I'm 30 years old. What is the point of even transitioning at this age? It will probably take me years of effort to pass, assuming I ever will.

I'm 30 years old. What is the point of even transitioning at this age? It will probably take me years of effort to pass, assuming I ever will. How much time will I even get to enjoy being a woman before I'm old and grey? And all that effort just to basically feel 'okay', all that just to be at the same baseline as everyone else. How can putting in the herculean effort needed to turn my life around pass be worth it, why shouldn't I just actually commit suicide and have the pain end immediately?

  1. 2 months ago

    just lower your expectations and do what feels good anon. I don’t really care how well I pass but I’m also a shutin

    • 2 months ago

      >just lower your expectations and do what feels good anon
      yeah, basically.
      Start HRT and do laser, take care of hairloss if you've had it. Don't change your presentation drastically, don't expect to pass at the end.
      Kill yourself after 1.5 years on HRT if it's still totally unbearable.

  2. 2 months ago

    >How much time will I even get to enjoy being a woman before I'm old and grey?

    Most people pass in five years or less, and the 50s-60s are normally the graying decades (even if isolated gray hairs become common in the mid to late 30s), so...

  3. 2 months ago

    It beats continuing to masculinize

  4. 2 months ago

    35 is not 'old and grey' lol. Yea it sucks that you missed your teens and 20s but itll be way worse to be having these feelings when you're 50

    • 2 months ago

      I won't have these feelings when I'm 50. I'm not going to live a repressor life any longer

  5. 2 months ago

    I started last year on my 31st birthday, best decision ever...30 was a big eye opener for me because after mostly looking the same through your 20s, masculinization starts to ramp up again around 30 (I'm seeing it in all my guy friends too).
    You're getting close to the point of no return op like at this point you still have a good chance of making it, like I'll totally pass after ffs, but it's maybe like 1/100 people that can pass if they've made it very far into their 30s, even with ffs.
    You'll soon realize that 30 isn't really that old and you still have plenty of life ahead of you, don't squander the next 30 years like you did the first

  6. 2 months ago

    Just do it. You’re going to be miserable either way but at least on hrt you’ll be miserable with decent skin. If it’s any consolation I trooned out in college and it didn’t make me any less depressed. But yeah. Nice skin or whatever.

  7. 2 months ago

    Omg stop you'll be fine if you transition. I've been there, it sucks but then you do it and you can finally breathe

  8. 2 months ago

    it worked out well for me, i am 35

    you can reach happiness )*

  9. 2 months ago

    I feel like you and I are in the same boat. Same age. It feels way too late, and the effort and pain just doesn't seem worth it.

  10. 2 months ago

    Better than continuing to masculinise and age like a 100% man. I started at 31, am 33 now, don't pass, but mentally I feel infinitely better.
    t. jock to twink on hrt transitioner

  11. 2 months ago

    suicide is final but transitioning isnt. you may as well try it. you can always neck yourself later if it doesnt work out.

    that's what i told myself when i was 27 and thought itd be impossible for me to pass too. now im fully passable and attractive and dont have to work anymore because of onlyfans.

  12. 2 months ago

    Transitioned at 21.

    Am 27.

    Still don't pass.

    Good fucking luck if you're not genetically blessed.

    • 2 months ago

      as a 21 y/o about to start HRT in 2-4 days, if u don't mind me asking, how far along in male puberty were u

  13. 2 months ago

    I'm turning 29 soon and oof, yeah. Can start to see myself aging as a man and it's cringe. I'm also really good looking, so coasting on the cope of youthful male looks is coming to and end in the next few years. Basically debating going nofap/celibacy mode, turning into a monk, and mastering my body or trooning out. Not sure which one, yet. Quitting porn for the next 6 months to figure it out 😀

  14. 2 months ago

    Don't do it. Not worth it at your age. Don'teven start. You missed the "fun" part of your life when you could have been a young pretty girl and getting lots of positive attention and having fun. Nobody cares about women in their 30, especially a tranner. Jfc, just live your life for something more than your sexual fetish.

    t. 35 y/o tranner

  15. 2 months ago

    If you dont now, every year is gonna get harder. You will try at 35, then at 40 and then 50. Every year is gonna be harder and you will regret how dumb you were.

  16. 2 months ago

    man seeing this thread makes me feel a lot better about starting at the tail end of 22

    still wish i didn't rep for 7-8 years

    • 2 months ago

      you get one life and i fucked it up

  17. 2 months ago

    late 20s really good looking repping man. should i transition?

  18. 2 months ago

    i know how you feel.
    it's been a lot of emotions

    it just feels like i failed at life getting to this age without transitioning

    the way i see it is i can waste my life in comfort or risk doing something worth killing myself over if i fail
    not that it matters either way i'm probably going to die at some point in my life

  19. 2 months ago

    >What is the point of even transitioning at this age?
    let's say 20-35 are the best years of your life. some may argue that it's over at 30 or even over at 25, but let's just say physically after 35 is when your body starts to go to shit
    you can never enjoy 100% of life. would you rather enjoy 0% or 33% of it
    that's what i'm trying to tell myself. even though i've wasted my entire life i can still grab the last few years and then rot into old age like the rest of the worthless old fucks

  20. 2 months ago

    >younger cousin started transitioning a several years ago
    >happy and taken with a long-term bf
    >support from her immediate family (but less so from extended family)
    >watching her transition with quiet envy and despair alone as enter my 30's

    the ship has already sailed for me

  21. 2 months ago

    I sympathize with what is being said here, but I just want to say something positive. All of you have aging as the culprit of denying you a life as your true self. Fixing our skin to look forever young is not the most farfetched thing you can hope for. Stay positive.

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