Should I break up with my girlfriend because she went to a late night concert with her male friend, spent the night getting drunk with them and then s...


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Should I break up with my girlfriend because she went to a late night concert with her male friend, spent the night getting drunk with them and then slept on his couch? She said nothing sexual happened, and I trust her on this but it still feels disrespectful on multiple levels.

  1. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    yea thats fucked and they probably banged. Dump her bro

  2. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Ah put it this way, you want a girl who would do this and WOULDNT fuck the dude and you'd need to have the trust to believe her. If you feel it's disrespectful I think it's more of a communication issue over a promiscuous one. I take it this isn't the only time she has ever acted out and played the part of a party animal? It happens time to time and that's ok but if she does this consistently and it bothers you then yeah maybe think about the relationship a bit and how it's affecting you.

  3. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Say she's telling the truth (lol), is she still someone you'd like to date? Someone who goes around to concerts doing drugs with other guys and getting so intoxicated that she sleeps on their couches? Is that someone who you'd like to raise your children?

    Even if she isn't cheating on you (lol), is that the type of wife you want?

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      She does seem like a shady person, OP should break up with her.

  4. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    You should only break up with her if she knowingly violated a reasonable request from you not to do things like this. Women are allowed to participate in activities with male friends and vice versa. If she was open about it, and didn't hide it from you, and you trust her then you shouldn't break up with her. If she was dishonest and hid it from you, or said she wouldn't go and did anyway, then you should consider ending the relationship.
    Regardless, you need to have a conversation with her about how this makes you feel uncomfortable. Don't come into it with an accusatory tone, but rather one where you're just trying to manage each other's expectations.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      She didn't hide it from me at all and casually told me about her night like it wouldn't offend me at all but we've had two discussions before regarding similar behavior of going out drinking with other men where I said I wasn't comfortable with it.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        There it is, she clearly did not agree with your request, therefore it is time to break up with her.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        >Told her you feel uncomfortable with her drinking around other men
        >She does it anyway

        This sounds like it's a reoccurring thing and she doesn't make compromises. Nothing is wrong with drinking with her friends but spending the night under the circumstances is something else. If it bothers you and she doesn't understand then this will continue to deteriorate the relationship. Do with that what you will.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        I don't see behavior as reprehensible, but maybe you two just don't sync on this thing. So really you have two choices:
        Adjust your expectations and decide to trust her
        Maintain your expectations and still be upset if she goes out with male friends.
        This can only generate two outcomes. You will either become more comfortable with her having male friends, or you will still stay upset and it will cause a strain in your relationship.

        She's her own person and is allowed to have her own way of life, just as you are. The fact that you two don't see eye to eye on this doesn't make either of you bad people - but it may just mean that you two don't really work out well together. I maintain my previous advice - talk to her about this (again), reiterate that while you do trust her it just makes you uncomfortable. If she still plans on going out and doing this, then you should end the relationship so you two can find people more suited for you.

  5. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Break up with her since she got drunk and stayed overnight at his house. Plan out the break up, and do it by claiming that you no longer feel the spark anymore. Walk away as soon as possible, and find someone else.

  6. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    she's your gf not your property, break up with her all you want, but you obviously have trust issues. would you rather her have driven home intoxicated?

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Why would she get intoxicated?
      Why wouldn't she sleep over at a female friend's house instead?
      Why put herself in a position where she can be misunderstood even if nothing really happened? Is she doing it on purpose or is she just legitimately retarded?

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        She could have called her BF and told him that he needs to pick her up. Also, her male friend could've called the BF and told him that he needs to pick up his GF from the concert. Either way she broke the trust of the relationship and she disrespected OP

        Clearly she should have communicated with her boyfriend and asked for a ride home or setup a ride home in advance.

        I can't understand this type of demand; absolutely yes from a spouse but not a simple boy/girlfriend kind of thing. It's okay to have expectations, but
        >I'm uncomfortable with you doing "X"
        does not equate to someone then being responsible for your comfortability. If OP doesn't want his girl hanging out with other dudes like this he has to clearly state that he doesn't want her to - and then she can decide if she can support that expectation.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          The behavior is risky and it undermines the monogamy of the relationship.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            I can agree the behavior is risky. But reprehensible? I don't think so. I see this purely as a "what I expect" type of conversation rather than a "right and wrong" judgement. Some people are okay with and trust their significant others in these situations...some people will get burned, sure, but others don't.

            >I can't understand this type of demand

            All relationships require something from another person. This is simply the request to stop getting fucking blacked out at random dudes houses.

            True but a request for accommodation, or a compromise does not equate to a reasonable demand for someone to alter their behavior. OP's girlfriend is allowed to be who she wants, just like OP is allowed to not like it. Thats why I say he just needs to talk to her to see where this stands. He absolutely has the right to ask for her to not do this - but she also has the right to say "no", and in that case they should break up...neither of them being a bad person for it.

            • 6 months ago
              Anonymous

              he has already talked to her twice about it.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          >I can't understand this type of demand

          All relationships require something from another person. This is simply the request to stop getting fucking blacked out at random dudes houses.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      She could have called her BF and told him that he needs to pick her up. Also, her male friend could've called the BF and told him that he needs to pick up his GF from the concert. Either way she broke the trust of the relationship and she disrespected OP

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Clearly she should have communicated with her boyfriend and asked for a ride home or setup a ride home in advance.

  7. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    This reminds me of a lyric by the poet Calvin Cordozar Broadus Jr.:

    Drop it like its hot

  8. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    >we've had two discussions before regarding similar behavior of going out drinking with other men where I said I wasn't comfortable with it.
    Given that OP is not okay with that type of behavior, then he should go ahead and break up with her. She doesn't respect his request, therefore OP should remove himself from the relationship. Becoming controlling is a bad idea, walking away is the better choice in the long run.

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