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What are some tips for a better orgasm. Once I started not being able to produce cum from regular masturbation my orgasms have gotten really weak.

What are some tips for a better orgasm. Once I started not being able to produce cum from regular masturbation my orgasms have gotten really weak. What Do you do fellow trans?

  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    gotta get a toy and fuck yourself

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Is that it? It's so much work though.

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm an HRT femboy but my strategies have been taking a lower dose, avoiding antiandrogens, using T gel (dunno if that really affects orgasms), and just allowing myself to shift my interests and preferences rather than masturbating to something pre-decided on

    also you might find you feel better looking at things that are more abstract or personal, like written erotica. I'm a malebrained gigacoomer but HRT did eventually shift my sexuality to be a bit closer to a typical woman's

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Boyremoval is really nice. Is it fembrained that I think porns boing and have always used erotica or my imagination? I feel like I need to work harder for an orgasm and all these years I've been just doing the typical guy thing just cause it's easier. o//o

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Rusalka

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    its hormone related, i had lacklustre orgasms for years, they slowly started getting really good the time i switched to patches & progesterone.
    god theyre so intense now, cant help squealing and then convulsing for like a minute after. makes u realise why cis girls lay there smiling for like 5 minutes with their eyes half open.

    male orgasms are a scam.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >male orgasms are a scam.
      really starting to believe that honestly
      am i really gonna take hrt just for the hope of better orgasms

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >really starting to believe that honestly
        >am i really gonna take hrt just for the hope of better orgasms
        I wasn't really expecting it but the better orgasms are one of my favorite parts of becoming an HRT femboy honestly. (I don't have AGP or anything. It's just a biological thing. I now get why women react to orgasms the way they do.)

        I'm cis male but my orgasms improved rapidly after I changed my mindset and changed techniques. Lot of it is probably won't apply to a tranner tho.

        After I reduced porn I began focusing and being aware of my body way more. I learned how to cum using my dick without ejaculating and not having a refractory period by tensing my muscles and using specific hand movements.

        My penile orgasm gradually became longer and more intense and I could have more of them because the refractory period was minimal or nonexistent. Now when I cum with my dick I often can't help but grunt and moan for 20-30 seconds. Completely different from the weak 5 second standard male orgasm I used to have. Strengthening your PC muscles makes a HUGE DIFFERENCE.

        This was probably the best thing for me as a guy, even though I discovered even waaaaay crazier orgasms through prostate stimulation. And that's because I didn't have to worry about "lasting long" during sex because I didn't have to stop after cumming. That made sex way more fun and exciting for me and my partners and honestly I feel bad for any guy who doesn't know how do it.

        Prostate play on the other hand is pretty much just a masturbation thing for me. I'm bi but rarely bottom. When I get into the right rhythm with stimulating my prostate tho... It's just unreal.
        Waves of full body pleasure, one after another that feel endless and make me shake like I'm having a seizure. I probably look retarded while it's happening but I don't care because it's the kind of pleasure that feels like a cheat code.

        Overall I think it's a lot about mindset. If you're in the neanderthal coomer state where you're focusing more on porn than your own body then you're not gonna get anywhere. I'd imagine hrt changes the way you think and that fembrainedness can help you get out of that retard "must cum now" state.

        Tl;dr I recommend focusing on your body rather than porn and don't rush straight to cumming like an idiot.

        >I learned how to cum using my dick without ejaculating
        I think this is unhealthy.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >I wasn't really expecting it but the better orgasms are one of my favorite parts of becoming an HRT femboy honestly. (I don't have AGP or anything. It's just a biological thing. I now get why women react to orgasms the way they do.)
          i have an unhealthy obsession with the female orgasm that causes me to have regular dissociative episodes every time i think about sex
          we had a thread yesterday about hrt orgasms and it caused me to spiral into a mental breakdown lol, it happens every time and i'm pretty sure i've posted about this before because i literally have an automatic reaction to start spiralling

          i've legitimately been thinking about HRT for years just for this being most of my motivation lmao, i know it's not guaranteed and it would take up to a year or two, and that at my age (30) i would not likely get the best results but it's genuinely eating at me inside and i feel like male orgasm i take is another step towards continuing to cripple my sexuality

          i'm not really dysphoric, or AGP, or even a femboy since i don't look the part i just fucking want to kill myself over something as trivial as orgasms lol

          so yeah that's where i am

          I'm cis male but my orgasms improved rapidly after I changed my mindset and changed techniques. Lot of it is probably won't apply to a tranner tho.

