise it looks a bit uncomfortable. best of luck
much better.
Try to bezosmaxx
he’s 3 feet tall, people
literally a garden gnome
he’s rich and therefore happier and more important than you.
but enjoy your extra 5 inches kek
bezosmaxxing requires access to hgh, tho
nigga barely has muscle mass and looks like a turtle what he using hgh for? also u can get cheap legit hgh from china for like 55 usd per100 iu, it’s not as effective as those that cost like 3k per 100 iu but it has around 75% to 90% of the effectiveness of those
https://www.sigmachemical.com.cn/Buy-high-quality-hgh-191aa-somatropina-steroids-injections-human-growth-hgh-hormone-518?search=Hgh
you remind me of a gopnik in these ones. Maybe learn a slavic language and dress in tracksuit
much better ,holy shit
this is an improvement but boring you gotta embrace your flaws if you want to be interesting to women and others
Get a couple of SMAS treatments, find them cheap. They can be overpriced.
After 3 months use tretinoin or adapalene for your face daily. Or do it instead of smas.
If you still want your facial hair use minoxidil and zinc 100mg/day. Otherwise shave.
Laser remove those birthmarks from face. They are ugly.
Always dress in menswear, forget those kids’ clothes and sneakers.
>zinc 100mg/day
don’t do that op
>zinc 100mg/day
>don’t do that op
It’s good for testosterone, therefore for facial hair.
But it will finish his head hair.
>zinc
i think it just makes your seminal fluid white.
i don’t think it necessarily raises test.
it is an anti-microbial, however.
>i don’t think it necessarily raises test
Everybody who is over 65 and those who grow facial hair know that. It also makes light colored facial hair more red.
It can also induce head ache if used more than 50mg daily.
>anti-microbial
Zinc just pumps up the immune system. D3 also does that trick.
>dress in menswear
Or Trad Ivy Prep
>(cool?) scar on my right upper arm
Not cool. Use tretinoin or adapalene on it daily.
Correct. But can be overpriced and 80% of therapists are ignorant losers. Chose wisely get as many as possible free short trial sessions.
You look nice without facial hair, I’d say you mantain this look and hit the gym if you have the time to do so. A more formal vibe to your outfits would make wonders for ya. Maybe some aviator-style glasses/contacts too. Remember to wear cologne every once in a while for good measure, it makes all the difference.
A hair transplant is an option if you are unwilling to come to terms with your hairline tho.
Hope this helps in some capacity.
behold, ugly or cool?
It’d look cool if you were /fit/ imo. Which you can change luckily.
Yeah I think at this point its pretty clear i just need to get fit. Then I can not get girls but at least i can be not ugly or even hot. thanks
In hindsight hot might be stretching it but you get the idea.
Get fit so you can attract old ladies and gays.
defeatist attitude, how is your personality?
I believe you can get gals if you’re relaxed around them, and also be sharp when it comes to social clues.
It’s trial and error bro, do things step by step.
had to shrink the filesize for this one a bit i guess
absolutely fantastic skin for 28. cute face too. commit to shaving and keeping a femme appearance and you’d look just like this femmby twink thing that had the same kinda hairline as you but kept a close shave. just work out, focus on legs, butt, and tummy, and twinkmaxx. it’ll be great, women like that shit too these days if you’re into that
scar’s cool if you’re a tight muscular beneath it. that one in particular would heck on a fit guy.
sunscreen sunscreen sunscreen aaaaaa exfoliate too
there’s a lot to work with here if you have imagination
>cute face too. commit to shaving and keeping a femme appearance and you’d look just like this femmby twink thing that had the same kinda hairline as you but kept a close shave. just work out, focus on legs, butt, and tummy, and twinkmaxx.
please jack off 2-40 times before giving advice
no. when i see a failed male i cant hecking help myself
you have every sign of low test, at this point just get into the gym and get on trt
as for my fitness level im not quite skinny fat but im fairly close at this point. last pic.
Potential. You could have a solid body within a year if you have the displine. Would suggest trying to widen shoulders to give more definition when in clothes. Swimming good base, but supplement with weight training at least ×2 wk and more lean, high protein calories
It’s over OP. You don’t look tall either but that would save you. You are pretty ugly and you look awful. I seen a progress thread where a man hormonally transitions into a woman but he’s still a man. It was this forum but there’s many threads. https://www.hairlosstalk.com/interact/threads/the-role-of-estrogen-in-the-preservation-and-regrowth-of-frontotemporal-hairline.110099/
You look like an ugly incel in his basement ever, nice clear skin though. You look done. Finished. Overcome. The despair is obvious. It is over for you even if you improve. You’re a 28 year old virgin. Be real with yourself. You’re not going to become attractive except to a used up woman or a foreigner if you’re not in a shitty country and only for your money. It is reasonable to abandon your hope. Even if you looked good your social awkwardness would show and women would be turned off. You can try to fight this tide but be honest. You already failed your whole life. Are you actually willing to put in the work to reverse this?
I’m not gonna lie this is more or less how I view things. At this point I have given up on finding friends or a relationship however I just want to not make people uncomfortable and also not stand out by being rather ugly.
Height wise I am about 5’9 so as you said that certainly does not help. Also my personality is not terrible? at least in my opinion. however I don’t think anyone would really find it attractive.
I’m basically trust trying to salvage anything I have so as to not stand out too much. Anyways thank you.
>I just want to not make people uncomfortable and also not stand out by being rather ugly.
