If its not acceptable to try to engage female strangers (hitting on them, exchanging contact info, asking them out, etc)
How the fuck is anyone supposed to get into a relationship.
If its not acceptable to try to engage female strangers (hitting on them, exchanging contact info, asking them out, etc)
Have hobbies, and you'll meet women you have something in common with there. Going to random people and say "Hi. I want to bang you. Gimme your number." is creepy
There's nowhere to even ask chicks out anymore
women are completely isolated, they don't go outside, they never interact with strangers
they just go to school, go home or to their friend group, they are never anywhere where a man can approach or ask them out
women might as well be extinct
I do wish friendless incels on LULZ would stop posting about how normies are also exactly like them, shut-in virgin losers.
They're not. Normal people are still dating and having sex going out to place and doing things.
Even redditors are going to like capeshit cons and partying at barcades and all that nerd stuff.
>Normal people are still dating and having sex going out to place and doing things.
No they aren't because they can't afford it
Normies live paycheck to paycheck, they don't have any money left over for shit like parties after buying food and paying their bills
You're telling me there's literally no one who can afford to go out to go anywhere and do anything on weekends.
Take your meds. People still go to places and do things.
You should be able to afford to see your "friends "more than once a week, that's the problem
People are broke and friendships take too much money and time to maintain
>You should be able to afford to see your "friends "more than once a week, that's the problem
how is that a problem, I'm not in 5th grade anymore, I don't need to see my friends more often than that. What am I gonna have a scary movie sleepover night with them?
I'm looking for actual friends, not just some retards to drink and talk about stupid meaningless shit with once a week.
what's your definition of "actual friends"
do you not have a job or go to school? Hanging out with friends more than once a week is a hassle.
Once a week is not enough for me to feel connected to anyone. That's just how I am. "Friendship" is subjective.
>Once a week is not enough for me to feel connected to anyone
Why, does the connection fade away after a few days?
It's been scientifically proven that it takes 90 (of time actively spent together, not just of knowing each other) hours just to go from acquaintances to friends, and 200 hours to go from friends to close friends.
With how overworked and busy people are these days, it's hard to find that kind of time. And yes, friendships do deteriorate from time apart. They take a lot of work, time, and money to maintain.
>It's been scientifically proven that it takes 90 (of time actively spent together, not just of knowing each other) hours just to go from acquaintances to friends, and 200 hours to go from friends to close friends.
No it hasn't.
Is that really what the post-college life is like?
>being a social awkward shut-in isn't my fault
every time with you retards. every. damn. time.
why can you comprehend that it takes practice and work to improve some skillsets, like being good at vidya, but think that some are purely a coin flip upon birth, like socializing?
If they dont go out theyre on discords like you, losers
>its now impossible because women wont go outside or "extinct" as you put it.
This is a brand new one.. your guys excuses are getting dumber amd dumber and dumber.
I'm 29 and I have not seen a woman my age outside without a boyfriend or a friend group since I left high school. I don't see young women in my daily life at all, and haven't in over a decade.
>My hobbies include hiking, walking alone, going to the gym alone, also I don't go to bars or night clubs because I don't drink.
>hiking, walking alone
Because I have nobody to go with and can't find anyone anywhere.
>going to the gym alone
See above.
You're correct that I don't, but I have been to bars and nightclubs, and there was still nobody there. Everyone was with a pre-existing group and not interested in talking to anyone else. I stopped going because nobody talked to me, and when I tried talking to them, that didn't work either.
>there was still nobody there. Everyone was
I hate it when there's nobody at a place when also there's simultaneously everyone there. Schroedinger's Bar.
so what are your hobbies besides being alone and complaining that no one talks to you
do you collect stamps or something
The only hobbies I can do since I don't have any friends; playing video games, playing with my pets, and winning money online.
Join a gym brother, ideally something where you can take part in group sports/classes/
there's no women to talk to there, it's just losers picking up weights and putting them down with earphones in
no women at all and if some appears, there's billion videos where they show they are incapable of ever speaking to a man in that environment. No speech, no talking, no women, no classes, nothing. Group sports are just other incel men with no option to contact women just like on here.
And if you try to talk to women at the gym, they'll call you a creep, record it, and upload it to Tiktok.
You have to either meet them in schools or through mutual friends (at parties, meetups with them etc.)
