My bf saw me have a sip of a friend's drink, and he said that I was being too intimate with other guys and that he didn't like it.


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My bf saw me have a sip of a friend's drink, and he said that I was being too intimate with other guys and that he didn't like it. I didn't think it was a big deal to just have a sip from someone else's drink if they were fine with it, we were outside roasting marshmallows and drinking.

Did I mess up here, or is my bf being weird?

  1. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'd recommend anally fisting your boyfriend in the middle of the night. That will relax him and relieve his stress and give him a positive attitude adjustment.

  2. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    that's an indirect kiss
    ya screwed up

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      This
      In Meiji era Japan, they'd harakari you

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Swords aren't allowed to be carried around in the Meiji Era

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          They were if you had the emperors permission onegaishimasu

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Your boyfriend is right, it's a red flag and if he was smart he'd be in the process of executing the escape plan. The fact you're not hanging around your boyfriend is itself a red flag. I don't care what you THINK about what happened, to the outside observer you have done can be interpreted as a cheating and being intimate thus your action was fundamentally disrespectful to your boyfriend and your relationship. No need to argue, it's just a fact.

      I don't think sharing a drink is a big deal but, like this anon said, some people can interpret it as an indirect kiss. Just share drinks with your bf now

      He's right. In a vacuum it seems fine, but this is the kind of shit that leads to cheating when you hit a rough patch. To prevent major mistakes you have to develop good habits well in advance. This is ancient wisdom but women didn't get the memo I guess

      >Did I mess up here, or is my bf being weird?
      You messed up if you insist on being allowed to swap spit with other men.

      It didn't really occur to me that people might see it that way. I'll stop going forward, but this seems like a weirdly specific thing to keep track of. Are there any other not-so-obvious things in this vein I should be careful about since I'm kind of oblivious apparently?

      Your BF is being weird about it.
      And for whatever reason you've got incels in your comments.
      Goodluck OP.

      Thank you for your feedback. I'm a little worried that the overwhelming response for most of the thread is that I messed up though.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Women are worthless, you probably felt so cute and naughty drinking after another man. Don’t act oblivious you retard you knew exactly what you’re doing. I pray for Sharia law where you idiots will become property covered in head dresses unable to cause men so much stress

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        How do you not know what are intimate activities and what aren't? Don't know you basic personal boundaries? That maybe your friends shouldn't see you in your underwear but your boyfriend can? Even when I was a kid everyone knew that if a boy and girl sharing a drink were getting cudies. If you get cudies from it it's something you shouldn't do with anyone except your boyfriend.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          My family never treated sharing sips of drinks with each other as weird, and my friends always treated it as normal too, so I didn't think anything of it.

          I am a female and yeah you shouldn’t’ve done that, thats basically the same as french kissing him. You need to apologize to your bf and say you didn’t understand the implications. If your boyfriend was like doing some weird shit like sucking on a e-boipop with another girl you would find that gross too.

          I get it now, and I'll apologize to him.

          Idk I find night at the bonfire to be pretty intimate. With friends it usually ends with us talking about deep shit, with women it usually gets pretty close
          Sharing a drink while at that mood could easily be too much for a guy you're supposed to be exclusive with to watch

          It's easier to tell if you tell us what stage of bonfire we're talking about
          >early -- rowdy and loud and fun
          >mid -- stories and genuine conversation
          >late -- sleepy, quiet, lots of dead air, and deep conversation

          I would say it's early/mid into the night by the fire that I had a sip of the friend's drink.

          None of us have context
          We don't know if it's too far
          You even mention that it could be too far in your own post

          People are just conjuring a situation using OPs post, and coming to different conclusions because we don't know anything but there was a drink involved

          It was jack and coke if that matters.

