To be in a relationship with someone you completely fell out of love with and honestly dislike more every day or to be completely alone, no gf, no friends, no one?
To be in a relationship with someone you completely fell out of love with and honestly dislike more every day or to be completely alone, no gf, no fri...
The latter
Yeah just break up if you aren't happy. You'll miss the life you left behind but it's not worth subjecting yourself to the presence of someone you dislike
it's just that I realized she was pretending to be someone she's not. We don't share interests, humor, personality, hobbies, preference for friends, intellectual capabilities...
She tried her best to fake it but it's obvious and I can't pretend I don't see it.
I've never been more disappointed in a person.
But I also have absolutely no one besides her, who will take me out of my home a few times a week if she's not there anymore?
Dude you're literally in my shoes a week ago. This girl was being totally fake, trying to impress me, superficially saying she was into my interests then being clearly bored and changing the subject. The sex was great and her home was a nice change of scenery, we even made plans for me to move in which would have relieved a huge financial burden for me but at a certain point I just snapped with her lack of genuine interest in anything and dumped her. I had to morn the comfort in the routine we'd developed. I'm genuinely anxious right now without because I'm alone but I feel a sense of pride that I got her out of my life. I knew that she wasn't going to add anything that I truly value to my life. She was going to remove some obstacles for me and provided simple comfort. But she didn't respect my words, my privacy, my boundaries or my interests. If a girl can't do that then I'm better off single
Exact same situation here, she tries to fake being interested in my hobbies but she just isn't, she can't remember the simplest things about it or show interest. I can't take the fakeness. And she does it because she TRULY loves me.
>I knew that she wasn't going to add anything that I truly value to my life
But she's adding 1 thing in my case, a person to go out with, if it wasn't for her I'd never leave my room, I don't have anyone I don't want to be alone, halloween's coming up who do I watch horror movies with? New Years coming, right after that my birthday... I don't want to be alone during those.
For the past 4 years I've had someone for these occasions, 4 different relationships, with current girlfriend for about 8 months
I don't know what to tell you. For me going out alone is a bit lonely (and a bit scary in my town), worse than going out with someone you have true fidelity with but better than going out with someone who literally can't/won't get on your wavelength
Stop thinking your gf needs to be a literal copy of yours, you know who is a complete copy of.yours? A man, so now you want to date a man? nagger, women like complete different things and thus have complete different personality traits from men, and marriage is not a walk in the park, so dating is like a test drive to see if you can deal with marriage
>duuude just keep spending your time around someone who makes you unhappy
>what are you gay?
My point is dont try to think a woman needs to pass your checklist of perfect girl because if you think like that you will be forever alone, but if you want that, then its your fucking problem, dont fucking cry later when your feeling sad and alone
you have never been in a relationship
Lol actually had one and like most homosexuals here it was perfect in the beggining but a nightmare in the end, and i truly identify myself in many posts here, my girl didnt gave a fuck about my interests when it was about to end, we hated each other but couldnt say to each other because of comfort zone i guess
You guys should listen to Sam Hyde, lol
so we can complain about women all day on the internet and never get dates? dumb zoomer has no idea that some of us were around when sam was just doing comedy and didn't have to resort to bullshit self-help patreon subscriptions aimed at teenage boys.
women have successfully convinced men that they things *they* want from us should be what *we* want from them, and it couldn't be further from the truth. worry about finding a girl that's into you and doesn't give you problems, who the fuck cares what movies she likes?
Well if you likes her, you should at least pretend you like the movies she does, it is kinda humiliating pretending you like some romantic movie? YES, Do i make the rules? Unless im dead rich, NO, It is what it is, cope and seethe
No, the first guy is right. the magic lady that has all of the same interests as you, shares your politics, acts the way you want them to act, is just a man with the body of a women. And that's pretty gay that you want to date a guy that just looks like a girl.
Women really are their own species, a half of humanity with flaws and privilages totally ailien to us.
Chances are, you're a shitty, flawed person. and you're trying get into a life long partnership with another shitty, flawed person, who you can't even understand the machinations of because you 2 have completely different hormone profiles. if you think that this is a recipe for an easy time you're retarded. It's a recipe for self-improvment. We don't go to the gym to have an easy time, we go and give ourselves a hard time on purpose to make ourselves stronger, into better people.
As a man, becoming a better person means becoming a bit more feminine, and shedding some bad traits that you came into the relationship with. They only way to do that is with a person who is /different/ than you, not similar.
I've been struggling with this quite a lot recently. me and my wife met in middle school, we've been in a relationship for 10 years now, got married a few months back.
We're so, so different as people. She's a vegan, I think that's really stupid. She's decidedly liberal and very pro-lgbt, I'm the opposite of both of those. She's depressed all of the time and it seems like she doesn't have a purpose in life. I'm not perfect in that respect but I've never seriously considered suicide.
I get stuck in these thought loops when I'm at work about how much I don't like elements of her personality, or about how i want to have a ton of kids and she doesn't want any. My cope so far has been
>1. we have such a special relationship, one that's gone from childhood to adulthood and we know eachother so well. other people would kill to have a chance at a relationship like ours and we've put so much work into it.
2. The girl that i would HYPOTHETICALLY be happier with is a fictional conservative housewife anime girl that probably doesn't actually exist.
The sex is pretty bad too. I'm begining to think that porn isn't helping, but it's also the only really satisfying sexual release that I have. she likes it when I help her masturbate, but from what I can tell she really doesn't like sex.
anyways, all of this is to say, I think my expectations for my GF, now wife, are too high, and I could probably put some work into myself too to make me into a better man and husband.
Compatibility is overrated. Similar to physical attraction, it'll get you over the initial hump and give you an excuse to start a relationship with a person, and might smooth out some of the bumps along the way, but the bulk of what makes up a healthy long term relationship is knowing tour partner well, going through hardships with them, and molding youself around them as you change with age, and having them do the same thing for you. You WILL change with time. insisting on not changing yourself to better fit with the ones you love is just self-centered garbage.
I still worry that she won;t have my back if things get REALLY tough, or if I choose some carreer path that's unstable, and I know that she's one of the most unstable people I know. If for some reason I'm not there to support her, I really don;t know how long she would last on her own, and that scares me. But these "ride or die" chicks really sound like they come out of fantasy. Maybe there is some girl out there for me that's WAY better for me, but I can't just throw away the treasure that I have for a slim change at something that might now exist.