I'm stingy, and my gf of almost 2 years just cried about it

For context: she's my first gf ever. We are both older than 30 and live together from the start of our relationship.
She said that I should be more generous with her, that I usually charge her half of what we spend (which is true, but also she offered to pay the last couple of times we went out, and most of the time she buys the more expensive, unnecessary stuff, so... ???), that I don't even buy her the desserts she likes and that it's unjust that I make double her wage yet still make her pay her half. This is all true, BUT in general I usually spend more than her. Part of her argument was that I'm good at maths and she isn't.
I've never denied being a miser, but I've always explained to her that I was born poor, I lived a shitty life and that I would save as much as possible until I get to buy my own house. I also told her when we met that I'd buy a car in the future and a house or at least an apartment if possible, but I haven't done so. She keeps talking about a car and shit.
Is being a miser a sin? Should I tell her to part ways? I felt enraged at first, but now that I think, maybe I should just tell her that I'm NOT gonna change, so she decides our future.

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  1. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    If you're making more than her and spending more, but not a lot on her.... she should leave you. A relationship is also an investment, you give gifts, you dress up for dates, you take care of each other.

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      >A relationship is also an investment
      An investment gives you returns (potentially at least), a profit.
      I'm autistic and honestly still don't get what's the point of being in a relationship after this time with her, but I don't see any returns here... Only a lot of money wasted for living with her, which is nice, but as nice as I'd expect it to. Hell, with how things work now and judging by how other people clearly see me as good looking, I bet I could have a lot more fun being single and fricking random women. But what is even the point of that? That's not a life I want. I want to fix my life, do technical stuff and maybe have kids some day (btw, my gf doesn't want kids).

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        >but as nice as I'd expect it to
        *not as nice.

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        If you legitimately like or love a woman you should want to spoil her a little bit. Not like "I'm going to buy this car for you" but you SHOULD want to buy her that fancy dessert, pay for dinner, or get her that nice necklace she pointed out to you for her birthday... etc. It's a way of showing someone you love and appreciate them.

        But really this doesn't seem to be a money issue as much as you're trying to make it out to be, getting anal about how you spend and make more than her and whatnot. She wants you to show that you love her, especially if you've been together 2 years. She's paid/offered to pay for meals for you when you've gone out, I doubt because she's invested in making sure things are "fair", but because she loves you and wants to show you appreciation. What do you do to show you love her or appreciate her? Do you even love or appreciate her? It's been 2 years so you should know by now. By the sound of it, it seems like you don't and you're more concerned with your money. If you're so concerned with saving your money there are cheap ways to show your appreciation for her, and I bet if you did it wouldn't be such a big deal that you "charge her half of what we spend" or whatever that even means.

        I normally don't like people who just suggest to break up based on a narrow viewpoint into a relationship, but I think this time I will suggest you break up. It doesn't seem like you love her or even like her all that much, and you want kids and she doesn't. (I have no idea how you're going to convince a woman to have kids with you if you won't even spend money on her.) You seem more concerned with your money than her. I don't think it's possible to reconcile your issues. If it was just about showing more appreciation without spending too much money, that would be one thing, but it's evidently not.

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          >If you legitimately like or love a woman you should want to spoil her a little bit. Not like "I'm going to buy this car for you" but you SHOULD want to buy her that fancy dessert, pay for dinner, or get her that nice necklace she pointed out to you for her birthday... etc. It's a way of showing someone you love and appreciate them.
          I was born poor. If this is how you show your affection for someone else, then I'm fricked, because I'm not doing that. But I do a whole lot od other things, like paying half the rent, which I don't really need to, since I wfh and could live in my parents house (which is a mess and far from the city we live in, but still livable), or helping her AND people around her when shit goes south, fixing stuff at home, buying useful stuff and not wasting money on moronic crap. If that's not enough, then she's clearly not for me.

          >getting anal about how you spend ... more than her and whatnot
          I doubt I spend more than her. What gave you such idea?

          >She's paid/offered to pay for meals for you when you've gone out
          I always pay half... Again, wtf are you reading? Why do you assume shit I've never mentioned?

          >By the sound of it, it seems like you don't and you're more concerned with your money.
          I am concerned about HER money, too, but she doesn't care and gets mad if I say anything about her moronic way of managing it, so it's not my problem anymore.

