Here’s what her sex excuses REALLY mean There's a good chance you've heard every sex excuse in the book, but what did we really mean?
You’ve probably raked in a lot of experience almost having sex over the years, and there’s a good chance that you’ve heard almost every sex excuse in the book. But have you ever thought about what all those sex excuses really mean? Well, here are the answers.
“I just don’t feel sexy right now”
On the surface, this sounds honest and vulnerable. But if you squint, it’s actually just “I’d rather not” with a bit of emotional garnish. And what’s maddening is that it puts you in a lose-lose. If you say “You are sexy,” she thinks you’re just saying that to get laid. If you don’t say it, you’re insensitive.
What it really means: Either way, sex is off the table, and you just got hostage situationed into giving a TED Talk on body positivity.
“It’s not that time of the week” or “we already did it yesterday”
This particular excuse doesn’t even try to disguise desire or physical limitation; it weaponizes the calendar. That’s psychological warfare, not intimacy. She’s not claiming to be tired, sick, hormonal, or busy. She’s telling you you’re supposed to know better than to even ask. It’s a subtle way to reverse the guilt. She’s already framed your desire as unreasonable.
What it really means: If your love life is now scheduled like trash pickup, then she’s not out of energy (or anything else), she’s just out of interest. And chances are, she’s not running on empty… she’s refueling somewhere else.
“I’m on my period/forgot to take my pill”
Your girl is relying on your complete ignorance of her anatomy to avoid sexual contact, and she’s doing it for good reason: you know absolutely nothing about the female reproductive system.
What the hell does a fallopian tube do? What do periods have to do with moon cycles? Where exactly do babies come from? You don’t know the answers to these questions because while your gym coach was teaching sex education for a week in junior high, you were busy thinking of what embarrassing yet hilarious question you could get the coach to read out loud at the end of class.
What it really means: Since this excuse is a tried-and-true favorite, it’s often difficult to discern the real reasoning behind her reluctance to give up the ol’ nappy dugout, but it probably has something to do with the fact that your balls smell like wet garbage. Do something about it.
“I’m too tired”
This is the original “I’m on my period,” but so much more versatile. She could be tired from anything, like her exhausting day of scrolling through Instagram or battling her feelings over who should’ve won “The Bachelor.” She’ll probably say something about how she has a “big meeting” tomorrow, or about how she “is really sore from the gym today,” and is in no mood to attend Humptoberfest tonight.
What it really means: You’ve been slackin’ off in the sack lately, and she’s losing interest. If you had a dog that demanded to be petted before it would let you go to sleep every night, you’d eventually grow to hate that f*cking dog. Now imagine if that dog also wanted to jump on top of you, put its penis inside of you, and paw you all over like a blind bear in a honey factory. Now also imagine that you’re starting to develop a crush on your boss who is richer and more exciting than your old dog, I mean guy.
“I’m not ready for that yet”
This is an excuse that you should only encounter early in a relationship, meaning within the first three days or so. She’ll present the excuse as if she really does like you. In fact, she likes you so much that she finds herself thinking about you more seriously than she expected at this point, and she just doesn’t want to make the mistake of jumping into anything too fast. Sounds admirable, right?
What it really means: She’s buying time until she’s decided if you’re the kind of asshole that she’ll feel the least awkward waking up next to. Just try not to be too much of a dick for the next day or two and see how it goes. Honestly, though, if she hasn’t decided after three days, she’s confused and indecisive and you should just move on.
“You’re only nice when you want sex”
This one stings because it might be true, despite being character assassination with a side of psychoanalysis. If you only compliment her earrings right before unbuckling your belt, she’s caught on. Now you’re stuck in a mental courtroom, defending every sweet thing you’ve said for the past 48 hours. “Objection! I refilled your Brita without being asked!” … but the jury is her, the judge is also her, and the court stenographer is your own guilty conscience.
What it really means: But sometimes you have brought her breakfast in bed, folded the laundry, and written her a poem, and she’ll still bust this one out. Now it’s just a highly manipulative way to decline. She’s a sociopath. Imagine what she’ll do to you if you ever divorce.
“I’m married”
The good thing about this excuse is that it always comes up right when it’s time to give her the ol’ penicillin injection. She’ll be in your bed, naked, sweating all over your sheets and muting the Star Trek episode that you turned on to set the mood, and then she’ll remember that she has a legally-binding obligation to some other dude.
