It's pathetic to use a teenage fictional character for reference, but i can't deny that i relate a lot to him.
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Should a guy like Shinji just give up on relationships?
It's pathetic to use a teenage fictional character for reference, but i can't deny that i relate a lot to him.
You depressed anon?
Sorta
whats up?
Just the usual no bitches stuff. I know being a virgin is a silly thing to worry about. But i just can't help it.
You tried online dating? I know it's shit but i might help in another way
Bro just the thought of going on a date makes my stomach sick.
Might as well try it. It's better to make an attempt at least
I just can't man. sorry
Just so you can decide what women you like
I like women that likes me.
But do you let any women know you like them?
Actually yes. More than once. But i'm an unlucky fuck. Every girl i ever felt something for either had a boyfriend or had no interest in me.
>Describe yourself as pathetic
>Should I give up on relationships?
Yes.
Ok. I give up
No, heal your emotional issue.
No. I'm tired of trying to change and not even having the courage to take the first step.
You shouldn’t try to change, you should try to uncover your true self which is blocked by toxic conditioning and fears
That sounds interesting. Could you please elaborate?
When you were a little kid, you didn’t have these problems, they are the result of conditioning over time, you need to unwire the conditioning and bring out your natural state.
I actually thought about this before. I really didn't care about anything as a kid. How to unwire though?
Get internal family systems therapy
You can't do that through your thoughts, it has to be by listening to your emotions directly in the body
http://happinessbeyondthought.blogspot.com/2012/05/surrendering-i-letting-go-of-suffering.html
>I'm tired of "trying to change"
>Doesn't even take the first step
Bro, if you're not even going to do the bare minimum, you don't get to judge the process. If you can't even take a single step toward self-improvement, you definitely don't need to be in a relationship. Relationships take work. Work that you are clearly not prepared to do. All you're going to do by getting in a relationship now is set yourself and that girl up for failure.
That's exactly why i'm giving up.
Good. Don't let anyone talk you of it until you've made adjustments. This is the most emotionally intelligent thing you can do right now, and I would consider this step one.
Yep. Everything in it's time. And it's clearly not my time yet. If my time ever comes of course.
Yes. Not because you wouldn't be able to find one, but because you shouldn't be in one unless you're mentally healthy
shinji nutted on asuka's titties and got kissed by misato and rei would have totally sucked him off if he bothered to ask
Shinji touched Rei's breasts, he's a total chad.
Shinji is the kind of person whose life would be transformed by having a hug regularly.
Have you ever even tried having empathy? Why does your life have to be all about YOU? Have you ever tried to make other people happy, just to see them happy?
Yes. Sometimes, to the point of becoming a pushover.
You're confusing transitive emotional states induced by your perception of others with legitimate empathy. You feel sympathy, but sympathy is just a delusional transference from your I'd to your ego. You observe someone's actions and your brain malfunctions in a certain way due to your interpretation of their actions. English isn't my main language so i should clarify that when I ask if you've tried having empathy what I really mean is ha e you ever tried fully and truly understanding people? Not just putting together patterns of past observations and traumas fr ok m your experience t create a caricature of their motivations, feelings, desires. But TRULY seeing them as they are?
I think you're going too deep.
No it's pretty simple. People want to be loved. You want to be loved. But women are passive. They won't love you unless you love them. Your mother doesn't love you, she's just been conditioned by chemical reactions to be attached to you. No woman has ever really loved you, because you've never really loved a woman. If you want to be loved, you have no choice but to make the first step. You have to endure the pain of being the one to act, and the fear of being rejected. You can't just sit there and expect things to change. If you want anyone to care about you, start trying to learn what it really means to care about others.
Shinji got laid tho
no just find kaworu and have loving gay sex with each other
Shinji’s canonically a good looking kid. Misato even says so during their first meeting and Asuka doesn’t do her tsundere routine around him for nothing.
What’s more is that he looks almost exactly like his dad - a man who not only had an intense relationship with Shinji’s mother (herself a good looking woman), but who also drove another woman to suicide when she couldn’t have him and even had that same woman’s daughter pining for him.
Had Shinji’s mother not died or his dad not be so shitty towards him, or had he not developed PTSD after being drafted as a child soldier to fight against lovecraftian horrors from space, he might have been a confident, well-adjusted young man with ready access to all the ginger puss he could eat.
The point of the story is that his depression ruins EVERYTHING. If you take one lesson away from the story - take this one. Your mental health is too important to go untreated for so long.