Should you become confident before attempting dating? What if you can't become confident at all?
Should you become confident before attempting dating? What if you can't become confident at all?
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>Should you become confident before attempting dating?
Absolutely yes
>What if you can't become confident at all?
You have to try. If you try dating while lacking confidence you are going to get yourself in a world of pain. You wont be able to set healthy boundaries and you will attract those who also lack confidence putting yourself in the position for any number of toxic relationships.
t. got a gf while still lack confidence
If you’re a guy, yes. If a girl, no.
Getting a girlfriend helps immensely. You should find someone who also lacks confidence just like you and learn how to manage a relationship. If you keep waiting you will come here ten years later saying you're 30 y-o KKHV and ask what went wrong.
It will also make you realize having a relationship isn't that much of a big deal after the first month and you will have a much healthier relationship with women, as friends or acquittances, after this. I hate to say this but it also raises your social status so finding another girlfriend down the road becomes much easier.
t. currently have a relationship with a girl who is also like me and you
>Getting a girlfriend helps immensely.
Absolutely fucking not, maybe if you get extremely lucky but your far more likely to feel worse off
>You should find someone who also lacks confidence just like you
Absolutely terrible idea, bordering on trolling. This is the source of almost every toxic codependent relationship
Are you an incel, trolling, or slampig, feeling threatened by my last sentence?
>toxic codependent relationship
Amerilards are fucking retarded. Stop browsing reddit. The only way to get better is to start somewhere.
Im none of those things, its just I tried to do exactly that and ended up in a toxic relationship for over a year with a girl who has just as low a self-esteem as I did
So are you in a healthy relationship right now?
Wider than you, Gomez.
>So are you in a healthy relationship right now?
No, Im trying to get out of this terrible toxic relationship my insecure ass has been coping about for a year now
That's too bad because I've been pretty happy with my girlfriend. Better break up and find someone else, hm?
I will, but before I start dating again I am going to work on myself and gain confidence so I dont put myself in this position again. The exact position I am trying to help OP avoid. If you are a weak insecure man you will get eaten alive.
What makes your relationship toxic? Does she treat you like shit knowing that you have NO other options or flirt with other men to fuck with you?
Just the typical BPD type codependent relationship. Nothing out of the ordinary from that
Alright what's the issue then retard?
American website. Get shelled, slavnagger
Go back to twitter. People like you are ruining lives.
Im literally speaking from experience. If OP wants to get his insecure ass into a relationship he can. But odds are it will end up terribly.
He needs to be social and he needs to try (and fail) to learn. Confidence cannot exist without failure.
>He needs to be social
I agree, but jumping head first into dating is not where he should start
If you like toxic codependent relationships with bpd women I guess theres no problem
Im confident that your a faget
Confidence is just the belief that you are attractive enough that the girl you are talking to wants to have sex with you of her own volition. Not because you tricked her into it or because she is getting something out of it. Treat her like somebody that legitimately wants to have sex with you but is waiting for you to make a move. Make your intentions clear from the start.
Confidence is gained by healthy living, money in your pocket, and socializing. (Not online)
If you have to change careers to have one of these things you should consider it. Ex: Office jobs suck but they force you to talk to bored normies. Thats an enormous advantage.
You'll never lose all insecurity. Confidence is when you start taking action despite feeling insecure
I’m a dude who is handsome and tall and my family has money. Getting laid doesn’t increase your confidence. What the ugly homosexuals on this board don’t tell you (because they never got to that point) is that women will rip your heart out after you’re dating and you fucked their brains out because they then pay attention to who you are and then they realize “oh shit this dude is a nerd” and bail because you’re not the biggest swinging dick in the room 24/7 and you start to share what kind of person you’re really like after you get comfortable. I’ve fucked 12 girls this year already, each bailed after about a week because I got comfortable and let them in a bit.
Confidence is a spectrum. You put me in a bar or club and I’m a badass. You put me in bed, naked, post-coitus and I’m thinking the girl I’m with is sweet and I get vulnerable and honest. Confidence is not anything that checks a series of boxes. Every man struggles with insecurity at times. Confidence will fail you. The solution is to not give a shit when it happens since it happens to everybody.
That's a you issue to be honest.
Well, yeah. This is who I meet. If I could land a girl who is actually sweet and nice then I wouldn’t bother with all this bullshit.
I mean, this is what I get. Is it really a me problem at this point?