The TL;DR of my situation is that my parents never really gave a shit about me beyond paying for school so I've never learned to become independent and grow up.
My character is pusillanimous, I'm completely clueless whenever it comes to the minutia of life, I'm a shut-in and genuinely do not know how to socialize. I can't think of a single reason why a girl would want to be with me, and I don't blame her.
I've been studying how male teenagers turn into men cross-culturally and it's always through rites of passage, and I can attest to this fact in some of my more mature friends.
I was thinking maybe I could do a sort of summer/military camp but I'm way too old for all of that stuff (19). I'm going to try to join a boxing academy soon to see if maybe the environment does toughen me up.
Does anyone have any similar ideas? If so, please share. I am begging you. I suffer a lot of needless suffering because of this, and I really do want to change.
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So you want to be a man here's how.
I wrote for this for a young man who wanted to be man like the ones in the military but for your purpose it'll work too. #1 is the most important the rest is gravy.
You don't need to join the military to become a man I was a man before I went to the military. Z-lib dot org has the books mentioned.
>1st become a real man and deal with any past baggage.
Learn to let go of thoughts worries
Read mans search for meaning
>1.5 get fit
Start with BodyWeight exercise you can train anywhere
Convict condition by Coach Paul Wade
(Use the big 6 as your main exercise)
The 4hr Body by Tim Ferriss
(Read the section on BW, Strength and cardio endurance)
What to eat
https://gundrymd.com/dr-gundry-diet-food-list/
Plant Paradox by Dr. Gundry
>2. learn h2h
www.timlarkin.com
He trains leo and mil done his courses he has a free course follow link.
Read his book when voilence is the answer
>3. Learn basic survival craft
Checkout nutnfancy on youtube to start build your own hiking kit and pick a knife
It helped me in the mili you'll find your own survival youtuber and practice the basics
rule of 3s
Fire, shelter, food, water treatment
Also have 1 month of food and water 1 gallon perday.
Read Survival Theory by Jonathan Hollerman
and EMP by him its a story version of his guide
>4. Learn how to operate shoot and maintain your weapns.
Semi auto rifles, semi handguns, shotguns, revolver, and bolt action.
Youtube it I would pruchase the one your military uses in your country start with a rifle and ammo 500+, then handgun. And so on so forth.
Youtube the basic firearm rukes
Navy seal shooting by chris sajnog
Check out his youtube
Take a in person rifle and handgun course
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>5. Learn basic tactics
Single person close quaters battle by special tactics (a short read)
Tactical manual: small unit tactics by max alexander
Patriot dawn by max velocity (Story teaches in a storyformat)
RANGER HAND BOOK GET APHYSICAL COPY if you can its a bible in the us military.
Youtube
>6. Learn to communicate
Increase your vocab, read poetry aloud daily, and learn rhetoric.
Increase vocab
https://jocrf.github.io/wordbook/#/
One of my favorite poems
If read by Sir Michael Cane
Learn rehtoric
Learn to write in the active voice and well.
Why
How
>7. Learn to speak in front of others.
>8. Learn to lead
This one takes a self discipline
Be competent, know what youre doing and do.
Read suntzu art of war.
The prince by niccolo machiavelli
Check youtube explainers 1st before diving in
>9. Learn about women incels understand them, but chads know how to get them and keep them in control.
David DeAngelo "double your dating"
Women psyche
Make small talk sexy by bobby rio
How to talk to them
Models by Mark Manson
Build a life that attracts them.
>10. Get your own place if 18+
Self explanatory
>11. Work save and invest
Start here
https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/conscious-spending-basics/
I will teach you to be rich by ramith sethi
>12. Learn history
You'll understand human nature doesnt change just the times and the actors o the stage.
Read
Mans search for meaning by Viktor frankl
Gulag Archipelago by Alexander Solzhenitsyn
Bible (start at the book of john, then proverbs, ecclesiastes)
Based Anon, thank you so much. Interesting that you mentioned past baggage as the first point, any particular reasons?
But it is to join most military camps, not the actual military. The military is a joke where I live.
>Based Anon, thank you so much. Interesting that you mentioned past baggage as the first point, any particular reasons?
99% of ppl have something against their parents, the rest got molested. And its the most common thing that messes with you. I forgot to put do the adv ignore the god talk and you'll be free
hear me out: you are a man because there is a cock and a pair of balls attached between your legs
the solution is simple, you need to stop overthinking and start acting: socialize (EXTREMELY important). get a job. get in shape. find something that gives your life purpouse. find a recreational activity that gives you pleasure and helps you relax
you lack character because you havent exposed yourself to situations that require you to keep composure and solve problems decisively. larping as a g.i. joe will achieve nothing; signing for the military to become a "man" is just basic bitch logic, its still a childish concept in which you externalize and delegate your own capabilities for growing up to an authority that acts like paternal figure
find strength from within, not from outside
listen bro good effort putting this together but this is style over substance. even if all of it makes sense its facts and not words what will force op to grow up
There is a lot of truth in what you say Anon.
> you havent exposed yourself to situations that require you to keep composure and solve problems decisively
True. How do you suggest I go about this? I suppose you're going to tell me to socialize, but that leads me to...
>socialize (EXTREMELY important)
Again, how? How can I place myself in social situations if I'm rock-bottom? I realize this is a really dumb question, but I'm *that* lost.
yes. social awareness is the pillar of a strong character
most if not all of our daily activities require us to be social. this happened since caveman times
so put yourself out there. join a sports/arts/hobby club. find work (best option since you are more exposed to negative interactions with clients, bosses and coworkers). look for meetups and events in your town regarding your personal interests
its a wide world...
>listen bro good effort putting this together but this is style over substance. even if all of it makes sense its facts and not words what will force op to grow up
Agreed op needs to go out and do but
Please see #6
>Learn to write... well.
Frankly idc. I shared the leadership development resources with OP in mind not you.
>I was thinking maybe I could do a sort of summer/military camp but I'm way too old for all of that stuff (19)
19 is not too young to join the military lmao.
Beside the list I provided join boxing. I have a blackbelt and that knowledge came in clutch.
Yeah I will do. Seems like the closest option to me right now and I'm decently fit already so it's quite a nice match.
Than you again Anon, you've been of great help. I hope I honor you by becoming as manly as you.
Lol I was manlier. But hope it helps.
Listen to this poem it'll help you understand what it means to be a man
If read by Sir Michael Cane
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I apologise, Mr internet tough guy.
Your 10.days no fap is very impressive and your test is through the roof.
Look up adulting guides
you will never be with a woman. my advice is to construct your online persona from here and hope for a quick advancement on the sex change surgery market