To older virgins like 25+ years old, have you given up on finding a girlfriend?

To older virgins like 25+ years old, have you given up on finding a girlfriend?

  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No but I think I'm about to, how am I gonna explain why am I virgin at 27? Do I just say I was in a mental asylum for 8 years?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >No but I think I'm about to, how am I gonna explain why am I virgin at 27?
      Same here but at 30 who never dated as well. If by some miracle I get a date and my relationship inexperience will show at this old age then it would instantly put off any woman. Catch 22 situation.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, I mean at that point I would need to meet some fucking perfect match that gets along with me perfectly and doesn't break up when she learns I was a fucking retard my whole life.

        I'm not even that socially retarded I just have an anxiety disorder that I started treating very late.

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Girls are annoying and boring. I really doubt there is a woman out there that I could get along with.

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Honestly Im happy reading manga and drinking everyday
    I feel like another person would interrupt what I like to do

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Bumping into more and more volcels lately, it's scary man.

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    Yep. Someone I could naturally relate to is the equivalent of a invisible flying pink unicorn. Chances of me finding one is one in a million, then actually making it against all the chads and superior men who'd want someone of that caliber, it's pretty much an impossibility.

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No. I had plenty of chances in the past but I blew them. Issues with self-confidence stemming from birth defects. Really trying to pull myself around because all of my surgeries are done and I look regular, but my lack of experience has me anxious.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    One day I was looking on facebook and I saw two girls I used to have a crush on, One got married the other had a baby. It hit me that in past two decades not a single girl had every shown real interest in me and it was pointless to keep stressing out about being alone and worrying people thinking I am weird. My libido is basically dead now anyway, a hug would be nice but then I think every single girl I have allowed close to me has hurt and used me. So a hug doesn't even feel that nice when I know they are just using it as a way to get things from me or they just want temporary attention whilst they find someone better. I don't bother with women any more I just focus on making my life is comfortable as possible.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    To be honest I never even tried, can you give up on something you've never tried?

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Im turning 30 in a year. I'm done, I don't care anymore. I just want to enjoy whatever amount of life I still can before my body starts failing, and once that starts happening I guess I'll just kill myself, parents are dead so nobody will be mourning me.

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Yes and no. Yes, because I no longer yearn for it like I used to. I genuinely don't think about it anymore. No, because I won't self-sabotage if an opportunity does arise. Big motherfucking if, though.

  10. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    Giving up on everything currently
    >quitting my 6 figure programming job
    >not going to the gym anymore
    >ghosting all my "friends"
    Just gonna lay at home and coonsume and drink

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      See you in a few years when you regret it all and hate yourself.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        so nothing changes for me? jfl who cares

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Don't give up on the job at least. Get loaded and move to Asia.

  11. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm so jaded.
    Theres no hope left.
    I've grown up with feminism telling me how I should be ashamed of my sexuality and how I'm evil for being male.
    I can't take it anymore.
    I feel like I'm suffocating.
    Its like unless I rapemax, I'm not going to survive.

  12. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Having a girlfriend is more like a duty to me or for the sake of convenience. I will want her to cook for me clean for me. things like that.

  13. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm a bit older than most here, I think. 37.

    I never looked for one in the first place.

    I never had any drive to do anything with my life. I prefer to stay isolated from society.

    I do find the whole incel phenomenon fascinating, however. Even though I don't consider myself an incel.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm similar to you I think.

      26, never even attempted to do anything sexual with a girl. Not asexual but my later years of high school I regressed into a shell paranoid I was going to get bullied so I finished school a KHHV.

      After school I didn't go to college or get a job I simply just play video games all day and browse the internet. My parents still put up with me somehow. Literally not once have I felt any desire to pursue a job or friends/gf. At about ~23 I sort of wanted to improoooove but I found out I'm rapidly balding and had a mental breakdown for like a month and just went fuck it, no point trying now. I'm a friendless KHHV for well over 5+ years now. That was 3 years ago and I'm still the same, the only problem I have no is my parents health is getting worse as they hit their 60's.

