My girlfriend and I would never be friends if we weren't together.
It's a sad realization I come more and more to which makes me fall out of love.
Her friend group/friends are awful, they are the kind of people who would bully me in high school. They all look and act like NPC stacys and chad wannabes. They humor is atrocious and every time I'm interacting with them and see her reacting to them I get disappointed in her, like why would you laugh at that stupid boomer sexist joke? why would you gossip about your other friend that isn't here like that? why have all this teen drama when we're all around 22? etc..
She watches anime too but she doesn't watch it she just consumes it, can't remember plot points, doesn't analyze deeper what she's watching and no work of art ever affects her she just consumes it. She doesn't have a taste in media she just consumes. She hasn't matured past the age of 16.
She likes gaming but she just uses it as a substitute for hanging out with friends. It's never about the game it's about the people we can play something for 100+ hours and she still wouldn't pick up on the most basic mechanics. She uses gaming like going for a coffee with friends, it's never about coffee it's about hanging with friends. I've tried my best to introduce her to games I love, single and multiplayer, I bought her some she expressed interest in but she doesn't care about games.
She can say she likes music I put on but she just tolerates it, she never actually liked something i put on and looked into it deeper herself afterwards, no she doesn't go past top 10 weekly, mainstream kpop and anime openings. She lets me know a kpop band is releasing a new album and she's hyped I decide to surprise her by listening, give her my opinion and review on it, and what about her? she didn't even listen to it she's not hyped for the album she's hyped for the 2-3 songs from it that are going to get hyped and mainstream. And that's her favorite band!!
I didn't read all that but you're just in it for physical stuff, right?
I'm the least sexual male person I know
It sounds like you are a fag and she is just based i mean fuck your videogames literally the chinese are right that videogsmes are the opium of the soul
You are fucking dating pick me girl op
Yes, is it rude to tell her this?
To tell her about how different she is with me and with friends and how when she's with friends she seems like a pick me girl to me.
You have a warped expectation of relationships and women
warped expectations that when someone "can't wait for an album" they actually mean they can't wait for this to come out and listen to it? am i weird?
What you do with your girlfriend is fundamentally different from what you do with your lads. I for example don't send my girlfriend a reel of dantes talking about how kids like suprises, so he would surprise them by releasing alligators on the playground (in game). That goes into the fuckfreak group I have with my friends.
And I send her stuff like cats playing with each other and a couple dancing under the rain and some girl joking about her farm life and things like that. Seconding this
>I'm dating a normie waaaah!!! I'll never have a woman of taste and culture!!!!
Breh, you're admitting you can do better than what you have right now. You don't have to take the relationship so seriously, in fact, I'm willing to bet she's more mature than you on account of looking past your dorky hobbies and loving you because she believes in the strength and integrity of your character. Go ahead nigga, ask her why she loves you and she'd be willing to go on forever.
Well, unless she's just in it for the dick.
Either way OP I'm literally dealing with the opposite right now. Fell in love with a girl over all our shared hobbies, styles, music dates, family problems, hatred for America and fucking SOULS games. Built like a fucktoy. No mind games either-- Shes not even ran through. Problem is she wasn't born a girl. She's trans. On this fact alone I know I can do better, but am dating because I'd rather not be alone in this stupidly fucking harsh world, and embrace the love for what it is
I'm judging her for her bad taste I'm judging her for no taste at all. She doesn't have a taste in anything she'd literally watch, play, read anything as long as it's something to consume.
She'd watch paw patrol and taxi driver with the same level of critical thinking.
We'd watch the most though provoking anime I've ever seen and she'd be like "ok what we doing next lets get ice cream" there is absolutely 0 self reflection and introspection going on inside her, she doesn't absorb any media she lays her hands on she just consumes it.
She loves me precisely because of that, because I actually have a personality, my likes and dislikes, my hobbies etc.. and for the looks I guess.
When she sends me a meme it's either something extremely NPC boomer unfunny or something she herself does not understand but know I'd understand the reference and find it funny
I'm not judging her for her bad taste*
is it wrong to want a girlfriend who's also your friend? Of course something stays for the lads but we have to have SOME common ground for a relationship to work?
