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What can I do to become an adult/man?

The TL;DR of my situation is that my parents never really gave a shit about me beyond paying for school so I've never learned to become independent and grow up.

My character is pusillanimous, I'm completely clueless whenever it comes to the minutia of life, I'm a shut-in and genuinely do not know how to socialize. I can't think of a single reason why a girl would want to be with me, and I don't blame her.

I've been studying how male teenagers turn into men cross-culturally and it's always through rites of passage, and I can attest to this fact in some of my more mature friends.

I was thinking maybe I could do a sort of summer/military camp but I'm way too old for all of that stuff (19). I'm going to try to join a boxing academy soon to see if maybe the environment does toughen me up.

Does anyone have any similar ideas? If so, please share. I am begging you. I suffer a lot of needless suffering because of this, and I really do want to change.

  1. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    1/2
    So you want to be a man here's how.
    I wrote for this for a young man who wanted to be man like the ones in the military but for your purpose it'll work too. #1 is the most important the rest is gravy.

    You don't need to join the military to become a man I was a man before I went to the military. Z-lib dot org has the books mentioned.

    >1st become a real man and deal with any past baggage.


    Learn to let go of thoughts worries

    Read mans search for meaning
    >1.5 get fit
    Start with BodyWeight exercise you can train anywhere
    Convict condition by Coach Paul Wade
    (Use the big 6 as your main exercise)
    The 4hr Body by Tim Ferriss
    (Read the section on BW, Strength and cardio endurance)
    What to eat
    https://gundrymd.com/dr-gundry-diet-food-list/
    Plant Paradox by Dr. Gundry
    >2. learn h2h
    www.timlarkin.com
    He trains leo and mil done his courses he has a free course follow link.
    Read his book when voilence is the answer
    >3. Learn basic survival craft
    Checkout nutnfancy on youtube to start build your own hiking kit and pick a knife
    It helped me in the mili you'll find your own survival youtuber and practice the basics
    rule of 3s
    Fire, shelter, food, water treatment
    Also have 1 month of food and water 1 gallon perday.
    Read Survival Theory by Jonathan Hollerman
    and EMP by him its a story version of his guide
    >4. Learn how to operate shoot and maintain your weapns.
    Semi auto rifles, semi handguns, shotguns, revolver, and bolt action.
    Youtube it I would pruchase the one your military uses in your country start with a rifle and ammo 500+, then handgun. And so on so forth.
    Youtube the basic firearm rukes
    Navy seal shooting by chris sajnog
    Check out his youtube
    Take a in person rifle and handgun course

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      The TL;DR of my situation is that my parents never really gave a shit about me beyond paying for school so I've never learned to become independent and grow up.

      My character is pusillanimous, I'm completely clueless whenever it comes to the minutia of life, I'm a shut-in and genuinely do not know how to socialize. I can't think of a single reason why a girl would want to be with me, and I don't blame her.

      I've been studying how male teenagers turn into men cross-culturally and it's always through rites of passage, and I can attest to this fact in some of my more mature friends.

      I was thinking maybe I could do a sort of summer/military camp but I'm way too old for all of that stuff (19). I'm going to try to join a boxing academy soon to see if maybe the environment does toughen me up.

      Does anyone have any similar ideas? If so, please share. I am begging you. I suffer a lot of needless suffering because of this, and I really do want to change.

      2/2

      >5. Learn basic tactics
      Single person close quaters battle by special tactics (a short read)
      Tactical manual: small unit tactics by max alexander
      Patriot dawn by max velocity (Story teaches in a storyformat)
      RANGER HAND BOOK GET APHYSICAL COPY if you can its a bible in the us military.
      Youtube
      >6. Learn to communicate
      Increase your vocab, read poetry aloud daily, and learn rhetoric.
      Increase vocab
      https://jocrf.github.io/wordbook/#/
      One of my favorite poems
      If read by Sir Michael Cane

      Learn rehtoric

      Learn to write in the active voice and well.
      Why

      How

      >7. Learn to speak in front of others.

      >8. Learn to lead

      This one takes a self discipline
      Be competent, know what youre doing and do.
      Read suntzu art of war.
      The prince by niccolo machiavelli
      Check youtube explainers 1st before diving in
      >9. Learn about women incels understand them, but chads know how to get them and keep them in control.
      David DeAngelo "double your dating"
      Women psyche
      Make small talk sexy by bobby rio
      How to talk to them
      Models by Mark Manson
      Build a life that attracts them.
      >10. Get your own place if 18+
      Self explanatory
      >11. Work save and invest
      Start here
      https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/conscious-spending-basics/
      I will teach you to be rich by ramith sethi
      >12. Learn history
      You'll understand human nature doesnt change just the times and the actors o the stage.
      Read
      Mans search for meaning by Viktor frankl
      Gulag Archipelago by Alexander Solzhenitsyn
      Bible (start at the book of john, then proverbs, ecclesiastes)

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Based Anon, thank you so much. Interesting that you mentioned past baggage as the first point, any particular reasons?

