I think the only way i'll ever be capable of dating a woman is if she's a extremely insecure and docile pushover, OR if she's the dominant type and takes the lead. Both would be very hot.
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What's the way out for extremely shy men?
I think the only way i'll ever be capable of dating a woman is if she's a extremely insecure and docile pushover, OR if she's the dominant type and takes the lead. Both would be very hot.
just go gay
Get over your shyness
It's like telling a cripple to get over his own legs.
no shyness is different, there is a cure for it
except it's not. shyness can be worked on and people can turn their shy behaviors into assertive ones.
How then?
first step is communicating your wants and needs properly, not to appease others, but yourself. being passive is what's going to make people walk over you if you don't speak up. also assertive behavior ≠ aggressive behavior, it is merely expressing what you want or how you feel.
being shy or introverted is totally fine. it becomes a problem when it begins to hurt you or hurt your abilities to socialize with others.
hit up google for better answers.
It's not that complicated. I'm just very sensitive and scared of being mistreated okay? That's all there is to it.
I don't want to go out with some girl just so she finds me boring and give me that face of disgust and disapproval the whole fucking time. I can't take shit like that. It makes me fucking depressed.
My needs? I just want women to be nice to me ffs.
That's perfectly fine, and I don't mean to offend or anything.
I can personally empathize with being very sensitive, and I believe majority of people here can sympathize with the fear of mistreatment. No one wants to be mistreated, but it's bound to happen at some point.
>I don't want to go out with some girl just so she finds me boring and give me that face of disgust and disapproval the whole fucking time. I can't take shit like that. It makes me fucking depressed.
I think we all feel this way (or at least, a majority here.) It's normal to not want to be treated like shit by a supposed partner or feel like you wasted time with someone who doesn't want to be around you.
Have a good night.
Shy people are that way because when they try to assert themselves to people in their lives, those people beat them down.
Exactly.
That's not always the case, and there 100% is improvement to shyness. Good example is me. I suffer from social anxiety disorder and I've always had trouble communicating with other individuals. At first I was absolutely terrible and basically a complete shut-in, but over time I began to develop social skills and assertive behavior. Currently I'm not entirely good at speaking or being entirely social, but I can display assertive behaviors more than I ever could in the past.
I also just don't take shit from anyone, so that's another reason
So i should just tell people to fuck off whenever they hurt my feelings? How's that gonna make me feel any better? I'm still going to be a sensitive lil bitch
I'm not saying you should call someone a little bitch when they hurt you feelings. Acknowledge your emotions and process them as needed. Look into emotional intelligence stuff. Also, suppressing emotions is okay IF you shortly release those feelings after (so like you feel anger at work and you hold it in until you get home.)
Google is your best friend here, not a 4chud anon
where can I find a dominant gf? I don't wanna waste time, I'm just a beta male
except that I do want a dominant woman to date me, I'm not assertive and that isn't going to change.
okay, that's your choice. if you want to stay shy no one can make you say otherwise. just be aware of the fact you aren't going to get a girlfriend if you don't talk to any women
NTA, but appreciate the responses. yeah looks like I need to work on expressing myself better to the women that I'm trying to date. I prefer to allow my future gf to take charge in the relationship
and that's totally fine. wish you best of luck in getting a girlfriend
The most successful submissive men are outgoing. And the most successful shy men don't let that get in their way from trying. If you don't put yourself out there, you're going to get passed over.
Its simple become a man. Duh. When you do you'll start becoming Alpha Max.
Pay for a whore who does that shit.
Create a new free to use dating app designed for shy men.
>extremely insecure and docile pushover
This is what it's actually like to date an insecure woman:
>Im fat
No you're not.
>yes I am
No you're not.
>You're lying
No Im not.
>Yes you are
....
Its the same bullshit. every. day.
Lol
Take the chad pill.
You can get the books at z-lib dot org
Basics on getting women: have a job, have your own place if over 18, and be well groomed and dress reasonably well in clean clothes. minimum.
>Mind reset*** Start here do 1st
Become a man
Hes right about most of our sources of insecurities. Do the adv and be free from your insecurities ignore the god stuff.
>Learn how to fight
www.timlarkin.com
free selfdefense course top tier info
Idk y but knowing you can handle yourself bleeds through into other facets of self.
>Women and talking to them
Double your dating by david deangelo
Older book, short but puts it all toghther how women think.
Make small talk sexy by bobby rio ( the best for talking to women actually helped me become a better conversationalist overall)
Models by Mark Manson
Talks about building a life thats attractive to women.
>Looks max
The 4hr Body by Tim Ferris (Read the section on mass or whatever you'd like to have as your bodytype)
The Plant Paradox by dr. Gundry
https://gundrymd.com/dr-gundry-diet-food-list/
How to eat healthy and keep fit. simple. I follow this about 70% of the time.
>Public speaking (it helps alot knowing how to do this and its a sign of Ldrshp)
Ted talk on how it done.
>increase your vocabulary
https://jocrf.github.io/wordbook/#/
Being articulate to describe problems and reality makes you a leader and interesting
why do I find dominant women to be so attractive? I can't see myself dating a normie woman. I feel like a broken man
Maybe youve been dominate by women all your life or you lack it
For me, it was by trooning out and becoming a tranny chaser
Like 99% of relationships play out and turn into this dynamic one way or another.. usually just comes down to who's more afraid to lose the relationship..
So good news.. quit being an incel and this dynamic is yours if you pick any woman.
Can't. Too scared of women.