What it really means: Literally, it means that she’s married. For your purposes it means that, if you can keep her where she is for about two or three more hours, you’ll get a pretty good one-night stand out of it and then you’ll never see her again. In other words: it’s perfect.
“You have to pay first”
This is a confusing sex excuse that can mean any number of things. It could mean that you’re soliciting a prostitute. It could mean that you purchased a bride from overseas, and the company is still waiting for your check to clear. It may also mean that you’ve fallen in love with a woman who’s trapped in a vending machine for some reason or another. There are just too many potential meanings to list.
What it really means: This is the best sex excuse a guy can get, because it’s the only excuse in which your girl is directly telling you how to gain unrestricted access to her Temple of Doom. With this excuse, she’s very clearly saying: if you give her money, then you will get sex. Sure, getting the money may not be easy, but she’s done as much as she possibly can to make your game plan crystal clear: if you want to have sex with her, you have to give her some money. It’s as simple as that.
Damn Ladies it’s not that hard to figure you all out! Tired, Confused, Cash Only, Missed Pills, Periods…..AND Don’t Want To Be Seen As A Slut!
Women To put it simply:
All of you woman are crazy!…
And like everything else in this world, You just have varying degrees of Insanity! Some are just a little crazy and others are a lot!
P.S. Face it ladies, you would be the slut, if caught on the right, day and time!
“Honestly, though, if she hasn’t decided after three days, she’s confused and indecisive and you should just move on.”
Hmmm…. “confused and indecisive”? – maybe …not wanting to give the impression that she’s easier to make than a peanut-butter sandwich – definately! The line we ladies walk between being your girlfriend and being your ‘ho is a very delicate one. Every girl, guy, date and situation is a different one. So maybe just relax, be cool and enjoy that new experience. Try treating her like a “girlfriend”. If she just wants to be your ‘ho .. she’ll let you know!
“Honestly, though, if she hasn’t decided after three days, she’s confused and indecisive and you should just move on”
Maybe she just isn’t a total slut? And the “just move on” part makes me think a guy who thinks that is an asshole.
I don’t use these excuses, but if I were to use them I have a feeling they would simply mean what I said. If I’m too tired than I’m effin tired, what does it matter honestly! If the girl doesn’t want to she doesn’t want to. No matter what the excuse is it means no… get over it. And as far as anything meaning you smell, you should probably shower on a daily basis so why do we need to tell you to!? I’m not your mom. Believe it or not there are women who have a three month rule or something similar, if all your out for is a booty call why would you spend this much time trying to figure this girl out. Common sense states that when a woman is asking you to pay it means she’s a prostitute, DUH!You should have figured that out when you picked her up on the street corner!
It’s hilarious that someone would write this. Yet another stupid boy that thinks he’s a man, deciding that he KNOWS just what us women think. And considering you would actually go out of your way to write all this bad information down, even if for entertainment, you’re not that intelligent and clearly don’t understand that the skanks you hang out with probably do this, but REAL WOMEN don’t. We’re honest and want simple things in life. Gentlemen, we’re not that damn complicated.
Why does there always have to be some secret meaning behind a womans reason for not wanting to have sex? Maybe she really is tired, maybe she really is on her period, maayybe she really isn’t ready to bone the dude she’s only been on 3 dates with. Get over yourselves, guys… we’re not that hard to figure out.
My favorite is “I just don’t want to”
The pill excuse is BS. Wear a friggin condom. Besides as long as she keeps taking her pills the chances she ovulated on that exact day she forgot are slim. Also if it doenst gross you out too bad having sex while she’s on her period will do wonders for her cramps and stress. Just do it in the shower please!
If shes on her period, do what any upstanding gentleman would do and make her fart cum bubbles
When you have a girlfriend who works two jobs for a combined amount of 70 hours a week, then yeah, she might be a little tired. If she’s on her period, make her prove it. If she forgot the pill, throw on a jimmy hat.
I don’t think the dude that wrote this article knows jack SHIT.
You try to force a girl to PROVE she’s on her period, gaurantee you, you’re gonna see the full force of PMS.
“Make her prove it” OMG! I would bitch-slap him with my used tampon…”There you go, babe”
What about the tried and true “I hate you but am not comfortable leaving this toxic relationship” excuse?
that usually ends in good ol’ fashioned hate fucking, the best kind of fuck
None of those excuses would stop me from sticking it in their butt and going pee pee a little.