Where did you meet your gf?

Only IRL relationships and long-term, I mean over 6 months. No High school romances either. Ideally I want to meet a artsy girl, but I don't want generic unsustabtiated hypothetical advice about where to meet them - I want to know where and how you met your girlfriend!
I have only been on 2 dates this year and I need to get my ass back in the saddle.

  1. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    Bumble.
    Just tryna fuck. 2 years later were engaged and now shes pregs.
    Previous relationships were through mutual friends and social circles. These were pre tinder days.

    Its controversial to say but, datinf sites is how its done now. Ive had some genuine real dating experiences before this one. Some people act like girls on there just tryna fuck but, all types are on there. The genuine ones are just pickier. As should you be.

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      That's awesome anon, happy for you. What did you do for your first date? Yeah I haven't had much luck on the dating apps this year. Maybe I need to update my profile to trick the algorithm, or maybe I'm just not putting enough effort into replies and getting that date immediately?

      • 6 days ago
        Anonymous

        We just went for a drink. You dont need a fancy first date. Youre supposed to be getting to know each other and check the social chemistry. I think anything extravagent is a waste unless youve established a common interest yoy genuinely both want. Like if there's some exhibit.
        >the bio
        I experimented a lot. I found if i was genuine, i got way less matches but they were way higher quality. Im talking one really good match a week.
        If i tried to be more broadly attractive, i got a lot of hoes for sure.

        I wouldnt sell yourself short with "no luck". Someone who gets 10 matches a day has the same odds of a genuine connection as anyone else. Someone who doesn't has a way less harder time filtering whos good and who aint shit.

        • 6 days ago
          Anonymous

          Okay good, I get stressed because they all talk about "adventures" and I'm trying to figure out how to be exciting and interesting enough that she wants to meet me and fuck, I don't read the culture pages, I don't know the meme cafes and pop-up restaurants. It's good to know i can just go for a drink

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            “Adventures” literally just means driving around to random places. Go for a walk, go browse around a target. Just go anywhere for a change of scenery.

  2. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    LULZ, /v/. I drove 4 hours away to meet her. That was two years ago and now we live together. Just stick to your interests and social circles that you can easily fit into and see if you can strike a match. Don't go into with the goal of just getting into a relationship because that's a blatant and desperate move. Play it cool, make some friends, and eventually you'll come across a desirable woman that you're attracted to. It's better to start off as decent friends though if you want better hope of something really tangible. Just don't keep the phase of friendship going for very long at all.

    I wouldn't recommend dating apps unless you're just looking to get laid. For every woman that wants something serious, there's about 1000 next to her that just want quick flings.

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      >Just stick to your interests and social circles that you can easily fit into and see if you can strike a match.
      That's part of the problem, I don't move in social circles where I can share my weird obscure interests (nothing overtly cringe either, just obscure). I have a massive circle of friends, and yet in the year and a half I've been out of a long term relationship, I haven't managed to date anyone from my social circle. Why would it change?

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      How do you even meet someone from LULZ, there are no dms and just posting your address seems like a really stupid idea

      • 6 days ago
        Anonymous

        >How do you even meet someone from LULZ
        The better question is *why would you ever want to*?

      • 6 days ago
        Anonymous

        I've heard this all the time that people meet off LULZ and I've either come to accept it as a meme that people aren't seriously entertaining this notion OR there's really fucked up people on here who'd share their discord or whatever and would meet up but given all the depraved posters on here I'd give that as the most retarded thing to do so I wouldn't suggest anyone on here doing it either. So disregard anyone who says they have.

  3. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    Psych ward (we were both treated for depression), 3 years now and going. Best match I ever had, due to similar mindset and issues.

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      That's a wonderfully odd case of finding the bright side out of a bad situation. I'm happy for you anon. And obviously there's a compatibility and empathy there between you?

      • 6 days ago
        Anonymous

        Yes, we are compatible like ~80-90% mentally and physically. But I am aware that finding someone decent in such circumstances is very rare. Honestly, I would discourage from trying this, the odds at meeting an actual psycho are too big.

