Is this even boymoding anymore?

>be me, boymoder, 20y/o, 2 months hrt
>decide to go to spring day party with a cis bi girl friend, turns out some of her friends are coming as well
>meet her friends, she presents me to them
>she uses my nickname (which is gender neutral) and no specific gendered pronouns, so my gender situation ends up left ambiguous
>her friends end up defaulting to she/her because lmao, call us both "girls", etc
>don't bother correcting them because just tired of being a guy; besides i was unlikely to meet them again anytime soon
>later that night, we end up a moment alone with my friend
>we're just chatting about stuff
>suddenly she asks "hey btw what are your pronouns?"
>ohgodthisisactuallyhappening.jpg
>ask her why she asked
>"idk i just noticed my friends were using she/her and you didn't correct them, so i suddenly realized I never actually asked you"
>end up coming out to her about everything, fortunately she's supportive if a bit awkward about it
>end up having to avoid bathrooms for the rest of the night but it was frankly worth it
I know this reads like a larp but I stg it's not lmao

  1. 1 week ago
    Julie

    Stop "boymoding" just go by she/her and girlmode. It’s what you want and what makes you feel better after all, or am I wrong?

    • 1 week ago
      op

      Idk, it's complicated
      My goal with hrt was more along hrt-femboy lines but I ended up feeling pretty fine about boobs and have also been thinking more about just girlmoding as well since I think I do actually want it. I do like when people seeing me as a girl, it's been that way for years (long hair + people being dumb has led to people she/her-ing me before), and it makes me happy; but for whatever reason actually taking the plunge and girlmoding feels scary. I feel awkward about it even though I kind of want it. Probably brainworms tbhon but idk, could also be something more complicated

      Having someone interrogate you on others using she/her pronouns because she even considered it possible you'd correct them is by definition realizing you're male. You are still being treated as a man, just the deluded variant where people pretend they see you otherwise.

      She actually knows my full name you idiot, that's why she regarded me as a guy. She also told me when we initially met between how I looked and how I acted towards her she initially thought I was a girl so checkmate

      shut the fuck up, they were just curious and being nice. Sure they might not have been 100% convinced OP is cis fem, but asking for pronouns is just a normal thing nowadays. Don’t brainworm the young and hopeful people on here you bitter hon

      Thanks

      grats on winning, you can officially girlmode now

      have you voice trained at all or have a naturally andro voice?

      >Having someone interrogate you on others using she/her pronouns because she even considered it possible you'd correct them is by definition realizing you're male. You are still being treated as a man, just the deluded variant where people pretend they see you otherwise.
      lame bait, pretty obvious the friend was either from before transition or early transition, if the entire group defaulted to she/her its a pretty clear consensus

      >grats
      Thanks!
      >have you voice trained at all or have a naturally andro voice?
      My voice comes out kind of andro, I think through a combination of trying to get it to not sound as masculine throughout the past few years (though without doing formal voice training) and just luck. Also I think the loud music helped lmao.
      >pretty obvious the friend was either from before transition or early transition
      Correct!

      Yes, that's what the average autogynephile looks like.

      Wow the quality of the bait has really fallen this low huh

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I promise you she is just being polite. Someone initially thinking you're a girl has little meaning when they realize in 10 seconds you're male, kek

        .

        This Person is right tho. Sorry op and the next time you will get misgendered you will be reminded of that
        [...]
        You're literally living in germany and think asking pronouns is anywhere normal outside of trans groups
        Get realitychecked

        None of these people want to hear the hard truth, which is that being perceived as a sad and pathetic male with a mental illness is not the same as being perceived as a woman.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Finaly someone that is not hugboxing people. The truth is often very hard to accept so most people just use things like this as a cope to protect themselfs.

