I’m in my mid to late 20s and didn’t really start dating until now due to a variety of different mental illnesses I didn’t have sufficiently treated until recently. However, that being said, I find premarital sex extremely disgusting and want a more wholesome relationship you might see in a high school romance anime. Along with this, I don’t want women who’ve had premarital sex, let alone casual sex. Where do I find women like this around my age? If around my age isn’t practical, then where do I find younger girls who fit this type?
Central Asia and the Middle East.
Please stop posting this tired bait now.
Sage goes in ALL fields.
I’d prefer not to do an LDR
This is a bait thread I won't bump but for other anons entering the thread don't feel demoralized, it's still very possible to find even kissless handhold-less virgin girls in college, even in America. I found one.
The one angle you might not like, is that most of those girls are going to be Asian.
>more wholesome relationship you might see in a high school romance anime.
congratulations on getting treatment for your mental affliction but it seems you've not made a full recovery
I know my animes. The average girl will not want to wait 50 dates over the span of 6 months to finally maybe hold your hand in public if there's not too many people around.
I’m being a bit hyperbolic, perhaps. I’m fine with kissing and holding hands the first few dates.
Maybe church, anime is ridiculous and what you're expecting is silly. Otherwise; just be open about it with prospective partners until you find someone for whom this isn't an issue at all. Though the amusing thing is they could just lie to you about it since you would have literally no way of knowing.
Why is what I'm expecting silly? You're supposed to wait until marriage.
>You're supposed to wait until marriage.
You're also supposed to not cross the street anywhere other than a designated crossing path
one is vastly more important, however
>Late 20's
>Grab bag of mental illness
>Brain poisoned by slice of life animes
You need to become a monk. Move to a cave in the woods and contemplate your place in the universe. You are not meant to attract women. It is not your purpose.
I determine my purpose, and I've determined my purpose is to be attractive to women.
Well, I've determined my purpose is to grow a two foot cock and become the president of every country. I've got just as much of a chance as doing my thing as you have of doing yours, my autistic friend.
Idc, frankly. I'm beyond stubborn and never abandon any of my goals. If those goals are impossible, then I will pursue them unto death.
Good luck. Please remember to take your medication in between conquering mountains.
sure, nothing will stop me
>I determine my purpose, and I've determined my purpose is to be attractive to women.
more power to you, but being a virgin chaser is not attractive.
and no I'm not saying you should date sluts who fucked 100 guys, the world isn't black and white. There's girls who have been with like one or two guys, certainly not 100, is that really the end of the world? if it is then you value virginity more than you value love.
Love is accepting people's flaws.
It isn't black and white. If she was thoroughly repentant for having sex in the past, recommitted herself to waiting until marriage, etc. then I could maybe make an exception if was an otherwise exceptional girl.
>If she was thoroughly repentant for having sex in the past
yeah no that's not gonna happen, women aren't going to repent and beg for forgiveness from you for something that happened when you didn't even exist in their life.
should you ever talk to women and meet one who's perfect for you in every way minus she's had some exes, I hope you find acceptance in your heart.
i mean, if she doesn't agree that sex before marriage is wrong--or at least not ideal--then how exactly are we going to be compatible?
Don't make exceptions; all you'll ever encourage are people like the guy you're responding to. The ones who have contempt for your values. If a woman truly regretted her past, she should be the first to accept the consequences for it. Demanding forgiveness, or worse, that it not be treated as a moral issue in the first place, only proves she hasn't actually changed.
>You won’t find a pure virgin gf outside of middle school
Incel nonsense
>values commitment
>has sex without commitment
Delusional, but checks out given what you started with.
OP is already doing the right thing by waiting until marriage. He needs to look for a woman doing the same, and contrary to what homoerotic fanfiction about Chad might have told you, women to this day are more sexually conservative than men.
You troglodytes all repeat this same ridiculous accusation, but it's only because you're so far up your own asses that you literally can't comprehend alternative ways of doing things. You assume that any relationship is synonymous with sex. This is false. Waiting until marriage is *designed* to allow people to date and evaluate a potential partner without being stuck with the first person they consider. "Inexperience" has nothing to do with it, let alone deception.
Thank you, anon--where do you think I can find girls like that?
The 'easy' answer is church, but that's a mixed bag for several reasons. If you're not religious, it's horrible to fake your beliefs just to find someone, and it will likely make one or both of you miserable in the end. And it's far from a guarantee that people will take their faith seriously enough to follow its teachings.
Aside from that, the best practice is unironically to bee yourself and use waiting as a passive filter. That is, meet people (and date) organically, and if the subject comes up, be upfront and unapologetic about your values, but don't be bitter, angry, and/or alienating. This way, even if you aren't compatible with someone, you'll still have someone else who knows what you're like and what you're looking for. If you didn't burn your bridges with them, you might even meet someone who does share your values through them. The more effort you put into meeting people (not just women), the easier it becomes to search.