          >(I have no idea how you're going to convince a woman to have kids with you if you won't even spend money on her.)
          I don't get it... A relationship is not necessarily about reproducing, and I told her I want kids some day, just not right now, because, well, I still don't have a decent fricking house or life. Why the frick so you people insist on this point? She doesn't want kids, I accepted that fact, which means I'll have to find someone else later in my life, because we obviously don't think relationships are for life. What is the problem with that?

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >I was born poor. If this is how you show your affection for someone else, then I'm fricked, because I'm not doing that. But I do a whole lot od other things, like paying half the rent, which I don't really need to, since I wfh and could live in my parents house (which is a mess and far from the city we live in, but still livable), or helping her AND people around her when shit goes south, fixing stuff at home, buying useful stuff and not wasting money on moronic crap. If that's not enough, then she's clearly not for me
            have you considered there's a ton of grey area between "let woman spend your cash until you're in the poorhouse" and "spend enough that she's not crying about it"

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            You should never compromise on such obviously quantifiable issues with a woman as they will always want more. Either you are comfortable spending an amount or you are not.

            I will also say, relationship or not, it’s a very bad show of her character to bring up OP’s income when asking him to spend more money on her and we should definitely not let that fact slide.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >But I do a whole lot od other things, like paying half the rent
            That's not a favor, stupid, that's bare minimum.

            >since I wfh and could live in my parents house
            Disgusting. Regressive. You have freedom and you'd throw it away for money.
            >she offered to pay the last couple of times we went out
            >I always pay half... Again, wtf are you reading?
            ????
            Are you lying?

            >which means I'll have to find someone else later in my life, because we obviously don't think relationships are for life. What is the problem with that?
            You're a broken individual and you do not love her. You are selfish beyond reasoning. Stay alone for the good of society.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            Imagine coming to /adv/ and getting mad at OPs.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            Being mad at autist on here is a well known pastime. Lurk moar

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            Doesn’t make it sane, lad.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            It is sane and even empathetic to be mad at someone else for selfishly hurting others due to ignorance.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >>she offered to pay the last couple of times we went out
            >>I always pay half... Again, wtf are you reading?
            ????
            >Are you lying?
            She offered to pay HER HALF. Context matters, you fricking moron.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            This lad is seeing red. He cannot be reasoned with.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >I was born poor. If this is how you show your affection for someone else, then I'm fricked, because I'm not doing that.

            You being born poor is not an excuse. Plenty of poor people can bring themselves to buy things for the people they love occasionally because they want to make them happy. I can tell you're autistic if you can't understand how gift giving is a perfectly normal and expected way of showing love and appreciation. If I was with a woman who never thought to get me things or who never wanted to spend money on me I would assume she doesn't care and leave. Do you never go out shopping by yourself, see something cute, and go "hey this is cute I bet she would like this, I'm gonna get it for her."? When you love someone that's normal. It's expected. If you don't want to do this, and you aren't going compromise at all on this issue, tell her so she can either decide to put up with it or leave you. Maybe you might think this is mean but you'll be saving her, and you, a lot of trouble.

            >I doubt I spend more than her. What gave you such idea?

            Was it not you who said "This is all true, BUT in general I usually spend more than her."? Look at your own post.

            >I don't get it... A relationship is not necessarily about reproducing, and I told her I want kids some day, just not right now...

            You said you want kids. She said she does not. You are incompatible. Why wait to break up with her when you both want totally different things out of life? I'll give you the benefit of the doubt here and assume you actually really love this chick despite not wanting to buy her dessert or gifts, and thinking you'd have more fun just banging random women instead of being with her. Why bother staying with her when you could instead be trying to find the woman you could be having you kids with, and some you're more compatible with in terms of money considering how important money is to you?

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >You being born poor is not an excuse. Plenty of poor people can bring themselves to buy things for the people they love occasionally because they want to make them happy.
            Plenty of poor people also buy iphones and other moronic shit they don't really need. And they keep being poor because of that. People in general are fricking stupid with money. If you want to advance in life, you HAVE to save AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. It's basic maths.

            >Was it not you who said "This is all true, BUT in general I usually spend more than her."?
            I meant to say I spend more than her in general ON THE THINGS WE BOTH PAY FOR.
            You people... Why the frick would I mention my general expenses when talking about our shared expenses? I'm not showing off here

            >You said you want kids.
            Doesn't mean I want them NOW. Why would I want kids at this point when I'm trying to fix my life? I'll have them AFTER that happens.

            cont. from [...]

