He's 21, I'm 19. Been in a relationship for almost a year and a half but don't live together.
We have sex, but I always want more than he can give.
In the past, I have expressed finding his relationship with porn to be hurtful. Though, he is not addicted.
In the beginning, he told me he could no longer get hard to that stuff since getting the real deal, but has recently gone back to using them.
I myself watch porn every now and then and the videos are always centred on the women.
Is he fantasising about these women when he is watching pornography?
Why do you give a shit if you’re watching porn too? Quit being a hypocrite your both just trying to nut.
1. I'm not choosing it over him. He watched it once right before inviting me over. We had not seen each other in over a week.
2. I'd stopped watching that stuff, but then he met me less and had sex with me less.
3. The videos are centred on the women. He's jacking it to other women. I want to know if that means he's fantasising about them.
>3. The videos are centred on the women. He's jacking it to other women.
Quit your "the videos are centered on the women" bullshit excuse, you damn degenerate
Are they not? What do you think about when you're watching?
the same reason why sometimes you just eat a cheap meal alone at home instead of going out to dinner with a friend.
porn is low stress and a solo activity. with a partner there's another person involved and it can be a lot more work
might be biased but i also think sex feels more like work than pleasure for a lot of men.
Watching porn is about lot of things. Our men brain is wired so we can react to womens body and breed babies. Porn uses this primitive men behavior by showing specific women body characteristics, like big asses an big breasts. That's called supernormal stimulus.
There are many supernormal stimuli to which men react to (research about supernormal stimulus), but some of them are relates to novelty. Doesnt matter if you are a nympho or even if you look like his favourite pornstar, mens primitive brain also looks for sex with variety of sex partners, and porn "conveniently" fulfills this desire.
Also is right. Sex with gf tend to be a lot more work since you have to give pleasure after you're done and you just want to sleep.
If you don't want him to watch porn, you can propose to fuck with him until he cums and then let him rest or something, but don't forbid him from having a comforting pleasure if you can't give it to him.
Thanks for the thorough response!
I never forbade him, but told him it was hurtful how often he talked about it while being with me.
What
# said is what I thought to be the case as well but I've always been down to do it whenever he wanted it.
>Our men brain is wired so we can react to womens body and breed babies. Porn uses this primitive men behavior by showing specific women body characteristics, like big asses an big breasts.
You left out the bit where viewing men has an effect on men. Comparing porn of 2 men 1 woman vs 3 woman led to a difference in ejaculate that increased the watcher's fertility. The proposed action was viewing virile men whose sperm could compete for impregnation stimulated the viewer.
If the images were more extreme than the viewer was used to there were also increases in sperm, ie, men who view porn regularly can become habituated to it.
Oh, and I'll add that big breasts can have a negative effect on many men. It doesn't have to be as extreme as gigantomastia which many men find unappealing if not repugnant, but something a little uncommon like UK/USA 38DD. That amount of breast tissue isn't large huge, about 750 ml, but many men prefer smaller breasts. There is a negative correlation between a man's IQ and his preferred breast size, ie smarter men often prefer smaller breasts. Introverted men, not shy introverted, prefer smaller breasts too.
I am not aware of any studies on the relationship between a man's IQ and his preference for women's bottom size but many men do not like big bums. Contrary to sir mixalot, other brothers can deny and find them very unappealing.
>T. Titlet made-up copium
What's there to cope with smoothbrain? You like your own big saggy man tits and you're too stupid to realise some real men like small boobs (on women, not on you)?
My buddy type leans more on the toned side, seething titlet. I don't care whether or not other men like small tits. But you clearly do and you let it eat away at your mind which is why you make a bullshit to feel good about yourself, you insecure a little warm
*Body
*Worm. Voice to text is ass
Yeah, sure, I'm insecure because I can read and understand science at more than an elementary school level. But you're not insecure when you feel some need to try and defend yourself on an anonymous Hungarian rutabaga trading forum. No cope there at all.
You replied pretty fast too brah. Maybe touch grass and get some exercise for that "toned" body you have.
Can you at least link one single source? Just one?
>You replied pretty fast too brah.
It's called push notifications. Phone posting has its benefits
When you watch porn do you fantasize about the people in the video?
