About two weeks ago, I had the best date of my life. She is probably the most beautiful woman I've ever laid eyes on and is my ideal type in every way. Imagine Anna Saia (pic related), but 6'0 tall, and with 38DDD breasts. The first thing she did when we met was give me freshly baked pretzel bread. I almost cried because I usually bake something for my dates and was the first time someone had ever made something for me. She also paid for everything on our date, despite my protests and attempts to pay.
We were only going to get boba tea and spend maybe an hour or two together, but we decided to keep things going. We talked about everything and nothing at the same time. When things were about to end, she said that she didn't want the day to end and asked if I had any ideas. We ended up going on a 2 hour drive and went stargazing. We cuddled, talked about ourselves, and had sex underneath the stars. She told me that she really liked me, and we deleted our dating apps together. She let me borrow her hoodie, and it smelled like her perfume. It felt like we were living in a movie.
Last week, she went on vacation to her hometown, and we couldn't see each other. I tried texting her, but her responses were very sporadic. There were times where she didn't respond for a few days. I started to worry that she was losing interest. I texted her maybe 4 messages one day with no response. At this point, I had assumed that she lost interest, but wasn't sure. I re-downloaded Bumble to check if she had been using it (the location changes when you reopen the app), and sure enough she was. She had used it at her brother's house, at the airport, and at her apartment. I assumed that she lost interest, so I texted her one last time on the day that she was supposed to get back, thanking her for the positive outlook on dating that she gave me and that I would appreciate it if I could get some of my things back and drop her hoodie off. I got no response.
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On Saturday, I finally got a text back. She asked me to come over on Sunday so I could pick up my belongings and drop off the hoodie. I agreed.
When I got there, I received an explanation for what happened. She was on a retreat with her cousin and that she was away from her phone for a while. She had forgotten to tell me, and said that she needs to work on being a better communicator. When I asked about her using Bumble, she said that she wanted to find the profile of the girl her brother was dating to see how bad it was. I'm not sure if I believe her, but that's what she told me.
She also told me that the reason why she didn't respond to my text when she got back was because of a bad situation happening with her childhood best friend. He had been house/cat sitting for her during the vacation, and he trashed the place. They got into several arguments, and she had enough. She told him that she's going to her room, and he has five minutes to leave before she calls the police. He kicked her door down, held her down, and tried forcing himself on her before he stopped. After that, she withdrew from all their mutual friend groups, all her DnD campaigns, and is considering quitting her job as he is her coworker and they share the same shifts.
We ended up cuddling for about two hours and kissed several times. She asked if I was busy that day, and if I wanted to go to the farmer's market with her. I agreed, but she later went back on it. She decided that she wanted to take a break from dating for a while so we could both deal with our issues because it's unfair to me that I date her in her current state. She promised me that if we're both single by Halloween, we would give it another shot. We hugged, and I left with my belongings. She then sent pic related after I had left.
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She maybe liked you but being a redhead with big tits she probably wants to get dicked some more before entering a relationship with you. Honestly I'd try to forget about it, you went on a few dates and she already caused drama. If Halloween comes around and she tries to get close again, and if you still care about it, go for it, try to meet new girls in the meantime.
Keep in mind I'm a 26 year old virgin incel, it's very likely this is terrible advice.
>She decided that she wanted to take a break from dating for a while so we could both deal with our issues because it's unfair to me that I date her in her current state.
Oh yeah my GF used to tell me this too. One, I'm guessing this girl has BPD. Two, never take "No" as an answer here, especially considering the circumstances. Express to her that time is fleeting, you like her and she likes you, that is more than enough for the start of a relationship, and asking for time means hoping that circumstances won't change.
She's torn because she wants to like you, but society and women tell her she needs to fuck around and mourn a past relationship until she just hops into a relationship with the next guy she sees because the gloom is killing her. This woman has no idea what she wants/needs and it's your job to convince her to stop playing around with your feelings and focus on the future with you. Even if it's a gamble, she would be doing herself more good gambling on a potential love than sitting around to reach the epiphany of "Oh, I should have dated that one guy I had a connection with years ago".
So recap: cut through her BS, tell her to just try you out for both your sakes and if you're not good then no harm, no foul. But if you do work out, then why wait when you could be building something? Tell her how much you liked her and wanted to find out more about her situation, tell her you'd be alone and focused on yourself, and you're epiphany was you shouldn't let this chance slip away.
>you'd be alone
You've been alone**
I think I should wait a few weeks to let things cool off before reaching out to her.
Her birthday is coming up in a couple of months, so I'd like to reach out to her before then.
>Let it cool
I didn't and got my girl. Sure, there were the arguments about how she needed "time to process", but that shit show was over with after the first year. Attractive women are attractive, anon. You really think a gloomy woman won't be swept off her feet by someone who has no second thoughts of just doing it? She stands out, and her obsession with you now won't last forever.
I haven't gone longer than a day without being in touch with my GF since I met her. That worked for me, in a very similar situation to yours, good luck with whatever decision you decide however, but be a man about it.
What kind of hot girl uses an Android?
She uses Android so she can run Tachiyomi and Saikou.
I wish I were joking.
N I G G A H, if you do not act and grab her by the horns,you will curse god for letting you be that stupid in a few months.
Act,Anon,Aaaaaact
> I texted her maybe 4 messages one day with no response.
It's over buddy.
You have already lost.
She found someone taller, hotter than you.