          I think trying a friends drink is fine. I cant count the amount of times I've tried a friends drink because they asked me to check it out - both dudes and chicks. If my wife asked a friend to try her drink or a friend asked her to try theirs I wouldn't think anything of it at all. Then again, we're both pretty secure with each other and we're well past the age of being irrationally jealous with our partners lmao

          I think like this - if a dude was heavily flirting with my woman and during which he offered her a sip of his drink I'd be much more concerned that hes stepping on my territory than the act of sharing a sip of a drink.. even then I don't really care because I know shes coming home with me

          You guys weren't socialized well as children and I'm sorry that you missed out

          There wasn't any flirting (unless I was oblivious to it) so I don't think that's a concern.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >It was jack and coke if that matters.
            You shared a non-special alcoholic drink with someone who probably wants to have sex with you? I still don't believe you're this naive.

            • 6 months ago
              Anon

              Not everything is about sex incel

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                Actually in this case drinking a jack and coke from a boy not her boyfriend instead of drinking with her boyfriend at the same party kind of is. And women cry about how they can't keep men around.

              • 6 months ago
                Anon

                it's a drink, they aren't riding their dick or telling them they wanna fuck or giving them looks or any signals.

                It could be fucking orange juice and the incels would crawl out and scream whore
                Man, LULZ gets so nutty sometimes

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                Yup this is modern women, they think they can do whatever bullshit because it's not cheating. Do you know the only girl I've ever known that said shit like this cheated on me? Only cheaters say "it's not like we're having sex" whenever they do shady bullshit with other guys. You're a shady slut.

              • 6 months ago
                Anon

                the point is it's a drink do drinsk always automatically mean sex that is whats being asked
                some seem to think drinking is the line, that's the bar according to you. You ever share a drink with a friend who was a girl or fuck even just your mom...? Any female? Hell a male? Anyone? it's not a sexual thing
                oh watch out, children shouldn't accdientally drink from the same cup cause then they're whores oh no

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                Yeah you're someone who likes to defend shady shit because they like to do things in the shadows and pretend they're not doing anything wrong. I know why people like you like to dance around in gray areas, it's so you can screen when you do something wrong. I don't care what you think it was massively disrespectful for her to ditch her boyfriend at a party, let alone drink from other people's drinks like some sort of party slut.

              • 6 months ago
                Anon

                >says boyfriend was ditched
                >was not ditched
                >implies the only thing men think about is fucking any women near them

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                the only thing men think about is fucking any women near them

                yeah im sure she ran into buddha and he wanted to get her drunk platonically lest he bats an eye at her body.

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                So she and her boyfriend were standing next to each other and she took this "friend's" drink and drank from it?

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                >the only thing men think about is fucking any women near them
                Correct.
                Non romantic interaction between men and women CAN NOT exist.
                Even roman philosophers already knew that.

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                do you really need to be explained that there's a difference between an act and the implication that it carries.

                if a kid looks at you and wiggles its eyebrows, itd be silly and funny. if a stripper does it, the meaning changes. same thing applies. but this is something you already know and are trying to pretend you don't understand so you can try to play oblivious and delve into technicalities. you dont deserve your boyfriend, and he doesnt deserve this kind of treatment.

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                >he doesnt deserve this kind of treatment.
                He kind of does for being such a spineless cuck and letting this happen in the first place.

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                I agree with this part, this was probably only one of many red flags this social butterfly gives off.

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                yeah man cause im sure youd have beaten her up right then and there and then proceeded to fight everyone in the immedeate vicinity despite having never touched or interacted with a woman in your life.

                the guy literally confronted her about it, fuck more do you expect? if the bitch came here whining for help and advice, it's clear the situation had escalated

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                >youd have beaten her up right then and there
                Not her. Him.
                I'd have beaten her after we went home.

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                The correct answer is to not make women like this your girlfriend. It's never a surprise when they act like this, look for the warning signs. If you still manage to get looped in, you first make sure they know what they know was wrong and you don't date people like that, and if they give you lip or do it again you break up. You don't get mad, you just break up.

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                Yeah I agree with this. She's definitely not deserving of being around with him, hence why I said "you don't deserve him."