          After I reduced porn I began focusing and being aware of my body way more. I learned how to cum using my dick without ejaculating and not having a refractory period by tensing my muscles and using specific hand movements.

          My penile orgasm gradually became longer and more intense and I could have more of them because the refractory period was minimal or nonexistent. Now when I cum with my dick I often can't help but grunt and moan for 20-30 seconds. Completely different from the weak 5 second standard male orgasm I used to have. Strengthening your PC muscles makes a HUGE DIFFERENCE.

          This was probably the best thing for me as a guy, even though I discovered even waaaaay crazier orgasms through prostate stimulation. And that's because I didn't have to worry about "lasting long" during sex because I didn't have to stop after cumming. That made sex way more fun and exciting for me and my partners and honestly I feel bad for any guy who doesn't know how do it.

          Prostate play on the other hand is pretty much just a masturbation thing for me. I'm bi but rarely bottom. When I get into the right rhythm with stimulating my prostate tho... It's just unreal.
          Waves of full body pleasure, one after another that feel endless and make me shake like I'm having a seizure. I probably look retarded while it's happening but I don't care because it's the kind of pleasure that feels like a cheat code.

          Overall I think it's a lot about mindset. If you're in the neanderthal coomer state where you're focusing more on porn than your own body then you're not gonna get anywhere. I'd imagine hrt changes the way you think and that fembrainedness can help you get out of that retard "must cum now" state.

          Tl;dr I recommend focusing on your body rather than porn and don't rush straight to cumming like an idiot.

          ironically i have heard the two ways to get it to work are to either get very good at kegels or reverse kegels

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm the person you're replying to and I started at 30. I don't think the age you start affects orgasms much. At least if you start before like 40, probably. And even then it's probably still a big effect at 40. Also, the orgasm change started for me within about 3 weeks.

            >i've legitimately been thinking about HRT for years just for this being most of my motivation lmao, i know it's not guaranteed and it would take up to a year or two, and that at my age (30) i would not likely get the best results but it's genuinely eating at me inside and i feel like male orgasm i take is another step towards continuing to cripple my sexuality
            >i'm not really dysphoric, or AGP, or even a femboy since i don't look the part i just fucking want to kill myself over something as trivial as orgasms lol
            Sounds like OCD or something. Female orgasms feel better and last longer and are more body-encompassing (which I knew from anecdote and now know through firsthand experience), but it's just neurochemicals and muscle contractions, it's not exactly a religion. There isn't anything somehow inherently "good" or "bad" or "right" or "wrong" with male vs. female orgasms. This is like freaking out because you really like sweet food and you instead wish you really liked savory food, or something. Who cares. Just order the HRT if you want to try it out.

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              >There isn't anything somehow inherently "good" or "bad" or "right" or "wrong" with male vs. female orgasms.
              i am not sure what this statement is supposed to mean.
              there's nothing inherently "good" or "bad" with being poor vs being rich, or ugly people vs pretty people.

              >This is like freaking out because you really like sweet food and you instead wish you really liked savory food, or something.
              it's more like i'm eating junk food and really wish that i enjoyed real food instead

              >Also, the orgasm change started for me within about 3 weeks.
              i've heard that happens rarely but most say 6-24 months is when that change happens, if ever the fact that you got it within 3 weeks tells me you might be a special case as well.

              > I don't think the age you start affects orgasms much
              i don't know either but vast majority of anecdotes are from youngshits.

              >Just order the HRT if you want to try it out.
              really thinking about it. is it dumb that i wanna go legit? it's not terribly hard to get it through informed consent here, although it might get harder

              Yeah you should definitely take hrt. Social consequences suck but repping is for retards. Do it and live.

              I feel a lot of women are sexually repressed due to things like an overprotective father or religion, so that might partially explain the disparity in orgasm in women. Generally the more horny you can become without going coomer mode, the easier it is to cum, and cum hard. If you've never explored yourself and don't even know what feels good for you, no wonder you can't cum.