Women are all massively autistic, you have to engage with them in their routine environments starting with talk about routine topics you have in common (school or friends).
If you don't have a gf now it means you're both out of uni and your social circle failed you, that means your only possible thing to do is save up money until you can quit work and go to university again to meet women there.
bars don't mean shit since all women are autistically glued to their tables to their boyfriends, they might as well never go out and all stay indoors, they aren't there socially they are there locked in their room'
There's people locked in their rooms right now. Does this mean they want you to break into those homes?
There's money in cash register. Does it mean that it's Schroedinger's money since you can't take it?
Bars are the same. They aren't there in any way that matters (where you can speak to them)
WOmen are only in 2 places, inside their social bubble and schools. Everywhere else they don't exsist socially, just physically which is worthless, since there's nothing to say to them to rip them from these autists and they aren't comfortable speaking like the guy pointed out about speaking on streets, it's creepy to them which shuts down all possible contact on top of there not being anything to say.
hobbies do not matter at all since they are done alone or inside the locked to outsiders circle
Going to random people and going "Hi. I want to bang you. Gimme your number." hoping they realize you have hobby in common is creepy
What about guys, schooler. Do guy also suffer from your school campus-exclusive autism?
Like could I make friends with another dude outside of school? just a coworker or someone I get to know through playing sports.
Is making friends outside of school possible according to you?
So we can have an entite lecture on more topics than just women about the word "perception" and how "I dont see it so it isnt real" is one of the top 10 biggest signs of a retard there is.
No, YOU aren't going anywhere there are women.
Just because there aren't any available women in YOUR self-prescribed isolation bubble doesn't mean they aren't out in the world.
How in the fuck did "NEVER approach women" become so ingrained in your head. You don't even have the firsthand experience to make that assumption. Can't be much more than defeatism for the sake of fear avoidance.
Mostly this
too.
That's schooler he's a famous poster on this board for being a Level 10 Autist who doesn't believe anyone has ever had a conversation with anyone outside of school.
No, YOU believe that. You're only human who keeps repeating it. Not thinking anyone has ever had a conversation with anyone outside of school is entirely YOUR viewpoint that no one except for your autistic ass has ever expressed. You have to project it onto others because you always get decimated in every argument and admit I am correct.
it doesn't matter what hobbies he has because no woman out on the street would ever learn about it. there's no women to meet since all hobbies are done alone or in social bubble. No one knows what hobbies you have or what passerbies have out on streets or cashiers have or whoever else. They just pass by without speaking, hobby doesn't matter only social contact that comes from schools and social circles does.
It doesn't matter and now you're trying to change subjects. Men have far superior social skills to women and aren't fed nonstop propaganda about being murdered and raped since they are born so they can handle far more social interactions unlike women. Men don't have inherent autism that women have so they can adjust to any break in their routine without problem too. But women aren't like men so it doesn't matter, we're talking about girls not guys you fucking homosexual.
There's nothing to practice. He already has the best possible social skillset. life is not vidya, no one can tell anything about you since there's no visible stats, there's no practice going on and no one can tell anything about you, he already mastered socialization just has nowhere to do it since he isn't in school.
The fact you don't realize he has maximum greatest possible social skill that cannot be practiced any further proves your point wrong. By not realizing he's the best shows social skills don't matter and no one can even tell them. Every time with you retard you have to bring up homosexual ass bidya. They have nothing to do with real life and never will.
There's also this weird assumption that being quiet means you're shy, awkward, or antisocial.
That's never been the case for me. The reason I don't talk much is simply because I have nothing to say most of the time. I have no problem talking, I just don't find any enjoyment in talking for talking's sake. My modus operandi has always been to only speak when I have something important or interesting to say, or when I feel like saying something.
>My modus operandi
With a vocubulary like this you should probably shut the fuck up forever
>I'm not antisocial, I simply get no enjoyment out of talking with people and being with them or around them
?
I do get enjoyment out of talking with people and being with them, but only if we're actually DOING something. I don't have a problem with talking, I have a problem with JUST talking.
>, but only if we're actually DOING something.
what
well that's a mistake you have to be proactive because all women are autistic and they cannot really talk on their own, they need someone to find whatever they hyperfixate on (usually their social circle) and then they can start speaking
but they are very limited and they cannot talk much otherwise, especially when talking to someone they don't know
Women cannot talk at all so you need to do the first part of relationship almost all on your own and then once you learn more about their life and their friends you can get them to talk more about that.