                The ideal scenario is for women like this to just be instantly dropped and never ever given as much of an eyebat again. Ideally without emotion, let alone agression.

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                >asks question
                >gets answer
                >"NOOOO NOT THAT ONE I WANTED TO HEAR THAT I DID NOTHING WRONG!!! YOU INCEL"
                Fuck off already you retarded roastoid whore.

            • 6 months ago
              Anonymous

              I didn't see it as a sexual thing. I've shared drinks with other women too, and I'm not attracted to them at all. It's just a sip.

              I just said I wanted to get a little buzzed and not a whole drink, is why he offered me the sip of his drink.

              He is right.

              Yes, you were flirting. The guy 100% went home thinking about how much of a whore you are and how much you asked to be fucked by him.
              >oblivious
              That only indicates how natural it is to flirt with other man in your perspective.

              I didn't mean it as flirting. It didn't even occur to me as sexual.

              Do you share drinks with literally anyone, or only people you are close to/intimate with?

              I share drinks with anyone I know well enough to not worry that they put something weird in the drink.

              it's a drink, they aren't riding their dick or telling them they wanna fuck or giving them looks or any signals.

              It could be fucking orange juice and the incels would crawl out and scream whore
              Man, LULZ gets so nutty sometimes

              People do seem kinda mad.

              • 6 months ago
                Anon

                mad cause women are people and not things

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                you ask for people's opinion, and when people are overwhelmingly telling you that what you've done is silly and you get your answer, you start cherrypicking and feel attacked instead of just... thinking about what youre told.

                waah wahh im a victim guyssss stop telling me that ive done a mistake even though i came here explicitly asking if i made a mistake

                nobodys mad at you kiddo, youre just not the brightest

              • 6 months ago
                Anonymous

                I already said I don't care what you think about what happened. The guy you drank from probably likes you more than a friend, aka sneaky friend game. Your boyfriend doesn't like it's disrespectful to him since if you wanted to get drunk you would be doing it with him. Lol and for a fucking basic ass jack and coke like you needed to try that.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            He is right.

            Yes, you were flirting. The guy 100% went home thinking about how much of a whore you are and how much you asked to be fucked by him.
            >oblivious
            That only indicates how natural it is to flirt with other man in your perspective.

            • 6 months ago
              Anonymous

              You btw

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >It was Jack and Coke if that matters.

            Yes, only insofar as it speaks volumes of you, the people you associate with, your boyfriend, and this third wheel pleb who's chalice you freely and uninhibitedly imbibed from.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Do you share drinks with literally anyone, or only people you are close to/intimate with?

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        lad dont listen to these weirdos, we hate women here lmao and they will say you cheated on him. Your bf can grow up, its sharing a drink who gives a single fuck?
        >inb4 gErMs
        shut up you batty boy, work that immune system. I'd share drinks with any friends and im straight as fuck.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      And now her bf is sharing germs with that guy, too. Totally disgusting.

  3. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Your boyfriend is right, it's a red flag and if he was smart he'd be in the process of executing the escape plan. The fact you're not hanging around your boyfriend is itself a red flag. I don't care what you THINK about what happened, to the outside observer you have done can be interpreted as a cheating and being intimate thus your action was fundamentally disrespectful to your boyfriend and your relationship. No need to argue, it's just a fact.

  4. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I don't think sharing a drink is a big deal but, like this anon said, some people can interpret it as an indirect kiss. Just share drinks with your bf now

  5. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    He's right. In a vacuum it seems fine, but this is the kind of shit that leads to cheating when you hit a rough patch. To prevent major mistakes you have to develop good habits well in advance. This is ancient wisdom but women didn't get the memo I guess

  6. 6 months ago
    Anon

    Your BF is being weird about it.
    And for whatever reason you've got incels in your comments.
    Goodluck OP.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      >modern woman thoughts

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      >tripfag
      >muh incels
      Back to plebbit with you

  7. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Did I mess up here, or is my bf being weird?
    You messed up if you insist on being allowed to swap spit with other men.