The only explanation
Funny you say that because she actually only dates guys that are shorter than her, which is pretty easy as she's almost 6' tall. I know there are hotter men out there.
dude... she's a sex addict.
most obvious case I've seen too.
I talked to my friends about it, and they told me that I would be a fool if I gave up on her. She likes guns more than I do, she's a huge nerd, she smokes the same cigars I do, she's more of a filthy degenerate weeaboo than I am, and was a PC gamer before it was cool. On the hot-crazy matrix, she's what most guys consider a unicorn. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel right now. I do have a date with someone else this weekend, but I'm not sure if I'll feel the same way.
What do you guys think? Should I wait for her? I know that most of you guys are gonna tell me that she's going to be sleeping with multiple guys and that I'm gonna get cucked. But I have a little more faith in her than that.
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Buddy, if you ruin this by giving up you're gonna regret it the rest of your life. I'd say try until she just tells you to fuck off or blocks you. Doesn't seem like she hates you and she seems interested, so just give her space, don't be cringe, and don't be too clingy (i.e. double texting). Take your time. Have patience.
Boy you will get your shit so wrecked by that woman. Sounds like a whole lot of fun. Go for it and don't forget to update us with the greentext.
Wait? No
If you really WANT her,kick in her door unannounced and tell her,you're perfectly fine working on both your issues together. Life is too short for sheenanigans,you're compatible and halloween is too long for this
Remind her that this means EXCLUSIVITY,if she agrees then enjoy the ride
If you really WANT her,do not let her get away. It will take work but will be worth it
If you're unsure,disengage and forget about halloween,she's damaged goods by then
I would want nothing more than to do exactly that. But I promised her that I would respect and support her decisions.
In a world where the only thing a man has is his word, why let her distrust me?
dude do what he said but without kicking the door down, and announcing ur love for her.
if she was almost raped she is obviously going to have intimacy issues for a while. this is a good opportunity to show that you genuinely care about her, be there for her but don't expect anything, she may be ready before Halloween, if ur in her life showing some dedication you are far more likely to get a good result.
give her time and check in on her every now and then and just build it up with her instead of her building up her courage with other people.
What he said. Aside from the door kicking,it would make hell of an entry. You could also axe down her door and announce yourself with a friendly "heeeeeres Johnny" (your name if Johnny,right?) but one thing that anon said really strikes me: if she needs time 4 whatever happened its k,youre not pushy.
Damn, she's hot, tall and she's into manly things and she likes anime..
Fuck I wish women were real, i ignore them all the time but I would fight for this one even if she whored herself out as long as she doesn't have any diseases
I know, I'm confident that I'll never find anyone similar.
She's not just hot, tall, into manly things, and likes anime - she's also incredibly kind, smart, and hard working as well. She's a full-time student but works full-time to pay her way through college. She's going to med school to become a pediatric neurosurgeon. In her free time, she likes to volunteer.
She's beautiful, inside and out, and I couldn't imagine anyone else out there coming close to her.
OP, genuinely, fuck you for getting her and not me. On some real shit, do not fumble this. Express your honest interest without coming off needy or clingy, and hopefully, it should work out.
38 band size sounds disgusting. That's fucking obese. You never should have tried with such a hambeast. If you can't physically pick her up you shouldn't be with her, and if you can you could do way better than her.
She's just muscular and slightly broad shouldered. She isn't fat or overweight at all.
I unironically called her a Norse dommy mommy on our first date when she mentioned that she imagines she's avenging the death of her comrades when she's lifting.
she wants me dawg, it's over - bow down to the bbc.
eh. id say wait for her but accomplishing that will be a challenge
Halloween tho? lol.
A few days after our first date, she unironically told me that she was gonna dress up as my "big tiddy goth gf" for Halloween and sent me some raunchy photos of her in her goth outfit.
I'm not sure why she told me to wait until Halloween, but I think that might be why.
i think its worth waiting but its such a long ways away.
but she also implied not to wait.
i would not wait.
It's simple.
Is she going to date other men until Halloween? If yes, then go and use your masculinity to make her want to date you instead. Being a considerate homosexual who allows her brain take retarded decisions only shows her subconsciously that she is the one leading - aka you are a massive homosexual and orbiter for not being able to convince her to follow your lead.
If no, then keep in touch with her and respect her wish.
Based on what you wrote and how you phrase things chances are that she looks at you and likes the overall package BUT you have been way too nice to her and started letting her lead which kills the masculine/Feminine polarity and attraction. You need to man up and make it clear in her brain that YOU are the best option for her because YOU will love and protect her while also fucking her brains out. All women want 2 things: 1. Protection and security=you being the nice guy 2.Fun and a dominant man who knows how to dick her down=you being the "bad" guy but only exclusively with her.
You seem to be great at being the nice guy but you have not made her mentally crazed over your dominance and masculinity. Which should get her wet over you and should make her want to jump your bones. Be gentle but be assertive. Go to her place, bring her favorite food and use some charm idk "I brought this because I want to buy you off. I need 10 minutes of your time" etc. Tell her that you thought about what she said and you feel too possessive over her to want to let her wait. Lift her chin up to force her to look at you and say you want her to be yours 100% because you like xyz about her but you won't tolerate her going and sleeping with others (because you have self respect towards your own self and her since you know that you 2 are meant to be together). Try to make it slightly sexual- make sure you are assertive and you lower your voice and radiate a dominant but safe/open energy.
take this shit to /adv/ where is belongs you fucking retard