My bf saw me have a sip of a friend's drink, and he said that I was being too intimate with other guys and that he didn't like it. I didn't think it was a big deal to just have a sip from someone else's drink if they were fine with it, we were outside roasting marshmallows and drinking.
Did I mess up here, or is my bf being weird?
I'd recommend anally fisting your boyfriend in the middle of the night. That will relax him and relieve his stress and give him a positive attitude adjustment.
that's an indirect kiss
ya screwed up
This
In Meiji era Japan, they'd harakari you
Swords aren't allowed to be carried around in the Meiji Era
They were if you had the emperors permission onegaishimasu
It didn't really occur to me that people might see it that way. I'll stop going forward, but this seems like a weirdly specific thing to keep track of. Are there any other not-so-obvious things in this vein I should be careful about since I'm kind of oblivious apparently?
Thank you for your feedback. I'm a little worried that the overwhelming response for most of the thread is that I messed up though.
Women are worthless, you probably felt so cute and naughty drinking after another man. Don’t act oblivious you moron you knew exactly what you’re doing. I pray for Sharia law where you idiots will become property covered in head dresses unable to cause men so much stress
How do you not know what are intimate activities and what aren't? Don't know you basic personal boundaries? That maybe your friends shouldn't see you in your underwear but your boyfriend can? Even when I was a kid everyone knew that if a boy and girl sharing a drink were getting cudies. If you get cudies from it it's something you shouldn't do with anyone except your boyfriend.
My family never treated sharing sips of drinks with each other as weird, and my friends always treated it as normal too, so I didn't think anything of it.
I get it now, and I'll apologize to him.
I would say it's early/mid into the night by the fire that I had a sip of the friend's drink.
It was jack and coke if that matters.
There wasn't any flirting (unless I was oblivious to it) so I don't think that's a concern.
>It was jack and coke if that matters.
You shared a non-special alcoholic drink with someone who probably wants to have sex with you? I still don't believe you're this naive.
Not everything is about sex incel
Actually in this case drinking a jack and coke from a boy not her boyfriend instead of drinking with her boyfriend at the same party kind of is. And women cry about how they can't keep men around.
it's a drink, they aren't riding their dick or telling them they wanna frick or giving them looks or any signals.
It could be fricking orange juice and the incels would crawl out and scream prostitute
Man, NSFFW gets so nutty sometimes
Yup this is modern women, they think they can do whatever bullshit because it's not cheating. Do you know the only girl I've ever known that said shit like this cheated on me? Only cheaters say "it's not like we're having sex" whenever they do shady bullshit with other guys. You're a shady bawd.
the point is it's a drink do drinsk always automatically mean sex that is whats being asked
some seem to think drinking is the line, that's the bar according to you. You ever share a drink with a friend who was a girl or frick even just your mom...? Any female? Hell a male? Anyone? it's not a sexual thing
oh watch out, children shouldn't accdientally drink from the same cup cause then they're prostitutes oh no
Yeah you're someone who likes to defend shady shit because they like to do things in the shadows and pretend they're not doing anything wrong. I know why people like you like to dance around in gray areas, it's so you can screen when you do something wrong. I don't care what you think it was massively disrespectful for her to ditch her boyfriend at a party, let alone drink from other people's drinks like some sort of party bawd.
>says boyfriend was ditched
>was not ditched
>implies the only thing men think about is fricking any women near them
the only thing men think about is fricking any women near them
yeah im sure she ran into buddha and he wanted to get her drunk platonically lest he bats an eye at her body.
So she and her boyfriend were standing next to each other and she took this "friend's" drink and drank from it?
>the only thing men think about is fricking any women near them
Correct.
Non romantic interaction between men and women CAN NOT exist.
