Why can't i find a boyfriend?

I've been rated a 7/10 but that usually means you're either a 5 or a 4 but that should be good enough. I'm not talkative but I listen to you and thoroughly research everything you like so we can talk about it more. I can make jokes but they're kind of edgy and cynical so I avoid it. I weigh 94lbs at either 5'2 or 5'5 idk , stopped measuring . I just look at love and ache it's all I crave and I'm not sure what to do. Tried my best to meet someone but something about me is off putting. Also no this is an inquiry, I won't date anyone from here I just need pointers. And no I'm not getting a dating app because yes I'm desperate but I want it to be natural. I'm currently suicidal and self destructive and I believe if there was someone to live for itd help, I think Love conquers all but idk I'm rambling I'm just so fucking depressed lol

  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    welcome to the club

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you probably a weirdo

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah no shit I've been alienated for so long. How do I become normal?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        idk girl I'm not normal either I am on LULZ

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I'm currently suicidal and self destructive
    This is why. You do sound physically attractive, but incredibly mentally unstable. Just try going to therapy and working through your issues and that will manifest in sociability and eventually finding a boyfriend.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I've been going to a psychiatrist and recently a psychologist, was my choice at first but now I'm forced to. It's kind of hard to get better when my isolation is the reason for my depression but my depression causes my isolation as it is off putting. I do my best to hide it

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Thats good that you are doing that. Keep at it and it will help, its helped me a lot. Just focus on building up yourself for the time being and it will work out

        Humans that interact with other humans tend to end up in relationships. You are probably not very good looking, unkempt, and weird. These things are speed bumps not roadblocks. Try meeting other people.

        >You are probably not very good looking, unkempt, and weird
        She said shes 5'2" and 94lbs, shes got a great body she obviously has a lot of guys who are attracted to her. Thats why I think its obvious its mental illness. A skinny girl should have no problem finding a boyfriend, and if she does its because of mental illness or trauma

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      When did all the retarded therapy redditors migrate here? Was it something to do with Elon? Don't go to therapy, this person is a moron, go to church or get out in nature. Mental illness is caused by the modern world.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        It's /adv/
        It's not my fault people have baggage. It's because of you so many people come to places like this to dump that baggage.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Being mentally ill has no bearing on it for women lol. I know a girl with schizophrenia who literally never leaves her house and still has dudes frothing at the mouth to be her bf.

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Humans that interact with other humans tend to end up in relationships. You are probably not very good looking, unkempt, and weird. These things are speed bumps not roadblocks. Try meeting other people.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      There's dirtier bpd messy fat chicks my age who get 10 boyfriends every week. They don't even care about them or what they like never indulge them in their hobbies or even try to make them happy. I do the opposite of all of that and I'm still regarded as trash. What are they doing right that I'm getting so wrong?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        They probably pursue men

        Thats good that you are doing that. Keep at it and it will help, its helped me a lot. Just focus on building up yourself for the time being and it will work out

        [...]
        >You are probably not very good looking, unkempt, and weird
        She said shes 5'2" and 94lbs, shes got a great body she obviously has a lot of guys who are attracted to her. Thats why I think its obvious its mental illness. A skinny girl should have no problem finding a boyfriend, and if she does its because of mental illness or trauma

        5'2" 95lbs she probably looks like a starving Chinese boy

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >5'2" 95lbs she probably looks like a starving Chinese boy
          Personally, that petite is my type and I know I am not alone in that so that was my point. She is obviously physically attractive to at least some men, so her problem has to come from mental illness because its not hard to find a man to date you as a woman if you are not fat and not mentally unwell.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >5'2" 95lbs she probably looks like a starving Chinese boy

          Pedos would find it attractive

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            That's a stupid assumption to make about a guy.
            Why wouldn't a guy want a smaller girl? He could effortlessly carry her, do all kinds of positions together. There's more benefits to it. Fat is repulsive if not distributed right.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            That's a stupid assumption to make about a guy.
            Why wouldn't a guy want a smaller girl? He could effortlessly carry her, do all kinds of positions together. There's more benefits to it. Fat is repulsive if not distributed right.

            yeah complete retard tier. i'm 6'5 and buff and i always go for miniature hobbit gfs i can carry up the stairs on my dick

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What do you do for recreation? What settings do you expect men to approach you?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm not sure what you mean by recreation but, school mostly. I've been approached at school and through social media but they're all talk and then dip. Some guy at school kept approaching me very abruptly and kind of rudely for a week straight asking me questions like do i have a boyfriend and how old i was just information and I was always nice and answered but one day he asked to take a pic of me which i said ok to and then stopped talking to me. I haven't even seen him, it really hurt me. (I'm 18 I'm in high school btw just to put that out there, I'm european so our school rules may be different)