The ones that value you won’t care dude. Guys will talk shit to you but they won’t care. I’m sorry life had not been genetically kind to you but you also put yourself in a desperate situation. You are going through a life crisis. It’s time to throw everything at the wall and hope it works. You look healthy, but definitely manchild Chris Chan. If you want to make it, are you willing to put in the work required? I know how you feel. It’s despair. But you must persist if you want to make it, I don’t have much drive. I am disabled and I only recently found out since I have EDS, I think I would have been less willing to do anything if I was aware. How much effort are you willing to expend?
At this point all I really do is stay in my room, watch videos and read stuff while high on weed and coke and also drunk. Of which all of my money (via the govt for disability) goes towards. I also have no license and live with my parents.
I think at the end of the day it really does come down to effort and I don’t have the motivation to do so, and if i did I imagine I wouldn’t be a good friend/partner.
I think I will still try to get fit even if just for the health benefits but you are right. I don’t have the motivation or energy or what it takes to improve.
If nothing else I seem to be becoming more apathetic so that helps.
Anyways you probably don’t give a heck about this but thank you for your input.
I’m sorry anon. I do somewhat care for the plight of incels. You are in this situation at your age because you gave up long ago. I can see it. If you decide to change yourself revisit this idea. I got fit looking and I’m still disabled mentally and physically due to fatigue. Your choices echo, if you decide to change it’ll take a long time to see the results.
how much do you coom?
you’ve got that 1000 cock stare
eh probably like 2 or 3 times a week now.
The anti-anxiety meds i take, specifically escitalopram makes it hard to ejaculate. So its usually, get horny, try to jack off until I get bored. and yeah. Honestly its become a literal chore just to not be horny. I don’t even enjoy it anymore.
>escitalopram
do you really need to take that? i took it for years and eventually realized it was making the situation worse. the sense of ennui and spinning my wheels outweighed the benefits. getting off it took a good few months though, i tried to do it quicker and would get wicked headaches. heck big pharma, just smoke weed bro. (you should stop doing coke and shit like that though)
Get fit and take the neck pill. Only way you can gain some semblance of physical attractiveness. Shave all the hair on your head/face.
>At this point all I really do is stay in my room, watch videos and read stuff while high on weed and coke and also drunk. Of which all of my money (via the govt for disability) goes towards. I also have no license and live with my parents.
Getting fit won’t fix your social awkwardness though so don’t expect to magically become a pussy magnet just because you worked hard to have a decent body.
You need a therapist. It sounds like you have depression pretty bad. I care about you even if we are total strangers. I really do hope you escape what your going through and have a good life.
Also care about ya brother. I’m echoing getting fit. Try to get a hobby outdoors as well. The motivation may not be there so you have to create it yourself. Changing your life will be more about dedication than motivation anyway.
Also as you said, it is becoming more difficult to put in the effort to try fix it. I have pretty much given up hope, and I mean I’m posting on /fashion/ at 3am for advice so i think that speaks for itself.
I just hope nobody from highschool recognizes me dear god.
Also I would like to clarify that I have no money so woman trying to be with me for my money is not gonna happen.
Don’t you feel stupid now?
kill me
just go full eddie hitler core
Honestly he looks better than me. I’ll keep that in mind. Thank you.
Get swole, then cut and get diced to the socks. Ditch the glasses or get a pair like Grow out a goatee, use minox if you have to. Done.
shave your head and start dressing agressive , like this but shaved. also get tattoos to go full heckboy im being serious.
if you go like this ( bald and with tattoos) you will become a pussymagnet bro.
this is all unironically true
Jacob should have off his hair because curly hair is a sign of the semites. I am not saying he is ugly. I am just saying he is unattractive physically speaking.
Nigga looking like an assorted sheet of stickers
I’m not sure but i do feel like it helped level out my mood.
Before i started on escitalopram I was literally breaking down crying every night wanting to kill myself, which is basically what spurred me to get into contact with a local support person thingy. Luckily she was my mothers friend and helped me get onto disability and convinced me to try medication.
It does for sure have downsides however my mood being leveled out I consider a massive benefit. I don’t really think about killing myself anymore which for me was quite a problem beforehand, obviously.
as far as the coke goes me being drunk and high on weed/coke so far is the only way i have found that i am willing to go outside (swimming/etc) and talk to people. no friends so its kinda awkward going to the beach but yeah, i gotta get high as heck to even be human.
my goal really though is to not need drugs/medication and just be able to go out and be heckin normal
no clue how to do that but yeah
thank you for coming to my tedtalk
>i gotta get high as heck to even be human
You sound like you have a bad drug addiction. Quitting should be your first priority. You don’t need AA or any support group bullshit or any further medication, just sheer willpower. I broke free from nearly 15 years of cigarettes, weed and alcohol and feel so much better for it. I couldn’t even have a change drawer before without blowing it on drugs or alcohol but now I have some savings for the first time in my life. You can make the change if you’re really ready for it.
Lifting weights and jogging do wonders for my anxiety.
you have one of the ugliest looks bro completely bald but without a tan, single wrinkle or even good beard genes
I have no idea what to tell you just shave it bro I don’t think a transplant would help you you’d only get to a NW2.5 or 3 max
are you rich? are you at least tall?
hat helps i think
Lose the amerimutt hat, stat
Never wear a hat again
This is better than
Obviously
And obviously
This is the best
So yeah. Get a hair system
regretfully continued
holy heck i look creepy no wonder
literal serial killer vibes from my own picture god damn
anyways last pic I’ve gotta mow then go to beach
You don’t look creepy
You look like you have a bad working thyroid
You should get a test for your thyroid
I thought this too looking at his photos. Thyroid is a b***h and a half sometimes to get a proper diagnosis on. a lot of people are also sub clinically low meaning not far enough from average to medicate but still not anywhere close to ideal conditions.
this
one of the biggest tells to get your thyroid checked is if you have very weak eyebrows
Lift some weights. Focus on your shoulder and neck. That’ll give you much better frame. About the serials killers look, try squint your eyes a little bit when taking a photo. Remember not to overdo it just squint it like you try to hold a smile.