Even roman philosophers already knew that.
do you really need to be explained that there's a difference between an act and the implication that it carries.
if a kid looks at you and wiggles its eyebrows, itd be silly and funny. if a stripper does it, the meaning changes. same thing applies. but this is something you already know and are trying to pretend you don't understand so you can try to play oblivious and delve into technicalities. you dont deserve your boyfriend, and he doesnt deserve this kind of treatment.
>he doesnt deserve this kind of treatment.
He kind of does for being such a spineless cuck and letting this happen in the first place.
I agree with this part, this was probably only one of many red flags this social butterfly gives off.
yeah man cause im sure youd have beaten her up right then and there and then proceeded to fight everyone in the immedeate vicinity despite having never touched or interacted with a woman in your life.
the guy literally confronted her about it, frick more do you expect? if the b***h came here whining for help and advice, it's clear the situation had escalated
>youd have beaten her up right then and there
Not her. Him.
I'd have beaten her after we went home.
The correct answer is to not make women like this your girlfriend. It's never a surprise when they act like this, look for the warning signs. If you still manage to get looped in, you first make sure they know what they know was wrong and you don't date people like that, and if they give you lip or do it again you break up. You don't get mad, you just break up.
Yeah I agree with this. She's definitely not deserving of being around with him, hence why I said "you don't deserve him."
The ideal scenario is for women like this to just be instantly dropped and never ever given as much of an eyebat again. Ideally without emotion, let alone agression.
>asks question
>gets answer
>"NOOOO NOT THAT ONE I WANTED TO HEAR THAT I DID NOTHING WRONG!!! YOU INCEL"
Frick off already you moronic roastoid prostitute.
I didn't see it as a sexual thing. I've shared drinks with other women too, and I'm not attracted to them at all. It's just a sip.
I just said I wanted to get a little buzzed and not a whole drink, is why he offered me the sip of his drink.
I didn't mean it as flirting. It didn't even occur to me as sexual.
I share drinks with anyone I know well enough to not worry that they put something weird in the drink.
People do seem kinda mad.
mad cause women are people and not things
you ask for people's opinion, and when people are overwhelmingly telling you that what you've done is silly and you get your answer, you start cherrypicking and feel attacked instead of just... thinking about what youre told.
waah wahh im a victim guyssss stop telling me that ive done a mistake even though i came here explicitly asking if i made a mistake
nobodys mad at you kiddo, youre just not the brightest
I already said I don't care what you think about what happened. The guy you drank from probably likes you more than a friend, aka sneaky friend game. Your boyfriend doesn't like it's disrespectful to him since if you wanted to get drunk you would be doing it with him. Lol and for a fricking basic ass jack and coke like you needed to try that.
He is right.
Yes, you were flirting. The guy 100% went home thinking about how much of a prostitute you are and how much you asked to be fricked by him.
>oblivious
That only indicates how natural it is to flirt with other man in your perspective.
You btw
>It was Jack and Coke if that matters.
Yes, only insofar as it speaks volumes of you, the people you associate with, your boyfriend, and this third wheel pleb who's chalice you freely and uninhibitedly imbibed from.
Do you share drinks with literally anyone, or only people you are close to/intimate with?
lad dont listen to these weirdos, we hate women here lmao and they will say you cheated on him. Your bf can grow up, its sharing a drink who gives a single frick?
>inb4 gErMs
shut up you batty boy, work that immune system. I'd share drinks with any friends and im straight as frick.
And now her bf is sharing germs with that guy, too. Totally disgusting.
Your boyfriend is right, it's a red flag and if he was smart he'd be in the process of executing the escape plan. The fact you're not hanging around your boyfriend is itself a red flag. I don't care what you THINK about what happened, to the outside observer you have done can be interpreted as a cheating and being intimate thus your action was fundamentally disrespectful to your boyfriend and your relationship. No need to argue, it's just a fact.
