I know my best friend since we were teenagers. But now after 10 years i start to realize he might be really toxic.
He always plays on my insecurities like having no gf and says stuff like
>your life sucks
>calls me loser
>calls me cringe
>says i am a sperg
Its like walking on eggshells when I am with him.
Sometimes i think that he is unsatisifed with his life (boring job around boomers, overweight, no friends besides me) while I work in a young office, have a more or less stable social life and a nice car.
Still, hearing these things for years finally took a toll on me and I feel more and more insecure around people and about myself
Should I cut him off?
Call him a prick and tell him that his constant shitting on you is pissing you off. Then go from there.
a few years ago I called him out on his bullshit but he didn't take it seriously.
Sometimes he even still makes fun about that
>remember when you were offended by me and tried to stop it? Lmao
I feel kind of similar to your friend. You gotta see behind those insults and not take them to hard. Why do you identify with yourself so much anyways that you would take insults so seriously. Maybe he just doesnt have anything else that he can use to spice up the conversation. Insult that nagger himselve for a change and stop traking things so seriously are you my grandma or what?
dsds
Have the same problem. I get called stupid for everything. I think he means well, but it kind of huets every time. The thing is, I have no other friends so my friend is right.
I assume your both male's feel free to correct me if its wrong.
So is your friend bigger than you?
is he smaller than you?
body size?
Have he always insulted you? or it is an gradual thing?
How much time do you spend with each other?
and have you actually talked to him about his behavior?
What does the insults contain? there character?
Your most likely right that he is taking his frustration out on you yourself. You really should talk to him about
it in length over a lengthy period. Before making a final decision
Yes we are both males.
I have normal weight while he is overweight. This also makes him very tall, almost 2 meters.
We have the same interests like Anime, like the same games and the have same type of humor.
I remember that, when we were back in school he made a girl he sat next to cry. He called her bitch etc. after a failed relationship.
In the past his insults were occasionaly, but since I started to self improove his insults against me became a more regular thing.
I know I am superior looks-wise, and I have no reason to feel bad when he tries to hurt my self-esteem.
But when you hear these things so many times repeatedly, I think my subconcious slowly takes it in. Like I am become social anxious because I am so insecure now about myself
Could you do me a favor, and hang out with your friend, and talk to him about it until he actually give a proper answer for as to why he is behaving the way he do.
Because right now it could be a myriad of things. Only way to find out is to speak with him about it. Doing while influenced by alcohol might be easier for the both of you, since you will lose inhibition control, making it a useful tool for speaking more freely.
That is about as much advice I can give, anything else would be pure speculation and I refuse to speculate.
Thank you for the kind advice Anon.
It does sound like a good idea to talk with him about it when he drank some alcohol.
Sadly he is kinda a shut-in and only leaves his house when I force him to do something.
But I will keep that in mind for the time when he drinks
Drink at his place, he is more comfortable in his own personal cave(environment)
best of luck
Not gonna lie ur friend sounds like a loser homosexual who is going to ultimately hold you back. Ditch his ass and watch him come crawling back to apologize because youre his only connection to the “normal” world
He's projecting his own insecurities on you. A friend isn't supposed to ever do that. I'd call him a homosexual and never talk to him again.
>I'd call him a homosexual and never talk to him again.
Lmao
Thanks for the advice but when I cut him off I will lose the only close male friend I have.
I want to fuck you among other cool stuff
what's the cool stuff?
Mostly stuff you do for fun/leisure, but together lol reading manga, watching random videos, studying, exercising, shopping, poking holes in bags of cement at Home Depot
Oh and also horny aside, ditch the dude man. My old friends were shit. You need to find and surround yourself with positive people who want the best for the best version of you. I wasn't able to immediately transition from hood downer dumbfuck criminal friends to wholesome degenerate weeb ambitious friends. In the meantime, for my own mental health, I found it sincerely useful to have gotten into mmos just to socialize. You meet people from around the world and learn about their problems past and present. It really sobers you up and while a vice - it buys you time.
"Best friend"
Yeah OP that too, this would be anyone else's "shitty acquaintance" you deserve better, and in this case no replacement is better than continuing to have him around
Drop him as a friend. He's a shithead who likes inflicting misery.