Pic related, anyone gone through similar parenting and now struggling with dating? What the fuck do I do?

Pic related, anyone gone through similar parenting and now struggling with dating?

What the frick do I do? I just go to work, come home and sit around all day while dreaming about what it would be like to go clubbing with friends and pickup chicks.

Can I still become someone who can live like that?

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  1. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    >recognize your own problems
    >don't fix them
    >still blame your parents
    Lol

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      How do I fix them?

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        blackpill is something you have to undo over the course of many years

        But you can change the socially inept. I used to be socially inept, but I was able to get out of the rut.

        Probably the biggest thing I did for myself in the beginning was allow myself to interact with people. A lot of my self hatred came from shutting myself out from the "normal people" - I just intrinsically felt I was below them, so I couldn't even make eye contact without feeling immensely guilty.

        At first, it was letting myself just make eye contact with "normal" people, and not looking away. Don't look away, and just hold their gaze for just a second longer than you're used to. You'll find that once you allow yourself to be seen by them, you can start feeling more normal and accepted too. Believe it or not, you really don't come off as a total weirdo in public, you're just used to thinking you do.

        And after eye contact, I just started complimenting people. A good rule of thumb is to compliment people like you're complimenting your grandma, you'll wont come off as a creep that way. If something stood out to me about a person, let them know. Even if its the ONLY thing you say to them, it's a good way to see many people aren't completely unreachable. Does that guy have a cool shirt? Tell him! Cool glasses or a necklace? Let him know. People will really appreciate genuine compliments, and its not even a huge commitment to do so. Show yourself that you can make others feel good about themselves, because you'll learn that everyone is just as insecure as you.

        Keep up with eye contact and genuine compliments, and you can change your socially ineptness. I went from being a KHV anime-loving depressed NEET to someone who can make a friend no matter where I go. My friends always are astonished at how I can just approach people now. The key is to remember that everyone is insecure, and everyone wants a compliment.

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          the girls who can install tinder at any moment and get compliments from the best of the best are insecure?

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            I tip my hand, I am a woman.

            Yes, every single women you have ever known and met is insecure at heart. We are born and conditioned to be insecure - ameican culture profits off of our insecurity with things like fast fashion, diet trends, makeup, skincare, and other self-improvements. Women might look strong, but a genuine compliment in public can go a long way.

            And yes, he girls who install tinder are especially insecure. Hell, me and most of my female friends downloaded tinder just to see how many guys would swipe on us. Why do you think most tinder encounters fail with women? Because it's fun to see the numbers pile up - but individual guys get lost in those numbers.

            We're constantly judging and monitoring our attractiveness. Tinder is a great little tool to profit off of that insecurity.

            I want to point out that after I mention genuine compliments, your mind immediately goes to girls only going after "the best of the best". Thats your blackpill talking. If you want to undo the blackpill, you have to realize when its clouding your judgement.

            How would you feel if you were sitting on a train and the guy next to you takes out his earbuds to compliment your band t-shirt?
            > "yo dude that band is sick, nice shirt"
            You'd probably feel pretty good. You have that same power too, you just don't do it because you think people will snap at you or find you weird. I promise you, they won't.

            Don't worry about picking up chicks. If you can break your socially ineptness, the chicks will come.

            Oh yeah, and delete tinder, few women use that for anything more than a cheap thrill. Take it from me.

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            Most women I see outside have 10/10 faces, albeit with makeup, great bodies (they obviously work out or at least do squats and diet right), dress well (albeit scantily)

            Why and how do you feel insecure at that point? Guys constantly hit on you, you get a lot of validation online (even if it's not a dating app, i.e instagram)

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            >Most women I see outside have 10/10 faces, albeit with makeup, great bodies (they obviously work out or at least do squats and diet right), dress well (albeit scantily)

            Thats your own insecurity talking. You think they're leagues better than you, and when you say 10/10 you mean "a girl that would never talk to me". Your first step is to recognize that women, however pretty, all have flaws just like you.

            >10/10 face? She's obsessing over her nose because she thinks its too big.
            >strong athletic body? She's jealous of the soft-core girls who can pull of the fluffy anime look
            >Dress well? She's drooling over Louis Vitton handbags because she can only afford thrift store goodies under $20.

            I guarantee you that the girls you think are 10/10s do not seem themselves that way. I don't know a single girl who thinks they're a 10/10, and I have model friends. The girls you see that are insanely beautiful are terribly insecure because we are made to think we're never enough. It's really, really true. Why do you think diet culture and fast fashion culture and makeup culture are multibillion-dollar industries?

