My girlfriend and I would never be friends if we weren't together.
It's a sad realization I come more and more to which makes me fall out of love.
Her friend group/friends are awful, they are the kind of people who would bully me in high school. They all look and act like NPC stacys and chad wannabes. They humor is atrocious and every time I'm interacting with them and see her reacting to them I get disappointed in her, like why would you laugh at that stupid boomer sexist joke? why would you gossip about your other friend that isn't here like that? why have all this teen drama when we're all around 22? etc..
She watches anime too but she doesn't watch it she just consumes it, can't remember plot points, doesn't analyze deeper what she's watching and no work of art ever affects her she just consumes it. She doesn't have a taste in media she just consumes. She hasn't matured past the age of 16.
She likes gaming but she just uses it as a substitute for hanging out with friends. It's never about the game it's about the people we can play something for 100+ hours and she still wouldn't pick up on the most basic mechanics. She uses gaming like going for a coffee with friends, it's never about coffee it's about hanging with friends. I've tried my best to introduce her to games I love, single and multiplayer, I bought her some she expressed interest in but she doesn't care about games.
She can say she likes music I put on but she just tolerates it, she never actually liked something i put on and looked into it deeper herself afterwards, no she doesn't go past top 10 weekly, mainstream kpop and anime openings. She lets me know a kpop band is releasing a new album and she's hyped I decide to surprise her by listening, give her my opinion and review on it, and what about her? she didn't even listen to it she's not hyped for the album she's hyped for the 2-3 songs from it that are going to get hyped and mainstream. And that's her favorite band!!