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What's the way out for extremely shy men?

I think the only way i'll ever be capable of dating a woman is if she's a extremely insecure and docile pushover, OR if she's the dominant type and takes the lead. Both would be very hot.

  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    just go gay

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Get over your shyness

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      It's like telling a cripple to get over his own legs.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        no shyness is different, there is a cure for it

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        except it's not. shyness can be worked on and people can turn their shy behaviors into assertive ones.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          How then?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            first step is communicating your wants and needs properly, not to appease others, but yourself. being passive is what's going to make people walk over you if you don't speak up. also assertive behavior ≠ aggressive behavior, it is merely expressing what you want or how you feel.

            being shy or introverted is totally fine. it becomes a problem when it begins to hurt you or hurt your abilities to socialize with others.

            hit up google for better answers.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              It's not that complicated. I'm just very sensitive and scared of being mistreated okay? That's all there is to it.

              I don't want to go out with some girl just so she finds me boring and give me that face of disgust and disapproval the whole fucking time. I can't take shit like that. It makes me fucking depressed.

              My needs? I just want women to be nice to me ffs.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                That's perfectly fine, and I don't mean to offend or anything.
                I can personally empathize with being very sensitive, and I believe majority of people here can sympathize with the fear of mistreatment. No one wants to be mistreated, but it's bound to happen at some point.

                >I don't want to go out with some girl just so she finds me boring and give me that face of disgust and disapproval the whole fucking time. I can't take shit like that. It makes me fucking depressed.
                I think we all feel this way (or at least, a majority here.) It's normal to not want to be treated like shit by a supposed partner or feel like you wasted time with someone who doesn't want to be around you.

                Have a good night.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              Shy people are that way because when they try to assert themselves to people in their lives, those people beat them down.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Exactly.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                That's not always the case, and there 100% is improvement to shyness. Good example is me. I suffer from social anxiety disorder and I've always had trouble communicating with other individuals. At first I was absolutely terrible and basically a complete shut-in, but over time I began to develop social skills and assertive behavior. Currently I'm not entirely good at speaking or being entirely social, but I can display assertive behaviors more than I ever could in the past.

                I also just don't take shit from anyone, so that's another reason

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                So i should just tell people to fuck off whenever they hurt my feelings? How's that gonna make me feel any better? I'm still going to be a sensitive lil bitch

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                I'm not saying you should call someone a little bitch when they hurt you feelings. Acknowledge your emotions and process them as needed. Look into emotional intelligence stuff. Also, suppressing emotions is okay IF you shortly release those feelings after (so like you feel anger at work and you hold it in until you get home.)

                Google is your best friend here, not a 4chud anon

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    where can I find a dominant gf? I don't wanna waste time, I'm just a beta male

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    except that I do want a dominant woman to date me, I'm not assertive and that isn't going to change.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      okay, that's your choice. if you want to stay shy no one can make you say otherwise. just be aware of the fact you aren't going to get a girlfriend if you don't talk to any women

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        first step is communicating your wants and needs properly, not to appease others, but yourself. being passive is what's going to make people walk over you if you don't speak up. also assertive behavior ≠ aggressive behavior, it is merely expressing what you want or how you feel.

        being shy or introverted is totally fine. it becomes a problem when it begins to hurt you or hurt your abilities to socialize with others.

        hit up google for better answers.

        NTA, but appreciate the responses. yeah looks like I need to work on expressing myself better to the women that I'm trying to date. I prefer to allow my future gf to take charge in the relationship

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          and that's totally fine. wish you best of luck in getting a girlfriend

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      The most successful submissive men are outgoing. And the most successful shy men don't let that get in their way from trying. If you don't put yourself out there, you're going to get passed over.

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Its simple become a man. Duh. When you do you'll start becoming Alpha Max.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Pay for a whore who does that shit.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Create a new free to use dating app designed for shy men.

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >extremely insecure and docile pushover

    This is what it's actually like to date an insecure woman:

    >Im fat
    No you're not.
    >yes I am
    No you're not.
    >You're lying
    No Im not.
    >Yes you are
    ....

    Its the same bullshit. every. day.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Lol

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Take the chad pill.

    You can get the books at z-lib dot org
    Basics on getting women: have a job, have your own place if over 18, and be well groomed and dress reasonably well in clean clothes. minimum.

    >Mind reset*** Start here do 1st
    Become a man

    Hes right about most of our sources of insecurities. Do the adv and be free from your insecurities ignore the god stuff.
    >Learn how to fight
    www.timlarkin.com
    free selfdefense course top tier info
    Idk y but knowing you can handle yourself bleeds through into other facets of self.
    >Women and talking to them
    Double your dating by david deangelo
    Older book, short but puts it all toghther how women think.
    Make small talk sexy by bobby rio ( the best for talking to women actually helped me become a better conversationalist overall)
    Models by Mark Manson
    Talks about building a life thats attractive to women.
    >Looks max
    The 4hr Body by Tim Ferris (Read the section on mass or whatever you'd like to have as your bodytype)
    The Plant Paradox by dr. Gundry
    https://gundrymd.com/dr-gundry-diet-food-list/
    How to eat healthy and keep fit. simple. I follow this about 70% of the time.
    >Public speaking (it helps alot knowing how to do this and its a sign of Ldrshp)

    Ted talk on how it done.
    >increase your vocabulary
    https://jocrf.github.io/wordbook/#/
    Being articulate to describe problems and reality makes you a leader and interesting

  10. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    why do I find dominant women to be so attractive? I can't see myself dating a normie woman. I feel like a broken man

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe youve been dominate by women all your life or you lack it

  11. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    For me, it was by trooning out and becoming a tranny chaser

  12. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Like 99% of relationships play out and turn into this dynamic one way or another.. usually just comes down to who's more afraid to lose the relationship..
    So good news.. quit being an incel and this dynamic is yours if you pick any woman.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Can't. Too scared of women.

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