      >I was thinking maybe I could do a sort of summer/military camp but I'm way too old for all of that stuff (19)
      19 is not too young to join the military lmao.

      But it is to join most military camps, not the actual military. The military is a joke where I live.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >Based Anon, thank you so much. Interesting that you mentioned past baggage as the first point, any particular reasons?

        99% of ppl have something against their parents, the rest got molested. And its the most common thing that messes with you. I forgot to put do the adv ignore the god talk and you'll be free

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      hear me out: you are a man because there is a cock and a pair of balls attached between your legs
      the solution is simple, you need to stop overthinking and start acting: socialize (EXTREMELY important). get a job. get in shape. find something that gives your life purpouse. find a recreational activity that gives you pleasure and helps you relax
      you lack character because you havent exposed yourself to situations that require you to keep composure and solve problems decisively. larping as a g.i. joe will achieve nothing; signing for the military to become a "man" is just basic bitch logic, its still a childish concept in which you externalize and delegate your own capabilities for growing up to an authority that acts like paternal figure
      find strength from within, not from outside

      [...]
      2/2

      >5. Learn basic tactics
      Single person close quaters battle by special tactics (a short read)
      Tactical manual: small unit tactics by max alexander
      Patriot dawn by max velocity (Story teaches in a storyformat)
      RANGER HAND BOOK GET APHYSICAL COPY if you can its a bible in the us military.
      Youtube
      >6. Learn to communicate
      Increase your vocab, read poetry aloud daily, and learn rhetoric.
      Increase vocab
      https://jocrf.github.io/wordbook/#/
      One of my favorite poems
      If read by Sir Michael Cane

      Learn rehtoric

      Learn to write in the active voice and well.
      Why

      How

      >7. Learn to speak in front of others.

      >8. Learn to lead

      This one takes a self discipline
      Be competent, know what youre doing and do.
      Read suntzu art of war.
      The prince by niccolo machiavelli
      Check youtube explainers 1st before diving in
      >9. Learn about women incels understand them, but chads know how to get them and keep them in control.
      David DeAngelo "double your dating"
      Women psyche
      Make small talk sexy by bobby rio
      How to talk to them
      Models by Mark Manson
      Build a life that attracts them.
      >10. Get your own place if 18+
      Self explanatory
      >11. Work save and invest
      Start here
      https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/conscious-spending-basics/
      I will teach you to be rich by ramith sethi
      >12. Learn history
      You'll understand human nature doesnt change just the times and the actors o the stage.
      Read
      Mans search for meaning by Viktor frankl
      Gulag Archipelago by Alexander Solzhenitsyn
      Bible (start at the book of john, then proverbs, ecclesiastes)

      listen bro good effort putting this together but this is style over substance. even if all of it makes sense its facts and not words what will force op to grow up

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        There is a lot of truth in what you say Anon.

        > you havent exposed yourself to situations that require you to keep composure and solve problems decisively
        True. How do you suggest I go about this? I suppose you're going to tell me to socialize, but that leads me to...

        >socialize (EXTREMELY important)
        Again, how? How can I place myself in social situations if I'm rock-bottom? I realize this is a really dumb question, but I'm *that* lost.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          yes. social awareness is the pillar of a strong character
          most if not all of our daily activities require us to be social. this happened since caveman times
          so put yourself out there. join a sports/arts/hobby club. find work (best option since you are more exposed to negative interactions with clients, bosses and coworkers). look for meetups and events in your town regarding your personal interests
          its a wide world...

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >listen bro good effort putting this together but this is style over substance. even if all of it makes sense its facts and not words what will force op to grow up

        Agreed op needs to go out and do but
        Please see #6
        >Learn to write... well.

        Frankly idc. I shared the leadership development resources with OP in mind not you.

  2. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >I was thinking maybe I could do a sort of summer/military camp but I'm way too old for all of that stuff (19)
    19 is not too young to join the military lmao.

  3. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Beside the list I provided join boxing. I have a blackbelt and that knowledge came in clutch.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah I will do. Seems like the closest option to me right now and I'm decently fit already so it's quite a nice match.

      Than you again Anon, you've been of great help. I hope I honor you by becoming as manly as you.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Lol I was manlier. But hope it helps.
        Listen to this poem it'll help you understand what it means to be a man
        If read by Sir Michael Cane

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  4. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    tl;dr - the thread

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Pussy

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I apologise, Mr internet tough guy.
        Your 10.days no fap is very impressive and your test is through the roof.

  5. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Look up adulting guides

  6. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    you will never be with a woman. my advice is to construct your online persona from here and hope for a quick advancement on the sex change surgery market

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