      I'll probably be like you in my 30s haha

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      32 and never cared. Always wanted to make small video games, but my adhd(actual verification from childhood) refuses to allow me to learn in any worthwhile manner, so i wageslaved my 20s away because didn't see any other option besides trying to struggle to educate myself on the side. Probably best i never went to college, would have likely failed and been in massive debt.

      Never, ever met a woman in life i thought id want as a girlfriend so never bothered trying to strike up anything. I rather be alone to my hobbies then suffer in a relationship neither person enjoys. If i had a girl, i would need to consider her a best friend, someone i want to be with and do things with. Without that, its just an agreement for the rest of your life to be strapped into to raise a kid. Sure, sex would be nice, but i care more about companionship, to play vidya or go see a movie with a girl we both enjoy and hold each other close, joke around, help each other. I"ll probably kill myself when my parents are gone if i dont ever find something like that, but i have yet to encounter any woman that could fufill that.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Ren'py my bro. You don't even need to know how to code, it has a retard-easy language you can use to define games. You're welcome.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Looks like I'll be catching up to you soon, pretty damned close to you almost to a T except I still have a drive for hobbies and the like, I used to for work but gave up on trying to find something fulfilling there and accepted mediocrity.
      I am contempt with what I have, just need to maintain it.

  14. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Yeah, I'm 28 and I gave up on romance and friendships. Most I'll do is check in on my old online friend group every few months. I'm not in any position to have a relationship since I'm in severe debt(thanks, unemployment), and I'm a massive spergloid with no social skills. Short and stupid as well.
    I'd rather just jerk off to modded Skyrim anyways.

  15. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Any possibility of a social life emerging died after I left high school. I was put on disability for my debilitating social problems immediately after graduating, and that was all she wrote. I never held a job at all.

    I have actually known the touch of a female. Me and my girl cousin used to fool around when we were kids. Like 8 years old. We'd make out and give each other oral sex. I know that's super fucking weird, but it happened.

  16. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    29 here.I am planing to die in front of the pc

  17. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    31 here, there is no way a woman woud be with a kissless virgin with my age
    Never been on a date before, never had any female friends,
    Although I must admit that I am very curious to know how a kiss, a hug, holding hands or just cuddling feels like. I have been daydreaming that stuff since I was 10. I do that with my sleeping pillow though, better than nothing. The sex part.....meh, masturbation takes care of that.
    I just hope to die young

  18. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nope I'm just going to fuck girls your age

  19. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What if I've only had sex with escorts?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You don't count

  20. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm a 30 year old virgin. I've never been on a date. I know no woman would ever be okay with that and I don't have anywhere near the social skills to bluff my way into pretending I'm not so I have absolutely zero hope of getting even a 30 year old desperate roastie.
    I fucking hate it so much but I guess it's my fault for not trying. I have enough money saved up for a decent escort so at some point I'm going to pull the trigger and admit I failed.

  21. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Yes. Not only have I given up, I've rejected advances towards me. Making me a volcel and universally hated. Way too many trust issues to enter into a relationship. I can just barely make friends if I try super hard.

  22. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    How does this music video make you feel bros?

    were you having 'Fun.' in 2011?

  23. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    So many posts here I identify with
    and here I'm sitting with a bunch of guys who are successful, jobs, etc. and I doubt I could be picked out from the lineup but maybe I could but yeah.
    What sucks more than anything is when you had hope because a girl actually reached out to me and I thought I could learn to talk to her for a while but she then vanished with no accountability.

  24. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Yes. It's been years since I've spoken with a female that I wasn't related to.

