Idk, if government is saying there are UFO’s then I’ll go with that.
I assume aliens are out there, universe is big and we are not that special. Don't really think they are on our planet or care to see the sights in person. A shaky iPhone video of a light or out of focus object in the sky is not good enough.
Can you at least tell us why you believe so? The only thing I can think of is non factual documentaries like Ancient Apocalypse on Netflix mixed with YouTube conspiracies videos
Because there were so much ancient cultures which had no contact with each other having very similar legends and building very similar constructions, sometimes in such perfect geometrical shape that they needed modern tools
Probably a psyop for other humanitarian crimes they commit. Like animal fusion or human genetic testing. So yeah "aliens" being real would excuse some of those sightings. The only ones I'd care about would be the pleadians.
Not too much not too little, depends on the person.
I only want a compliment when I've done something exceptional or my looks/ behaviour made you feel a certain positive way.
That way I know it's honest.
>co-worker of an ex is sitting in our restaurant >I know she's a friend of hers because I saw them on Insta >the co-worker sees me and makes eye contact
how do I tell if I've been recognised or something lmao she's probably told other people about me
Moid here. I have a thing for girls with tattoos but only a lustful thing so I'd fuck her life my life depended on it and then I would likely only keep it casual.
>wake up >super horny
How do I deal with this? I don't want to be horny or jerk off, I hate it. Right now I just want to have a big boob in my mouth and bite it chomp it and it sickens me
Post gender.
How do you feel about large insertions? Like stuffing your holes/your partner's holes with bigger and bigger objects? Would you do it to yourself? Would you do it to your partner? Would you let your partner do it to you? Have you ever done anything similar? What's the largest thing you've had inside you (if any)?
f, have used a 7 inch toy on myself and that felt like the limit for me pretty much. have also used a 4 inch wide butt plug which also felt massive. the idea is sort of hot but im not into the idea of going any further
>have also used a 4 inch wide butt plug which also felt massive.
I hope you mean circumference, not diameter kek > the idea is sort of hot but im not into the idea of going any further
Fair enough. Would you do it to a partner, if they were on board?
Male.
The idea is hot. Doing it irl scares me, I'd be afraid it'd take over too much of the "normal" sexual dynamic with my partner.
I guess in a hypothetic scenario where I have a fuckbuddy, she's really into it and all we do is specifically that, then I'd try it. Both on my ass and on her holes. Frankly though, involving stuff bigger than my dick would still take some effort, from a psychological point of view.
Closest thing I've done is I guess masturbating with objects in my ass. Biggest was the handle of a screwdriver.
People do that shit all the time cause they don't wanna be alone. You don't wanna be like that anon. Trust me, I've seen some of my friends (male and female) become like that.
Male. In my experience there has to be some attraction. If not then it becomes asymmetrical and they resent each other. One thinks they qre forves into chores the other says there are being starved.
Its a common issue for the male partner to want more sex than the female one, you just look at the pros and the cons. If he is awesome to be around, makes your days happier and easier, makes your life feel like its not just a thread-mill - you could do some sexual favors for him even if you arent super horny for it. He isnt super hyped to get the roof fixed or w/e but you just offer each-other compromises ad long as overall being together is better than not.
Im talking a woman who loves cats despite being highly allergic to them
is this a good sign?
I feel like this is the type of woman who would stay with an abusive boyfriend who posts on a taiwanese pottery forum
It is, to me, not meaningful for judging her character. If she only has a mild allergy and still enjoys cats lots, it just makes sense to make the sacrifice of some sneezing or whatever so you can be around them.
The difference with your analogy is that it would be healthy and make sense for a woman to get turned off by or start resenting a man who mistreats her. But a cat is not to blame or resent for someone having an allergic reaction. The issue is much more neutral.
It is, to me, not meaningful for judging her character. If she only has a mild allergy and still enjoys cats lots, it just makes sense to make the sacrifice of some sneezing or whatever so you can be around them.
The difference with your analogy is that it would be healthy and make sense for a woman to get turned off by or start resenting a man who mistreats her. But a cat is not to blame or resent for someone having an allergic reaction. The issue is much more neutral.
For the record with mild allergy I meant in the end her complaints can be dealt with. I know several people with pretty severe allergies that are still totally mild and manageable when they take pills (antihistaminicum).
Men, why is it such a big deal when a girl wants to play videogames with you? So many times I've seen someone simp for a girl because she's a gamer, or I'll see a post online of a girl showing off something game related and men in the comments say "wife material". Why? They're just games.
Sounds overstated, don’t really think there is that much worship, but overall its cool because I have spend a lot of time playing vidya and it would be cool to have a partner who shares the hobby. The passion, the memes, the anticipation for upcoming titles and nostalgia for old ones.
because its a hobby you can share with your girlfriend and very few women are actually into gaming
just to give you an idea theres a language exchange program at my uni and a lot of girls say theyre "gamer girls" just because it attracts guys even though they soon realize that playing a gacha once a week doesnt make you a gamer
Honestly, women are generally sore losers. They also get frustrated very easily and if you've ever tried to teach a woman something difficult she generally speaking will not care.
>Men, why is it such a big deal when a girl wants to play videogames with you?
It isn't >So many times I've seen someone simp for a girl because she's a gamer
Oh you're asking why there are a bunch of dumbasses who simp for girls instead of enjoying games.
Because they're losers seeking escapism through games as a way to distract themselves from their unfulfilling lives and try to fill that lack of fulfilment through bing bing wahoos.
They aren't actually gamers, they don't actually game since they like gaming, they game as a way to cope with not being as normal as they want to be.
And yes, people like that simp hard for girls. >I'll see a post online of a girl showing off something game related and men in the comments say "wife material".
Hm, like what? Something difficult, involving a lot of time or energy or skill? Being able to invest a lot of time energy and learn a lot of skill at things is a good quality for a wife to have.
Much better than the whole "Satisfy my emotions NOW daddy" attitude that some women have.
Because it means we actually get to spend time together doing something we both enjoy.
I know a lot of women will literally never play video games with their partner or even outright look down on them for playing them alone.
I've asked men because I dislike being put on a pedestal for doing the same thing they do. They say it's because it's rare that a woman likes videogames. Whatever.
It's because you spend too much time around nerds.
This is actually it, it's not a big deal outside gay gaming anime internet forums.
Spend some time offline. It's not even a remotely attractive hobby.
That’s what I always thought premature ejaculation meant.
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He could be staying in the same position, particularly with doggy. Same with oral, not always a change. It comes like 0.5 seconds after any twitching starts though.
And what do you expect, some sort of announcement?
"Excuse me miss, prepare to be met by my ejaculation"?
Well if it’s like that then I’d prefer if he’d call me a slut or something.
>That’s what I always thought premature ejaculation meant.
Yeah, possibly.
It's not a chronic thing for me though, it happens randomly. Often if I'm super horny or I've been super horny all day but not always. Maybe a couple of times a year at most.
But is premature ejaculation just not being able to last long? What you said sounded like ejaculation without orgasm to me.
>But is premature ejaculation just not being able to last long? What you said sounded like ejaculation without orgasm to me.
It's pretty independent of my stamina and just happens randomly sometimes.
On those couple of times a year? No. Maybe I just feel vaguely more horny but then maybe after around a minute I ejaculate usually without even having an orgasm.
Normally? Yeah there's a pretty big build up that I can consciously drag out if I choose to. After a certain point I can basically decide to cum whenever and then eventually it reaches a point where it's just too much for me to hold off (although that realisation maybe has like 3 seconds warning at most).
Perhaps I should’ve said this before I’m mainly talking about cumming without telling me in my mouth. It’s quite rude to do it. It doesn’t really affect me that much if in my vagina tbh.
>just graduated 4 year uni degree >meet 17 year old at house party that's just graduated high school and turns 18 in a couple months >hit it off, trade numbers and go out
thoughts?
feels a bit weird but it's legal where I'm at and it's not gonna feel weird in 3-4 months when she's 18 and starts uni, will people I know irl cancel me for this?
You aren't famous, no one is going to cancel you dude. This may even be normal depending on your country. Just don't do anything illegal and you will be fine.
>You aren't famous
Not to sound big headed but achieving my goals could likely lead to fame which is why I'm kinda paranoid haha
If it weren't for that I honestly wouldn't give a fuck, friends cut me off? Fuck em, I don't even like it here so I'll just move somewhere else and start over
Also I'm from the UK if that makes a difference
>friends cut me off?
Why would they? >I'll just move somewhere else and start over
You are being overly dramatic > I'm from the UK if that makes a difference
I honestly don't know how people are like over there. My christian tradwife crush from highschool got married at 16 to a guy in his mid 20s.
yeah well obviously because you should have self respect and value your own time
how fucking pathetic are you if youre paying women for a conversation? think about it. even paying for sex is kinda cringe but I can understand that because it saves you a lot of time on dating/buying drinks and taking her out
What's wrong with paying for a conversation and why would it be different from paying for sex? If women don't want to speak to me then only way to incentivize it is through money
It absolute is pathetic, but I won't be able to convince you of that if you can't see it yourself. Or refuse to.
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Meh, being pathetic isn't something you choose for yourself. Like okay, you can be stoic but that's just a face/shame thing.
its incredibly pathetic
women are picky with sex and they usually require an unfront investment in order to give it to someone. Even Chads USUALLY need to invest 7 hours and a few drinks before they get laid.
A conversation ANYONE will give you for free. Right away. Even 10/10 chicks
consider suicide man. youre on the level of simps who buy onlyfans sluts new cars. serious,ly, off yourself
Conversation isn't free though, that's why people pay for it. That's why there are chatbots and AI subscription services. I mean I wish I could talk to people for free but I can't, money is the only lubricant that works
its incredibly pathetic
women are picky with sex and they usually require an unfront investment in order to give it to someone. Even Chads USUALLY need to invest 7 hours and a few drinks before they get laid.
A conversation ANYONE will give you for free. Right away. Even 10/10 chicks
consider suicide man. youre on the level of simps who buy onlyfans sluts new cars. serious,ly, off yourself
Probably honestly. I don’t really care. I don’t care to eat/drink after someone either.
Both moids and foids
Would you date someone with a big pentagram tattoo on their belly? What if there was a goat head in the middle of it, too?
F h
How do women survive being with a man they don’t want sexually but still having to have sex? It sounds so sad
I’ve never had a bf so idk
Do they just get used to it
e/she would need to keep their shirt on during sex.
>wake up >super horny
How do I deal with this? I don't want to be horny or jerk off, I hate it. Right now I just want to have a big boob in my mouth and bite it chomp it and it sickens me
Booty call.
How do women survive being with a man they don’t want sexually but still having to have sex? It sounds so sad
I’ve never had a bf so idk
Do they just get used to it
Can’t recall ever doing that.
I'm 22 and talk to the 18-19 year olds in first year all the time
my og question was whether it'd be weird to get a 17 year olds' number if she was turning 18 in a couple months and was finished with high school
Because I'd feel wrong dating high schoolers but don't know how to feel about girls who are in limbo between high school and uni, in 4 months I wouldn't feel wrong about it
I do think you should wait till she goes to uni. I was gonna say since I assume she’ll be living in a dorm, her parents won’t know you’re fucking her if you’re worrying about that but you said you want to date her. Of course they still don’t have to know but you know it’s a bit more serious than just having sex with her.
Fair enough, I'm just not too sure how much moral difference a few months makes when I could get friendzoned if I waited to make a move/ask her out
This situation is just hypothetical/potential though, this hasn't actually happened
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Anonymous
You could text/message her, ask her out now if you feel there’s enough interest, and then explain your thoughts to her unless you feel that you’ll be perceived as like weak or something but it depends on the person it terms of how they’d respond to that.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
sounds fair
tbh if I liked her enough to ask for her number I think I'd just go for it and hope I didn't get my reputation tarnished lmao
Don’t send her nudes and don’t try to get her to send nudes. Even if she’s legal that is illegal.
haha no problem anon, nudes aren't my style anyway
What's your opinion on this guys?
I am together with my bf for 10+ years now, but in the past 2 or so years I feel like he does not love me romantically only as a friend. We barely have sex (1x a month), and it is always me who initiates. It's not that he does not have sexual needs, I know he watches porn-pics/videos daily, but he just doesn't look at me I think. We are at home together most of the times cause of our job's nature, so I know he's not cheating. He does not say I love you only if I say it. We live together but in different rooms, and if I go to his office (to read example quietly) it feels like he's uncomfortable cause he doesn't want me to see him what he's watching. He's on LULZ too, but mostly on political and random... I asked him if he has any problem, he can tell me etc., but he always says it's nothing, there is no problem. Does he just no longer loves me romantically? How can I change that? I feel so lonely.
You gave him your 20s for what? Do you not want marriage?
He has grown comfortable with you. You don’t stimulate him. You gave him your all as a girlfriend and he’s just meh about it. Maybe he loves you but like a non-romantic love.
We got married 3 years ago, but it was only for formalities, and because we are not a traditional mindset-like couple (will have no kids) we don't refer to the other as husband or wife only on official papers. >You gave him your 20s for what?
I was laid back, and thought that I will go out with someone I really like (and have the qualities I want), and so he had it/ has it. >He has grown comfortable with you. You don’t stimulate him.
Would it stimulate him if I started to work outside of the house in a traditional workplace? Maybe he would pay more attention if he would maybe think that others can notice me? (I am more on the cute pretty side than ugly.)
I know that he likes me at least as a partner/friend, cause he has no friends, and we support each others in everyday life situations (like if one of us get sick the other takes care of them).
If you can't talk about your problems clearly and openly with one another then it's never going to get better.
Say all of this to your boyfriend explicitly and try to work out how to solve them together.
>sex gone >doesn't speak to you of problems >mostly spend time apart even when at home >browsing /misc/
Ah, nice, your boyfriend is mentally ill and is trying to be an incel. Only that he is voluntarily pushing you away.
22 year old wasted youth loser checking in, it's been a while
holy fucking shit I might actually have sex this summer bros
and not only might I have sex, I'm also making guy friends too
I got 6-7 girls from uni that I'm talking to right now, and I also have a few events lined up in the next month where I'm gonna be meeting more girls. I could easily get 10 more numbers if I wanted to
Got a handful of prospective guy friends on the same wavelength as me/same interests as me too, this shit is cash
All zoomers, no boomers, I feel the hope I felt when I was 16 again
WAGMI anons, big fat fucking 'ha! syke!!' to the anons in here who told me my youth was over and I couldn't rectify this shit
Oh in that case it's fine.
The most important thing is to talk about sex often, make sure you're pushing gently for escalation and try to set up situations where it can happen.
When the first time actually comes, expect things to be awkward and uncomfortable. For guys especially there is a huge bundle of nerves/ego associated with your first time and often the pressure can make them unable to even maintain an erection.
If that happens, don't take it personally and basically do whatever else you can given the circumstances. Over time it will gradually get easier.
After that, it's just about being open, honest and clear with your partner in terms of what gets you off and potentially physically guiding his hands/hips into the right places. Eventually if he's not as dumb as a sack of bricks he'll improve.
I kinda just want to date multiple girls and live in the moment, I'll treat them like my gf but I'm not ready to think about the long term or to be exclusive with any one girl
Do people normally do this?
Even the people who think they want this usually burn out pretty quickly.
The best most people can manage is one long term GF and a series of parallel flings.
Fair enough, I'm just asking because I got 7 girls numbers in the past 2 weeks and could get like 10 more in the next month without too much effort
But I'm not gonna be into all of them and a lot of them won't be interested in me
and if I hit it off with one girl then I probably won't want to see anyone else
Probably just overthinking this shit when it'll sort itself out
I can never date because I have never dated before
This has been my view for the past 12+ years
If I go to a therapist can they teach me to stop wanting love and affection in my life?
>I keep making the same stupid decision
Instead don't >Can a therapist tell me to cope with the same stupid decision I keep making
No, they'll just waste their time trying to get you to stop making the same dumbass decision.
Nice reductionism, you're not buying a chicken.
It's pathetic to be unable to have a conversation with a woman. It's pathetic to have such negative value as a human that you have to make up for your mere presence with cash.
How does her paying make it any better though? What you’re saying is that you have pretty poor social skills right? If you bore/seem weird to women, money isn’t gonna fix that.
Why would a woman want to talk to me? They have so many options anyway so money is the best fix. Actually not speaking to people is unironically harmful so it might be better to pay.
>Why would a woman want to talk to me? They have so many options anyway
Yeah that's the pathetic part right there, refusal to have self-worth.
Well, I'll dismiss you as a mentally ill fucktard with delusional low self esteem addictions now.
>Why is it pathetic to pay for something you wouldn't otherwise be able to have?
Ah yeah the whole "I CAN'T JUST TALK TO WOMEN THE NORMAL WAY" thing is pathetic.
Dude 50% of the world is girls, and you refuse to talk to them?
Mentally ill bro. Also pathetic.
I don't refuse to talk to women anon, cmon on now. >50% of world are girls
Most of them aren't near my vicinity or my age
>Why would a woman want to talk to me? They have so many options anyway
Yeah that's the pathetic part right there, refusal to have self-worth.
Well, I'll dismiss you as a mentally ill fucktard with delusional low self esteem addictions now.
I have self worth but I'm not entitled or delusional enough to believe that women or people in general would want to speak to me just because lol. That's why I pay for it.
How does her paying make it any better though? What you’re saying is that you have pretty poor social skills right? If you bore/seem weird to women, money isn’t gonna fix that.
>Is it really pathetic to pay women to chat with you?
No if you do it out of convenience, i.e. "I want it and cbf getting it the normal way"
Yes if you "Need" it, or if you want to "Practice" to overcome insecurities.
>best way to meet someone in my country is dating apps since cold approaches arent a thing and bars are full of gangsters and their fuckdolls >I am ugly and have a shitty smile
It’s unironically ogre, I am too anxious to even make a profile out of fear a coworker will find it and people in the company will secretly make fun of me
Nah, I'm not israeli. I would never circumcise my kids, if they need to do it for medical reasons later on and stretching isn't an option then it'll be up to them to decide that. I personally have phimosis though but I still don't want to get circumcised, it seems like such an awful practice.
israeli guy here.
I think it's only mildly fucked up, and not worth the obsession some people on the internet have about it.
I will probably not get my kids circumcised.
Random person here but everyone outside of America, the israeli world and the Islamic world thinks its absolutely abhorrent.
>say that I don't intend to circumcise my own children >"Nooo, that's not good enough, you have to change your entire culture single-handedly!"
Okay, whatever.
It's fucked-up enough for me to change my own behavior.
It's not fucked-up enough for me to get into arguments with other people about it. In the grand scheme of life, it's only a minor issue on the big scale of fucked-up issues.
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>It's not fucked-up enough for me to get into arguments with other people about it
Literally no one is asking you to do anything
Why are you trying to turn yourself into a victim here over literally nothing?
Also, what would be the least fucked up thing that is still fucked up enough for you to get into an argument about it?
Looooooooping dumb topics is fucked up too brosef, if you're here to shitpost then shitpost but do it in a way that doesn't make you look asshurt.
Who the fuck asked?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Who the fuck asked?
You did, co-operate or fuck off.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>You did
No, I didn't literacy-bro
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Literally no one is asking you to do anything
You're asking me to not circumcise.
And I already agreed to not circumcise.
And yet you're still giving negative replies.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I didn't even ask you to do that retard.
Holy shit
Anyone who's ever seen a circumcision and not thought "Wow this is probably the most fucked up thing I've ever seen. They're basically raping a baby with a scalpel" is probably a psychopath.
israeli guy here.
I think it's only mildly fucked up, and not worth the obsession some people on the internet have about it.
I will probably not get my kids circumcised.
But I'm on LULZ so I will probably not have kids.
said. I seriously have no fucking idea why everyone is shitting and screaming about it so much. It still works fine
Hardly a realistic proposition now that companies have buckbroken the world's economy into thinking one person's salary shouldn't support a family but CEOs should be paid in literal hundreds of millions yearly
If a deal has been made where you take care of the kids and the house instead of contributing financially then I'd expect you to take care of the kids and the house.
>What do you expect from SAHM's?
From what? >Stay at home mom
Well you take care of my kids. D'uh.
Don't get entitled and fat, stay grateful and put in effort.
It depends on how many kids we have and how much I'm working.
Personally as long as the long chores get done (like cleaning or laundry) I'm not too bothered beyond that. I don't expect you to literally do everything for me just because I'm working. It would be nice if you were at least spending the time on something even moderately financially productive (like maintaining our finances) but it's not an expectation.
I also don't expect you to literally housekeep 24/7. If you don't have some kind of hobby you're just going to drive yourself crazy.
If I can walk through the door and not have any immediate source of stress and know that I don't have to spend most of my evening just doing chores that's good enough for me.
This is of course contingent on me earning a good enough salary to support both of us. That also means I probably expect us to live relatively modestly.
>If I can walk through the door and not have any immediate source of stress and know that I don't have to spend most of my evening just doing chores that's good enough for me.
Yeah, that.
The goal of a wife is to make life better not worse. If the first thing you do when I show up is be a burden/nag then bruh just die and give me the insurance.
It depends on how many kids we have and how much I'm working.
Personally as long as the long chores get done (like cleaning or laundry) I'm not too bothered beyond that. I don't expect you to literally do everything for me just because I'm working. It would be nice if you were at least spending the time on something even moderately financially productive (like maintaining our finances) but it's not an expectation.
I also don't expect you to literally housekeep 24/7. If you don't have some kind of hobby you're just going to drive yourself crazy.
If I can walk through the door and not have any immediate source of stress and know that I don't have to spend most of my evening just doing chores that's good enough for me.
This is of course contingent on me earning a good enough salary to support both of us. That also means I probably expect us to live relatively modestly.
Oh also you obviously have to take care of yourself and your body.
That one is non-negotiable whether you're SAH or not.
>Girls what would you do if I told you to clench your butthole?
Mock you for schizophrenia because you are the same guy who spams edgy fetishes and you are not even remotely subtle about it.
Not sure if that's me or another anon. Could you give some examples of other posts you remember to make sure? If it's me and you don't get entertainment out of these posts I will stop
Okay, I'm open to being wrong.
But I think you're the guy who's obsessed with rimming, anal, shock collars, chastity cages, peeing, raceplay, race roleplay, and pretty much anything you think will get some (You)s, with the odd exception of transsexuals or trans roleplay, you haven't done those yet.
women like my stories and they like to hear me talk
I think its a combination of my deep voice and me generally only telling stories that I have received positive feedback on instead of boring shit like a lot of people do
also Ive noticed that if you tell a story with enough excitement and inflection most people but especially women will naturally think its interesting even if the content itself is actually boring as fuck
Lmao go blow her up with messages and get included in a cringe compilation, fag.
Dude, if you aren't talking there's no need to block. And as long as you never be an annoying attention seeker, no need to block.
Just don't be a cringe ass motherfucker who harasses the girl for attention and all is well.
Why, if I search for girls named “Sarah” in a city where I know nobody (so it doesn’t push all the Sarahs I do know) is every single girl an actual whore? Like tits out, ass out, some literally with nipples showing, etc.?
>Jessica
Son of a bitch I found a chick wearing an adult diaper. Jessica is now the code name for ABDL fetishists. Picrel.
A lot of blondes too. >Mary
Found a high school teacher with exposed nipples. >Rebecca
Good number of whores, but also a mix of normie moms. >Emily
Much smaller tits on average.
Interesting experiment anon. Thanks for suggesting.
BPD has like a 30% remission rate an year into a relationship and by 10 years or something its 99%, being in a stable and loving relationship especially with someone who knows how to support BPD people is one of the main ways to overcome this issue.
It is doe
Couple relatively recent papers to look up:
The lived experience of recovery in borderline personality disorder: a qualitative study
Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder: A Systematic Review of the Perspectives of Consumers, Clinicians, Family and Carers
BPD is a pervasive pattern of failing to tell reality apart from your feelings, getting your feelings stuck at 100% power, and then living in an imaginary world of your feelings. Cheating may be a marker for BPD but it's not the core issue.
It is doe
Couple relatively recent papers to look up:
The lived experience of recovery in borderline personality disorder: a qualitative study
Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder: A Systematic Review of the Perspectives of Consumers, Clinicians, Family and Carers
But yeah, I could see how a healthy relationship helps remind BPDs to pay attention and snap out of their imaginary world. Sort of like the anime trope of yelling out to a mind controlled character to get them to remember who they are.
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Anonymous
It also relieves their abandonment issues which are a core component of BPD
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I literally have no empathy for abandonment issues whatsoever since I simply don't feel compulsive attachment, or lack of compulsive attachment.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
The first stages of a relationship are great for them if they happen to find the perfect partner (usually that's a narcissist). They quickly get bored though.
For actual BPD maybe yeah.
But for internet BPD, no fucking way, internet BPDs refuse to change a damn thing and they just want more copes for their dumb shit.
That is absolutely not true.
Nah I believe it for actual BPD, which are people like "I know my feelings are wrong sometimes but in the heat of the moment it's like my brain switches off and I forget to be me, my feelings just take over, I don't want to be this way but I am."
Not internet BPDs who are like "I LITERALLY CAN'T GRASP THE IDEA OF MY FEELINGS BEING WRONG AND IF YOU CAN'T VALIDATE ME AT MY WORST YOU DON'T DESERVE ME AT MY BEST".
You've probably never met a bpd. I was married to one and my mother was one.
It's less all that bullshit you just sharted at me and more having mental breakdowns and holding a knife to their throats over a disagreement so small that neither of you can remember what it was about. Or going psychotic because a waitress was polite to you because shes secretly sexting two other guys and is unconsciously paranoid and projecting the same behavior onto you due to her emotional maturity being that of a three year old and seeing absolutely everything you do as evidence you're going to abandon her.
Or how about dissociating during sex? Thats a fun one.
You're confusing bpd with histrionic personality disorder.
Bpd can entail histrionic emphasis but most often it has a narcissistic emphasis, and with a secondary psychopathic self state which emerges during stress you end up with an extremely defiant ans grandiose woman who self-soothes and self-hurts with casual sexual activity.
Bpd is female psychopathy. They're terrifying peope because their personalities can shift on a dime. When my ex divorced me it's like she switched into a completely different personality.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Yeah that sounds about right.
But it's not just BPDs with that psychopathic self state, that's a shockingly high amount of "healthy" people both male and female, who'll suddenly noclip into a fantasy world where whatever dumbass emotion they're feeling too much of is justified by the fantasyland lore.
I get that BPDs do it more often and their personalities are more variable, but BPDs are just a more intense version of average people.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>just a more intense version of average people
No, I promise you, as someone who loved one, they are not.
They use defense mechanisms and cognitive processes that normal people grew out of at 1 to 3 years old. A genuinely upset bpd woman is a psychopathic 1 year old in an adults body.
I agree with you that the average person, here in America at least, is probably borderline personality disordered. I've yet to meet a regional manager or "manager" in my line of work that didn't strike me as either narcissistic or psychopathic.
The modern world absolutely rewards narcissistic psychopaths ability to generate cult like behavior from others.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Also I meant "they are on the borderline of being personality disordered.".
Yeah that sounds about right.
But it's not just BPDs with that psychopathic self state, that's a shockingly high amount of "healthy" people both male and female, who'll suddenly noclip into a fantasy world where whatever dumbass emotion they're feeling too much of is justified by the fantasyland lore.
I get that BPDs do it more often and their personalities are more variable, but BPDs are just a more intense version of average people.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>They use defense mechanisms and cognitive processes that normal people grew out of at 1 to 3 years old.
Look, you type that. But I don't believe that's different to the average person. The average person is honestly that shit that yes, I do believe the hypothetical 3 year old in a textbook outdoes them.
I know that sounds irrational but shit, a 3 year old in a textbook can identify when their feelings are inappropriate, and manage themselves to feel more appropriate emotions.
A 3 year old can identify when they're being impatient and choose to be more patient based on expecting a reward.
You tell me the average dumbfuck adult these days knows the concept of "Don't feel that way, you'll get punished, try changing".
They get bigger but no wiser. >The modern world absolutely rewards narcissistic psychopaths ability to generate cult like behavior from others.
I think it's more that people were just always this bullshit and only now did we notice.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Trust me, friend, theres a difference.
There's reading about it, there's watching tiktok retards pretend to be histrionic, and then there's your wife hallucinating the walls are moving and screaming about suicide an hour before she's as chirpy as a schoolgirl all because you accidentally purchased the wrong type of ice cream.
Borderline has the reputation it does for a good reason. Its closer to schizophrenia than anything else. You're dealing with someone who has no stable sense of self. You're essentially responsible for her emotional regulation. If you do something she doesn't like, she may just flip a switch and go insane for a few minutes.
That's what babies do when they're hungry. Babies get so angry that they'll turn blue in the face. They're just angry because they're angry. You can try to love borderlines but their fear of abandonment is so strong that they'll eventually push the most kind hearted and well meaning man to homicidal thoughts.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
... And you're telling me the average person is NOT like this.
Hm, guess I'm just dealing with some very below average people, I suppose. Since reading what you wrote made me think "Yeah, that sounds like normal people, it's just the BPD does it more often".
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Borderline has the reputation it does for a good reason. Its closer to schizophrenia than anything else
NTA, where are you getting this from?
It's bullshit.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
The current literate on bpd? It's currently thought to be a reaction to cptsd. It's going to be classified as a dissociative disorder relatively soon. It's already the primary diagnostic criteria.
Keep mind I said "closer to" not "similar to".
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Schizophrenia is not a dissociative disorder, though. Neither is it a personality disorder.
The diagnostic criteria have nothing in common either.
What I'm saying is you're using le scary word to add weight to your argument.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
So, were going to type this out slowly and I want you to take a deep breath in-between in each word ...
It ... is ... closer ... to ... schizophrenia... than ... anything ... else ... but ... that ... does ... not ... mean ... it ... is ... like ... schizophrenia.
How mental disorders are classified is a little bit irrational but there's an underlying logic that connects certain aspects of disorders with one another. Schizophrenia isn't a dissociative disorder but a major diagnostic criteria is dissociation. So, not all dissociative disorders are schizophrenia but everyone with schizophrenia dissociates. See what I mean?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Wait no, the screaming
If you meant literal screaming, normal people don't do that.
So yeah, that's something the BPD does, is she's also noisier than the average person.
But the whole "Get a wrong emotion for no damn reason and keep having the wrong emotion out loud for literal hours, utterly unaware of how much of a problem you're making yourself and those around you" thing? That's normal af.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Bpd don't have wrong emotions, they have extremely intense emotions and utilize archaic defense mechanisms. You need to do some reading on cognitive defense mechanisms like splitting and dissociation before you talk about this disorder.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
You think you know more than you do.
Yes, an emotion whose intensity is out of line with reality is wrong.
