Recently got out of an abusive relationship with a women with Borderline Personality Disorder.
I attempted suicide twice. Saw her with a new man and it destroyed me. I can tell you some advice that helped me.
First and foremost is self-care. Start taking care of your appearance. Find a skincare routine. Brush your teeth. Fucking Floss! Go to a really nice barber and get some sick fucking haircut that you always wanted.
Second, start hitting the fucking gym. I'm a powerlifter (lol meme). I never do arms, but you know what? I fucking hit arms. I fucking hit abs. I want to not only perform like a monster, but I want to look like a monster too. I want to be a fucking slayer.
Lastly, I started to read a lot of fucking books. I'm currently reading 2 books at the same time. One self-help book (mostly on shit that I need to work out that got me into an abusive situation) and a fiction book to help me become more "worldly."
Honestly though, time will make everything better. I had an abusive relationship so I had to put the work in to stop being depressed. It's been 8 months and I had to move to a new state to get over her bullshit. Not quite as dramatic as a regular break-up, but hopefully some of my advice may help.
>you, twice, used some pussy method you knew deep down would fail so. you could bitch and moan. This is BPD
Are you making the statement that everyone that attempts suicide has BPD? Are you making the statement that nobody without BPD will attempt suicide?
He's making the statement that if you want to do an hero you do it properly. If you "attempt", you never wanted to unalive yourself, you just wanted attention.
Greg douche is basically living proof that there’s no point in lifting as a manlet. He couldn’t even keep that ugly goblins woman with being jacked and on roids with millions of dollars
My ex is a stupid incompetent bitch
And will always fail in life due to her own stupidity
She is so stupid to the point that she has had tens of thousands maybe even hundreds of thousands worth of help
Yet ended up an objective failure.
I get satisfaction knowing this
Just need to remind yourself that she is not who you thought she was. She just cased you, learned what you want in a woman and pretended to be exactly that to extract as much attention and validation from you as possible.
That's it, that's all it was. It's the simplest, oldest chick scam. Gas up some loser, and he'll show you what he values. Pretend to be that and he'll give you anything you want.
You think you lost a gf, more accurately you lost a fake Internet gf who kept breaking plans to meet.
Spiritually she is a pajeet scammer, trying to maximise on gift cards she could get from you by tailoring her persona to the values you showed her that you appreciate.
You got scammed, but you've already lost all you are going to lose. It's nothing personal, she's just doing what scorpions do.
Focus on not letting that happen again in future. If you miss her you're not understanding the situation.
This pic is actually crazy accurate. Ive been in a relationship with a girl with bpd for nearly 3 years and i cant seem to break it off because despite getting treated like shit much of the time as soon as she starts pulling on my heartstrings i fail. Gotta do it eventually i guess. But i feel emotionally dead inside
You can't help people like that anon. You can't undo the hurt that made them like this, and its really sad to say because I think I understand them better than most people, having abandonment-based tics of my own.
But there's just no fixing it. You can be nice, understanding and make concessions, but you can't unfuck their childhood or their value systems.
They're broken. They never learned how to genuinely love, and its natural to feel bad for them and want to save them, but in the end they are simply scorpions who will drown you both, they can't help it.
Sadly common.
Kids are very sensitive to abandonment, and everything you experience before age 5 or 6, you think is your own doing.
Parent is away or ignores you? Your fault
Parents angry? Your fault
I grew up thinking I was bad because my parents were unhappy with their lives. The only way to get my mum to like me was to listen to her cry about her life and promise her that i wouldnt turn out like my father.
Didn't realise it until I stopped to wonder why I would forever tie myself to broken, moody girls who'd take their whole day out on me, why I'd be such a doormat for progressive men-hating women.
Hard thing to shake off, so BPDs absolutely have my sympathy, but I can't let them in.
There's nothing you can do intentionally that would actually help you in a measurable way.
I'm an old man, I'm 38. I went though more breakups from the serious relationships than some of you boys had lays in total. It really doesn't matter if you >hit the gym, run 20 km, ohp your bench etc etc >drink and fight randos >drink and cry like a little bitch >take really good care of yourself and iron your bedsheets >dress in sweatpants and hoodies exclusively and only leave house after 9pm
None of it matters if you got too attached and showed/got some real love. You'll always remember her, and her, and her. Just enjoy it while it lasts, thank God you had it, and "it is what it is" it off when it's over.
There’s no pussy like new pussy
>Tips for coping with a breakup?
Never invest more than you're willing to lose.
>There’s no pussy like new pussy
Good advice too.
Suicide
you just posted a gay narcissist who really doesn't care except if it makes him look bad. so yeah, be a gay narcissist.
Shane Hunt won.
Recently got out of an abusive relationship with a women with Borderline Personality Disorder.
I attempted suicide twice. Saw her with a new man and it destroyed me. I can tell you some advice that helped me.
First and foremost is self-care. Start taking care of your appearance. Find a skincare routine. Brush your teeth. Fucking Floss! Go to a really nice barber and get some sick fucking haircut that you always wanted.