              I understand you a little though. I was also kinda jealous before I started getting huge long orgasms myself. And even mine still pale in comparison to some of the aneros guys. Those guys are literally sometimes able to experience orgasms that can last for an HOUR which is fucking crazy. At that point it's not even "having" an orgasm, it's being in the state of an orgasm. All of them will tell you though, that if you're desperate to cum, it won't ever happen. They preach that relaxation is key.

              You seem to be in an unfortunate situation where you're desperate to cum hard, but have no sexual instinct and can't get horny enough to enjoy the fantasy of the act to even hold your attention.

              Take hrt and learn to relax. You're too anxious.

              >Social consequences suck but repping is for retards
              with the sheer amount of thought i put into it i'm pretty sure it's only a matter of time before i finally fucking pull the trigger and do it. i lost contact with my only irl mtf friend so i can't really ask her for help on this

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >there's nothing inherently "good" or "bad" with being poor vs being rich, or ugly people vs pretty people.
                These are of a different category from male orgasm vs. female orgasm. It's like Fallout vs. Oblivion or something.

                >really thinking about it. is it dumb that i wanna go legit? it's not terribly hard to get it through informed consent here, although it might get harder
                Do it however you like. I did it DIY.

                >i've heard that happens rarely but most say 6-24 months is when that change happens, if ever the fact that you got it within 3 weeks tells me you might be a special case as well.
                Yeah, I was surprised at first since I didn't think it'd happen so soon. At first I just chalked it up to finding especially good stimulation. Then it kept happening and I realized something was different. It started with noticing a new kind of feeling in my abdomen and stomach area, and the stomach feeling seemed to have not just sexual but also kind of "passionate" associations.

                To be honest, I haven't really noticed any effects from the HRT besides the orgasm changes and better skin. Maybe some slight psychological changes, but they could be placebo. I've been on it for about two and a half months, and it seems every few days the orgasm changes are actually getting more and more stark. (It's starting to get a bit too feminine for me and I think I might cut back on the dose, honestly. Also ejaculating less volume, which I know is very common.)

                At the moment I think I kind of have a weird hybrid male-female sexuality. It's pretty interesting. I still get a lot of visual stimulation like any guy would, but I also get a lot more "romantic" / "sentimental" / "passionate" stimulation than I used to, and am more interested in written and conceptual things than I used to be.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >These are of a different category from male orgasm vs. female orgasm. It's like Fallout vs. Oblivion or something.
                i would be more agreeing with that if literally every single person who experienced both didn't say the female one was objectively better, even if it is different

                >Do it however you like. I did it DIY.
                DIY seems like the easiest on the social aspect. could order it and get it soon (assuming the government doesn't decide to make it an illegal drug like anabolic steroids)
                going legit, not sure what the benefits are. i've heard the quality of legit stuff is better (whatever that means)

                >It started with noticing a new kind of feeling in my abdomen and stomach area, and the stomach feeling seemed to have not just sexual but also kind of "passionate" associations.
                exactly how many trans women have described it.

                >I've been on it for about two and a half months
                do you know your levels at all? that's such a short time that i don't know how much could be done then in terms of changes

                >Also ejaculating less volume, which I know is very common.
                this is something i look forward to. always been grossed out about semen

                >At the moment I think I kind of have a weird hybrid male-female sexuality. It's pretty interesting. I still get a lot of visual stimulation like any guy would, but I also get a lot more "romantic" / "sentimental" / "passionate" stimulation than I used to, and am more interested in written and conceptual things than I used to be.
                sounds like a good thing to me. i've always wanted to enjoy erotica or eroge but my brain still latches onto visual stimulation and vulgar pornographic imagery.
                i think one of the things about male vs female sexuality is that to me, male sexuality is against foreplay while female sexuality is all about foreplay
                the idea of building up slowly doesn't make sense to a man because our useless sexualities tell us CUM, GET IT OVER WITH

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >i would be more agreeing with that if literally every single person who experienced both didn't say the female one was objectively better, even if it is different
                Okay, that's fair. Sure, female orgasms are better than male orgasms, but it's really not worth being suicidal over or anything.