No, I just look at the women
>> I just look at the women
So without thinking about them in a sexual way you just look at them? To what end?
I do look at the women in a sexual way. My question is whether he is just looking at them or is at least imagining it's us.
I'm not sure you understand what the word fantasize means.
>> I look at the women in a sexual way
That's fantasizing. That's what you do when you watch porn.
>> is at least imagining it's us.
And now you're asking us to read his fucking mind. Grow up.
>or is at least imagining it's us.
No.
Its a woman thing. I asked my gf what kind of porn she looks at and she fetishizes pretty women too, despite being straight.
It's probably a role play thing. Imagine you look at porn pretending to be the attractive guy on screen
Yeah, something like that
he masturbates to them because sometimes you get boring
last "nympho" i dated begged for sex 24/7 and then was a fucking dead fish. She just wanted me to beat the shit out of her while fucking her while she took a totally passive role. Shit got so annoying I straight up broke up with her in the middle of sex bc I was just like WTF are you doing
So maybe you gotta try harder idc how horny you are if youre not giving him anything. Most guys only wanna fuck like 20-30 minutes max after they are used to a girl
Lol you are a massive homosexual kys already
I always wanted a submissive slut that I can fucking destroy her why no problem
If you only ever got one flavor of ice cream you'd eventually get tired of it even if it was your favorite.
A little bit but you always gonna return to that special flavor
Aunque haya pareja, la paja no se deja.
You tried actually talking to him about this instead of bitching to us about it you child? 90% of the "issues" and "problems" posted here could be solved if the people in question weren't pathetic cowards and just talked to their partner like normal people. Are you even an adult? Oh wait I forgot your practically still a child since you're 19.
How old are you yourself?
I'm afraid telling him how it is upsetting only leads to him hiding it from me. I feel like that's what's happened since last time I did.
How do you suggest I go about it?
Why the fuck does it accept you? God you people are so stupid. You let the tiniest insignificant shit steal your joy and eventually ruin your relationships. You're a child in a 20-year-old's body and should be treated as such.
So do you ever jack off on your own, OP? Or do you save all your orgasms for when you're with him?
>Why the fuck does it accept you?
Did you mean "upset" instead of "accept?" If so then yeah, I 100% agree lol. Some people just aren't happy unless they have something to bitch about. She could be a good girl and lick his ballbag and asshole while he jacks his dick to porn, but instead she wants to turn it into some "issue" when it's really nothing
Thanks. You're right, this is too silly to be upset over. I just spiral to certain depths sometimes.
No problem retard. Please don't let your illogical behavior push your boyfriend away. Remember, most men only tolerate the shit you pull because we want a companion and a hole to fuck (call it incel logic, I don't care. That's an objective fact). If a male spout at that bullshit to us male friend group he would be made fun of or even booted out of the group for being stupid. We can only tolerate it for so long. Your entire post makes me want to gut punch you through the screen. Never do this again
do you give a nice blowie OP?
just a reminder for you, you have a lot of power, you could literally just break up and easily get a new bf who fucks you in every hole
you could always kind of threaten your current bf with this, i guarantee you he cant get a new gf as easily as you can get a new bf
I'd hope so! I've come to know his body pretty well. I'm always down to blow him, but he doesn't always want me to. He sometimes worries about it causing some sort of infection when he puts it in afterward.
>He sometimes worries about it causing some sort of infection w
dafuq do you have a smelly mouth? he doesnt trust to put his penis there but kisses you no problem? kek
you havnt replied to the other part that i wrote. threaten him, guarantee it works
>He sometimes worries about it causing some sort of infection when he puts it in afterward.
This is a joke right ? People do ass to mouth and live. I'm sure you can do mouth to slit and no problems. I've done it literally thousands of times. Have a girl blow me until I'm harder then fuck her.
You shouldn't take it personally. Porn is entertainment. Men like seeing tits and ass. It doesn't mean he's "fantasizing about other women." You're thinking about it in a weird way.
If your friend watches a sitcom on TV, would you accuse her of fantasizing about having other friends? If your boyfriend watches a food video, is he fantasizing about someone else's cooking? If he watches a video about another country is he fantasizing about living somewhere else? Like maybe in a way all of these are true, but it's so mundane and normal, your question sounds really weird and excessive.