Yes, I did just talk about splitting.
Yes, I am obviously talking about psychotic episodes.
Yes, I was talking about losing sense of self buried beneath unjustified impulsive emotions.
You vomited a textbook at me without checking if I understood the textbook; I do.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Sounds like you're narcissistic and I touched a nerve by challenging your own grandiose power fantasy in which you know more than someone with education in the subject.
Bpd and npd couples are a well established clinical fact. They're drawn to each other for all sorts of complex psychological reasons. Of course, you know all of this, right?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Sounds like you're coping with being wrong by inventing a fantasy world in your head in which you are right despite the lack of evidence connecting that one and this one.
I.e. you're doing the same thing you're accusing me of doing, which is typical narcissist shit.
Also, how the fuck is it YOU who first escalated this shit to a personal attack and judgement of worth instead of me? You beat me to that. That's fucking impressive, bro, normally I'm the first to get judgemental. So good job.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I'm not the one who's mad. That's how you can tell who's narcissistic.
Lmao
Lol?
Guess I'll take your word for it then. It does explain some of the actions I've seen, though I don't really understand the underlying mental process behind being scared of being inappropriate.
Bpd seems like a response to childhood neglect and trauma.
You'll notice that pretty much every bpd woman has very narcissistic or npd father. Do the math.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Do you ever find it pathetic how you out yourself so easily?
You want to be seen as insightful and popular, but you have no idea how to do that. You act in stereotypical ways and out yourself.
This is because you have no fucking idea how you're seen by others and you have no ability to regulate your behaviour and your appearance to not appear like a narcissist.
Me? I'm autistic; I can do it, I just don't fucking care.
You? You're actually trying to look like the "Good guy" and you're faceplanting so hard it leaves a crater. That's kind of sad.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Protecting much?
>I'm autistic
Apparently lmao
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Like seriously.
Did you ever sit your ass down and think how you could get me on your side?
Of course you did. You want me on your side because you think I'm useful to you.
Then you utterly made a fuckup of it since you don't show the slightest ounce of respect or understanding for anything anyone writes.
So in response to you making a failure of that, you 180 and you try attacking me.
And THAT'S the shit that outs you. That when you fail to get me on your side you start socially posturing and accusing me of shit that you yourself are obviously doing,
because your dumb narcissistic ass can't cope with how you were wrong and how you failed to get me on your side.
Swear to fuck. You could not get me on your side if you literally fucking tried. You are that incompetent.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
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2 weeks ago
Anonymous
And as far as "Archaic", you're literally in ATOGA.
Look at all the homosexuals here who insist on being sad and feeling "bullied" or "insecure" and "unfair" because they live in a world where being a loser gets you worse outcomes.
Instead of realising that yes, you do actually have to put in the effort to upgrade your personality if you want to get nookie.
That whole bullshit, of insisting on feeling anxious / insecure / hurt at rejection, rather than actually wanting to get the damn relationship, and using their feelings as a shield/excuse for being a useless lazy shit who stays addicted to misery and stuck in their self-sabotaging ways?
That ain't Archaic bro that's literally here.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
And all the homosexuals here who regress to childhood and use muh parents or muh formative years as an excuse for not simply changing what's wrong now, as though the past gives them an excuse for staying wrong.
That's not an archaic defense mechanism. That's literally here.
Or all the people who insist on being asshurt and upset at the suggestion of changing their problems, rather than realising that changing their problems might actually get them more of what they want.
That's here too.
Or all the people who bless their retarded little hearts simply REFUSE TO COMPREHEND anything that doesn't justify their excuses, like their brains simply glitch out and don't process the concept?
That's BPD as fuck, and that's also not archaic, it's right here.
Look, I do get that BPDs are mentally ill. I don't dispute that. What I dispute is that BPDs are different to the average person - they honestly aren't.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Personality disorders are a bit different, my man.
Sometimes people's brains lock in on a certain level of maturity. Sometimes they don't seem capable of changing those patterns of thinking without some sort of extensive experience coupled with a sort of therapy that helps guide them out of it.
However, sometimes people just snap and there's no fixing them. If you've ever met a seriously schizophrenic person then you'll understand what mental illness actually is and why people are so averse to those with it.
I can tell you have a noble intention behind your positions but they are not reflective of the reality of the situation.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>sometimes people just snap and there's no fixing them
Yes I know. We're here in ATOGA, this is that. >If you've ever met a seriously schizophrenic person then you'll understand what mental illness actually is and why people are so averse to those with it.
The people in this thread outdo almost everything I've seen in real life.
It's honestly kind of impressive.
But I suppose what I take from that is that you're probably right, and that the stuff you said about BPDs is true, and that the average person probably is so much more competent at connecting to reality and emotionally regulating than the BPD that the BPD is legitimately different to them.
It's just that my ass is biased since I spend so much time in this hive of utter invalids that my idea of "Average person" has shifted from "man who solves problems in his life and finds joy through his work and hobbies" to "Loser who makes excuses to feel bad for literal years".
Not really a question, but.
When I was a kid in elementary and middle school I was like top5 or so at school and there were these two cute girls, a blonde and brunette, who used to get top grades. It was a very nice environment and the rivalry encouraged me to do better even though I was a lazy bum and mostly learned things because I liked it with no effort.
I wonder if they also saw me as a rival (we used to also have math competitions)
Any other anons had stories like this?
Ladies, in a situation where a girl I like is dating someone else but has made clear signs she likes me.
I know this is a toxic situation, my question is, is it normal for someone to like two people at once? Like, I know that am a back up if I were to say yes/ask. But I've NEVER had feeling for more than one person at a time.
>Ladies, in a situation where a girl I like is dating someone else but has made clear signs she likes me.
Flirt with her and arrange times to meet/see her so you can escalate. > is it normal for someone to like two people at once?
Yup. it's shitty behaviour but it's common behaviour. Most girls (fuck, most men too) legit aren't aware that they should be attracted to one person at a time. So they just feel like cheating, and they cheat.
State gender. Based or cringe: Finding a song about a girl and substituting your girl's name into it (such that the number of syllables and any necessary rhyming matches).
Example: >Auf der Heide blüht ein kleines Blümelein >und das heißt: Jennifer
>Finding a song about a girl and substituting your girl's name into it
Cringe if simp song
Based if love song.
Difference:
Love song: "Aw yeah I wanna make that girl mine, that girl so lovely, damn I like being in love"
Simp song: "I need this girl, I'll be sad if I lose this girl, I'm sad without this girl, make me whole"
What are some unexpected but hot things I can say to my bf during sex? I thought about "welcome home" when he sticks his dick in me but idk if it's not too corny
I don't know about your bf but for me, anything in the realm of "cum inside me" "impregnate me" "breed me" is like pouring a bucket of gasoline on a fire. He might (rightfully) get scared if you say this though
The size is of absolutely no importance, what matters is the shape. There are many acceptable shapes, but there are also a number of unacceptable. I'm pretty sure you already know to what I'm referring.
Guys
Would you be able to deal with a woman that can't get along with other women, despite her best efforts? She will most likely get along really well with your friends and heavily dislike their girlfriends, however she'll do her best but won't be happy.
This will leave her friendless and alone, and therefore heavily clingy/ dependent on you.
>therefore heavily clingy/ dependent on you.
Absolute dealbreaker, both parties in a relationship should be independent and have a hobby/social life unrelated to significant other.
I don't have any issue with it the way it is right now. Both of us have friends of both genders, most of hers are 25-35 and in relationships already. As long as she or the friends don't act inappropriately then I don't see the issue.
>Would you be able to deal with a woman that can't get along with other women, despite her best efforts?
Yeah sure, just don't interact with them and interact with me, problem solved. >This will leave her friendless and alone, and therefore heavily clingy/ dependent on you.
Wait what?
Oh, FUCK that, go jump in front of a train track. I want nothing to do with the whole "I CAN'T BE HAPPY I NEED YOU" shit.
I don't believe in your "I need you because I have nobody else" shit. I won't deal with it and I'd rather see you on the train tracks. You have yourself. If you aren't your own stable anchor from which to approach the world, I don't want to deal with that shit.
>She will most likely get along really well with your friends and heavily dislike their girlfriends,
I have friends who are girls. Were you under the impression that guys are only friends with other guys? Go see a therapist and work on improving yourself, because your current plan isn't going to work.
Do females really lack the self-awareness to know that the only reason the male friends are better to talk to is because they all wanna fuck you? Of course, they're going to be nice and tolerate your bullshit, lmao.
Ive always wanted a truly evil, misanthrope gf but theyre extremely rare
closest I got was a BPD chick that would steal things for fun or just sabotage people for no reason for her own amusement
Does the evil chick love me? Why would anyone have problem with evil people if they truly really loved them? I guess it's hard if not impossible to know for sure
Is it possible to know when all guys are gonna cum? Many don’t tell when they’re about to cum. Like a lot of times you know they’ll be signs, going faster, breathing heavier, maybe some grunts but with some guys there don’t seem to be signs.
A lot of the time even as the guy it's difficult to know, especially if I'm edging
Sometimes I'm also just on a hair trigger and so I'll randomly cum really soon despite not even getting particularly hot and bothered.
Generally I assume their breathing would get heavier and their movement would get faster. They might start twitching slightly.
That’s what I always thought premature ejaculation meant.
Isn't my dick twitching and me grabbing you tightly a good hint?
He could be staying in the same position, particularly with doggy. Same with oral, not always a change. It comes like 0.5 seconds after any twitching starts though.
>That’s what I always thought premature ejaculation meant.
Yeah, possibly.
It's not a chronic thing for me though, it happens randomly. Often if I'm super horny or I've been super horny all day but not always. Maybe a couple of times a year at most.
it becomes pretty obvious pretty fast >they attach themselves really fast >they share their story about getting abused as a child >you notice shes very emotional even for a woman >shes jealous easily
etc
its pretty easy to recognise if you see them more than once or once they open up
holy shit this sounds like me before I became confident as fuck 3 months ago
I'm not BPD but I'm autistic and had so much insecurity and anxiety about everything, the greentext you just gave basically sounds like what I used to do with girls I was into, no wonder I gave baddies the ick lol
Well, if you hallucinate up a fantasy world that justifies being anxious, and you feel anxious in response to stupid shit that doesn't matter, then yeah that'd be close enough to count.
This is a big tell. Bpd women get super anxious in social situations because they know in their bones that they don't have empathy enough to care or understand other people. They know they're going to say something absolutely retarded and it terrifies them.
Guess I'll take your word for it then. It does explain some of the actions I've seen, though I don't really understand the underlying mental process behind being scared of being inappropriate.
I mean my shit was basically >get really giddy and excited around girl I had a crush on >overshare about my mental health and insecurities about being the weird autistic kid in school >get really upset when I inevitably give her the ick or when I see her with/talking about another guy (didn't sperg out on her or anything but the emotions felt strong and I suck at hiding my emotions) >depressed/apathetic and anxious/on edge by default, low self esteem and victim mentality
>get really giddy and excited around girl I had a crush on
Not BPD, that sounds like you related your emotions to reality (i.e. your crush with the girl) and it was proportionate. >overshare about my mental health and insecurities about being the weird autistic kid in school
Also not BPD, BPDs instead discuss whichever hallucination they think is real at the current point in time >get really upset when I inevitably give her the ick or when I see her with/talking about another guy
BPD, though obviously there are other explanations. >depressed/apathetic and anxious/on edge by default, low self esteem and victim mentality
BPD usually don't have the self-awareness to see the problem in themselves.
Diagnosis: I am completely wrong and what you have is very little like BPD. The closest you have is that you overreact emotionally to the idea of her not liking you or to her not being interested in you.
Instead, the obvious diagnosis is that you refuse to be happy while alone, you refuse to build healthy social bonds as a surrogate, and instead of approaching this double-bind in a healthy way, you:
A. Over-invest emotionally in people who honestly do not merit it (this random girl), and
B. Simultaneously refuse to approach that desire in a productive way because you'd rather be afraid of failure than interested in progress.
I.e. it's the typical bullshit that losers do where you refuse to become better because it's easier to fear change and stay broken.
He's describing guys you've been with for reasons only known to you
So, were going to type this out slowly and I want you to take a deep breath in-between in each word ...
It ... is ... closer ... to ... schizophrenia... than ... anything ... else ... but ... that ... does ... not ... mean ... it ... is ... like ... schizophrenia.
How mental disorders are classified is a little bit irrational but there's an underlying logic that connects certain aspects of disorders with one another. Schizophrenia isn't a dissociative disorder but a major diagnostic criteria is dissociation. So, not all dissociative disorders are schizophrenia but everyone with schizophrenia dissociates. See what I mean?
>a major diagnostic criteria is dissociation
No it's not. Lmao.
And if you're going to critique psychiatry I hope you understand you're giving up any potential arguments using its bullshit. I'm all for criticizing shrinkwizardry but this is ridiculous.
Good, then you should know men don't act like that
So, were going to type this out slowly and I want you to take a deep breath in-between in each word ...
It ... is ... closer ... to ... schizophrenia... than ... anything ... else ... but ... that ... does ... not ... mean ... it ... is ... like ... schizophrenia.
How mental disorders are classified is a little bit irrational but there's an underlying logic that connects certain aspects of disorders with one another. Schizophrenia isn't a dissociative disorder but a major diagnostic criteria is dissociation. So, not all dissociative disorders are schizophrenia but everyone with schizophrenia dissociates. See what I mean?
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2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Experiences of influence, passivity or control (i.e., the experience that one’s feelings, impulses, actions or thoughts are not generated by oneself, are being placed in one’s mind or withdrawn from one’s mind by others, or that one’s thoughts are being broadcast to others)
Sounds an awful lot like what the dsm calls ... oh, what is it? I forget.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I think we're close to a conclusion. In psychotics disorders this refers to delusional behavior. Like believing your mind is being read by demons or people at work are spies. It's literal.
If the similarity you're suggesting is about BPD people feeling a similar loss in consciousness' boundary, then yes, that's something both schizophrenics and BPD people experience in different manifestations, the later in social settings and the former in any situation at all.
But it's still a very big stretch to say that because of the similarity of one common feature, they are similar. Autists and obsessive people also experience that in their own way, and it's more commonly argued that autism and schizophrenia are similar.
It boils down to psychiatry being fundamentally flawed in my opinion, allowing for any argument to be made at all and for discussion that is so removed from reality and convoluted that it offers very little and is more similar to literary analysis than medicine.
They do. Wait did you think this was a woman thing?
Why are you going in circles? I didn't write that but it's not a common male behavior at all.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Oh I agree.
However I have personal experience with schizos and bpd and they do share very specific characteristics. I think that's why classifying bpd is so difficult.
It's literally personality disorder with dissociative emphasis.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>personality disorder with dissociative emphasis.
Yeah but so's a whole bunch of stuff. That whole "Disconnect from reality and live in a fantasy world which justifies muh feelings" thing is pretty damn common.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Where do you meet these schizos?
Just curious because it's a very broad set of things with some common factors. We sometimes spot each other in weird ways and I agree we have very weirdly specific traits but we pass as just weird.
Isn't porn supposed to be similar to real sex? Just a little more idealized
No, it's a visual product meant to cause as much arousal as possible.
Everything about it is very different to real sex and you should forget all about porn as a virgin.
I had sex with a girl who watched porn and she was being cringe, sex is about accepting yourself and the other person and connecting with her not looking spectacular while fucking.
> loss in consciousness' boundary
Hang on. In an average person, what/where is the consciousness boundary?
I thought you people autopiloted like 90% of the time.
You're asking the wrong person but it's about drawing a line where your thoughts end and others' thoughts begin. Reality is obviously impossible to define so the best you can do is try to understand what has probably been proven to manifest in it and what is in your head. Average people are probably thinking about texting or football idk.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>I had sex with a girl who watched porn and she was being cringe, sex is about accepting yourself and the other person and connecting with her not looking spectacular while fucking.
What was so cringe in her behavior? What should I avoid to not look like a a pornsick bimbo during sex?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Well first of all, I was having sex with her so it should be obvious we like each other a lot. There's no reason to exaggerate your facial expressions and moans and act like you're about to have an orgasm from touching.
Just act natural. No need for any shit at all, no talking, make some eye contact, touch wherever you feel like, position yourself however you feel comfortable, moan if you feel like it.
Don't go "mmm yes, oh my god yes fuck my pussy", don't try to be seductive or look sexy like there's an audience, be yourself and act instinctively.
And take it easy with kinks, it shouldn't be a bigger thing that sex itself.
To be fair most guys watch porn and many have told me they are aware it affects how they act in bed and how comfortable they feel so you shouldn't have a problem, it's just that I don't watch porn and I can tell when someone's not being themselves and it's cringe. If I wanted to have sex with you I wouldn't want you to try and act like someone else while at it, right?
>drawing a line where your thoughts end and others' thoughts begin
It's what you control/choose vs what you don't control/choose, right?
... Oh shit, no wonder BPD can't do it, they don't actually control/choose.
>what you control/choose vs what you don't control/choose
I guess, in the sense that I've nothing other than this. If I'm seeing shit in broad daylight I can't trust that, and that's it.
I don't know BPD people but free will is always a thing, if I can control myself when I'm seeing a demon they can find a way to be good people.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>drawing a line where your thoughts end and others' thoughts begin
It's what you control/choose vs what you don't control/choose, right?
... Oh shit, no wonder BPD can't do it, they don't actually control/choose.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
> loss in consciousness' boundary
Hang on. In an average person, what/where is the consciousness boundary?
I thought you people autopiloted like 90% of the time.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
They do. Wait did you think this was a woman thing?
>how do I find out if a girl I'm talking to/dating is BPD?
Ask how she tells which emotions she wants to keep and which emotions she wants to change.
Normal people will probably give you a cookie cutter answer.
BPDs will not understand the question.
>meet sweet girl/guy in collage >develop a crush >has a boyfriend/girlfriend >is a fat slob that makes you look good in comparison
Has it ever happened to you?
Something like that happened to me recently, but he was not fat. I matched with a girl on Tinder, she was a pretty alt girl, we start texting eachother, I get her number and all that. Then I invite her to go out some day and she asked if I was ok with her having a bf.
Later I saw she posted a pic with him and he was so skinny that it made him look ugly as fuck.
>Ask for advice on /atoga/ >Get ignored in favour of "women of reddit, what's the sexiest sex you've ever sexed????" >Ask another question about dating >Immediately start a multi thread spanning flame war about the differences in animal rape between men and women
Has this ever happened to you
How exactly do you flirt and engage a girl over snap?
I can make people cry laughing and break the ice easily in person but that doesn't translate well to text.
Pretty sure they avoid that in porn because most men don't want to listen another man moaning. When I have sex I know I make noises besides heavy breathing
I don't think there's an inherent impulse to moan. Most guys likely think it's cringe to do it and sometimes that logic is applied to grunting as well.
Same reason why men don't scream when they are scared, idk.
One girl got scared and thought I was uncomfortable because I was heavy breathing during a blowjob so I try to avoid even that now.
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Probably playing co-op video games.
Otherwise something like wrestling/rough play but that probably gets a bit too close to sex. Plus I feel like I'd constantly overpower my partner.
Oh ok cool a boring askreddit tier question with no actual advice implications very nice.
I'll make sure to ask more of those in future in case I ever need help with something and am ok just getting replies instead.
6 minutes is plenty of time for me. Of course I don’t mean 6 minutes of PIV and that’s it or cumming 6 minutes into a bj and you can’t go again for a while.
Is it a bad sign that the coordinator stopped responding after the second time I asked for different interview times? Im kinda freaked out and feel like I look ungrateful
🙁 Is there anything I can do? I want to follow up again tomorrow / Tuesday, because I did send the last message on friday.. Im just stressing I took a day off from work for one of the first days they offered but then they told me that day was no longer available
Sure, give it a shot. “The squeaky wheel gets the grease” as my momma always says. I’m just telling you in my experience I had to reschedule twice and then the guy in charge of hiring was no longer interested in me. My friend worked there, so that’s how I know they thought I was unreliable
A redneck is a yeehaw ‘murican with their wife, kids, pick up truck and 5 guns.
A hillbilly is a dirty ass farmer being inbred for generations.
They often overlap
Hillbillies are old people who literally and figuratively are “over the hill”
Rednecks are country workingmen
City slickers are bourgeois man-children
I’m everything and nothing all at once, a Protean man
The professor this discussion in an Appalachian Literature class last fall. I believe a guy from group said thought that hillbillies are the racist ones and rednecks are like just the trucker driver type. I thought the opposite and doesn’t recheck refer to a sunburn on a farmers neck?
>why??
Let's see. I could repeat the same shit I know you fail to comprehend
Or
I could not
I understand but sex with 5 women in 5 years isn’t unreasonable. It’s not like he’s saying he wants to fuck 100 women in have years.
If you want to fuck a prostitute just go fuck a prostitute. Arbitrarily gating it behind a completely made-up goal od how many women you deem is "acceptable" is cringe.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Arbitrarily gating it behind a completely made-up goal od how many women you deem is "acceptable" is cringe.
Im 28 yo, and lost my virginity last year, so Im trying to pick up women that I find attractive or am interested in. If I can't get that, I'll accept that I'm not made for that life (ie having sexual relationships with many women) and will spend money on escorts to at least get the sexual part, if I can't get the validation one.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
That's normal. Gating that behind an arbitrary amount of time/sex is cringe.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Gating that behind an arbitrary amount of time/sex is cringe.
it's not arbitrary. As Im getting older Ill only be able to pull older women. I want to be with a younger (20-25) woman. If I cant get that in the next few years Ill have to buy the time of one.
>You got so mad you didn't even read the post, I'm not male.
Ah shit I did too.
There's this one dickhead who refuses to see himself as attractive and he looooops about muh height. He is also 5'9". You are right, I failed to read. My bad.
>Do you aim for women shorter than yourself?
if I find the woman attractive she can be shorter or taller. Taller would be even nicer, because I find it elegant. But taller girls are with taller guys lol
What are you talking about? Females control the dating market and they would rather be cumbuckets for Chads than be with a nice, intelligent man who actually loves them.
It's crazy to me when some people insist on spewing forth an unending stream of vitriolic hatred yet still somehow consider themselves "nice".
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
It's crazier to me that females still insist on spreading lies when every man can see the truth for themselves. Females aren't seeking for traits in men that would make for a good long-term partner, it's always height, looks, wealth and social status first with you shallow bitches.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Hey dumbass they want them to be good people AND sexually attractive. What good is a "nice, intelligent man" if I have zero interest in fucking him?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Sure, but stop complaining that your lives are so hard just because Chad won't commit to you. A lot of frustration comes from the fact that 80% of men were lied to growing up about what females want. That's why it's important for me to tell the truth and men like king Andrew Tate are helping a lot too.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>king Andrew Tate
He's part of the problem
If he truly cared about lonely young men he'd stop fucking women and taking advantage of lonely young men
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>king Andre Tate
You realize he's manipulating lonely young men to make money off of them right? He doesn't give a shit about any of them.
King Andrew Tate is the only who's talking about men's problems in the mainstream though. And is he the problem or is it the females who grant men like Tate the access of their vagina? If females wanted to fix things, they would stop fucking men like Tate and go for nice, intelligent men instead, but they will never do that because the small female brain hasn't developed out of the stone age mentality of "oogab booga me want tall rich stronk Grub" yet.
>but stop complaining that your lives are so hard just because Chad won't commit to you
What I just said was my first post, idk what you and the other girl have been arguing about but that's not why my life is hard. I haven't even found a guy I want to commit let alone been let down by one.
Each individual deals with their own individual problems. Turning suffering into a contest doesn't do anyone any good.
It's not even a contest because this is the worst timeline ever to be a man. Females have it easier in all aspects of life.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Go outside and get some vitamin D. Your brain needs a break from the garbage you're putting in it.
If she was his girlfriend that means she finds him attractive, she is dumping him because maybe others don't find him attractive.
Like I said man I'm not saying it makes sense I'm just explaining the gut reaction.
It's a step up from what Im doing now. I get the vibe that the management is kind of retarded from what my friend told me, but that's everywhere. might as well get paid a little more . also im desperate i hate failing at something I didn't even TRY
If management sucks you don't want that job.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
but the management at my current job is also bad, and getting worse. This is my only escape route
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
What field do you work in? Your current job and the other one who's being flakey are seriously your only options?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I jsut graduated and Im applying for actual jobs in my field/at a higher level but. thhat's not working out so great either. At least I got an interview from this place
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Aren't I the one coming across as flakey though? I think I made a horrible first impression
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Go outside and get some vitamin D. Your brain needs a break from the garbage you're putting in it.
Not an argument. How am I wrong?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
You're speaking in absolutes. Your argument is without nuance and is invalidated by your negative biases. It's literally impossible to claim that literally every single man has it worse than every single woman.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
That's obviously not what I said, are you autistic? The exceptions don't matter. You're using the same logic as a retard who says that poverty doesn't exist in Africa because there are billionaires living there also.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Females have it easier in all aspects of life.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
They do. That's not the same as saying ALL females have better lives than ALL men. You're fucking retarded, lmao. Stop putting words in my mouth.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
And this is why it's useless to argue with incels. I hope you get out of your own head and find happiness. But you're not going to get there by being bitter and hateful towards women.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Not an incel and you still didn't disprove anything in my posts. I win.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Kiddo it's impossible to disprove an argument that doesn't use logic in the first place. I can see that you are unhappy and I'm trying to tell you how to change that. You're focusing on the wrong thing. Focus on yourself and gaining the things you want and not on jealousy.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Babygirl, how are you suffering right now then? Please tell me how it would be better if you were a man.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
That wouldn't help you to stop comparing your experience of life to other people's. I don't think about whether my life is worse or better than someone else's, all that does is make me jealous. It doesn't improve my life to be jealous of others so I don't waste time on it. You shouldn't either.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>so I don't waste time on it. You shouldn't either.
I will when females spread bullshit about how depressed they are because Chad cheated on them. Stop doing that and I will stop also.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
So you think that women aren't allowed to be angry or sad when they get cheated on? That's just dumb. Get over yourself bud.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Hard to feel sorry for them when they actively choose the men who do that.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Why do you expect everyone to be a perfect judge of character? If you got cheated on by a girlfriend would you be angry at her for cheating or angry at yourself for choosing a shitty person to date? Anyone can cheat.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>but stop complaining that your lives are so hard just because Chad won't commit to you
What I just said was my first post, idk what you and the other girl have been arguing about but that's not why my life is hard. I haven't even found a guy I want to commit let alone been let down by one.
Each individual deals with their own individual problems. Turning suffering into a contest doesn't do anyone any good.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>king Andre Tate
You realize he's manipulating lonely young men to make money off of them right? He doesn't give a shit about any of them.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
It's a similar phenomena to what you see in the rap industry or cult recruitment in general, you get a bunch of guys who feel lonely and isolated and a society that's constantly shitting on them and the first person who comes along and tells them they're worth something is going to be their new king. The usual thing you do to prevent this is not allowing large swathes of alienated young men, but we're not supposed to talk about that.
>like I said,
Nobody cares. Go join a Discord if you want to build a name for yourself and have everyone defer to your wisdom as the Final Say on all matters.
Why did one of you have me thinking Olivia Munn was in this show (|| o ||) it's focking Olivia Wilde
Anyway why does Wilson look like a little tiny baby bird
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I guess I'd try it. Apparently it's more intense than a vagina for guys, so I'd like to do it so I can watch his reactions and stuff.
>Been in a long term relationship for all of my 20ies. >We break up
How do I stop feeling like it's over?
Well in terms of your 20s and what most people think of as "youth" yeah it's over. But is life over? What do you do from here? And how do these experiences help you moving forward? How does the next stage of life look for you?
My coworkers like to share music in our chat and I think it's cute but they keep sending me stuff to listen to or telling me to do it and I don't like it because 1) That's going to be a song I associate with work 2) I don't want to hear what other people think of my music taste
Yesterday I made a post about my gf texting me saying “im loving the flowers”, and I was wondering if another guy she had been dating gave them to her.
Well I saw her and she showed me my phone and it turns out she had sent me a photo of her dog in a flower field that didn’t go through lmao. Funny misunderstanding. What a cutie.
>tall and looksmaxxed to the point where I have had girls gawking at me slack-jawed when I pass by them >thinking of starting an insta so I can use my looks to make some money >mentally completely fucked and incapable of any romantic interactions since I have literally never ever initiated interactions with a girl and whenever a girl initiated I never had the courage to do anything because I only got hot at age 25 or so
I feel like if I reveal how inexperienced and insecure I am, I will be seen as a pathetic worm and people will mock me behind my back.
Revealing your inexperience to a woman who's genuinely interested in you will most likely be okay. She'll give you a shot anyway. But be careful with that insecurity. People don't like that. You kind of have to delude yourself into confidence.
Being inexperienced isn't that big of a deal, being insecure is way worse. Just do your homework before you lose your v-card and she won't even suspect a thing. >how to take off a bra (optional) >how to kiss >how to be good at foreplay >how to properly stimulate the clitoris
If you spend 15 minutes reading up on how to do the last two things then you will be a better lover than most men.
Yeah the insecurity manifests as anxiety and can ruin everything
>tall and looksmaxxed to the point where I have had girls gawking at me slack-jawed when I pass by them
apart from being tall, what's looksmaxxed to get that level of attention exactly? post an actor that looks like you
I don’t watch movies I am a bookworm, I actually dont like myself either because I am dysmorphic I guess, I only know I am hot because of external feedback. But everyone unironically thinks I havent settled because I just have too many options and want to have fun. I deny it but they think I am lying, and I dont press too hard because I will actually reveal exactly how bad things are and I am too embarrassed.
>I don’t watch movies I am a bookworm, I actually dont like myself either because I am dysmorphic I guess, I only know I am hot because of external feedback. But everyone unironically thinks I havent settled because I just have too many options and want to have fun. I deny it but they think I am lying, and I dont press too hard because I will actually reveal exactly how bad things are and I am too embarrassed.
oh I see. I was more talking about physical looks, in order to mimic you lol
I asked, apparently “Jamie Dornan when he was doing Calvin Klein modelling”. Googled it, I guess I do have the same hair and beard but they are black and not hazel.
you're very attractive!
what's your skin routine¡?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Nothing fancy. cleanser, moisturiser, sunscreen, night cream every day. exfoliant, charcoal mask twice a week. Cream for blemishes whenever I feel like it. And ofc anti acne cream.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Nta. Do you find the charcoal mask drying? Would you say your skin is oily, dry, or combination?
Aren't I the one coming across as flakey though? I think I made a horrible first impression
I mean, they're the ones who gave you a day for an interview and then said "actually no we're busy".