            >Why and how do you feel insecure at that point? Guys constantly hit on you, you get a lot of validation online
            Because we are always being scrutinzed somehow. If I posted myself here, even though I am athletic, young and fairly attractive, I'd still get many people saying I need to lose more weight, grow out my hair, use skincare cream, get taller, etc.

            I could have plenty of guys in my DMs, but girls (and guys, too!) are so inundated with messages that we need to change that there's always something to be insecure about.

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            Also, why did you qualify all of your compliments?

            >10/10 faces, albeit with makeup
            >great bodies (they obviously work out or at least do squats and diet right)
            >dress well (albeit scantily)

            Why WOULDNT they be insecure if thats what you think about them? To kill that blackpill mindset, stop using qualifiers and just accept women for who they are. She's knows how to use makeup in an artful way. She knows how to work out well. She knows how to dress for her body type.

            If you want a chick, lift women up, don't put them down. Generally, you should be doing that for everyone. Stop qualifying people's good traits

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            They ARE good traits, that's why they're too good for me.
            Why would a fit girl want to be with me when I'm skinny?
            Chad is drooling for her, why pick me? I'm just the average joe.

            I don't have personality either, I've always wanted to be the funny clown dude but I just can't do it. I'm too stoic and nothing comes to mind.

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            >Why would a fit girl want to be with me when I'm skinny?
            >Chad is drooling for her, why pick me? I'm just the average joe.

            You gotta have some respect for yourself, king. Many girls want many different guys.

            I don't like gymbros in a sexual or romantic way. I respect their grind, but I don't think I have much in common with the traditional "chad". Yes, I work out and I boulder and I lift, but I'm an introverted girl who wants a quiet guy. I just happen to enjoy a sport that requires you to be pretty fricking strong.

            I had the whole gym at my feet, and do you know who my boyfriend is? He's a nerdy, skinnyfat guy who is socially awkward and hates people. He doesn't have abs, he doesn't have huge arms, and he doesn't have an outgoing personality. Yet, I like that he doesn't obsess over fitness, I like that he is lowkey and easygoing. I enjoy our coffee dates and our quiet movie nights. He is my best friend and my lover, and you'd never call him a chad.

            You guys on here seem to think all girls want one type of guy when that is so wrong. You aren't the average joe, you're a degenerate shitposter on NSFFW and some girls love the socially awkward shitposter boys. You just gotta find them.

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            How did you meet him, dating app?

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            College! Second day. I sat down with a group of random guys watching a movie and befriended them. One of those random guys became my boyfriend 🙂

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            >How would you feel if you were sitting on a train and the guy next to you takes out his earbuds to compliment your band t-shirt?
            I would feel nauseated and never wear the shirt again.

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          >blackpill is something you have to undo over the course of many years
          sounds like a very blackpilled thing to say
          you can just yeet that moronic mindset out of the door and be over with it

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        go to places with alcohol and hit bar thots up. invite them for drink

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        Honesty is the manliest trait there is these days. If you're up-front about your social struggles, the women you date might just be willing to help you, or at least put up with you a little longer to see if you improve. Also, you're part of a generation, chances are they're socially moronic too

  2. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    I used to be in the exact same situation. You know what I did? It might sound corny, but be yourself, and be funny about it too. It doesn't matter idlf you're a 4/10, if you can make a girl laugh consistently, that's the way to go. Also, the goal isn't to get laid, the goal is to have a partner where you are both emotionally attached to each other. Sex because you're connected on both a physical and emotional level is 10x better than having sex with a supermodel because that's only physical attraction. I've had sex with the same woman for the past 6 years, and we both love each other so much. Not because of each other's looks but because we relate on an emotional level. I didn't have to "fix" anything - I still play weab games, watch anime, rewrite my favorite programs in C, etc. but I can separate the stuff that my wife isn't interested in and not shove it down her throat.

  3. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Take the first step.

    Google meetups in your local area. Go to a few, shop around, meet people.

    Taking the first step is like a muscle the more you do it the more you train it. After a while, even hard things start to seem easy.

  4. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    You are slothful and weak, there are no unknown factors, you won't and can't be made to apply any effort otherwise you would have done so already.
    You are here to waste your time.

  5. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Its pretty much environment.
    Youll never do it if you stay where you are. I have a habit of shuttung in. When i made party friends i went out more.
    Youre not really missing much tbh.

    Excessive clubbing is for the socially adept mentally ill who cant cope with reality. And it just leads to ruin.
    Its probably not even your place really. Grass is greener and all that.
    Just try to make meaningful friendships and find things you like to do and people to share it with.

    But tldr:
    I know it sounds like a new riddle, but your key is where you are and who you hang with. Make friends who do that and youll do it.

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