                >going legit, not sure what the benefits are. i've heard the quality of legit stuff is better (whatever that means)
                Depending on where you order from, it's literally the same thing. I don't just mean the same molecule but literally the exact same manufacturer and package and pills that any pharmacy would give you. InHousePharmacy is one place to get the "legit" stuff. I doubt it's actually better, though. (I've tried both the legit and the home-made.) The only difference is potential inactive ingredients/fillers and how that might affect processing or whatever. It's still all just the estradiol molecule, and most of it is eventually ending up in your bloodstream. But if you'd feel a little better getting the pharmacy stuff, use InHousePharmacy.

                >exactly how many trans women have described it.
                Both the orgasm and the lead-up are pretty different. The feeling of peacefulness and relaxation and kind of whole-body niceness can last for like 10+ minutes, too. And when you feel personal/romantic feelings towards the person you're thinking about, it all feels better. (I think the latter is also generally the case for men, but it's heightened, here.)

                >do you know your levels at all? that's such a short time that i don't know how much could be done then in terms of changes
                Nope. I am basically 100% sure the orgasm and skin stuff aren't placebo. But I don't think I've really noticed any other changes, and many people do report noticing skin changes before anything else.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >Okay, that's fair. Sure, female orgasms are better than male orgasms, but it's really not worth being suicidal over or anything.
                maybe, but i have a genuine obsession with it. like it just seems so much better that i can't fucking help but think about it nonstop.

                the female orgasm invalidates my entire life. nothing i do, as a man, would ever make up for missing out on that experience.
                every single bullshit accomplishment, experience, or joy i find in my life is just a fragile house of cards because none of it means SHIT at all as long as i'm stuck with male sexuality. every other experience in life is just a fucking shitty, crude joke compared to it.

                it doesn't matter whatever the rest of my life is. the rest of the world and all that it has to offer is completely irrelevant. EVERY other experience is just a cope. without multiple, female orgasms life is much less worth living. nothing else matters

                it's something i am desperate for and i only know of one way of getting it and i need to do it. i have no excuse besides cowardice if i really believe what i am saying i should be taking my pills right now

                i hope that gives an insight into how fucking stupid my obsession is. HRT is just the main way of achieving this and i just really need to push myself to get on it
                but i also hope that what i am saying is also explaining why i think someone like me isn't fit for it

                >InHousePharmacy
                i've heard of that one, i thought that was the most common DIY one

                >Nope. I am basically 100% sure the orgasm and skin stuff aren't placebo.
                i don't think they are either, it's just the other changes take longer, i mean?

                >The feeling of peacefulness and relaxation and kind of whole-body niceness can last for like 10+ minutes,
                the opposite of how i feel. after i orgasm i feel emotionally fried, i can't describe it but it's like i just did a heavy workout but also sleepy and exhausted
                it's so fucking shit there's no point in having a male sexuality at all

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >but it's really not worth being suicidal over or anything.
                name 5 things that are more enjoyable than female orgasms for you, now that you have experienced it

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >i would be more agreeing with that if literally every single person who experienced both didn't say the female one was objectively better, even if it is different
                Okay, that's fair. Sure, female orgasms are better than male orgasms, but it's really not worth being suicidal over or anything.

                >going legit, not sure what the benefits are. i've heard the quality of legit stuff is better (whatever that means)
                Depending on where you order from, it's literally the same thing. I don't just mean the same molecule but literally the exact same manufacturer and package and pills that any pharmacy would give you. InHousePharmacy is one place to get the "legit" stuff. I doubt it's actually better, though. (I've tried both the legit and the home-made.) The only difference is potential inactive ingredients/fillers and how that might affect processing or whatever. It's still all just the estradiol molecule, and most of it is eventually ending up in your bloodstream. But if you'd feel a little better getting the pharmacy stuff, use InHousePharmacy.

                >exactly how many trans women have described it.
                Both the orgasm and the lead-up are pretty different. The feeling of peacefulness and relaxation and kind of whole-body niceness can last for like 10+ minutes, too. And when you feel personal/romantic feelings towards the person you're thinking about, it all feels better. (I think the latter is also generally the case for men, but it's heightened, here.)

