why dont you just be "likable" ?
its literally that easy
why dont you just be "likable" ? its literally that easy
why dont you just be "likable" ?
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Americans receive so many mixed messages about life, no wonder everyone is retarded, angry and doesn't get along.
>don't be nice cuz women hate nice guys
>have a likable personality
>also be yourself, while forcing yourself to be likable, thus not being yourself
>don't cry or be sensitive
>not emotionally intelligent enough
literally can't win. kill all whores.
Don't forget you have to be a big scary guard to defend her but also have a nice approachable face.
Dating advice is retarded, has always been retarded, and will always be retarded, because having a vagina does not necessarily mean you like the exact same personality traits as someone else with a vagina.
The incel-ish focus on appearance is possibly the only exception, only because women who like ugly/obese/short men are a minority.
But anyone saying shit like "just be nice" or "be confident" or whatever is completely delusional because he sees women as a monolithic entity with the exact same tastes in personality.
Thus it makes sense to ignore all dating advice aside from be yourself, don't settle for people who you can't stand, and keep trying on different people. Eventually, you'll come across a girl who matches with you and that's infinitely better than just shifting yourself to fit into the first mold that comes your way while suffering for it.
like just think of all the girlfriend memes you see on LULZ:
>thicc mommy caring soft-femdom gf
>depressed submissive nerdy gamer gf
>extroverted athletic tanned tomboy gf
Now imagine telling a femanon that she NEEDS to be a nerdy gamer girl, or an athletic tomboy to get a boyfriend.
This is more or less what the people selling dating advice are telling you.
halo effect isn't just appearance
In fact, according to the halo effect, if a woman likes your personality she'll see you as more attractive.
>halo effect isn't just appearance
it is nowadays. modern women dismiss men based on appearance before they even get to know them.
literally go outside
i do. all the young couples are tall, fit, attractive men with women who don't fit any sort of mold. they can be ugly, hot, fat, skinny.
I think you've gotten it backward. Looking for certain characteristics in a partner isn't a bad thing as long as they're somewhat realistic. The problem is more just assuming you know what an entire group of people will want. Not settling for something you're not interested in isn't bad at all.
>Now imagine telling a femanon that she NEEDS to be a nerdy gamer girl
You DO tell us we need to be a specific aesthetic and personality type to have a successful relationship
The people who are good at it didn't need to put in the reps to secure a lifelong mate. The ones who did put in a lot of reps only did so because they had to, because they suck at it.
The good ones can't be sure what they did, the bad ones are sure what they did, but they're bad at it.
>>don't be nice cuz women hate nice guys
People tell you this because they don't realize that good women like guys who can both be mean or nice when the situation calls for it. Being one or the other will just attract toxic women.
>>have a likable personality
Everyone has a likable personality, but not necessarily a likable attitude. An attitude is much, much easier to change however.
>>also be yourself, while forcing yourself to be likable, thus not being yourself
People tell you to be yourself, so you only attract people who like you for you. If you can't attract anyone, then you're attitude is to blame.
>>don't cry or be sensitive
You can do both, but you also have to not cry and be tough when you need to be.
>>not emotionally intelligent enough
Emotional intelligence helps, but come on, people can get laid without that.
Another vagary used as cope.
>bro just keep sinking money and effort into the system and expect nothing in return
You are a cuckold.
>just stop caring
I genuinely did for a long time and nothing changed. I just continued to be ignored as always. Even when socializing with women with no goal of sex or relationship.
>>bro just keep sinking money and effort into the system and expect nothing in return
LOL that's called giving up, retard. That's why you are stuck in your little bucket, you lil tard. You gotta keep fucking trying or just fucking die. I spit on you
shut the hell upp you retardd mother fucker
i dunno why you analyzed every single thing like they were barriers. they aren't barriers, they're just mixed messages that confuse and mislead. you ran off on a little wild, pointless tangent there.
we're told that shit when we're young, so we don't consider every autistic option like you did, especially when life is already hard enough at that age.
Likeable just means have confidence, but not too high confidence where they feel less than you.
If you have low confidence, then you're seen as low value male and by default are unlikeable.
If you have narcissistic levels of confidence then you tend to shit on people and then you are unlikeable.
But some women like that.
When you're so confident that you can put yourself above others and are willing to protect your interests which means protecting and doing things for her and saying fuck everyone else.
>protip: about 75% of advice women give men is pure bullshit.
>the other 25% is just understanding their nature like how they want you to be self sufficient and have a car and make more money than them etc.
That's what makes you likeable.
Being better than them.
Majority of them only date up, and men have been falling behind in society, hence you see the single male crisis that has hit America, and just recently being spreading around like wildfire.
So much so, that reddit had to deep clean their entire website from mentioning that most men 18-29 have given up on women.