>holy heck i look creepy no wonder
mostly your expression, and big ass scar.
Relax. Start working out, try to define your eyebrows a little more.
They will add some "shade" into your face.
and workout.
use minoxidil on your face to grow a beard, that usually gets rid of the neckbeard by fusing it together with what you’ll have
I gave up completely on shaving my head or beard and I’m now taking the homeless pill
Gave up after years of trying to grow it back with pills or minox, it’s a money drain and there’s no point in fighting it anyway. I’m so tired of it all.
you could creepmaxx really easily from here if you want to lean into it
moby was in the public eye for years and sort of look like you. don’t know if he is really happy or larping but it looks like he had some good times,.
also bald and it shot my confidence, mid 40s now and it’s no good when women stopped looking at me at all… feels bad when i think about it which is rare. came on /fa to search for haircuts ideas for baldish dudes, think i will heck around with a skullet like i did 15 years ago: why not. a toupee could work wonders i have seen 4.5 turn into 8’s with just that stupid thing but emotionally it would be a let down to the lady even if you don’t trick her, emotions are tricky like that… thats why i dont wanna even try. but maybe i should try it as a vacation type of thing, just for my own pleasure.
You would look cool with a punk rock/ Sid vicious look or with a skinhead neonazi thug look.
You remind me of him.
,
~ Get scalp micropigmentation (hairline tattos) to give people the illusion of you having hair
~ Always be clean shaven never grow your patchy beard
~ Get contactss inestead of glasses
~ Get to 10-12% body fat and train your neck so you look less like a onions boy
~ Dye your eyebrows black(important!!)
And use castor oil to grow them more
~ Look at people who look like a better version of yourself and learn of them
Take actions and get your eyebrows right now!! And plan to get "scalp micropigmentation" tommorow
Shave everything, get better glasses, stop wearing shirts that look like what my mom gave me to wear to the waterpark at age 7
There’s still hope for you
All the looks you guys are posting for OP just look like total assholes. Be honest are you guys teenagers? Most of you are telling him to abandon his own personality and live a lie for the rest of his life.
He started a thread to complain about his look and find a new one. That is why.
most people on this board are definitely stupid young zoomers.
Most importantly:
–stop hecking taking coke, you stupid hecker. There is literally nothing good that comes from it.
–lift. Seriously, hit the gym. It will give you a purpose and make you look much better.
–find a sense of style, one that you like. Lurk here and elsewhere for inspiration. Some hebrewelery or tattoos or other cringy things like that can go a long way towards making you look like less of a shut in. It feels weird at first but you get used to it quickly.
–stop worrying about being a virgin. Yes, it’s a big confidence killer for men, but it’s also a stupid ass social construct. Work on yourself in the coming years, don’t be a cringy incel who shits on women incessantly (ie try to respect and understand them as hard as it is) and you will find someone down the road. Work on yourself and this will happen naturally. Get Tinder and just work your way into that world bit by bit. Someday you will be 80 years old and it won’t make any difference to you then if you lost your "virginity" at 15 or 35.
More immediately:
–try microneedling or minoxidil for your eyebrows.
–it’s probably not as important to you as it is to most on this board, but you should look into the typical methods for hair loss (finasteride, minoxidil, hair plug). Either that or buzz it regularly. It’s too long as is, it’s very unattractive and makes your face look smaller.
–shave or take minox and grow a proper beard. Stubble’s not working.
–don’t wear colorful clothing, it looks childish on you
–find different glasses. These look quite onions.
Good luck OP people have returned from further into the abyss than you are
the one thing that you have control over that will change your appearance for the better is working out
having a low body fat % in the 10-15% range is maintainable and will shape both your face and body for the better
it will change your life and your confidence
also, avoid alcohol and excess sodium because it puffs up your face
good luck my dude.
As already mentioned
lose the glasses immediately.
Get a tan
Smile
Ignore people saying lose the glasses. I’d commiemaxx. You look like some lenin, soviet commie leader. Get a stache. Start wearing like those suits they wear, like thick wool coats.
hey anon, so when i thought i was balding i went digging for some balding prevention protocol and here’s what i found.
1) Derminator 2. It’s a micro needler with mm settings from 0.5 to 1.5 mm (i think) and you can buy it and use the needles to help stimulate hair growth. supposedly the micro cuts the needles provide causes the body to repair itself by producing collagen to promote new growth (skin, hair)
2) Minoxidil. 3 days or more after needling you can apply this to increase the amount of hair produced. combine that with needling and consistency and you should see results
3) Ketoconazole shampoo. you can buy this online and it helps with dandruff as well as diluting the DHT chemical that thins your hair out and kills your hair follicles over time.
i recommend looking up moreplatesmoredates since that’s where i got the information from. best of luck.
You sound like you’re just looking for reasons to hate yourself and justify feeling bad by posting selfies on this hellish website.
Put some effort into bettering yourself physically and mentally instead of just getting high all the time.
Tbh just go completely bald. Maybe try a moustache. But man, you with hair reminded me of budget Jude Law lol. See how he does his hair these days or what styles he has done. It actually suits him to be balding.