I know a lot of girls have a similar confusion about porn or make a big deal out of it because they don't understand male brains, but watching porn for me isn't any different than just browsing YouTube and watching video game or cooking videos. You shouldn't find this hurtful, it's really a ridiculous mindset for you to have.
Now, if the guy doesn't fuck you enough and you're not sexually satisfied that's something you may or may not want to deal with. You'd be justified to break up with someone for this. But this whole porn angle and the weird jealousy thing, just stop.
I wouldn't mind it if he was thinking about me while watching rather than imagining himself with others.
It's also hurtful because I tend to want more and it feels like he's already fulfilled his desires without me.
You do not deserve to be in a relationship if you're this naive. You're so fucking self-centered and narcissistic and you don't even realize it lol. Shit just has to revolve around you and only you right? He will leave your ass eventually and then you will come back here crying asking what you did wrong, and I will laugh in your face
Take your porn somewhere else, you vile disgusting lowlife
Men watch porn. It's something you have to get over. HOWEVER the benefits of quitting porn are huge. Sex feels better, elections get harder, I swear my dick got bigger.
It has to be something he wants to do though.
After quitting, what was the longest amount of time you went without porn and/or jacking off? I'm not denying that they are probably benefits but I don't see much of a point if I'm currently still single and probably will remain single
No, you still jerk off, just no porn. When you jerk off without porn you get used to focusing on the feeling instead of letting your brain stimulation doing all the work.
I think a lotta this thread is just conjecture till we know a bit more
What do you mean by nympho op.... you are getting off but you're sicm in the head insatiable and you want more.... or he's getting off and you arent so you want more?
I bet its the second, and there's pressure to perform he's not coming thru with.
I don't expect to get off because I don't really during sex, but I still enjoy it a lot and want it more often than he does. He wants it more too when he hasn't been watching porn and says he cums a lot better too.
People can use porn as a release for sexual desire, but it also represents a distinct form of sexual release.
>In the past, I have expressed finding his relationship with porn to be hurtful.
Get over it
>I myself watch porn every now and then and the videos are always centred on the women.
Go to woman-centric studios like HotGuysFuck instead of consuming main-line porn.
>Is he fantasising about these women when he is watching pornography?
Yes
>Go to woman-centric studios like HotGuysFuck instead of consuming main-line porn.
She only cares that it "centers on the girls" because she's jealous, not because she wants porn that "centers on the guys." Whatever the fuck that shit means. I thought porn centered on the FUCKIN, but what do I know?
>>Is he fantasising about these women when he is watching pornography?
>Yes
Really? I don't think I've ever really fantasized about the girls I see in porn, and I've been watchin porn a looooong time. You're telling me people actually FANTASIZE about the GIRLS themselves? Hell I don't think I'm fantasizing at all when I watch porn..
Fuck him while he watches porn
Never date a guy that watches porn, and DONT marry them. They're disgusting, and their porn habits will only leave them to eventually get bored of you and cheat since they're used to getting off to different girls everyday due to porn.
It's funny how its seen as normal behavior when he's literally fantasizing about fucking other girls. Why is he choosing to watch other naked girls when he has the real thing? Although, I can't blame him as much since you participate in the same gross behavior.
I went back to that stuff after he did. I had quit for the longest time and even now don't visit it very often either.
>Is he fantasising about these women when he is watching pornography?
Yes. He is getting sexually bored of you.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect
>when I am a nymphomaniac
Are you sucking his cock and swallowing his coom 2x's a day at least?
No??
your "man" has been defeated
Guys get bored of fucking the same girl over and over and start looking at other women. It's pretty normal, his body is just telling him to spread his seed
>Guys get bored of fucking the same girl over and over and start looking at other women.
So do women bro. So do women.
Because you’re ugly
Scratches a different itch. He’s been having sex with porn longer than with you. Takes retraining.
As a man sex is a chore compared to masturbating. Fapping takes 5 minutes with minimal effort if he is in a rush and just wants to nut, sex is a whole ass procedure that he doesn't want to go through every single day.