My bf is younger than me

My bf is still in college and I have to wait for him to graduate about 2 years before we can get married.

The problem is i am playing Russian roulette because if he changes his.mind in the mean time I will have wasted 2 years of my life and will be completely screwed afterwards and have to start from scratch plus by then I will be 28. What do I do?

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Look at this old hag grooming an young boy, someone please call the FBI

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      No I think this is hot as a young boy of 18 years of age. 18 year old boys need trans mommies to take care of them

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        What does getting married have to do with this?

        You do understand divorce right? He can change his mind after marriage and you'll be back to square one again but this time will have been previously married which will turn people off

        >> Trans mommy

        Dafuq are you talking about freak?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I’m confused, so I shouldn’t get married?

          He doesn’t believe in divorce I don’t think.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          You are not a woman. You are not a "mommy".

          > take care of anyone
          > troony
          Bro, chances are you can't even keep your own life together. How'd you expect to take care of anyone else?

          I believe he was making a joke about older women who sort of pretend to be your mom, i.e. trans-mommy instead of transsexual mommy.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I need a trans mommy to take care of me as a smol 18 year old boy

          You are not a woman. You are not a "mommy".

          Yes you're right. I'm a cute boy. I need a trans mommy

          > take care of anyone
          > troony
          Bro, chances are you can't even keep your own life together. How'd you expect to take care of anyone else?

          🙁 I want a troony mommy to take care of me

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            I didn't know we had an underage child in the thread, get out of here now.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            I'm an 18 year old boy

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Exactly.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        You are not a woman. You are not a "mommy".

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        > take care of anyone
        > troony
        Bro, chances are you can't even keep your own life together. How'd you expect to take care of anyone else?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          [...]
          [...]
          I believe he was making a joke about older women who sort of pretend to be your mom, i.e. trans-mommy instead of transsexual mommy.

          I need a trans mommy to take care of me as a smol 18 year old boy
          [...]
          Yes you're right. I'm a cute boy. I need a trans mommy
          [...]
          🙁 I want a troony mommy to take care of me

          I didn't know we had an underage child in the thread, get out of here now.

          I'm an 18 year old boy

          Stop derailing

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            This

            Look at this old hag grooming an young boy, someone please call the FBI

            Derailed it first

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah frick that kid.

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Uh, why do you have to wait?
    Sounds like he's got you on hold. He doesn't want to be a married man while he's in college, why would that be?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      It’s because he is in another country I think and we have to apply for a visa in order to be together.

      I’m not sure exactly why. How long is a reasonable time to know each other before marrying?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Do you enjoy your time? If you do, you're not wasting it
        If you don't then why do you think things will magically get better when you marry.

        okay this is very different
        LDR can often just fade away & I would at least feel like an LDR isn't entirely fullfilling.

        I’m confused, so I shouldn’t get married?

        He doesn’t believe in divorce I don’t think.

        depends from guy to guy. My brother always said would never (and still does after being in a relationship with the same girl for 10+ years now? He also got snipped so maybe that has something to do with it), I want to get married, my sister got married & loves it and my other brother was happily married for... 25y? before she passed away and my OTHER brother likely wishes he didn't get married since they're in a REALLY rocky part of the relationship right now

        > as long as you had genuine cause to believe it could work, it wasn't a waste

        Well it is, because I would be old and I just wasted all my time again.

        He does value commitment, but I’m not sure I trust him to stay loyal to me throughout college because he can easily meet a girl there and have something with her instead of having to wait to get together with me since it’s long distance.

        I don’t think he will cheat but it’s possible he will meet someone and grow distant.

        [...]
        It’s pretty time consuming. I find older guys that aren’t taken are much worse and have serious issues. Even guys around my age have commitment issues though.

        >He does value commitment, but I’m not sure I trust him to stay loyal to me throughout college because he can easily meet a girl there and have something with her instead of having to wait to get together with me since it’s long distance.
        >I don’t think he will cheat but it’s possible he will meet someone and grow distant.
        How often do you meet, like IRL? If never, then yes this is a very real possibility. Guys that young are horny motherfrickers so if given the opportunity to have something more physical there's a very real chance he'll take it

        To me, a LDR is like a step before a real relationship, if you can skip that step then it's appealing. I would feel SIGNIFICANTLY less bad about breaking off an LDR to start a new relationship

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Compromise or break up, b***h

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    PULL THE TRIGGER AND DO IT PUSSY, DO IT!

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    First off the top - why precisely must you guys wait for graduation before getting married?
    Next up - why do you wand to get married? What do you expect to get out of it: children, a long term partner, what?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Your time is wasted only if you invest it in a relationship with a low chance of success. Dating involves risk, and not all risks will pan out. Even if this relationship doesn't last, as long as you had genuine cause to believe it could work, it wasn't a waste. It was just an unfortunate result.
      It *would* be a waste to prematurely devote yourself to someone, though. Things like paying for his college, living together, having sex, and so on. Basically, acting as if you're committed before you're married will open you up to being taken advantage of, and the devotion that should exclusively be for your spouse is squandered instead on someone who wasn't right for you.

      If you think he's the kind of guy to value commitment (and for young men, this is something he should have explicitly talked about, otherwise you should assume greater risk), you trust him to stay faithful while you wait, and your life plans even after graduation are aligned, then it's not a waste to give the relationship a sincere chance. But if you're doubtful about any of these, then it might make sense to break up.

      >why do you wand to get married?
      Not OP and not a woman, but the answer to this is obviously commitment, something that young guys are notoriously unreliable about as a group.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        > as long as you had genuine cause to believe it could work, it wasn't a waste

        Well it is, because I would be old and I just wasted all my time again.

        He does value commitment, but I’m not sure I trust him to stay loyal to me throughout college because he can easily meet a girl there and have something with her instead of having to wait to get together with me since it’s long distance.

        I don’t think he will cheat but it’s possible he will meet someone and grow distant.

        How difficult or time consuming is what he's studying? May be being it up to him soon so you know if he's serious or not.

        This might be a good example of why dating older guys is a good thing. A guy older than you would likely already have decided.

        It’s pretty time consuming. I find older guys that aren’t taken are much worse and have serious issues. Even guys around my age have commitment issues though.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >time consuming
          damn, well at least he's halfway done

          I'm your age and finally finishing my degree. I wouldn't expect someone my age to want to deal with me being in school and working a "shitty job". I've been dating girls younger than me/in college since we pretty much have the same sort of schedule. I don't really know how to help.

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    How difficult or time consuming is what he's studying? May be being it up to him soon so you know if he's serious or not.

    This might be a good example of why dating older guys is a good thing. A guy older than you would likely already have decided.

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