I think it's just because of how shit and expensive everything everywhere is and how cheap internet is in comparision. Why go to the store when you can but more things cheaper online, why go to movies when there's more things streaming and for price of 1 ticket you get to subsribe to netflix for a month and watch infinite amount of shit. Everyone just wants to squeeze money out of you as much as possible and women don't like spending money so they don't do anything at all.
It's all especially appealing to women since they don't have as rich internal life so they don't leave homes almost ever.
Plus it's highly profitable to spread fear, women have been taught by true crime docs and tv shows that any stranger that talks is a rapist serial killer and they cannot handle any amount of interaction with strangers on top of them never being outside in the world anymore.
Also nowadays men have self help agenda pushed onto them since they are young so they waste time improoving not talking to girls, their only time to do so, and there's nowhere to do it after graduation until going 2nd time.
fake chart, its' an ad. we've been over this, mathematically its not possible for couples to meet on tinder because no women use it and the few that do never swipe on anything but models/celebrities, no ability to say anything to a table in restaurant, you admitted it's fake 10000 times already
Don't buy the "women aren't on apps" nonsense. Women make new accounts to find each chad, then delete them. They filter on and off apps, that's why their presence is low at any one time, but over a long duration all women flit on and off. Whereas men stay on the apps long term hoping for crumbs if they aren't tall and handsome.
>there are no women on dating apps
>also all the women on dating apps are ordering chads online
MAKE UP YOUR MIND INCELS
THERE CAN'T BE NO WOMEN ONLINE WHILE ALSO WOMEN ARE DOING LE HYPERGAMY ONLINE
>fake chart, its' an ad.
It's not an ad, it's not advertising any brand of anything. It was a census done by a legitimate university.
you, who loves universities so much. Why would you distrust their research so?
It is an ad advertising shitty dating apps. There's been no research done, there's no evidence of any of it happening. I can do a survey right now showing no one who ever lived has ever had sex by going on LULZ. Would that prove to you that sex isn't real? I can make a survey that shows every human has no arms and legs. Does that make it true? There's no evidence for it, no written records of these conversations with strangers seated in restaurants or anything else. There's nothing there.
That's not true. Average men are desired and form relationships with average women all around the globe. You just need to go outside to see for yourself, go for a walk and you will see plenty of average to average couples and for ever guy with girl beneath them you will later see a girl with guy beneath her.
It's all just about social contact that comes from schools or social circles. It's a matter of luck if you got lucky and your friends happen to know a pretty girl, you can have an above average gf because you had someone to set you up. If your friends dont know anyone and the girl in your class/uni happen to be ugly, then you will end up with someone beneath you. But in most likely case you will get an average gf that desires you as much as you do her and you will be wicked happy.
You just need to go to university again and get that chance to communicate with women again and everything will be fine and dandy.
COVID had absolutely no impact on anything. It just exposed the lie society lived in for decades that going outside matters when it doesn't at all since no one communicates with strangers anyway. There's nothing to say to them, no ability to conversate, no interaction anywhere. People used to think going to a restaurant is something special instead isn't since they just sit at tables with the people they already know just like in their homes. Everyone is the same as always they just see they were pretending that ouside exsists.
>It just exposed the lie society lived in for decades that going outside matters when it doesn't at all since no one communicates with strangers anyway
All friends started as strangers. If nobody talks to strangers, friendships can't form.
>It is an ad advertising shitty dating apps
It's not advertising any apps at all retard
what apps is it advertising? None of them? Cool advertising that is. What a world you live in where advertising means not advertising anything.
It is an ad you retard
all the apps are owned by one group. Which ap is it not advertising? It's an ad. What world do you mean in where praising something in ridiculous made up ways is not an ad.
No one has ever spoken to some random stranger.
>If nobody talks to strangers, friendships can't form.
Correct, which is why it's impossible to have a girlfriend. There's nowhere for strangers to communicate with women so you can't form relationship or have sex.
You need to be somewhere where you aren't a stranger aka school or be introduced you social circle
No one said any of it you retard
>bro all women love being raped in public
>rape is 100% legal everywhere
>no one needs to ever speak or communicate to another human being, just rape people nonstop
>No, what do you mean there's more to socializing than just raping passerbies?