Also the best thing you can do is probably just work out. Your face and nose looks slender so it’s not all too bad
Hey OP, ive been reading this thread and I guess I dont have much to say apart from don’t give up, the ‘its over andys’ are just projecting. You’ve definietly missed out on the youthful party/hookup years, but you can still have a life you can be proud of. At some point you will realize that you have to take responsibility for your own life, and that can happen now or it can happen in 10 years or in 30.
In terms of fashion, the rest of the board is basically right but I have a few notes.
1. Shave everyday, but importantly get a close shave. The shave you posted was pretty bad, you can still see stubble, you want it evenly clean
2. Smile more, I know its easy to have a fatalist attitude and claim that you dont have a extraverted personality, but if you make a concious decision to laugh more and try to force yourself to smile and laugh more it will work. Smiling is over powered as heck.
3. Stick to earth tones and clean white. Earth tones go with everything and white tee shirts/shoes help you not look like an old dude as your fit doesnt look like a wall of beige & brown.
Anyways good luck man
Just start shaving your head already. Start doing some moderate exercise.
Another picture from a year or two ago.
I think i should grow my hair out again. Only issues are:
I shave my head impulsively when I get really drunk
When I bike or swim my bangs get blown back and show off my bad hairline
Also the period where my hair is growing in I look like the OP image.
thanks
>I shave my head impulsively when I get really drunk
yeah, not good. If you can’t even control your behavior half the time you are going to have problems in life. Im sure thats just the tip of the iceberg. Get clean homie
You are totally right.
I had never broken a bone before I started drinking at around age ~20? From there I think I have probably broken a bone something like 15 times. I have also been violent towards my family and have been kicked out of my home before (went to live with my grandfather which also did not end well once again due to alcohol.) I have been to jail one time overnight, I called them on myself when I acted violent towards my grandfather, as if that makes it better but yeah.
I don’t want to be on drugs or intoxicated honestly, but being sober I am incredibly apathetic, and the only way I can even function seems to be under the influence of something. It drains my money and I can’t really get my license (I have a learners only) while I drink everyday.
At this point I’ve been consuming coke for about say, between 5-6 months? It is the only thing that can motivate me I find but If I don’t have any I pretty much sleep most of the day. In retrospect it has disrupted almost all of my daily ‘rituals’ (showering/teeth/chores/pet and more).
This has gone from a fashion suggestion to a mental health thread apparently but having LULZ tell you to get clean kind of does make me realize it has gone quite far.
I cannot even fathom how difficult it must be to try and get clean from multiple substances at the same time.
>That being said you have to do this anon. Alcoholism killed most of the men in my family. You have to accept that you will be an alcoholic for life, and get to a point where you have internalized the fact that you will and don’t want to ever drink again.
Change your outlook in life, find some meaning and stop being nihilistic gay. If you cant, embrace that and start studies on Buddhism. At least you could be apathetic and happy. Both choices still require you to stop drinking/drug though.
there is no way you don’t have russo-asian genes
You have multiple drug addictions. Go to rehab, start attending AA/NA meetings. Everyone there is a misfit and very nonjudgemental. You’ll meet tons of people and get out of your shell with barely any effort. Being sober is great anyways, and you need money to dig yourself out of your self-induced pit.
Try to get rid of your fatalistic attitude. Easier said than done, I know, but you’re only 28 and have a full life ahead of you. Being ugly isn’t even that big of a detriment to having a fulfilling life, it’s not as if you’re deformed. But hating yourself and resigning to the possibility of ever being happy again is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The good news is, it seems like you can really only improve your life from here on out. If you have any active hobbies (as opposed to passive, like watching TV), pursue them for all they’re worth. Sounds like you enjoy going outdoors in solitude because you’ve mentioned swimming and biking, those are great outlets that will improve your mental health. As everyone has already mentioned, getting fit will be a great benefit for your overall wellbeing too and help you get off substance abuse if you can manage to care enough about it by keeping track of your progress. It’ll also help you be less insecure, look better, and you have nothing to lose. Try to cut out the alcohol to just a few times a week or every other day, start small. It sounds hokey, but going to an AA meeting can really help and give you a sense of purpose that can cross over into other parts of your life and motivate you. Rooting for you
the cope, life ends at 27.
how would you know ?
Normally, this is where I’d espouse the wonders and virtues of HRT and how it helped me grow the best head of hair ever, made me attractive, and in general just improved my life, but I don’t think you’re mentally stable enough for it.
Sorry, are you saying I should transition or does that help hair growth for males?
>are you saying I should transition
No.
>does that help hair growth for males?
Yeah.
Picrel is a guy named "Bridgeburn" from the hairlosstalk.com forums.
They were in a similar spot as you, hair-wise, and got so fed up with balding, they went on a regimen of estrogen and anti-androgens that essentially amounted to HRT.
I’m not telling you to follow Bridgeburn’s path, just that if you’re the sort of man that’s willing to do almost ANYTHING to save their hair, there’s an option you can try.
If you’re not willing to go to the extremes, then your hair really isn’t all that important to you, and you should do what the rest of the slapheads in thread are suggesting; shave your head and hit the gym.
Look at this hecker.
Transformed himself from looking like some shady dude who sells weed to kids in the parking lot of a 7-11, to a freaking vampire from Twilight.
Looks like he could be one of the Cullens.
soul v. soulless
why did his facial hair didn’t fall off too while on hrt?
Not op, curious what the long term ramifications are on testosterone production after taking estrogen or doing hrt, like can you go back to the same level yoy were as before once you stop taking it?
No idea.
There really aren’t too many MTF detransitioners and I doubt much has gone into studying if their testosterone levels returned to normal.