            >But I do a whole lot od other things, like paying half the rent, which I don't really need to, since I wfh and could live in my parents house (which is a mess and far from the city we live in, but still livable), or helping her AND people around her when shit goes south, fixing stuff at home, buying useful stuff and not wasting money on moronic crap. If that's not enough, then she's clearly not for me.

            Are you fricking serious? Are you really trying to pass off you pay half the rent in an apartment you both share as evidence of how you do things for her? That's the bare minimum you would do for anyone you share an apartment with unless they're a dependent. Buying "useful stuff" or fixing things in an apartment you SHARE is also just called being an adult. I wouldn't be thinking "gee, my gf loves me so much" because she bought a new printer or fixed the leaky faucet.. Christ man why is she even still with you if this is what passes for showing love?

            For the whole bringing up your income thing compared to yours, it definitely is a bit rude but I'm not sure she did it as a dig you. Does she ever buy nice things for you or stuff that you can both enjoy despite making less money than you? If she does, than I can understand why she's frustrated that you don't do the same despite making more money than her.

            >Are you really trying to pass off you pay half the rent in an apartment you both share as evidence of how you do things for her? That's the bare minimum you would do for anyone you share an apartment with unless they're a dependent.
            Yes. I don't NEED to live here, I don't NEED to live with her either. She decided to rent this place and I decided to pay half of the rent after we started our relationship.
            Do you know what "need" means?

            >Buying "useful stuff" or fixing things in an apartment you SHARE is also just called being an adult.
            Sure, but most people can't fix shit by themselves and save a ton of money on that. Also, as I've said before, she just doesn't know how to spend money, IMO.

            >I wouldn't be thinking "gee, my gf loves me so much" because she bought a new printer or fixed the leaky faucet..
            Again, I don't NEED to solve HER problems. Adults are supposed to solve their own problems, aren't we? Yet I still do. I bother doing shit for her while I also solve my own problems and have to care about a bunch of other shit

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Plenty of poor people also buy iphones and other moronic shit they don't really need. And they keep being poor because of that.

            I'm not talking about buying her a new iphone or some other ridiculously expensive bullshit. But you should WANT to buy her the 12$ dessert when you go out, or the bouquet of flowers, or the fricking hello kitty plushie you'd think she like, or whatever shit she's into if you legitimately like her. Though I don't think you do like her so it's a moot point. You are not going to go into the poorhouse because you buy her the occasional gift. Why are you so autistic about this? Buying someone a gift shows you appreciate them and love them. Paying half the rent in a apartment YOU decided to live in with her does not, nor does fixing some shit in the apartment YOU decided to live in with her.

            >Doesn't mean I want them NOW.

            Well, as long as she's aware that you're eventually going to break up with her because you want kids and she doesn't and she's okay with that, it's fine. Having kids are one of those things that are just irreconcilable and it's unlikely for people to change their mind on it.

            >Yes. I don't NEED to live with her either.

            And yet you've decided to live with her anyways. Paying half the rent is not some magnanimous action that shows how much you love her. It's the bare minimum unless you think being a free loading c**t is okay because technically she rented the apartment and you decided to move in with her.

            I don't even know why I'm bothering when it's pretty clear you don't like this chick much anyways from how low of an opinion you have of her and how you don't see the "returns" on being in a relationship. Just leave her and go frick random women like you said, buy your house in however long it's gonna take you to save up for one with the prices of houses fricking skyrocketing still, and then try to convince some woman to have kids with you without ever spending money on her. You'll both be happier.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >You are not going to go into the poorhouse because you buy her the occasional gift. Why are you so autistic about this? Buying someone a gift shows you appreciate them and love them.
            OP this is no bullshit a real thing.
            i have the same form of autism as you. i think gifts are inefficient. just give me money, i would rather buy my own things. i don't want to buy you gifts because i don't want to get you something you don't want. after all, you know what you want better than i do.

            that is not how normal people operate. it's not about the actual physical object to them, it's about the action of "i saw this thing and thought you might like it so here it is".
            i am still very bad at it. but i've learned that a stupid mug that i saw while shopping and made me laugh, is really appreciated as a gift when i give it to someone. to me, it's worthless. a throwaway gag. to them, it shows i care about them. i don't quite internalize it fully, but i understand it from a cause and effect angle.

            there is a difference between that and her sucking every dollar out of your bank account. i have also found a really good compromise to be buying "experiences". because then you get something out of it too. you say "i got us tickets to this concert" or "i booked this campsite for the weekend". ticks all the boxes, and doesn't feel as pointless, at least in my mind.

            but i do think you have something up with you, op.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            cont. from

            >I was born poor. If this is how you show your affection for someone else, then I'm fricked, because I'm not doing that.