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
My skin is mixed and I only apply the mask to the oily t-zone. Otherwise yes, its super dry.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I guess so... But I did ask for a second set of dates and then went back to the original ones
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
That would have been good to mention at first. So it wasn't because the first date was unavailable and they fucked up. You waited too long to make a decision. Either way, freaking out and being upset about it doesn't do anything to make them call you.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
That's true. I jsut didn't expect the second set of dates to be worse for me and figured it would be easier to get a day off work (for a 30 min meeting -.-) than keep asking for days
Being inexperienced isn't that big of a deal, being insecure is way worse. Just do your homework before you lose your v-card and she won't even suspect a thing. >how to take off a bra (optional) >how to kiss >how to be good at foreplay >how to properly stimulate the clitoris
If you spend 15 minutes reading up on how to do the last two things then you will be a better lover than most men.
>tall and looksmaxxed to the point where I have had girls gawking at me slack-jawed when I pass by them
apart from being tall, what's looksmaxxed to get that level of attention exactly? post an actor that looks like you
I'm not saying I agree or disagree just explaining the thought process. People who have to or choose to do sex work because they need/want the money and think sex is their most marketable skill are easier to respect than someone who has to or chooses to spend money on sex when they SHOULD be able to get it for free.
For the sex worker it's like "wow your pussy is so good people will pay for it"
And for the guy who visits sex workers it's more "wow you're such a loser you couldn't get anyone to fuck you for free".
I have been to brothels in the past, most of the men there are middle class married men not incels.
People talk about objetification but don't you think judging a men for how much pussy he can get is pretty fuck up.
If you were that excited for it why couldn't you make the interview times they gave you the first 2 times work?
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Doesn't matter. It's the PERCEPTION that matters and the average young woman thinks men who visit sex workers are losers who can't get it for free or they're predators. I understand the reality of it being easier to just pay than go on tinder sometimes but I still get that initial "ick".
it's all about perception. And judging him based on if he's able to secure free pussy or not is basically just judging his attractiveness and social skills which we were already doing.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
If she was his girlfriend that means she finds him attractive, she is dumping him because maybe others don't find him attractive.
I'm gonna start preaching that you cannot be a supporter of sex workers if you discriminate against people who use their services
feminists have such a bizarre approach to "sex work" lol. It's disgusting, both parties to the transaction are disgusting, but they can't ever let a woman be in the wrong so we end up with these mental gymnastics to make it sound fun and empowering.
in general, women will be less accepting of men who used escorts because he couldnt get hookups
in general, women will be less accepting of men who don't want to be with women with a long sexual past
I don't know any woman who cares a lot about whether men want women with a long sexual past or otherwise. Women don't like feeling rejected, but that's pretty much it.
It's completely fine for people to want a partner who is similar to them in terms of sexual history, as long as they're respectful of others.
I don't know any woman who cares a lot about whether men want women with a long sexual past or otherwise. Women don't like feeling rejected, but that's pretty much it.
It's completely fine for people to want a partner who is similar to them in terms of sexual history, as long as they're respectful of others.
>It's completely fine for people to want a partner who is similar to them in terms of sexual history, as long as they're respectful of others.
nah, Im not going to lose on the few chances of relationships just because she cant accept I had to pay for sex (ie have low social status)
>Deceiving people for your own self interest is shitty.
if women can't accept my sexual past then Im simply going to lie by omission
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
You're a piece of shit then. I hope you wind a woman on the same wavelength, maybe she can "lie by omission" about cheating on you and making you raise her lover's child or something 🙂
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>You're a piece of shit then.
Were you not in this thread yesterday? Literally every single person, men and women, who responded to that one question said they'd lie about/hide parts of their past from their partners.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
No, and I don't give a shit about what people here say. It's incredibly shitty to hide something from your partner on purpose because you know it benefits you.
NTA but he is 100% right. He has done nothing morally wrong and he is just giving himself the best chances in an unjust world. What you are talking about is directly harmful against another person in the relationship. Which is to say - the biggest wrong he is committing is the omission, while in the case of cheating - the biggest wrong is the cheating and the omission is just a secondary issue.
She is just giving herself and her child the best chances in an unjust world, anon.
Are you a woman? I cant find any other reason you'd want a potential gf to cheat on me or make me raise her lover child. Thats sick.
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makes sense.
>Thats sick.
So is lying and hiding important information about your past from your partner.
You are going to end with a man who payed for sex and will never tell you about it, deal with it rostie.
No, I'm not. Not everyone is an ugly coomer like you.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
My city has 2 millions habitants and around 1k prostitutes, plus OF and all premium porn sites. Do you think only a few men pay them? Cope rostie, your man will never tell you all about his past.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Do you think only a few men pay them?
Yes, a minority of men pay for prostitutes. The majority of men have never slept with a whore. Cope, coomer.
>she is just giving herself and her child the best chances in an unjust world, anon.
Already explained the issue in your comparison, you have failed to address it.
I disagree fundamentally with the premise that there's nothing "morally wrong" about sleeping with prostitutes. Loveless, transactional sex is morally wrong to me, and supporting and benefiting from an industry that is filled with sexual abuse and sexual trafficking also is.
Ultimately everyone's opinion on these topics differ - there are people who think it's okay to fuck prostitutes, people who is okay to fuck others when you're committed to someone, people who raise other people's children happily. Anyone who is in a relationship with me would know how I feel about the subject of prostitution, and if they choose to deceive me about it then they're horrible people.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
No, you are taking a further leap into moral subjectivity as I already explained. You hard your partner multiple times. In one case, you committed an act that doesnt concern your partner and the wrongdoing is hiding the fact from the partner.
In the other you cheat on the partner- huge moral misstep. You get pregnant with another man’s child- second misstep, and the omission of you having sex with others is the third, most minor misstep. Its so far removed in terms of degrees of wrongdoing its not at all comparable
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>you committed an act that doesnt concern your partner
Lying about your values concerning sex and relationships definitely concerns me.
And again, there are people who are okay with their partner sleeping with others, there are people who are okay with their partner having seen prostitutes, there are people who are okay with raising another man's child.
The issue is that you do something wrong knowingly (whether it's lie about how you feel about sex, or fuck someone else) and then lie about it because it's in your best interest to hide something you know would upset your partner.
If by minorty you mean 30% then yes, still that's a pretty good number. I don't think an ugly rostie on LULZ anything better.
Lol no. Maybe half of that.
It's definitely a minority of men
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Lying about your values concerning sex and relationships definitely concerns me.
Yes that's the wrongdoing. The lying by omission. So the worst act here is the most minor act in the second example
>And again, there are people who are okay with their partner sleeping with others
Irrelevant to the point. >there are people who are okay with their partner having seen prostitutes
Irrelevant to the point and not comparable to the event you described right before
>The issue is that you do something wrong knowingly (whether it's lie about how you feel about sex, or fuck someone else) and then lie about it because it's in your best interest to hide something you know would upset your partner.
No, you cant say cheating is as bad as not sharing every detail of your sexual past with your partner. I already went over that, not going to keep repeating myself.
If we poll people "would you rather your partner cheats on you or he/she omits an uncomfortable fact about his/her sexual past" I can guarantee you 99% of people will prefer the latter, even attempting to draw a comparison here is laughable. As a matter of fact, most people dont share everything about their past. The majority of women omit performing sexual acts in the past that they dont want to perform on their current partner, for instance.
Either way, cheat if you want to, just dont try to delude yourself its the same as not knowing every detail about your partner's sexual past. Find another cope.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Cheating is disgusting and I'd never do it. So is pretending you share your partner's values about sex and relationship to gain their trust, so is lying about your past because you know they'd be disgusted by you if they knew the full extent of your sexual history.
Both are wrong. Cheating is undoubtedly more painful, but lying about fucking prostitutes is still wrong.
If you know that your partner wouldn't want to be with you if you fucked whores and you don't tell them that you fucked whores, you're a horrible person.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>Both are wrong.
Slapping your SO and beating them into a coma are also both wrong.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Yes.
How fat is your gf?
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Cheating can happen accidentally. And I've never had the prostitutes subject come up when having gfs.
>Cheating can happen accidentally
No.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
If by minorty you mean 30% then yes, still that's a pretty good number. I don't think an ugly rostie on LULZ anything better.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>she is just giving herself and her child the best chances in an unjust world, anon.
Already explained the issue in your comparison, you have failed to address it.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
NTA but he is 100% right. He has done nothing morally wrong and he is just giving himself the best chances in an unjust world. What you are talking about is directly harmful against another person in the relationship. Which is to say - the biggest wrong he is committing is the omission, while in the case of cheating - the biggest wrong is the cheating and the omission is just a secondary issue.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Are you a woman? I cant find any other reason you'd want a potential gf to cheat on me or make me raise her lover child. Thats sick.
Nta. This might be an unpopular opinion but I don't think there's anything wrong with a few lies by omission. There are certain things I'd like to keep only to myself or only admit on an anonymous mongolian basket weaving forum. I won't lie if asked directly, but if it never comes up I'm not going to bring it up myself.
makes sense.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
You are going to end with a man who payed for sex and will never tell you about it, deal with it rostie.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Nta. This might be an unpopular opinion but I don't think there's anything wrong with a few lies by omission. There are certain things I'd like to keep only to myself or only admit on an anonymous mongolian basket weaving forum. I won't lie if asked directly, but if it never comes up I'm not going to bring it up myself.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
A girl gave my a handjob under the table in the middle of the classrom when I was 14 yo. Do you think she will tell her partner that she has done something so slutty?
If her partner asks if she has experience she will say yes and leave out the details. Do the same, don't ask for details about your gf's past and if she asks you, don't tell her you paid for sex. Say that yes, you have had some experience and call it a day.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I guess this is the way
Nothing fancy. cleanser, moisturiser, sunscreen, night cream every day. exfoliant, charcoal mask twice a week. Cream for blemishes whenever I feel like it. And ofc anti acne cream.
thanks!
No, and I don't give a shit about what people here say. It's incredibly shitty to hide something from your partner on purpose because you know it benefits you.
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She is just giving herself and her child the best chances in an unjust world, anon.
[...] >Thats sick.
So is lying and hiding important information about your past from your partner.
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No, I'm not. Not everyone is an ugly coomer like you.
>So is lying and hiding important information about your past from your partner.
Im not going to lie, Im just going to say I have experience if the topic ever comes up but never about paying.
I definitely lost that damn interview. Fucking shit fuck. Why do I jinx everything why does it always end horribly when i get excited for something. I want to induce alcoholism the journaling isn't working
If you were that excited for it why couldn't you make the interview times they gave you the first 2 times work?
historically the patrons of sex workers are always wealthy and usually titled nobility and/or royalty, so that's bullshit.
Doesn't matter. It's the PERCEPTION that matters and the average young woman thinks men who visit sex workers are losers who can't get it for free or they're predators. I understand the reality of it being easier to just pay than go on tinder sometimes but I still get that initial "ick".
I assume somebody does because this is a topic of conversation in the thread. Just saying, don't expect your future girlfriends to be happy about it if you admit to seeing sex workers.
I did I took a day off work for one of the first days they offered me and then they said it wasn't available anymore. I gave them the days I have off regularly too
Don't put all your eggs in a basket with a hole in it. This opportunity doesn't sound like it's all that you just seem desperate.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
It's a step up from what Im doing now. I get the vibe that the management is kind of retarded from what my friend told me, but that's everywhere. might as well get paid a little more . also im desperate i hate failing at something I didn't even TRY
after a confession of love years later how long would it take a guy to respond if at all? i know every guy is different but i wonder if and how he is processing me and wonder if i'm being annoying or opening up an old wound seeing as we used to be in a relationship and loved each other.
>what kind of mixed feelings do you think he's having?
Whether you ended it, he ended it or you just grew apart the most prominent thing in his mind is likely whatever caused your relationship to fizzle out in the first place.
It's also been almost a decade and no doubt you're different people than you were when you were together.
Even if I wanted something in that situation I'd probably be pretty intimidated by the idea of confronting something from my past so directly. There are so many ways that a relationship like that can go wrong (one is still way to attached, you're just completely different people, you have different standards, you're at different places in your life etc.)
It could be about you, it could not be about you. Until he responds or your friend talks to him you have no way of knowing.
i had a bad family life and moved away due to violence in my youth. i think he was upset about other guys trying to flirt with me. what's it feel like to be so intimidated? i just want to be able to talk to him and relax and cuddle him and that intimacy like i never had before. we're at that age people start settling down so i'm interested in rediscovering ourselves. since you mentioned being hypothetically intimidating about confronting me directly, how else would you go about this?
>what's it feel like to be so intimidated?
I haven't been like that since I was a teenager but the point is that in those situations it's just easier to put it off and ignore it hoping that it will just go away.
It's not even that it's good or bad, it's just mentally fatiguing to think about. >i just want to be able to talk to him and relax and cuddle him and that intimacy like i never had before. we're at that age people start settling down so i'm interested in rediscovering ourselves
And that's absolutely huge to dump on a guy all at once. Even if you didn't say that part out loud it's in the back of his mind and with an existing partner even talking to them is a pretty big commitment. >since you mentioned being hypothetically intimidating about confronting me directly, how else would you go about this?
I think I gave you my recommendation before - I'd just say hi and offer to meet up for coffee or something to see how each of us is getting on. Obviously the subtext is still there but you can deal with it in parts and if you show up and you clearly aren't going to work out then it doesn't have to go further than exchanging hellos.
The best way for it to happen is organically as a coincidence but that's literally never going to happen and it's super easy to tell if you've contrived it most of the time because of the nerves and how you speak.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
yeah i'm fatigued too i think he is as well... >with an existing partner even talking to them is a pretty big commitment.
you mean how we used to be partners? and yeah i didn't seem as cool and casual in my text to him as usual so i really hope he can understand i'm better in person. i did appear pretty nervous and spilt my guts in my wording. i think i found him on another social media which freaks me out a little bit but am wondering if i should reach out there. i recently became aware of how ex's check up on other's socials and am now wondering if he has been viewing my page. after posting a spicy meme someone sent me an anonymous private pic of their nethers, don't know if it could of drunkenly been him or another person.
Find a hobby which makes you feel good about yourself and pursue it aggressively. Normally for dudes that's the gym.
Take a couple of months off and then try dating - particularly picking people up IRL in bars/hobbies - to boost your confidence.
Why do you never wear clothes that fit you anon? You need to buy some new pants. And we've talked about the dishes. You need to do it the way I told you to.
I am 27 years old, is it a good idea to get an associate degree in a field that has nothing to do with my career and in which I have no experience? I want to change jobs desperately.
What worries me is not finding a job because I have no experience and the degree takes 1 to 2 years.
It might be, but if you just want to change jobs why specifically in the new field?
Because I hate the old one and just want to follow my passion.
It depends on the field you want to switch to, but it could be worth it. Alternatively if you want to switch to programming, you could just look for courses, in some cases you straight up get offered a job afterwards if you did great and you can go to the courses after work.
>Because I hate the old one and just want to follow my passion.
If that was your passion then why didn't you follow it in the first place?
What made you originally think this was right for you?
It depends on the field you want to switch to, but it could be worth it. Alternatively if you want to switch to programming, you could just look for courses, in some cases you straight up get offered a job afterwards if you did great and you can go to the courses after work.
Guys:
Would you kiss your gf after cumming in her mouth? And in her face? Would you eat her pussy after cumming inside?
Girls:
How would you feel if your bf did any of the above?
What is wrong with me that I will like a guy I am friends with and want him to like me too in that way and then when he does I get scared and shut it down? I hate myself I have done this several times
Last night I went out to the bar last minute to meet a girl I've been sleeping with casually and her other friend. We've been talking for a month or so now
When I got there there was some other dude hanging around them but he ended up getting really quiet. I later asked her about it and she said the guy was talking to her a lot and playing pool with her until I showed up and then he didnt talk to her anymore.
Anyone know why that is? He ended up leaving and it was just the girl, her friend and I
I hung out with them for awhile and then I took the girl home with me and we went to have sex but I had terrible whiskey dick and kept going soft and was exhausted which usually never happens and I felt really bad but we still fucked for awhile
I then took her home and I think when I was half asleep in my bed later we were texting and I made a half minded comment about having whiskey dick and she never responded
Did I fuck up? Was that dude trying to get with her?
Those are two separate questions right?
Yes he was hitting on her.
And don't make a big deal about not being able to get it up. The more of a fuss you make about it the weirder you make it.
I figured. All I can remember is him being quiet and standing in the corner while I was there. I dunno. I wasnt going to go meet her at first but she kept asking me to come out, maybe he was making her uncomfortable or something. Why does it make me uncomfortable that some other dude was trying to get with her? I feel like territorial over it
But yeah, the past times weve been together it hasnt been an issue. Im probably over thinking it
I don't think I'm capable of genuinely engaging with that hypothetical. Sexual attraction is very important to me in a relationship. In a world where sexual attraction doesn't apply I think I'd just stay single.
Are you single or with someone right now? Have you found that combination in a person yet? How common do you think it is in men these days to have these qualities?
Also where are you from, I'm assuming the States.
I’m getting married in a couple of months. I did find that perfect combination of person.
Idk how common this is, but I do feel like most men have some to a lot of these qualities. I know this place paint a harsh picture of everyone, but that’s not the real life I am apart of
Not from the states, Norway
Kind of related.
A girl invited me to the movie theater and when I made the excuse that I was saving money she offered to pay for the tickets and food. How should I have interpreted that?
I accompanied the girl I liked to an ultrasound test because her boyfriend just impregnated her. I think they are married now. At least I took a peak of her pussy so I could be worse.
Is it actually possible for me, a skinny fat autistic guy with a stutter, to hit it off with a girl from the very beginning?
Sure. Most guys are skinnyfat these days that's not even a detractor. A ton of people are some degree of autistic. If you're functional enough to have a job you're functional enough to date. And a stutter is a unique trait that someone who likes you would find endearing.
Nta but how did it go? Did you guys meet at a restaurant or straight to a hotel room or his house? Did you talk first or eat or watch Netflix first, and for how long? How did he/she initiate the whole intimate act?
I wanna know cuz i have no idea how to behave during a booty call.
It depends on the individuals involved and the situation. If you still want to know I'll expand on it a little bit there's nothing I could say that's going to teach you anything.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>there's nothing I could say that's going to teach you anything.
That's not true.
Go on! I'm curious.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
We met up at his hotel and got down to business. I've had other hookups that went differently though. So it doesn't really mean anything.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>I've had other hookups that went differently though
Woah. Tell me about your favourite one. The one where the reception, the execution, and the whole thing was your best experience so far. How was that done? I don't mind if you go into the details.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Honestly kid you sound entirely too inexperienced to even think about engaging in hookups
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Uh, I never asked for you to get into the "hookup" part. Just what the other person did before initiating the sex, and after it to make it a better experience.
I'm not the kind to hookup in the first place so ur right. But that doesn't mean it doesn't give me an idea on how to treat my future partners.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
None of this changes my stance. You're overly concerned with the setup. How good the sex is determines how good the hookup was. Whether we watched Netflix first or not is immaterial.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Why you focused on netflix? I've literally never had sex wtf are u on about I don't wven know how to hookup. I guess I'll find out when I do. But atleast i can make things better with the things that are in my control.
You're such a retarded fuckn whore. I guess them guys really did fuck your 'brains out'. Smh.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>I've literally never had sex
I know. If you had you would know the questions you're asking don't make much sense.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Retard. Your only answer to my questions was: "We met at room, we had sex." That's what a hookup means you dumb slut.
Stop making it look like you provided any more information than that.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I'm not pretending anything dude. I'm telling you the information you are asking for doesn't matter.
This wasn’t really for someone but I had my first kiss in 8th grade with a girl I was friends with, and for some reason I thought that made us bf and gf, so I told our mutual friend that she is now my gf and he texted her right then and there to ask her and she said no.
That was pretty embarrassing.
M
A girl that was pretty hot in my chemistry class and probably a year or two older was talking to me about Jay and Silent Bob and we had been talking about sex and stuff previously and I told her that I found a Jay and Silent Bob porno and she asked me to give it to her, so I burned it into a DVD and gave it to her, it was really cringe looking back on it.
Running away from my family, cutting off all my hair, and taking a bus two states away while everyone was looking for me thinking I went missing.
Trying to bribe a guy to stay with me by paying him disgusting amounts of money and still getting treated like shit anyways.
Good job now you need to spend even more money because you also have a yeast infection. Go to the drugstore and get some monistat wtf is wrong with both of you?
Cheating is disgusting and I'd never do it. So is pretending you share your partner's values about sex and relationship to gain their trust, so is lying about your past because you know they'd be disgusted by you if they knew the full extent of your sexual history.
Both are wrong. Cheating is undoubtedly more painful, but lying about fucking prostitutes is still wrong.
If you know that your partner wouldn't want to be with you if you fucked whores and you don't tell them that you fucked whores, you're a horrible person.
Cheating can happen accidentally. And I've never had the prostitutes subject come up when having gfs.
She's actually almsot stick thin and I'm really skinny too.
Good job now you need to spend even more money because you also have a yeast infection. Go to the drugstore and get some monistat wtf is wrong with both of you?
You set up a date with a guy and he shows up wearing this. He doesn't pull attention to it, he just wears it completely casually. What do you do and how do you react?
I’m with new semester coming up in August, I’m always imagine I can make a good first impression despite not being attractive at all and possibly kind of ugly. The stutter’s not too bad, I think when I plan what I’m gonna say is when it hits bad. I don’t think I really have anything interesting going for me.
F. Evil? No. Morally deplorable? Yes. Can you imagine what the world would be like if we couldn't trust the majority of people to keep their word? It would be chaos.
Man, why are bisexual women so much better than straight women? Straight women have these insanely high standards for men and are boring submissives who like to be pampered and treated like princesses. Recently had sex with a bisexual woman and she was the only one who allowed me to fuck her feet.
>That is a shit pic.
post a better one then homosexual >20% in winter.
You're bulking and cutting 8% bf in a year lmao? Sounds like either you're a manlet or you just don't know how to keep the weight off.
>post a better one then
I never needed one, and I'm not here to teach you. >Sounds like either you're a manlet or you just don't know how to keep the weight off
Holy neurosis, I didn't mean to upset you boy
>I never needed one, and I'm not here to teach you.
Concession accepted >Holy neurosis, I didn't mean to upset you boy
Putting on and dumping 8% bf every 6 months is not healthy and I imagine fucking sucks.
I have no idea why you'd willingly subject yourself to that.
M >female
25-30% is the best
Anything from 15 to 40% is fine. Maybe 45% if she has a really good personality. >male
10-15% is the best
I think 6% to 35% is reasonable.
I'm not. I actually have a low libido. I rarely want sex, and my performance may be sub-par compared to other men who are hornier than I am. Wouldn't you prefer it if I were horny all the time instead?
>Wouldn't you prefer it if I were horny all the time instead?
Depends on the guy. A relationship with a man who needs sex every night can go to shit fast. Even if I'm horny, abstaining from sex is easier than having sex daily.
Wouldn't it hurt your feelings sometimes if you were in the mood for sex, but he wasn't? Are you sure you wouldn't feel rejected or undesirable in those situations?
I guess it's different for guys because you're programmed to have as much sex as possible. Women can't afford to do that because they can only bear one child every 9 months, in that same amount of time men can impregnate thousands of women. So women's sex drives are pretty low in comparison. I wouldn't be offended if you weren't in the mood because that's how I'd be most of the time.
>So women's sex drives are pretty low in comparison
lol
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
You'd think otherwise if your only exposure to women is through social media or in spaces where you're looking to hookup, but your average woman isn't interested in having sex or masturbating several times a week like men.
>I never needed one, and I'm not here to teach you.
Concession accepted >Holy neurosis, I didn't mean to upset you boy
Putting on and dumping 8% bf every 6 months is not healthy and I imagine fucking sucks.
I have no idea why you'd willingly subject yourself to that.
>Concession accepted
More like assumed, lmao >Putting on and dumping 8% bf every 6 months is not healthy and I imagine fucking sucks
I just have a very demanding metabolism. I can handle adding and eventually losing over 15kg the same year.
I didn't say I hit 12% either, I'm closer to 14 when I'm cut.
I don't care about aesthetics much either. As long as you've been doing sports and lifting for years you look good, you don't need to be obsessive.
The guy in the picture sure isn't.
I did say it's a shit picture
M >female
25-30% is the best
Anything from 15 to 40% is fine. Maybe 45% if she has a really good personality. >male
10-15% is the best
I think 6% to 35% is reasonable.
>45% if she has a really good personality
As in, tiddies. I can't resist a chubby girl with a good personality either.
6% is natty unattainable and 35% is fat as fuck, anon.
I didn't, look a few replies back, I got in a heated battle of wits with OP.
I dare say I won, devastatingly, and he will have to lift heavy and eat healthier than ever if he wants to regain his lost honor.
And I wish him the best in doing that because deep down I only wish the best to all the losers ITT.
Now let's go get some drinks.
>More like assumed, lmao
No, you conceded that you couldn't post a better diagram
Until you stop just chatting shit and actually demonstrate, that concession stands >I just have a very demanding metabolism. I can handle adding and eventually losing over 15kg the same year.
No you don't lmao, you have poor impulse control and discipline and crash diet every year to get into beach shape.
When summer ends you open your mouth like a fucking funnel and then by January when you start to look in the mirror and feel like shit you go back on shakes and the cycle starts again. >I didn't say I hit 12% either, I'm closer to 14 when I'm cut.
And I said that bouncing between those "ideals" is fucking retarded. I have no idea how you even justify 20 being "ideal" for winter besides the fact that you stuff your fat ass with pizza the moment summer ends and can't control your weight gain.
Yo-yo dieting has extremely well documented negative health outcomes. If you're regularly spending half the year dieting then you need to get your shitty nutrition under control.
homosexual at 20% BF the only thing you're mogging me in is the size of your tits.
If you're bouncing between even 14 and "20" BF periodically every year you are fucking your health far worse than people who are just fat for literally 0 benefit outside of instagram
And you've still given me literally 0 justification for why 20 is even ideal in winter... besides the fact that lardasses like you can't keep the ben and jerry's out of their mouth once beach season ends.
If you want to eat the ban and join the gallery to prove me wrong then you're more than welcome to
But I've got BPD girls to torment here and that's a better use of my next 3 days than you.
You could also just literally wear clothes?
Unless you're pushing it really low (like sub 10%) then you shouldn't be feeling cold all the time and you shouldn't get fat just to avoid feeling cold.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I'm not him but I'm cold if it's below 70f and I'm not in direct sunlight. It makes sense to me.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
That is not normal.
I would guess that you maybe have either an iron or a vitamin D deficiency
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Probably both
It doesn't, though. Higher angrogenic properties generally result in a calmer, clear head, just snapping into fight mode or sex mode hard if you need to.
Asshole behavior is largely a social derivation of being treated different and having privilege.
[...]
That sucks man, since you wrote a whole book about me I assumed you'd at least take the 3 days off for a shot at proving your point.
But then how do you explain the correlation? You can be calm and clear headed and still an asshole.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>how do you explain the correlation
I already did; it's social.
You're treated different when you have high test.
You can easily choose to be an asshole, you're presented with opportunities most people aren't because of the different treatment you receive.
Think of beautiful women as a similar case.
They can choose to be bitchy and self obsessed and still enjoy privileges.
It's not a hormonal issue, it's a social one and it can be tragic, but you can choose to be a high test guy or a beautiful woman and still be kind. It's the harder way but I believe it leads to better results.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
You also said "Higher angrogenic properties generally result in a calmer, clear head, just snapping into fight mode or sex mode hard if you need to." And I interpreted that to mean that you think high test men are less likely to be assholes than other men. And that would contradict your other statement. I'm confused.
Being stupid doesn't make people mean that's ridiculous. But I know you're joking because no one would seriously make this argument and use Bateman as a positive example.
It doesn't, though. Higher angrogenic properties generally result in a calmer, clear head, just snapping into fight mode or sex mode hard if you need to.
Asshole behavior is largely a social derivation of being treated different and having privilege.
If you want to eat the ban and join the gallery to prove me wrong then you're more than welcome to
But I've got BPD girls to torment here and that's a better use of my next 3 days than you.
That sucks man, since you wrote a whole book about me I assumed you'd at least take the 3 days off for a shot at proving your point.
My ego's pretty fine, you're the one who went on a rant and then chickened out.
Quote me with a body pic at any time if you want to put money where your mouth is and settle it like a man then take the ban and spend some time off the internet together to have very manly gay sex where the winner fucks the loser in the ass.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>chickened out
Chickened out of what? An arbitrary challenge you set me that would give me a ban that you're not even willing to do yourself?
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
OP goes first, it's the rule.
I already gave you my word that I'm posting back.
It's not arbitrary if you care about proving me wrong. I said I gigamog you already, are you going to stay quiet?
You also said "Higher angrogenic properties generally result in a calmer, clear head, just snapping into fight mode or sex mode hard if you need to." And I interpreted that to mean that you think high test men are less likely to be assholes than other men. And that would contradict your other statement. I'm confused.
Yeah, because it's true. In general men who are aggressive or bitchy have high e2. High test and general hormonal balance gives you a reassured confidence.
Cute, but probably a little annoying for you you're going to get poked in the eyes with your own hair.
[...]
Do NOT listen to this guy he's trying to sabotage you. Buzz cuts are awful.
>Buzz cuts are awful
In what dimension? It's only gotten more popular in recent years, a buzz cut with a fresh fade.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>OP goes first, it's the rule.
That you just made up?
You made the challenge, retard. I'm not going to jump through hoops like a monkey just because you made up a game to play by yourself.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>In what dimension?
This one. Where the fuck do you live because it sure as hell isn't the states, or you're not white.
Do you think insulting my ex so I can ruin all the good memories I've with her will make me feel any better? I just can't forget her.
So far I have always treated her with respect after our breakup and never blamed her for anything while she acted condescending towards me. I really want to spit on her face.
saw a girl i graduated with 10 years ago out last night in a bar out of town
we said hi and she squeezed my arm as she left after getting her drink
she's cute but is a lez
As long as your body language and facial expressions don't make it obvious that you're not used to interacting with women, I wouldn't be able to tell nor would I care if I found out.
Not obvious unless I'm in the process of trying to have sex with him. I can guess but it's easy to be wrong. More often than not I'm surprised when I hear that someone has no sexual experience.
And even in the moment a lot of it can be played off as nerves or as being relatively inexperienced but not completely inexperienced. The only way to know for sure is if they tell me outright.
Male virgin but >irl
I guarantee most people massively overrate their abilities to predict this, outside of extreme cases.
Even people you would assume are virgins might have been in the right place at the right time for it to happen
When I tell people that I'm a virgin they are universally surprised. >during the act
It's probably a lot more obvious, especially at certain ages.
