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>made tinder and bumble accounts. >against all expectations started getting matches
>made tinder and bumble accounts
>against all expectations started getting matches
>great conversations both in app and on the phone
>realize I have nothing but gym clothes to wear on dates
>spend three weeks and $4000 buying an entire wardrobe
>matches gradually stop talking to me
>no new matches
>only limited number of women within driving distance like me
>zero dates
>have a ton of clothes and shoes I don’t know what to do with
I’m such an idiot
You can always just wear the clothes
Ehh if I wanted nice clothes I would have bought them sooner.
Does resetting work? Don’t these apps do biometrics to remember faces of users?
You think that’s how it works? I was thinking if there’s like ten thousand woman on Tinder in my area and 100 of them like me, then after those 100 I won’t be getting many more matches because new women aren’t joining quickly enough to maintain the same pace of matches. And I’m 4/10 on Photofeeler so 1% right swipe rate sounds about right.
>You think that’s how it works?
It’s impossible to know how -exactly- it works but the purpose of Tinder is to make as much money as possible, mostly for men so it’s likely not far off.
The Tinder algorithm is more complicated than just showing you random women around your area. They probably profile you and all the women and already know based on previous matches what kind of woman is likely to match with you, thus controlling somehow when to show you those women’s profiles.
You are right, lets say out of 100k women around 100 like you, but when will you reach those 100 profiles? the way they show you the profiles isn’t random, and it isn’t random for the woman either, Tinder can easily just hide those profiles from you, or hide your profile from the women you are likely to match unless you buy gold
Am I the only one who thinks letting this thing dictate your dating life is nightmarish?
depends on how well your other options would work for you. for me dating apps work better than going to clubs and bars did. I’m done with college so my social circle has been dwindling for years to almost nothing. meeting women in public randomly just doesn’t work for me.
and dating apps algorithms are not that sinister. I have phones for testing in my office and as a matter of course I have several fake accounts on every dating app I’m using. their algorithms seem to work as the other anon described, but sooner or later you’ll see (and be seen by) mostly every woman on the app. what guys can’t digest is that if they’re average they’re attractive to maybe 1% of the women out there, so instead they think it must be some algorithmic shenanigans. I can work with 1% odds, it’s about as much as I was getting in clubs and bars, except I can swipe and chat from wherever.
This.
This is obviously reductive, but dating apps basically sell women to men. There’s a 3:1 ratio of men:women on these apps. They have to make money somehow, so they game the matching system to ultimately fool men into paying for the premium services. An anon who is a miserable desperate loner (with money) is their ideal customer.
The main thing to keep in mind is that women get constant matches with a massive percent of men who come across their profile on average. A woman can be on Tinder for like 20 minutes and get a date while looking fairly average, so they may only swipe right on a handful of guys before getting something started. Tinder also kind of forces women to think like men because normally there is a lot that goes into why a woman is attracted to a man, but with Tinder there’s only so much to work with, so generally women will base their choices on whether he’s physically attractive, if he has a decent job, and if he makes her laugh, and with these being the three mains factors it’s really not that hard to find a guy that’ll check those boxes.
Even if you struggle to find someone on there, just know that not only are you going up against basically every single guy in town for some women that’ll spend 20 minutes on the app, but that regardless of if the algorithm wants to show them your profile or not, the chances that you’ll appear in their feed before they find someone is pretty unlikely.
Technology was a mistake.
Most people don’t actually find their partners through dating apps, however the number is rising. In 2018 it was at 8% and now it’s closer to 12%. The general consensus from both men and women is that it’s better to organically get to know people, and also meet them organically. Tinder dates are often awkward because regardless of if you’ve been talking to them, when you’re on the actual date you still don’t actually know them and you’re still subconsciously determining whether you like their voice, their in person personality, their demeanor, among other micro interactions such as how they deal with small breaks of silence or if they have the same ideals in terms of eye contact as you.