          Idk, it's complicated
          My goal with hrt was more along hrt-femboy lines but I ended up feeling pretty fine about boobs and have also been thinking more about just girlmoding as well since I think I do actually want it. I do like when people seeing me as a girl, it's been that way for years (long hair + people being dumb has led to people she/her-ing me before), and it makes me happy; but for whatever reason actually taking the plunge and girlmoding feels scary. I feel awkward about it even though I kind of want it. Probably brainworms tbhon but idk, could also be something more complicated
          [...]
          She actually knows my full name you idiot, that's why she regarded me as a guy. She also told me when we initially met between how I looked and how I acted towards her she initially thought I was a girl so checkmate
          [...]
          Thanks
          [...]
          >grats
          Thanks!
          >have you voice trained at all or have a naturally andro voice?
          My voice comes out kind of andro, I think through a combination of trying to get it to not sound as masculine throughout the past few years (though without doing formal voice training) and just luck. Also I think the loud music helped lmao.
          >pretty obvious the friend was either from before transition or early transition
          Correct!
          [...]
          Wow the quality of the bait has really fallen this low huh

          >She also told me when we initially met between how I looked and how I acted towards her she initially thought I was a girl so checkmate
          Cissies also told me this after coming out so seem supportiv or so. When I looked completely male before hrt a coworked told me I act like a woman and only by my action she sees me as a woman which is just some sort of them trying to be supportiv

          • 1 week ago
            Julie

            You're right. I'm pessimistic as fuck because im also trans and there is literally nothing good to this fucking disease

            You’re just internalized transphobes. People around you can literally say "I see you as a woman" and you’re still telling yourself you aren’t women

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              I pass 100% of the time but not to myself and I still fucking hate myself because there is not a single good reason to see me as a woman

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              I pass 100% of the time but not to myself and I still fucking hate myself because there is not a single good reason to see me as a woman

              I hate all of this so much and being trans literally the most

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              The biggest tell that you're not a woman is that you don't realize women say things they don't actually mean to be polite.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                >if people tell you they don't see you as a woman it's the truth
                >if they tell you they do it can only be then trying to be polite
                >also if they just gender you female without you even asking they do that's also them being polite because reasons

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                Once again, you are all demonstrating you're not women. Yes, people who are trying to be cordial are going to lie to you.

                The inability to understand this from failmales is as hilarious as it is pathetic.

              • 1 week ago
                op

                >Yes, people who are trying to be cordial are going to lie to you.
                I know that. Her friends literally just gendered me female without me even asking. How could they have been trying to be polite about something they weren't even aware of?

  2. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

  3. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Having someone interrogate you on others using she/her pronouns because she even considered it possible you'd correct them is by definition realizing you're male. You are still being treated as a man, just the deluded variant where people pretend they see you otherwise.

    • 1 week ago
      Julie

      shut the fuck up, they were just curious and being nice. Sure they might not have been 100% convinced OP is cis fem, but asking for pronouns is just a normal thing nowadays. Don’t brainworm the young and hopeful people on here you bitter hon

    • 1 week ago
      Rank 1 Boymoder

      grats on winning, you can officially girlmode now

      have you voice trained at all or have a naturally andro voice?

      >Having someone interrogate you on others using she/her pronouns because she even considered it possible you'd correct them is by definition realizing you're male. You are still being treated as a man, just the deluded variant where people pretend they see you otherwise.
      lame bait, pretty obvious the friend was either from before transition or early transition, if the entire group defaulted to she/her its a pretty clear consensus

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      This Person is right tho. Sorry op and the next time you will get misgendered you will be reminded of that

      shut the fuck up, they were just curious and being nice. Sure they might not have been 100% convinced OP is cis fem, but asking for pronouns is just a normal thing nowadays. Don’t brainworm the young and hopeful people on here you bitter hon

      You're literally living in germany and think asking pronouns is anywhere normal outside of trans groups
      Get realitychecked

      • 1 week ago
        Julie

        I promise you she is just being polite. Someone initially thinking you're a girl has little meaning when they realize in 10 seconds you're male, kek

        .[...]
        None of these people want to hear the hard truth, which is that being perceived as a sad and pathetic male with a mental illness is not the same as being perceived as a woman.

