My girlfriend likes to have sex when we are together, but she never masturbates, sends nudes, or has any sexual fantasies at all.

My girlfriend likes to have sex when we are together, but she never jerk offs, sends nudes, or has any sexual fantasies at all. What does this mean, if anything?

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    How often does she like to have sex? Was she a virgin before you?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      We dont have penetrative sex very often (its often painful for her) but we fool around and have oral sex at least once a week. She was a virgin before me, though at 25 which I think is relevant

      She's probably just asexual anon, nothing much to worry about

      So she tells me shes asexual or demisexual, but I still dont exactly know what that means from her she wont really explain it clearly

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Do you make her cum? Also were you a virgin before her?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >Do you make her cum?
          Not every time, but often enough I think. Im not given much opportunity to though, she doesnt like her pussy eaten and 75% of the sex we have is her blowing me. She will cum riding me when we do that every once in awhile.

          >Also were you a virgin before her?
          I was not

          Asexual basically means she has little to no libido, demisexual is a bit more precise means she need a personal bond with someone before getting horny

          In your case, it feels like she doesn't really feel any need that doesn't involve you (kinda flattering tbh, you're the only one she really likes) but this doesn't exactly explain the nudes part, I'm guessing that she really needs you to be physically here ?

          So I do understand those definitions, but I still dont really understand how she experiences it, if that makes sense.

          >she really needs you to be physically here ?
          She did say that to me once, that she only gets horny if I am around.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Honestly I don't have any first hand experience so my explanations would probably be worse than hers or those of others asexuals.

            Talking about it with her again would probably be better since it seems that she already know it well enough to label herself or you can try and find someone online that may explain it to you in a better way !

            In short though, you can probably remember a time (maybe a few days, maybe a few weeks) where you just didn't feel horny at all and the thought didn't even cross your mind: it should be like that, there isn't really anything to experience since it's literally her not being horny

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >she doesnt like her pussy eaten
            You either don't do it right or she's a weirdo. What woman doesn't like receiving oral?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Asexual basically means she has little to no libido, demisexual is a bit more precise means she need a personal bond with someone before getting horny

        In your case, it feels like she doesn't really feel any need that doesn't involve you (kinda flattering tbh, you're the only one she really likes) but this doesn't exactly explain the nudes part, I'm guessing that she really needs you to be physically here ?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          These are try hard terms for feelings everyone has at various stages in their life. It's just people who aren't special trying to sound different.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            wow frick you, shitlord

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    She's probably just asexual anon, nothing much to worry about

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Anon, if picrel then it means your girlfriend is a cartoon. Otherwise, if not picrel it means she's a normal woman who feels embarrassed about her sexuality.

      Stop using words you don't understand

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Average woman's sex drive. Which is lower than an average man's sex drive. This is just life. Someone has to date her, and that someone is you. If you like her, just accept this is how it is.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      No this is entirely wrong. Every other woman I have been with has been extremely horny.

      Anon, if picrel then it means your girlfriend is a cartoon. Otherwise, if not picrel it means she's a normal woman who feels embarrassed about her sexuality.

      Stop using words you don't understand

      I dont think she is embarrassed by her sexuality, because she has no problem initiating with me when we are together and she likes to try new things in bed. I am just not used to sexual expression staying entirely in bed during sex

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I don't think you understand what I mean by embarrassed by her sexuality. Think of the social roles of sexuality and what society expects of the genders. Not the new progressive bullshit, the actual evolved gender roles everyone grew up with.

        Think of what it is to be considered a bawd for a woman and that such a term is still derogatory. That's what I mean by embarrassed about her sexuality.

        It's ok under these social norms for a woman to initiate sexual acts on her partner because that's subservience. It's this whole stupid idea society has that women aren't supposed to have high libido even though they do.

        Penetrative sex being painful is caused by muscle clenching. This is all about her insecurities. She doesn't want you to think poorly of her so she withholds her sexuality and instead just tries to please you.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >Think of what it is to be considered a bawd for a woman and that such a term is still derogatory
          I agree with you

          >t's ok under these social norms for a woman to initiate sexual acts on her partner because that's subservience
          Im following, but why would this then translate into her not having sexual fantasies and not sending me nudes? She has no problem with letting out her sexuality when we are together, but she seemingly doesnt think about sex at all when we are not.