I love anti-incels
OK so everyone they met in the bar was someone they knew already (through schools or friends)
Everyone they met online was someone they met at the party or in school
Therefore no one has ever met anyone in bar itself, bar and online is just unrelated to the questionaiire and should be taken from it
>all the apps are owned by one group.
No they're not - which group?
Match Group. All except Bumble, which is a ghost town.
So where's the receipt that say Match Group funded that Stanford University survey?
Why is the idea of like one third of all couples in the modern day world meeting online so INSANE and UNREALISTIC to you that it has to be a conspiracy about fake surveys posing as subliminal ads?
*ahem*
39+27+20+11+9+7=113% lol
also doesn't include a section for clubs, church, or any other social gathering. This survey is gay
brother, it can be two things at once - like meeting someone at a bar by chance because they happened to know your family member or friends you were at the bar with.
>excuses
>excuses
>excuses
>excuses
cope
Everything written in your image is an objective truth and you reposting it doesn't change it. If I have image saying 2+2=4, it doesn't matter how often you keep begging the world to change it won't.
You have brain problems from reciting too many reddit comments and getting humiliated for believing they are true and seeing them dismantled time and time again to the point you memorized why they are wrong.
Get a life you retarded loser.
Who cares then? You cannot ever come in contact with them so it doesn't matter.
Your reading comprehension is SHIT you retarded incel, they aren't there as in 99.9999999% of them do not ever think of using them and the 0.00000001% doesn't matter since they are unable to communicate there anyway
>Men don't have inherent autism
Lol ok Schooler, I know of at least one man who does...
I’m always confused when I see this. Is this meant literally? Where did OP say he’s gonna say exactly that?
I wouldnt rule out the possibility of this happening
>If it's not acceptable
It never is.
Don't listen to this retard, they're either a woman, or have never actually dated.
Or this guy, clubs aren't for that type of stuff anymore, women usually go out with friends, and are aware men will come to them with intent to ask out so they'll be more than ready to say "no."
I'm going to be real with you chief.
Statistically, most people get bitches from bars or tinder.
If you're too ugly for Tinder, you're likely too ugly period, no copes about it, you just are, but then why not shoot your shot?
People say going in public and cold approaching with no pua training or any of that shit is creepy, but so is a lot of other places outside of public if not worse.
Remember the worst thing they can say is no, ignore the other queers here, it's very simple
>Hi you're very pretty I really like you're style, would you consider going out sometime?
Directly, no bullshitting, chatting is a waste of time to them and you,
>No
"Well thanks for your time anyway, goodday."
>Yes
Continue from there
Stop taking dating advice from /adv/.
>Stop taking dating advice from /adv/.
But you're giving advice on /adv/, should I listen to you or not?
context, brother
it's normal to get to know le females if you see them on a weekly or daily basis at something like college or karate sport classes at the gym or church or volunteering, it's also normal to try to flirt with everyone at a bar or night club.
Other than that, maybe if you have some surface level common interest like you're both goths accidentally wearing the same band shirt on the train.
Generally speaking though what you're talking about the fully cold col-approach of just going UHM EXCUSE ME HI YOU'RE VERY PRETTY CAI I GET YOUR NUMBER PLOX to any stranger walking down the street. Nothing in common, no reason to talk to them, not the time nor the place.
A point that's very often overlooked is that girls are massive shut ins these days. Fewer and fewer people spend any real time outside their room. Even old fogies dont sit out on their porches anymore.
This has a snowball effect too because now, basically the only people out walking around at 12am are scary homeless people, which means no one wants to go out there.
Businesses have shortened their hours too because people just go to work, go home, and maybe get some food on the way. They dont head back out again for dinner at 9pm. Theres no reason for restaurants to have anything but a kitchen to service grubhub, doordash and ubereats.
People are random. You can end up falling in love with someone just because you were both drunk at 1am and ended up on the train together and started talking. But if people dont go outside, this never happens. Yes, theoretically women can dial-a-chad, and sometimes they do, but this doesnt lead to nearly as much random sex as people being out and about.
I was back in the city I went to college in recently, and 4 out of the 5 bars near campus have closed. One was replaced with a chipotle and the others are just shuttered. Zoomers dont go to bars, they just drink white claws together on their phones in their rooms.
And even chipotle, of which theres now one on every side of the campus, when I started college, they would be absolutely packed with people between about noon and 7pm. Now theres just a steady line of food delivery guys picking up orders to take to people who are alone in their rooms, and maybe 1 or 2 middle aged people eating alone on their lunch break. The local McDonalds is the same way.