If you’re asking because you like to jump on HRT for a couple of years, regrow your hair, and then stop taking it, it doesn’t work that way.
Once you stop, your testosterone (thus DHT) will ramp up and your hair would start falling out again
Bro, exercise. This will fix 70% of the problem. You dont even need to be huge, just toned even if your still thin. Get rid of all the fat, that is more important than size.
Embrace the bald full Hulk Hogan style or shave it.
Minoxidil
Finasteride
Beef liver every week
Then maybe save up for hair transplant
If not tho then embrace the bald and get buff
Femanon here. I actually think you would look good in the first few pics you posted if you just shaved your facial hair. You don’t have enough density to have good facial hair.
The glasses are really cute so I think you should keep those. I also don’t mind the hair length. Yes, you’re balding obviously but you’re also almost 30. You’re not that young anymore and it’s perfectly normal for you to not have a perfect hairline.
I’ve never been a fan of skin bald. I hate the look and it seems like guys who shave that way are just insecure and trying to hide the fact that they’re balding.
you can probably make it work with a beanie/a beret, get better glasses or contact lens and by bulking up a bit
How much money do you have? You need a hair transplant.
Do you have any fuzz at all on the bald parts of your scalp or is it completely smooth?
>how to not be ugly
Smile on the inside knowing that you’re not ugly, people just haven’t gotten to know you yet.
Once you show them (through words and deeds) how friendly and reliable and trustworthy you are, they will forget your eggheaded weirdness and start seeing you the way you see yourself, as an alpha male who slays your tender virgin wife’s sweet tight pussy every night, I mean, as a respectable family man.
Shave the head unless you do magic on what you got when it’s grown out, shave the facial hair. Get new glasses that fit your face, maybe some Elton John type joints (not stars or super crazy, but something cool) idk, something with confidence — that’ll be hard tho obviously cause you have no self-confidence so you’ll have to work up to wearing cooler shit. If your teeth are busted fix that too. And please for the love of Allah get some threads that fit your frame, if you’re short don’t wear baggy shit you’ll look shorter, if you’re tall then look at some actors that aren’t ass that look like you and ‘lightly’ copy them. Etc etc, this shit’ll take a few months to get up to speed with being ‘normal’ let alone cool, but you can do it
Just saw your more recent pics and you’re already lookin better bro gj
I think you should just go bald, Anon. Grow out a beard of some kind (try a bunch and see what style works best for you) and start wearing contacts so you don’t look like a basedjak.
Buy yourself a good tailored suit, and go up from there.
Also you need to start working out.
Here’s a bald bearded guy with a suit. If you have the suit you could probably still get away with the glasses tbh
>Also you need to start working out.
This.
>get fit
This.
>being fit will give you that.
This.
>Go to the gym.
This.
>–lift. Seriously, hit the gym. It will give you a purpose and make you look much better.
THIS.
WAGMI but you gotta put the work in.
Look at his facial hair in the first few pics. He doesn’t have the coverage to grow a beard like that.
get a buzz cut
trim your facial hair, you can’t grow a proper bear
don’t shave it, try to keep a light stubble
get rid of the glasses, wear contacts, get lasik, or just get better fitting glasses.
Workout (no cardio), lift weights 3 times a week, eat more meat/eggs, and buy whey protein.
Do this for at least a year, it will help with your self-confidence, and overall build.
THEN you can worry about fashion advice. and build a wardrobe. Otherwise you will buy clothes that won’t fit you in a year.
LIFT WEIGHTS
REDUCE YOUR BODY FAT %
AND SHAVE YOUR HEAD
congratulations you are now handsome
shave it all off, get hecking buff. problem solved
Who’s reddit pics did you use?
All you have to do is looksmaxx. You won’t ever become very attractive, but you can definitely up your looks by at least 2-3 points.
Godspeed and good luck.
I still wouldn’t trust him around children
all of /fashion/ has to take the neckpill
biggest difference from that alone
Russian mobster maxx
how did you do this?
Photoshop.
Post yourself and I’ll looksmaxx you too, for free.
Far right looks exact like that hebrew dude from the French movie La Haine.
you could probably make money from doing this
save up for hair plugs
I once saw a post on here where someone shared a screenshot from a hair forum where someone posted a massive regrowth of hair
they took a few things
take finasteride and massage in minoxidil
take modafinil
rub coconut oil on your head and eat it too
use a head massager and push bloodflow to the max
work out a lot
face max
get lasik
put a time limit: your best year will be 33, you will get more attractive until then
if you don’t see results by eve of turning 32, save up until then
fly to a cheap country and get hair plugs
keep the shaved head look and try to just get a soul patch or something – work with the hair you do have
run 1 hour a day
lift 20 every other
JUST SHOW UP, keep going
your look weak asf
chew jerky all day
you need to kew because your cheek bones are shit
also your forehead looks paper thin, if I headbutt you your head would split like an overripe melon
get tough
get a small nose job to
chin is ok
what the heck is up with your eyebrows tho? you shaved them?
good luck tho
DO THINGS EVERY DAY
Get ripped, change glasses or wear contacts, wear blue jeans, white t shirt.
no homo u have a good facial shape.
ps. On the virgin thing, go on r/seduction.
>inb4 redditfag
You should keep internet use at min though.
Consult for transplant. Usually it is free.
>non meme answer
Keep everything close shaved. Do not grow out hair or beard. You HAVE to darken your eyebrows, and to do that you need to use dark brownish (NOT BLACK) eyeshadow, or dye eyebrow hair with just for men dark brown (M-45) beard color, although it can look dramatic first day or two.
