I'm a girl. Why can't i reach orgasm when i have sex with a man?

I'm a girl. Why can't i reach orgasm when i have sex with a man?

  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You're probably having premarital sex. There's your problem. If you're hooking up, the man will never care about you.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Because you have to love him.

      butthurt virgins who know nothing about sex

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        t. butthurt whore who knows nothing about love

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Sex is better with love and anyone who denies that has never experienced it

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I agree.
          Too many people believe that love doesn't exist and it's just a fabrication of our minds, blah, blah, blah. Not true at all.

          On that note, you DO NOT need to be in love to have an orgasm with your lover. However, it helps immensely. Two people in love are making a lot more hormones in their bodies (progestogens, androgens, and estrogens along with various other non-sexual hormones). These elevated hormones help us feel more pleasure, and therefore sex with someone whom you love dearly will be better, period. However, if one person is in love and the other isn't, then it's not going to be the same. Both partners have to be in love with one another in order for this sort of chemistry (literally) to work.

          While I definitely believe in love, I think a lot of people who are having trouble getting their woman off—and even guys who are just cumming and not having intense orgasms—is a result of lovers/partners not having sex with any real passion. They're just going through the motions to get the cum flowing and that's it, and that's really sad.

          I'd bet that WAY MORE people would be having sex regularly if they realized how good it can actually be when you've got the right partner and you communicate to each other your feelings and how you want to do things.

          This is probably why fetishism is so popular today; people are lazy. They don't want to take the time to learn their partner's body and how to REALLY get off; utilizing the awesome human anatomy to have extremely intense orgasms. It's sad!

          Fetishes are fine, and they can add a lot of fun and increase the bond between two people immensely—few things strengthen a bond between two lovers more than a dirty secret—but at the same time, if you can't have "vanilla" sex that makes your thigh muscles spasm and practically curls your hair with pleasure and happiness, then you're only fooling yourselves!

          I talk to way, way too many women who are dissatisfied with sex and it's really sad.

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Probably because you haven't had sex with me yet.

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No foreplay?
    Cause girls need that.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This.
      The vagina/clitoris is more sensitive when aroused.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Because you have to love him.

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    are they eating you out

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Probably bait but I think it's something like less than 30% of women can orgasm without direct clitoris stimulation. Bit of a design flaw really. Get a cockring or play with it/make him play with it while he's inside of you.

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Men are not born knowing how to make a woman orgasm, and the only way they can learn is if someone teaches them. But since women are incapable of being honest, this never happens.

    t. had a gf who said I needed to improve my oral sex but refused to show me how

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >> t. had a gf who said I needed to improve my oral sex but refused to show me how

      what was she supposed to do. if she could eat her own pussy wtf would she be dating anyone for

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Direct him verbally during oral
        >NOOOO HE SHOULD KNOW ALREADY
        why are women so retarded?

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >the only way they can learn is if someone teaches them
      Yeah because the internet is totally devoid of information on how to get your girl off. Nothing on that topic at all. There aren't any books written on the subject either. We are so lost.

      HAHAHAHAHAHA wtf is wrong with you chudmaster?! It's like you booked the flight, took the trip to this amazing new place, and then turned around and went back home instead of enjoying this beautiful new land.

      Sex isn't that complicated. Have enough of it and you'll figure it out sooner or later IF you've got a brain in your head. If you can't read a woman's body language while you're pleasuring her, I can't help you.

      Women aren't that complicated in bed; that's just a cop-out for guys who are hopelessly inept at getting women off. Read a sexual anatomy book. Learn about the various parts of the female anatomy that are most sensitive, and learn about how to exploit them for her pleasure. It's not rocket science.

      The funny thing is, I can make a woman who's maybe had an orgasm once during vaginal sex in her entire life scream with pleasure and shake uncontrollably with orgasmic muscle spasms of physical bliss and psychological happiness, in roughly one hour of sex...
      ...BUT I can't do long division, and even high school algebra is out of my reach. I'm the artistic lover type, and some guys are the cold, calculating, hyper-intelligent type.
      I s'pose despite the fact that we're men and there are literally billions of us on earth, we are all very, VERY different people. Sorry for ragging on you but it just seems so rudimentary for me, and so unfathomable that you say you simply CAN'T get your girl off.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Reddit and twitter want you back.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          God forbid my rambling helps some poor coomer LULZ edgelord become a professional sex machine who women remember until their dead. Yeah, that'd be terrible.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        youre stupid

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Talk with him. If you didn't enjoy something, say it. Sex also takes good communication

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >> communication

    i remember a thread from that worse-than-any-chan cesspit r/PurplePillDebate where a bunch of women were literally coming out and saying things like “if i have to tell you how to make me cum gtfo. my pussy is closed to you. i want to drink your flood of masculine energy in, not be your gamefaqs guide telling you which button to press for the high score”. of course not all women are like this. some are less honest and articulate

  10. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Because sex is that good for women there's no need to search for the nut.
    But sex for women is more mental than anything. Focus on how your husband is enjoying you and ride that wave.

