I'm absolutely terrified to turn 20 next month. Sure, I have interests and hobbies, but they're too niche and useless to make a career out of. I'm also pursuing some useless arts degree. Still a khv and only got my first job a couple weeks ago. How fucked am I? What books can help me cope?
>How fucked am I?
Not at all
I still dont have a job at 30
damn you were 12 when I was 15
reminder that life ends after you turn 20
Take the bloomer pill, your old life ends but your new life begins, travel the world
>expecting to make a career out of your hobbies
What like, a fucking pro fisherman or something?
Anyway, start investing part of your salary in something safe and boring now, you'll be fine
>start investing part of your salary in something safe and boring now
Like what? I know jackshit about finance
Any reputable tracker fund will be fine
>inb4 cryptobro nonsense
other anon is right but "the intelligent investor" is a short and very accessible introduction. obviously we live in bizarro israelite-world now where we've learned to think in new money-dimensions that ben graham couldn't have conceived of, and as a consequence all money is fake and nothing means anything, but the advice applies nevertheless because what else can you do?
I always kek at guys in their 20’s thinking their life is over. It is the famed quarter life crisis. You aren’t close to hitting your prime yet
I'm almost 30 and there ain't gonna be no prime.
I turned 20 last month. I found myself in more disquiet when I was 16-19, although I've accepted that autism and melancholy will forever stunt the social and economic development I should be pursuing.
Ultimately, I accept aging, as I despise youth and its banal frivolities.
>I've accepted that autism and melancholy will forever stunt the social and economic development
25 here, about to turn 26. It really does. Anything else anyone tells you is feel-good, make-believe nonsense. I wish I'd had your wisdom to realize this at 20.
Just go to an escort. You want to get rid of that virgin anxiety ASAP.
>get an escort
>can't get hard because of deathgrip and because she's a dumb roastie and not a flawless young anime girl
don't do it op
>How fucked am I?
You're not fucked at all keep going dude
I read Rousseau in ragemode when I turned 19. You're a stupid homosexual.
You’re not fucked at all for all the above reasons.
Also let me tell you something I wish someone told me. Maybe it applies to you, maybe it doesn’t, but here goes: if you do an arts degree at a good school and you are a good student and make friends, you will do fine. The history majors working at McDonald’s are the bad students who didn’t make any connections. I got a stem degree out of fear of not finding a job; it worked out fine but I could’ve easily stayed in the arts as the vast majority of my arts friends have done well for themselves.
>who didn’t make any connections
If you are autistic, good luck making "connections" lol
I couldn't stand any more of the npc art homosexuals then I already have to stand, just get a construction job and be around men who actually contain testosterone all day
You’re 20. Shut the fuck up, and stop being a mentally weak loser.
Fuck off I'm 30, what I'd give to be 20 again. I'm sure someone whos 40 would say the same about a 30 year old.
At least you're aware enough at 20 to make a change for the better.
Imagine if someone told Tolkien that his interest in languages was too niche to make a career out of.
As far as I’m concerned, people who have serious interests at such a young age are the luckiest people in the world. It’s like a built in compass telling you what to do, what to work for, what to indulge in. When I was 20, I had no genuine interests, no ambitions, not even any real hobbies, nothing. I’m not even sure that I have any of those things now.
Haha, wouldn't want to be in that situation, haha.
Time moves whether or not you're scared. I can tell you one thing; you're unlikely to spontaneously combust on your birthday, so you're gonna be okay. The reason it ain't okay is entirely created by you inflicted upon you.
OP, you're doing fine and have nothing to worry about. Also, just from what you said, we can't even tell how well you're doing. Sounds like a normal life, with problems just like any other life.
Simply erase all of those expectations regarding age from your mind and live. I'm not saying you shouldn't make plans, but here's how I see time.
When we are babies everything is instantaneous, you fall asleep in a minute, then wake up crying if you hear some loud noise. A young kid may not understand if you tell them to wait 10 minutes, this kid will feel bored. An older kid understands and uses time a little better, this kid knows that after the meal comes dessert and so this kid doesn't despair for not having it earlier. Still, this kid may be the one asking "are we there yet?" all the way throughout a long trip. As we grow older, our notion of time expands, you begin thinking of a test you have next week, a vacation a month from now. When you get to adulthood you start having larger plans, a course that takes 4 years, big decisions like moving to another town or getting into longer relationships. So it's only later on you can see through things like a career, marriage, financial stability, retirement.
You update the scale and judge the past with it. For example, 10 years ago I was already an adult, so I can see this trajectory, the mistakes, good and bad times and think ahead on where I'm going to be in 10 years. I don't know yet, but it doesn't scare me as much. This is also why everyone reports that time seems to run faster with age.
There are moments in life that we feel time passing us by a little stronger though, that's probably where(or when) you are now. As your vision of the future expands, it's natural to look back and feel you haven't done much with your life, because of course, you weren't thinking in this scale back then. You're measuring the past with your new expanded sense of time.
My point is that you should not be worried about your situation as of now as if that was final and were to define how your life is going to be in the future. You're probably breaking your own record on the impact of your decisions, doing things that take time like working on a job, that require you to be more commited and so on, but since your reference are your teenage years, it's logical to feel freightened. These experiences too will pass and some of them you'll only understand better after they are over.
You'll have times in the next 10 years in which you'll think you are on top of the world, others times you'll feel like the worst person living the worst reality. Those are all lies, they pass. They will look small to you in the future, just like you may think now if you see a kid crying over a dropped icecream cone.
I just turned 30. I have never been more excited for the future tbh because I have a beautiful baby son who I will raise to be better than me.
Advice from a 36 year old do not under any circumstances start gambling, lottery, stocks, crypto etc, Do not spend money on unnecessary garbage, save every penny, you can invest money into low return but 99.9% safe schemes like savings account in the largest bank. I lost half of my money because of dumb shit like stock market. Id probably be retiring now if I didn't do all that shit
there are people in their 50s-60s that are living a full life and experiencing more in just a few years, than many unfortunate people would ever have an opportunity for.
and everything can change in a few years.
that being said, you should start sweating if you're still a NEET in your 30s. towards the end of your 30's many windows have permanently closed.
20 is still the high point. Life falls apart suddenly when you're 23, done with university, all your friends have gfs and jobs, you still don't have a drivers licence, and you no longer have any student benefits. That'a where neetdom starts and every year of it deals more and more psychological damage. Normal people don't go through this. You become permanently detatched from reality, start obsessing over science fiction and fantasy since video games aren't as fun anymore.
The worst thing at life is when you're smart enough to see failure in your success.