Second, start using concealer and foundation makeup matched to your skintone. Just a little though so it looks natural. This is to cover up blemishes, even out your skin tone, and cover up your eyebags.
Finally, a classic male model trick is to apply eyeliner just to the waterline UNDERNEATH your eyelashes and this will enhance your eyes without making you look like you’re wearing guyliner.
All the other shit about diet and lifestyle is cope regarding your outward appearance. These steps will elevate you from 3/10 to 5/10. It’s all you can do. Good luck dude.
Getting fit would fix a ton of your fashion problems. You could start with something easy like the Reddit PPL and after a few months of experience do some steroids to make the process faster (you could easily do a simple test enanthate cycle + postcycle for 200-250€).
You would have to read about doing a safe cycle. Steroids are no joke but they should make you look like a 3-4 years lifter in less than a year if you do them good.
You need to smile, or at least pick up your face a little more. everyone’s completely relaxed neutral face looks bad.
You also HAVE to start working out. it doesn’t even need to be going to the gym. just start doing 1 minute of pushups and 1 minute of sit ups in the morning before work
having any amount of muscle definition will make you look and feel better. it will also make your scar cool instead of gross.
i’m sorry that’s your facial hair and hair line at 28. you should have fun with it though. please shave your whole head expect for the little hair island on the top. then super glue a tiny plastic palm tree on it. it can be your personal island to escape the hellish reality you live in
Good ideas mate
Good thread, most anons coming up with pretty uniform and solid suggestions. You’re never going to be an 8/10 OP, but you can lean into the style that most people are thinking of you as (russian gangster etc.) and you’ll be able to make it work fairly well. Working out will be your number 1 priority, because you have a decent amount of facial fat you’ll never know how much your face will adjust when it loses that. Besides that, just lean into the russian mobster look.
Hello there I am OP and have finally gotten coked up enough to post. Sorry for the delay. Also in my defense I am TERRIBLE at taking pictures and they are certainly not flattering, anyways.
First of all thank you all for the suggestions this has given me some excellent perspective.
a few responses to some random posts
I am actually half Russian on my mothers side, they were doukhobors who came to Canada from Russia.
I am going to get my eyebrows darkened, I actually had them done so before by my sister who is a hair stylist funnily enough.
I think I gave my facial hair a good shave just before posting but I didn’t do my head, I’m going swimming right now.
To reiterate I don’t have any intention of trying to be attractive enough to get into a relationship of any sort, I just want people to not feel uncomfortable around me.
Overall I think a lot of these suggestions are good however I don’t actually mind my current lifestyle enough to do SUPER drastic changes, but I do plan on biking, swimming more etc and lifting weights for upper body neck etc. I enjoy nature a lot and live in a great spot for it (BC Canada) so I will probably pursue that.
anyways before I go swimming here are some wonderful pictures, any input is welcome as usual.
The hat i know you all hate but its hot and i am still not confident enough to go no hat totally when outside.
Moё пoчтeниe.
>I just want people to not feel uncomfortable around me.
Mate, be comfortable with yourself first. I mean, you seem ok, but the fact that you shitpost AND ask for advise on certain mongolian basket-weaving forum is a bit of red flag.
And yeah, you really should start doing some /fit/ shit. Gym, HEMA, swimming – all good.
No hats no glasses for the love of God.
People have given you plenty of good advice.
Don’t ruin it by going "LALALALA I’M NOT DOING THAT, I’M GOING TO WEAR HATS. LAALALALALA"
I used to do some uphill biking a few years ago and was actually in better shape Don’t have many pics back then other than from my injury. I think my face looks a bit slimmer at least.
I thought the sunglasses would pass but ok.
You are right though, I’ll ditch the hats but I assume when its colder beanies are alright?
backwards hat
no hat glasses
naked
I also tried to kind of even out my the sides of my hairline a tiny bit? I think it kind of helps. next 2 pics
You look like one of the draags from Fantastic Planet.
I can’t stop laughing
Looking at them I realize my neck isnt shaved enough I’ll fix that
sides of hairline above ear, not fully committed
other side
I will be back
last pic actually I forgot to wear a shirt for the pics anyways here is my current attempt at appearing decent.
You look like a 10 year old kid during chemotherapy.
Sorry to sound harsh, but you really do.
LOSE WEIGHT
LIFT WEIGHTS
PUT ON WEEEEEIIIGHT
I don’t enjoy mass on most People but you will literally need it. You look like a sick kid. I’m sorry but trust me it willl help you
hunter eyes
Current body
Its over
You have the hairline of a 49 year old accountant and facial hair of a prepubescent 11 y/o boy
it is over
Darkening eyebrows is not a bad idea. Although I have to say, even without it, you’re in pretty good shape. You can experiment with slightly longer hair, maybe use a #1 or #2 and just maintain it (trimming every week or two).
Regarding hats/glasses, only when it’s practical. To keep the sun out of your eyes, a baseball cap (don’t wear it backwards) and/or sunglasses. Beanies for when your head is cold. If it’s not necessary, don’t use it. If it is necessary, get something simple, timeless, and wear it the normal way.
No comments on body, nothing to worry about there.
Dude, you’re unironically doing fine. Ignore the shitposters. At this point, the biggest thing you can do (pardon the cliche) is build up your confidence. You can make your situation work if you’re comfortable in your skin. That’s what’s going to make the difference. But it’s another can of worms and there are loads of resources on building that up (not many on LULZ though).
OP here, I’m gonna let this die and stop responding to clear up the board and also I think I get what I gotta do.