I don't think sharing a drink is a big deal but, like this anon said, some people can interpret it as an indirect kiss. Just share drinks with your bf now
He's right. In a vacuum it seems fine, but this is the kind of shit that leads to cheating when you hit a rough patch. To prevent major mistakes you have to develop good habits well in advance. This is ancient wisdom but women didn't get the memo I guess
Your BF is being weird about it.
And for whatever reason you've got incels in your comments.
Goodluck OP.
>modern woman thoughts
>tripgay
>muh incels
Back to plebbit with you
>Did I mess up here, or is my bf being weird?
You messed up if you insist on being allowed to swap spit with other men.
I am a female and yeah you shouldn’t’ve done that, thats basically the same as french kissing him. You need to apologize to your bf and say you didn’t understand the implications. If your boyfriend was like doing some weird shit like sucking on a e-girlpop with another girl you would find that gross too.
Idk I find night at the bonfire to be pretty intimate. With friends it usually ends with us talking about deep shit, with women it usually gets pretty close
Sharing a drink while at that mood could easily be too much for a guy you're supposed to be exclusive with to watch
It's easier to tell if you tell us what stage of bonfire we're talking about
>early -- rowdy and loud and fun
>mid -- stories and genuine conversation
>late -- sleepy, quiet, lots of dead air, and deep conversation
I think trying a friends drink is fine. I cant count the amount of times I've tried a friends drink because they asked me to check it out - both dudes and chicks. If my wife asked a friend to try her drink or a friend asked her to try theirs I wouldn't think anything of it at all. Then again, we're both pretty secure with each other and we're well past the age of being irrationally jealous with our partners lmao
I think like this - if a dude was heavily flirting with my woman and during which he offered her a sip of his drink I'd be much more concerned that hes stepping on my territory than the act of sharing a sip of a drink.. even then I don't really care because I know shes coming home with me
You guys weren't socialized well as children and I'm sorry that you missed out
None of us have context
We don't know if it's too far
You even mention that it could be too far in your own post
People are just conjuring a situation using OPs post, and coming to different conclusions because we don't know anything but there was a drink involved
you sound like the onions pussy version of Andrew Tate
You write like someone who either 1) is a woman larping as a married man or 2) is a man whose wife is currently cheating on him.
You're a prostitute and should have a nice day.
better frick your friend and show your bf who's boss
Before the strong, independent women start complaining about how men interpret everything as an invitation for sex: men play a game created by WOMEN. You prostitutes are the ones who love insinuating shit, who love playing stupid games and who love speak in half truths. This is a WOMEN's game. There not a single men in this planet who would not rather simply speaking about sex and whatever openly and verbally. It's your's stupid game and you LOVE to play it.
type this again without being mad
mad or not, still right
right about what? The only people who have a problem with game is the ones that don't have any. You think Chad or even average normies are out here writing complaints on a mongolian throat whistling newspaper about how they can't get laid because the game is rigged or whatever
Can you read? He didn't complain about the game or even his results in such game. He just stated women created it and still frequently complain about some actions being sexualized (like in OPs case right here). Have you ever read a book?
yall are hyperventilating or japanese
indirect kiss is some nip obsession, trying a drink by itself means jack shit
Yet you women will jerk off thinking of the time you shared a drink with Chad wondering if it meant something more. Don't think for a second I don't know your bullshit.
aint a chick, b***h
Don't talk like one then, single mother raised c**t
here ive got a drink you can try *unzips dick*
guess you didnt want an indirect kiss with your mom lmao
I already know you're a single mother runt, you have nothing to say because you're just a female
If I was in your bf's position I would also be upset but mostly because of hygiene and I wouldn't want to catch the monkey flu or anything
What the frick is wrong with women on /adv/?, go to /b/ or some shit
Whats the big deal with sipping someone's drink? I always have a sip of any unattended drinks I see at the bar.
That's a really gross habit.