This also kills dating because where do you even go? Everywhere is empty.
Funnily, yuppie hipster neighborhoods of late 20s-30s millennials are still bumping around dinnertime, but its completely dead after 9pm since everyone just goes home to watch netflix.
This is a pasta. I've seen this before, word for word.
I don't know which agency is behind bot posts like this but just let it be known, I'm on to you.
Today on people with autism havihg extreme difficulty understanding "it is not socially acceptable to approach ANYONE in the street and harrass them" and thinking there's literally no other way to meet people because their retarded aspie brains cant deal in anything but extremes despite the fact some of you (and maybe OP) HAVE friends and acquaintances and should from your own memories, understand its an unscriptable and very difficult to describe process thats more about being the right place at the right time and finding common ground.
Asks for scripts anyway.
I grew up in a time where it WAS acceptable to talk to random people on the streets. Nowadays everybody is hostile and only talks to people thy already know.
I am 36. I never had a problem with women. I never in my life had to randomly approach a woman in any awkward or non socially acceptable manner that wasnt similar to a way youd meet a friend.
Excuses excuses excuses excuses with you people. All fuckin day.
as a 36 year old where can you meet 18 year old girls?
kys
I'm in this group and a dude came to an outing and said he was trying to make friends. He left because he said no one was talking to him. I tell people all the time that the "just be yourself and put yourself out there" advice rarely works.
Social groups and group outings aren't the best place to meet new people. People on group outings usually just talk to the people they already know, so that's why many people want someone to go with them so they'll have someone to talk to or they don't go so they won't be alone.
I talked to him a few times but kept seeing him walk to a corner. I asked him why and he said besides me, no one else was talking to him. I told him to just go jump in the conversation. He said he tried, but it didn't work. He said he'd keep looking for a group to join then left.
It's not just dating, there's a massive friendship recession going on too. People have far fewer "close friends" than they did in the past.
>In 1990, 40% of men reported having 10+ close friends, and only 3% reported having none
>in 2021, only 15% reported having 10+ close friends, while the number who reported having none rose to 15%
Something has changed in our society.
>Something has changed in our society.
20 year olds being raised by LULZ and porn sites since they were not even 12
This, and women raised by instagram and twitter.
What a fucking disaster
Well the twitter ones is a coin toss but at least the instragram ones are normies with friends getting laid unlike all teh frogposting incels and SJW freaks
Good thing tumblr was gone because if it were still around it would be fuelling a femcel epidemic just like LULZ and incels
Tumblr still exists and is pretty active. All that changed is that the porn ban forced artists and coomers to migrate to other sites.
>Literally can't envision dating women without harassing them first
The absolute state of moids.
Men with autism should be put in jail.
If were being honest here if a woman approached you on the street randomly with a lick up line or something you would probably
How is it possible that women are sluttier than ever, but men arent getting laid
lesbiamns
Women are sluttier than ever, but they're also shut-ins who never leave the house unless absolutely necessary. For women, dating apps are like food delivery apps. No need to out when you can order a Chad directly to your door.
I love the incel's logic of Schroedinger's Dating App.
Somehow cell phones and dating apps ruined dating for everyone because women everywhere can -finally- get the attention of guys which was impossible to do before 2012.
Also while these cell phone apps just open up the floodgates for all these women to have access to all these guys - it somehow doesn't work the other way where these same guys also now have access the same access to the same women.
One Chad can and does fuck 10 women simultaneously while the women think Chad is only fucking them.
Average people don't have sex? If redditors can get a fat gf to have sex with, so can you,.
Average women no longer desire average men. Average men now only have access to women that are far beneath them.
Yeah they do shut up, I see loads of fat girls with fat dudes, ugly couples with ugly kids, etc.
You just wish everyone was as lonely as you.
That's what every other post in here is like as well, schooler wishes everyone as well no one was able to have a conversation that wasn't about homework or classes, all the incels wish that normies were as lonely and angry as them, etc.
They're getting cucked, knowingly or otherwise. Whether or not being a cuckold is worth it is a personal decision.
>Whether or not being a cuckold is worth it is a personal decision.
Ayo this dude outting himself as a cuck lowkey
Fuck off no I do not.
