Growing up as an ugly, ogre like guy made me realise how superficial beauty is and to appreciate people's personality over their appearance (100% unironic). My high school crush was obese and had pretty bad acne, but in my head she was the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen because we clicked so well.
Nevertheless, I'm putting in a lot of work my appearance to deal with my insecurities, and in a couple months I will probably be a conventionally attractive gymbro. At the end of the day though, I really just want to date a girl that's equally obsessive and nerdy as I am. The type of girl that reads shipping fanfiction and makes 'cringey' fanart, spends most of her time interacting with media and has at least considered cosplaying.
So, how would I actually make friends with one? I have always been bad at meeting new people and since I'm not in high school anymore it's not like there's an easy way for me to meet girls.
It’s very difficult, because (unironically) they rarely go outside. Not impossible though, rest assured. Tabletop and board game clubs/stores can be a good starting point. Anime conventions (or clubs) are another big one.
No OP but what I’m reading is I need to go to them. Should I just enter random homes or is there any statistical ways to predict where the aspie gfs are?
They can be found just about anywhere given you don't live in some small farm town. Every city has its own conventionally "nerd" scenes like game stores like the other anon was saying sometimes cosplay stores that's all about renaissance faire type stuff, anime merch stores.
Then there's the more intellectual type nerds like the movie nerds music nerds book nerds even museum & history nerds.
Also the cooler subcultures that still overlap into being nerds like metal goth etc.
You can also easily find some SJW girl if you're into that.
spoiler: nerd girls tend to be very sexual and often have cool scars. Some dudes might cringe at that but I love it.
Nerdy girls have scars? How come? I never heard of this. And I sometimes hear that "nerdy girls are sexual". I don't get it. Why specifically nerds?
You might have some hot normie chicks w scars but it's way more usually nerdy and alt types, just the girl way of dealing with whatever trauma of whatever cool stuff happened in their past, or maybe nothing specific happened it was just their way of externalizing their frustration of being a weird outcast and getting bullied etc.
and the same with being either asexual or way sexual, flip a coin i guess. Some nerds use their sexuality to find their self esteem or even sense of popularity. Again the same could be said of hot normie chicks, but moreso nerd girls.
Oh I get it! I don't have "scars" so I had to ask lol.
Nerds often have autism and autistic women tend to either love sex or be nearly asexual which also crosses over to nerd girls
So yeah you'll meet a little bit of both. My most satisfying sexual relationship ever was with a girl with aspergers who would play mtg and spend tons of time reading and I think all that erotic literature gave her some crazy kinks. She would cum like once every 5 minutes during sex so I'd usually get her to cum like 3-5 times it was awesome and she'd be gripping onto me like a vice. Her ass was huge too.
God I wish I didn't fumble that.
Hottest shit she did
>grabbed my neck and pulled me down and growled "you're like a fucking animal" in my ear
>told her to call me "sir" during doggy and she just says "fuck you!" and goads me on to spank her and make her say it
>swallowed my nut every time
Shit was cash.
Damn bro thanks for the post and sorry to hear you fumbled that. That shit sounds like pearly gates
Yeah man I wish I met her later in life. Had I had my own place and been more socially adjusted instead of living in my parents basement at the time I think I could've wifed her. Fucked it up bad.
We never had sex without a condom but the one time I tried I put it in and felt like I couldve cum in 10 seconds so I decided it wasnt worth the risk since she didnt use birth control, normally without a condom it takes me like 15 minutes so it goes to show how sexually A1 she was.
Do you still talk to her sometimes or not at all? What happened for you two to break up?
This stuffs hard, people dont just hang around in spaces alone anymore. People rarely even go out. I'm in a big city with a lot of young people, you'd think I wouldn't have a problem. But all the places I've been are cleared out. The few people I see are on dates or in a larger friend group. And its usually just older people I see out. I dont get how people meet others at all. I tried discord but it doesn't really work for that. and dating apps seem to just be fuck apps from what i hear for an entirely different crowd of people than 'my' crowd
Right! I was seriously considering going to college just to meet new ppl cuz I don't know where to go. lol
don't do it, you'll get the same treatment just as anywhere else
OP here. I of course considered meeting them online, that's what how the aspie girls in my life got into relationships, but I feel like there are way too many downsides to make up for the upsides, but pease do tell me if anyone has a golden tip for meeting them online and turning it into something real.I'd prefer to try real.
Ignore that last part, that was from an earlier draft of that post. I don't necessarily prefer irl I just prefer what works.
Hi op! I'm not a aspie but I am nerdy and hardly go outside. I actually have a hard time finding people irl who have the same interests as me. Besides anime conventions, ur best bet is just anywhere really. Like the library, grocery store, gym, etc. If I see a guy with a anime keychain or any sign they have the same interests as me, i would try to talk to them! ( if I had the guts ) maybe u should too!
i mean, how often am i expected to go to the grocery store library or gym? i dont really fit in at anime conventions.