        Yes, I live in Germany and it’s even less common here. I’m assuming OP is from the states where it’s more common.
        Both of you are fucking retarded nihilistic/pessimistic fucks

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          You're right. I'm pessimistic as fuck because im also trans and there is literally nothing good to this fucking disease

        • 1 week ago
          op

          >I’m assuming OP is from the states where it’s more common.
          Actually I'm from Latin America lol, it heat happens that her and her friend group are fairly progressive

          >suddenly she asks "hey btw what are your pronouns?"
          I almost said "do zoomers, really"
          but honestly the whole thing sounds like a dream for me, and I've just a few years older than you (26). God, the world really changed for better, regarding trans people.
          I wish I was your age, OP. Enjoy.

          >the world really changed for better, regarding trans people.
          lol she just happens to be fairly progressive and nice; i also have friends who are outright transphobes
          >I wish I was your age, OP. Enjoy.
          Thanks :'-)

          I pass 100% of the time but not to myself and I still fucking hate myself because there is not a single good reason to see me as a woman

          I get the feeling but this genuinely sounds like massive brainworms. People around you seem to think there's reason enough, why can't you?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Because they probably know I'm trans and are just nice to avoid a it' mam moment from a gigahon

            • 1 week ago
              Julie

              This is all just in your imagination jfc get off the internet for a while

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                You wish but you're living in the same hell as me and one day you will realize this

            • 1 week ago
              op

              And you think literally every single person you've met is somehow just being polite? Do you seriously think there aren't sufficiently committed transphobes out there who would misgender you anyways?
              Also a mam moment would probably end up worse for you than for them (if they are even aware of that video; most people aren't terminally online) so I don't even think that rationale actually exists

              >forced social feminization by my date's friends
              giwtwm

              >forced social feminization
              lmfao

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                Cope Harder, babytran

              • 1 week ago
                op

                I'm literally just pointing out it's incredibly statistically unlikely you somehow have consistently avoided transphobes who just don't care about politeness. Have you actually seen how unpassing trans women get treated?

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                I fucking know how they get treated because I was one

              • 1 week ago
                op

                And you don't get treated that way anymore, which probably means you pass.
                I get the scars from the time before that take long to heal but the least you could do is drop the brainworms and be kinder to yourself. If people don't misgender you then you just pass

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >lol she just happens to be fairly progressive and nice; i also have friends who are outright transphobes
            That's fair, and I understand there are still a bunch of transphobes out there.
            But like, back in the 00s when I was in middle school, bullying or humiliating any guy who acted slightly 'faggy' was the norm, and even stimulated by some adults. It's like everyone was either neutral or on the homophobic side.
            I hope stories like yours become the norm rather than exception!

            • 1 week ago
              op

              >But like, back in the 00s when I was in middle school, bullying or humiliating any guy who acted slightly 'faggy' was the norm
              lol when I went to middle school it was kind of like this either. Like, it wasn't as intense, but acting feminine as a guy would still get you mocked and stuff. It's mostly in the past very few years that things really started to turn around I think

              >I hope stories like yours become the norm rather than exception!
              I hope so as well :'-)

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Least illiterate american

  4. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    You are not even trying to be perceived as male just come out already and stop asking like a retard

  5. 1 week ago
    Julie

    [...]

    > Thankfully I am not a tranny of any variant, least of all a 40 year old autogynephile.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Yes, that's what the average autogynephile looks like.

  6. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >suddenly she asks "hey btw what are your pronouns?"
    I almost said "do zoomers, really"
    but honestly the whole thing sounds like a dream for me, and I've just a few years older than you (26). God, the world really changed for better, regarding trans people.
    I wish I was your age, OP. Enjoy.

  7. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >forced social feminization by my date's friends
    giwtwm

  8. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    morning reminder i need to kill myself

  9. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    The audacity of boymoders

    They live as women, are treated like women and insist on forcing people to gender them as "male"

    When will you learn? WHEN?!

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