I'm a 30 year old woman who has never been in a long term relationship.

I'm a 30 year old woman who has never been in a long term relationship. I've dated 2 guys, for about 2 months each; they both broke up with me. I've never been loved romantically or been told "I love you" from a man.
idk how to find a decent man who actually wants to be with me. I'm below average looks-wise. I try to be supportive and loyal, but I'm just not the most interesting person. Plus I'm awkward and really bad at socializing or meeting new people so dating is hard for me. The loneliness gets more crushing with each passing year. How can I find a patient man who wants to have a family with an autistic woman?

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  1. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    you are on NSFFW, sweetie...this is the last place to ask for such advice...
    anyway, go out, touch grass...and don't fret...not everyone is entitled to a partner or their own family...find happiness within first, everything else follows eventually

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      oh, and don't settle for someone below your standards simply because you feel your clock ticking or because you are desperate...this will end in a disaster

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        your people destroyed the Earth. You deserve to suffer.

        lmao. Show me a road that doesnt end in disaster.

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      >find happiness within first, everything else follows eventually

      People always say that but how can I be happy when I'm so lonely? My most recent relationship - if you can call it that - ended a little while ago. I was happy when dating him, I would have been more than glad to continue but he ended it without much explanation. It sucks to feel unwanted and unlovable

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        https://i.imgur.com/iGHse2v.jpg

        I'm a 30 year old woman who has never been in a long term relationship. I've dated 2 guys, for about 2 months each; they both broke up with me. I've never been loved romantically or been told "I love you" from a man.
        idk how to find a decent man who actually wants to be with me. I'm below average looks-wise. I try to be supportive and loyal, but I'm just not the most interesting person. Plus I'm awkward and really bad at socializing or meeting new people so dating is hard for me. The loneliness gets more crushing with each passing year. How can I find a patient man who wants to have a family with an autistic woman?

        Woman can date at any time. If you only dated for four months in your life that's on you. You sound addicted to feeling bad for yourself. "Unlovable" is baby shit, utter nonsense.

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          idk about that, I've never been popular with guys. Even at my most attractive as a teen/young adult, guys my age didn't express interest in me. It was just creepy strange men 20+ years my senior who would proposition me sometimes
          It's hard to find someone who
          >is genuinely interested in me
          >doesn't just want sex
          >I'm also into
          >has the same desires (marriage + kids)
          Plus I have no interest in jumping from guy to guy. I just want a stable committed relationship

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            I'm certain you could be with a decent man in a matter of months. You just said you have autism and feel bad for yourself so those aspects of your brain, life, and personality are obstructing your goals if not preventing their formation entirely. With mental and social hangups things that are normally very easy become difficult. It doesn't bode well for you that you're thirty and blaming your appearance or some nonsense about unlovability; that's what a kid does.

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            yup you’re completely clueless

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        >It sucks to feel unwanted and unlovable
        love yourself

        >how can I be happy when I'm so lonely?
        Humans are social beings, so being lonely will always suck. You gotta cope somehow. Do you have friends? Family? Connect with them. Point is that you shouldn't revolve your life around another human and depend on them emotionally. But you are talking to an anti-social loner, so take my advice (any advice) with a grain of salt.

  2. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    i know the feel
    its good to have enough sustenance as an individual that you dont need someone else, this is easier said than done but it will rescue you from this ideal codependent fantasy that no person ever really could fulfill
    feel better anon

  3. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    compromise. the people who are willing to give you want you want are not going to look the way you want. your most likely going to bag someone who you would be laughed at by your friends (if you have them) while being with them in public. If you can work past your own expectations, bite the bullet, go out, and start hitting on men that find you attractive. When asked for what your looking for, start with the word “friends”, then work your way towards opening up. If you hit them too early on with how desperate you feel, you’ll scare off the men like skittish deer. Good luck. If that doesn’t work get into magic and summon something to help you get what you want. Your already weird, why not go for the party prize.

  4. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    >patient man
    it's all tiresome, I get the feeling there's something else you're not telling about yourself that drive men away.
    >I'm a 30 year old woman
    At this point in life you should be able to tell when a guy is just trying to dick you or really care about you but if you're indeed autistic/socially awkward enough you might not be able to tell and that's a problem.
    I would say lower your expectations, go with somebody who cares about you and channel your issues into something else other than making a problem out of bs.

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      By 'patient man' I mostly mean someone who can deal with my autism. I can be slow to warm up and just kind of slow in general tbh

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        idk sounds like nothing tbqh, I've seen doods chase over women far worse than "just a little slow" maybe there's something else about you that you're not fully aware of or not willing to admit, anyway take your time having to know people, you might be missing out on somebody or hanging around the wrong crowd.

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          I think it's mostly a combination of those multiple factors. If it were only that I was a little slow, or only that I wasn't great looking, or only that I was boring, etc then it would be easier to find + keep a man

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            No. See

            I'm certain you could be with a decent man in a matter of months. You just said you have autism and feel bad for yourself so those aspects of your brain, life, and personality are obstructing your goals if not preventing their formation entirely. With mental and social hangups things that are normally very easy become difficult. It doesn't bode well for you that you're thirty and blaming your appearance or some nonsense about unlovability; that's what a kid does.

  5. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    >I try to be supportive and loyal
    this is very good
    >I'm just not the most interesting person
    it's not that important if you are as above and connect with someone
    >I'm below average looks-wise
    But you can work on your looks, that's within your control.

  6. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    >How can I find a patient man who wants to have a family with an autistic woman?
    have you gone to asperger support groups around you? might be at a church or university.

  7. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    M. I'm sorry to hear. I'm sure you are average, in positive light. We're all awkward and bad at socializing, that's why we are here too. Just keep your toys near, maybe a cat companion too, so you don't go crazy and do something stupid, and keep your chin up. Godspeed sister.

  8. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    Are you fat ? Did you try to dress nicely and put on some make-up ? Did you try to do something, anything to flirt with someone?

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      No
      I alternate between wearing frumpy and flattering clothes. tbh I'm not a big makeup person but I wear a little sometimes
      Unfortunately I'm terrible at flirting

  9. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    literally all you have to do is be skinny and put yourself out there. you’ll be ahead of 90% of women

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      Lol no way dude she already thinks the dudes that do hit on her are creepy cuz too old
      She’s moronic, and most likely broke
      She could find someone older that isn’t but that’s beneath her
      So essentially I guess she can enjoy being single

  10. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    Welcome to the blackpill, femcel edition. You're old and probably not ugly (most women are beautiful but think they're ugly) but you are seriously running out of time if it's not too late already. Remember that fertility significantly drops in your mid 30s.

  11. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    >long term, romantically
    qualifying keywords in case anyone missed it

    but if this isn't a bait, I don't care about social bullshit or whatever
    But I have this sinking feeling you have no opinions or interest about anything that matters to me either

  12. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    Ignore the trolls, who are all tenage virgins.

    At your age, the teenage dating scene doesn't exist, which is a good thing. You are FAR more likely to meet men as friends, colleagues, workmates, friends-of-friends or other non-romantic ways and THEN move together romantically.

    So increase your friend circle of all genders, to increase the pool of men

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