With that said I bet there are still a ton of partners who are awkward and unconfident despite having sex and also some virgins who just don't get pre-flight nerves and are confident at what they're doing.
>Which do you think would fit better?
It 100% depends on how you dress.
The one you've posted there is much safer and goes with more but it's not objectively "better"
If you're going beach then generally I'd recommend avoiding cuts which need a specific styling to look good.
>How will you influence women to want to get pregnant?
We start talking on LULZ, exchange some light flirting and trade socials.
Then we start messaging each other privately. Intermittently at first and then one night we find ourselves staying up until 3am because neither of us wants to hang up.
A few months later I'm coincidentally in your city for work and I suggest meeting up for coffee. We have a great time and an hour's meeting spirals into the afternoon. As we're walking down the high street our eyes meet in the right light and we kiss.
Things start hard since we're long distance but we both put in the effort to me it work. Meeting up a couple of times a year isn't ideal but in time we come to love each other so we make it work.
Then, finally, we find a way to live together and it's like magic. For months we can't keep our hands off of one another.
Then those months turn into years. Infatuation turns into love. As we're sat at a restaurant celebrating our anniversary we stare into one another's eyes and know there's nothing more in the world we've ever wanted.
At this point you've already been introduced to my family - including my younger brother and sister who are probably about 9 or 10 by now. They're annoying, they're pests but they're also bundles of energy and I just seem to get on so well with them. You look at me and you see how happy they make me and how much they love me and it just melts your heart.
And at that point the conflict wells up inside of you - between your biology and how you see me and your fears and anxieties about having children.
One night you come up to me. You don't say what you're feeling out loud but we both now what you've been thinking about.
And that's when I say to you: >You're the most beautiful woman in the world to me. I would give the world to you. I would love you no matter what and if you choose to do this I'll give it my everything.
That night, our first child is concieved.
You're going to have to stop writing cheesy shitty romance novels in your head if you want that to happen.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>You're going to have to stop writing cheesy shitty romance novels in your head
Make me
How to unsubscribe from this smut gazette?
Unfortunately you have to leave /atoga/
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Making you would require me to give a shit
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Then I guess we're both just going to have to deal with the consequences of my pulp romance addiction
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
I won't, but you will. Just consider that.
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
>I won't
Anon, you really don't appreciate the deep bond that we've formed here today
2 weeks ago
Anonymous
Nobody cares about soapy trash. You need to make these stories about a damaged, albeit recovering, former doomer. And it needs to be a saga spanning several months, at least. Your audience might have a saviour complex - capitalize on that.
Men ITT,
Reply which one you have or think you have.
BPD
Schizo
One piss bottle close by
Living with parents
Wearing clothes not previously washed
Brown race
Yeah living with my parents. If I do get an entirely remote job, I’ll most likely move into my grandparents old home next door, at least for a period of time and also being paying taxes, electric bill, and whatever else there is (there’s a well so no water bill). Not much around here but I could do home gym, no rent, and re-start the garden.
>thought LULZ being gay was a meme
It's an exaggerated internet gym.
Go to the gym and see how awkward hot guys can be, then collect the worst and put then on LULZ.
I don't really post there anymore, might post in /cbt/ sometime again if I get a smartphone but I can't even take pics of myself right now.
How do you think the person who needs to go to urgent care feels about it? I doubt they want to go either but they have to. Suck it up and wait outside if the waiting room is really too much for you.
F. Nah. I don't have any interest in driving over an hour and probably having to pay to hang out with a bunch of old and middle aged naked people. I don't have any issue with it if I ended up on a nude beach I'd do what's expected but I just don't care to involve myself in that.
>I won't
Anon, you really don't appreciate the deep bond that we've formed here today
You very much overestimate my ability to recognize anons. Once this reply chain ends we become nothing to each other and that's the way I like it lol.
>You very much overestimate my ability to recognize anons.
Anon do you really think the autist who posts a 2000 character love story every couple of days is going to be hard to miss?
Plus saying that we'll never talk again just makes it a "star-crossed lovers" situation which is literally the perfect fuel for escapist romance fantasies.
Nobody cares about soapy trash. You need to make these stories about a damaged, albeit recovering, former doomer. And it needs to be a saga spanning several months, at least. Your audience might have a saviour complex - capitalize on that.
I'll keep that in mind.
Maybe a doomer who tries some advice on here and slowly improves his shape/attitude but can just never seem to get results.
As he's slowly worn down a beautiful, nurturing soul pushes him gently in the right direction and the spark is instant.
Everyone grows hair on his shaft, anon.
I just trim it because it feels weird shaved.
I also grow hair on the rest of my body so a shaved dick is obviously off.
I still can't get over the GDP debacle. It's just so stupid how everyone latched onto the notion that every-single-one of the women in those videos was coerced. Do these people know that many of these women even went BACK for more videos?
They were explicitly told that the videos would never be posted online, and signed a contract that stated it. The ones who went back did so still thinking that these were videos that would never be posted online. That is the main issue here. They absolutely are victims, more of fraud than coercion but still. Just because they agreed to do porn doesn't make them not victims - they consented to do a certain type of porn only and were frauded into a different type.
>They were explicitly told that the videos would never be posted online, and signed a contract that stated it.
this actually only applies to a few portion of these women. >The ones who went back did so still thinking that these were videos that would never be posted online.
lol
>They absolutely are victims
there's literally a list over reddit with the ones that admit to be cheating:
Porn actresses claiming they have a bf in vids when they actually don't is very common, it's called acting. Trial records show that many of the women were forced to say that, you can see a comment about right in your own link.
https://www.reddit.com/r/CheatingSluts/comments/8x2pd6/comment/j5isgl7/
Thank god the law disagrees with you and they arrested all the POS men who ran this thing, hopefully the girls get nice settlements too.
>Trial records show that many of the women were forced to say that, you can see a comment about right in your own link. >yes, trust the testimony of JANE DOE 17, it's obvious that she's going to tell the authority that she was cheating on her boyfriend
>it's called acting
wow, I thought they weren't really actresses but normal women coerced?
Oh so you don't actually want to hear anyone's opinions, you just wanted an excuse to be a misogynist. Got it
I wondered why he was being so pushy about it. He wanted a "gotcha" moment.
>if I ignore the fact he admits some girls were actually victims, then that means his other point doesn't exist.
Boxing, cycling, basketball, weightlifting. >What do you think of other men who don't care about sports?
I don't, I guess they just haven't tried them or something
I train mma, and I watch pro wrestling and ufc. Sports are all rigged anyway, so I tune in for the promos and cool/brutal moments of athleticism. Tribalism is fun, but crying about sportball is cringe as fukk
Asking the women in here because I'm curious,
What period products do you use?
Pads, tampons, diva cup, reusable pads or period underwear?
I use reusable pads at home and reusable underwear if I'm leaving the house.
Apparently using reusable or unbleached pads/tampons help with period cramping.
I'd be amused. Still kind of wish i could've talked to the guy I saw wearing an inuyasha shirt, leather jacket, nice dress shoes, and a fedora
I use a reusable disc and sometimes period underwear- if I'm in a pinch I get the expensive cotton pads
Asking the women in here because I'm curious,
What period products do you use?
Pads, tampons, diva cup, reusable pads or period underwear?
I use reusable pads at home and reusable underwear if I'm leaving the house.
Apparently using reusable or unbleached pads/tampons help with period cramping.
what's your take on the girlsdoporn debacle?
I still can't get over the GDP debacle. It's just so stupid how everyone latched onto the notion that every-single-one of the women in those videos was coerced. Do these people know that many of these women even went BACK for more videos?
Seeing this girl casually
We were out last night and have been sleeping together
After I drop her at home and go to bed I get a notification from Snapchat at like 4 AM that she screen recorded our chats
Ask her about it in the AM and she says her “ex situationship” showed up in the middle of the night after she wasn’t responding to him and went through her phone
This made me feel uncomfortable and like I’m dealing with a woman who dates shitty toxic men and now I want to cut her off
Am I wrong for doing so? Should I just be honest and tell her I don’t want to get involved and that we can’t hang anymore?
Homie for sure recorded the chats and sent them to himself on his phone and god knows what he’ll do with them
I remember her looking at her phone a lot when we were in the car
She sent me a snap of her laying in her bed looking half asleep
I feel like he may have legitimately just showed up but she probably let him in and or go through her phone
Either way I feel like I’m not unreasonable for not wanting to see her again.
How do I express this to her or do I just not talk to her again?
Does it really matter? Do what you think is the right thing to do. If you're not planning on seeing her again it doesn't matter if your honesty upsets her.
Guys, I am a nympho but my new boyfriend has a small penis, should I break up, otherwise he is almost perfect? My ex was the opposite - he was so toxic and unpleasant but had the biggest cock, it is even hard to call my bf's thing a penis
Men, how did it feel when you first learned to trust women? Was it more like a heavy weight being lifted from your shoulders, or was it a relief like you just stopped banging your head against a wall?
I didn't really have to learn to trust women, I was just surrounded by honest and hardworking women while growing up
It was only when that trust was taken advantage of by other women that I became a misogynist
I didn't really have to learn to trust women, I was just surrounded by honest and hardworking women while growing up
It was only when that trust was taken advantage of by other women that I became a misogynist
said in the first sentence, I never had problems trusting them. And fortunately I didnt go through anything that made me lose trust either
femanons
is there a hierarchy in your friend group?
What I mean by that is sorta along the lines of the stereotype about girls being friends with one or a few objectively less attractive women. Are you aware of this imbalance of physical appearance between you and those friends (or yourself if you are that friend) and if so, how does it manifest in your group dynamics?
but is there still an imbalance of appearance? not like something small where "yeah I think so and so is a little cuter than so and so", but like an objective "she's just not attractive even though we like her"?
Strictly in terms of physical appearance? It varies with each person, hard to set universal standards when some guys look good lean or buff or dadbod or even somewhat fat like the dude from Moana.
Voice can definitely make or break a guy no matter how hot their body is, I like both younger and older sounding guys but again it depends, if your pitch doesn't match the way you look then it is offputting. Certain voices also make me think you're legitimately retarded/slow in the head, think dying old man voice coming from a 20-30 y/o.
Confident/relaxed, not awkward/stiff body language. I think guys underestimate how much lack of confidence affects their physical attractiveness, a 10/10 guy will look significantly uglier if they're constantly twitching with an anxious look on their face.
Besides all of that, a hot guy is rounded off by their personality and interests.
My life is a mess, and I’ve developed an eating disorder that’s affecting my workouts, so I look and feel like shit, but here you go. I guess this should be my last post
https://imgur.com/a/e7A3Xd5
Putting all of my autism into nutrition is what got me here. Now I don’t know what to eat more of, so I starve.
A psychologist. You should set up an intake appt asap
I don’t know how I could trust any one doctor to be able to help me
2 weeks ago
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You could also check into a psych clinic and then you'd have a team of doctors helping you
2 weeks ago
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Nta but I DO NOT recommend going to inpatient for eating disorders. They put you with everyone. He'll be traumatized from witnessing violent outbursts and having to hang around people who's mental health is WAY worse than his.
2 weeks ago
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I didn't mean the ward which is a different thing, I mean the general clinic. Like IOP programs and stuff
2 weeks ago
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I don't think there's any reason for him to go to group therapy if he doesn't want to.
2 weeks ago
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I do want to just fix it myself. I’m struggling, but it’s my own fault. I’m just a mess
2 weeks ago
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I guess so. I ruined my last relationship because of this. I just want to heal
You realize that literally nothing in movies matches reality right? The coffee cups are empty, the coworkers playing a couple actual dislike each other, it's all a farce.
No. In those, women have constant intense orgasms. Irl, we're lucky if a guy even remembers that the clit exists at all during sex. It's amazing just how bad most men are in bed.
>have read shitton of literature and watched guides on all sorts of ways to pleasure a woman and how exactly it should be done >how to find her pace, how to assess how sensitive she is, how to ramp the pleasure up, how to maximize her pleasure and increase chances of multiple orgasms
>never touched a woman in my life because I am too shy
I feel like I am an IRL version of the Mary's Room thought experiment
The difference is that no matter how bad a woman is in bed, men will still be able to orgasm from the sex. Not the case the other way around. Orgasm gap is a huge problem
>The difference is that no matter how bad a woman is in bed, men will still be able to orgasm from the sex
That's not the point, the point is women are still shit at sex >Orgasm gap is a huge problem
Also a self-inflicted one. Turns out when you give a small group of men all the options they have no real obligation to care about an individual girl's need. Weird, huh
>notice you didn't specify that she wants to have anything to do with you lol
Be still my broken heart.
I sleep tonight only to dream that one day you may be mine
>be me >record myself at night with my phone >Before you ask it's for snoring which pretty reliable indicator of sleep apnea >Go through the recording today >Hear a female voice whispering and speaking
I'm gonna fucking die, something is going to reap my sovl
>I just feel like authenticity / honesty / transparency are becoming increasingly rare >"Hi anon, what are the best ways of hurting you?" >"Oh well I'm extremely vulnerable to plasma and edged weapons..." >she flips on her lightsaber
>I just feel like authenticity / honesty / transparency are becoming increasingly rare
Because that doesn't bring results. And I'm a gangsta, so I need to lie by default anyway...
Letting myself feel things and be vulnerable is worth the risk.
I feel the opposite, that authenticity / honesty / transparency are becoming more common.
Women, >6’2 >fit >grad student >great CS job >lots of friends >great relationship with family >mentally healthy >still love my high school sweetheart/best friend from 6 years ago
am I crazy, or do I just genuinely love her?
What are you doing here? Girls would kill to have someone like you.
>What are you doing here?
I used to be a druggy loser only 2-3 years ago. This place is a kind of remnant from my past, but I still come on here to talk about the woman I love and lost to my own stupidity and her mental illness.
I thought I may have just been crazy for loving her as much as I do, but none of it changes as I get older and more mature. I just end up loving her more. I don’t know what to do.
>that's fixation, possibly obsession, not love
Yeah, I’ve tried to take that mentality, but it’s just not the case. It’d be a lot easier if it were. I really do love, miss, and worry about her.
Love doesn’t always work in this world. It is what it is. Coping by psychologizing that I have some mental illness or attachment problems when I very clearly don’t is a waste of fucking time.
I love a girl. It didn’t work. I’m sad about it and seeing if anything has changed since my life turned around. Fuck sakes.
Why are men so weird? Every time I get complimented a guy will bring it up first but state it in vague or matter of fact terms, then afterwards a girl will bring it up and they frame it as a compliment. Only then do I realize that it was supposed to be a good thing.
Example: >Oh _____ you're wearing all black today.(male) >Wow, you look good today did you dye your hair? You didn't? I guess it's just the black clothes that bring it out but you look good!(female)
This has happened multiple times with guys at work bringing things up to me and then a woman will compliment me. Weird. I hate people
Because the guy is trying to show he noticed but if he compliments you "too hard" it will look like he is hitting on you and he doesnt mean to do that.
t. guy who does that
Maybe, but I just want to be on the safe side since I rarely give any compliments or notice anything so it might come off as too strong anyway.
I am not too good at measuring how my compliments affect women plz understand 🙁
Then don't say anything at all. If some guy said the previous example to me "oh you're wearing all black today" I would have no idea if that was a positive or negative comment. You're playing it so safe it's possible to interpret your behavior as meaning the opposite of what you intended.
>I don't disagree, if I were to get pregnant it will be the happiest day of my life so far
I'm guessing if you're saying that you're already in a committed relationship with someone you want to have a kid with?
But it's not a waste of pregnancy. Just a waste of an egg.
There was an opportunity for pregnancy, which was wasted.
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There ya go, see wasn't that hard to use words correctly.
Is it weird to ask a male friend if he's okay with us just being friends? This is in the context of him frequently telling me men don't want anything to with women if they don't want to have sex with them. Our friendship is one where we meet up semi-regularly for lunch, and we text and voice call a lot, not a friend group situation but more one-on-one. Maybe I should just pull back and put some distance between us? I like him a lot and my own feelings are a little confused.
He's only a friend to you because he is attracted to you and thinks he might end up fucking you eventually. He wouldn't be your friend if you were 400 lbs.
I'm not that anon, but I think it's a very considerate thing to do. While it might be awkward, if he's a good guy he will appreciate the forthrightness eventually.
Why was the thread dead for so long atogans?
Ladies
Where do you stand on the UFO / Aliens debate?
Real?
Not real?
Idk, if government is saying there are UFO’s then I’ll go with that.
I assume aliens are out there, universe is big and we are not that special. Don't really think they are on our planet or care to see the sights in person. A shaky iPhone video of a light or out of focus object in the sky is not good enough.
100% real
I believe in ancient aliens too but won't tell any moid about it before making him my bf because he would think I'm a schizo
Can you at least tell us why you believe so? The only thing I can think of is non factual documentaries like Ancient Apocalypse on Netflix mixed with YouTube conspiracies videos
Because there were so much ancient cultures which had no contact with each other having very similar legends and building very similar constructions, sometimes in such perfect geometrical shape that they needed modern tools
Eh probably not real. I watch Ancient Aliens and play a drinking game with it lol.
don't trust me, i will knowingly misinform you on everything i know
Probably a psyop for other humanitarian crimes they commit. Like animal fusion or human genetic testing. So yeah "aliens" being real would excuse some of those sightings. The only ones I'd care about would be the pleadians.
Women, how often should a man compliment you?
Depends on the relationship's dynamics, but once a day can make us feel good.
Not too much not too little, depends on the person.
I only want a compliment when I've done something exceptional or my looks/ behaviour made you feel a certain positive way.
That way I know it's honest.
I sometimes look at someone and think she's pretty and just want to go ahead and tell her
Women,
Fuck you for stealing literally all of the questions away from men.
All your questions are lewd though. They make a good shlick fuel but honestly don't add much to the quality of these threads
Why don't women ask questions to men?
>co-worker of an ex is sitting in our restaurant
>I know she's a friend of hers because I saw them on Insta
>the co-worker sees me and makes eye contact
how do I tell if I've been recognised or something lmao she's probably told other people about me
Okay? You got recognised, big deal.
>Okay? You got recognised, big deal.
I feel like I made an idiot out of myself in the relationship and wanna die of guilt
Both moids and foids
Would you date someone with a big pentagram tattoo on their belly? What if there was a goat head in the middle of it, too?
Moid here. I have a thing for girls with tattoos but only a lustful thing so I'd fuck her life my life depended on it and then I would likely only keep it casual.
>wake up
>super horny
How do I deal with this? I don't want to be horny or jerk off, I hate it. Right now I just want to have a big boob in my mouth and bite it chomp it and it sickens me
Do some pushups
Post gender.
How do you feel about large insertions? Like stuffing your holes/your partner's holes with bigger and bigger objects? Would you do it to yourself? Would you do it to your partner? Would you let your partner do it to you? Have you ever done anything similar? What's the largest thing you've had inside you (if any)?
f, have used a 7 inch toy on myself and that felt like the limit for me pretty much. have also used a 4 inch wide butt plug which also felt massive. the idea is sort of hot but im not into the idea of going any further
>have also used a 4 inch wide butt plug which also felt massive.
I hope you mean circumference, not diameter kek
> the idea is sort of hot but im not into the idea of going any further
Fair enough. Would you do it to a partner, if they were on board?
yeah circumference lol. i wouldn't be against that, ive wanted to try pegging before but don't know if i would like it, if that counts
Male.
The idea is hot. Doing it irl scares me, I'd be afraid it'd take over too much of the "normal" sexual dynamic with my partner.
I guess in a hypothetic scenario where I have a fuckbuddy, she's really into it and all we do is specifically that, then I'd try it. Both on my ass and on her holes. Frankly though, involving stuff bigger than my dick would still take some effort, from a psychological point of view.
Closest thing I've done is I guess masturbating with objects in my ass. Biggest was the handle of a screwdriver.
How do women survive being with a man they don’t want sexually but still having to have sex? It sounds so sad
I’ve never had a bf so idk
Do they just get used to it
People do that shit all the time cause they don't wanna be alone. You don't wanna be like that anon. Trust me, I've seen some of my friends (male and female) become like that.
Male. In my experience there has to be some attraction. If not then it becomes asymmetrical and they resent each other. One thinks they qre forves into chores the other says there are being starved.
I don't know, I'd like to have more sex with my bf, maybe 2 or 3 times a day even though it's impossible
Its a common issue for the male partner to want more sex than the female one, you just look at the pros and the cons. If he is awesome to be around, makes your days happier and easier, makes your life feel like its not just a thread-mill - you could do some sexual favors for him even if you arent super horny for it. He isnt super hyped to get the roof fixed or w/e but you just offer each-other compromises ad long as overall being together is better than not.
Im talking a woman who loves cats despite being highly allergic to them
is this a good sign?
I feel like this is the type of woman who would stay with an abusive boyfriend who posts on a taiwanese pottery forum
It is, to me, not meaningful for judging her character. If she only has a mild allergy and still enjoys cats lots, it just makes sense to make the sacrifice of some sneezing or whatever so you can be around them.
The difference with your analogy is that it would be healthy and make sense for a woman to get turned off by or start resenting a man who mistreats her. But a cat is not to blame or resent for someone having an allergic reaction. The issue is much more neutral.
For the record with mild allergy I meant in the end her complaints can be dealt with. I know several people with pretty severe allergies that are still totally mild and manageable when they take pills (antihistaminicum).
Men, why is it such a big deal when a girl wants to play videogames with you? So many times I've seen someone simp for a girl because she's a gamer, or I'll see a post online of a girl showing off something game related and men in the comments say "wife material". Why? They're just games.
Sounds overstated, don’t really think there is that much worship, but overall its cool because I have spend a lot of time playing vidya and it would be cool to have a partner who shares the hobby. The passion, the memes, the anticipation for upcoming titles and nostalgia for old ones.
because its a hobby you can share with your girlfriend and very few women are actually into gaming
just to give you an idea theres a language exchange program at my uni and a lot of girls say theyre "gamer girls" just because it attracts guys even though they soon realize that playing a gacha once a week doesnt make you a gamer
Honestly, women are generally sore losers. They also get frustrated very easily and if you've ever tried to teach a woman something difficult she generally speaking will not care.
>Men, why is it such a big deal when a girl wants to play videogames with you?
It isn't
>So many times I've seen someone simp for a girl because she's a gamer
Oh you're asking why there are a bunch of dumbasses who simp for girls instead of enjoying games.
Because they're losers seeking escapism through games as a way to distract themselves from their unfulfilling lives and try to fill that lack of fulfilment through bing bing wahoos.
They aren't actually gamers, they don't actually game since they like gaming, they game as a way to cope with not being as normal as they want to be.
And yes, people like that simp hard for girls.
>I'll see a post online of a girl showing off something game related and men in the comments say "wife material".
Hm, like what? Something difficult, involving a lot of time or energy or skill? Being able to invest a lot of time energy and learn a lot of skill at things is a good quality for a wife to have.
Much better than the whole "Satisfy my emotions NOW daddy" attitude that some women have.
Because it means we actually get to spend time together doing something we both enjoy.
I know a lot of women will literally never play video games with their partner or even outright look down on them for playing them alone.
I've asked men because I dislike being put on a pedestal for doing the same thing they do. They say it's because it's rare that a woman likes videogames. Whatever.
It's because you spend too much time around nerds.
This is actually it, it's not a big deal outside gay gaming anime internet forums.
Spend some time offline. It's not even a remotely attractive hobby.
And what do you expect, some sort of announcement?
"Excuse me miss, prepare to be met by my ejaculation"?
Well if it’s like that then I’d prefer if he’d call me a slut or something.
But is premature ejaculation just not being able to last long? What you said sounded like ejaculation without orgasm to me.
>But is premature ejaculation just not being able to last long? What you said sounded like ejaculation without orgasm to me.
It's pretty independent of my stamina and just happens randomly sometimes.
So there’s not build up prior?
On those couple of times a year? No. Maybe I just feel vaguely more horny but then maybe after around a minute I ejaculate usually without even having an orgasm.
Normally? Yeah there's a pretty big build up that I can consciously drag out if I choose to. After a certain point I can basically decide to cum whenever and then eventually it reaches a point where it's just too much for me to hold off (although that realisation maybe has like 3 seconds warning at most).
>I’d prefer if he’d call me a slut
This came out of nowhere but ok
Perhaps I should’ve said this before I’m mainly talking about cumming without telling me in my mouth. It’s quite rude to do it. It doesn’t really affect me that much if in my vagina tbh.
Because people who play videogames obsessively think they're a hobby and make a big deal out of them. It's really pathetic.
>just graduated 4 year uni degree
>meet 17 year old at house party that's just graduated high school and turns 18 in a couple months
>hit it off, trade numbers and go out
thoughts?
feels a bit weird but it's legal where I'm at and it's not gonna feel weird in 3-4 months when she's 18 and starts uni, will people I know irl cancel me for this?
If you're 21+, you shouldn't be talking to teens.
I'm 22 and talk to the 18-19 year olds in first year all the time
Perfectly normal and anyone who says different Is a salty roastie or beta.
Don’t send her nudes and don’t try to get her to send nudes. Even if she’s legal that is illegal.
You aren't famous, no one is going to cancel you dude. This may even be normal depending on your country. Just don't do anything illegal and you will be fine.
>You aren't famous
Not to sound big headed but achieving my goals could likely lead to fame which is why I'm kinda paranoid haha
If it weren't for that I honestly wouldn't give a fuck, friends cut me off? Fuck em, I don't even like it here so I'll just move somewhere else and start over
Also I'm from the UK if that makes a difference
>friends cut me off?
Why would they?
>I'll just move somewhere else and start over
You are being overly dramatic
> I'm from the UK if that makes a difference
I honestly don't know how people are like over there. My christian tradwife crush from highschool got married at 16 to a guy in his mid 20s.
if you’re under 26 and in a relationship where you see your partner almost daily, how often do you have sex?
whenever i get home from work B)
How much should I pay per minute to chat with a girl?
the cost of a cup of coffee per hour in the form of payment with a cup of coffee
any more than that and youre simping
10 cents a minute? That's kinda cheap innit?
yeah well obviously because you should have self respect and value your own time
how fucking pathetic are you if youre paying women for a conversation? think about it. even paying for sex is kinda cringe but I can understand that because it saves you a lot of time on dating/buying drinks and taking her out
What's wrong with paying for a conversation and why would it be different from paying for sex? If women don't want to speak to me then only way to incentivize it is through money
It's not pathetic, it's just life
It absolute is pathetic, but I won't be able to convince you of that if you can't see it yourself. Or refuse to.
Meh, being pathetic isn't something you choose for yourself. Like okay, you can be stoic but that's just a face/shame thing.
Conversation isn't free though, that's why people pay for it. That's why there are chatbots and AI subscription services. I mean I wish I could talk to people for free but I can't, money is the only lubricant that works
its incredibly pathetic
women are picky with sex and they usually require an unfront investment in order to give it to someone. Even Chads USUALLY need to invest 7 hours and a few drinks before they get laid.
A conversation ANYONE will give you for free. Right away. Even 10/10 chicks
consider suicide man. youre on the level of simps who buy onlyfans sluts new cars. serious,ly, off yourself
If it was face-to-face it would be more understandable. Just make a character.ai account and chat with chatbots for free.
Probably honestly. I don’t really care. I don’t care to eat/drink after someone either.
F h
e/she would need to keep their shirt on during sex.
Booty call.
Can’t recall ever doing that.
22/2+7=18.
>22/2+7=18.
yeah that's what I mean, I'm all good, especially considering that 18/19 year olds are adults
Yes they’re adults as well so it honestly doesn’t matter unless you’re really impatient to fuck her or something.
my og question was whether it'd be weird to get a 17 year olds' number if she was turning 18 in a couple months and was finished with high school
Because I'd feel wrong dating high schoolers but don't know how to feel about girls who are in limbo between high school and uni, in 4 months I wouldn't feel wrong about it
I do think you should wait till she goes to uni. I was gonna say since I assume she’ll be living in a dorm, her parents won’t know you’re fucking her if you’re worrying about that but you said you want to date her. Of course they still don’t have to know but you know it’s a bit more serious than just having sex with her.
Fair enough, I'm just not too sure how much moral difference a few months makes when I could get friendzoned if I waited to make a move/ask her out
This situation is just hypothetical/potential though, this hasn't actually happened
You could text/message her, ask her out now if you feel there’s enough interest, and then explain your thoughts to her unless you feel that you’ll be perceived as like weak or something but it depends on the person it terms of how they’d respond to that.
sounds fair
tbh if I liked her enough to ask for her number I think I'd just go for it and hope I didn't get my reputation tarnished lmao
haha no problem anon, nudes aren't my style anyway
>Booty call
Who? 🙁
Well I mean that’s what I do. Figured you didn’t have that option though.
What's your opinion on this guys?
I am together with my bf for 10+ years now, but in the past 2 or so years I feel like he does not love me romantically only as a friend. We barely have sex (1x a month), and it is always me who initiates. It's not that he does not have sexual needs, I know he watches porn-pics/videos daily, but he just doesn't look at me I think. We are at home together most of the times cause of our job's nature, so I know he's not cheating. He does not say I love you only if I say it. We live together but in different rooms, and if I go to his office (to read example quietly) it feels like he's uncomfortable cause he doesn't want me to see him what he's watching. He's on LULZ too, but mostly on political and random... I asked him if he has any problem, he can tell me etc., but he always says it's nothing, there is no problem. Does he just no longer loves me romantically? How can I change that? I feel so lonely.
> I am together with my bf for 10+ years now,
Stopped right here. How old are you guys and can you say the actual time youve been together? 15? 11?
We are together like 11 years, I'm in my early 30s, he's 2 years younger than me.
You gave him your 20s for what? Do you not want marriage?
He has grown comfortable with you. You don’t stimulate him. You gave him your all as a girlfriend and he’s just meh about it. Maybe he loves you but like a non-romantic love.
We got married 3 years ago, but it was only for formalities, and because we are not a traditional mindset-like couple (will have no kids) we don't refer to the other as husband or wife only on official papers.
>You gave him your 20s for what?
I was laid back, and thought that I will go out with someone I really like (and have the qualities I want), and so he had it/ has it.
>He has grown comfortable with you. You don’t stimulate him.
Would it stimulate him if I started to work outside of the house in a traditional workplace? Maybe he would pay more attention if he would maybe think that others can notice me? (I am more on the cute pretty side than ugly.)
I know that he likes me at least as a partner/friend, cause he has no friends, and we support each others in everyday life situations (like if one of us get sick the other takes care of them).
I think that you shouldn’t go get a new job unless you could actually find one better than your current one.
You guys should go on dates. Do things together. Go to fairs, dive bars, rock climbing, etc. You need to bring novelty into your life of routine
Maybe try to seduce him slowly until desire builds up in him… be suggestive
You're heading towards a dead bedroom. If that's the case, don't expect it to get better.