                >do you know your levels at all? that's such a short time that i don't know how much could be done then in terms of changes
                Nope. I am basically 100% sure the orgasm and skin stuff aren't placebo. But I don't think I've really noticed any other changes, and many people do report noticing skin changes before anything else.

                Nah most ftms who have experienced both prefer the ‘male’ orgasm. Pre T my drive was just much lower but now having testosterone my entire sexual experiences have gotten so much better, can cum faster and it all feels more intense and less muted. I can still have multiple orgasms and haven’t lost any pleasure.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                interesting

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                could you describe the changes in more detail? i've mostly been looking into MTF perspective, yet i have heard that some FTMs have had benefits, but i have a feeling that they are experiencing a high T female orgasm (whatever the hell that means)
                multiple and full body orgasms are very rare in men

                this is all psuedoscience to justify my weird obsession with the female orgasm though. i clearly have issues and it's hard for me to talk about this stuff without getting really worked up

                i might also be low T as a man, i never got them levels tested

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

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                >this is all psuedoscience to justify my weird obsession with the female orgasm though. i clearly have issues and it's hard for me to talk about this stuff without getting really worked up

                Yes, you need some therapy or meditation or something. I've seen you post about the glorious female orgasm for weeks it feels like.
                I know it's a pretty interesting meme, but many women have a pretty shitty sex life. I'm just posting stuff about orgasm itself because that's what I have on hand, but a lot more women than men have problems even orgasming at all for example.
                It doesn't really make sense that the sex which is always more reserved in sexual matters would have this incredible sexual experience and males who are evolved to fuck everything that remotely looks female wouldn't have a hefty emotional reward for cooming as to promote that behavior as much as possible.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >weeks
                years

                >which is always more reserved in sexual matters
                have you ever met a fem coomer? they're insatiable. very few men could ever keep up

                >but a lot more women than men have problems even orgasming at all for example.
                and a lot more women can have multiples compared to men

                >It doesn't really make sense that the sex which is always more reserved in sexual matters would have this incredible sexual experience and males who are evolved to fuck everything that remotely looks female wouldn't have a hefty emotional reward for cooming as to promote that behavior as much as possible.
                sexuality is not evolved for sexual pleasure it's evolved for sexual urges. like you said, men are evolved to want to fuck. it's an impulse like eating, you could eat shit food all your life and still have that impulse.

                but i would have to get on HRT and figure it out for myself and see if what i experience lines up.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >have you ever met a fem coomer? they're insatiable. very few men could ever keep up
                The fem coomers are always the masculinized ones with higher than average androgen exposure, so it really is just a window into the male sexual experience.
                Look at muscly bear type gay men, no one even comes close to how coombrained those beings are.
                >and a lot more women can have multiples compared to men
                Yeah, this is true.
                >sexuality is not evolved for sexual pleasure it's evolved for sexual urges. like you said, men are evolved to want to fuck. it's an impulse like eating, you could eat shit food all your life and still have that impulse.
                If that were the case, then orgasm wouldn't feel like anything, and yet as a man the most intense pleasure I have felt other than using drugs have been orgasms.
                You get dopamine hits when you're hungry and put food in your mouth or when you reach orgasm, clearly there is a reward system for these behaviors, so you do them again on top of things like hunger and lust driving you towards those things beforehand.
                >but i would have to get on HRT and figure it out for myself and see if what i experience lines up.
                I mean, if you already have a low libido it's probably going to go down even further knowing what we know of women and the effects of female hormones. So you probably wouldn't even want to chase the elusive female orgasm anymore.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >The fem coomers are always the masculinized ones with higher than average androgen exposure, so it really is just a window into the male sexual experience.
                possibly, they might be high T for a woman, i could believe that.

