Older generations are bat shit insane, and it's not just the boomers. I have older gen-x parents and they are arguably worse than most of the boomers I know. Outside of maybe an extremely limited range of political concepts, their knowledge about history and the current social climate is borderline autistic. I genuinely wonder if the autism crisis started a generation or 2 before we actually began to pick up on it.
Full disclosure, I have diagnosed ADHD and am most likely autistic. Despite this, I maintained an over 3.0 GPA while also taking college classes through a community college. In exchange for my hard work, my parents decided to actively fuck me over by preventing me to live on/nearby my former university, which caused me to fail out of the program I was enrolled in (18 credit hours + 10 hours of commuting + work + religious requirements imposed by parents = fuck me). My moms parents paid for 100% of her college and allowed her to live on campus the entirety of her education, whereas my parents only had enough money to pay for the first year of mine. To be fair, once I get far enough in my degree, it will begin paying for itself, however that is over 2 years down the line. The main point I am trying to drive home is that older generations seem to have an insane double standard when it comes to the ends justify the means. When it comes to their own wellbeing, the ends always justify the means, however when it comes to the future of their descendants, the ends are only justified if the means are exclusively determined by them. Attempting to circumvent their will results in failure.
I grew up in an extremely religious household of which I am the sole person who pays attention to the social situations we are actively facing. Ironically, my parents were at their most financially and socially successful when they took a long hiatus from religion (around college-early 30s), something they are adamant I have no choice in pursuing. Earlier today I was explaining to my dad (the more sane of my 2 parents) the current renting situation (my mom is adamant that I rent an apartment during college if I plan on moving out to continue my education) and how buying a house and sharing it with several other guys is the most reasonable option. If what /misc/ says is true, and the average apartment costs around 2k a month (i'm going to go with 2k because the college i will be transferring to is in a fairly major city) I would need to make around $72k a year in order to afford rent. For reference I make 2.11x minimum wage, and if I were to work 50 hours a week I would not even be close to breaking that number, let alone go to engineering school full time while paying rent. It should be noted that due to my parents' old time’y beliefs, they consider taking out student loans extremely unacceptable, and if I am required to do so at some point, I would be ostracized by the entirety of my direct family.
On top of my parents having no understanding about the current financial situation my generation is facing, they are oblivious to the modern gender dynamics. My parents sheltered me to such an insane degree (christian + homeschooled-freshman year + christian private school) that i have never really had any real genuine ability to properly socialize with women in my age range outside of church/school. They have attempted to pawn me off to several overweight/vaccinated women and or girls that are too old/young for me (almost all of them related to church in some way or another). They fail to understand that most genuinely attractive “christian” women are almost as promiscuous (or equally so) to non christian women, and even if i were to land one later in life, i would be subject to all of the bullshit that comes with used goods.
Anyways, despite having good genetics, despite being rather talented at the field that i have chosen to work in/study, despite coalescing to all of their demands for over 18 years of my life, they still find me insufficient. Thanks to their treatment of me, it will take me nearly 7 years to get through the same degree that my cousin completed in only 4. Thanks to my parents locking me down sexually, most of the good women that I could have gotten with (i have been offered sex repeatedly, middle school-highschool, but turned them down due to cock blocking myself with a bible for fear of my parents wrath) are on their way to becoming grade A chameleon roasties. My parents (and the parents of several other people I know) have ruined me in almost every conceivable way, and they consider what they have done to be a good thing.
> at least I still have a foreskin and didnt get the vaxx so I may as well jack off while attempting to not off myself.
>will be ostrasized from family if you take out a student lone
You consider just being a man and not telling your mommy and daddy every little detail of your life? Loans are stupid, but they exist to help people like you to actually get ahead if you can stick with paying it off fast
This is what I will most likely do. I dont tell them everything, the issue is that they actively search through all of my financial records (my bank is still associated with their account) so they would still see everything I do. yes I have a secondary bank account, however that does not have as many features as the account that i primarily use.
Sounds like time to open a new account with a better bank. Also, if you are only 18 you have plenty of time to land a nice girl. Aim for 5-7 years younger than yourself around the time you are finishing up college or getting into your career. I met a trad virg 22 year old when I was 28. Its not hard to pick up women younger than you. Its why the rosties hate it so much...they got pumped and dumped by daddychad when they were young things
I could, or I could remove their ability to access my account, but I have no clue how much paperwork that will require. 19, not 18. I care more about vaccination/virginity status than age/traditional affiliation. White with lighter hair/eyes would be preferable, however I am aware that finding someone like that will be insanely hard.
Fuck that. Open an account at a new bank, transfer your money to the new account, and close out that account. You should be able to do all this quickly and easily online. You're a man now. No one should be accessing your money but you.
This is true. I also need to get a credit builder credit card sooner than later.