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    just sit next to a guy you think you might like in one of your uni courses and take it from there?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That would seem a bit creepy since I never sit next to anyone and no one ever sits next to me.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        yeah you need learn how to be social or you will never find anyone
        if you don't want to ask a guy out yourself you need to put him into a situation where he could be interested or see that you might be interested

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Literally impossible to come off as creepy as a woman

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Literally impossible to come off as creepy as a woman

        like anon said, literally you CAN NOT be creepy as a girl who is mildly attractive. find someone that looks cute, maybe see if they wear a shirt you like, or have pins on backpack, and chat them up after class or as you sit down with small talk. they will fucking love it.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Harsh truth. Men are extremely looks oriented. Do whatever you can to boost that, make up, outfits whatever. Take it to the max. You sound attractive, but the better you look the better your odds are, just facts.

    Another harsh truth, a lot of men are not looking for relationships anyway. Your odds are better with a man who is a bit older but understand that a lot of men just will look to have sex with you.

    I’d also take up some hobbies that let you meet men. Ballroom dancing, Rec sports leagues, rock climbing, etc. the bigger you grow your social circle, the better the odds you’ll meet somebody compatible.

    Hang in there, white pill is there still are a lot of men who are looking for relationships. They just tend to be quieter and less aggressive. A guy who is really smooth probably got that way by hitting on a lot of girls. Give a less polished guy a chance. Often the smooth guys are total frauds, trust me I know a few. They’re confident in nothing lol.

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Why can't i find a boyfriend?
    >I'm desperate

    >No I wont date any of you
    >No I wont use a dating app

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Why would I date someone I've met on LULZ, i have nothing against the site it's just a majority of people living abroad or in the States.or a dating app? If a guy's using a dating app he's probably just looking for a hookup i'D know because out of desperation I used some once

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        We use dating apps because it's the only way to meet people anymore. I am in engineering school, I have a full-time job, I don't have any time to go out. Dating apps are terrible but it's the only option I have. I did meet a decent girl on match.com and we've been dating for a few months. But I don't think it's going to last. It's already falling apart. I have no choice but to go back to the dating apps and tolerate all the soul-crushing despair that they cause me.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I'm sorry. Love is Pretty dead , everyone is too young and dumb and think they don't need it but when they start growing older and familiar faces start dying they'll realize how integral it is but it'll be late by then.

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    From what you said i assume your personality is lacking and uninteresting. That "off-putting" thing might just be people being bored of having to carry conversations and things be one sided.Despite what incel here might say,in the real world personality is most important
    t. had the same issue before realizing

    so my advice is you should work on yourself first (through platonic relationships would help) before moving forward

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah That's exactly what I was worried about. I'm afraid my mental decline has made me extremely boring.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        NTA, but find a hobby and deep dive into it and become interesting. You'll attract attention from like minded people.

        A hobby that improves skills like gardening or scale modelling, not video games.

  10. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You don't talk to people, you don't meet people.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Where I'm from it is common for a guy to approach a girl when he is interested in her, even prior to not knowing her, most guys I've approached myself, often nerdy kind of guys
      Honestly atp i think it'd be easier to lobotmize myself.
      This week I'm planning on taking a really powerful and poisonous psychedelic in order to achieve that. I don't want to be a person anymore so I have a very short time window

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Also they've often rejected me btw. Heart_crack.gif

  11. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If you want, we can talk more.

    Sognara#2195

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Okay. As long as you're not a femboy/crossdress I'll add you.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        it's a trap anon, you're dealing with an autistic neet. at least have some self respect, shit, even tinder is better than adding /adv/ retards on discord

  12. 2 weeks ago
    A girl that will break the rules

    I've been rated a 7/10 but that usually means you're either a 5 or a 4 but that should be good enough.
    You have glaringly obvious mental problems if they're tanking your score over 2 points.
    You need to go out to malls and social events and avenues. Be visible and dress nicely.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      NTA, but find a hobby and deep dive into it and become interesting. You'll attract attention from like minded people.

      A hobby that improves skills like gardening or scale modelling, not video games.

      I do go to malls and out more. I wear nice clothing and shower everyday. I try to appear as happy as I can always. I wear a moderate amount of make up, not too much not too little. Actually fuck it here's a pic of me.