                >I mean, if you already have a low libido it's probably going to go down even further knowing what we know of women and the effects of female hormones. So you probably wouldn't even want to chase the elusive female orgasm anymore.
                well it's worth trying for me. i think there's too much armchair science, either i get on HRT and try to chase the orgasm or i waste my life pondering and falling apart like this every time the topic gets up

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                If you have nothing better to do and don't care to get some gyno then just try it, yeah.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                literally what i'm thinking. in all seriousness, i don't know my chances at attaining the hrt orgasm. but i've seen it happen enough times that it's a risk worth taking

                otherwise, what else is there to live for

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Do you imagine yourself with a vag? I know I’m obsessed with the idea of having srs and having a guy cum in me

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >Do you imagine yourself with a vag?
                sometimes i do, but it's hard to imagine it when i don't have to actually use.
                of course i constantly imagine what a clit and vag must feel like, though

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          How is it unhealthy? Any evidence? I've been doing it for years without a single issue. Why would dry orgasms be bad lol it's just not shooting sperm. I have wet orgasm too. Usually I make my last orgasm during sex or masturbation be ejaculatory so that I let everything out and feel extra satisfied. Nothing better than letting it all out inside some hot ass after 5-7 dry orgasms xxx I always shoot ropes

          >I wasn't really expecting it but the better orgasms are one of my favorite parts of becoming an HRT femboy honestly. (I don't have AGP or anything. It's just a biological thing. I now get why women react to orgasms the way they do.)
          i have an unhealthy obsession with the female orgasm that causes me to have regular dissociative episodes every time i think about sex
          we had a thread yesterday about hrt orgasms and it caused me to spiral into a mental breakdown lol, it happens every time and i'm pretty sure i've posted about this before because i literally have an automatic reaction to start spiralling

          i've legitimately been thinking about HRT for years just for this being most of my motivation lmao, i know it's not guaranteed and it would take up to a year or two, and that at my age (30) i would not likely get the best results but it's genuinely eating at me inside and i feel like male orgasm i take is another step towards continuing to cripple my sexuality

          i'm not really dysphoric, or AGP, or even a femboy since i don't look the part i just fucking want to kill myself over something as trivial as orgasms lol

          so yeah that's where i am

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          ironically i have heard the two ways to get it to work are to either get very good at kegels or reverse kegels

          There's no guarantee your orgasm will improve with hrt. You might even lose interest in orgasm actually, due to lower libido. That might not be cad for you now that I think about it, seeing how obsessed you are lol.
          If I can get mind-blowing orgasms as a cis guy you should be able to? But I'm getting kind agp vibes from you

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >There's no guarantee your orgasm will improve with hrt.
            i know. HRT is simply a huge risk in hopes that it would work out
            there are a lot of other factors like mindset and genetics

            >You might even lose interest in orgasm actually, due to lower libido.
            my libido is kind of fucked up. i hate it because it's high in the male sense but it's low overall. male libido is worthless anyways.

            >That might not be cad for you now that I think about it, seeing how obsessed you are lol.
            i'm not even horny most of the time i think about this. of course sometimes i am but most of the time i just feel dread, anger, despair, or self hatred.
            i woke up today literally thinking about this stuff. i still have every greentext that caused me to feel this way burned in my head lol

            >If I can get mind-blowing orgasms as a cis guy you should be able to?
            it's all RNG. since i feel very little from anal or nipple play i might be further away than you right now

            >But I'm getting kind agp vibes from you
            yes i would much rather be a woman and much of it is in a sexual context but i'm not really AGP.
            i wish that i were AGP so at least i could justify a transition, but right now i'm just a fucking mentally insane dude who is looking at HRT as a drug to get high off of because i want to fucking kill my male sexuality, and replace it with a female one

            • 2 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              That's still dysphoria. Your male traits are causing you despair and hrt can help. Many troons call themselves insane man so I don't think much of that. Is there anything about hrt you would hate? I sure would, so I know I'm cis.
              It's not RNG. I started of as any other guy. It's not like I magically felt incredible from first time anal. I just built an association, convinced my brain that the feeling is pleasure and over time it felt better and better.