  25. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Recently got my first ever gf at age 29 so never completely give up

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Did she ask if you ever had a girlfriend before? Or did you lie about having previous relationships?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        She didn't ask, found out after and didn't care

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      How did it happen?
      t. 22 and newly confident

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Sorry for the late reply... I live with my mother and she moved in next door to us she's a single mother and she came over soon after and was introduced to me. She was quite forward with things and it went from there.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >single mother
          you dumb fucking simp you are in for a world of shit

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Sorry for the late reply... I live with my mother and she moved in next door to us she's a single mother and she came over soon after and was introduced to me. She was quite forward with things and it went from there.

      so basically she wants you to betabuxx chad's kid. 10 years ago she wouldn't even look at you

  26. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Yes. Stopped caring when I turned 22
    t. turning 27 in a few weeks

  27. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i never tried originally. i kept hoping things would happen through chance. they never did. never wanted a hookup - wanted a relationship. waited for a serendipitous moment that never came. expected that it would happen through a friend group or work where a girl would make a first move, or things would click and I'd know what to do. naive hope led to complacency and never trying. turned down the only chance for hook-up in college, as I wanted to date a girl first (not sleep with a drunk girl I didn't know at a party).

    I have largely lost the hope that it will happen. my work has few women, as there aren't many female engineers/scientists in this field. the ones that exist, I feel I am too awkward or worthless to bother with. I no longer have any friends or do anything social due to a sense of shame over my life. Deleted all social media for similar reasons (not that I ever did anything with it). never made a dating profile. don't even know how to go about it at this point. I watched as everyone I know now is largely married or having kids. I have seemingly isolated the past ~5-10 years out of a sense of shame, as I can no longer relate to peers. Don't consider myself having friends any longer. Hard to relate when you haven't held hands with a woman, and people you've known since middle school are now raising kids that have probably done more than I have in a romantic context. i'm not bad looking or anything, but I still feel I have nothing to offer. that feeling has increased with time. further estrangement from society/socializing has increased that feeling. Former friends mis-perceive my ghosting and isolation as me wanting nothing to do with them. It's more that I feel they want nothing to do with me, and I'd rather not make things awkward by making them feel an awkward sense of pity when I'm around. Probably off myself in a few years and leaving all money to nieces/nephews and rest of family. nothing brings fulfillment.

    >t. early thirties khhv

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >I no longer have any friends or do anything social due to a sense of shame over my life.
      >i'm not bad looking or anything, but I still feel I have nothing to offer. that feeling has increased with time. further estrangement from society/socializing has increased that feeling.
      >Former friends mis-perceive my ghosting and isolation as me wanting nothing to do with them. It's more that I feel they want nothing to do with me, and I'd rather not make things awkward by making them feel an awkward sense of pity when I'm around.
      Dropped out of college, been a NEET for 3 years, exactly what I'm feeling now.
      I keep on telling myself that this is all just temporary, that I will return to them once I am worthy enough. But day by day I am slowly losing my faith in my ability to do so.
      I've told some of them about my feelings on the matter, and assured them that it wasn't personal. I really hope they believe me.
      In any case I cannot take advantage of their friendship. Either I return worthy, or I don't return at all.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Sounds like you are working in a money making field?
      if so, dont that make you proud over something you do?

      Did you ever try to do self improvements in anyway?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        i've jumped between many fields. every field I just feel a sense of impostor syndrome. that's made worse during COVID, as you are completely estranged from coworkers when most were working remotely when you started. that, and the work is always unfulfilling. always a grass is greener effect, regardless of the job. I felt better when I was digging ditches, as at least then I saw the tangible results of my work. felt that's all I had value doing anyway. Most office/science/engi work just feels like checking off boxes for a feckless bureaucracy, rather than actually achieving anything noteworthy. Always feel the only reason I'm not fired is it's nearly impossible to be fired in the modern age. Constantly feel guilty about the lack of actual work now. This is when I am working what I would consider a dream project when I was a kid. Money doesn't bring fulfillment. Don't really make that much all being said. Still cannot afford a house in this area with just over six-figure salary easily, especially now with overpriced housing. Could - if I had a working wife. That's never going to happen though. Former peers are doing better than me comparatively, financially. My only advantage now is no debt.