      • 2 weeks ago
        A girl that will break the rules

        You look like you jumped out of a tim burton movie. Do you also dress goth?
        You'd get a flock of men at a rock/metal concert.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I do dress gothy sometimes not all out though. Goth scene helped me get in touch with my feminine side. Will always be thankful for that

          • 2 weeks ago
            A girl that will break the rules

            That's good, find the alt bars with bands playing in your area. Maybe even Fetish clubs too. But go with friends so you know you'll be safe.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >I do go to malls and out more. I wear nice clothing and shower everyday. I try to appear as happy as I can always. I wear a moderate amount of make up, not too much not too little. Actually fuck it here's a pic of me.
        Red flags the picture

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          How it a red flag?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You literally look crazy and you are completely oblivious to it. Do you have autism?

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Maybe?

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I go to the Mall cuz I like playing DDR

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You look pretty good, I'm sure plenyt of men would want to date you. You really just need to have a way to meet them.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Wtf, you're not ugly in the slightest. In fact, grooming yourself, good hygiene, and exercise will make you high value as a partner (that goes for anyone).

          Honestly, OP, maybe it's how you talk, or express yourself. It doesn't mean you're unlikable, or annoying, but maybe you don't know how to socialize. Even if you're weird, everyone is to an extent. In fact, some guys, me included love weirdo women.

          Go out, and practice talking to people, pay attention to what you're doing, and what they are, but most importantly, stay relaxed, and have fun.

          It's always the darkest before the light, OP. I have felt similarly to how you are. You probably are being too hard on yourself. Good luck.

          No she doesn't look good. The drug addict goth chick isn't a look men are drawn to since they found out that most of these chicks are mentally unstable BPD bitches who kill you in your sleep. Which she probably is

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Wtf, you're not ugly in the slightest. In fact, grooming yourself, good hygiene, and exercise will make you high value as a partner (that goes for anyone).

        Honestly, OP, maybe it's how you talk, or express yourself. It doesn't mean you're unlikable, or annoying, but maybe you don't know how to socialize. Even if you're weird, everyone is to an extent. In fact, some guys, me included love weirdo women.

        Go out, and practice talking to people, pay attention to what you're doing, and what they are, but most importantly, stay relaxed, and have fun.

        It's always the darkest before the light, OP. I have felt similarly to how you are. You probably are being too hard on yourself. Good luck.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Thank you for the genuine advice.
          I do my best to engage everyone in conversation, my weakest points are comforting people and expressing sympathy. Also my sense of humour is problematic and I'm kind of out of touch with my generation since I don't enjoy using tiktok or engaging in my country's pop culture

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I have always thought that goth chick are hot, I just have no idea how to ask them out. I am just a typical bro looking guy and have always figured that goth girls would blow me off because I am not dark or brooding or artistic...
        I need a goth gf who wants to ride on the back of my bike.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          [...]
          No she doesn't look good. The drug addict goth chick isn't a look men are drawn to since they found out that most of these chicks are mentally unstable BPD bitches who kill you in your sleep. Which she probably is

          That's so not true. Anytime a guy talks to me I always give them a chance. Always , don't give a shit if you're into dark shit or sappy, even if they say a joke at my expense I laugh along to not make it awkward for him. I want to love and care for someone, I've been learning how to cook because in case I find a boyfriend I want to cook something different everyday for him. I want to do typical lovey dovey movie romance shit. I respect everyone's boundaries and I try my best to engage everyone in their hobbies and most importantly never let my depression show through. I make sure of that. I'm not bpd mentally ill, I'm just depressed because I'm lonely and probably autistic.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Damn, wish I knew years ago that goth girls were like that. Oh well, another mistake in my long book of fuck ups.
            Hope you find someone who loves you OP, and good job working on it. I am probably too old but maybe I will find someone in the nick of time too. Only time will tell...
            I genuinely wish you the best of luck and hope you find the love you are looking for.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Well anon you probably dodged a bullet. Everyone's different, just because some chicks dress gothy doesn't mean they'll all be like me. I like dressing like an emo Victorian because I suffer from insomnia and getting all ready like that kills time and I listen to edgy music while doing so. It isn't exactly indicative of the kind of person that I am.
              Bitches who dress the same way may actually be crazy though. You'll know when you love someone, you'll just feel it. You'll think to yourself something along the lines of "holy shit I just want to listen to you talk for hours and be around you all the time and make you happy for no reason at all". Its just so pure.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Why can't I find a woman like this.
            I'm the same as you OP, normie women literally throw themselves at me, but I turn them down because I don't like them. I just want someone who understands me, so I can form an actual emotional connection. I just feel so alienated and disconnected from everyone around me. I wouldn't mind just making a friend so I have someone to talk to once in a while.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              I'm okay with being friends anon.
              Just don't want to date anyone outside of my country I'm looking for love not a green card lmao