        • 6 days ago
          Anonymous

          >Honestly, I would discourage from trying this, the odds at meeting an actual psycho are too big.
          Yeah i wasn't about to book myself into a psych ward to get a gf, dont' worry anon.

  4. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    Highschool. We started dating when she asked me out in grade 11. That was 15 years ago, and we stayed together happily ever since then. Now we are married, have a little house, and our firstborn son on the way.

  5. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    Met on tinder for a hookup
    3 years later we’re each others best friends, we live together, never argue, sex is still great. About as close to an ideal relationship as I could imagine.

    The only real relationship advice is to b urself, just It’s impossible to understand what that means until you’re already doing it.

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      >The only real relationship advice is to b urself, just It’s impossible to understand what that means until you’re already doing it.
      I am myself. People tell me I'm "unique" (yes, I'm aware that is sometimes a euphemism. Not always) all the time. Why do you think it's not working for me?

      • 6 days ago
        Anonymous

        You haven’t met a compatible person yet.

        I’m 29 and I didn’t meet my girlfriend until 27. All of my relations before that lasted less than a week

        • 6 days ago
          Anonymous

          At the risk of asking a impossibly vague and basic question: why haven't I met a compatible person yet?

          “Adventures” literally just means driving around to random places. Go for a walk, go browse around a target. Just go anywhere for a change of scenery.

          I want this to be true, so I'll accept it. thanks anon.

          Met her through a friend, I wanted to learn her native language so he gave me her phone number since he gave classes. Been together for 4 years and married for 1. Still don't speak her native language very well.

          >Still don't speak her native language very well.
          That's because when you have a cute teacher it's hard to pay attention. That's wonderful.

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            >why haven’t I met a compatible person yet

            Idk. You can think or you can be.
            No sense in wondering, while this could be perceived as a problem that needs solving, in reality it’s a process we don’t understand because we are part of it.

  6. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    Met her through a friend, I wanted to learn her native language so he gave me her phone number since he gave classes. Been together for 4 years and married for 1. Still don't speak her native language very well.

  7. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    Off Tinder, but we didn't click at first, I came off as wanting only flings, nothing serious and that put her off. So I got friendzoned for 2 years. Then resumed contact and ever since we've been together (going for 4 years).

    It's sad how everything happens on x2 and nobody has time to get to know others and act authentic. I got lucky but I almost lost her.

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      >Then resumed contact and ever since we've been together (going for 4 years).
      Wow, how did that happen? Who initiated?
      >It's sad how everything happens on x2 and nobody has time to get to know others and act authentic
      It really is

      • 6 days ago
        Anonymous

        She got into a relationship during those 2 years but it didn't work out, the guy was emotionally stunted and didn't return a quarter of her affection.

        Inevitably she broke off the relationship but afterwards she was depressed, lonely and more desperate, almost begging for a crumb of affection. She was the one to initiate the contact again, inviting me out, to parties, etc. and I was down for it cause she was beautiful. I kept suggesting "netflix & chill" and she would postpone it bc as she had told me, she expected me to dump her after that but she wanted to enjoy my company a bit more.

        Fast-forward a few weeks, on our first night, I swear she was the sweetest girl I had found (had been betrayed before and only had flings since then). She just had that non-npc look in her eyes and I said fuck it, I had been dating on the side but told her I'm going to be exclusive at least for a while to see how it goes. I could almost see her blush in the dark. That was our first night together and what followed was the first day of our long-lasting, truly loving, relationship.

        I'm glad I listened to my intuition, she seemed to be special back then and has proved so too, ever since.

  8. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    First one was a friend of friends. Met her at a few parties and started chatting on facebook then hanging out regularly.

    second one was my first tinder date & it clicked

    third one i met at a bar on karaoke night

  9. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    I met my wife at a house party. She was a friend of a friend.

    I think it’s the best place to meet women nowadays

  10. 5 days ago
    Anonymous

    bimp

  11. 5 days ago
    Anonymous

    i played this game called huniepop. i went on dates with her which consisted of me solving an increasingly difficult series of match 3 puzzles. then she gave me her panties which i gave to the sex fairy to unlock hard mode.

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