        Self-improvement only goes so far. I became fit and started lifting heavily in my late twenties. Made no difference in my life - just got pestered more at weddings more due to not having a date. Didn't have excuses like being fat or unattractive to explain why I'd never had a relationship anymore. Anhedonia ensures most "hobbies" I quickly lose interest in very quickly. I don't get roped into things any more as any social contacts I had fizzled out with time. Too ashamed of my transcripts and things to attempt grad school, after nearly failing out from not going to class for 3+ years in engi. Transcripts look like a bipolar person. Depression and avoidance largely derailed my life starting then, and it's slowly been skidding on the rails since.

  28. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    32, never even tried cause i assume they can all do better, i'm not a bad person i'm just very unremarkable and find navigating though normal like more difficult than other people, i can't even apply for jobs without getting overwhelmed, there's a helpless to me and a lack of awareness of how to function normally irl that is bound to put off most people, this is probably a consequence of mainly being online for the last 20 years

  29. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I turn 25 this week and yes I have

  30. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >other 30 year old khvs in this thread
    as one myself, god i cant imagine what it would be like if we were together. it would be really interesting to see how fellow pathetic autists like me look and act.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      i'd guess quiet with one word responses to questions

  31. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm 30 a khv and have never even been on a date, asked a girl out, hell I don't even think I've had a decent conversation with a girl or woman in my entire life.

    Basically when I got into high school (the time when people start really doing dating/relationships), something changed with me and I became a repellant autistic loser. I no longer had friends, and without friends I didn't really appeal to girls. I think there were a few girls in HS who liked me but without any real social life I was too afraid and uncaring to try to approach them. Then I went to college, no social foundation base, and the same thing happened there, just too afraid to talk to people, too afraid to make friends or girls

    Now I'm 30 with a completely wasted and ruined life with literally zero accomplishments, there is no reason for me to talk to any people, let alone women. I provide nothing of value to my parents, no any potential friends, and absolutely no women. I am waiting to get the courage to kill myself.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Are you me bro
      This is literally me

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        No but I'm sure this is a pretty common story among later age virgins especially on this shithole. People have this flawed idea that guys who are virgins when they are older is due to their looks. I would guess this is the case in like 5-10% of them. In reality pretty much all the causes are because of social retardation.

  32. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    No one here mogs my autism
    >25 y/o kissless virgin
    >6'6 235lb with ripped 6pack, natural jet black hair and ice blue eyes
    >$100k+ salary
    >engineering degree from ivy league school
    >top tier word class athlete
    >was on Olympic team competed in world championships on national team
    >23.5" bideltoid
    >over $400k in savings and no debt
    >train with UFC fighters at the best MMA school in the country
    >technically not virgin because I was raped by two blonde chicks in college when I was blackout drunk and unconcious, woke up with them on top of me in bed
    >had a girl offering to pay me $5 to suck my dick in the bathroom when I was 13 but i declined
    >was anally raped as a child

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      chad-autist-sama I kneel
      But can you explain more about why you are like this

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >>6'6 235lb with ripped 6pack, natural jet black hair and ice blue eyes
      stopped reading there, humblebragging isn't chad-like, it's just annoying, nobody cares that you're retarded

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >>25 y/o kissless virgin
      >was raped by two blonde chicks in college when I was blackout drunk and unconcious,
      >>was anally raped as a child
      virgin in a bill clinton sense of the word

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

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      I don't believe it, even if you are Chris chan-tier you could get a hookup with stats like those

  33. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    I turn 25 this summer and basically have yes. You don't get to my age as a virgin who has never had gf by accident. Clearly I am repulsive to women and my success with them or lack thereof reflects this. I've probably downloaded and redownloaded Tinder, Bumble etc. 10+ times over the years since I was 18. Every time I get <10 matches and get ghosted by the ones I do match with. Last year I got ghosted by a single mother and obese women even though I'm in shape myself. That's how I knew it was truly over. My face is ugly and my mental state is in ruin. I don't even have youth on my side anymore. My life is completely in shambles in basically everyway imaginable. I really wish assisted suicide was legal so genetic abominations like myself could gracefully bow out instead of being tortured by my how unequipped I am to be happy, have a meaningful life, and be successful with women in any way. I want to die so fucking badly. I don't even care if my family is hurt by it anymore. I just want this pain to end.