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                I'm not looking to edate or anything, doubly so if you're outside the us. You seem interesting. If you'd like to chat every now and then that would be alright with me. It's up to you.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Yeah I'm ok with that. Drop ur disc or insta ot wtv

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I'm a man and I can say that you look pretty cute, you do have to remember that a lot of people can be intimidated by women. Also go out and meet new people

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah yeah don't listen to the simps here they never leave their rooms anyway so they're not representative of the guys you meet irl

          [...]
          That's so not true. Anytime a guy talks to me I always give them a chance. Always , don't give a shit if you're into dark shit or sappy, even if they say a joke at my expense I laugh along to not make it awkward for him. I want to love and care for someone, I've been learning how to cook because in case I find a boyfriend I want to cook something different everyday for him. I want to do typical lovey dovey movie romance shit. I respect everyone's boundaries and I try my best to engage everyone in their hobbies and most importantly never let my depression show through. I make sure of that. I'm not bpd mentally ill, I'm just depressed because I'm lonely and probably autistic.

          Start by not dressing and grooming like a crazy witch (or start hanging out in circles that dig that shit)

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        your face is below average , you look like a tranny. that’s why. straighten your hair at least

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          My hair is curly/wavy. Straightening it looks weird. I'm waiting for it to grow to my ass so when I straighten it, it looks kinda more natural.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Holy shit its Marilyn Manson

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Get on dating apps and meet someone there. I realize that women have this notion that it's desperate/pathetic/slutty for them to be on dating apps because that would mean they admit they want a man, but you must realize that there is nothing wrong with wanting a man. I mean, you basically admit to it in OP.
        >I want it to be natural
        what does it even mean? Natural romance where you drop you textbooks and a handsome guy picks them up for you and you lock eyes and fall in love is literally a hollywood meme. How many of your female friends met their bf/husbands in "natural" ways?

  13. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Have you ever had sex?

  14. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Be honest, what are you after? You want to have sex? A boyfriend? A husband? What type of man are you after? Frankly, you’re just a child (and you dress and talk like one too). More importantly than even the question you asked, what are your short term goals in life? Do you want to go to university, work at a strip club, be a stay at home mom? You’re young and the world is your oyster, set some goals and men will come.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm looking for love. I'll let my boyfriend decide wether he wants to marry or if he wants us to drop off the face of the earth and live on a boat or something. I just want love pure love, affectionate touches and kisses. I want us to suffer together and be happy together. I don't care about Sex , sex is important sure it's soul bonding but if the guy I love is against it I'm fine with that.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Ok you’re looking for love, but you don’t really know what that means and it is an empty statement. The vast majority of human beings in the world want what you described. I know you’re young, but do you have any goals in life other than wanting love? If you say no, that’s your problem. You’re young and I know it’s hard to set goals in life, but without them, you’ll be a headless chicken unable to find anything you desire. Also obvious disclaimer: you’re going to have to figure out how to find someone that loves you for you and not your body. 99% of guys will want to fuck you and a good chunk of them, especially at your age, will say or do anything for that.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I have a lot of hobbies computers,music, art, video editing etc etc
          I can always pick one and dedicate my life to it, goals are temporary, I don't like setting small goals that I can achieve quickly. I want to find one goal so high and ridiculous almost impossible to achieve so I have something to chase constantly. But the thing that I know will bring me happiness is generic puppy love.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >I can always pick one and dedicate my life to it, goals are temporary, I don't like setting small goals that I can achieve quickly. I want to find one goal so high and ridiculous almost impossible to achieve so I have something to chase constantly.
            You have no goals and lo and behold, you are depressed complaining you have no bf.

            Here I’ll give you a basic bitch goal: I want to be healthier than I am now. Go find some activity where you can exercise (gym, sports, dance). Go fucking outside and get some vitamin d. Maybe read a book at the beach every weekend? I guarantee you that you’ll feel better and some guys will approach you. Maybe they’re not the guy for you (for whatever reason), but at least you’ll have some direction in life.

