Hello. I'm going to keep things short and just say that I have been living in a comfort prison for the last 25 years under my parents. My parents don't want me to be independent because then that would mean I don't need them in my life and since I have no other reason to even include them in my life or than they support me, they need to give me a reason to stay.
I feel no incentive to go outside or meet new people or find new hobbies. I don't know what I want to do with my life. All I do is work a shitty job, collect my paycheck, and play video games. I have no friends. I don't really do anything. And I hate myself for it. I am starving. I feel an anxiety that can only be described as crippling because I'm 25 and I'm perpetually stuck on square 1. It's like I'm paralyzed.
I have an idea. But I'm not confident about it. My idea is to completely separate from my parents. Become independent. First, I need to find out what I want to do with my life. What career I want to pursue. Once that's done, I can pursue that career, and move out with the confidence that this shitry job I hate won't be with me for the rest of my life. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
I need responsibility in my life. I'm hoping that once I have that responsibility, then I might feel a desire to go outside, meet new people, and actually do something with my life.
I feel like nothing right now. I am nobody. I am nothing.
Very similar situation for me, I'm 24. However we are both lucky in that our parents are okay with us living with them as long as you have a job and aren't just dead weight like these NEET losers you see here all the time. In all honesty the cost of living is so high right now you might as well enjoy the free ride for as long as it lasts. It's not like suddenly getting an apartment is going to magically get you pussy, friends and a whole new life. It might make you hate life even more coming home to a empty apartment every evening, having annoying neighbors, and flushing all your money down the toilet.
I can't. I have to grow up eventually. I know it's easier to just stay with them but I can't. I need to have some responsibility in my life. I should be able to take care of myself.
I have no reason to go outside living with them. Everything is taken care of. It's a comfort prison.
Protip: You're still going to be the same person outside of their umbrella.
>I have no reason to go outside living with them
You wouldn't have reason to go outside living without them. You're going to be the same person. You're blaming your parents but you're 25 years old, blaming your parents stops being viable right now because it's within your capabilities to think
>Hmm, today I will go to the park
And then do so. Or
>Tonight I will go to a concert
And then do so. Or
>Today I will buy a dog
And. Then. Do so.
Also wtf when was the last time you spent time with your parents? Asked them how their day was?
This.
You don't think living with them everyday might change the way I act and behave? You think how they make all my food, pay all my bills, doesn't change my behavior or affect my motivations?
I will consider this, perhaps my issue is as simple as me not actually going outside or doing anything with my life. Maybe the fault is all my own and even if I have an issue with my parents, I'm just using them as a convenience scapegoat. Maybe it's my fault I've never created anything, or joined anything. Maybe, just maybe, I am my own worst enemy?
Fuck you, you don't know my life. I am not a selfish little shit. I spent the better half of my life neglecting myself and my life with this fairy tale savior complex thinking I can fix my relationship with my parents. Disclaimer: I can't.
I don't have a personality, because I never actually took the time to invest in myself.
>I'm just using them as a convenience scapegoat. Maybe it's my fault I've never created anything, or joined anything. Maybe, just maybe, I am my own worst enemy?
I won't say it's AAALLL your fault, definitely not. Your parents probably neglected to nurture any latent talents or skills you demonstrated when you were younger, right? My parents were the same, and you can definitely blame them for that. Total free pass. But with your own income, and being 25, and being aware enough to make this thread and think all these thoughts, from here on out YOU are in control of your life. The best way to live my friend? If you have something you want to do, be it take up surfing, take up x activity or hobby or work towards x goal, just go do it. Don't think about it, just DO it. You've got this man.
Wahhhhhh you dont know my life i just live for free and don't appreciate it wahhh I didnt do anything and its my parents fault wahhhhh. Shut the fuck up you bitch made leech and grow up
homosexual
You will be ignored from this thread from here and out. You clearly lack the intention to actually help people. You're begging for attention, so I will starve you of it.
I guess it's that simple. I always have been an over thinker
>I guess it's that simple. I always have been an over thinker
It's alright man. And it's alright to not know what you want to do, the point is to just go do things and see what you enjoy. Good luck! Oh and if one of your goals is to talk to women, or bed down some women,
https://www.mediafire.com/file/y1l5wgw0l76agbc/Models_+Attract+Women+Through++Honesty+(+PDFDrive+).pdf/file
Read this book. Kk I'm out.
Work work work, save save save, and when you are ready, move out. Don't do it when you aren't. You will regret it. Especially if you have mental health problems holding you down. Dont be so hard on yourself. If you can hold down a job already that's a good sign. You're on the right track. You're generating money. Don't be so hard on yourself. It's not like you're the only person at mid 20s point in life still living with your parents! Lots of people are including me and several of my cousins. We aren't fuck ups we just need some extra time to prepare and get on our feet before we make that life decision. It's FINE. Save up 20 or 30 grand and see how you feel then. Find a job or a carrer you truly think you can stick with for the foreseeable long term future. Then do it. What's the big damn hurry? You're at an advantage here. Do yourself and your wallet a favor and take yes for an answer. Especially if you're parents love you.
>You're begging for attention
Pot, you've met kettle?
Retard (not even OP)
I'm sure his parents are horrible villains and created this reject on purpose as a form of infinite torture for both him and themselves
>My parents don't want me to be independent because then that would mean I don't need them in my life and since I have no other reason to even include them in my life
Lmao what a selfish little shit. Sucking at the teet of mom and dad well into adulthood and cant find any reason to want to have a normal average relationship with them
Oh fuck that, doesn't it ever occur to you people that some parents like having their children around? (As long as they have a job)
I think I totally get you. I am a bit younger than you, but already can feel my undersocialization catching up real hard. Personally for me what has reignited at least some feeling of wanting to do something with my life, is religion. I am just interested in it, for now. Though, to be honest, even that did not yet made me feel "alive". I am starting to think that I would need something more grounded but still essential, to let me get a hold of myself. Like a girlfriend, wife and family. Otherwise, for now, I don't see any reason to become a man just for sake of it. So, maybe try finding a loved one?
>I'm going to keep things short
No you didn't. You rambled for another 250 words. I didn't read the rest of your shit because it'll take you 10x as long to get to the fucking point as it should. Rewrite when you learn to be concise.
Man, I have written this kind of stuff a couple of times, when I wasn't in the best place mentally, so, don't dwell in it, really.
Literally me except I'm 32 and my parents are huge potheads who let me smoke their weed. Could be worse I guess.