  34. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I tried, and found out that the women we have in the west are abominable. As flawed as woman's nature is, the west's nurture is what makes them absolutely horrid. So I blacklisted them. Would you try to find a good woman among porn stars? That's what western women are from a non-western reference frame.

    My menu is as such:
    1. Accept total oppression by feminism, near-guarantee of divorce rape and slavery, and high likelyhood of being cuckolded on top, because there is less physical violence in the west (for now). I call this cowardice.
    2. Accept higher risk of physical harm and death in a foreign country in exchange for laws that respect a man's rightful authority over wife and family. I call this adventure.
    3. Decide I'm not interested in family and be an eternal volcel. If my favored non-feminist countries are made uninhabitable or feminism takes off there, then this will be all that remains.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah man, you're a volcel. Totally. Every single woman in the west is just horrible, you're the pinnacle of the male gender that no one is worthy of.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yes, exactly. Seethe more, roastoid.

  35. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I feel sorry for my parents because they're probably never going to have grandkids.

    As for myself, yeah, I've just kind of accepted that I'm repulsive to women and that for me to embarrass myself in front of them makes life worse for everyone involved.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I feel bad for my parents in that respect as well, their only child being such a massive loser. But at the same time I really wonder if being normal was an option for me. My upbringing had very little affection of any of us shown towards each other, I wodner if my parents had a hand in me ending up like this.

      Sometimes I wish I'd had a sibling just to see how they would turn out. Just knowing what my family is like, I cannot imagine my parents having two children to raise.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        lol its like this. they have placed more time into their other kids. you were the one that was pretty much forgotten. so you get used to the whole i dont exist thing. brother has a bunch of girls in his life. other one had a kid. and im the one that had to learn about life on their own.
        parenting is a factor i guess. especially when all you have ever done was take care of yourself. so you then just want someone to care about you

  36. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >have you given up on finding a girlfriend?
    I haven't lmao.
    I'm guess I'm stuck here till I get a real gf.
    better that than getting lobotomized hahahahahha

  37. 2 weeks ago
    The original Amyfag

    No, but it is not a big priority for me, and I probably would not date a non virgin.

  38. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    my bf is 26 and im 20

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      what does that have to do with anythingf

  39. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    >have you given up
    It never started. Never been at a point in life where dating was really an option. By the time I get my shit sorted I'll be over 30 and I don't know how I'm going to manage dating that late with no experience.

  40. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    31 here. I used to be a beta, but a normie, and I fit in with normal people even if they used me as their weird friend. I used to have friends at least. I can't explain how much worse things can get, incrementally, without you even noticing. I went from being an autonomous, self-reliant person with unremarkable looks to a dependent fat slob. Some days I can't leave bed, I get this anxiety that is all physical. I'm not actually afraid of anything but my fight/flight kicks in. I black out and become convinced my heart has stopped. During the good times it's just extreme isolation. Since covid started, I've spoken to 28 people in person who aren't family members, and that's counting saying thank you to a clerk or someone delivering. That number should also be around the number of times I've left my house to go to a location, rather than walk around avoiding people. I watch other normal people laugh and interact and I genuinely believe I can't reintegrate, it's another world to me. So yeah I've given up on a gf, there's nothing for anybody in me. Every day is worse. If you get any inkling that you're going down this path, don't let it happen, find someone or do something to prevent it. It just gets worse and there's no redemption arc to go on. You can genuinely become too fucked up and isolated to be human. Don't indulge yourself, go back, I can't overstate every day gets worse and you have to be present for them. You're stuck there until you have a nice day. Let me be your lesson because if you learn it yourself, it's too late. I don't drink or do any drugs, I don't smoke, I don't do anything. I don't deserve this but it can't change