          >Penetrative sex being painful is caused by muscle clenching
          Yea we are working on this together

          >She doesn't want you to think poorly of her so she withholds her sexuality and instead just tries to please you.
          So this is definitely part of it, she has told me as much. But still even now that she has told me she has done that in the past she still seemingly has no interest in sex unless we are in the room together about to have it.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Under social norms bawds send nudes, good girls don't. She has sexual fantasies, everyone does. She just doesn't feel comfortable right now sharing them because again, bawds have sexual fantasies not good girls.

            She's mostly blowing you, and that's what she's initiating because that's what social norms have told her a good girl does.

            That's what this whole thing is about. Most women have some degree of embarrassment over their sexuality. It's your job to be respectful, non-judgemental and supportive so she can feel comfortable with her sexuality around you.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Bullshit. The average woman's libido is significantly higher than an average man's. If her pussy is drying up that's a you problem not a low libido problem.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Bullshit. The average woman's libido is significantly higher than an average man's. If her pussy is drying up that's a you problem not a low libido problem.

      Yea no offense anon but this is just like when Ben Shapiro said pussies should be wet lol

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    betting $20 she's on anti-depressants

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      She is not

      Under social norms bawds send nudes, good girls don't. She has sexual fantasies, everyone does. She just doesn't feel comfortable right now sharing them because again, bawds have sexual fantasies not good girls.

      She's mostly blowing you, and that's what she's initiating because that's what social norms have told her a good girl does.

      That's what this whole thing is about. Most women have some degree of embarrassment over their sexuality. It's your job to be respectful, non-judgemental and supportive so she can feel comfortable with her sexuality around you.

      I see what you are saying, but I honestly dont think this is it. We have been dating for over a year and a half and have had plenty of sex, I think it really is the asexuality thing over embarrassment.

      Honestly I don't have any first hand experience so my explanations would probably be worse than hers or those of others asexuals.

      Talking about it with her again would probably be better since it seems that she already know it well enough to label herself or you can try and find someone online that may explain it to you in a better way !

      In short though, you can probably remember a time (maybe a few days, maybe a few weeks) where you just didn't feel horny at all and the thought didn't even cross your mind: it should be like that, there isn't really anything to experience since it's literally her not being horny

      Yea I will try talking to her about it again. We are overdue a conversation about sex anyway so I will ask her more about it then too. Thanks anon.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I've been married to my wife for 15 years, we have sex 4-6 times a week and she still pretends to me she has no sexual fantasies (even though I know she does and what they are), and still pretends she doesn't wank even though I know she does and find evidence of it.

        This mutilation of the word asexual (which before millennials distorted it actually means not sexual because you breed with yourself) is just a smokescreen. Every woman feels low libido if she isn't sexually stimulated, but then so does every man.

        The difference is where men are stimulated visually, women are stimulated mentally/emotionally.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Interesting. Ok anon thanks I will think about that.

          >she doesnt like her pussy eaten
          You either don't do it right or she's a weirdo. What woman doesn't like receiving oral?

          I think I am pretty good at it, she used to like it but shes afraid of getting an infection (she has hypochondriac tendencies) now so she doesnt want it. Ive begged her to eat her pussy lol

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      1 in 3 people in general population are on anti-depressants. Even just at general population level those are good odds. Winning that bet requires absolutely zero insight.

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Women have lower libido on average. There's still horny women. The ones with next to no libido are driving the average down
    >shes afraid of getting an infection (she has hypochondriac
    So she has some issues. Embarrassment? Not exactly.

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Judging from everything you've said in this thread, it truly appears to me like she just doesn't have any significant sexual desire and she just sex to please you. The fact that your sex is mostly blowjobs really seals that for me. It's a relatively ease way for her to fulfill her "obligation" as a girlfriend. It could be the embarrassment point the other anon brought up, but I don't think so.
    The question is whether your satisfied with this arrangement. Is this sex life adequate for you or do you really wish you had a more enthusiastic partner?

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Offer to her weed or alcohol, in moderation, before sex. Drugs are much beneficial to women than men before sex.
    This will free her bawdiness.
    This is most probably not a physical problem, just mental.

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    My wife is the same, it has to do with her religious upbringing, I think.

  9. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Ask her.

    Nobody here can actually know. We're all guessing based on the 1 sentence you wrote. My guess is that she just has a low sex drive, and doesn't usually do much, but you satisfy her enough that she doesn't really do anything else. Which is fine.

    It's also possible that she's asexual and only has sex for physical reasons (yes, asexual girls still need to cum sometime), or just does it for you. Either way, ask her.

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