  8. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I am a female and yeah you shouldn’t’ve done that, thats basically the same as french kissing him. You need to apologize to your bf and say you didn’t understand the implications. If your boyfriend was like doing some weird shit like sucking on a e-boipop with another girl you would find that gross too.

  9. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Idk I find night at the bonfire to be pretty intimate. With friends it usually ends with us talking about deep shit, with women it usually gets pretty close
    Sharing a drink while at that mood could easily be too much for a guy you're supposed to be exclusive with to watch

    It's easier to tell if you tell us what stage of bonfire we're talking about
    >early -- rowdy and loud and fun
    >mid -- stories and genuine conversation
    >late -- sleepy, quiet, lots of dead air, and deep conversation

  10. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I think trying a friends drink is fine. I cant count the amount of times I've tried a friends drink because they asked me to check it out - both dudes and chicks. If my wife asked a friend to try her drink or a friend asked her to try theirs I wouldn't think anything of it at all. Then again, we're both pretty secure with each other and we're well past the age of being irrationally jealous with our partners lmao

    I think like this - if a dude was heavily flirting with my woman and during which he offered her a sip of his drink I'd be much more concerned that hes stepping on my territory than the act of sharing a sip of a drink.. even then I don't really care because I know shes coming home with me

    You guys weren't socialized well as children and I'm sorry that you missed out

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      None of us have context
      We don't know if it's too far
      You even mention that it could be too far in your own post

      People are just conjuring a situation using OPs post, and coming to different conclusions because we don't know anything but there was a drink involved

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      you sound like the onions pussy version of Andrew Tate

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      You write like someone who either 1) is a woman larping as a married man or 2) is a man whose wife is currently cheating on him.

  11. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    You're a whore and should kill yourself.

  12. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    better fuck your friend and show your bf who's boss

  13. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Before the strong, independent women start complaining about how men interpret everything as an invitation for sex: men play a game created by WOMEN. You whores are the ones who love insinuating shit, who love playing stupid games and who love speak in half truths. This is a WOMEN's game. There not a single men in this planet who would not rather simply speaking about sex and whatever openly and verbally. It's your's stupid game and you LOVE to play it.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      type this again without being mad

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        mad or not, still right

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          right about what? The only people who have a problem with game is the ones that don't have any. You think Chad or even average normies are out here writing complaints on a mongolian throat whistling newspaper about how they can't get laid because the game is rigged or whatever

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Can you read? He didn't complain about the game or even his results in such game. He just stated women created it and still frequently complain about some actions being sexualized (like in OPs case right here). Have you ever read a book?

  14. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    yall are hyperventilating or japanese
    indirect kiss is some nip obsession, trying a drink by itself means jack shit

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Yet you women will masturbate thinking of the time you shared a drink with Chad wondering if it meant something more. Don't think for a second I don't know your bullshit.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        aint a chick, bitch

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          Don't talk like one then, single mother raised cunt

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            here ive got a drink you can try *unzips dick*

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            here ive got a drink you can try *unzips dick*

            guess you didnt want an indirect kiss with your mom lmao

            • 6 months ago
              Anonymous

              I already know you're a single mother runt, you have nothing to say because you're just a female

  15. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    If I was in your bf's position I would also be upset but mostly because of hygiene and I wouldn't want to catch the monkey flu or anything

  16. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    What the fuck is wrong with women on /adv/?, go to /b/ or some shit

  17. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Whats the big deal with sipping someone's drink? I always have a sip of any unattended drinks I see at the bar.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      That's a really gross habit.

  18. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Ignore all the crabs and khv losers whose understanding of a relationship comes from anime. You didn't do anything wrong, it's just a sip. Your bf is probably insecure and you can talk to him about it

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Her boyfriend is also a khv loser, I assume. I hope your cats claw your eyes out for sipping from their water bowl eventually.