            You being born poor is not an excuse. Plenty of poor people can bring themselves to buy things for the people they love occasionally because they want to make them happy. I can tell you're autistic if you can't understand how gift giving is a perfectly normal and expected way of showing love and appreciation. If I was with a woman who never thought to get me things or who never wanted to spend money on me I would assume she doesn't care and leave. Do you never go out shopping by yourself, see something cute, and go "hey this is cute I bet she would like this, I'm gonna get it for her."? When you love someone that's normal. It's expected. If you don't want to do this, and you aren't going compromise at all on this issue, tell her so she can either decide to put up with it or leave you. Maybe you might think this is mean but you'll be saving her, and you, a lot of trouble.

            >I doubt I spend more than her. What gave you such idea?

            Was it not you who said "This is all true, BUT in general I usually spend more than her."? Look at your own post.

            >I don't get it... A relationship is not necessarily about reproducing, and I told her I want kids some day, just not right now...

            You said you want kids. She said she does not. You are incompatible. Why wait to break up with her when you both want totally different things out of life? I'll give you the benefit of the doubt here and assume you actually really love this chick despite not wanting to buy her dessert or gifts, and thinking you'd have more fun just banging random women instead of being with her. Why bother staying with her when you could instead be trying to find the woman you could be having you kids with, and some you're more compatible with in terms of money considering how important money is to you?

            >But I do a whole lot od other things, like paying half the rent, which I don't really need to, since I wfh and could live in my parents house (which is a mess and far from the city we live in, but still livable), or helping her AND people around her when shit goes south, fixing stuff at home, buying useful stuff and not wasting money on moronic crap. If that's not enough, then she's clearly not for me.

            Are you fricking serious? Are you really trying to pass off you pay half the rent in an apartment you both share as evidence of how you do things for her? That's the bare minimum you would do for anyone you share an apartment with unless they're a dependent. Buying "useful stuff" or fixing things in an apartment you SHARE is also just called being an adult. I wouldn't be thinking "gee, my gf loves me so much" because she bought a new printer or fixed the leaky faucet.. Christ man why is she even still with you if this is what passes for showing love?

            For the whole bringing up your income thing compared to yours, it definitely is a bit rude but I'm not sure she did it as a dig you. Does she ever buy nice things for you or stuff that you can both enjoy despite making less money than you? If she does, than I can understand why she's frustrated that you don't do the same despite making more money than her.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >I am concerned about HER money, too, but she doesn't care and gets mad if I say anything about her moronic way of managing it, so it's not my problem anymore.
            Yeah I'd say bail. If she won't adapt her habits to your preferences and you won't do the same for her, then you aren't a couple. You're two single people who frick.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >If this is how you show your affection for someone else, then I'm fricked, because I'm not doing that. But I do a whole lot od other things, like paying half the rent
            This is the real issue. She pays for your food sometimes and you don't return the favor. You also think splitting the rent 50-50 is doing her a favor

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          Oh, and btw:
          >doesn't seem to be a money issue as much as you're trying to make it out to be
          SHE made it a money issue.

          Do I write in Chinese or something? Is it too difficult to read what I wrote? Why assume shit I didn't mention? Why did you interpret the exact contrary of what I wrote? Shit was mostly fine, and then she complained, literally crying, about me being stingy. She had never done that before.

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        >she doesn't want kids
        Lmao then who gives a frick, let her buy her own desserts. It's only when a woman gets pregnant that the man really needs to step up monetarily

  2. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    why havent you bouhgt a house at over 30?
    i think making her pay half while you making double what she does is weird.

    i always pay for taking a girl out. even when i was broke af. im frugal af too. but cmon bro, be a bit chivalrous. youre clearly not into her so shuld prob just break it off imo

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      >why havent you bouhgt a house at over 30?
      Because I don't have enough money? I'm not taking a mortgage.