I just wish I was socially competent and was better at making a good impression on women. I want for others what I want for myself
Are those quality relationships though? Probably not.
No relationship is better than a bad one.
>Those grapes are probably sour, actually. Actually I hates grapes, so there.
Are these redditors in the room with us right now?
>For women, dating apps are like food delivery apps. No need to out when you can order a Chad directly to your doorstep.
Kek, only in the demented mind of an incel is this reality.
>women are shut-ins who never leave the house
>all women are autistic and they cannot really talk on their own
So you're still doing this thing of projecting your non-verbal autism on women huh
you're the guy who has brain problems that prevents him from talking about anything other than school not women or me or anyone else who's had sex and dated girls outside of college or even high school.
Get a life.
you've conflated "slutty" with "fucking"
Since you have lonely cumbrain, you think any expression of sexuality means that expressor is getting dicked down on the regular by roving bands of ethereal hyper chad naggers.
I mean, you're not an ethereal hyper chad nagger, and you're not having sex with them, and they clearly must be having sex all the time because you've decided so, which means that's the only possibility, right?
Logic checks out.
Well, as long as you completely ignore the fact that every variable has no foundation in reality for the vast majority of people throughout human history.
Women's definition of "slutty" is very different than the horndog shit in your head. Going out in a tight dress and heels with their friends until they end the night puking on a friend's couch is "slutty." Playful flirting with their best friend's husband in front of her to get him to blush for the lulz is "slutty." Texting a dude first is "slutty." Wearing a new flamboyant makeup look in public is "slutty." Not giving a shit about putting on a bra for a quick walmart trip is "slutty." Eating too much chocolate after the store run but fucking her boyfriend anyway is "slutty."
Getting railed by a different guy multiple nights every week? That's not "slutty," that's mental illness whoremode. That's having to listen to endless venting conversations from your girlfriend/wife about how her gross friend went whoremode and and her and her friends are debating whether or not to cut her out or stage some kind of intervention.
Every female is a stranger before you speak to her. I think the issue is that LULZ autists don't have any social intelligence or awareness whatsoever so they can't read a room. They can't discern between when it is and isn't appropriate to approach a stranger to talk to them nor do they even know how to carry a conversation after they have approached. It sucks to hear but this is something that can't really be taught. If you can't navigate basic social situations like sparking up a conversation in an organic and approachable way then you're better off trying other forms of dating.
>when it is and isn't appropriate to approach
THere's exactly 2 places to do it
1. school
2. your social circle
if you have no girls connected to you and aren't in school, conversation is not ever possible.
It cannot be taught as there's nothing to teach, it's just a matter of pointing to a place. Conversation is piss easy to carry, it's just a matter of how much you know about the person which outside of schools/circle is absolutely nothing, there's nothing to teach there and everyone can do it. It cannot be taught because there's absolutely no information related to it.
Dating is not possible outside of these 2 places. OP can perfectly navigate basic social situations like sparking up a conversation in an organic and approachable way he just isn't in the correct place in the world where that is possible.
I’m only 19 so I have time to get better at this at least (time that will rapidly tick away) but I just feel wildly incompetent. I don’t know what I’m doing and I can’t ask my dad for advice because things are completely different now, and I ask you guys for advice and it’s a mixed bag.
I feel genuinely like im figuring this out from scratch. People tell me that it’s abit about luck and being at the right place at the right time. But fuck me ive never been at the right place yet. It’s not that hard and yet somehow im in my own way…
I’m fairly outgoing, minimally awkward and not a social outcast. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong to make it so difficult.
Misogyny is not cool. No wonder women aren't talking to you guys.
Seriously, i went to a concert recently and it was like a few hundred guys and 3 chicks. Bars too, it's just 10 guys around every table. It's so fucking exhausting going to some new activity, hoping to meet a girl for the first time in your life... and it's just guys. Only guys. What the fuck do young single women even do nowadays? Apparently they don't go outside or have hobbies.
>What the fuck do young single women even do nowadays?
Any time not spent in school or at work unironically goes to scrolling Instagram and TikTok in their rooom. Social media is like heroin to women.
It would help if more of them bothered signing up for and putting even minimal effort into apps like Tinder, so that at least the gender ratio was slightly less hopeless.
If you're attractive women will engage you first, or at least give you hints that they want to be approached. The solution is to become attractive, not try to force interactions.