  11. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Can you pleasure yourself when you're alone?

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      exactly, please someone tell me how because even i can not figure this out
      how does a female masturbate
      directions please, with no tools, is it supposed to take like an hour or what?

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        First of all be aroused
        Find where your clit is
        Try to massage it in circular motions
        Find the pressure perfect for you
        If it doesn't work I don't know what to tell you
        For cumming through penetration you have to be way more aroused usually, with a clit is easier

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        this might be kinda strange but I just lie on my belly and repeatedly grind my pelvis onto the bed and gradually increase the force every time until you reach orgasm it usually takes about 30 seconds. For this to work I have to stretch my legs out as I am doing that. Tbh it takes a bit of practice

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I know you said no tools, but using a vibe is such easy mode that I’ve become too lazy to use my fingers. Also, stretching your legs out like the other anon said also helps for some reason, but it’s a bad habit because even though it make cumming easier, the orgasms aren’t as strong.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Legs together, knees together, feet together, and lie on your back. Put the backs of your knees over one of your man's shoulders as he penetrates you from above/on top. Have him use the coital alignment technique along with mixtures of many shallow penetrations, followed by only a few deep penetrations.

          If your bodies don't line up for this, simply lay your legs to the side—again, with legs, knees, and feet together, bringing your knees to your chest like a fetal position—and have your guy penetrate you the same way he would if you were in the missionary position.

          It might take longer to achieve orgasm this way, but the result will be INTENSE. I have worked on this with several women who had lackluster orgasms, and I've watched them cum with such power that it was almost frightening; a full-body, uncontrollably shaking and quivering orgasm that had a smile plastered on their faces for about an hour afterwards.

          Foreplay is also extremely important, and be sure he is touching you in the right places. Aside from caressing and kissing you everywhere, it is very important to focus some time and energy on the mons pubis—the area just above where your vagina "begins". The mons pubis is a cluster of muscles right on top of your pubic bone, and it's connected to the clitoral nerve cluster. Focus on touching and rubbing this area for a better orgasm. You can do it both before and during sex. If you guy is worth his salt, he will take care of it before and during sex (the latter by using his own pubic bone to rub against it while he's penetrating you deeply, preferably while using the coital alignment technique).

          I realize all of this sounds very complex and scientific, but I assure you that it isn't. Good orgasms are just about knowing your body and how to use your body's "weaknesses" and exploit them to your advantage.

          Have fun and RELAX!

  12. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Because he's not hitting your prostate just right.

  13. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    get a vibrator.

  14. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I have been with a man with a 7-8 inch dick for four years. He has done everything to the point of me ending up at urgent care thinking a ruptured something in there. We eventually stopped trying to make me have a vaginal orgasm, it’s just impossible. I can cum from my clit or feel very intense during sex but I don’t know what the fuck an orgasm is besides coming from your clit.. like what the fuck am I not having them

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I know a woman that was having your same problem and managed to solve it thanks to a sex toy . I don't know specifically what kind only that it vibrates. After that she could cum with her bf too

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You stimulate your clit until you're almost climaxing. Have him thrust in at the same time, in your G spot while you or him are playing with your clit. When you're edging, just stop playing with the clit or tame it down A LOT, and you'll get spasms from your vaginal orgasm

  15. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You'd orgasm having sex with me

  16. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    natures way of saying you don't deserve them

  17. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i guess i'll just go ahead and say the truth

    DICK SIZE
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    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Actually the g spot is not that deep you need to have a big dick to find it

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        actually it doesn't exist at all

  18. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It's about connection really.

    We live in a world where sex is a product and an action. Our idea of sex is a reduction of something much higher, that serves a higher purpose really.

    Ancient people had a more intimate relationship with this.

    Sex is your most vulnerable moment and your most vulnerable places displayed and visible.
    If you are not fully comfortable and feel intimately connected with a partner, it's almost always meh.

    I don't like sex so much anymore unless I actually really feel something for the woman. It's hard for me to come now that I'm not young and excited by the thrill and novelty of it all.