>anime keychain or any sign
so merch was the secret all along? i always just wear plain clothes, ive never bought anything related to my hobbies
Yup ^.^ that's why I always have a anime keychain or button on all my bags/ purses. It's a good conversation starter
darn i dont know how to do stuff like that
Like what?
sorry i meant get not do. alot of the stuff im into is old. and i dont really watch new anime at all so i feel weird at cons
Same ^^; I just keep looking until I recognize something I know. I think that goes for outside the convention too, like someone talking abt a certain anime. All I hear abt is just the same 3 mangas, but sometimes I get lucky. Like eavesdropping on a group of guys talking about steel ball run in a GameStop. God I wish I joined but I was too nervous.
I'm not sure. I had a high school crush on a chubby, nerdy guy. Only because we talked a lot abt anime lol. Too bad I was too shy to confess and now he has a gf ( his second)
Anime convention, Shrek rave. Or just talk to girls wearing keychains and stuff. I once got so stupidly happy when a guy commented on the shirt I was wearing. I'm akward as hell tho so I fail even when guys approach but I think if you can manage to chat about something long enough to trade contacts for friend chats you could get a gf that way.
Wtf is a Shrek rave
It's a rave where everyone dresses like Shrek characters and dances to all star
>tfw too normal for weirdos and too weird for norms
>totally out of touch with all pop culture even stuff for my own generation
I’m the president of a brand new student organization at my university (and imo the second best, first is marching band which I’m also in), the Neurodiversity Alliance. We had a fun kick off event this evening. At least 35 students, including me our 2 other current officers, have joined the club on the uni’s club portal.
OP here. So to summarise, I should wear merch and just start talking to people that also wear merch? And also go to scenes where nerdy girls might show up, like conventions.
I'm really bad at going up to people and talking to them, my whole life people have been vaguely scared of me because of my appearance so they never responded well, but I guess I should really just go for it.
Autistic girls don't date autistic guys. They want someone they can count on for public interactions with spurging out.
Give up.
I'm only moderately autistic, I'm mostly just obsessive and can hold my own pretty well in social situations.
Online feels kind of tricky to get right, since every online space is dominated by guys and it's the only context where being 6 foot and buff isn't gonna help you. I'll still try it out though.
Even within this worldview that wouldn't necessarily work would it. Like, nerdy girls generally grew up using media as an escapism from a life where they're not popular, and a girl that has never had that experience could never really have that same personality even if you were to groom her. The other way around, a nerdy aspie into a party girl is probably possible though, if we're assuming that "moulding girls" is something that consistently works.
I'm not really autistic at all myself, at least not in the way that makes me unaware of people or too anxious to speak
Wondering if loitering around a college is the only option at this point
Autism is a spectrum, and a lot of autistic girls are happy to sperg out in a group of spergs.
OP here. I'm sorry I made this thread. I wank myself to sleep every night and just needed to share my fantasies.
go to conventions
wear anime keychains on your backpack or anime stickers on laptop/phone
and join online communities related to the subjects, the type of girls you want are terminally online so it should be pretty easy
what online community?
look for instagram profiles with low follower and following count (<50)
As someone not too big on social media do you just message them and start a conversation based on one of their posts? Do you just stumble onto these types of profiles?
You don’t meet nerdy autistic girls you find one and mould her into one
How the fuck do you guys still not understand women do not have actual personalities?
I think a lot of those girls can probably be found on dating websites.
Kudos to you it sounds like you are working on yourself, which I promise will lead to a partner and a happier life. Keep doing on that.
For your profile post pictures of yourself doing nerd shit, dressed decently. DO NOT have a picture of yourself shirtless this is not the demographic for that. Let your physique speak for itself if and when you finally meet in person. When you send messages throw in a reference for whatever nerdism they show, and ASK A QUESTION (favorite season, faction whatever). Maybe throw in a friendly compliment but keep it short.
None of those girls are on dating websites
the same as all other girls
they only spend time with their social circles or in schools, these are only ways to get to ever speak to them, just like all other girls there's no way to speak to them when they're in commute or locked in their homes so there's no way to get to speak to get to know each other
there's no difference between nerd girls and other girls, it's all the same
quit your job, go to uni again and start talking to girls there, some of them will be nerdy
there are no girls on dating sites in general, it's just dudes and bots
Honestly any dating app or website that requires photos isn’t gonna be where you find the nerdy weird aspie girls. For me that sorta thing scared the shit out of me and I didn’t want photos of me just floating around on peoples phones and just having randos know what I look like with some random info about me. That’s why soc was such a help for me cause there was no pics required and you relied on peoples words and descriptions about themselves rather than judging a book by its cover
i dont want to use apps for the same reason.
but /soc/ is just filled with people who want sex and hookups, it doesnt even feel like LULZ. ive been to my region's dedicated thread and its mostly gay men to be honest and anyone who calls themselves a woman there is immediately posting naked pictures anyway
Unfortunately a lot of the girls have given up posting themselves. I would just give some of the ideal partner and other not as sex oriented threads a try and see if you can reel anything in. For reference it took me a bit over 2 years of on and off posting and adding hundreds of guys to find my now bfs post and he had only been posting for a few months before I added him. It’s not hurting anyone if ya just post you bit in the threads when you see em, what’s the worst that can happen?