      >i think making her pay half while you making double what she does is weird.
      Why?

      >you making double what she does is weird
      I mean, she decided to get shit jobs without even negotiating better wages during a fricking economic crisis. She's fricking dumb with money. Why should I subsidize her more than I already am (by paying half the fricking rent, which I don't need)?

      >i always pay for taking a girl out. even when i was broke af. im frugal af too.
      I mean, that's YOUR problem. Women want equality and shit now, I want the same. I'm not paying their part, at least not all of it. I'm not their fricking slave.

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        Man, I personally really dislike miserly people, but I was born middle class and could definitely be called stupid with my generosity. Anyhow, I think you dislike her more than you let on, but I hate this “let’s break up culture.”

        So what advice would I give? I think you did the right thing cooling off, I also think not changing as a person doesn’t mean not changing your actions. I think money is too sore an issue for the two of you to negotiate right now, and you should explain you don’t want to be running the numbers for your relationship, especially about money.

        I will also say being able to stay at your parents place without paying rent means you aren’t THAT poor, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be cautious about your money.

        I think your two options are:
        >just shutting down the issue and focusing on showing affection in ways where money doesn’t feature
        >Offer to manage her money

        I would never wanna do the second, but it might be a way for you circumnavigate the issue whilst still protecting your finances.

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          Samegay here,

          >If you legitimately like or love a woman you should want to spoil her a little bit. Not like "I'm going to buy this car for you" but you SHOULD want to buy her that fancy dessert, pay for dinner, or get her that nice necklace she pointed out to you for her birthday... etc. It's a way of showing someone you love and appreciate them.
          I was born poor. If this is how you show your affection for someone else, then I'm fricked, because I'm not doing that. But I do a whole lot od other things, like paying half the rent, which I don't really need to, since I wfh and could live in my parents house (which is a mess and far from the city we live in, but still livable), or helping her AND people around her when shit goes south, fixing stuff at home, buying useful stuff and not wasting money on moronic crap. If that's not enough, then she's clearly not for me.

          >getting anal about how you spend ... more than her and whatnot
          I doubt I spend more than her. What gave you such idea?

          >She's paid/offered to pay for meals for you when you've gone out
          I always pay half... Again, wtf are you reading? Why do you assume shit I've never mentioned?

          >By the sound of it, it seems like you don't and you're more concerned with your money.
          I am concerned about HER money, too, but she doesn't care and gets mad if I say anything about her moronic way of managing it, so it's not my problem anymore.

          >(I have no idea how you're going to convince a woman to have kids with you if you won't even spend money on her.)
          I don't get it... A relationship is not necessarily about reproducing, and I told her I want kids some day, just not right now, because, well, I still don't have a decent fricking house or life. Why the frick so you people insist on this point? She doesn't want kids, I accepted that fact, which means I'll have to find someone else later in my life, because we obviously don't think relationships are for life. What is the problem with that?

          I didn’t see the not wanting kids thing, will just add it might be better to get out now if you diverge on an issue this big. I think there’s a small chance you might attract a bad type of woman if you go in significantly older, rich, and looking for kids. I doubt you’re stupid though, but still worth mentioning as I don’t think guys appreciate how important age can be in finding a mate.

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          >I will also say being able to stay at your parents place without paying rent means you aren’t THAT poor
          ... Actually, that's a whole another story, but, in short: I helped my mom buy the family house. That house was relatively cheap because it needs to be fixed, if not just rebuilt. For legal reasons, half of it will be mine in 2 years (hopefully) And my mom almost scammed me, which made me avoid wasting money on it until I get my part.

          Again, I've had shit life ... In part thanks to a woman: my single, poor, narcissistic mother.

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          Samegay here,

          [...]
          I didn’t see the not wanting kids thing, will just add it might be better to get out now if you diverge on an issue this big. I think there’s a small chance you might attract a bad type of woman if you go in significantly older, rich, and looking for kids. I doubt you’re stupid though, but still worth mentioning as I don’t think guys appreciate how important age can be in finding a mate.

