67 thoughts on “Is dressing goth really the only way to attract them? Surely there's guys who've cracked the code.

    • Anonymous says:


      Is dressing goth really the only way to attract them? Surely there’s guys who’ve cracked the code.

      The secret its not being morbidly obese, incredibly ugly (can compensate if you have a good bod) or borderline.

      The standards for women have never been lower than they are now, nor male desperation for any form of companion.

      If you can’t get a bf now then you never will.

    • Anonymous says:

      im tall and lightskinned and have bagged every goth girl ive pursued, but no OP you can’t not be some kinda art / goth/ cool guy

      maybe if you were like a wicked soundcloud rapper or something you could pull it off

    • Anonymous says:

      It’s absolutely crucial that you be tall but underweight as well.

      I’m tall (192cm), underweight, white, not ugly, and still have pretty much all my hair. However I am autistic and not very social. Is it still possible?

      • Anonymous says:

        It’s over bro. I’m underweight 178 and a bit sociophobic/awkward – no girls (or friends in general) as a result. Being social is the most important thing when it comes to making connections of any sort. Unless you’re a 10/10 chad, I believe some unicorns like that can still pull it off with autism or alike.

      • Anonymous says:

        anything over 6’2 is non /fashion/, most models agencies don’t want anything over 6’3, but for normal people life 6’4 is good because women like bragging that their boyfriend is taller than their friends.

    • Anonymous says:

      I’ve managed to get with some goth girls who were way out of my league.
      >Very average face/physique
      >Average sense of style (blue jeans, button downs, boots)
      >Medium length hair
      So all in all I think is pretty spot on

  1. Anonymous says:

    i work a trendy coffee shop and majority of the girls dress like that come in with guys who are tall,white, and have the mullet and mustache combo or some white guy 30+ who wears NIN shirts
    i’ve never seen them date other goth guys

    • Anonymous says:

      I dated 2 alt girls, I had the mullet mustache thing when I met them, I mostly thrift, and both said they liked me because I looked sweet and "innocent", they like "golden retriever" types. So that worked for me. No mullet rn, but also no b***hes.

    • Anonymous says:

      Listen to this guy
      I’ve always been the on-paper antithesis of the guys goth girls would like, clean-cut white yuppie. But back when goths were more plentiful I used to talk to them and they loved me. Dated one even. Goth girls are all kinda like, externally dark and evil, but if you’re nice and genuinely interested in what they have to say they respond really positively. (Which is generally true of most people, since most people are nice and want nice interactions.)
      I’m not trying to say that they dress that way ONLY for attention, but it’s certainly for attention. It’s like cosplay, or a graphic tee. You wouldn’t express yourself that way if you didn’t want someone to talk to you about yourself.
      Ironically I think goth girls are some of the few who still actually like niceness. Just be nice and genuinely interested in getting to know her.
      It’ll make her like you. (Worked for me at least.)

      As I said though, the hard part will be finding one.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Every single woman likes the same thing. Just be tall and good looking.
    Honestly going for women with specific styles is stupid. Just get a good looking gf and buy her different outfits to wear

    • Anonymous says:

      >be tall

      It’s actually
      >be tallER than THEM

      You don’t need to be a lanklet you just need to be able to put your chin on top of their head

      • Anonymous says:

        the short girls are the biggest height chasers
        you’re more likely to run into a 5’1 woman that says "6′ only" while a 5’8 woman wont care too much about height unless you’re way shorter than her

    • Anonymous says:

      5’6 early millenial here. the anti manlet psyop is hecking weird. i wasn’t even consciously aware that being short had any bearing on dating because up until a few years ago it had zero affect on my ability to pull women. i even had a reputation for pulling high class rich 9-10’s way out of my league my peers would tease me about. i think they pushed the manlet hate and general psychopathy really hard on women when tiktok took off. i have random women laugh at me in public and mock me for my height randomly now sometimes. it doesn’t really bother me since its rarely if ever the kind i’d actually talk to (it tends to be obese women or women with ugly faces, i think its an insecurity thing) but i do notice it and it never used to happen before.