  19. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    here's what i did when my ex pulled that shit

    she'd do something along those lines and if the opportunity presented itself i'd reciprocate

    she'd get mad af i was doing something with a girl she was literally just doing with another guy so she's clearly not only a hypocrite but she knows exactly what she's doing and was projecting her lascivious bullshit onto me

    so i dumped her at the soonest convenient opportunity

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Like I said earlier in this thread girls who do this are shady sluts who pretend their shady actions are innocent but they just do it as habit to smokescreen their actual crimes. It's basically a form of gaslighting and you'll notice the sisterhood love to defend it. They don't mind the appearance of evil because they it lets them do evil without you getting wise.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        it's easy to turn things around on them if you have any game at all though and then it's even easier to end things 28mjh

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah you control this by calling them out when they do this. But it's best to simply not engage with girls who do this. Only the psycho BPD girls really do these things, normal girls never do anything that make you question what's going on. So my lesson learned from many relationships is if you have a girl that makes you ask questions chances are she's doing shit behind your back.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >calling them out when they do this
            that's lame, you can't call them out until you turn it around and make them freak out

            you don't want to be the one to freak out over something as lame as a shared drink or a conversation that seemed too intimate unless there's more to it

            • 6 months ago
              Anonymous

              I don't even know if I'd freak out in this situation, I have no idea what actually even happened here. Context matters a lot. If I was there I would be hanging with the girlfriend, most guys wouldn't have the balls to share his drink if I was next to her and it's been a long time since I had a girlfriend that would disrespect me like that. Every girl I've had for years would only share drinks with me in this situation and I only commit to girls who are infatuated with me so they're usually busy feeling me up if we're a campfire party. But regardless, if it was obviously a friend sip then I probably wouldn't care but if I could tell the guy was stepping out of place I'd intervene. Oh and the girl would be dropped for being a slut that let it happen in the first place.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      This. Case in point:
      >gf tells me she is getting hit on
      >ask her why the fuck I care
      >she apologizes and says she just wanted me to get a little jealous
      >I get hit on shortly after, tell gf
      >she loses her shit and says nobody is allowed to flirt with me
      >she never tries making me jealous again

      In general she was a slut though and we broke up shortly after.

  20. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I think it matters on preference

    If my bf did this, I wouldn't care - or if I did this (I never would because I don't drink after anyone who isn't my mom) then he probably wouldn't.

    I guess your bf is the type to care - which I mean, yeah, it's sorta like an indirect kiss, but some people don't see it like that (like me), so yeah.

    As far as messing up goes, you made an honest mistake, and as long as you don't do it again, then you're fine.

  21. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    so far my body count is barely in the double digits but it does seem that craziness = good sex, often

    which sucks because i barely know how to tell if a girl even likes me if she's not trying to fuck me

  22. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Why can't any of you fuckers on this site just be normal people?

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Why can't we let you do whatever you want and just lay there and take it? Why can't we just be objects for you to use and have no opinions whatsoever? Women truly are unreal.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Much love from Kazakhstan

  23. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I’d be upset too (just for the sake of arguing lol)

    I’m sure you’ve have some really MEANINGLESS arguments or accusations against him for the lols.

    You could always try having him do the same exact thing so he could feel ‘even’ and maybe you could feel what he’s feeling

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      I think we both know how she'd react if he started sharing drinks with a prettier girl

  24. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    If I see my girl do that, it’s over. I don’t fucking want mono and I don’t tolerate someone who doesn’t put boundaries for her body

  25. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Too bad all women are like that to a degree.

    Women act very different when their partner is not around and actions like the ones OP did are not seen as wrong to they themselves so they won’t ever even mention it to you or their bf in the first place.

  26. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I dont know, girls are weird about sipping other peoples drinks.

    Clearly your sipping his throat backwash so you get what you deserve.

  27. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Women cannot have sexually active non-married male friends, it will always bring into question loyalty.

    This is why we segregate sexes so often and marriage is so important, it takes people out of the dating pool.

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