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                >Is there anything about hrt you would hate?
                what would you hate?

                physical changes i'm completely fine with. i want to have a woman's body so i don't see the problem there.
                mental changes i do not know. i don't know how it would change my personality, and that is a risk since i am literally overriding some part of my biochemistry that determines my personality and behaviors
                socially? it would be terrible. i can't imagine how awkward it would be to have to explain to my doctor why i am on hormones and have breasts. and i would constantly be in fear of having this secret of mine be caught out

                >It's not RNG. I started of as any other guy. It's not like I magically felt incredible from first time anal.
                RNG meaning how long it takes to get to it feeling good.
                some women can have multiple orgasms, yet 1 in 6 women have never had one in their life. some people cum from anal within a month, others are on their tenth year of bottoming without any sexual pleasure at all

                >I just built an association, convinced my brain that the feeling is pleasure and over time it felt better and better.
                i've been at anal for a couple of years now, although i haven't been doing it with enough frequency that it makes a difference. i haven't been able to convince myself it feels good at all, but i am almost never in the mood to do it outside of the shower
                i don't know what the strategy is, it's almost impossible for me to get in the mood for anal. i really don't enjoy it that much. most of the time i prep up, try to get in the mood, and nope, just not feeling it. the stage i'm on right now is i have to make time to do it even though i don't like it, hoping eventually i like it

              • 2 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Yeah you should definitely take hrt. Social consequences suck but repping is for retards. Do it and live.

                I feel a lot of women are sexually repressed due to things like an overprotective father or religion, so that might partially explain the disparity in orgasm in women. Generally the more horny you can become without going coomer mode, the easier it is to cum, and cum hard. If you've never explored yourself and don't even know what feels good for you, no wonder you can't cum.

                I understand you a little though. I was also kinda jealous before I started getting huge long orgasms myself. And even mine still pale in comparison to some of the aneros guys. Those guys are literally sometimes able to experience orgasms that can last for an HOUR which is fucking crazy. At that point it's not even "having" an orgasm, it's being in the state of an orgasm. All of them will tell you though, that if you're desperate to cum, it won't ever happen. They preach that relaxation is key.

                You seem to be in an unfortunate situation where you're desperate to cum hard, but have no sexual instinct and can't get horny enough to enjoy the fantasy of the act to even hold your attention.

                Take hrt and learn to relax. You're too anxious.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

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      Men's orgasms are more intense than women's ones. Women are more capable of having multiple ones and fall off less of a cliff post-orgasm though, so you could argue that quantity wins over quality.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        whats that graph? it says rating 10. dont tell me they rate their own orgasm.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          They give them a bunch of questionnaires for some things and measure it directly for others, you can read it here: https://www.sci-hub.wf/10.1080/00224499.2013.867922

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Ayden

    >get srs
    >get wet
    >schlick and rub away

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    prostate, prostate, prostate

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Thoughts on pillow humping?

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm cis male but my orgasms improved rapidly after I changed my mindset and changed techniques. Lot of it is probably won't apply to a tranner tho.

    After I reduced porn I began focusing and being aware of my body way more. I learned how to cum using my dick without ejaculating and not having a refractory period by tensing my muscles and using specific hand movements.

    My penile orgasm gradually became longer and more intense and I could have more of them because the refractory period was minimal or nonexistent. Now when I cum with my dick I often can't help but grunt and moan for 20-30 seconds. Completely different from the weak 5 second standard male orgasm I used to have. Strengthening your PC muscles makes a HUGE DIFFERENCE.

    This was probably the best thing for me as a guy, even though I discovered even waaaaay crazier orgasms through prostate stimulation. And that's because I didn't have to worry about "lasting long" during sex because I didn't have to stop after cumming. That made sex way more fun and exciting for me and my partners and honestly I feel bad for any guy who doesn't know how do it.

    Prostate play on the other hand is pretty much just a masturbation thing for me. I'm bi but rarely bottom. When I get into the right rhythm with stimulating my prostate tho... It's just unreal.
    Waves of full body pleasure, one after another that feel endless and make me shake like I'm having a seizure. I probably look retarded while it's happening but I don't care because it's the kind of pleasure that feels like a cheat code.

    Overall I think it's a lot about mindset. If you're in the neanderthal coomer state where you're focusing more on porn than your own body then you're not gonna get anywhere. I'd imagine hrt changes the way you think and that fembrainedness can help you get out of that retard "must cum now" state.