I am willing to put in effort, I just don't know how.
It's not your lack of effort that's the problem, it's his.
If you can't talk about your problems clearly and openly with one another then it's never going to get better.
Say all of this to your boyfriend explicitly and try to work out how to solve them together.
If that doesn't work, then try couple's therapy.
>sex gone
>doesn't speak to you of problems
>mostly spend time apart even when at home
>browsing /misc/
Ah, nice, your boyfriend is mentally ill and is trying to be an incel. Only that he is voluntarily pushing you away.
Get him actual psychiatric help.
Are there kids?
Maybe he's secretly gay
He sounds asexual or gay and hiding it in my opinion.
22 year old wasted youth loser checking in, it's been a while
holy fucking shit I might actually have sex this summer bros
and not only might I have sex, I'm also making guy friends too
I got 6-7 girls from uni that I'm talking to right now, and I also have a few events lined up in the next month where I'm gonna be meeting more girls. I could easily get 10 more numbers if I wanted to
Got a handful of prospective guy friends on the same wavelength as me/same interests as me too, this shit is cash
All zoomers, no boomers, I feel the hope I felt when I was 16 again
WAGMI anons, big fat fucking 'ha! syke!!' to the anons in here who told me my youth was over and I couldn't rectify this shit
Yay!! (high five)
>22
Literally normie tier not sure who was talking shit to you
t. 30 y/o khhv
I have to convince someone I'm still looking for a job tomorrow so my gubmint gibs keep coming. How do I interact with humans
How do I get my new sweet virgin bf to ravage me
You stop being a predator
How am i a predator when im 5 yrs younger than him and also a virgin hmm?
Oh in that case it's fine.
The most important thing is to talk about sex often, make sure you're pushing gently for escalation and try to set up situations where it can happen.
When the first time actually comes, expect things to be awkward and uncomfortable. For guys especially there is a huge bundle of nerves/ego associated with your first time and often the pressure can make them unable to even maintain an erection.
If that happens, don't take it personally and basically do whatever else you can given the circumstances. Over time it will gradually get easier.
After that, it's just about being open, honest and clear with your partner in terms of what gets you off and potentially physically guiding his hands/hips into the right places. Eventually if he's not as dumb as a sack of bricks he'll improve.
What seems to be the issue thus far?
>new
did you dump the other guy
I kinda just want to date multiple girls and live in the moment, I'll treat them like my gf but I'm not ready to think about the long term or to be exclusive with any one girl
Do people normally do this?
If they can.
Even the people who think they want this usually burn out pretty quickly.
The best most people can manage is one long term GF and a series of parallel flings.
Fair enough, I'm just asking because I got 7 girls numbers in the past 2 weeks and could get like 10 more in the next month without too much effort
But I'm not gonna be into all of them and a lot of them won't be interested in me
and if I hit it off with one girl then I probably won't want to see anyone else
Probably just overthinking this shit when it'll sort itself out
I can never date because I have never dated before
This has been my view for the past 12+ years
If I go to a therapist can they teach me to stop wanting love and affection in my life?
>I keep making the same stupid decision
Instead don't
>Can a therapist tell me to cope with the same stupid decision I keep making
No, they'll just waste their time trying to get you to stop making the same dumbass decision.
I make all my women pay for our dates. Specially the first one.
>sponsoring moid's dinner
These women have no dignity
You'd do the same if you were in their shoes
They haven't even begun to make up for it.
How do I actually meet women?
Is it really pathetic to pay women to chat with you?
>mfw
Yes. Obviously.
Why? Why is it pathetic to pay for something you wouldn't otherwise be able to have?
Nice reductionism, you're not buying a chicken.
It's pathetic to be unable to have a conversation with a woman. It's pathetic to have such negative value as a human that you have to make up for your mere presence with cash.
Why would a woman want to talk to me? They have so many options anyway so money is the best fix. Actually not speaking to people is unironically harmful so it might be better to pay.
Oh yeah I understand what you’re talking about. Of course you could a bit further than just talking if you’re implying that you make a lot of money.
>Why would a woman want to talk to me? They have so many options anyway
Yeah that's the pathetic part right there, refusal to have self-worth.
Well, I'll dismiss you as a mentally ill fucktard with delusional low self esteem addictions now.
>Why is it pathetic to pay for something you wouldn't otherwise be able to have?
Ah yeah the whole "I CAN'T JUST TALK TO WOMEN THE NORMAL WAY" thing is pathetic.
Dude 50% of the world is girls, and you refuse to talk to them?
Mentally ill bro. Also pathetic.
I don't refuse to talk to women anon, cmon on now.
>50% of world are girls
Most of them aren't near my vicinity or my age
I have self worth but I'm not entitled or delusional enough to believe that women or people in general would want to speak to me just because lol. That's why I pay for it.
You don't agree with me so go fuck yourself, your problems aren't solvable.
Anon you said I'm mentally ill without any self worth
How does her paying make it any better though? What you’re saying is that you have pretty poor social skills right? If you bore/seem weird to women, money isn’t gonna fix that.
>Is it really pathetic to pay women to chat with you?
No if you do it out of convenience, i.e. "I want it and cbf getting it the normal way"
Yes if you "Need" it, or if you want to "Practice" to overcome insecurities.
its only not pathetic if youre rich and youre doing it to learn a new language.
How come the people here can only give advice about sex or gender wars?
Other stuff isn't interesting
Ask the women, it's mostly their fault
You're just jelly
because both sex snd outrage sell easy, so these posts get a lot of engagement
>best way to meet someone in my country is dating apps since cold approaches arent a thing and bars are full of gangsters and their fuckdolls
>I am ugly and have a shitty smile
It’s unironically ogre, I am too anxious to even make a profile out of fear a coworker will find it and people in the company will secretly make fun of me
Any israeli guys here? How is circumcision not completely fucked up?
Are you gonna get your kids circumcised?
Specifically baby circumcision
It's done to them as kids so they've never known anything else and everyone around them pretends its normal so it doesn't seem fucked up to them.
I don't care about them tho, I care about what you think. Or are you not israeli and just telling me your experience? If so that's fine too ofc
Nah, I'm not israeli. I would never circumcise my kids, if they need to do it for medical reasons later on and stretching isn't an option then it'll be up to them to decide that. I personally have phimosis though but I still don't want to get circumcised, it seems like such an awful practice.
israeli guy here.
I think it's only mildly fucked up, and not worth the obsession some people on the internet have about it.
I will probably not get my kids circumcised.
But I'm on LULZ so I will probably not have kids.
>I will probably not get my kids circumcised.
B-b-b-but the tradition!
israelites are not a monolith. No culture or religion is a monolith.
1 Maccabees describes your type well. Ashamed of the mark of circumcision.
Take the Christpill anon.
>I think it's only mildly fucked up
>say that I don't intend to circumcise my own children
>"Nooo, that's not good enough, you have to change your entire culture single-handedly!"
Okay, whatever.
No one is asking you to do anything
It's just a bizarre standard that mutilating kids for no purpose is "only mildly fucked up"
It's fucked-up enough for me to change my own behavior.
It's not fucked-up enough for me to get into arguments with other people about it. In the grand scheme of life, it's only a minor issue on the big scale of fucked-up issues.
>It's not fucked-up enough for me to get into arguments with other people about it
Literally no one is asking you to do anything
Why are you trying to turn yourself into a victim here over literally nothing?
Also, what would be the least fucked up thing that is still fucked up enough for you to get into an argument about it?
Who the fuck asked?
>Who the fuck asked?
You did, co-operate or fuck off.
>You did
No, I didn't literacy-bro
>Literally no one is asking you to do anything
You're asking me to not circumcise.
And I already agreed to not circumcise.
And yet you're still giving negative replies.
I didn't even ask you to do that retard.
Holy shit
Why are you so intent on victimising yourself
Looooooooping dumb topics is fucked up too brosef, if you're here to shitpost then shitpost but do it in a way that doesn't make you look asshurt.
Anyone who's ever seen a circumcision and not thought "Wow this is probably the most fucked up thing I've ever seen. They're basically raping a baby with a scalpel" is probably a psychopath.
Random person here but everyone outside of America, the israeli world and the Islamic world thinks its absolutely abhorrent.
Bullshit. Maybe MAYBE in Europe among the second or third generation.
what
said. I seriously have no fucking idea why everyone is shitting and screaming about it so much. It still works fine
Guys
What do you expect from SAHM's?
I've heard they don't have as great of a hit rate as you would think, 'heatseeking' is oldass tech now
I mean stay at home mums
Hardly a realistic proposition now that companies have buckbroken the world's economy into thinking one person's salary shouldn't support a family but CEOs should be paid in literal hundreds of millions yearly
If a deal has been made where you take care of the kids and the house instead of contributing financially then I'd expect you to take care of the kids and the house.
>What do you expect from SAHM's?
From what?
>Stay at home mom
Well you take care of my kids. D'uh.
Don't get entitled and fat, stay grateful and put in effort.
It depends on how many kids we have and how much I'm working.
Personally as long as the long chores get done (like cleaning or laundry) I'm not too bothered beyond that. I don't expect you to literally do everything for me just because I'm working. It would be nice if you were at least spending the time on something even moderately financially productive (like maintaining our finances) but it's not an expectation.
I also don't expect you to literally housekeep 24/7. If you don't have some kind of hobby you're just going to drive yourself crazy.
If I can walk through the door and not have any immediate source of stress and know that I don't have to spend most of my evening just doing chores that's good enough for me.
This is of course contingent on me earning a good enough salary to support both of us. That also means I probably expect us to live relatively modestly.
>If I can walk through the door and not have any immediate source of stress and know that I don't have to spend most of my evening just doing chores that's good enough for me.
Yeah, that.
The goal of a wife is to make life better not worse. If the first thing you do when I show up is be a burden/nag then bruh just die and give me the insurance.
Oh also you obviously have to take care of yourself and your body.
That one is non-negotiable whether you're SAH or not.
Girls what would you do if I told you to clench your butthole?
>Girls what would you do if I told you to clench your butthole?
Mock you for schizophrenia because you are the same guy who spams edgy fetishes and you are not even remotely subtle about it.
Not sure if that's me or another anon. Could you give some examples of other posts you remember to make sure? If it's me and you don't get entertainment out of these posts I will stop
Okay, I'm open to being wrong.
But I think you're the guy who's obsessed with rimming, anal, shock collars, chastity cages, peeing, raceplay, race roleplay, and pretty much anything you think will get some (You)s, with the odd exception of transsexuals or trans roleplay, you haven't done those yet.
Hmm... I've only posted about anal and raceplay before so it's probably two of us or mostly the other guy. Anyway would you clench your butt for me?
>I've only posted about anal and raceplay before
Close enough, takin' the partial W, outta here schizo.
Please just clench your butt for a second please
women like my stories and they like to hear me talk
I think its a combination of my deep voice and me generally only telling stories that I have received positive feedback on instead of boring shit like a lot of people do
also Ive noticed that if you tell a story with enough excitement and inflection most people but especially women will naturally think its interesting even if the content itself is actually boring as fuck
doesnt get me laid though
>ghosted but not blocked
what kinda bpd shit is this, do I block her myself?
Lmao go blow her up with messages and get included in a cringe compilation, fag.
Dude, if you aren't talking there's no need to block. And as long as you never be an annoying attention seeker, no need to block.
Just don't be a cringe ass motherfucker who harasses the girl for attention and all is well.
Or just unfollow. But yes it’s a thing. A lot of girls can’t shit or get off the pot, so they try to force you to do it by going ice cold.
State gender.
Why, if I search for girls named “Sarah” in a city where I know nobody (so it doesn’t push all the Sarahs I do know) is every single girl an actual whore? Like tits out, ass out, some literally with nipples showing, etc.?
Is every girl named Sarah a whore?
Search Jessica too.
Also search Mary.
Search Rebecca
Search Emily
Compare results.
>Jessica
Son of a bitch I found a chick wearing an adult diaper. Jessica is now the code name for ABDL fetishists. Picrel.
A lot of blondes too.
>Mary
Found a high school teacher with exposed nipples.
>Rebecca
Good number of whores, but also a mix of normie moms.
>Emily
Much smaller tits on average.
Interesting experiment anon. Thanks for suggesting.
>Found a high school teacher with exposed nipples.
Nice
but I'm not a whore
If I change my name to Abraham can we have children when we’re in our 80s?
F
Not in my experience. I've known 3 Sarah's,
One was a typical sportsy type but not slutty, second was a nerdy prude nurse and the 3rd was shy af...
>One was a typical sportsy type but not slutty, second was a nerdy prude nurse and the 3rd was shy af...
Would, Would, Wouldn't.
For me it’s would, wouldn’t, would.
Dunno about Sarah, but every Joline I've met has been a lesbian.
Where can I find cute BPD girls to bully and tease?
I'm willing to drop the "cute" requirement if necessary
/soc/, without question. Basically any thread.
You can also try here but getting contacts is more difficult.
we don't leave the house so niche internet communities is your only bet
>we don't leave the house
Because the 5 minutes without someone paying attention to you is too much?
in my experience theyre often druggies so hiphop event/scene/hangouts and skateparks with metalheads/hiphop folk/scene girls
if youre too old to go to those places then i think they are overrepresented on dating sites
How do I find a abusive BPD gf?
Trust me, auto-spambot run by a transsexual incel.
You don't want to do that.
I do. I have poor self worth and I think it would be the perfect relationship dynamic
/soc/ doesn't offer gfs
/soc/, like the last guy that asked about BPD girls.
BPD has like a 30% remission rate an year into a relationship and by 10 years or something its 99%, being in a stable and loving relationship especially with someone who knows how to support BPD people is one of the main ways to overcome this issue.
That is absolutely not true.
It is doe
Couple relatively recent papers to look up:
The lived experience of recovery in borderline personality disorder: a qualitative study
Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder: A Systematic Review of the Perspectives of Consumers, Clinicians, Family and Carers
Bpd is literally defined as irrational fear of abandonment which leads to promiscuous behaviors.
Maybe you should read the paper, dipshit. Bpd has a high remission rate after the age of 40. Before that it's basically intractable.
BPD is a pervasive pattern of failing to tell reality apart from your feelings, getting your feelings stuck at 100% power, and then living in an imaginary world of your feelings. Cheating may be a marker for BPD but it's not the core issue.
Well, you are wrong, cant say much else
But yeah, I could see how a healthy relationship helps remind BPDs to pay attention and snap out of their imaginary world. Sort of like the anime trope of yelling out to a mind controlled character to get them to remember who they are.
It also relieves their abandonment issues which are a core component of BPD
I literally have no empathy for abandonment issues whatsoever since I simply don't feel compulsive attachment, or lack of compulsive attachment.
The first stages of a relationship are great for them if they happen to find the perfect partner (usually that's a narcissist). They quickly get bored though.
For actual BPD maybe yeah.
But for internet BPD, no fucking way, internet BPDs refuse to change a damn thing and they just want more copes for their dumb shit.
Nah I believe it for actual BPD, which are people like "I know my feelings are wrong sometimes but in the heat of the moment it's like my brain switches off and I forget to be me, my feelings just take over, I don't want to be this way but I am."
Not internet BPDs who are like "I LITERALLY CAN'T GRASP THE IDEA OF MY FEELINGS BEING WRONG AND IF YOU CAN'T VALIDATE ME AT MY WORST YOU DON'T DESERVE ME AT MY BEST".
You've probably never met a bpd. I was married to one and my mother was one.
It's less all that bullshit you just sharted at me and more having mental breakdowns and holding a knife to their throats over a disagreement so small that neither of you can remember what it was about. Or going psychotic because a waitress was polite to you because shes secretly sexting two other guys and is unconsciously paranoid and projecting the same behavior onto you due to her emotional maturity being that of a three year old and seeing absolutely everything you do as evidence you're going to abandon her.
Or how about dissociating during sex? Thats a fun one.
You're confusing bpd with histrionic personality disorder.
>You're confusing bpd with histrionic personality disorder.
Oh cool. So that's what internet BPDs are.
Yeah.
Bpd can entail histrionic emphasis but most often it has a narcissistic emphasis, and with a secondary psychopathic self state which emerges during stress you end up with an extremely defiant ans grandiose woman who self-soothes and self-hurts with casual sexual activity.
Bpd is female psychopathy. They're terrifying peope because their personalities can shift on a dime. When my ex divorced me it's like she switched into a completely different personality.
Yeah that sounds about right.
But it's not just BPDs with that psychopathic self state, that's a shockingly high amount of "healthy" people both male and female, who'll suddenly noclip into a fantasy world where whatever dumbass emotion they're feeling too much of is justified by the fantasyland lore.
I get that BPDs do it more often and their personalities are more variable, but BPDs are just a more intense version of average people.
>just a more intense version of average people
No, I promise you, as someone who loved one, they are not.
They use defense mechanisms and cognitive processes that normal people grew out of at 1 to 3 years old. A genuinely upset bpd woman is a psychopathic 1 year old in an adults body.
I agree with you that the average person, here in America at least, is probably borderline personality disordered. I've yet to meet a regional manager or "manager" in my line of work that didn't strike me as either narcissistic or psychopathic.
The modern world absolutely rewards narcissistic psychopaths ability to generate cult like behavior from others.
Also I meant "they are on the borderline of being personality disordered.".
>They use defense mechanisms and cognitive processes that normal people grew out of at 1 to 3 years old.
Look, you type that. But I don't believe that's different to the average person. The average person is honestly that shit that yes, I do believe the hypothetical 3 year old in a textbook outdoes them.
I know that sounds irrational but shit, a 3 year old in a textbook can identify when their feelings are inappropriate, and manage themselves to feel more appropriate emotions.
A 3 year old can identify when they're being impatient and choose to be more patient based on expecting a reward.
You tell me the average dumbfuck adult these days knows the concept of "Don't feel that way, you'll get punished, try changing".
They get bigger but no wiser.
>The modern world absolutely rewards narcissistic psychopaths ability to generate cult like behavior from others.
I think it's more that people were just always this bullshit and only now did we notice.
Trust me, friend, theres a difference.
There's reading about it, there's watching tiktok retards pretend to be histrionic, and then there's your wife hallucinating the walls are moving and screaming about suicide an hour before she's as chirpy as a schoolgirl all because you accidentally purchased the wrong type of ice cream.
Borderline has the reputation it does for a good reason. Its closer to schizophrenia than anything else. You're dealing with someone who has no stable sense of self. You're essentially responsible for her emotional regulation. If you do something she doesn't like, she may just flip a switch and go insane for a few minutes.
That's what babies do when they're hungry. Babies get so angry that they'll turn blue in the face. They're just angry because they're angry. You can try to love borderlines but their fear of abandonment is so strong that they'll eventually push the most kind hearted and well meaning man to homicidal thoughts.
... And you're telling me the average person is NOT like this.
Hm, guess I'm just dealing with some very below average people, I suppose. Since reading what you wrote made me think "Yeah, that sounds like normal people, it's just the BPD does it more often".
>Borderline has the reputation it does for a good reason. Its closer to schizophrenia than anything else
NTA, where are you getting this from?
It's bullshit.
The current literate on bpd? It's currently thought to be a reaction to cptsd. It's going to be classified as a dissociative disorder relatively soon. It's already the primary diagnostic criteria.
Keep mind I said "closer to" not "similar to".
Schizophrenia is not a dissociative disorder, though. Neither is it a personality disorder.
The diagnostic criteria have nothing in common either.
What I'm saying is you're using le scary word to add weight to your argument.
So, were going to type this out slowly and I want you to take a deep breath in-between in each word ...
It ... is ... closer ... to ... schizophrenia... than ... anything ... else ... but ... that ... does ... not ... mean ... it ... is ... like ... schizophrenia.
How mental disorders are classified is a little bit irrational but there's an underlying logic that connects certain aspects of disorders with one another. Schizophrenia isn't a dissociative disorder but a major diagnostic criteria is dissociation. So, not all dissociative disorders are schizophrenia but everyone with schizophrenia dissociates. See what I mean?
Wait no, the screaming
If you meant literal screaming, normal people don't do that.
So yeah, that's something the BPD does, is she's also noisier than the average person.
But the whole "Get a wrong emotion for no damn reason and keep having the wrong emotion out loud for literal hours, utterly unaware of how much of a problem you're making yourself and those around you" thing? That's normal af.
Bpd don't have wrong emotions, they have extremely intense emotions and utilize archaic defense mechanisms. You need to do some reading on cognitive defense mechanisms like splitting and dissociation before you talk about this disorder.
You think you know more than you do.
Yes, an emotion whose intensity is out of line with reality is wrong.
Yes, I did just talk about splitting.
Yes, I am obviously talking about psychotic episodes.
Yes, I was talking about losing sense of self buried beneath unjustified impulsive emotions.
You vomited a textbook at me without checking if I understood the textbook; I do.
Sounds like you're narcissistic and I touched a nerve by challenging your own grandiose power fantasy in which you know more than someone with education in the subject.
Bpd and npd couples are a well established clinical fact. They're drawn to each other for all sorts of complex psychological reasons. Of course, you know all of this, right?
Sounds like you're coping with being wrong by inventing a fantasy world in your head in which you are right despite the lack of evidence connecting that one and this one.
I.e. you're doing the same thing you're accusing me of doing, which is typical narcissist shit.
Also, how the fuck is it YOU who first escalated this shit to a personal attack and judgement of worth instead of me? You beat me to that. That's fucking impressive, bro, normally I'm the first to get judgemental. So good job.
I'm not the one who's mad. That's how you can tell who's narcissistic.
Lmao
Lol?
Bpd seems like a response to childhood neglect and trauma.
You'll notice that pretty much every bpd woman has very narcissistic or npd father. Do the math.
Do you ever find it pathetic how you out yourself so easily?
You want to be seen as insightful and popular, but you have no idea how to do that. You act in stereotypical ways and out yourself.
This is because you have no fucking idea how you're seen by others and you have no ability to regulate your behaviour and your appearance to not appear like a narcissist.
Me? I'm autistic; I can do it, I just don't fucking care.
You? You're actually trying to look like the "Good guy" and you're faceplanting so hard it leaves a crater. That's kind of sad.
Protecting much?
>I'm autistic
Apparently lmao
Like seriously.
Did you ever sit your ass down and think how you could get me on your side?
Of course you did. You want me on your side because you think I'm useful to you.
Then you utterly made a fuckup of it since you don't show the slightest ounce of respect or understanding for anything anyone writes.
So in response to you making a failure of that, you 180 and you try attacking me.
And THAT'S the shit that outs you. That when you fail to get me on your side you start socially posturing and accusing me of shit that you yourself are obviously doing,
because your dumb narcissistic ass can't cope with how you were wrong and how you failed to get me on your side.
Swear to fuck. You could not get me on your side if you literally fucking tried. You are that incompetent.
This thumbnail looks like a suited guy bending over away and to the left of the camera with gigachad's face emerging from his butt area
And as far as "Archaic", you're literally in ATOGA.
Look at all the homosexuals here who insist on being sad and feeling "bullied" or "insecure" and "unfair" because they live in a world where being a loser gets you worse outcomes.
Instead of realising that yes, you do actually have to put in the effort to upgrade your personality if you want to get nookie.
That whole bullshit, of insisting on feeling anxious / insecure / hurt at rejection, rather than actually wanting to get the damn relationship, and using their feelings as a shield/excuse for being a useless lazy shit who stays addicted to misery and stuck in their self-sabotaging ways?
That ain't Archaic bro that's literally here.
And all the homosexuals here who regress to childhood and use muh parents or muh formative years as an excuse for not simply changing what's wrong now, as though the past gives them an excuse for staying wrong.
That's not an archaic defense mechanism. That's literally here.
Or all the people who insist on being asshurt and upset at the suggestion of changing their problems, rather than realising that changing their problems might actually get them more of what they want.
That's here too.
Or all the people who bless their retarded little hearts simply REFUSE TO COMPREHEND anything that doesn't justify their excuses, like their brains simply glitch out and don't process the concept?
That's BPD as fuck, and that's also not archaic, it's right here.
Look, I do get that BPDs are mentally ill. I don't dispute that. What I dispute is that BPDs are different to the average person - they honestly aren't.
Personality disorders are a bit different, my man.
Sometimes people's brains lock in on a certain level of maturity. Sometimes they don't seem capable of changing those patterns of thinking without some sort of extensive experience coupled with a sort of therapy that helps guide them out of it.
However, sometimes people just snap and there's no fixing them. If you've ever met a seriously schizophrenic person then you'll understand what mental illness actually is and why people are so averse to those with it.
I can tell you have a noble intention behind your positions but they are not reflective of the reality of the situation.
>sometimes people just snap and there's no fixing them
Yes I know. We're here in ATOGA, this is that.
>If you've ever met a seriously schizophrenic person then you'll understand what mental illness actually is and why people are so averse to those with it.
The people in this thread outdo almost everything I've seen in real life.
It's honestly kind of impressive.
But I suppose what I take from that is that you're probably right, and that the stuff you said about BPDs is true, and that the average person probably is so much more competent at connecting to reality and emotionally regulating than the BPD that the BPD is legitimately different to them.
It's just that my ass is biased since I spend so much time in this hive of utter invalids that my idea of "Average person" has shifted from "man who solves problems in his life and finds joy through his work and hobbies" to "Loser who makes excuses to feel bad for literal years".
Not really a question, but.
When I was a kid in elementary and middle school I was like top5 or so at school and there were these two cute girls, a blonde and brunette, who used to get top grades. It was a very nice environment and the rivalry encouraged me to do better even though I was a lazy bum and mostly learned things because I liked it with no effort.
I wonder if they also saw me as a rival (we used to also have math competitions)
Any other anons had stories like this?
>Any other anons had stories like this?
Story completely irrelevant, please state a question whose answer may affect your life in some way.
M
I only have memories of where the teacher fucked me over to favour the females.
Ladies, in a situation where a girl I like is dating someone else but has made clear signs she likes me.
I know this is a toxic situation, my question is, is it normal for someone to like two people at once? Like, I know that am a back up if I were to say yes/ask. But I've NEVER had feeling for more than one person at a time.
>Ladies, in a situation where a girl I like is dating someone else but has made clear signs she likes me.
Flirt with her and arrange times to meet/see her so you can escalate.
> is it normal for someone to like two people at once?
Yup. it's shitty behaviour but it's common behaviour. Most girls (fuck, most men too) legit aren't aware that they should be attracted to one person at a time. So they just feel like cheating, and they cheat.
Fuck it then. I'm gonna break bro code and go after her. I doubt simple flirting will win the day but maybe flexing something might.
State gender. Based or cringe: Finding a song about a girl and substituting your girl's name into it (such that the number of syllables and any necessary rhyming matches).
Example:
>Auf der Heide blüht ein kleines Blümelein
>und das heißt: Jennifer
The fuck is a syllable? It's an American website, so speak American.
You fucking idiot
Isn't that that nazi song
>erika
>nazi song
fuck off
god you sound 15
>Finding a song about a girl and substituting your girl's name into it
Cringe if simp song
Based if love song.
Difference:
Love song: "Aw yeah I wanna make that girl mine, that girl so lovely, damn I like being in love"
Simp song: "I need this girl, I'll be sad if I lose this girl, I'm sad without this girl, make me whole"
>Erika
Based
My right hand hurts but I want to fap.
Left hand just doesn't feel as comfy.
What do?
Go hands-free.
Hump a pillow, problem solved
What are some unexpected but hot things I can say to my bf during sex? I thought about "welcome home" when he sticks his dick in me but idk if it's not too corny
I imagine moaning is already being done but loud moaning is like the best way to amp me up.
>welcome home
That would probably just make me laugh
Ok, that was a stupid idea
I'm not letting neighbours hear me getting fucked
I don't think he'd like it. I mean he's hungry when he comes home
> I thought about "welcome home" when he sticks his dick in me
That would probably only work if you said welcome home when he comes in the door and then you start sucking his dick.
I don't know about your bf but for me, anything in the realm of "cum inside me" "impregnate me" "breed me" is like pouring a bucket of gasoline on a fire. He might (rightfully) get scared if you say this though
I'm not on the pill though
Holy fuck, that would make it 10000x hotter
Stop it, I'm not getting knocked up until I marry him
>"I'm not getting knocked up until I marry you!"
Pretty good. It sounds like you're well equipped for this.
>Stop it, I'm not getting knocked up until I marry him
Oh boy, sounds like someone is in denial
What do you mean?
Won't that be a turn off for him?
>Won't that be a turn off for him?
In that context hearing about marriage could be a turn on, if you actually mean it.
Really? Moids often say that they lose attraction to their wife after marriage
NTA, that's bs
Check'd
As soon as I said *I do* I knew I had made a grave mistake
Really? Why? What is it like now?
I woke up almost immediately after in a cold sweat. Worst DMT trip of my life!
=_=
¯_(ツ)_/¯
That's fucked up.
>"I'm not on the pill"
>smile
It should be effective, as far as words go.
Appeal to the primitive brain: tell him your cave is his to paint.
Men, what breast bust size do you prefer?
That size would pretty close to my ideal
Any size is fine if I like the person but if I jerk off I prefer absolutely massive tits.
I prefer C or higher but any is fine.
Ideal would be D.
I like small tits. Girl in pic is fuckable though.
The size is of absolutely no importance, what matters is the shape. There are many acceptable shapes, but there are also a number of unacceptable. I'm pretty sure you already know to what I'm referring.
Guys
Would you be able to deal with a woman that can't get along with other women, despite her best efforts? She will most likely get along really well with your friends and heavily dislike their girlfriends, however she'll do her best but won't be happy.
This will leave her friendless and alone, and therefore heavily clingy/ dependent on you.
I have a hard time getting along with other men so I could understand. In fact, my last gf was like that and we both were fine
>therefore heavily clingy/ dependent on you.
Absolute dealbreaker, both parties in a relationship should be independent and have a hobby/social life unrelated to significant other.
No trustissues for you then?
Trust issues over what, her hanging out with male friends?
Yea
I don't have any issue with it the way it is right now. Both of us have friends of both genders, most of hers are 25-35 and in relationships already. As long as she or the friends don't act inappropriately then I don't see the issue.
Yeah, this is fine. I'm the type of person to have fewer but deeper friendships anyway.
>Would you be able to deal with a woman that can't get along with other women, despite her best efforts?
Yeah sure, just don't interact with them and interact with me, problem solved.
>This will leave her friendless and alone, and therefore heavily clingy/ dependent on you.
Wait what?
Oh, FUCK that, go jump in front of a train track. I want nothing to do with the whole "I CAN'T BE HAPPY I NEED YOU" shit.
>interact with me, problem solved.