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      im on this path at 30 in fact i am already there.
      > I don't drink or do any drugs, I don't smoke, I don't do anything.
      same, always amazes me how "normies" always seem to need drugs and alcohol and shit to "tolerate" their great lives, i odnt get it.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      35 here. I was never normal by any standard. In fact, the only people who wanted to hang out with me, wound up becoming severely mentally ill, druggies, or a combo. Eventually I decided I'd rather regret doing drugs than not, and frankly it's an easy in for when the wrong crowd forms. Similar to how smoking is an icebreaker for normal degenerates. I wouldn't want to get close with these kinds of people, so it's rather pointless actually. I stopped looking for a gf a long time ago. I had a kid when I turned 20, which flipped a switch in my head I guess. Nowadays I pass as an eccentric at best, but I have just about no social interest. I've come to think that people in general just suck, and while I know it's mostly down to my own attitude, I can't for the life of me imagine meeting anyone with enough in common for that to no longer be the case, so I've also resigned myself to never bothering with getting to know new people. My dad suggests I do shrooms to snap out of it.

  41. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I don't even really see a point in trying anymore. Like I'm 30 years old and a virgin, I've already missed out on 15 years of sex in my physical prime, there's no chance of me ever dating a hot early 20s girl, and it only gets worse from here. May as well just embrace the loneliness.

  42. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    35 here. At a certain point, I just put lower on my list of priorities. I still with my parents, don't own a car, and am balding. It would take a significant amount of time and change just to talk to women. I really dont see the point. Maybe if I had nothing going in my life, then perhaps there would be some motivation.

  43. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    36 here, not even so much as a first date

    gave up a long time ago because i always knew this was how it would end

  44. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    not a virgin. only had sex once. never been in a relation.
    i dont care. i mean ive tried talking to women alot of them were mean for no reason so now i just dont. no reason to try and talk to a woman because theyll straight up grab a water bottle and ask you if youre thirsty and shame you for even talking to them. yes this did happen to me XD

  45. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    I've never given up on that but right now I put less effort into it that's for sure.
    Weirdly enough, I have good friends, nice stable job and have no issues talking to new people. People actually seem to like me. But I never got any reciprocity or romantic interest from girls. I don't have regrets over what could have been or whatever because I was always ugly and I don't think any girl was ever into me.
    What fucks with my brain is how I have no reason to be an incel but still am despite everything.

  46. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    28: I more or less have. I don't think there's anyone out there for me. I know how this ends too: my family will "forcibly persuade" me to marry one of their friends' daughters, not giving a single fuck if either of us are into it, just so they can play inter-family political fuck-fuck games in the retirement home. After all, how could they possibly be wrong? No sane girl would ever tolerate me or the shit I do for fun.
    I will get a fucking doctorate before getting a date because someone actually likes me at this rate.

  47. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    I don't know if I've given up, but at this point it just seems like one more problem on top of the mountain of misery that is my life. When I hear of people I knew a long time ago and where they are now, married with kids, owning homes, being successful, it just feels so unattainable. It's as if everything I ever tried in my life just blows up in my face, without fail, every single time. I will probably be homeless soon and the only thing that gives me pleasure is getting blackout drunk and dancing around my room listening to music. I really want someone to hug and talk to, but it's just a pipe dream now. I couldn't get a woman to give me the time of day back then, and they still won't look at me now. I'm a complete and utter failure. All I look forward to is the next night of getting drunk. I hope other robots don't end up like me.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

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      >the only thing that gives me pleasure is getting blackout drunk and dancing around my room listening to music

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

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        I don't know if I've given up, but at this point it just seems like one more problem on top of the mountain of misery that is my life. When I hear of people I knew a long time ago and where they are now, married with kids, owning homes, being successful, it just feels so unattainable. It's as if everything I ever tried in my life just blows up in my face, without fail, every single time. I will probably be homeless soon and the only thing that gives me pleasure is getting blackout drunk and dancing around my room listening to music. I really want someone to hug and talk to, but it's just a pipe dream now. I couldn't get a woman to give me the time of day back then, and they still won't look at me now. I'm a complete and utter failure. All I look forward to is the next night of getting drunk. I hope other robots don't end up like me.

        >the only thing that gives me pleasure is getting blackout drunk and dancing around my room listening to music

        This is so true it hurts to me.