Purplepilldebate subreddit (where men and women debate the various pills) has gone full blackpill mode since the single news came out, it is pretty funny watching redditors realize we are right. Theyre always late to the party
>the single news
i think he's referencing the single young men/women percentage, like 70% men and 30% women.
The news that most young men between 18-29 are single, a large portion in that sub became blackpilled
In my entire close to 2 decades of internet activity, I've never seen a website who loves censorship as much as reddit. It's just unbelievable it's still so popular. Most people are really NPCs beyond redemption.
It's popular because of the censorship, not in spite of. People love their cages. They love having their little protected sandbox where everyone agrees with them under threat of banishment
most characteristic attributes are going to be attributed to your looks. in other words, halo vs failo effect.
No one is fun anymore. Be fun. And when people don't like the way you have fun we can talk about that another time. It usually involves moving on and not caring.
Being likable is such a generalization.
Likeable = You think and believe the same things as me. Basically it's game over if you hold unpopular political views and are too spergy to hide your power level from the those who conform.
If you don't have a job there is literally nothing you can do, people HATE your guts.
It's infinitely easier to change your body than it is to change your personality.
It's like asking a girl to stop being fat, it ain't happening.
I always love shit like OP pic.
A lot of homosexuals here do NOT have likable personalities, but the personality meme is just that: a meme. Personality is just baseline, and so said homosexuals will point to the fact that guys with good character still can't find a GF, and assume personality doesn't matter at all. You need to have a good personality, but also be more attractive than surrounding men.
I believe I am likable. Get along well with everyone, and make friends quite easily. But, still no GF because I'm also fat, short, bald, shitty facial hair, uneducated, and work in an industry where there are ZERO women. I go to the bar a few times a month with buddies and there are no young women there, either. Dating apps are weirdly inverted when it comes to personality. If you can meet women IRL, attraction can develop based on your personality, income level, hobbies, etc. On dating apps, the only way to even get to the point of talking (where you can show those things) is to first be attractive physically. That's the only way you're going to get the swipe in the first place.
I'm moving to Planet Japan. They do not have this problem, though they have social media so I wouldn't be surprised if they end up just like American women, given another 20 years. Hopefully I can find a loyal wife to pump out some haafu babies with.
>changing who are you for mediocre pleasure from a whore
no thanks bro. you're an insufferable bore and a worthless human being, but because you have a hole between your legs you get a easy mode pass through life and never have to work a day or experience what lonely is
can you people stop screenshot posting? every fucking day you retards take dumb social media screenshots and post boring rage bait. shut the fuck up and do something new
>every fucking day you retards take dumb social media screenshots and post boring rage bait. shut the fuck up and do something new
so you're lazy and boring, no wonder your father hates you
doesn't the halo effect alone basically prove personality is a meme? if you're hot people will think you're an amazing person instantly. even if you're an asshole or boring.
we'll eventually get to 80%+ of men being virgins and people will still be screaming about how men are worthless and don't deserve anything. this is hell.
Kek a bunch of women like me. I have plenty of female friends who like to hang out with me. One even tells me constantly I'm her best and basically only friend. I didn't do this on purpose. Another girl even bought me some video games. Plenty of girls think I am likeable and want to spend time with me even though I don't simp for them. At all. It's my rule not to.
But I also have never had anyone but the most depserate fat girls interested in me and even then not for long. You know why? Because I'm ugly and don't have cool swagger. That's what does it. Oh and I'm not wasting hours at a bar I don't like doing stuff I don't like just to meet a girl. I also get like 3 matches on tinder and none of them respond. Women might like me but they aren't attracted to me. Fucking dumbass post.
sounds like you're attracting your looksmatch, you ungrateful shitstain of a human.
Those women aren't attracted to me either. Like I said they flirted with my briefly out of sheer desperation and only online. And I get none of this irl. And it's happened, what, twice? So I truly am the absolute bottom of the barrel.
Also that's some bizarre logic assuming that my looksmatch is whatever women I'm attracting. That makes the concept of looksmatch entirely redundant. And if I have ZERO interest in these women, what's the point of forcing myself? Better to be alone. These women did not have the kind of crush on me that I've seen women have on other men. So if 2/10s are not even sustaining interest in me, then I must be a 0/10 or something.
If I could hookup with a fat girl for some ugly disgusting sex to remind me why it's not worth my time, I wouldn't mind that. But I'd never have a relationship with her unless she had a really great personality. Only met one girl like that back in school.
Honestly I have no issue "settling" for an ugly girl. I don't care much about face. It's being fat that's the real killer.
Blackpill is that "likeable personality" = "good looking". The more good looking you are, the more likeable you are.
People always seemed to like me. I never got a girlfriend from it however.
I have to disagree with this. If you were an incel, no matter how much you change, it's still a mark on your character. So it doesn't matter how much of a different personality you develop, how far it is into your past, that inceldom alone will forever define you, and you will never be likeable enough in any meaningful sense.