Thank you all for the surprisingly large amount of feedback. I appreciate it all and it was actually super helpful in giving me some direction.
thanks for the surprisingly high effort stuff and also I am gonna look into thyroid problems when I next see my doctor.
here have a pic I like
me and my mom and my aunts grave
bye forever thank you
stick around and tell us the tale of the broken arm + broken leg anon
It’s a nice picture.
Have a good one anon.
Cheers friend
Farewell, mate. Come again in a few month and tell us about your personal crusade.
you have a very distinct look, you could be an actor, not an action hero but still an actor
10/10 I couldn’t have found better advice
1. stop frowning like a stupid and try smiling
2. fix pencil neck: try some basic neck exercises. You can do neck curls at home easily.
3. shave (your face, not head)
4. go to the gym in general apart from the pencil neck issue, it’ll only help
5. find a different pair of glasses that is less onions
6. stop wearing ugly plastic shirts
you, but with a slightly better physique, a stronger neck, a smile, good glasses, a clean shave, and just a regular pair of jeans and a cotton shirt will actually look good and like a decent guy instead of looking like a reddit bugman
basically, you’re not doomed like some people are, the only thing I don’t think you can fix is the balding, but really, if you just halfway improved the other things, it doesn’t really matter
Are you trying to look like Anthony fantano as much as possible XD
That is Julio’s boyfriend. His mouth gently caresses that man’s penis as it orgasms in delight.
shave head
shave face
lift weights
buy shirts from the adult section
Go full /fashion/ monk mode bro, after you start lifting you’ll be fine,
Shave everything off until you get a hair transplant. Shave your face. Get contact lenses or get eye surgery.
What’s plaguing you OP is not bad looks, actually, it’s bad mental health. Your looks are average with potential, if you exercised a little (you can get abs easily with your frame). Your average looks are pretty much a reflection of your mental health, you sound depressed or dysthymic with low self esteem. Go to a professional, get on medical regiment that suits you, do therapy, once your symptomatology improves, you’ll find that you are now undervaluing your self and your image and you’ll start taking care of your body more.
This. Good reply, really.
So many nice anons in here. We’re all gonna make it, bruhs.
SSRIS did wonders for me. I was a fat slob that showered once a week at best, reserved, feeling unworthy of attention, doomed to die alone etc. It’s amazing what a little boost in serotonin can give you (not that serotonin deficiency is the cause ffs) Therapy helped compartmentalize and adress whatever false ideas I had about myselt and life. External image followed suit.
im in the same boat but im not white so you got that on me
i hope one day we all gonna make it
Look into getting PRP injections it’ll make your hair come back. For clothes try to dress like guys on CW shoes. For anxiety remember that other people are also nervous about talking to people
PRP without fin is snake oil
prp doesnt work, whoever sells you prp just wants to make some quick cash
You wouldn’t turn heads in the street, for being attractive or ugly. Everybody thinks theyre heckugly if they arent a perfect 10, but most people are just utterly unremarkable; and that’s what you are. Youve got some things going for you, if you have to be bald then widows peaks are preferable over Norwood 6. I know this board fixates on hairlines, but that’s a virgin cope for personality flaws that go way beyond physical appearance (Black folk seriously think theyd be drowning in poon if they only had a better head of hair, lmao). Just make peace with yourself in that regard because its not even that bad; look to jude law for inspo. I would grow it out maybe two inches and tease it upwards a little. Youre clearly skinnyfat, but your jaw casts a shadow so theres hope. Lower your bodyfat % and your jaw will become relatively more defined. Dont expect to ever look like a gigachad; but thinning those cheeks will certainly reduce babyface. No beards, always cleanshaven; we can both agree that fluff looks shit on you. Get a tan, if youre anything like me you dont have the patience for sunning so try tanning gels. just be careful to keep it even and dont go too dark too quickly or youll end up looking like youre doing blackface. Theres probably something you could do by changing your glasses, but I dont wear glasses so Im not really familiar with what frames suit what face shape.
^^^ good advice
I am not particularly attractive but I checked /fashion/ out for the first time in a while and I was pretty surprised how people psychologically flagellate themselves. This is literally tumblr-tier body dysmorphia for dudes.
Don’t go on LULZ. Become more positive and be willing to be placed in embarrassing situations since that’s the only way you will grow. Get a hobby and exercise outside. Believe in God. Never too late.
And with that I am never coming back here again lol
The only way to make this /fashion/ is for you to bulk up a lot, grow a goatee, and park your shitty busted up chevy/ford truck off on the grass beside a rural highway in southern Alabama while blasting "Angel" by Judas Priest and manly sobbing while taking occasional swigs from a bottle of Barton vodka, chainsmoking the heck out of lucky strike gold’s.
Do what the looksmaxx anon said, and also look into hair systems. These are basically high-end toupees that you glue to your head, I think. Do you have money?
I’m not bald, and I haven’t tried these, and don’t know anything about them, just saw these on /fit/.
I think you need a healthy diet and muscles, you can do it, just gotta be persistent. Definitely drop the soiboy glasses. I wear glasses, too, they’re not as soi, but still shitty. I’ll have to get rounder glasses.
And drop drugs, bro, they’re not going to help you, they’ll make you look absolutely ugly and washed up real soon. Sleep 8 hours every day, it really helps. No alcohol, no smoking, look for a substitute, like jacking off and video games, I don’t know, just don’t drink and smoke.