            I know I might be coming off as harsh, but you’re basically saying over and over that “I’m a boring person that doesn’t go out, doesn’t have any aspirations in life, dont care for personal health, don’t care about dressing and appearing presentable…why can’t I find someone that loves me”? Trust me, you’re not unloveable by a long shot, you just need some growing up and you’ll have that unconditional love you’re looking for, I promise. The hardest step to take is the first, just try.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Don't worry about being harsh.
              I can assure you I do go outside as I've stated multiple times, and I do take care of myself, I shower daily and eat healthy. I read books and I take walks in the woods very often, parks , mountains you name it. I try to socialize anytime the opportunity arises. I've talked to guys, they seem interested at first they try to engage something but then they just give up and that's where I'm confused. Guys don't often approach me it's me that approaches them most the time. I know my life is aimless right now, I'm aimlessly reading books, walking around and making art projects, I still haven't cemented my goal. But I'm fine with that because ultimately I am looking for love. My end goal would be to find a permanent partner , we can decide the end goal together.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Jfc you’re such a child. Have you tried joining a hiking group since you enjoy hiking? A book club since you enjoy reading? You seem to like being on your feet, why not try a 5k run, and join a running group? You don’t go outside as much as you claim because you’re as pale as a shut in. Guys don’t often approach you because you aren’t doing shit with your life. What kind of guy would be attracted to a NEET other than a NEET? Here I’ll dumb it down for you: find an activity that men like to do and you would be open to doing, then do it. Example: rock climbing. Does rock climbing sound fun to you? Do it for three months and there’s 0% chance you’ll not be approached by a guy each day you’re there.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                I live in a small city in a really urban country. Shit doesn't really happen here and when I look for events there's almost always nothing going on. I do actively seek marathons, festivals, whatever but there's genuinely nothing or I've missed it. The problem isn't that there isn't men around me, the problem is that guys actively avoid me.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                I can see why guys stop talking to you, you actively lie. Everyone does nothing all day in your city and you’re the poor lonely soul in your area looking to be active. I guarantee there are hiking groups, running groups, book clubs, random groups doing random things that are filled with single people open for a relationship. Join a fucking MMA gym and watch how many men chase after you. Anyways, it seems like you refuse to help yourself and love to lie, so enjoy the life you earn.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                I'm not lying lmao Why do you think I'm desperately going everywhere online asking for advice? It seems like I'm doing everything I can and getting nothing so the fault is in me rather than the environment I'm in.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >the fault is in me rather than the environment I'm in
                You hit the nail on the head, good job. Not once in this thread have you shown an initiative in terms of changing your life. Just whining. Don't worry, life goes on.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                How can I change my life? I read, I have hobbies I eat healthy I keep a good hygiene and routine.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Then hit up a few friends and go to a bar today. No friends? Go alone. see what happens

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Post another pic with timestamp (maybe one that doesn't look like it's taken in the darkest corner of a smoky club)

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Bruh she is not lying at all, have you been to America?
                These questions are asked on here 100 times a day 24/7/365 because there aren't infinite places to meet young single people your age. If there were, this wouldn't be a problem.
                There's a reason so many people resort to apps.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >Bruh she is not lying at all, have you been to America? These questions are asked on here 100 times a day 24/7/365 because there aren't infinite places to meet young single people your age. If there were, this wouldn't be a problem.
                Lmao I live in the US in snoozy suburbia and everything I listed are things I’ve done or do. I’ve lived in small town sub 3k population and there were still groups with things to do. I’m talking about groups filled with single people 18-35. It takes initiative, which the lot of you internet shut ins don’t have. Nothing good in life comes easy…

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              and you fucking dipshits will still argue that women aren't autistic and they exist anywhere outside of schools/their own social circle
              no they don't, if you're in school just talk to a girl there and ask her out or die in solitary

              OP doesn't need any advice, you can just sit on your ass your whole life and someone will fall in love with you eventually, for women it's just a matter of time
              sit or stand next to someone and it will happen in a week or less

              >You have no goals
              I have bad fucking news to you about nearly every human being with a partner - 99% of people don't have any goals beyond living to the next paycheck. Even your own goals are so basic that most people wouldn't call them goals. It's akin to calling taking a shit a goal. It's basic functioning.

              what fucking beach?
              1) it's november, its cold as SHIT
              2) you dont even know is she lives anywhere near a sea/ocean

              and no guys will approach her because its social faux pas to do so these days

              She's already perfectly lovable, her problem is guys around her aren't doing their part and asking her out. Guys these days are bombarded with propaganda about how they must become perfect providers with bodies of greek statues and knowledge of all there is and they aren't allowed to speak to girls until they are these ideal beings. We need to do more to fight back against such thinking to get guys who have opportunity to ask girls out (are in school) to take that opportunity, see that it's there and they don't need to wait into their 30s when their careers start picking up to be allowed contact with women. This problem is entirely caused by this career obsessed society.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                The simp level is over 9000

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                OP you sound pretty normal and look good.
                I don't think there's anything wrong with you, you just need to go meet some men.