    Dick size helps, but it really isn't about dick size. I talk with all women I've slept with about this (and I'm pretty secure with the roll I got). All but one has been fairly ambivalent about it. More than one has mentioned at least one guy they've been with who was sensitive and intuitive and good but poorly endowed.
    Dick size is a + often, but people who reduce sex to raw mechanics like technique and size are inexperienced.

    Sex is about intimacy, comfort, connection, arousal, and a genuine desire to fuck the person you're fucking. A lot of women, unfortunately, don't realize they don't really want to fuck the person they're fucking because it's really easy to fuck for a woman compared to a man, who often has to prowl a bit more.

    T. Philosophical dude in his 30s with a lot of experience, who has lived through some sad stuff.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      "i'm a basement-dweller that answered a woman's question from the perspective of a man because i'm really just desensitized to porn and can't get off. Also I shoehorned something about dick size into my response even though no one asked because I'm actually a very insecure homosexual and nothing of what I said here originally is actually true. I just wish I had a lot of experience. The women I asked about dick size (and I ask them a lot because again I'm an insecure homosexual) all probably lie to me and think asking about or talking about dick size at all is a surefire way of telling the person's got a micropenis. Because I do. In fact constantly asking them if size matters is probably a major reason why I can't get laid in the first place.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >I don't like sex so much anymore

      how come?

      >"I talk with all women I've slept with about dick size"

      oh because they all leave you after the first night because you talked their heads off obsessively asking if size matters while they were just trying to get some sleep and forget the horrible experience with your insecure ass.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Dick size helps, but it really isn't about dick size. I talk with all women I've slept with about this (and I'm pretty secure with the roll I got)

      so you're stupid and insecure. what do you think a woman thinks when they hear a man thinks he's "pretty good down there"? They know he's small because big dick energy is not talking about your big dick.

      also lol i can imagine this troglodyte now. every single woman. "w-...was it good? a-am i big enough? tell me the truth" as they dry up like the sahara and couldn't get aroused if fight club brad pitt walked in and kicked you out.

      "hey why cant i cum"
      "i dunno let me give you my obviously virgin perspective"

      blind leading the blind

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >post is thoughtful
        >man fuck this homosexual

        Found the actual virgin.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >its all about connection
      >t. childless, wifeless manwhore
      Lol. Lmao.

  19. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I always whip out the vibrator and make my girl cum that way after I am done. That way, I can finger her or just make out until she gets there and we both get more out of having sex.

  20. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    because porn ruined both of you, your perceptions and your expectations. neither of you know what sex is actually like or how it's supposed to be done

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      not to mention your generation has reduced sex to absolutely emotionless garbage so how the fuck do you expect to get off when the whole reason you're with the guy is because you were hungry and swiped right to get a free dinner.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >how the fuck do you expect to get off when the whole reason you're with the guy is because you were hungry and swiped right to get a free dinner.

        It sounds like this should be a joke but it's the sad truth. Holy fuck are kids ruined.

  21. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    if you're actually a girl and legitimately on LULZ asking this then you're a vapid slut that deserves to never have one.

  22. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Read about "coital alignment technique" and have your man read about it too. I'm 34, and I have had a lot of success getting my past girlfriends to come with CAT over the last 10 years since I learned about it. With some girls I've even been able to have synchronized orgasms—coming together at the same time. It's amazing.

    Sex will basically be a boring chore for you as a woman if you do not read into how your body works, and exploit it. There is A TON of literature about female orgasms and how to get off during sex. I would begin here, and just keep reading more and more (link below).

    Sex positions can really make all the difference. If you're just having missionary, girl-on-top, and doggy-style sex all the time, you're missing out on a whole world of pleasure and fun—so long as you and/or your guy aren't obese/fat.

    C.A.T.:
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coital_alignment_technique

    Also, read up on this position (the one in the picture). Again, not possible if one or both partners are fat, but GREAT if you're normally sized:
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lateral_coital_position

    Good luck and remember, relax and have fun. Don't take things too seriously, but don't ignore your wonderfully complex body at the same time.

    RELAX and a balance!

  23. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Inept men.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      definitely.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      nope. her orgasm is her responsibility

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        A relationship is fundamentally about mutually giving each other and this is especially true for sex.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Most women are hilariously bad at sex a couldn't make a man cum if they tried men are responsible for their own orgasm, I don't see why women shouldn't be too

      • 3 weeks ago
        Hecate

        I take 100% responsibility for mine. That's why they're so good!

  24. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    All these homosexuals in this thread and IRL who have no idea that EROTIC books for women EXIST, they dominate the market and tell you all about what makes women wet. If you can stimulate her like that, it's easy to make her cum.

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