Ignore all the crabs and khv losers whose understanding of a relationship comes from anime. You didn't do anything wrong, it's just a sip. Your bf is probably insecure and you can talk to him about it
Her boyfriend is also a khv loser, I assume. I hope your cats claw your eyes out for sipping from their water bowl eventually.
here's what i did when my ex pulled that shit
she'd do something along those lines and if the opportunity presented itself i'd reciprocate
she'd get mad af i was doing something with a girl she was literally just doing with another guy so she's clearly not only a hypocrite but she knows exactly what she's doing and was projecting her lascivious bullshit onto me
so i dumped her at the soonest convenient opportunity
Like I said earlier in this thread girls who do this are shady bawds who pretend their shady actions are innocent but they just do it as habit to smokescreen their actual crimes. It's basically a form of gaslighting and you'll notice the sisterhood love to defend it. They don't mind the appearance of evil because they it lets them do evil without you getting wise.
it's easy to turn things around on them if you have any game at all though and then it's even easier to end things 28mjh
Yeah you control this by calling them out when they do this. But it's best to simply not engage with girls who do this. Only the psycho BPD girls really do these things, normal girls never do anything that make you question what's going on. So my lesson learned from many relationships is if you have a girl that makes you ask questions chances are she's doing shit behind your back.
>calling them out when they do this
that's lame, you can't call them out until you turn it around and make them freak out
you don't want to be the one to freak out over something as lame as a shared drink or a conversation that seemed too intimate unless there's more to it
I don't even know if I'd freak out in this situation, I have no idea what actually even happened here. Context matters a lot. If I was there I would be hanging with the girlfriend, most guys wouldn't have the balls to share his drink if I was next to her and it's been a long time since I had a girlfriend that would disrespect me like that. Every girl I've had for years would only share drinks with me in this situation and I only commit to girls who are infatuated with me so they're usually busy feeling me up if we're a campfire party. But regardless, if it was obviously a friend sip then I probably wouldn't care but if I could tell the guy was stepping out of place I'd intervene. Oh and the girl would be dropped for being a bawd that let it happen in the first place.
This. Case in point:
>gf tells me she is getting hit on
>ask her why the frick I care
>she apologizes and says she just wanted me to get a little jealous
>I get hit on shortly after, tell gf
>she loses her shit and says nobody is allowed to flirt with me
>she never tries making me jealous again
In general she was a bawd though and we broke up shortly after.
I think it matters on preference
If my bf did this, I wouldn't care - or if I did this (I never would because I don't drink after anyone who isn't my mom) then he probably wouldn't.
I guess your bf is the type to care - which I mean, yeah, it's sorta like an indirect kiss, but some people don't see it like that (like me), so yeah.
As far as messing up goes, you made an honest mistake, and as long as you don't do it again, then you're fine.
so far my body count is barely in the double digits but it does seem that craziness = good sex, often
which sucks because i barely know how to tell if a girl even likes me if she's not trying to frick me
Why can't any of you frickers on this site just be normal people?
Why can't we let you do whatever you want and just lay there and take it? Why can't we just be objects for you to use and have no opinions whatsoever? Women truly are unreal.
Much love from Kazakhstan
I’d be upset too (just for the sake of arguing lol)
I’m sure you’ve have some really MEANINGLESS arguments or accusations against him for the lols.
You could always try having him do the same exact thing so he could feel ‘even’ and maybe you could feel what he’s feeling
I think we both know how she'd react if he started sharing drinks with a prettier girl
If I see my girl do that, it’s over. I don’t fricking want mono and I don’t tolerate someone who doesn’t put boundaries for her body
Too bad all women are like that to a degree.
Women act very different when their partner is not around and actions like the ones OP did are not seen as wrong to they themselves so they won’t ever even mention it to you or their bf in the first place.
I dont know, girls are weird about sipping other peoples drinks.
Clearly your sipping his throat backwash so you get what you deserve.
Women cannot have sexually active non-married male friends, it will always bring into question loyalty.
This is why we segregate sexes so often and marriage is so important, it takes people out of the dating pool.