                If you don't meet enough in real life, then bite the bullet and use the apps.
                Like this anon is trying to say , guys are less and less forward with strangers in real life because they don't get good results with that, and they don't want to make women uncomfortable. An app, a party, a speed dating event, etc, those are safe environments where they know you're ok with being approached and talked to. Try to be in more of those environments, either online or IRL.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                The thing is that on apps she will never let a non-supermodel guy speak to her.
                Speed dating events are just for old single parents these days.

                The thing is that school is the safe environment to approach girls and it does offer good results, women are comfortable there. Problem is that guys don't see it as an option due to the propaganda that teaches them they must become idealized provider to be allowed contact with women from very young age. So all these normal guys that could date in school end up being locked away in solitary confinements since they will have no option to speak to anyone anywhere anymore.
                The sad part of this whole story is guys who are blowing their only chance at relationship due to falling for this propaganda, and by the time they wake up from it, it will be too late and they get locked away until they get to go to schools second time around, that is if they even realize school was what they needed and not some bullshit red/blue/blackpill that will keep them in solitary even longer.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Completely bogus.
                I have like 40 followers on Instagram the men that I follow have at least 100 more. I talk to everyone, a fat guy with an unkempt beard messages me? I'll reply. Some scrawny dude with shitty stick and pokes I'll reply. Hell I've even offered to talk to some of the people in this thread as well without even knowing what they're like or what they look like. I talk to guys. I approach them myself sometimes. They are just uninterested and never give me a chance or the benefit of the doubt.

  15. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I'm currently suicidal and self-destructive
    This probably chases guys away, I have been told it is unattractive to women too.
    Hope we can both find someone. If I don't in the next two or three years I plan to self-delete. I won't die alone.

  16. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i can be your boyfriend uwu

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >uwu
      no thank you.

  17. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Stfu u larping autistic homosexual

  18. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i mean you just sound like me when i was 17 and an incel and i would make posts like these explaining that i'm not ugly or fat and that i wanted love and bla bla bla and all the women in the thread would just say fuck off creep, you're not entitled to a woman. so i'll just say the same thing to you - you're not entitled to a man. go on, tell me how that feels.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I do actually know what you're talking about. Not too long ago out of sheer curiosity I'd vent about the same exact issues I'm having right now but change the gender roles. I got a shit ton of replies calling me toxic a creep abusive and pathetic. I also look like a boy and sound like a little boy, if I don't dress in girl clothes people can easily mistake me for one because of how androgynous I am. I've gotten the boy treatment and the girl treatment, as a boy both the girls and boys would bully me. The girls didn't like me because I was quiet and not confidently spouting dumbass nonsense and cracking golden jokes like the other guys . The boys would push me around because I was skinny and short. It sucked. As a girl people just kind of leave you alone and let you be a moppy little bitch without judgement. I feel bad for you. I feel bad for guys in general. That's why I always make it my top priority to be extra nice and patient and give every guy a chance because I quite literally know what it's like, not to the same extent as a real boy would but I've gotten the treatment. I'm sorry anon.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        OK this was sweet and thoughtful and I will stop being mean

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Being mean is okay.
          If you want to bitch to someone like a girl I'm always online if u want like a discord or something. I will listen to u . We're basically the same but opposite gender lol . Brb my hamster just woke up and he's hungry

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Thanks for the offer but I'm too old for this not being creepy I think lol

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Post picture of hamster (I mean the real one not the one between your legs)

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              My vagina is clean shaven.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Aww that's cute. The hamster isn't Bad either lol

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Do you have more pets?

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Nope just the hamster.

  19. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Idk OP maybe get rid of the edginess a bit that might be off putting to some.
    And you might have autism so if you don't want to go to therapy maybe do a test for that online

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      What makes you think I'm autistic?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Idk you sound off and not really self aware. And I mean you mentioned it yourself lol

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I'll take an online test and update u on it in 30 mins

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Alrighty

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              You can’t find a bf because you don’t go out, and look unapproachable. You need to create opportunities for people to meet you. A boyfriend is not going to magically appear before you! Do the work.

              The test also thinks it's a 50/50.
              I've mentioned multiple times in the thread that I do in fact go outside often but men seem completely uninterested in me.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                You just need to look hot and I promise men will approach you, maybe work on that first

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Well based on the pic it's kinda hard since I look androgynous. What make up style/clothing style do men find approachable?