COVID turned even normies into terminally online weirdos. Everyone lost two years of social development
No it didn't lmao normies were having warehouse raves and spiking the infection rates during lockdown, hanging out at parks and each other's backyards, etc.
Literally no one who was popular or normal suddenly became a friendless incel overnight because zoom classes or having to wash their hands.
/avd/ posters calling each other incels as if they arent literally here because theyre incels
>nooo dude like i had a gf at one point like a couple years ago im just like too busy right now anyway and im trying to work on myself and
Fuck off
Youre an incel and no amount of pointing and laughing at other people is gonna make you a better better person. You point and laugh at autistic guys whose skulls maybe arent shaped so fortunately, but at least theyre out there trying
You're not trying. Identifying as an incel is self-sabotage and a self-fulfilling prophecy. Stop hating women and be an adult for once.
Incel is not an identity. It just means "involuntarily celibate", that's it. Anyone who wants sex but isn't getting it (or getting it as often as they'd like) is an incel.
Stop wanting sex, let it progress naturally.
You're overthinking the entire process.
>do this
>continue to be a sexless freak, just now huffing copium
Neat.
I've had plenty of sex. I just don't thirst after it like some sort of animal. I'm completely happy with my sex life.
Good on you for being inherently and conventionally attractive. Not all of us are so fortunate.
Regular sex is a biological requirement for optimal health, both physical and mental. If your health isn't optimal, you can't live.
Humans are biologically programmed to want sex. I have no control over that. I didn't choose to be born as a human.
engage hemi-strangers (people who you meet via activities)
do stuff where conversing is forced
People blame helicopter parents for why kids and teens don't go outside anymore and that's definitely part of it but an even bigger part is:
1. There's nothing to do outside anymore. Back in the 90's there were places you could go WITHOUT having to spend money (or they were cheap enough for kids at least). Roller rinks, the mall, Toys R Us, arcades, etc. What the fuck is a kid supposed to do now? Walk to Walmart just to walk around the store and maybe buy a $3 candy bar that's smaller than your thumb?
2. The lucky kids that live in rural areas can spend time in the woods but most kids live in shithole cities nowadays so their parents can be close to work. Rural kids have the disadvantage though that their friends probably live far away, too far to walk. I grew up in a rural area and spent lots of time in the woods but I was usually alone because my closest friend lived like 15 miles away.
3. Electronics. It's easier and more entertaining to play a video game or spend time online. Ask 99% of kids whether they'd rather play a video game or go outside and they'll pick the game every time.
4. Money. This kind of ties into number one but everything costs money nowadays. A SHITLOAD of money. Fucking around online costs nothing. Playing a video game might cost $60 but spread over how many hours of entertainment you get it's cheap. Kids just don't find going outside in their shithole city and spending money entertaining or even possible in most cases.
This applies to adult shut-ins too. There's very little to do and the few that there are aren't things you can blow your budget on every day.
>arcades,
yeah that whole operation was famous for never taking any kids' money
>Ask 99% of kids whether they'd rather play a video game or go outside and they'll pick the game every time.
This was also true in the 90s my dude, super mario mania hit the west in 85, not last week.
>yeah that whole operation was famous for never taking any kids' money
Unless you were playing redemption crap, or were bad at the games, you got what you paid for. Play a racer? You get to complete the lap even if you fail. Playing a fighting game? Most of em you can 1cc at least up to the boss if youre competant. Rhythm games? They let you play the full song even if you fuck up every note.
This idea that arcades were predatory and like, some kinda proto microtransaction shit is retarded.
i strongly disagree with you. i was always a semi normie with sperg tendencies. ultimately i found that a LOT of people are literally worth less to me than inanimate objects. so video games and such were just an attractive opt out that showed up at a convenient time.
Use tinder or hinge retard
I did. None of my matches messaged me or replied to my messages, too many single moms in my feed too.
Got tired of the shit and just deleted all my online dating profiles, they're a waste of time.
Having to actively try to meet people is the problem in and of itself. None of our ancestors had to overthink this shit the way we do nowadays, they just lived their lives and socializing, friendships, relationships just formed naturally from that. You have to actively try to avoid interacting with other people. Having a social life was the default.
Nowadays, it's the opposite. It's easier than ever to be isolated, and socializing is too much work for too little gain. People are no longer dependent on each other for survival, so they're quicker to drop people. "Friends" have been easily replaceable commodities.