If you meet someone initially irl before actually going on a date, this stuff isn’t at all a surprise to our subconsciousness, but all these tiny details matter when you’ve never met the person irl. Don’t overanalyze the tiny shit you do because then you wouldn’t be being genuine, you’d be preoccupied try to cover up the shit that you think might be weird or whatever, and you’re gonna do that weird shit regardless so you might as well get it out of the way.
Great autismo story, maybe delete accounts and start again. Women will remember your old conversations
>Great autismo story
Big tech is powerful.
>Applying for job 2 years straight with a good application, references, history, education, etc using my actual profile
Nothing.
>Apply for same company, same position, with a wiped profile and new contact info where I’m just a Joe blow out of school with no references, job history (besides a shitty one I made up), half ass basic template resume that’s essentially just 4 lines of text with generic buzzwords on it, and nothing to by name.
Got a job within two weeks.
You can’t convince me there isn’t an algorithm sorting people from jobs, dates, events out there.
As a hiring manager, you can see desperation within a resume. It’s also asking us to do more work reading a long, drawn out resume. People act like a resume should be extensive and really show how great you are, but generally it should just have the important shit. Like I don’t give a heck about a job you have 4 years ago unless it’s directly related to what you’re applying for, so it’s probably a good idea to not include that Walmart job you had while you were searching for other jobs when applying for a technician role or whatever.
>so it’s probably a good idea to not include that Walmart job you had while you were searching for other jobs when applying for a technician role or whatever.
Yet it worked in my case.
Maybe hiring managers should pick up a phone if they don’t want to read shit they require applicants to submit?
These apps are rigged to only give men matches for the first week. You need to reset it afterwards and likely start with a new number. Also don’t delay asking for a date more than a few days.
buy gold and premium, the apps are a tool that help get the job done
Got platinum, got laid that night kek
EZ feels good to not be poor
I already had platinum but the matches still dried up.
I spent $4000 on clothes for a first date I never even asked anyone on. I may be weapons grade stupid but I’m not poor
Post some proof.
this. i bought the premium version of bumble and met my fiance off there. might not have met her had I not paid for that shit. it’s all a numbers game and you need be able to reach as many potential matches as possible.
also, like people have said in this thread, don’t waste time and be very forward with girls. if they don’t want to meet within the first few days of talking, it’s going nowhere.
>he doesn’t know about the tinder hebrew tactics
They throw you the best dates in the tidiest week and then let you dry in order for you to pay for their subscription, super likes and shit like that. They literally have weird algorithms that know which people you find attractive that are likely to go out with you.
I go to the bar on the weekend dressed like a total piece of shit and get girls numbers effortlessly because I don’t give a shit and am slightly autistic so I say funny off the wall stuff
or you’re tall and have a good looking face
I’m actually 5 ‘7 so yeah. But I do take care of my face and can confidently aay that it’s above average. I use moisturizer, sunscreen and tretinoin daily and also keep myself clean shaven. So yes I do put effort into my appearance.
It doesn’t matter how you take care of your face, it’s the bone structure that matters.
But pulling club skanks at 5’7" is pretty impressive even with the most handsome face, you def got game.
Yeah sure but a good face routine can take a face from a 6/10 to an 8/10 easily.
You could say it’s the other way around. Your face can go from 8/10 to 6/10 if you neglect hygiene and grooming but your face was 8/10 to begin with.
I’m going to use dating apps to get myself warmed up initially because I haven’t been with a girl for a while. But eventually, if nothing decent comes up in the dating apps, I’m going to ask girls out randomly on the streets as they walk by or wherever. Ideally, you need to be dressed decently everyday to pull this off. Eventually, one day, a very cute girl will pop up, I’m sure of it, after all, God did make me a pinky promise that I would find “the one” one day. He also told me that I needed to be in the right place to accomplish this.
Yeah, yeah, I know, I’m crazy, I talk to God.
Not crazy bro, but be careful with the tinderites. Every woman I’ve dated organically who used to use tinder was kind of a hoe