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Well small tits are fine
                Well try the natural look, not dyeing your hair,.minimal makeup, girly clothes... I know you might look like basic but that's actually quite special between all the bimbos and edgy ppl nowadays

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                My clothes aren't anything crazy.
                I wear black mini skirts and stockings

                My shirts range from crop tops i got at H&M or whatever I can find at thrift shops. The only abnormal thing I occasionally wear are my leg warmers and my necklaces. My make up consists of dark red lipstick, mascara/sometimes eyeliner under the edges of my eyeball, and powder. Nothing insane. Dunno what basic rlly means in this context.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                If you can pull off this look you'll be fine

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                I'm doomed

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Ah you can do it I believe in you

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >just magically transform into an instagram model and you'll be fine
                Good advice

  20. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You can’t find a bf because you don’t go out, and look unapproachable. You need to create opportunities for people to meet you. A boyfriend is not going to magically appear before you! Do the work.

  21. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Stay single and do not bother dating men, focus on making money, and enjoying your hobbies

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Why not both simultaneously?

  22. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    my reply is unrelated but where can I find women like how you describe yourself op, best of luck in your pursuit

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I am not sure. I feel very disconnected from my female peers and male peers.
      I often hang out around the record shop checking out vinyls or at the arcade playing DDR or guitar hero. When I'm not doing that I'm either strolling in the mountain or taking a walk at the park. I don't meet people there but when you find love you'll know because you'll feel it. As I described earlier.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        would you feel bothered if someone came up to talk to you while you were in a record shop or doing another activity? thanks for your time

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Me personally, no not at all. Other girls often don't share the sentiment. I don't understand girls I'm sorry my female input is lacking, girls confuse me more than they confuse you honestly. I'm not sure how you could smoothly approach someone in a record shop but if you manage to and you notice that her answers are short ended, she's avoiding eye contact or very jumpy. I would just end the conversation and apologize, those are often tell tell signs of being uncomfortable. This is like the blind aiding the blind though. On your part not to scare someone I noticed being very excited or loud often makes initiating conversations uncomfortable. Because the person doesn't have time to process the situation. If she engages you , engage back and then say something corny like "can i get your instagram if you have one"(she probably does have an instagram anf if she says no thats a tell sign she's disinterested)

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            If you approached me. I wouldn't be bothered and I'd be very very excited if you asked me what vinyl I was looking for and if you tried helping me find it. I'd be very happy. I'd also be happy if you asked me about the vinyl itself or the CD or wtv section I'm at could be the books section something.

            thank you very much for your input and I wish you find love in your life sooner than ever, as for your post I don't think that your looks are a problem as you're probably good looking, the issue is maybe from my perspective is that you emit an aura that gives the "fuck off energy" as in as a guy I would be intimidated from talking to you or assume you're not interested from the get go, because many people I got to meet gave me this impression yet after I got to know them they were very nice people, that"s just my two cents, godspeed !

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          If you approached me. I wouldn't be bothered and I'd be very very excited if you asked me what vinyl I was looking for and if you tried helping me find it. I'd be very happy. I'd also be happy if you asked me about the vinyl itself or the CD or wtv section I'm at could be the books section something.

  23. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Hey, I understand where you are coming from. I'm in college atm and find that my friends help with the loneliness. Idk I just don't know how to not freak out and run away when guys flirt with me.

  24. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You remind me of a girl I used to date. She looked good (even great in her better days), had a very personal sense of fashion and a creative disposition. She liked writing, drawing, dancing, going for long walks and reading. But years of failed connections, bulling and her own personal issues had left her with very bad socializing skills, so she didn’t really know how to present herself to other people. And because of her inability to keep a proper social circle she was not fully aware of her own awkwardness. She only knew that, at some point, people just ghosted her. No matter what, people ghosted her. And that reinforced the self-fulfilling nature of her social interactions, because she internalized that every new person would inevitably drop her.
    It wasn’t until I got access to her writings that I realized the depth of her drive for discovering love, and how that conditioned her worldview. Everything in life was perfunctory but love, and even her creative processes were just a vehicle for the exploration of what being in love with somebody was.
    But that was the problem. She wanted so much to feel and share that pure, blissful connection that it drove people away. It wasn’t that she was openly clingy or anything like that; it was just a vibe emanating from her that people picked up. Like a primordial directive telling them to stay away. And from what you have said, I wonder if you emanate the same kind of vibe.
    Anyway, you said that you work in art projects. What kind of projects are those?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Why did you never initiate a relationship with her? The way you describe her, the careful phrasing. It sounds like you truly saw her, almost enthralled with her. Did despite seeing and understanding that about her, also drove you away?
      Also, I make aggressive grindcore where I write nonsense over the top violent lyrics, scream them and then play the guitar very violently until my fingers cut and then sample drums digitally. Other times I make psychedelic videos with songs that I like edited and changed to fit the video, sometimes the video consists of footage I found on the internet other times I film it myself. I take pictures of things I find fascinating, beautiful or morbid and include them in those videos . Other times I paint or recreate album covers with plank wood, oil paints, bandages and the rest, my drawings fall under all mediums, I pain, I sketch, often I doodle bugs or spirals, things that include the Fibonacci sequence because I'm autistically obsessed with it right now. Other times I draw/paint original ideas. Sometimes I write stories or ideas for ridiculous game shows. It's kind of all over the place, I like dipping my fingers into everything. Currently I'm trying to get a good computer so I learn python and can Use blender to make models. I want to code a 90s style polygon fps like cruelty squad or something like Doom/Quake. Haven't decided on the style yet. But yeah those are my art projects