          As I said here

          >If you legitimately like or love a woman you should want to spoil her a little bit. Not like "I'm going to buy this car for you" but you SHOULD want to buy her that fancy dessert, pay for dinner, or get her that nice necklace she pointed out to you for her birthday... etc. It's a way of showing someone you love and appreciate them.
          I was born poor. If this is how you show your affection for someone else, then I'm fricked, because I'm not doing that. But I do a whole lot od other things, like paying half the rent, which I don't really need to, since I wfh and could live in my parents house (which is a mess and far from the city we live in, but still livable), or helping her AND people around her when shit goes south, fixing stuff at home, buying useful stuff and not wasting money on moronic crap. If that's not enough, then she's clearly not for me.

          >getting anal about how you spend ... more than her and whatnot
          I doubt I spend more than her. What gave you such idea?

          >She's paid/offered to pay for meals for you when you've gone out
          I always pay half... Again, wtf are you reading? Why do you assume shit I've never mentioned?

          >By the sound of it, it seems like you don't and you're more concerned with your money.
          I am concerned about HER money, too, but she doesn't care and gets mad if I say anything about her moronic way of managing it, so it's not my problem anymore.

          >(I have no idea how you're going to convince a woman to have kids with you if you won't even spend money on her.)
          I don't get it... A relationship is not necessarily about reproducing, and I told her I want kids some day, just not right now, because, well, I still don't have a decent fricking house or life. Why the frick so you people insist on this point? She doesn't want kids, I accepted that fact, which means I'll have to find someone else later in my life, because we obviously don't think relationships are for life. What is the problem with that?

          , not wanting kids is not an issue for me, not yet anyway. And, yes, I do dislike her for some of her habits, which clearly came from her parents. Of course I'm not perfect, so I don't complain much, but,...
          Plus she's very social, while I border on being a shut in, so she distracts me from the stuff I do.
          I was a NEET for some years and even as a kid I loved staying at home, so I learned to have fun by myself while living practically alone for days at a time without much problem. Meanwhile, she's a teacher, so she's obviously very different. We do talk about stuff we have in common from time to time, but most of the things we like doing aren't shared at all.

          Also, regarding money: for some reason, most people, obviously her included, seem to think that if you make good money, then you HAVE to spend it, and if possible, spend it ASAP, and share it too. I find that weird... I had to work since I was 12 (during summers) and from that and from my mother, I learned that money is a resource one has to care a lot about and manage well. Why spend it on useless shit? Why let random people convince you that you SHOULD buy this or that crap just because they tell you so? It doesn't make sense to me... Maybe it would if I really didn't need it. But I've been through some shit, so I'm not sure of that.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            >teacher
            She wants kids. Her revealed reference makes that totally obvious.

            Tell me why you love her, explain the feeling of love too as it’s not always rational and able to be explained. Also, let me say this again,

            You should never compromise on such obviously quantifiable issues with a woman as they will always want more. Either you are comfortable spending an amount or you are not.

            I will also say, relationship or not, it’s a very bad show of her character to bring up OP’s income when asking him to spend more money on her and we should definitely not let that fact slide.

            her mentioning your job/income as a reason for you to spend more on her is extremely rude and, if I’m honest, borders on unacceptable.

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        >Women want equality and shit
        No they don't. Get that out of your head. When they say that they're doing the woman thing, otherwise known as being pathologically and biologically unable to say what they want.

  3. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    She should have you show love to her in other ways, such as sex or words of affection.

  4. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    She sounds like a moron and you don't sound into her. It's perfectly acceptable to split the rent. Your money is your money and her money is hers. You're not married and it's probably not going to go that way. Here's what you do like all men that have been in this exact same situation and don't conflate money and gifts with love:

    Buy the b***h a simple trinket
    Take her out to eat sometimes
    Take her on a date to the movies or the zoo

    This is the basic price of pussy in a relationship. This is a luxury expense. You buy her just enough and put up just enough with tantrums and she spreads her legs and shuts up and gives you a little more peace and technically you're both not alone

  5. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    >I'm NOT gonna change
    You will die alone as a frugal homosexual

  6. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm never giving anyone any of my money

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      that's more like it

  7. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    This is just some basic relationship trouble, it's not like you're the first people ever to come across this shit.

    Look up following things on youtube:
    >Love languages
    >non-violent communication

    Basically you don't know what she means by words she says and she doesn't know what it means when you do actions you do.

    Communicate that with your gf until you can summarize what she feels and she agrees and vice versa.

    Then solution will come up that will satisfy you both

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