Pretend to be anthony fanta, whatever the heck his name is. You are not disfigured or anything, play to your strengths. Compare yourself to similar looking people, imitate and experiment
Usual fix: look manlier:
go to orthodontist and fix your jaw
go to gym
shave that shit from your face
try shaving the head
try other glasses
heck shaving he needs to go full Egor Shkutko moustache and all, tons of inspo for this short and long hair
My hair is curly and my face isnt good.
you shpuld post pics of it anyway, you can pull off 80s drug dealer sleavecore and fugly slav aesthetics
legit badass as heck. It’s a shame one of the members decided to "just shave it off bro"
Also get some menswear or TIPwear
youre skinnyfat so cut out the soda, alcohol, or whatever and become anorexic.
Someone please post the chad embrace meme for my moron here
Shave your head completely, work out, drink water, clean your face, you seem to have a good mustache.
Wear black glasses with contact lenses underneath. Wear more black clothing and stay with what fits you properly.
Don’t forget to work out and be confident, wearing a buzzcut, being completely shaved is also a bold statement.
No way..contact lenses heck your eyes
#1 advice for having people enjoy or at least tolerate your company:
>learn how to socialize
that’s literally everything you have to do. start talking to people, not going up to 18 year old bimbos in the mall and trying to pick them up, just start talking to people if you can sense a good opportunity. by talking to people you will
>learn how they react to things and figure out the timings and responses that usually make them respond positively
>get socialization into your muscle memory. your brain will automatically get quicker with coming up with spontaneous responses and make you less awkward
>train away your anxieties around people. anxiety disorders generally raise your innate levels of anxiety, even if you’re an anxious person by reducing the subconscious threat level of socialization through exposure you will be less anxious in social situations
you can look like the crypt keeper and people will still like you if you’re quick witted, funny, empathetic and considerate. you might still not get any pussy (although chances increase tremendously compared to being a weirdo freak), but daily life will get so much more pleasant.
Most people go their entire lives without consciously learning how to socialize, so you can make tremendous steps in catching up if you make the attempt and are thoughtful and persistent. the biggest hurdle is actually finding a social environment, and the best solution for that is to get a job/go to college.
I’m seeing some really stupid posts in this thread. It sounds like most of you are zoomers trying to give advice on looks to a man who’s nearly 30 years old.
First off, getting contacts is not a good idea. They’re not healthy for your eyes and OP doesn’t have thick eyebrows. Stylish black-framed glasses are definitely the way to go.
Second, there’s nothing wrong with growing out your hair while balding. Skin bald is an overdone look and it looks awful on most men.
Finally, forget about facial hair. OP doesn’t have enough density there so attempting to grow a beard is not in the cards.
You have an attractive face, you could pull of just shaving the whole damn head.
wrong board anthony go back to mu
To be honest I would wear cuffed raw Japanese denim, with a tucked in starched white T-shirt, and with a full grain leather belt that’s distressed and has a vintage buckle. You should wear crepe sole, moccasin toe Red Wing boots. Try Pendleton flannels or Carhartt duck canvas jackets. Accessorize with a Hamilton khaki field mechanical watch or a green Seiko Alpinist on a OD green NATO.
Hair transplant won’t save you
If anything beard transplant would be way more suited in your case
OP i share more in common with you than id like to admit, any advice on how i can not go down the path you did
Nice Anthony Fantano cosplay.
Trolls aside you can probably do some neck exercises and thickening the neck a bit to change how your head feels with your silhouette. The shape looks better with a thicker neck.
>MMA fighters have weird shaped heads while shaved, but the shoulders etc work it out
There are exercises for the jaw that includes sugarless gum. It pulls the wings out basically, makes the cheeks more sunken.
>takes years though
Poke >>>/fit for more information on being a natty.
I recommend getting into cheap suits. Some hand me down suits are quite cheap. Get measured for it and keep it for later. Some youtube personalities use this to great effect. In spite that they’re not very attractive.
Your head shape should be using a tighter cap that the DECK of the cap doesn’t show how your head is shaped when people compare by looking at a solid shape and then your head as a whole. You get what I mean when you look at a mirror. Round out the front of the cap a bit or use a beanie loosely at the top.
A tanning booth is recommended for starting a tan, and not getting hurt. Check for a tanning salon.
>alaskans have to do this for vitamin D/calcium absorbtion and is the tannest state in the USA because of it
heck naysayers. Tan, loose beanie a bit and work up your upper body a little and chew gum once a day both sides of the jaw.
Also, carry yourself properly when standing. Slouching will give off an eerie feeling when someone is uncomfortable about your appearance. Lean back a bit even.
I look exactly like op but less autistic
what do ?
get laser eye surgery, shave that pathetic facial hair
Easy fix is getting on TRT accepting the hair loss and either embrace the bald look or get plugs once you can.
High test will make your beard grow in add muscle definition, jaw definition essentially making you more attractive. just DYOR so you understand the risks associated with doing something like that. But worth it imo if you’re truly unsatisfied with your appearance.
His neck is thinner than an anorexic asian woman. He could grow that without exogenous horemones first.
Definitely but that wouldn’t fix his other issues that are concerning him.
I am a big believer that a thick neck does wonders for ones overall attractiveness but given the pictures if he wants a significant difference in his appearance he needs to get enhanced, especially considering it doesn’t look like he has the best genetics for gaining muscle natty self improvement looks like too hard of a road for him to travel.
what are the best workouts for a thicker neck?
Iron neck
Weighted neck strap
Some good BW movements can be found on youtube.
man I tried doing neck shrugs for weeks but nothing happened
give me a good /fit/ routines for the neck pls
Shrugs
Youre never gonna be physically attractive. Accept that and start working on things you can improve. Also, gay. Lastly, stupid.
Yes, this. His best bet is to get a hair system and then wear the most boring Walmart bought t shirts and cargo pants and then maybe he won’t scare kids away.