  3. Anonymous says:

    Honestly you don’t want them. But they don’t typically care about your style so long as it isn’t clean cut. Underachieving philosophy major or future alcoholic wife beating vibes gets the job done. Hipster skinny jeans and beanie with flannel and dirty facial hair or white trash cut off shirt with gauged ears and long hair. Basically if you look like you’re from Seattle and have a decent xanax connection you’re in.

    • Anonymous says:

      Holy heck this post is weirdly on point
      >best female friend/roommate looks like OP girls
      >is a philosophy grad
      >recently divorced from an alcoholic wife beater
      >goes for skeezy lanklets who wear skinny jeans etc. (though more often punk/goth types than Seattle hipster)
      >takes xanax, prescribed at least
      >HATES my relatively clean cut style (which isn’t even THAT clean cut, I dress kinda cowboy with pearl snap flannels etc.), always trying to get me to wear black, grow my hair out, wear skinnier jeans, wear graphic tees instead of button ups, stop wearing undershirts when I do wear button ups, etc.

        • Anonymous says:

          It’s a complicated situation and she’s going through a bunch of shit, it’s basically explicit that she likes me but doesn’t want to heck/date ANYBODY until she gets her shit together. I called her my roommate but it’s really that I’m letting her stay at my place because she didn’t have anywhere else to go after her divorce and she’s really scared of a relationship turning into a breakup that leaves her homeless.

  4. Anonymous says:

    in my experience they’re either attracted to polar opposites or to other goth people, no inbetween. I’m a goth-lite and have attracted some of them, but I’ve also seen couples where the guy is chubby and nerdy and she is goth or emo.

    • Anonymous says:

      >I have long hair
      Pretty much just this. You can wear whatever the heck you want and still attract goth girls if you have long hair.

  5. Anonymous says:

    I am goth and weirdly enough I’d say that around half of the women who have hit on me throughout my life were black. The white women tended to be bisexual, mentally ill, some flavor of alternative, or all three

  6. Anonymous says:

    I’m a terminal weirdo who watches horror films every day and wears leather jackets and horror/metal t’s every day. I match alt-style women on dating apps relatively often but they lose interest as soon as we start talking. So take that under advisement.

  7. Anonymous says:

    A lot of goth girls have kind of vaguely blue collar Midwestern looking boyfriends, but I don’t know that they’re these sort of goth girls. These look like e-girls and models. I’ve never seen a really hot goth girl IRL, only online.

    • Anonymous says:

      But also:
      Be good at communicating with people
      Be humorous
      Be flirty
      Know how to progress to getting intimate with a woman
      Be knowledgeable about some sort of pop culture products like movies to keep up the conversation
      Be assertive
      Dress clean
      Don’t be obese
      Have at least a mid face
      Have money to at least pay for her coffee

      That’s just a bare hecking minimum which is far from being enough in most cases.

  8. Anonymous says:

    someone dresses like that because they want to live life a certain way or they have an ideology in the mind. and they want to display to everyone that they live by that idea. First recognized that the former will only be attracted to your actions and what your wear. just look the part and mold into what they want. the former will be attracted to what your passion is and your admiration of their lifestyle. dress nice and honest and be confident. if you live an uninteresting life, you will likely not impress.

  9. Anonymous says:

    you mean attention whore zoomers who saw a tiktok
    if you have homecoming pictures on your instagram you are not goth
    also preppy girls are much better than goth girls (who you like because of social media algorithms)

  10. Anonymous says:

    Rethink this please
    Things will be normal for a while but without fail they will snap on you and try to ruin your life
    I didn’t learn my lesson the first or the second time

    They seem fine but you will always be one bad day away from losing your job, being jailed, and having a smear campaign run against you. It isn’t worth it.
    I came very close to it

    Ask yourself why these girls can’t compete with other ones without black clothes, piercings, and tattoos. Ask yourself what mood you are in when you listen to edgy music and why these girls listen to it all the time. Ask yourself why these girls take a half dozen medications from a psychiatrist. Ask yourself why they are so open about their broken home life and history of abuse. These are all dealbreakers you can’t afford to ignore. They make it obvious so listen to them.

    >just heck them and disappear
    Good luck with that

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