    Tl;dr I recommend focusing on your body rather than porn and don't rush straight to cumming like an idiot.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I really think this is it. Women (cis and trans) probably have an easier time figuring it out because there’s either no penis or estrogen makes it not really work properly. And most men don’t seem to be able to get past that neanderthal mindset.
      I had mostly the same experience even pre hormones and as a result don’t really relate to the whole hormones change your orgasm thing.
      And yeah porn makes things worse for me.
      And yeah I could cum without ejaculating and that was always better and led to multiples. Even today post srs it’s like that.

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It's complicated. You should explore it yourself.
    After like 3-5 months on HRT I noticed that jerking off like a dude while sitting in a chair just stopped working for me, orgasms were meh at best. So I decided to switch things around and started paying attention to what my body did when I was jerking off, I noticed that I instinctively arch my back, I also noticed that I felt better when I spread my legs, like, to a point that it even hurts a bit. So now when I jerk off while sitting I prefer to sit on the corner of my bed or chair, arch my back, and spread my legs. The first couple of times after I figured out this combo, I coomed so hard I fell off the chair, lmao. It's so humiliating, I couldn't stop laughing despite lying on the floor with my dick in my hand XD
    Oh, I also don't stop stroking when I orgasm, so when I feel like I'm about to coom I spit on my dick (I'm uncut, so I don't need anything fancy) to make sure that it's "lubed up" and have at it.
    And I avoid closing and straightening/stretching my legs because it ruins the orgasm for me, but it's an old habit I have from my cis days when it's the desired way of cooming. So it still happens from time to time.
    I do play with my butt sometimes, I'm not exactly a bottom, so I don't get the urge all that often, I also masturbate while lying in my bed, I prefer doing it while lying on my back and with my legs in the air and spread wide, feels nice.

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    be forced fed mdma and stimulants and get fucked for 3 hours straight and cum hands free multiple times

  10. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >be born with a vagina
    >have organ designed solely for sexual pleasure with more concentrated nerve endings than the penis
    >use it
    easy peasy

  11. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >tips for a better orgasm
    Have sex. Far and away the best orgasms i've ever had were while having sex.

  12. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    im just a bi bottom who isnt on anything but I have betetr orgasms now jst by thought or lightly touching my nipples- thats it. Dont even touch the cock. its still get rock hard and shoots a ton of cum but there is something liberating about coming hands free.

  13. 2 weeks ago
    Persephone

    take it slow, feel your body all over,
    take it slow
    do it only when you’re actually in the mood for it
    lower the lights or put red lights on if u have LED
    You gotta set the tone for it
    if its a spontaneous things its gonna suck

  14. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I've just given up tbh. Helps that I also don't really have any sex drive from cypro + my SNRI.

  15. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    The best way to amplify your orgasm, is to get fucked and to either let the tension as well as pleasure build up in your body. Stay relaxed, and let the plateaus and peaks come naturally.

    When your about to cum, stay 100% relaxed and tension free. It will fee like it's being pulled out of you. Pretty much any time your about to cum, you need to relax and dont try to force it, let the pleasure break past the point and come gently.

    Clenching, tightening up, and over working your ass or dick will make it duller over all.
    Also if your not fucking your self, your going to need to do that any time your masturbate.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      do you keep stroking while trying to relax
      and yeah, i have heard of that technique as well

      I really think this is it. Women (cis and trans) probably have an easier time figuring it out because there’s either no penis or estrogen makes it not really work properly. And most men don’t seem to be able to get past that neanderthal mindset.
      I had mostly the same experience even pre hormones and as a result don’t really relate to the whole hormones change your orgasm thing.
      And yeah porn makes things worse for me.
      And yeah I could cum without ejaculating and that was always better and led to multiples. Even today post srs it’s like that.

      >I had mostly the same experience even pre hormones and as a result don’t really relate to the whole hormones change your orgasm thing.
      i think hormones make it easier still

      i think with a lot of conditioning (and probably not touching my dick) i could get myself hopefully to some degree. but hormones might make it easier and i genuinely get better orgasms off AGP stuff, so maybe that's the secret for me

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yes you can and should, if you cannot just cum from anal alone. But when your rubbing yourself, stroke very gently, dont forcefully jerk off.

        Just rub it enough to put you over the thresh-hold and add a little more force but not a lot.
        Being relaxed, and focused on the sensations of your body, doing this will make your orgasms a lot more interesting.

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