You realise this is the reason she gets clingy, right? She doesn't have anyone else.
I don't believe in your "I need you because I have nobody else" shit. I won't deal with it and I'd rather see you on the train tracks. You have yourself. If you aren't your own stable anchor from which to approach the world, I don't want to deal with that shit.
>She will most likely get along really well with your friends and heavily dislike their girlfriends,
I have friends who are girls. Were you under the impression that guys are only friends with other guys? Go see a therapist and work on improving yourself, because your current plan isn't going to work.
Girls and guys can't be friends apparently
RIP my male-female friendships. Should I end things by ghosting them or by forwarding redpill copypastas?
Do females really lack the self-awareness to know that the only reason the male friends are better to talk to is because they all wanna fuck you? Of course, they're going to be nice and tolerate your bullshit, lmao.
She's someone who dislikes every woman. Of course she doesn't have self awareness.
Men
Evil Women or Brown girls, which one would you choose if you could only have one.
>Would you rather eat shit or eat shit with a dark theme
yeah, brown girl
>Evil Women or Brown girls, which one would you choose if you could only have one.
My wife is evil so I choose evil women 🙂
If we're assuming that the girls actually love me, I would go for evil girls. If we're assuming there's no love involved, then brown girls
Ive always wanted a truly evil, misanthrope gf but theyre extremely rare
closest I got was a BPD chick that would steal things for fun or just sabotage people for no reason for her own amusement
Does the evil chick love me? Why would anyone have problem with evil people if they truly really loved them? I guess it's hard if not impossible to know for sure
An Evil White girl.
At least my kids will be White.
I have a villainess fetish so
WHY IS /ADV/ SO FULL OF CHADS AND STACIES!?!?!?!?!?!
IF YOURE HAVING SEX YOU DONT NEED ADVICE FROM HERE!!!!!
Is it possible to know when all guys are gonna cum? Many don’t tell when they’re about to cum. Like a lot of times you know they’ll be signs, going faster, breathing heavier, maybe some grunts but with some guys there don’t seem to be signs.
>Many don’t tell when they’re about to cum.
Rude.
You must accept that God created many mysteries when He created this world for us. You cannot know everything.
>Is it possible to know when all guys are gonna cum?
I don't think you could do it for all guys but that might just be me having a skill issue.
A lot of the time even as the guy it's difficult to know, especially if I'm edging
Sometimes I'm also just on a hair trigger and so I'll randomly cum really soon despite not even getting particularly hot and bothered.
Generally I assume their breathing would get heavier and their movement would get faster. They might start twitching slightly.
That’s what I always thought premature ejaculation meant.
He could be staying in the same position, particularly with doggy. Same with oral, not always a change. It comes like 0.5 seconds after any twitching starts though.
>That’s what I always thought premature ejaculation meant.
Yeah, possibly.
It's not a chronic thing for me though, it happens randomly. Often if I'm super horny or I've been super horny all day but not always. Maybe a couple of times a year at most.
Isn't my dick twitching and me grabbing you tightly a good hint?
ok so I know I should avoid BPD girls, how do I find out if a girl I'm talking to/dating is BPD? (other than asking obviously)
it becomes pretty obvious pretty fast
>they attach themselves really fast
>they share their story about getting abused as a child
>you notice shes very emotional even for a woman
>shes jealous easily
etc
its pretty easy to recognise if you see them more than once or once they open up
holy shit this sounds like me before I became confident as fuck 3 months ago
I'm not BPD but I'm autistic and had so much insecurity and anxiety about everything, the greentext you just gave basically sounds like what I used to do with girls I was into, no wonder I gave baddies the ick lol
Well, if you hallucinate up a fantasy world that justifies being anxious, and you feel anxious in response to stupid shit that doesn't matter, then yeah that'd be close enough to count.
Bpd wife anon here.
This is a big tell. Bpd women get super anxious in social situations because they know in their bones that they don't have empathy enough to care or understand other people. They know they're going to say something absolutely retarded and it terrifies them.
Guess I'll take your word for it then. It does explain some of the actions I've seen, though I don't really understand the underlying mental process behind being scared of being inappropriate.
I mean my shit was basically
>get really giddy and excited around girl I had a crush on
>overshare about my mental health and insecurities about being the weird autistic kid in school
>get really upset when I inevitably give her the ick or when I see her with/talking about another guy (didn't sperg out on her or anything but the emotions felt strong and I suck at hiding my emotions)
>depressed/apathetic and anxious/on edge by default, low self esteem and victim mentality
>get really giddy and excited around girl I had a crush on
Not BPD, that sounds like you related your emotions to reality (i.e. your crush with the girl) and it was proportionate.
>overshare about my mental health and insecurities about being the weird autistic kid in school
Also not BPD, BPDs instead discuss whichever hallucination they think is real at the current point in time
>get really upset when I inevitably give her the ick or when I see her with/talking about another guy
BPD, though obviously there are other explanations.
>depressed/apathetic and anxious/on edge by default, low self esteem and victim mentality
BPD usually don't have the self-awareness to see the problem in themselves.
Diagnosis: I am completely wrong and what you have is very little like BPD. The closest you have is that you overreact emotionally to the idea of her not liking you or to her not being interested in you.
Instead, the obvious diagnosis is that you refuse to be happy while alone, you refuse to build healthy social bonds as a surrogate, and instead of approaching this double-bind in a healthy way, you:
A. Over-invest emotionally in people who honestly do not merit it (this random girl), and
B. Simultaneously refuse to approach that desire in a productive way because you'd rather be afraid of failure than interested in progress.
I.e. it's the typical bullshit that losers do where you refuse to become better because it's easier to fear change and stay broken.
You are describing guys
He's describing guys you've been with for reasons only known to you
>a major diagnostic criteria is dissociation
No it's not. Lmao.
And if you're going to critique psychiatry I hope you understand you're giving up any potential arguments using its bullshit. I'm all for criticizing shrinkwizardry but this is ridiculous.
I havent been with those guys, I stay clear of those guys
Good, then you should know men don't act like that
Refer to https://icd.who.int/browse11/l-m/en#/http://id.who.int/icd/entity/1683919430
>Experiences of influence, passivity or control (i.e., the experience that one’s feelings, impulses, actions or thoughts are not generated by oneself, are being placed in one’s mind or withdrawn from one’s mind by others, or that one’s thoughts are being broadcast to others)
Sounds an awful lot like what the dsm calls ... oh, what is it? I forget.
I think we're close to a conclusion. In psychotics disorders this refers to delusional behavior. Like believing your mind is being read by demons or people at work are spies. It's literal.
If the similarity you're suggesting is about BPD people feeling a similar loss in consciousness' boundary, then yes, that's something both schizophrenics and BPD people experience in different manifestations, the later in social settings and the former in any situation at all.
But it's still a very big stretch to say that because of the similarity of one common feature, they are similar. Autists and obsessive people also experience that in their own way, and it's more commonly argued that autism and schizophrenia are similar.
It boils down to psychiatry being fundamentally flawed in my opinion, allowing for any argument to be made at all and for discussion that is so removed from reality and convoluted that it offers very little and is more similar to literary analysis than medicine.
Why are you going in circles? I didn't write that but it's not a common male behavior at all.
Oh I agree.
However I have personal experience with schizos and bpd and they do share very specific characteristics. I think that's why classifying bpd is so difficult.
It's literally personality disorder with dissociative emphasis.
>personality disorder with dissociative emphasis.
Yeah but so's a whole bunch of stuff. That whole "Disconnect from reality and live in a fantasy world which justifies muh feelings" thing is pretty damn common.
Where do you meet these schizos?
Just curious because it's a very broad set of things with some common factors. We sometimes spot each other in weird ways and I agree we have very weirdly specific traits but we pass as just weird.
No, it's a visual product meant to cause as much arousal as possible.
Everything about it is very different to real sex and you should forget all about porn as a virgin.
I had sex with a girl who watched porn and she was being cringe, sex is about accepting yourself and the other person and connecting with her not looking spectacular while fucking.
You're asking the wrong person but it's about drawing a line where your thoughts end and others' thoughts begin. Reality is obviously impossible to define so the best you can do is try to understand what has probably been proven to manifest in it and what is in your head. Average people are probably thinking about texting or football idk.
>I had sex with a girl who watched porn and she was being cringe, sex is about accepting yourself and the other person and connecting with her not looking spectacular while fucking.
What was so cringe in her behavior? What should I avoid to not look like a a pornsick bimbo during sex?
Well first of all, I was having sex with her so it should be obvious we like each other a lot. There's no reason to exaggerate your facial expressions and moans and act like you're about to have an orgasm from touching.
Just act natural. No need for any shit at all, no talking, make some eye contact, touch wherever you feel like, position yourself however you feel comfortable, moan if you feel like it.
Don't go "mmm yes, oh my god yes fuck my pussy", don't try to be seductive or look sexy like there's an audience, be yourself and act instinctively.
And take it easy with kinks, it shouldn't be a bigger thing that sex itself.
To be fair most guys watch porn and many have told me they are aware it affects how they act in bed and how comfortable they feel so you shouldn't have a problem, it's just that I don't watch porn and I can tell when someone's not being themselves and it's cringe. If I wanted to have sex with you I wouldn't want you to try and act like someone else while at it, right?
>what you control/choose vs what you don't control/choose
I guess, in the sense that I've nothing other than this. If I'm seeing shit in broad daylight I can't trust that, and that's it.
I don't know BPD people but free will is always a thing, if I can control myself when I'm seeing a demon they can find a way to be good people.
>drawing a line where your thoughts end and others' thoughts begin
It's what you control/choose vs what you don't control/choose, right?
... Oh shit, no wonder BPD can't do it, they don't actually control/choose.
> loss in consciousness' boundary
Hang on. In an average person, what/where is the consciousness boundary?
I thought you people autopiloted like 90% of the time.
They do. Wait did you think this was a woman thing?
>You are describing guys
Nah, only the insecure homosexuals.
>how do I find out if a girl I'm talking to/dating is BPD?
Ask how she tells which emotions she wants to keep and which emotions she wants to change.
Normal people will probably give you a cookie cutter answer.
BPDs will not understand the question.
Good morning ladies
>meet sweet girl/guy in collage
>develop a crush
>has a boyfriend/girlfriend
>is a fat slob that makes you look good in comparison
Has it ever happened to you?
Oh if I'm attracted to someone I don't care much about their bf/gf. Either they're into me or they're not, their bf/gf does not matter.
I wish I was a woman like you
>I wish I was a woman like you
Then literally imagine yourself as one, problem solved.
Something like that happened to me recently, but he was not fat. I matched with a girl on Tinder, she was a pretty alt girl, we start texting eachother, I get her number and all that. Then I invite her to go out some day and she asked if I was ok with her having a bf.
Later I saw she posted a pic with him and he was so skinny that it made him look ugly as fuck.
Nah. I look good, that’s about it
Currently.
Difference is his arms are just thicker than mine and I'm about 5 years off escaping atrophy.
>Ask for advice on /atoga/
>Get ignored in favour of "women of reddit, what's the sexiest sex you've ever sexed????"
>Ask another question about dating
>Immediately start a multi thread spanning flame war about the differences in animal rape between men and women
Has this ever happened to you
No I skip those and you probably asked a bad question anyways
>you probably asked a bad question anyways
Can you give an example of a good question then?
Men, how big is your dick?
I don't know, I haven't measured it in years.
6.5 to 7in is what I got. Seems normal but because everyone is out for the mythical 10+ it feels lacking.
How exactly do you flirt and engage a girl over snap?
I can make people cry laughing and break the ice easily in person but that doesn't translate well to text.
Why don't men moan or grunt during sex? The only thing they do is heavy breathing. I mean, at least in porn, idk what they do irl because I'm a virgin
Pretty sure they avoid that in porn because most men don't want to listen another man moaning. When I have sex I know I make noises besides heavy breathing
I don't think there's an inherent impulse to moan. Most guys likely think it's cringe to do it and sometimes that logic is applied to grunting as well.
I do, actually. I have a fairly large endowment and naturally tend to growl and sort of rumble my chest when I notice my partner is submitting.
Depend on what you what you’re wanting to hear. I hear some fairly often grunting, pretty soft and only while they’re cumming though.
Grunting I mean.
Nvm. I thought I left out grunting but just put it in the wrong spot.
>idk what they do irl because I'm a virgin
L O N D O N
I grunt sometimes but I just dislike all talk during sex.
Porn isn't realistic and watching it bends your idea of sex more than you think right now.
Isn't porn supposed to be similar to real sex? Just a little more idealized
Same reason why men don't scream when they are scared, idk.
One girl got scared and thought I was uncomfortable because I was heavy breathing during a blowjob so I try to avoid even that now.
I would be extremely disappointed if a guy wouldn't make noises when I'm sucking on his penis
My last girl told me I make really sexy noises, so thanks /atoga/
Does relationshiptherapy mean it's over?
State gender
What is your favorite hobby you would like to share with a bf/gf?
M
Probably playing co-op video games.
Otherwise something like wrestling/rough play but that probably gets a bit too close to sex. Plus I feel like I'd constantly overpower my partner.
M. I would love a gf that could get into urban exploration
f
honestly video games. like coop diablo or something after a long day
Suck it
Oh ok cool a boring askreddit tier question with no actual advice implications very nice.
I'll make sure to ask more of those in future in case I ever need help with something and am ok just getting replies instead.
you are as predictable as a teenage boy
F, probably dnd
Will you teach me?
F. Gardening. It's very time consuming and can be a little tiring, so I appreciate when I have someone to do it with.
I love that my bf and I like watching sports together, it's a lot of fun and something for us to bond together.
Men, is listening to things like this a red flag?
Looks cool enough, but didn't listen
Does it contain cringe or something?
Cringe kino, but not a red flag I suppose
How long do you actually last in bed?
I just timed myself masturbating now and I only lasted about 6 minutes.
I feel like unless you're including foreplay or something you're all vastly overestimating just how long you spend having sex.
Like minimum 45 minutes. I don't get off until she's came at least once.
If it's taking you 45 minutes to get a girl off that sounds like a skill issue
I can last a lot but have problems cumming, like most of the time I can't get an orgasm.
6 minutes is plenty of time for me. Of course I don’t mean 6 minutes of PIV and that’s it or cumming 6 minutes into a bj and you can’t go again for a while.
Yeah, that makes sense.
Is it a bad sign that the coordinator stopped responding after the second time I asked for different interview times? Im kinda freaked out and feel like I look ungrateful
Yes, they see you as unreliable now. Happed to me before
🙁 Is there anything I can do? I want to follow up again tomorrow / Tuesday, because I did send the last message on friday.. Im just stressing I took a day off from work for one of the first days they offered but then they told me that day was no longer available
Sure, give it a shot. “The squeaky wheel gets the grease” as my momma always says. I’m just telling you in my experience I had to reschedule twice and then the guy in charge of hiring was no longer interested in me. My friend worked there, so that’s how I know they thought I was unreliable
Oh man.... my friend got me this interview too.. I would feel so bad if I bungled it before I even spoke to these people
I will keep trying, thanks !!
Fortuna für dich
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Americans
What is a hillbilly and what is a redneck?
A redneck is a yeehaw ‘murican with their wife, kids, pick up truck and 5 guns.
A hillbilly is a dirty ass farmer being inbred for generations.
They often overlap
Hillbillies are old people who literally and figuratively are “over the hill”
Rednecks are country workingmen
City slickers are bourgeois man-children
I’m everything and nothing all at once, a Protean man
The professor this discussion in an Appalachian Literature class last fall. I believe a guy from group said thought that hillbillies are the racist ones and rednecks are like just the trucker driver type. I thought the opposite and doesn’t recheck refer to a sunburn on a farmers neck?
new public so Im gonna repeat myself
If Im not having sex with at least 5 women in the next 5 years I'm going to start seeing prostitutes.
Yes I see you being cringe for attention, that's very nice anon, say more retarded shit
Its not cringe. I want to feel a little bit of the experience ive lost.
Your attitude sucks ass.
why??
>why??
Let's see. I could repeat the same shit I know you fail to comprehend
Or
I could not
If you want to fuck a prostitute just go fuck a prostitute. Arbitrarily gating it behind a completely made-up goal od how many women you deem is "acceptable" is cringe.
>Arbitrarily gating it behind a completely made-up goal od how many women you deem is "acceptable" is cringe.
Im 28 yo, and lost my virginity last year, so Im trying to pick up women that I find attractive or am interested in. If I can't get that, I'll accept that I'm not made for that life (ie having sexual relationships with many women) and will spend money on escorts to at least get the sexual part, if I can't get the validation one.
That's normal. Gating that behind an arbitrary amount of time/sex is cringe.
>Gating that behind an arbitrary amount of time/sex is cringe.
it's not arbitrary. As Im getting older Ill only be able to pull older women. I want to be with a younger (20-25) woman. If I cant get that in the next few years Ill have to buy the time of one.
I understand but sex with 5 women in 5 years isn’t unreasonable. It’s not like he’s saying he wants to fuck 100 women in have years.
*fucking shit 5 years I mean
Is 5'9 a good or bad height for a woman? Is it weird to be 5'9 tall and I never had a boyfriend?
5'9 is good, maybe a bit too tall for most guys
>Is it weird to be 5'9 tall and I never had a boyfriend?
depends on your age/country
Id care about your "problems" if most tall women didn't aim for tall/er guys themselves lol
>t. 5'9
Haha it's this obsessive dickhead again
YEAH BRO
BE INSECURE
Keep asking the same question bro you gotta stay insecure! You can do it bro!
You got so mad you didn't even read the post, I'm not male.
Do you aim for women shorter than yourself?
>You got so mad you didn't even read the post, I'm not male.
Ah shit I did too.
There's this one dickhead who refuses to see himself as attractive and he looooops about muh height. He is also 5'9". You are right, I failed to read. My bad.
>Do you aim for women shorter than yourself?
if I find the woman attractive she can be shorter or taller. Taller would be even nicer, because I find it elegant. But taller girls are with taller guys lol
Left is so beautiful
5'9" is a good height, it looks nice on you.
Being foreveralone is the standard human condition in 2023, so you're doing fine.
>Being foreveralone is the standard human condition in 2023
Maybe for men
All people, men and women alike, are trapped in this nightmarish dystopia together. You are being needlessly divisive when you pick fights like this.
>All people, men and women alike, are trapped in this nightmarish dystopia together
tell that to the women saying we live in a patriarchy where men have lots of privileges.
Most men are single
Most women are not
We are not in this together
Statistically this is not true. The male to female ratio isn't 80% to 20%.
Statistically it's true
Did you just miss when that article came out?
It isn't, overall on the globe. You should phrase it differently without the word "most."
How is that even possible unless there are a LOT more lesbians than we think?
Women are in soft harems and most of them have high body counts while guys don't
What are you talking about? Females control the dating market and they would rather be cumbuckets for Chads than be with a nice, intelligent man who actually loves them.
It's crazy to me when some people insist on spewing forth an unending stream of vitriolic hatred yet still somehow consider themselves "nice".
It's crazier to me that females still insist on spreading lies when every man can see the truth for themselves. Females aren't seeking for traits in men that would make for a good long-term partner, it's always height, looks, wealth and social status first with you shallow bitches.
Hey dumbass they want them to be good people AND sexually attractive. What good is a "nice, intelligent man" if I have zero interest in fucking him?
Sure, but stop complaining that your lives are so hard just because Chad won't commit to you. A lot of frustration comes from the fact that 80% of men were lied to growing up about what females want. That's why it's important for me to tell the truth and men like king Andrew Tate are helping a lot too.
>king Andrew Tate
He's part of the problem
If he truly cared about lonely young men he'd stop fucking women and taking advantage of lonely young men
King Andrew Tate is the only who's talking about men's problems in the mainstream though. And is he the problem or is it the females who grant men like Tate the access of their vagina? If females wanted to fix things, they would stop fucking men like Tate and go for nice, intelligent men instead, but they will never do that because the small female brain hasn't developed out of the stone age mentality of "oogab booga me want tall rich stronk Grub" yet.
It's not even a contest because this is the worst timeline ever to be a man. Females have it easier in all aspects of life.
Go outside and get some vitamin D. Your brain needs a break from the garbage you're putting in it.
Like I said man I'm not saying it makes sense I'm just explaining the gut reaction.
If management sucks you don't want that job.
but the management at my current job is also bad, and getting worse. This is my only escape route
What field do you work in? Your current job and the other one who's being flakey are seriously your only options?
I jsut graduated and Im applying for actual jobs in my field/at a higher level but. thhat's not working out so great either. At least I got an interview from this place
Aren't I the one coming across as flakey though? I think I made a horrible first impression
>Go outside and get some vitamin D. Your brain needs a break from the garbage you're putting in it.
Not an argument. How am I wrong?
You're speaking in absolutes. Your argument is without nuance and is invalidated by your negative biases. It's literally impossible to claim that literally every single man has it worse than every single woman.
That's obviously not what I said, are you autistic? The exceptions don't matter. You're using the same logic as a retard who says that poverty doesn't exist in Africa because there are billionaires living there also.
>Females have it easier in all aspects of life.
They do. That's not the same as saying ALL females have better lives than ALL men. You're fucking retarded, lmao. Stop putting words in my mouth.
And this is why it's useless to argue with incels. I hope you get out of your own head and find happiness. But you're not going to get there by being bitter and hateful towards women.
Not an incel and you still didn't disprove anything in my posts. I win.
Kiddo it's impossible to disprove an argument that doesn't use logic in the first place. I can see that you are unhappy and I'm trying to tell you how to change that. You're focusing on the wrong thing. Focus on yourself and gaining the things you want and not on jealousy.
Babygirl, how are you suffering right now then? Please tell me how it would be better if you were a man.
That wouldn't help you to stop comparing your experience of life to other people's. I don't think about whether my life is worse or better than someone else's, all that does is make me jealous. It doesn't improve my life to be jealous of others so I don't waste time on it. You shouldn't either.
>so I don't waste time on it. You shouldn't either.
I will when females spread bullshit about how depressed they are because Chad cheated on them. Stop doing that and I will stop also.
So you think that women aren't allowed to be angry or sad when they get cheated on? That's just dumb. Get over yourself bud.
Hard to feel sorry for them when they actively choose the men who do that.
Why do you expect everyone to be a perfect judge of character? If you got cheated on by a girlfriend would you be angry at her for cheating or angry at yourself for choosing a shitty person to date? Anyone can cheat.
>but stop complaining that your lives are so hard just because Chad won't commit to you
What I just said was my first post, idk what you and the other girl have been arguing about but that's not why my life is hard. I haven't even found a guy I want to commit let alone been let down by one.
Each individual deals with their own individual problems. Turning suffering into a contest doesn't do anyone any good.
>king Andre Tate
You realize he's manipulating lonely young men to make money off of them right? He doesn't give a shit about any of them.
It's a similar phenomena to what you see in the rap industry or cult recruitment in general, you get a bunch of guys who feel lonely and isolated and a society that's constantly shitting on them and the first person who comes along and tells them they're worth something is going to be their new king. The usual thing you do to prevent this is not allowing large swathes of alienated young men, but we're not supposed to talk about that.
something something arab spring
Agree. Dating doesn't solve all of you life's problems and while women can have free sex easily most of them end up alone anyway.
>good or bad
Good
>weird
Meh
My first love was 5’9, you look good next to tall guys
>you look good next to tall guys
like I said, she'll only look for tall guys because it "looks good"
>like I said,
Nobody cares. Go join a Discord if you want to build a name for yourself and have everyone defer to your wisdom as the Final Say on all matters.
im just saying, tall girls usually end up with tall/er guys
I am human, and I need to be loved
Just like everybody else does..
>by taller men than me
I am the tall man, only interested in women. Stop projecting these limiting-beliefs
>ctrl + F "BPD"
>59 results
I have no idea why moids love those bitches so much
Why did one of you have me thinking Olivia Munn was in this show (|| o ||) it's focking Olivia Wilde
Anyway why does Wilson look like a little tiny baby bird
State gender. How do you feel about using a cocksleeve to simulate a larger penis? Is it hot? Would you do it?
F. What's even the point of having sex at that point?
F. Not hot. No interest. If he's that bothered about sticking something bigger than his dick in me he can fist me.
F
I guess I'd try it. Apparently it's more intense than a vagina for guys, so I'd like to do it so I can watch his reactions and stuff.
Well in terms of your 20s and what most people think of as "youth" yeah it's over. But is life over? What do you do from here? And how do these experiences help you moving forward? How does the next stage of life look for you?
My coworkers like to share music in our chat and I think it's cute but they keep sending me stuff to listen to or telling me to do it and I don't like it because 1) That's going to be a song I associate with work 2) I don't want to hear what other people think of my music taste
Pees on you
Drinks it
Have you ever considered not being a giant pussy?
unfathomable
What are some things I can do to make anal sex more painful for her? I like when she's sobbing from anal and that's when it gets good
Men, you can only choose one:
>having all of your face and neck covered in kisses
>having your cock sucked
What's your decision?
all of the kisses
I feel you want me to say the top one because you want to believe that not all men are sex indeed obsessed.
It is 100% context dependent
Right now, I guess I'd take the kisses.
A noose around my fucking neck
by who?
I'd rather take a deep, passionate, sloppy french kiss
Yesterday I made a post about my gf texting me saying “im loving the flowers”, and I was wondering if another guy she had been dating gave them to her.
Well I saw her and she showed me my phone and it turns out she had sent me a photo of her dog in a flower field that didn’t go through lmao. Funny misunderstanding. What a cutie.
Isnt that a funny misunderstanding everyone? Haha
i really miss my ex boyfriend i don't know what to do about it please help me I really need him to make it all better but don't think i'm worthy
getting dumped is just part of the dating chad experience, sorry nonna
what is a chad? i know he misses me though
>i know he misses me though
Does he really though?
what's a chad? i don't know but he said it to someone and they told me about it. so i really miss him too. does that make sense?
he might not but what if he said so
>tall and looksmaxxed to the point where I have had girls gawking at me slack-jawed when I pass by them
>thinking of starting an insta so I can use my looks to make some money
>mentally completely fucked and incapable of any romantic interactions since I have literally never ever initiated interactions with a girl and whenever a girl initiated I never had the courage to do anything because I only got hot at age 25 or so
I feel like if I reveal how inexperienced and insecure I am, I will be seen as a pathetic worm and people will mock me behind my back.
Revealing your inexperience to a woman who's genuinely interested in you will most likely be okay. She'll give you a shot anyway. But be careful with that insecurity. People don't like that. You kind of have to delude yourself into confidence.
Yeah the insecurity manifests as anxiety and can ruin everything
I don’t watch movies I am a bookworm, I actually dont like myself either because I am dysmorphic I guess, I only know I am hot because of external feedback. But everyone unironically thinks I havent settled because I just have too many options and want to have fun. I deny it but they think I am lying, and I dont press too hard because I will actually reveal exactly how bad things are and I am too embarrassed.
>I don’t watch movies I am a bookworm, I actually dont like myself either because I am dysmorphic I guess, I only know I am hot because of external feedback. But everyone unironically thinks I havent settled because I just have too many options and want to have fun. I deny it but they think I am lying, and I dont press too hard because I will actually reveal exactly how bad things are and I am too embarrassed.
oh I see. I was more talking about physical looks, in order to mimic you lol
I asked, apparently “Jamie Dornan when he was doing Calvin Klein modelling”. Googled it, I guess I do have the same hair and beard but they are black and not hazel.
you're very attractive!
what's your skin routine¡?
Nothing fancy. cleanser, moisturiser, sunscreen, night cream every day. exfoliant, charcoal mask twice a week. Cream for blemishes whenever I feel like it. And ofc anti acne cream.
Nta. Do you find the charcoal mask drying? Would you say your skin is oily, dry, or combination?
I mean, they're the ones who gave you a day for an interview and then said "actually no we're busy".
My skin is mixed and I only apply the mask to the oily t-zone. Otherwise yes, its super dry.
I guess so... But I did ask for a second set of dates and then went back to the original ones
That would have been good to mention at first. So it wasn't because the first date was unavailable and they fucked up. You waited too long to make a decision. Either way, freaking out and being upset about it doesn't do anything to make them call you.
That's true. I jsut didn't expect the second set of dates to be worse for me and figured it would be easier to get a day off work (for a 30 min meeting -.-) than keep asking for days
Being inexperienced isn't that big of a deal, being insecure is way worse. Just do your homework before you lose your v-card and she won't even suspect a thing.
>how to take off a bra (optional)
>how to kiss
>how to be good at foreplay
>how to properly stimulate the clitoris
If you spend 15 minutes reading up on how to do the last two things then you will be a better lover than most men.
>tall and looksmaxxed to the point where I have had girls gawking at me slack-jawed when I pass by them
apart from being tall, what's looksmaxxed to get that level of attention exactly? post an actor that looks like you
left is girls being mad because they're forced to come to terms with the consequences of their action
right is simp guys.
>women are hypocrites
wow someone stop the presses, what exactly are you trying to prove here anon?
>I have no issues with sex workers but I would not want to be with someone who paid for their services
I'm gonna start preaching that you cannot be a supporter of sex workers if you discriminate against people who use their services
I'm not saying I agree or disagree just explaining the thought process. People who have to or choose to do sex work because they need/want the money and think sex is their most marketable skill are easier to respect than someone who has to or chooses to spend money on sex when they SHOULD be able to get it for free.
For the sex worker it's like "wow your pussy is so good people will pay for it"
And for the guy who visits sex workers it's more "wow you're such a loser you couldn't get anyone to fuck you for free".
historically the patrons of sex workers are always wealthy and usually titled nobility and/or royalty, so that's bullshit.
I have been to brothels in the past, most of the men there are middle class married men not incels.
People talk about objetification but don't you think judging a men for how much pussy he can get is pretty fuck up.
See
it's all about perception. And judging him based on if he's able to secure free pussy or not is basically just judging his attractiveness and social skills which we were already doing.
If she was his girlfriend that means she finds him attractive, she is dumping him because maybe others don't find him attractive.
feminists have such a bizarre approach to "sex work" lol. It's disgusting, both parties to the transaction are disgusting, but they can't ever let a woman be in the wrong so we end up with these mental gymnastics to make it sound fun and empowering.
Oh no, different people have different opinions on a subject.
in general, women will be less accepting of men who used escorts because he couldnt get hookups
in general, women will be less accepting of men who don't want to be with women with a long sexual past
I don't know any woman who cares a lot about whether men want women with a long sexual past or otherwise. Women don't like feeling rejected, but that's pretty much it.
It's completely fine for people to want a partner who is similar to them in terms of sexual history, as long as they're respectful of others.
>as long as they're respectful of others.
Fuck that lol
Nobody likes rude cunts.
Most people are rude, they just have different standards about who it is acceptable to be rude to.
