Should you become confident before attempting dating? What if you can't become confident at all?

Should you become confident before attempting dating? What if you can't become confident at all?

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >Should you become confident before attempting dating?
    Absolutely yes

    >What if you can't become confident at all?
    You have to try. If you try dating while lacking confidence you are going to get yourself in a world of pain. You wont be able to set healthy boundaries and you will attract those who also lack confidence putting yourself in the position for any number of toxic relationships.

    t. got a gf while still lack confidence

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    If you’re a guy, yes. If a girl, no.

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Getting a girlfriend helps immensely. You should find someone who also lacks confidence just like you and learn how to manage a relationship. If you keep waiting you will come here ten years later saying you're 30 y-o KKHV and ask what went wrong.

    It will also make you realize having a relationship isn't that much of a big deal after the first month and you will have a much healthier relationship with women, as friends or acquittances, after this. I hate to say this but it also raises your social status so finding another girlfriend down the road becomes much easier.

    t. currently have a relationship with a girl who is also like me and you

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >Getting a girlfriend helps immensely.
      Absolutely fricking not, maybe if you get extremely lucky but your far more likely to feel worse off

      >You should find someone who also lacks confidence just like you
      Absolutely terrible idea, bordering on trolling. This is the source of almost every toxic codependent relationship

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Are you an incel, trolling, or slampig, feeling threatened by my last sentence?
        >toxic codependent relationship
        Amerilards are fricking moronic. Stop browsing reddit. The only way to get better is to start somewhere.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Im none of those things, its just I tried to do exactly that and ended up in a toxic relationship for over a year with a girl who has just as low a self-esteem as I did

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            So are you in a healthy relationship right now?

            American website. Get shelled, slavBlack person

            Wider than you, Gomez.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >So are you in a healthy relationship right now?
            No, Im trying to get out of this terrible toxic relationship my insecure ass has been coping about for a year now

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            That's too bad because I've been pretty happy with my girlfriend. Better break up and find someone else, hm?

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            I will, but before I start dating again I am going to work on myself and gain confidence so I dont put myself in this position again. The exact position I am trying to help OP avoid. If you are a weak insecure man you will get eaten alive.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            What makes your relationship toxic? Does she treat you like shit knowing that you have NO other options or flirt with other men to frick with you?

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Just the typical BPD type codependent relationship. Nothing out of the ordinary from that

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Alright what's the issue then moron?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          American website. Get shelled, slavBlack person

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Go back to twitter. People like you are ruining lives.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Im literally speaking from experience. If OP wants to get his insecure ass into a relationship he can. But odds are it will end up terribly.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            He needs to be social and he needs to try (and fail) to learn. Confidence cannot exist without failure.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >He needs to be social
            I agree, but jumping head first into dating is not where he should start

            Alright what's the issue then moron?

            If you like toxic codependent relationships with bpd women I guess theres no problem

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Im confident that your a gayet

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Confidence is just the belief that you are attractive enough that the girl you are talking to wants to have sex with you of her own volition. Not because you tricked her into it or because she is getting something out of it. Treat her like somebody that legitimately wants to have sex with you but is waiting for you to make a move. Make your intentions clear from the start.

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Confidence is gained by healthy living, money in your pocket, and socializing. (Not online)
    If you have to change careers to have one of these things you should consider it. Ex: Office jobs suck but they force you to talk to bored normies. Thats an enormous advantage.

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    You'll never lose all insecurity. Confidence is when you start taking action despite feeling insecure

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I’m a dude who is handsome and tall and my family has money. Getting laid doesn’t increase your confidence. What the ugly homosexuals on this board don’t tell you (because they never got to that point) is that women will rip your heart out after you’re dating and you fricked their brains out because they then pay attention to who you are and then they realize “oh shit this dude is a nerd” and bail because you’re not the biggest swinging dick in the room 24/7 and you start to share what kind of person you’re really like after you get comfortable. I’ve fricked 12 girls this year already, each bailed after about a week because I got comfortable and let them in a bit.

    Confidence is a spectrum. You put me in a bar or club and I’m a badass. You put me in bed, naked, post-coitus and I’m thinking the girl I’m with is sweet and I get vulnerable and honest. Confidence is not anything that checks a series of boxes. Every man struggles with insecurity at times. Confidence will fail you. The solution is to not give a shit when it happens since it happens to everybody.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      That's a you issue to be honest.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Well, yeah. This is who I meet. If I could land a girl who is actually sweet and nice then I wouldn’t bother with all this bullshit.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I mean, this is what I get. Is it really a me problem at this point?

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