Nerdwallet for quick advice. Better than us anyways
How is this our problem chud? This ain't tik tok boy
Boomer detected.
god i wish dude, i truly do..
I would trade half my life expectancy to be born 80 years ago. also, I generally don't use social media, and I stay the fuck away from tiktok.
>Blog post
>not about family
>about self
>narcissistic retard
Yup a zoomie,
>t. Zoomie
the entirety of my family is extremely individualistic. we have not actually been a "family" since I was around 12 years old. No one cares about each other, and despite attempting to please my parents, I still drew the short straw for decent parents.
>i was fully indoctrinated
>everyone else is stupid
> everyone else is stupid
no thats why I come here.
look, kid: every single person your age, ever, all thought they were personally smarter than all previous civilizations combined.
but they really just lacked increasingly more and more context until all hope of recovery was lost, and that is the real reason why things are fucked up now.
you are not the ultimate product of humanity. you are the latest victim of one giant ongoing millennia-long competency crisis.
have a boomer comic.
I literally want the ability to have what my parents had. Despite going through all of that bullshit, I managed to get a 2 trade certifications during highschool and landed a rather well paying job. what really pisses me off is that gen-x boomer parents seem to have this hawk like mentality when it comes to their
kids future. I have no issue with hard work, I simply have an issue with the fact that i have absolutely no support from the people who were put in this world to support me. I am not going for a useless degree, and I actively respect a large portion (but not all) of the previous generations.
also I love Calvin and Hobbes. Used to have the entire collection set. idk where it went though.
>I literally want the ability to have what my parents had.
We can't. Those times are over. It's sad but true. You want what the older generations had hope WW3 happens and every major place outside North America becomes a bombed out wasteland again.
your parents didn't deserve what they had. they took it off the backs of chinese slave laborers jumping off buildings to their deaths.
and now, as turnabout is fair play, it is america's turn to reap that whirlwind.
>parents impose their ideologies onto their children
and so shall you
Sounds like you're doing well. I have known some former peers who used the fact that we won't live in the easy times the boomers had as an excuse to be indolent pussies that waste their lives away. In these times the wheat will rise above the chaff. The strong men will build a business and acquire assets. When AI is really integrated into the workforce all of those indolent manchildren are going to starve.
Meh. To be fair I am working on managing my money better, putting $200+ a week into silver. Yea I could be doing a lot worse off, but I could also be doing significantly better. Most of the people who I was raised around/my relatives ended up getting exactly what I am asking for.
something like this, gen x will be regarded as significantly worse than boomers in a very short amount of time. also, the silent generation does not get as much hate as they really deserve, as they are the generation living to insanely old ages at everyone else's expense.
>zoomer whinging
This isn't your diary homosexual, nobody cares
Oh God, I want to insert metal into this person soooooo baaaaadddd...
Fr fr cap no grass bro
I turn 27 in 2 weeks (lol) and although our lives were different in a lot of ways, I identify with the fact that your parents won’t relinquish control, don’t care that you have different values to them, will dangle (very minimal) assistance over your head, and are self-congratulatory about how they “made it” but don’t consider how easy they had it (in one way or another)
my suggestion is to simply not run things by them in hopes that they will give you their blessing, or tell you that your ideas are good, or write you a check. They can (and will) get in your head and make you doubt your ability to make it without doing it their way, even if their way makes no sense at all. You have to take some steps on your own, and if it works out, then you say to them “see?” And then they see your vision, and very well might assist you with the next steps.
It’s like an old story, the son wants to go on some adventure, but the father refuses to bless his adventure. The son goes anyway, and then eventually they reunite, and the father is proud of his son and grants him his birthright.
Yea, this would be nice. I am doubtful of how realistic it is though. I hate being a trade worker, if my engineering goals fail, I'm probably gonna move farther west and become a farmer.
>Yea, this would be nice. I am doubtful of how realistic it is though.
Which part?
That you can do something without their approval? You have to force yourself to believe you can do it, and do it. Don’t just fantasize about it. You seem like a really capable and independent guy (and you wouldn’t be if your parents didn’t do at least some things right, so be grateful for that) but one could also look at this situation as a type of “co-dependency” or “learned helplessness”— and if you make it out of that, you will be more gritty and self-actualized (and more attractive to women) than the cousins and friends who made it by just doing what their parents said (even if their parents didn’t have the rigid nature of yours)
Or that they will eventually come around to your way of seeing things? The results will speak for themselves, and if they’re not total narcissists (they don’t seem to be so, just highly neurotic and rigid with a lack of perspective) they won’t excommunicate you… so they won’t be able to deny it. And you won’t know whether they’ll step in and assist you with anything if you try it “my” way until you try. And if they don’t, well, that’s tough, but some parents don’t even make sure their kids can read, so try to keep a sense of perspective.
This is fair, I have been working on my mental health more as of recent, and getting rid of the learned helplessness behaviors will come in time.