Don't worry about others
If that's your standard then stick with it
ok, as the guy that talked about visiting prostitutes in the future I certainly know now what to keep from my potential gfs.
Yeah just don't tell her and you will be fine.
yes, your sarcasm doesnt change anything
>It's completely fine for people to want a partner who is similar to them in terms of sexual history, as long as they're respectful of others.
nah, Im not going to lose on the few chances of relationships just because she cant accept I had to pay for sex (ie have low social status)
It wasn't sarcasm
As long as you're honest about it and she's accepting of it, sure. Deceiving people for your own self interest is shitty.
>Deceiving people for your own self interest is shitty.
if women can't accept my sexual past then Im simply going to lie by omission
You're a piece of shit then. I hope you wind a woman on the same wavelength, maybe she can "lie by omission" about cheating on you and making you raise her lover's child or something 🙂
>You're a piece of shit then.
Were you not in this thread yesterday? Literally every single person, men and women, who responded to that one question said they'd lie about/hide parts of their past from their partners.
No, and I don't give a shit about what people here say. It's incredibly shitty to hide something from your partner on purpose because you know it benefits you.
She is just giving herself and her child the best chances in an unjust world, anon.
>Thats sick.
So is lying and hiding important information about your past from your partner.
No, I'm not. Not everyone is an ugly coomer like you.
My city has 2 millions habitants and around 1k prostitutes, plus OF and all premium porn sites. Do you think only a few men pay them? Cope rostie, your man will never tell you all about his past.
>Do you think only a few men pay them?
Yes, a minority of men pay for prostitutes. The majority of men have never slept with a whore. Cope, coomer.
I disagree fundamentally with the premise that there's nothing "morally wrong" about sleeping with prostitutes. Loveless, transactional sex is morally wrong to me, and supporting and benefiting from an industry that is filled with sexual abuse and sexual trafficking also is.
Ultimately everyone's opinion on these topics differ - there are people who think it's okay to fuck prostitutes, people who is okay to fuck others when you're committed to someone, people who raise other people's children happily. Anyone who is in a relationship with me would know how I feel about the subject of prostitution, and if they choose to deceive me about it then they're horrible people.
No, you are taking a further leap into moral subjectivity as I already explained. You hard your partner multiple times. In one case, you committed an act that doesnt concern your partner and the wrongdoing is hiding the fact from the partner.
In the other you cheat on the partner- huge moral misstep. You get pregnant with another man’s child- second misstep, and the omission of you having sex with others is the third, most minor misstep. Its so far removed in terms of degrees of wrongdoing its not at all comparable
>you committed an act that doesnt concern your partner
Lying about your values concerning sex and relationships definitely concerns me.
And again, there are people who are okay with their partner sleeping with others, there are people who are okay with their partner having seen prostitutes, there are people who are okay with raising another man's child.
The issue is that you do something wrong knowingly (whether it's lie about how you feel about sex, or fuck someone else) and then lie about it because it's in your best interest to hide something you know would upset your partner.
Lol no. Maybe half of that.
It's definitely a minority of men
>Lying about your values concerning sex and relationships definitely concerns me.
Yes that's the wrongdoing. The lying by omission. So the worst act here is the most minor act in the second example
>And again, there are people who are okay with their partner sleeping with others
Irrelevant to the point.
>there are people who are okay with their partner having seen prostitutes
Irrelevant to the point and not comparable to the event you described right before
>The issue is that you do something wrong knowingly (whether it's lie about how you feel about sex, or fuck someone else) and then lie about it because it's in your best interest to hide something you know would upset your partner.
No, you cant say cheating is as bad as not sharing every detail of your sexual past with your partner. I already went over that, not going to keep repeating myself.
If we poll people "would you rather your partner cheats on you or he/she omits an uncomfortable fact about his/her sexual past" I can guarantee you 99% of people will prefer the latter, even attempting to draw a comparison here is laughable. As a matter of fact, most people dont share everything about their past. The majority of women omit performing sexual acts in the past that they dont want to perform on their current partner, for instance.
Either way, cheat if you want to, just dont try to delude yourself its the same as not knowing every detail about your partner's sexual past. Find another cope.
Cheating is disgusting and I'd never do it. So is pretending you share your partner's values about sex and relationship to gain their trust, so is lying about your past because you know they'd be disgusted by you if they knew the full extent of your sexual history.
Both are wrong. Cheating is undoubtedly more painful, but lying about fucking prostitutes is still wrong.
If you know that your partner wouldn't want to be with you if you fucked whores and you don't tell them that you fucked whores, you're a horrible person.
>Both are wrong.
Slapping your SO and beating them into a coma are also both wrong.
Yes.
>Cheating can happen accidentally
No.
If by minorty you mean 30% then yes, still that's a pretty good number. I don't think an ugly rostie on LULZ anything better.
>she is just giving herself and her child the best chances in an unjust world, anon.
Already explained the issue in your comparison, you have failed to address it.
NTA but he is 100% right. He has done nothing morally wrong and he is just giving himself the best chances in an unjust world. What you are talking about is directly harmful against another person in the relationship. Which is to say - the biggest wrong he is committing is the omission, while in the case of cheating - the biggest wrong is the cheating and the omission is just a secondary issue.
Are you a woman? I cant find any other reason you'd want a potential gf to cheat on me or make me raise her lover child. Thats sick.
makes sense.
You are going to end with a man who payed for sex and will never tell you about it, deal with it rostie.
Nta. This might be an unpopular opinion but I don't think there's anything wrong with a few lies by omission. There are certain things I'd like to keep only to myself or only admit on an anonymous mongolian basket weaving forum. I won't lie if asked directly, but if it never comes up I'm not going to bring it up myself.
A girl gave my a handjob under the table in the middle of the classrom when I was 14 yo. Do you think she will tell her partner that she has done something so slutty?
If her partner asks if she has experience she will say yes and leave out the details. Do the same, don't ask for details about your gf's past and if she asks you, don't tell her you paid for sex. Say that yes, you have had some experience and call it a day.
I guess this is the way
thanks!
>So is lying and hiding important information about your past from your partner.
Im not going to lie, Im just going to say I have experience if the topic ever comes up but never about paying.
chase and cameron... that is so nasty they are cousins to me
whyyyy
That arc is dumb
I just realized that hary is actually the jannie too
oof
JH and QT too
If I was a jannie I would encourage more hornyposting rather than keep banning people everytime they get a little overzealous.
I definitely lost that damn interview. Fucking shit fuck. Why do I jinx everything why does it always end horribly when i get excited for something. I want to induce alcoholism the journaling isn't working
what is your question for the opposite gender?
I asked
a hungry dog bites
a dry bone
>Why do I jinx everything why does it always end horribly when i get excited for something
If you were that excited for it why couldn't you make the interview times they gave you the first 2 times work?
Doesn't matter. It's the PERCEPTION that matters and the average young woman thinks men who visit sex workers are losers who can't get it for free or they're predators. I understand the reality of it being easier to just pay than go on tinder sometimes but I still get that initial "ick".
>the average young woman thinks
nobody cares. literally nobody.
I assume somebody does because this is a topic of conversation in the thread. Just saying, don't expect your future girlfriends to be happy about it if you admit to seeing sex workers.
I did I took a day off work for one of the first days they offered me and then they said it wasn't available anymore. I gave them the days I have off regularly too
Don't put all your eggs in a basket with a hole in it. This opportunity doesn't sound like it's all that you just seem desperate.
It's a step up from what Im doing now. I get the vibe that the management is kind of retarded from what my friend told me, but that's everywhere. might as well get paid a little more . also im desperate i hate failing at something I didn't even TRY
after a confession of love years later how long would it take a guy to respond if at all? i know every guy is different but i wonder if and how he is processing me and wonder if i'm being annoying or opening up an old wound seeing as we used to be in a relationship and loved each other.
if he likes you, instantly
damn this is so embarrassing
why am i so unlikeable
If it's an old relationship then there's no telling.
He might respond instantly, he might never respond.
Almost certainly he's going to have mixed feelings regardless.
You know him better than we do to make that judgement.
he's a lot more introverted lately i heard. and he also admitted missing me to another person. what kind of mixed feelings do you think he's having?
>what kind of mixed feelings do you think he's having?
Whether you ended it, he ended it or you just grew apart the most prominent thing in his mind is likely whatever caused your relationship to fizzle out in the first place.
It's also been almost a decade and no doubt you're different people than you were when you were together.
Even if I wanted something in that situation I'd probably be pretty intimidated by the idea of confronting something from my past so directly. There are so many ways that a relationship like that can go wrong (one is still way to attached, you're just completely different people, you have different standards, you're at different places in your life etc.)
It could be about you, it could not be about you. Until he responds or your friend talks to him you have no way of knowing.
i had a bad family life and moved away due to violence in my youth. i think he was upset about other guys trying to flirt with me. what's it feel like to be so intimidated? i just want to be able to talk to him and relax and cuddle him and that intimacy like i never had before. we're at that age people start settling down so i'm interested in rediscovering ourselves. since you mentioned being hypothetically intimidating about confronting me directly, how else would you go about this?
>what's it feel like to be so intimidated?
I haven't been like that since I was a teenager but the point is that in those situations it's just easier to put it off and ignore it hoping that it will just go away.
It's not even that it's good or bad, it's just mentally fatiguing to think about.
>i just want to be able to talk to him and relax and cuddle him and that intimacy like i never had before. we're at that age people start settling down so i'm interested in rediscovering ourselves
And that's absolutely huge to dump on a guy all at once. Even if you didn't say that part out loud it's in the back of his mind and with an existing partner even talking to them is a pretty big commitment.
>since you mentioned being hypothetically intimidating about confronting me directly, how else would you go about this?
I think I gave you my recommendation before - I'd just say hi and offer to meet up for coffee or something to see how each of us is getting on. Obviously the subtext is still there but you can deal with it in parts and if you show up and you clearly aren't going to work out then it doesn't have to go further than exchanging hellos.
The best way for it to happen is organically as a coincidence but that's literally never going to happen and it's super easy to tell if you've contrived it most of the time because of the nerves and how you speak.
yeah i'm fatigued too i think he is as well...
>with an existing partner even talking to them is a pretty big commitment.
you mean how we used to be partners? and yeah i didn't seem as cool and casual in my text to him as usual so i really hope he can understand i'm better in person. i did appear pretty nervous and spilt my guts in my wording. i think i found him on another social media which freaks me out a little bit but am wondering if i should reach out there. i recently became aware of how ex's check up on other's socials and am now wondering if he has been viewing my page. after posting a spicy meme someone sent me an anonymous private pic of their nethers, don't know if it could of drunkenly been him or another person.
>Been in a long term relationship for all of my 20ies.
>We break up
How do I stop feeling like it's over?
It is literally over though?
Kinda, but can't kys so I'm stuck
Find a hobby which makes you feel good about yourself and pursue it aggressively. Normally for dudes that's the gym.
Take a couple of months off and then try dating - particularly picking people up IRL in bars/hobbies - to boost your confidence.
git gud
women
please nag me
clewan the fucking kitchen and bathroooom and help me
yes dear.
anything else you need?
A better man
fruits and berries
Why do you never wear clothes that fit you anon? You need to buy some new pants. And we've talked about the dishes. You need to do it the way I told you to.
I am 27 years old, is it a good idea to get an associate degree in a field that has nothing to do with my career and in which I have no experience? I want to change jobs desperately.
Sure, if you got security to do so. Live your life, you will be dead soon and no one will ever remember or care what job you had
What worries me is not finding a job because I have no experience and the degree takes 1 to 2 years.
Because I hate the old one and just want to follow my passion.
Quite the opposite, I have a CS collage degree.
>Because I hate the old one and just want to follow my passion.
If that was your passion then why didn't you follow it in the first place?
What made you originally think this was right for you?
It might be, but if you just want to change jobs why specifically in the new field?
It depends on the field you want to switch to, but it could be worth it. Alternatively if you want to switch to programming, you could just look for courses, in some cases you straight up get offered a job afterwards if you did great and you can go to the courses after work.
Just research your options.
Is it stupid to wear a dress to work? I have literally nothing else in my closet.
Depends on the industry and the dress but a normal dress in a normal office should be fine.
I work in a grocery store
Literally no one is going to give a shit then
What part of the store? If you're just a cashier I assume it's fine but in the department I used to work in you HAD to wear full length pants.
Casual formal dress, yes. Long skirt, long sleeve, no cleavage.
>casual formal
That's contradictory don't you think? Did you mean modest instead of formal?
No anon it’s a style of clothing. You can google it. I know the words sounds confusing, but its a thing
Guys:
Would you kiss your gf after cumming in her mouth? And in her face? Would you eat her pussy after cumming inside?
Girls:
How would you feel if your bf did any of the above?
I wouldn't like him to cum on/in those places anyways, so I can't imagine how I'd react if a guy wanted to taste himself in those contexts.
I LOVE HOUSE AND I LOOVOE WILSON!!!!!!
What is your favorite frruit?
Freshly picked berries
I used to have the fattest crush on Lisa Cuddy.
And, watermelon!
Kiwis at the moment, but I really like bananas, citrus and pears
Mangoes are in season
Alhamdulilah
What is wrong with me that I will like a guy I am friends with and want him to like me too in that way and then when he does I get scared and shut it down? I hate myself I have done this several times
Imagine getting someone to like you back. Women really do have it on easy mode.
Last night I went out to the bar last minute to meet a girl I've been sleeping with casually and her other friend. We've been talking for a month or so now
When I got there there was some other dude hanging around them but he ended up getting really quiet. I later asked her about it and she said the guy was talking to her a lot and playing pool with her until I showed up and then he didnt talk to her anymore.
Anyone know why that is? He ended up leaving and it was just the girl, her friend and I
I hung out with them for awhile and then I took the girl home with me and we went to have sex but I had terrible whiskey dick and kept going soft and was exhausted which usually never happens and I felt really bad but we still fucked for awhile
I then took her home and I think when I was half asleep in my bed later we were texting and I made a half minded comment about having whiskey dick and she never responded
Did I fuck up? Was that dude trying to get with her?
Those are two separate questions right?
Yes he was hitting on her.
And don't make a big deal about not being able to get it up. The more of a fuss you make about it the weirder you make it.
>He was hitting on her
I figured. All I can remember is him being quiet and standing in the corner while I was there. I dunno. I wasnt going to go meet her at first but she kept asking me to come out, maybe he was making her uncomfortable or something. Why does it make me uncomfortable that some other dude was trying to get with her? I feel like territorial over it
But yeah, the past times weve been together it hasnt been an issue. Im probably over thinking it
I don't understand what you're upset about. What was she supposed to do? Leave?
What do you want from a man?
I only care about what other people think about him, I will form my opinion afterwards.
No rape
Respect, a good dicking, affection
>good dicking
For how long? How hard? What position?
Women,
If we let go of the 6ft height, 6+in schlong, and a pretty face.
What exactly would you look for in a guy?
State age and gender.
Meaning what else in addition to 2/3 of those things?
It's too early in the day for hornyposting
No. What would you look for in a world where a good face, height or dick is not needed?
I don't think I'm capable of genuinely engaging with that hypothetical. Sexual attraction is very important to me in a relationship. In a world where sexual attraction doesn't apply I think I'd just stay single.
26 F
Loyal, kind, fun, positive, fit, healthy of body and mind, similar beliefs/values.
Stuff like that
>similar beliefs/values
Like?
Are you single or with someone right now? Have you found that combination in a person yet? How common do you think it is in men these days to have these qualities?
Also where are you from, I'm assuming the States.
I’m getting married in a couple of months. I did find that perfect combination of person.
Idk how common this is, but I do feel like most men have some to a lot of these qualities. I know this place paint a harsh picture of everyone, but that’s not the real life I am apart of
Not from the states, Norway
Woah. Norway is amazing. It's secretly my dream country to live in. Congratulations on getting married soon, femanon!
Thank youuuu! Hope your dream comes true, maybe I’ll see you around
Ah! Cute girls! Hello!
Women:
Would a guy living with his parents lower your opinion of him? Particularly if he was doing so because of economical reasons.
Gender? What is the most pathetic thing you have ever done for someone of the opposite sex?
M
Trying to recall all the pathethic shit I did in middle school makes me want to kill myself so I'll leave it to your imagination
Male
In high school I went on a pseudo-date with a girl I liked (she thought it was just as friends). I paid for the movie tickets.
Kind of related.
A girl invited me to the movie theater and when I made the excuse that I was saving money she offered to pay for the tickets and food. How should I have interpreted that?
Sometimes a girl being friendly isn't trying to get you to fuck her.
Yet some times they do
When people flirt it's not always about sex, coomer.
M
trusted her
M. Loving her
M
Taking her back
I accompanied the girl I liked to an ultrasound test because her boyfriend just impregnated her. I think they are married now. At least I took a peak of her pussy so I could be worse.
F. Driving nearly 2 hours for a booty call.
Sure. Most guys are skinnyfat these days that's not even a detractor. A ton of people are some degree of autistic. If you're functional enough to have a job you're functional enough to date. And a stutter is a unique trait that someone who likes you would find endearing.
>Driving nearly 2 hours for a booty call
Was the dick worth it, though?
Yeah I had a good time
Nta but how did it go? Did you guys meet at a restaurant or straight to a hotel room or his house? Did you talk first or eat or watch Netflix first, and for how long? How did he/she initiate the whole intimate act?
I wanna know cuz i have no idea how to behave during a booty call.
It depends on the individuals involved and the situation. If you still want to know I'll expand on it a little bit there's nothing I could say that's going to teach you anything.
>there's nothing I could say that's going to teach you anything.
That's not true.
Go on! I'm curious.
We met up at his hotel and got down to business. I've had other hookups that went differently though. So it doesn't really mean anything.
>I've had other hookups that went differently though
Woah. Tell me about your favourite one. The one where the reception, the execution, and the whole thing was your best experience so far. How was that done? I don't mind if you go into the details.
Honestly kid you sound entirely too inexperienced to even think about engaging in hookups
Uh, I never asked for you to get into the "hookup" part. Just what the other person did before initiating the sex, and after it to make it a better experience.
I'm not the kind to hookup in the first place so ur right. But that doesn't mean it doesn't give me an idea on how to treat my future partners.
None of this changes my stance. You're overly concerned with the setup. How good the sex is determines how good the hookup was. Whether we watched Netflix first or not is immaterial.
Why you focused on netflix? I've literally never had sex wtf are u on about I don't wven know how to hookup. I guess I'll find out when I do. But atleast i can make things better with the things that are in my control.
You're such a retarded fuckn whore. I guess them guys really did fuck your 'brains out'. Smh.
>I've literally never had sex
I know. If you had you would know the questions you're asking don't make much sense.
Retard. Your only answer to my questions was: "We met at room, we had sex." That's what a hookup means you dumb slut.
Stop making it look like you provided any more information than that.
I'm not pretending anything dude. I'm telling you the information you are asking for doesn't matter.
Sure I could hold a job but right in uni and currently don’t have the skills yet for the professional I’m aiming for.
That's okay it's the basic level of skill that matters. You can function in social environments.
Correct yes. I’m in marching band at uni and I’m hoping there’s an attractive freshman in my section I can try to make a good impression on.
What do you play?
Alto saxophone
Good, very good. Go for clarinet players not flutists.
That’s just a stereotype, if that’s what you mean.
I played clarinet. My comment was based on their general attitudes not the blowjob thing. And sometimes stereotypes are true lmao.
Wait explain to me the blowjob thing? I didn’t know exactly what you were talking about but figured it was about some kind of stereotype.
Technically according to the stereotype you would be better at blowjobs too. The joke is that people who play reeded instruments have skilled tongues.
Oh I see now. But you meant good at eating pussy for me since I didn’t say I’m bi (which I’m not).
Nope the stereotype is blowjobs. Sexuality doesn't paly into it.
Oh I see. No I’ve just heard of “this one at band camp I stuck a flute up my pussy”.
That's just a movie quote not a stereotype. It's from American Pie.
Yeah I know and I guess it’s not.
This wasn’t really for someone but I had my first kiss in 8th grade with a girl I was friends with, and for some reason I thought that made us bf and gf, so I told our mutual friend that she is now my gf and he texted her right then and there to ask her and she said no.
That was pretty embarrassing.
M
Did the confession thing a few times because I didn't know how to get girls.
M. Sent her like three shipments of DVDs with Chinese dramas I torrented for her.
M
A girl that was pretty hot in my chemistry class and probably a year or two older was talking to me about Jay and Silent Bob and we had been talking about sex and stuff previously and I told her that I found a Jay and Silent Bob porno and she asked me to give it to her, so I burned it into a DVD and gave it to her, it was really cringe looking back on it.
M
Got a small gift for a girl I'd never see again.
I'm thinking of texting her now, 3 years can't be too much.
Running away from my family, cutting off all my hair, and taking a bus two states away while everyone was looking for me thinking I went missing.
Trying to bribe a guy to stay with me by paying him disgusting amounts of money and still getting treated like shit anyways.
Gf has thrush and my dick burns a little. Doesn't look bad and no discharge. What do?
Good job now you need to spend even more money because you also have a yeast infection. Go to the drugstore and get some monistat wtf is wrong with both of you?
How fat is your gf?
Cheating can happen accidentally. And I've never had the prostitutes subject come up when having gfs.
She's actually almsot stick thin and I'm really skinny too.
Sorry dad
Why do you care about the opinion of some random fugly on LULZ? You are going to hide it from her anyways, stop it already.
I wasn't the original anon. I know to hide everything involved in paying for sex.
Women.
You set up a date with a guy and he shows up wearing this. He doesn't pull attention to it, he just wears it completely casually. What do you do and how do you react?
Text my sister to call me with a fake emergency so I can leave.
I'd be amused. Still kind of wish i could've talked to the guy I saw wearing an inuyasha shirt, leather jacket, nice dress shoes, and a fedora
Is it actually possible for me, a skinny fat autistic guy with a stutter, to hit it off with a girl from the very beginning?
As another skinny-fat autistic guy with a stutter, the answer is:
I dunno.
I’m with new semester coming up in August, I’m always imagine I can make a good first impression despite not being attractive at all and possibly kind of ugly. The stutter’s not too bad, I think when I plan what I’m gonna say is when it hits bad. I don’t think I really have anything interesting going for me.
>from the very beginning
Possible? yes
Probable? No
Girls: Your bf sends you this song with no additional context:
How do you interpret this action?
State gender:
Do you think betrayal of trust is particularly evil? Not just in relationships, in all kinds of sitautions. If so, why?
Yes but it should be self-explanatory
F. Evil? No. Morally deplorable? Yes. Can you imagine what the world would be like if we couldn't trust the majority of people to keep their word? It would be chaos.
>evil
No but it is fairly human... being that human nature can often be pretty foul
Its just a shitty thing to do. Trust is often times like blind faith. You're really making yourself vulnerable to being betrayed.
Okay let's settle this:
Girls: what are signs you are being very obviously flirty with a guy and not just being friendly?
>very obvious
Uhhhhh
i eat him
Leave your vore fantasies at the door.
i dont mean it in a vore way
I've heard that one before, and I know better than to trust it now.
Lacking the willpower not to embarrass myself and reach out to her right now
Man, why are bisexual women so much better than straight women? Straight women have these insanely high standards for men and are boring submissives who like to be pampered and treated like princesses. Recently had sex with a bisexual woman and she was the only one who allowed me to fuck her feet.
>why are all x like this and y are like that?
>my N=1
lmao
You just got lucky. I'm bi and would never do feet stuff.
Well she was also the first woman to not make fun of me for my autism, probably because she also had it. So that and the footjobs were firsts.
>why are whores more sexual
Women,
Do you prefer males with bigger flanges?
State gender
which body fat percentage looks best for men and women?
M
Women 20-22% men 15%
M
That is a shit pic.
For guys 12% in summer, 20% in winter.
For women 25-30%.
>That is a shit pic.
post a better one then homosexual
>20% in winter.
You're bulking and cutting 8% bf in a year lmao? Sounds like either you're a manlet or you just don't know how to keep the weight off.
>post a better one then
I never needed one, and I'm not here to teach you.
>Sounds like either you're a manlet or you just don't know how to keep the weight off
Holy neurosis, I didn't mean to upset you boy
>I never needed one, and I'm not here to teach you.
Concession accepted
>Holy neurosis, I didn't mean to upset you boy
Putting on and dumping 8% bf every 6 months is not healthy and I imagine fucking sucks.
I have no idea why you'd willingly subject yourself to that.
M
>female
25-30% is the best
Anything from 15 to 40% is fine. Maybe 45% if she has a really good personality.
>male
10-15% is the best
I think 6% to 35% is reasonable.
23M
25% is the sweet spot, but I'll go for the 20% woman, so that by the time she's 50 she knows how to keep herself in shape and is less than 30%.
F. Same as
nothing wrong with the 10-12% body fat guy but that's the point where I'll start feeling insecure about myself in comparison to him.
You understand a 10% bf natural guy is going to be on the lanky side, right?
The guy in the picture sure isn't.
M, can’t they at least have women wearing similar bikinis/bras. I would say 15-17% but probably because she has more skin showing.
>reality: men have to be athletic, fit; women have to not be fat
is this something that needs to be repeated everyday?
Men, why are you so horny all the time.
Testosterone from my testes
I'm not. I actually have a low libido. I rarely want sex, and my performance may be sub-par compared to other men who are hornier than I am. Wouldn't you prefer it if I were horny all the time instead?
>Wouldn't you prefer it if I were horny all the time instead?
Depends on the guy. A relationship with a man who needs sex every night can go to shit fast. Even if I'm horny, abstaining from sex is easier than having sex daily.
Wouldn't it hurt your feelings sometimes if you were in the mood for sex, but he wasn't? Are you sure you wouldn't feel rejected or undesirable in those situations?
I guess it's different for guys because you're programmed to have as much sex as possible. Women can't afford to do that because they can only bear one child every 9 months, in that same amount of time men can impregnate thousands of women. So women's sex drives are pretty low in comparison. I wouldn't be offended if you weren't in the mood because that's how I'd be most of the time.
>So women's sex drives are pretty low in comparison
lol
You'd think otherwise if your only exposure to women is through social media or in spaces where you're looking to hookup, but your average woman isn't interested in having sex or masturbating several times a week like men.
I'm not, the incels are just different
But would you be happy with fucking only once a week?
I’d have to be in a sexual relationship to know I think.
How often do you fap?
Like usually 3-4 times a week usually.
Sex is not a four letter word. But no, I would not be satisfied with being intimate so infrequently in a relationship if at all possible
I am not.
I wish I wasn't but I can't help it.
>Concession accepted
More like assumed, lmao
>Putting on and dumping 8% bf every 6 months is not healthy and I imagine fucking sucks
I just have a very demanding metabolism. I can handle adding and eventually losing over 15kg the same year.
I didn't say I hit 12% either, I'm closer to 14 when I'm cut.
I don't care about aesthetics much either. As long as you've been doing sports and lifting for years you look good, you don't need to be obsessive.
I did say it's a shit picture
>45% if she has a really good personality
As in, tiddies. I can't resist a chubby girl with a good personality either.
6% is natty unattainable and 35% is fat as fuck, anon.
>I did say it's a shit picture
Then why did you use it?
I didn't, look a few replies back, I got in a heated battle of wits with OP.
I dare say I won, devastatingly, and he will have to lift heavy and eat healthier than ever if he wants to regain his lost honor.
And I wish him the best in doing that because deep down I only wish the best to all the losers ITT.
Now let's go get some drinks.
>More like assumed, lmao
No, you conceded that you couldn't post a better diagram
Until you stop just chatting shit and actually demonstrate, that concession stands
>I just have a very demanding metabolism. I can handle adding and eventually losing over 15kg the same year.
No you don't lmao, you have poor impulse control and discipline and crash diet every year to get into beach shape.
When summer ends you open your mouth like a fucking funnel and then by January when you start to look in the mirror and feel like shit you go back on shakes and the cycle starts again.
>I didn't say I hit 12% either, I'm closer to 14 when I'm cut.
And I said that bouncing between those "ideals" is fucking retarded. I have no idea how you even justify 20 being "ideal" for winter besides the fact that you stuff your fat ass with pizza the moment summer ends and can't control your weight gain.
Yo-yo dieting has extremely well documented negative health outcomes. If you're regularly spending half the year dieting then you need to get your shitty nutrition under control.
My dude you just wrote a paragraph on why you assume I eat like your mother and how bad I am for that yet I mog the shit out of you
homosexual at 20% BF the only thing you're mogging me in is the size of your tits.
If you're bouncing between even 14 and "20" BF periodically every year you are fucking your health far worse than people who are just fat for literally 0 benefit outside of instagram
And you've still given me literally 0 justification for why 20 is even ideal in winter... besides the fact that lardasses like you can't keep the ben and jerry's out of their mouth once beach season ends.
Lmao enough talk.
Post body.
If you want to eat the ban and join the gallery to prove me wrong then you're more than welcome to
But I've got BPD girls to torment here and that's a better use of my next 3 days than you.
Nta but...winter is cold and fat is insulating.
You could also just literally wear clothes?
Unless you're pushing it really low (like sub 10%) then you shouldn't be feeling cold all the time and you shouldn't get fat just to avoid feeling cold.
I'm not him but I'm cold if it's below 70f and I'm not in direct sunlight. It makes sense to me.
That is not normal.
I would guess that you maybe have either an iron or a vitamin D deficiency
Probably both
But then how do you explain the correlation? You can be calm and clear headed and still an asshole.
>how do you explain the correlation
I already did; it's social.
You're treated different when you have high test.
You can easily choose to be an asshole, you're presented with opportunities most people aren't because of the different treatment you receive.
Think of beautiful women as a similar case.
They can choose to be bitchy and self obsessed and still enjoy privileges.
It's not a hormonal issue, it's a social one and it can be tragic, but you can choose to be a high test guy or a beautiful woman and still be kind. It's the harder way but I believe it leads to better results.
You also said "Higher angrogenic properties generally result in a calmer, clear head, just snapping into fight mode or sex mode hard if you need to." And I interpreted that to mean that you think high test men are less likely to be assholes than other men. And that would contradict your other statement. I'm confused.
High T. All the
>I'm not
answers are from low T betas
I hate that having high T makes men more physically attractive and more likely to be an asshole at the same time.
Being retarded makes you an asshole. High T + genius IQ makes you Batman/Bateman
Being stupid doesn't make people mean that's ridiculous. But I know you're joking because no one would seriously make this argument and use Bateman as a positive example.
It doesn't, though. Higher angrogenic properties generally result in a calmer, clear head, just snapping into fight mode or sex mode hard if you need to.
Asshole behavior is largely a social derivation of being treated different and having privilege.