This is helped if you also focus on making yourself a person people look up to or want to be around. If you're fit, confident, competent, and friendly, but also happen to have this standard, you make a much better impression on others--either for the ones who do meet the standard, or for those who don't but might want to help you out.
One thing you should keep in mind, though, is that some women who might be willing to wait because of sympathy for the reasons (commitment should come before sex, only wanting to be with one person in your life, etc.) still might have the unfortunate expectation that a man's interest is shown through sexual advances--so you not trying anything has a high chance of being interpreted as disinterest. You shouldn't immediately sperg about how you're waiting until marriage and expect the same on the first date, but within a few dates at most, you should bring up the subject and reassure her that you like her while saying why you want to wait.
>One thing you should keep in mind, though, is that some women who might be willing to wait because of sympathy for the reasons (commitment should come before sex, only wanting to be with one person in your life, etc.) still might have the unfortunate expectation that a man's interest is shown through sexual advances--so you not trying anything has a high chance of being interpreted as disinterest. You shouldn't immediately sperg about how you're waiting until marriage and expect the same on the first date, but within a few dates at most, you should bring up the subject and reassure her that you like her while saying why you want to wait.
That is the unfortunate reality and it is fucked up how our culture (or women) have become warped like this. So many girls ghosted me because they expected me to be sexually aggressive from the get-go. Does not help when you look handsome and all women expect you to be a player while I am closer to an autistic monk than anything.
>If she was thoroughly repentant for having sex in the past
Finding a virgin is more likely than what you suggest. They are only as repentant as they have missed out the marriage-age window.
>being a virgin chaser is not attractive.
There is a massive difference between wanting a woman BECAUSE she's a virgin (creeps/fetishists) or only considering a woman as a partner IF she's a virgin (waiting until marriage to have sex, expecting the same of a partner). Just as there's a difference between a gold-digger who only wants a guy for his money, and a sane woman who only considers financially stable men for marriage. Standards only set the bounds for one's search; they don't define what one hopes to find within those bounds.
>the world isn't black and white. There's girls who have been with like one or two guys
The entire purpose of moral standards is their clarity. It literally is black and white. A woman who has sex outside of marriage has committed immoral acts. How many times they were committed is only a matter of degree, not substance. Yes, a serial killer is worse than a guy who "only" killed one person, but they're both murderers, and murder is the moral concern. In the same way, obviously a turboslut is worse than a woman who "only" had sex with a few men outside of marriage, but they're both promiscuous (that is, fundamentally unselective in their choice of partners: they don't see sex as exclusive to their spouse), and that's the concern in question.
That you don't think it's worth concern is exactly the issue here: you clearly hold very different values from OP, and anyone who thinks like you (say, the kind of person to have sex with "one or two" partners outside of marriage) would as well.
>Love is accepting people's flaws.
You're inverting it. If you still have affection for someone despite their flaws, it's evidence that you still love them, but love hardly obligates accepting immorality.
Without waxing too philosophical, romantic love is about lasting devotion to another--but you still have full control over whom you devote yourself to.
You won’t find a pure virgin gf outside of middle school, you missed the boat. Your goal should be finding a woman who at least values commitment and wants a real relationship. Hopefully she’ll only have had a small number of partners. idk where you find those but if you find out let me know
>I need to trick women who don't know any better into having a relationship
This is the most pathetic thing I've read on this board. Guaranteed to make a woman hate your guts once she looks back on how you've misled her into dating you.
Catholic Church or some Muslim girls who are yet to get married (they're crackpots but submissive crackpots)
I am a fairly devout Roman Catholic btw
Fly over to the balkans (balkan girls love white men)
Most girls here like myself are virgins with no experiences at all
People who are not frm around here don’t really believe me when i say i never had sex or any sexual experience even though I am pretty good looking and outgoing.
I have a couple good looking friends 18/19 who have never been with a guy
Interesting, why do you think the Balkans are different in this regard?
>Fly over to the balkans (balkan girls love white men)
>Most girls here like myself are virgins with no experiences at all
What the fuck are you talking about? Except for the white man part this is total bullshit. In the Balkans they say they are conservative but are fucking around like rabbits, especially in countries like Slovenia, Croatia and Bulgaria. You may find a virgin when the girl is not older than 14. There can be virgins in some smaller towns but it is the exception, not the rule.
What country are you from?
You say you are in your late 20s but have the mentality of a 15 year old.
Okay, so?
You need to grow up and stop it with your virginal fantasies.
>Where do I find girls with little to no sexual/romantic experience?
step 1: design a time machine
>a more wholesome relationship you might see in a high school romance anime.
sorry to break it to you but sex is always in implied those.