I'm sick of this meme that "every single man has the potential to attract females as long as they put in the effort". Sorry but not all men are created equal. The reality is girls only want you if you have a cute face. No girl wants to wake up next to a face they're not attracted to. People either like you or they don't. There are no "life hacks" or "cheat codes" you can enter to change this. Someone either loves you or they don't. Your genes determine this, not your actions. This is why we constantly see women with abusive men.