Check the Slowly app, found one (possibly) autistic girl there. Extremely sweet, kind, and not fatherless, though her bio seemed a bit normie, she's quite a nerd.
Bros, is it worth attempting to date at this point in my life? I'm about to turn 24 next week and I've never been in a committed relationship. The problem is I travel almost all year so any relationship would be long distance most of the time and I don't want a hoe that's gonna cheat on me.
>I'm about to turn 24 next week and I've never been in a committed relationship.
have you ever been on a date then you epic 23 year old boomer who's too old to date
I've been on a few dates and always been friendzoned.
Turning 23 in a month. Never dated. Never tried. The market right now seems unappealing. Fairly sure its not sour grapes. Why bother honestly?
>Market seems unappealing
Kinda agree and why I've never tried.
I'm in the exact position. In highschool I didn't really want to get with the girls and was happy to do my own thing. In college it was the same, I went to a small college so its not as outrageous a claim as it may seem. I dunno man. And I'm not an incel but I don't really feel motivated to go out of my way for basically the same girls I didn't have an interest in in highscool only now they've been with a bunch of other guys. I'm not super religious but I dunno.
I kinda agree. I've tried and had some pitiful semblance of success on occasion, but believe me, it's not sour grapes. The market really is that bad. It's like finding a needle in a haystack and that's before you even figure out if they're single.
feels like the girls who make themselves visible just arent my type and the girls who dont make themselves visible will just never be seen
i think america is heading to be japan tier to be honest.
feel this way as well, 29/m here. i go out dancing because i love it, and i hate drinking. every girl i've met seems like they're out just to drink, or if they're interested, they just want to hook up. not my type, and whoever my type is seems unable to be found. also, dating apps don't work anymore, they all shadowban you if you don't pay beyond the first day. i'll get 5 matches in the first day and then NOTHING afterward so it just doesn't work anymore if you don't pay out the ass
Yeah people recommend church for guys like us but I'm not really religious either and building an entire life around it isn't my thing. I'm not opposed to religion or anything though. I just kind of wish I could find another similar girl that we can just be alone in this world together with.
I've never tried dating apps, they all just seem like its for hookups.
>think america is heading to be japan tier to be honest.
More like the entire human race.
33 and by 4th grade i just couldn't see myself being in a relationship with a girl. The prophecy proved accurate.
>almost 24
Holy shit, it's so over. If you haven't been married six times and produced at least a dozen children by now then you never will.
Fugg
Why would an autist be interested in you? Have sex with neurotypicals instead.
why do people equate finding a boyfriend/girlfriend to having sex
Yeah I don't get it. Its like when people complain about being virgins and the only advice they get is "fuck a prostitute"
Like that's not really the issue here
>reads shipping fanfiction and makes 'cringey' fanart
They only exist as vtubers, time to be a paypig like me
I was able to find my bf whose equally as nerdy and weird as myself in an ideal partner thread on soc. I added him cause his hobbies and interests matched mine decently and the rest is history. I would try there if you haven’t yet
>ideal partner thread
I dont even really know, I'd probably just put something embarrassing
happy it worked out for you though
You gotta be able to talk about yourself in a way that makes someone wanna add you. I always see people beating themselves up and then wondering why no one adds em. Thanks though! Happy I found him after waiting for so long
you can check post yourself thread
You just don't
They can be just as bad as the "Pretty" girls, speaking from experience. Just because someone's not conventionally attractive doesn't make them a good person either. Most of the ones I dated were all deeply insecure and cheated with anyone who gave them attention. Just focus on improving yourself and don't jump into a relationship with the first girl to give you attention or end up in some kind of unrequited love scenario. Most girls like other girls as friends. Why don't you find an equally weird guy who enjoys all of those things?
I just wish these incel dudes would understand that getting your heart broken a ton of fucking times and getting the fuck over it is how you build confidence. If a bitch you have feelings for disrespects you, throw that fish back and put your rod back in the river.. And for the love of god don't be afraid to fuck girls you might think are ugly. Ugly girls tend to have hot friends, and if you show her a good time in the sack she WILL tell all of them about it.
this is an incel male manipulator thread
What
I like this post because it can literally mean 1 of 3 things
> someone who manipulates incel males
> incel who manipulates normal males
> incel who manipulates women (impossible)
Well it's very obviously the first one.
Maybe if we all spent less time on LULZ shitposting about israelites and trannies and more time talking to as many women as possible, we might get a gf. Nah that sounds way too fucking easy.
ok dude
My god, have some standards! It's as if you hope for a girlfriend at the price of your janny and israelites shitposting! Such blatant denial of yourself and your nature won't ever lead to a happy relationship, anon! At least learn to channel it (into shitposting about traps and political activists, for example).
I am one, but I don't like those traits on myself or on others.