That sucks man, since you wrote a whole book about me I assumed you'd at least take the 3 days off for a shot at proving your point.
>That sucks man
Sorry to ego crash you, dude. You're just not worth it.
My ego's pretty fine, you're the one who went on a rant and then chickened out.
Quote me with a body pic at any time if you want to put money where your mouth is and settle it like a man then take the ban and spend some time off the internet together to have very manly gay sex where the winner fucks the loser in the ass.
>chickened out
Chickened out of what? An arbitrary challenge you set me that would give me a ban that you're not even willing to do yourself?
OP goes first, it's the rule.
I already gave you my word that I'm posting back.
It's not arbitrary if you care about proving me wrong. I said I gigamog you already, are you going to stay quiet?
Yeah, because it's true. In general men who are aggressive or bitchy have high e2. High test and general hormonal balance gives you a reassured confidence.
>Buzz cuts are awful
In what dimension? It's only gotten more popular in recent years, a buzz cut with a fresh fade.
>OP goes first, it's the rule.
That you just made up?
You made the challenge, retard. I'm not going to jump through hoops like a monkey just because you made up a game to play by yourself.
>In what dimension?
This one. Where the fuck do you live because it sure as hell isn't the states, or you're not white.
Testosterone, most likely.
I'm an asshole but the high T is probably unrelated.
Do you think insulting my ex so I can ruin all the good memories I've with her will make me feel any better? I just can't forget her.
So far I have always treated her with respect after our breakup and never blamed her for anything while she acted condescending towards me. I really want to spit on her face.
Have any of you ever fucked/been fucked by a femboy? How did it go?
I think Im having an anxiety attack what should I do
hello future milfs
That's a bigger compliment than you think. Thanks.
Bold of you to assume I'll procreate
Is it still an assumption if it's something I can influence?
Bold of you to assume you have any influence
Bold of you to imply I have none.
Women would you date a guy who ate the same three meals over and over again?
saw a girl i graduated with 10 years ago out last night in a bar out of town
we said hi and she squeezed my arm as she left after getting her drink
she's cute but is a lez
On a scale from 1-10 how obvious a guy has never had sex, both irl and potentially during the act?
As long as your body language and facial expressions don't make it obvious that you're not used to interacting with women, I wouldn't be able to tell nor would I care if I found out.
Not obvious unless I'm in the process of trying to have sex with him. I can guess but it's easy to be wrong. More often than not I'm surprised when I hear that someone has no sexual experience.
And even in the moment a lot of it can be played off as nerves or as being relatively inexperienced but not completely inexperienced. The only way to know for sure is if they tell me outright.
Male virgin but
>irl
I guarantee most people massively overrate their abilities to predict this, outside of extreme cases.
Even people you would assume are virgins might have been in the right place at the right time for it to happen
When I tell people that I'm a virgin they are universally surprised.
>during the act
It's probably a lot more obvious, especially at certain ages.
With that said I bet there are still a ton of partners who are awkward and unconfident despite having sex and also some virgins who just don't get pre-flight nerves and are confident at what they're doing.
State gender:
What do you think of pic-related hairstyle? I desperately need a haircut and I have facial features at least sort of close to the model in the pic.
It's a bit emo but it doesn't look bad.
I think it would look a lot more stupid without the beard though.
My beard is not that big but it's still pretty similiar in terms of overall shape and color.
Then it would probably look fine.
I don't trust you to judge your face/beard relative to the model though
I mean I know I'm not THAT handsome, I'm just talking about general facial stucture. My nose is smaller, though, but that doesn't really matter much.
How about this one, instead? Which do you think would fit better? I usually keep my hair long but summer's coming so fuck that.
>Which do you think would fit better?
It 100% depends on how you dress.
The one you've posted there is much safer and goes with more but it's not objectively "better"
If you're going beach then generally I'd recommend avoiding cuts which need a specific styling to look good.
Just so I know, M or F?
M
It's a nerd haircut. Buzz cuts work, I don't get why everyone on LULZ thinks he should get something else instead.
Nice try, I'm not enlisting myself to the military you fucks.
Cute, but probably a little annoying for you you're going to get poked in the eyes with your own hair.
Do NOT listen to this guy he's trying to sabotage you. Buzz cuts are awful.
How do you know when to get a bodyguard? Do people have incidents and then decide it's worth spending money on?
Guys arguing with each other on here is hot in a way but I can't tell if they'd be physically attractive or not.
If you have to ask, the answer is no.
🙁
Some of the guys on here are shockingly handsome which just makes it even sadder
Got any pics?
No I don't save pics like that one creep
You would be able to tell if he wasn't a homosexual and posted body as soon as I insulted him
Women would you date a man with a body count of 50?
If he also has a recent clean std test sure
Enlighten me. How will you influence women to want to get pregnant?
>How will you influence women to want to get pregnant?
We start talking on LULZ, exchange some light flirting and trade socials.
Then we start messaging each other privately. Intermittently at first and then one night we find ourselves staying up until 3am because neither of us wants to hang up.
A few months later I'm coincidentally in your city for work and I suggest meeting up for coffee. We have a great time and an hour's meeting spirals into the afternoon. As we're walking down the high street our eyes meet in the right light and we kiss.
Things start hard since we're long distance but we both put in the effort to me it work. Meeting up a couple of times a year isn't ideal but in time we come to love each other so we make it work.
Then, finally, we find a way to live together and it's like magic. For months we can't keep our hands off of one another.
Then those months turn into years. Infatuation turns into love. As we're sat at a restaurant celebrating our anniversary we stare into one another's eyes and know there's nothing more in the world we've ever wanted.
At this point you've already been introduced to my family - including my younger brother and sister who are probably about 9 or 10 by now. They're annoying, they're pests but they're also bundles of energy and I just seem to get on so well with them. You look at me and you see how happy they make me and how much they love me and it just melts your heart.
And at that point the conflict wells up inside of you - between your biology and how you see me and your fears and anxieties about having children.
One night you come up to me. You don't say what you're feeling out loud but we both now what you've been thinking about.
And that's when I say to you:
>You're the most beautiful woman in the world to me. I would give the world to you. I would love you no matter what and if you choose to do this I'll give it my everything.
That night, our first child is concieved.
Or I just take "want" out of it.
Touch grass.
I'd rather touch ass if you know what I mean
You're going to have to stop writing cheesy shitty romance novels in your head if you want that to happen.
>You're going to have to stop writing cheesy shitty romance novels in your head
Make me
Unfortunately you have to leave /atoga/
Making you would require me to give a shit
Then I guess we're both just going to have to deal with the consequences of my pulp romance addiction
I won't, but you will. Just consider that.
>I won't
Anon, you really don't appreciate the deep bond that we've formed here today
Nobody cares about soapy trash. You need to make these stories about a damaged, albeit recovering, former doomer. And it needs to be a saga spanning several months, at least. Your audience might have a saviour complex - capitalize on that.
How to unsubscribe from this smut gazette?
No, anything double digit is a deal breaker and above 5 is a red flag.
Men ITT,
Reply which one you have or think you have.
BPD
Schizo
One piss bottle close by
Living with parents
Wearing clothes not previously washed
Brown race
M. I am hispanic-french so I guess by US standards I would be considered "brown". That's the only one
>schizophrenia
yes diagnosed
no not taking meds, ever
>brown
If you consider meds brown, because I'm part med. I couldn't care less.
B A L K A N S
>unmedicated schizo
>balkan trash
Yep, checks out.
I don't see you posting body, yankee
Not a yankee, and if you saw my big beautiful mantitties they would haunt your nightmares and you would be even more paranoid than you currently are.
Schizoaffective here
Nice try.
Yeah living with my parents. If I do get an entirely remote job, I’ll most likely move into my grandparents old home next door, at least for a period of time and also being paying taxes, electric bill, and whatever else there is (there’s a well so no water bill). Not much around here but I could do home gym, no rent, and re-start the garden.
What boards do hot dudes post on
/k/ and LULZ
>hot dudes
>LULZ
Haha
Hahahahahahahahaha
I'm the only hot dude on LULZ.
Where do you post?
Why not? I thought LULZ being gay was a meme.
I post on here and /vg/. I've posted a few times on LULZ but it's too depressing even for me.
>thought LULZ being gay was a meme
It's an exaggerated internet gym.
Go to the gym and see how awkward hot guys can be, then collect the worst and put then on LULZ.
I don't really post there anymore, might post in /cbt/ sometime again if I get a smartphone but I can't even take pics of myself right now.
/fit/, but we don't talk to women
I lurk /x/, but I only go on LULZ if I have to ask a question
Have to take someone to urgent care and Im panicking I don't want to sit in that nasty ass waiting room for hours
How do you think the person who needs to go to urgent care feels about it? I doubt they want to go either but they have to. Suck it up and wait outside if the waiting room is really too much for you.
Been there. Do it for your friend, or you will soon have none.
Sit in the car.
You wanna cuddle?
We can cuddle in the back of the fucking hearse
Post gender
Have you ever been to a nudist place?
I've gone to a nudist club a couple of times so AMA I guess.
Yeah I've been to your mom's place lmao
M, no.
F. Nah. I don't have any interest in driving over an hour and probably having to pay to hang out with a bunch of old and middle aged naked people. I don't have any issue with it if I ended up on a nude beach I'd do what's expected but I just don't care to involve myself in that.
You very much overestimate my ability to recognize anons. Once this reply chain ends we become nothing to each other and that's the way I like it lol.
>You very much overestimate my ability to recognize anons.
Anon do you really think the autist who posts a 2000 character love story every couple of days is going to be hard to miss?
Plus saying that we'll never talk again just makes it a "star-crossed lovers" situation which is literally the perfect fuel for escapist romance fantasies.
I'll keep that in mind.
Maybe a doomer who tries some advice on here and slowly improves his shape/attitude but can just never seem to get results.
As he's slowly worn down a beautiful, nurturing soul pushes him gently in the right direction and the spark is instant.
Seriously kiddo go touch some grass. I don't even consistently recognize JH.
Honestly is a pretty dissapointing experience but I wanted to try it at least once. Those places are secretly orgy gatherings.
>secretly
No anon I think that was just you who didn't realize it.
Men ITT
Reply if you grow hair on your shaft.
Do you pluck or shave?
Everyone grows hair on his shaft, anon.
I just trim it because it feels weird shaved.
I also grow hair on the rest of my body so a shaved dick is obviously off.
God Im so mad about this interview. Im going to bash my head into a wall I always fuck everything up
>tfw no gf to watch new botchamania with
What are my chances of finding a girlfriend at local indie shows?
Probably your best choice there would be a joshitranny or some shit like that
I still can't get over the GDP debacle. It's just so stupid how everyone latched onto the notion that every-single-one of the women in those videos was coerced. Do these people know that many of these women even went BACK for more videos?
I just can't get over it.
<-- poor "victims"!
women what do you think about the girlsdoporn debacle?
They were explicitly told that the videos would never be posted online, and signed a contract that stated it. The ones who went back did so still thinking that these were videos that would never be posted online. That is the main issue here. They absolutely are victims, more of fraud than coercion but still. Just because they agreed to do porn doesn't make them not victims - they consented to do a certain type of porn only and were frauded into a different type.
>They were explicitly told that the videos would never be posted online, and signed a contract that stated it.
this actually only applies to a few portion of these women.
>The ones who went back did so still thinking that these were videos that would never be posted online.
lol
>They absolutely are victims
there's literally a list over reddit with the ones that admit to be cheating:
https://www.reddit.com/r/CheatingSluts/comments/8x2pd6/a_list_of_all_the_girls_do_porn_models_who/
the only thing women are being victims here is of facing the consequences of their actions
>this actually only applies to a few portion of these women.
"They did something horrible and illegal, but only to SOME of them!!!!!"
>"They did something horrible and illegal, but only to SOME of them!!!!!"
which was my original point when I started talking about this
People think every single one of these are victims, when the reality is lots of them are simply facing the consequences of being sluts
Oh so you don't actually want to hear anyone's opinions, you just wanted an excuse to be a misogynist. Got it
I wondered why he was being so pushy about it. He wanted a "gotcha" moment.
Porn actresses claiming they have a bf in vids when they actually don't is very common, it's called acting. Trial records show that many of the women were forced to say that, you can see a comment about right in your own link.
https://www.reddit.com/r/CheatingSluts/comments/8x2pd6/comment/j5isgl7/
Thank god the law disagrees with you and they arrested all the POS men who ran this thing, hopefully the girls get nice settlements too.
>Trial records show that many of the women were forced to say that, you can see a comment about right in your own link.
>yes, trust the testimony of JANE DOE 17, it's obvious that she's going to tell the authority that she was cheating on her boyfriend
>it's called acting
wow, I thought they weren't really actresses but normal women coerced?
>if I ignore the fact he admits some girls were actually victims, then that means his other point doesn't exist.
It's not his point. It's the way he presenting it that's suspect.
Can't believe I fell for this obvious troll bait. Anyways, next?
Taylor Swift isn't that good. Adele and Beyonce are both littier.
I like her music but she's nuts. Textbook BPD. Why doesn't she ever get mental help and stop going through boyfriends like tissues?
Taylor Swift has such a plain voice. She’s a pretty good songwriter but I don’t think she even has a 3 octave range.
I cannot get horny unless there’s a major size difference btwn me and a guy
Is this weird
No, it's just an extension of your female desire to be dominated
Hmm but why
does this anon say it’s a fetish if natural
It's a fairly natural fetish compared to shit like giantess or armpits.
Those are unnatural
Big guys are just guys
Cartoonishly big sure
Liking REALLY BIG boobs is a fetish even though liking boobs is natural.
It's a fetish that takes sexual dimorphism to the extreme
Day 4 of period no bf wanting bj 🙁
Day 4 of I'm willing to go through with it, L O N D O N
What sports do you men enjoy?
What do you think of other men who don't care about sports?
I like football (soccer), martial arts and tennis.
I don't mind guys who don't like sports
Climbing, running, surfing, snowboarding (the only one I have yet to try)
M
Basically just rock climbing and running, nothing competative
I don't really think about other guys who care or don't care about sports
Boxing, cycling, basketball, weightlifting.
>What do you think of other men who don't care about sports?
I don't, I guess they just haven't tried them or something
I train mma, and I watch pro wrestling and ufc. Sports are all rigged anyway, so I tune in for the promos and cool/brutal moments of athleticism. Tribalism is fun, but crying about sportball is cringe as fukk
I only like pro wrestling.
Asking the women in here because I'm curious,
What period products do you use?
Pads, tampons, diva cup, reusable pads or period underwear?
I use reusable pads at home and reusable underwear if I'm leaving the house.
Apparently using reusable or unbleached pads/tampons help with period cramping.
I use a reusable disc and sometimes period underwear- if I'm in a pinch I get the expensive cotton pads
Mostly overnight pads, or a panty liner and disc if I'm going somewhere.
what's your take on the girlsdoporn debacle?
No take. I don't know anything about it.
oh ok
I ain't clickin on that
its just porn
I wasn't saying that it's something illegal I was saying I don't give enough of a fuck to watch it so i can answer your question
Absolute state of coomers
>wow, porn
oh, ok.
I take continuous birth control so I don't have periods at all. It's amazing
Seeing this girl casually
We were out last night and have been sleeping together
After I drop her at home and go to bed I get a notification from Snapchat at like 4 AM that she screen recorded our chats
Ask her about it in the AM and she says her “ex situationship” showed up in the middle of the night after she wasn’t responding to him and went through her phone
This made me feel uncomfortable and like I’m dealing with a woman who dates shitty toxic men and now I want to cut her off
Am I wrong for doing so? Should I just be honest and tell her I don’t want to get involved and that we can’t hang anymore?
Homie for sure recorded the chats and sent them to himself on his phone and god knows what he’ll do with them
What I'm wondering is how he got in. Either she let him in or she doesn't remember to lock her doors. Neither option is good.
I remember her looking at her phone a lot when we were in the car
She sent me a snap of her laying in her bed looking half asleep
I feel like he may have legitimately just showed up but she probably let him in and or go through her phone
Either way I feel like I’m not unreasonable for not wanting to see her again.
How do I express this to her or do I just not talk to her again?
Does it really matter? Do what you think is the right thing to do. If you're not planning on seeing her again it doesn't matter if your honesty upsets her.
Femanons, do you have desires to be impregnated or do you just want to skip that stage altogether?
I don't understand the question. What stage? Are you asking if women enjoy sex?
No he means impregnation
What does he mean by stage?
I would guess either sex for the purpose of procreation, pregnancy or having kids
That is incredibly unhelpful what was even the point of replying
I think he's asking if you actually want to go through the process of being pregnant and giving birth or if you would just want to skip it
Women is it a red flag if a man is over 25 and has never been in a relationship?
Guys, I am a nympho but my new boyfriend has a small penis, should I break up, otherwise he is almost perfect? My ex was the opposite - he was so toxic and unpleasant but had the biggest cock, it is even hard to call my bf's thing a penis
Is it all my fault?
Men, how did it feel when you first learned to trust women? Was it more like a heavy weight being lifted from your shoulders, or was it a relief like you just stopped banging your head against a wall?
I didn't really have to learn to trust women, I was just surrounded by honest and hardworking women while growing up
It was only when that trust was taken advantage of by other women that I became a misogynist
Pretty much waht
said in the first sentence, I never had problems trusting them. And fortunately I didnt go through anything that made me lose trust either
femanons
is there a hierarchy in your friend group?
What I mean by that is sorta along the lines of the stereotype about girls being friends with one or a few objectively less attractive women. Are you aware of this imbalance of physical appearance between you and those friends (or yourself if you are that friend) and if so, how does it manifest in your group dynamics?
I don't have any friends
Ditto
>friend group
Good joke
Yes I have a strong desire for it
I don't know what else to call if you hate each other
No we don’t have that. I have nice friends
but is there still an imbalance of appearance? not like something small where "yeah I think so and so is a little cuter than so and so", but like an objective "she's just not attractive even though we like her"?
No, good friends don’t think like that
I don't want anyone to get jannied but sometimes I really wish you guys would post your bodies.
same but for women
Everyone on there is ugly though
Don't tell me the guys on here are the ones posting there :/
NTA but as a bislut, the guys on /soc/ are hotter than the girls. At least body-wise.
>Don't tell me the guys on here are the ones posting there :/
The overlap is basically 1, besides the fact that I don't post there.
What are your standards for not ugly, btw?
Strictly in terms of physical appearance? It varies with each person, hard to set universal standards when some guys look good lean or buff or dadbod or even somewhat fat like the dude from Moana.
Voice can definitely make or break a guy no matter how hot their body is, I like both younger and older sounding guys but again it depends, if your pitch doesn't match the way you look then it is offputting. Certain voices also make me think you're legitimately retarded/slow in the head, think dying old man voice coming from a 20-30 y/o.
Confident/relaxed, not awkward/stiff body language. I think guys underestimate how much lack of confidence affects their physical attractiveness, a 10/10 guy will look significantly uglier if they're constantly twitching with an anxious look on their face.
Besides all of that, a hot guy is rounded off by their personality and interests.
vocaroo.com/11BEpz6Xd0w6
I can't tell europoor accents apart from each other but yours is nice.
Why the fuck would I show my lardass?
My life is a mess, and I’ve developed an eating disorder that’s affecting my workouts, so I look and feel like shit, but here you go. I guess this should be my last post
https://imgur.com/a/e7A3Xd5
You need to eat more but your face and arms look good.
Working on it. Thank you
Nice face. The bird tattoo sure is a choice. Hope you're getting help for the eating disorder
I don’t know who I would get help from. I hate even admitting that I’ve done this to myself
Depending on how bad things are just surrounding yourself with healthy role models and making a conscious effort to improve might be enough
Putting all of my autism into nutrition is what got me here. Now I don’t know what to eat more of, so I starve.
I don’t know how I could trust any one doctor to be able to help me
You could also check into a psych clinic and then you'd have a team of doctors helping you
Nta but I DO NOT recommend going to inpatient for eating disorders. They put you with everyone. He'll be traumatized from witnessing violent outbursts and having to hang around people who's mental health is WAY worse than his.
I didn't mean the ward which is a different thing, I mean the general clinic. Like IOP programs and stuff
I don't think there's any reason for him to go to group therapy if he doesn't want to.
I do want to just fix it myself. I’m struggling, but it’s my own fault. I’m just a mess
I guess so. I ruined my last relationship because of this. I just want to heal
A psychologist. You should set up an intake appt asap
Is sex like in the movies or romance books
No
What’s so different
You realize that literally nothing in movies matches reality right? The coffee cups are empty, the coworkers playing a couple actual dislike each other, it's all a farce.
No. In those, women have constant intense orgasms. Irl, we're lucky if a guy even remembers that the clit exists at all during sex. It's amazing just how bad most men are in bed.
You're the one who picks them
I think it's a fairly even split t b h. The ones who do a bad job despite having lots of experience aren't bad at it, they don't give a shit.
>have read shitton of literature and watched guides on all sorts of ways to pleasure a woman and how exactly it should be done
>how to find her pace, how to assess how sensitive she is, how to ramp the pleasure up, how to maximize her pleasure and increase chances of multiple orgasms
>never touched a woman in my life because I am too shy
I feel like I am an IRL version of the Mary's Room thought experiment
why dont men care about having a good reputation sexually? being known as the guy bad at sex isn’t a good thing yet…
Reputation aside, wouldn’t u want ur sex partner to think of u positively? idgi
because the only ones you fuck can just move along to another woman as easily as changing socks
This.
Why would you be nice to females or care about pleasing them when they line up for your height and looks? You bitches reap what you sow.
This lol
>Only fuck 10% of men
>"Why aren't the 90% as good at sex :("
Bonus points for never communicating it to your partner.
But yeah I couldn't get good at sex even if I wanted.
>It's amazing just how bad most men are in bed.
Women are just as shit, it's just that expectations for them are far lower
The difference is that no matter how bad a woman is in bed, men will still be able to orgasm from the sex. Not the case the other way around. Orgasm gap is a huge problem
>The difference is that no matter how bad a woman is in bed, men will still be able to orgasm from the sex
That's not the point, the point is women are still shit at sex
>Orgasm gap is a huge problem
Also a self-inflicted one. Turns out when you give a small group of men all the options they have no real obligation to care about an individual girl's need. Weird, huh
Most men would like to practice as much as they can but they don't have the chance for that.
How are you supposed to get good at sex if you have it once or twice a year?
Where can I find a cute BPD girl who can orgasm from only penetration?
Right here. But notice you didn't specify that she wants to have anything to do with you lol.
His strength level matters more than his size. Doesn't matter how big he is if he gets tired too quickly.
>notice you didn't specify that she wants to have anything to do with you lol
Be still my broken heart.
I sleep tonight only to dream that one day you may be mine
Oh honey no. I'd make you want to kill yourself without even trying.
>I'd make you want to kill yourself without even trying.
Anon I've already beaten you to the punch there
All the more reason for you to stay away from bpd women
If I'm already scraping the bottom of the barrel then I'm pretty excited to see what's underneath
>excited
You shouldn't enjoy suffering anon
True, but we can't change who we are.
Although I can definitely fix you
Fix yourself
How about I just fix us some drinks?
Thanks
I'm Bri'ish
No thank you
>No thank you
I knew it was coming but it still hurts to hear.
>be me
>record myself at night with my phone
>Before you ask it's for snoring which pretty reliable indicator of sleep apnea
>Go through the recording today
>Hear a female voice whispering and speaking
I'm gonna fucking die, something is going to reap my sovl
post it
...what was she saying? Do you have neighbors on the other side of the wall?
Corner spot of the apartment building, no idea what
Is sex with a bigger/taller man better than with an average sized man
not in my experience
Both genders
Do you believe that a genuine relationship is well worth the risks in 2023?
Given that dating is pretty hard
Incels need not reply
>inb4 wOmeN / mEn aRe aLl eViL
Yes.
What risks?
I suppose any risks you make yourself vulnerable to when dating IE heart break / cheating etc
I just feel like authenticity / honesty / transparency are becoming increasingly rare
>I just feel like authenticity / honesty / transparency are becoming increasingly rare
>"Hi anon, what are the best ways of hurting you?"
>"Oh well I'm extremely vulnerable to plasma and edged weapons..."
>she flips on her lightsaber
fuck off.
>I just feel like authenticity / honesty / transparency are becoming increasingly rare
Because that doesn't bring results. And I'm a gangsta, so I need to lie by default anyway...
Letting myself feel things and be vulnerable is worth the risk.
I feel the opposite, that authenticity / honesty / transparency are becoming more common.
Yes, of course. It's what we're meant for. Dating is hard though, I'll give you that.
You have a great voice, anon.
>You have a great voice, anon.
Thank you
M. Love is the peak of the human experience. It is always worth the risk
Women, what are you thoughts on pic related?
I would hate that, I feel guilty for saying it but I hope my thighs never get like that
There is no man small enough to look like that next to me.
But do you have soft, pillowy thighs?
No
Perky tits?
Lmao no. They've been saggy since I got to a c cup in 10th grade.
Sensitive nipples?
Not really.
Nice butt?
Not at the moment but I've got good genetics. It can be and has been nice. What is the point of this line of questioning btw?
>point
There isn't one. Are your nails painted?
So just curiosity? Nope.
>The only winning move is not to play
Exactly. Don't say anything unless you're willing to say what you mean.
I came 🙂
Average American couple
Girls, would you wash your boyfriend's car in a bikini for his birthday?
I don't... think anyone would ever want to see me in a bikini, but if I had a bf who somehow wanted that, sure I wouldn't mind
Oh hey you're back. Can't wait for the porn spam
Women,
>6’2
>fit
>grad student
>great CS job
>lots of friends
>great relationship with family
>mentally healthy
>still love my high school sweetheart/best friend from 6 years ago
am I crazy, or do I just genuinely love her?
If you didn't mention it I'd think you were describing a dude.
Do men want girls who act like them?
>Do men want girls who act like them?
that's almost the only thing we want
No, I’m describing myself.
What are you doing here? Girls would kill to have someone like you.
Nvm I read that wrong.
Question still stands tho.
>Do men want girls who act like them?
No.
>What are you doing here?
I used to be a druggy loser only 2-3 years ago. This place is a kind of remnant from my past, but I still come on here to talk about the woman I love and lost to my own stupidity and her mental illness.
I thought I may have just been crazy for loving her as much as I do, but none of it changes as I get older and more mature. I just end up loving her more. I don’t know what to do.
that's fixation, possibly obsession, not love
>that's fixation, possibly obsession, not love
Yeah, I’ve tried to take that mentality, but it’s just not the case. It’d be a lot easier if it were. I really do love, miss, and worry about her.
Take a stroll through the limerence subr*ddit.
What mental illness? Sounds like you might be attached to her solely out of familiarity.
Love doesn’t always work in this world. It is what it is. Coping by psychologizing that I have some mental illness or attachment problems when I very clearly don’t is a waste of fucking time.
I love a girl. It didn’t work. I’m sad about it and seeing if anything has changed since my life turned around. Fuck sakes.
Is she your only romantic experience?
Why are men so weird? Every time I get complimented a guy will bring it up first but state it in vague or matter of fact terms, then afterwards a girl will bring it up and they frame it as a compliment. Only then do I realize that it was supposed to be a good thing.
Example: >Oh _____ you're wearing all black today.(male)
>Wow, you look good today did you dye your hair? You didn't? I guess it's just the black clothes that bring it out but you look good!(female)
This has happened multiple times with guys at work bringing things up to me and then a woman will compliment me. Weird. I hate people
Because the guy is trying to show he noticed but if he compliments you "too hard" it will look like he is hitting on you and he doesnt mean to do that.
t. guy who does that
A better way to do that would be to give the genuine compliment then immediately move on and change the subject.
nta but you're simply wrong about this. be grateful that we deign to pay any attention to you whatsoever.
You could also just not say anything at all weirdo. What's the point of giving a half ass compliment that can be interpreted negatively?
Maybe, but I just want to be on the safe side since I rarely give any compliments or notice anything so it might come off as too strong anyway.
I am not too good at measuring how my compliments affect women plz understand 🙁
Then don't say anything at all. If some guy said the previous example to me "oh you're wearing all black today" I would have no idea if that was a positive or negative comment. You're playing it so safe it's possible to interpret your behavior as meaning the opposite of what you intended.
OK I will start adding "Looks good" at the end to more clearly convey my meaning
I will accept this compromise. Good luck.
Thank you!
You're welcome! You're gonna make it anon.
>You're gonna make it anon.
>incoming "I was reported to HR" post in the next few days
Not if he does it right. Complimenting someone's choice of clothing or saying their hair looks good today is not an offense and it's not harassment.
>is not an offense and it's not harassment
in this age and day you can never be sure. This is the world women wanted tho
Yes you can. Quit fearmongering.
Nah we have never had sexual harassment reports, or at least in the last 4-5 years, dont think there is a risk of that.
women is this true?
Phrase it more clearly abd I'll answer.
Thank you atoga
I cleaned the house despite having cramps that make me hunch over. Tell me you're proud of me
The only people I know who are like that are women with big tits
Also congrats
I have smol tits
Thank u! Hopefully tomorrow is my last day and I won't post about it again
>I have smol tits
What a waste of back pain
>back pain
We aren't talking about the same cramps anon
What a waste of a good pregnancy
She wasn't pregnant if she's getting her period silly.
That's why it's a waste
But it's not a waste of pregnancy. Just a waste of an egg.
>back pain
Who's gonna tell him?
Hopefully we all find partners who make life better too
I believe
I don't disagree, if I were to get pregnant it will be the happiest day of my life so far
>I don't disagree, if I were to get pregnant it will be the happiest day of my life so far
I'm guessing if you're saying that you're already in a committed relationship with someone you want to have a kid with?
There was an opportunity for pregnancy, which was wasted.
There ya go, see wasn't that hard to use words correctly.
Proud of you, menstruating anon
You're better than me. I went for a walk to see if it would help with the cramps at all, took a midol and have been sitting in the dark.
Having a partner press down on the area helps me. I need to shower but dread the mess when I pull down my pants
Is it weird to ask a male friend if he's okay with us just being friends? This is in the context of him frequently telling me men don't want anything to with women if they don't want to have sex with them. Our friendship is one where we meet up semi-regularly for lunch, and we text and voice call a lot, not a friend group situation but more one-on-one. Maybe I should just pull back and put some distance between us? I like him a lot and my own feelings are a little confused.
He's only a friend to you because he is attracted to you and thinks he might end up fucking you eventually. He wouldn't be your friend if you were 400 lbs.
Do you think it would be weird to ask him? I value his friendship a lot, I don't want to say or do something stupid.
I'm not that anon, but I think it's a very considerate thing to do. While it might be awkward, if he's a good guy he will appreciate the forthrightness eventually.