We aren't in 19th century I don't just need an XX wife who's going to pump out kids and that's all, I want a connection with my partner
I'm honestly so fucked in the head I don't think there is any girl that shares my personality and that I would find attractive at the same time. I enjoy talking to her about things she likes, we actually bonded over a conversation about harry potter and I read those books as well after being movie-only all those years. Most girls have very timid interests, and I actually applaud your girlfriend for not being judgemental about your interests and letting you down gracefully each time. Sit back and have fun. You are not going to dissect and critique Monogatari with a non-neurodivergent, non-obese girl.
there is, this isn't my first relationship it's my 4th and in every single one before it I find at least some stuff to bond over with, this time no, she just doesn't have any interest.
I have tons I'm easy to get to talk about something, I listen to all kinds of music and can suggest an album from any genre, I play an instrument, I'm interested in philosophy because I study psychology, I love going to the movies, I love anime I love video games I even watch sports from time to time... I'm an okay individual when it comes to personality hell I can even talk about fashion
She can't talk about anything on any level below surface.
The movies example I gave is just that, an example, she doesn't know what she wants to do she has no ambition, if she could be a barista for her whole life she'd probably be fine with that. She's studying something she doesn't care about, doesn't want kids because "having kids seems boring you sacrifice too much". There's no plan at all in her life. There is no personality. There is no conviction.
But she doesn't even copy me she just has fun hanging around with me without every trying to get into stuff I like.
>very detailed example
We start playing world of warcraft and 80 hours into our characters she still can't grasp the basics I've explained 100 times because she just does not care to learn it, I'm there I'll correct her. She still doesn't know how need/greed works for items, she doesn't read talents just clicks the stuff that's picked in the guide i sent her, she doesn't try to get to understand the gear and is frequently seen playing for hours with just a relic instead of a weapon because she doesn't realize or care to remember that equipping an off hand relic makes you unequip your 2 handed weapon which she then just sells.
It's exhausting, it's as if you like chess and girlfriend wants to play chess with you but doesn't care to remember how the pieces move because you'll correct her if she makes a mistake.
So you sound like you made up your mind. What's holding you back from breaking up with her?
2 things
I want to see a better side of her and I don't have any friends
Pretty stupid reasons all things considered
>has no taste at all outside of you
>enjoys doing whatever and is mild mannered
Oh okay, so the problem is that you're literally just dating an NPC that's music taste is sponsored by the Rolling Stones. Ive been there. I can see why you'd get tired of it, yet, it's also kind of worrisome because by the time she does develop a taste or a thought process outside of you, it could actively work against you. I still think this is a case of you needing to enjoy what you have while you have it. Does she not have any hobbies of her own? Is she content with life? It shouldn't be the movies job to push her further, but you instead. If she doesn't pick up the ball when youre literally asking her what she wants out of life, what shes seeing in the movie, then she's probably a lost cause in the brains department. I think A24 movies are shit at conveying feeling or meaning so maybe start with something more predictable and independent, like Ferngully or Iron Giant.
>she loves me precisely because of my personality
You must feel very validated for that, and this is probably the CRUX of your relationship right now and the only thing keeping it interesting. She's your mimic tear gf. A little mini me that's obsessed with you.
>sends you meme she doesn't understand
A typical trait of an NPC that's really trying to earn your recognition. That is simply cute and a green flag.
I would tell you to break up with the ol "your ex is sexy" "which one?" "Me, bye!" But she probably wouldn't get it.
Just break up
The fact that your dating this degenerate says alot about you as well maybe just cut her off leave the circus and find someone your more compatible with
I agree, I'm a strong believer in you are who you hang out with
looking for a gf while you're still in a relationship is mean but on the other hand I don't want to be alone, honestly 95% of times I go outside of my house is because of my now gf
women are stupid. If this is how you feel about her now you should start shopping before it's too late
why are you even with her if you don't enjoy being with her and don't like sex?
I even less enjoy being alone and lonely