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Oh, but we went into a relationship. We went into it and out of it and back into it. We continued breaking and rebuilding, stocking the emotional pyre and burning ourselves in it until there was nothing left but ashes. You are right in saying that I was enthralled, and I felt very fortunate for sharing those moments of sweet, tender madness, but I also have my own issues (depressive behaviors come in many flavors) and I guess that’s what relations are like. Sometimes they work, and sometimes they don’t. And this did not. The fireworks were great, tho.
        What you do sounds pretty interesting, I wonder how people react when you expose them to the senseless, damaged nature of your creations. The process sounds very intense too, how do you feel after a recording session? Not gonna lie, I’m curious now about those videos. I love diving into youtube to find videos with low views depicting random events, videos devoid of any meaning other than just existing. That inspires a lot of my photography, exploring the lack of meaning in human spaces. So, I wonder what a person with your sensibilities/obsessions finds interesting to film and photograph. Also, can’t help but imagine now a low poly game show in a random north korean town lol

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Oh, but we went into a relationship. We went into it and out of it and back into it. We continued breaking and rebuilding, stocking the emotional pyre and burning ourselves in it until there was nothing left but ashes. You are right in saying that I was enthralled, and I felt very fortunate for sharing those moments of sweet, tender madness, but I also have my own issues (depressive behaviors come in many flavors) and I guess that’s what relations are like. Sometimes they work, and sometimes they don’t. And this did not. The fireworks were great, tho.
      What you do sounds pretty interesting, I wonder how people react when you expose them to the senseless, damaged nature of your creations. The process sounds very intense too, how do you feel after a recording session? Not gonna lie, I’m curious now about those videos. I love diving into youtube to find videos with low views depicting random events, videos devoid of any meaning other than just existing. That inspires a lot of my photography, exploring the lack of meaning in human spaces. So, I wonder what a person with your sensibilities/obsessions finds interesting to film and photograph. Also, can’t help but imagine now a low poly game show in a random north korean town lol

      Yeah I'm ok with that. Drop ur disc or insta ot wtv

      Writing that yesterday did good, so dropping mine if you want to continue talking or share some of your work Kojo#8869

  25. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >thoroughly research everything you like so we can talk about it more

    yeash

    do us a favor and don't

    you wont be capable of an actual intelligent discussion about it because you wont actually be interested and at best you're going to come off as pandering, at worst predatory, because you wont be able to fake liking someone's interests for that long

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      It's not fake liking if I'm genuinely interested. Why would I talk to people let alone date someone I didn't find interesting or likeable?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        idk i'm kind of sick of that shit, seems like women have really glommed onto the idea of chameleoning to their partner's tastes as some kind of an attempt at a mate retention mechanism because you don't know how to be actual women anymore, playing video games w them, hunting and fishing w them, riding motorcycles with them, fuck that shit, stay in your lane, have your own interests, and be prepared to be a homemaker and a mother if you're the least bit interested in me

  26. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Grow out your hair. Learn good "natural" style makeup. Dress well. Go to places where men you would like hang out. Talk to people. Escalate your signaling around men that interest you.
    You are honestly kinda fucked on the normie route if you are posting here. You would be happier with someone you actually mesh with. As a compromise, you could try going to local cons and find a guy there who is physically attractive enough for you but too autistic for other women.

  27. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You sound crazy, probably crazy enough to run off men when they approach you.

  28. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Also no this is an inquiry, I won't date anyone from here I just need pointers
    Beggars can't be choosers

  29. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It doesn't seem like you put any effort into finding a relationship. For attractive women it's easy, they just have to exist and be seen. For unattractive women you have to put more effort.

    You said you don't want to use dating apps. Then your options are striking conversations irl with people from college/work/bars or meeting them through friends. The other option is to wait for men to hit on you. This is unlikely since you said you were unattractive, but it could happen.

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