Second, start hitting the fucking gym. I'm a powerlifter (lol meme). I never do arms, but you know what? I fucking hit arms. I fucking hit abs. I want to not only perform like a monster, but I want to look like a monster too. I want to be a fucking slayer.
Lastly, I started to read a lot of fucking books. I'm currently reading 2 books at the same time. One self-help book (mostly on shit that I need to work out that got me into an abusive situation) and a fiction book to help me become more "worldly."
Honestly though, time will make everything better. I had an abusive relationship so I had to put the work in to stop being depressed. It's been 8 months and I had to move to a new state to get over her bullshit. Not quite as dramatic as a regular break-up, but hopefully some of my advice may help.
Brush my teeth? Woah. Never thought of doing that one before. Thanks bro, you just blew my mind. Gonna start brushing my teeth from now on.
nta but nice unnecessary reddit aggression you utter homosexual
good for you dude. these things are hard to get over. im impressed by your attitude. keep trucking along, YGMI
I dated a crazy abusive bitch also. Shit sucks. There's good women though
>I attempted suicide twice.
you are the one with BPD, or at least you have it too. This is part of the diagnosis/
How did you try to kill yourself? If a man wants to kill himself he will get a gun and blow his brains out or jump off a tall building over concrete
you, twice, used some pussy method you knew deep down would fail so. you could bitch and moan. This is BPD
>you, twice, used some pussy method you knew deep down would fail so. you could bitch and moan. This is BPD
Are you making the statement that everyone that attempts suicide has BPD? Are you making the statement that nobody without BPD will attempt suicide?
He's making the statement that if you want to do an hero you do it properly. If you "attempt", you never wanted to unalive yourself, you just wanted attention.
Are you making the statement that anyone that does so is BPD?
>be a fucking slayer.
cringe
>Lifting for this
JFC
Greg douche is basically living proof that there’s no point in lifting as a manlet. He couldn’t even keep that ugly goblins woman with being jacked and on roids with millions of dollars
adderall + modafinil + red bull + gym baby
works for me every time.
My ex is a stupid incompetent bitch
And will always fail in life due to her own stupidity
She is so stupid to the point that she has had tens of thousands maybe even hundreds of thousands worth of help
Yet ended up an objective failure.
I get satisfaction knowing this
Just need to remind yourself that she is not who you thought she was. She just cased you, learned what you want in a woman and pretended to be exactly that to extract as much attention and validation from you as possible.
That's it, that's all it was. It's the simplest, oldest chick scam. Gas up some loser, and he'll show you what he values. Pretend to be that and he'll give you anything you want.
You think you lost a gf, more accurately you lost a fake Internet gf who kept breaking plans to meet.
Spiritually she is a pajeet scammer, trying to maximise on gift cards she could get from you by tailoring her persona to the values you showed her that you appreciate.
You got scammed, but you've already lost all you are going to lose. It's nothing personal, she's just doing what scorpions do.
Focus on not letting that happen again in future. If you miss her you're not understanding the situation.
You forget she banged 3 dudes between phase 2 and 4
He should've done the same
This pic is actually crazy accurate. Ive been in a relationship with a girl with bpd for nearly 3 years and i cant seem to break it off because despite getting treated like shit much of the time as soon as she starts pulling on my heartstrings i fail. Gotta do it eventually i guess. But i feel emotionally dead inside
You can't help people like that anon. You can't undo the hurt that made them like this, and its really sad to say because I think I understand them better than most people, having abandonment-based tics of my own.
But there's just no fixing it. You can be nice, understanding and make concessions, but you can't unfuck their childhood or their value systems.
They're broken. They never learned how to genuinely love, and its natural to feel bad for them and want to save them, but in the end they are simply scorpions who will drown you both, they can't help it.
There's a few people I knew of that did that. Guys and girls, jesus.
Sadly common.
Kids are very sensitive to abandonment, and everything you experience before age 5 or 6, you think is your own doing.
Parent is away or ignores you? Your fault
Parents angry? Your fault
I grew up thinking I was bad because my parents were unhappy with their lives. The only way to get my mum to like me was to listen to her cry about her life and promise her that i wouldnt turn out like my father.
Didn't realise it until I stopped to wonder why I would forever tie myself to broken, moody girls who'd take their whole day out on me, why I'd be such a doormat for progressive men-hating women.
Hard thing to shake off, so BPDs absolutely have my sympathy, but I can't let them in.
Greg is infertile because of roids. He needs to date single mothers from now on instead of damning some poor young woman to spinsterhood.
There's nothing you can do intentionally that would actually help you in a measurable way.
I'm an old man, I'm 38. I went though more breakups from the serious relationships than some of you boys had lays in total. It really doesn't matter if you
>hit the gym, run 20 km, ohp your bench etc etc
>drink and fight randos
>drink and cry like a little bitch
>take really good care of yourself and iron your bedsheets
>dress in sweatpants and hoodies exclusively and only leave house after 9pm
None of it matters if you got too attached and showed/got some real love. You'll always remember her, and her, and her. Just enjoy it while it lasts, thank God you had it, and "it is what it is" it off when it's over.