  48. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Like many in this thread, I never really put in the effort. Partying and stuff never appealed to me, dating apps seem closer to job interviews than a romantic ideal, and, at least recently, I have basically no interaction with women in my day-to-day life.
    I sort of regret not being a bit less of a coward in middle school/high school and go further with girls I clearly hit it off with -- one even told me years later "I can't believe I used to have a crush on you". But all of that is in the past.

    I have given up in the sense that I am not actively looking for a woman. Quite frankly, I don't even know how that could play out -- am I just going to tell her that I am developmentally stunted and have no idea about dating or sex or relationships in general? I doubt most would put up with that.
    To be perfectly honest, I am also not all that happy about myself in many regards. Despite being 30 years old, I still don't really know what to do with the rest of my life. Just playing vidya and waiting around to die while making a bit of money at my engineering job sounds like a dreadful way to spend the next 30 years. I want to focus on actually becoming somebody I can be proud of, and lead a meaningful life that I am comfortable with.

  49. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I actually found one yesterday
    T. 28 who had given up completely

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      tell us how it happened please

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Met her online, she came over, we hooked up and now date. It went pretty quick but it's easy to tell that there is a strong mutual affection and attraction so it feels right

  50. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >have you given up on finding a girlfriend?
    gave up at 17

  51. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    never even tried, it was over from the start

  52. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    It's not exactly ''giving up'' because i'm still open minded, i stopped caring.
    Every single piece of effort or intent is completely one sided from my direction.
    I've been in a couple friend-groups, i even led one.
    Women say you only like us for our vagina, well i'm having a really hard time to find anything else to like.
    90% of your time is spent with a phone on the couch scrolling through social media and glamour, your humor and drunken state resembles 12 y olds who think they are the funniest in the world. You have no morals, no reflection, no accountability, no desire for any deeper topic that challenges your mainstream way of thinking, you go crazy at literally any dance party or ebonic music.
    I decided that i value my freedom above anything else, and it actually did help me out throughout my life. I'm getting built, earning more, getting better at convos.
    I see girls looking at me from my eyecorners but i don't want to be with a woman.
    I know she isn't going to improve my life in any way, only take until she is bored and shops for the next one. I'm still open to a genuine girl who fits with me, i don't care if she's a 6.
    But i turned off anything that has to do with looking for women and i feel happier now i'm building up my own world.

  53. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Pretty much. If it didnt happen in 30 years then its practically no chance now.
    t. wizard

  54. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

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    >Have you given up on finding a gf.
    Yeah. I don't care anymore.
    Some girls have tried to hit on me.
    I don't date single moms though.
    Street trash should stay in the streets.

  55. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Pretty much. Girls simply bore me, there's no way I'm going to put up with their bullshit just for access to a pussy.

  56. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Will be 25 in a couple of months and I have given up on relationships a long time ago. Never dated, never kissed a girl, never held hands nor anything of the sort.
    Funny thing I am actually reasonably functional in society, my autism works well for my field of study/work and I even coordinate a small group of people, some of whom are female. Still, while I can interact decently enough to do my job, I can't get to really care about them on a deeper level or connect with anyone to the point of wanting a relationship with them. Feels weird being broken in this way.

  57. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i feel like i was always too busy to have a gf befre and pretty inadequate. I wasnt financially stable, was a late bloomer so i looked 16 when i was 22, and honestly had no personality other than playing videogames and doing well in school. I learned quite a lot in my 3 years since graduation about life thorugh reading, traveling a bit, living on my own. I think I just got ready to start looking. I started lifting, am doing my masters at a top 10 school, working for a good company with good career growth. In fact this one girl from work who is about 23/24 has been flirting with me and im considering asking her out. Only thing is i dont see it going anywhere other than being friends.

  58. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i gave up years ago lmao. i just work, save money, pursue hobbies, and take care of myself. i learned to be mostly happy being by myself.

  59. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    26 KHHV and never tried to get a gf. It never "just happened" for me.
    My hobbies and workplace are 100% male, I can't remember the last time I spoke to a woman who wasn't a cashier

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