>zoomer take
None of this is true.
Isolating yourself online in lieu of fostering relationships is your own fault.
By your own logic garnering relationships, platonic or romantic, should be easier than ever.
>many people are lonely
>and don't want to be lonely
>but are easier to engage with because internet
>you don't want to be lonely
>you have access to the internet
Stop blaming your personal lack of agency on shit like "le wrong generation, amiright?"
I've tried the internet. I can't connect with anyone on it, nor can I find anyone on it whoever lives close to me.
I've tried IRL. I can't connect with anyone IRL.
Even when I'm surrounded by people, I still feel isolated. Everyone is more mentally isolated from each other these days, regardless of where they are physically. People don't even know the names of their neighbors anymore because neighbor aren't designed for you to meet neighbors anymore. People walk straight from their door to their car.
>i'm doing it wrong
>this is everyone else's fault
Fuck it, just keep being wrong, I'm not surprised you were unsuccessful if this is how you act. You're anonymous here, you could bullshit almost any fantasy persona for yourselves, and yet you CHOOSE to be boorish sadsacks.
At least practice being someone that does something other than immediately exhaust everyone around you.
Why would I come up with a fantasy persona online, where I'm anonymous? There's no reason to lie when you're anonymous.
I use my real persona online and a fake one IRL.
Loneliness does not mean literally being isolated from other people. Yeah, it's easier than ever to engage with other people, but it's a lot harder to really connect with them. The types of friendships our culture idealizes aren't really a thing anymore.
>Isolating yourself online in lieu of fostering relationships is your own fault.
I didn't isolate myself online. I attempted for years to foster IRL relationships. Nobody reciprocated. Felt like I was the one putting in all the effort, but nobody cared enough to return the favor. So I got depressed and just stopped bothering. I did what any rational human being does; we're designed as a species to optimize our energy output. If what we're doing isn't getting results, or the results we're getting aren't worth the effort, we stop.
Why continue to waste time and money trying to connect with people who don't even care when the internet is free?
>there are no women anywhere
>and if there are, they're only having sex with the 0.0000001% of the elite 0.00000000000001% who are already friends with them and you cannot have a conversation
>No, what do you mean 80% of people have sex
I love incels
I'm convinced the people who argue against OP's point are paid deradicalizers. The same shit happens on /LULZ/ every time someone makes a thread like this.
/thread
Fake news. White women fuck dogs more than white knights.
Online dating. Then you know any girl you are messaging with and/or meet up with is into you and you can skip that whole issue
What? No you don't.
All you know is that she thinks you're t least good looking enough to be worth meeting up with. That does not mean she is "into you" by any stretch of the imagination.
Not a somebody? Not rich? Not perfect?
If no, don't bother the females. Otherwise you will face a harrassment charge or worse.
the future we're headed for
She could literally have a bf anytime she wants. Its on her. No gay alien skull no excuse
She only wants GigaChad though, but left that detail out.
And what was his excuse then. It's never the looks its always mental with "incels".
Elliot thought he was entitled to Hot blonde Stacey’s that should approach him. The guy was Delusional.
Wasn't it also reported that even some of those girls actually thought he was cute and approached him?
This retard had no excuse, just an awful combination of autism entitlement and psycopathy
In truth tho alien skull is real but not... this thing that cant be overcome by any stretch its a handicap but thats it. The average soijak from reddit can and often has a gf or wife
No they don't, those women settled for them because they couldn't get Chad
Settling is not a real relationship
People like her should consider look into community activities. That's a good start to meet and make friends. I hope to go to a DnD session my peer specialist refer me too and hope to make some friends.
This shit is depressing.
I mostly agree with the schooler guy, but then I also think that going back to uni wouldn't solve anything for me since what made me an incel in the first place is that I'm too autistic (and afraid) to escalate with a girl.
I just wish that there would be a way to connect with an equally autistic chick who is upfront about the transactional nature of relationships. My looks/personality/whatever are ok for you? Then we date, simple as. No beating around the bush and teenage theatrics. Sadly even with online dating there seems to be the same sort of bullshit going on. Even if you end up going on a date and vibe well, you still have to naturally escalate instead of just agreeing that you're now comfortable with each other getting physical.
And dunno if it's due to me being legitimately autistic or just heavily undersocialized, but I just can't deal with this bullshit of "hmm, now I have to put my hand there and depending on how she reacts then I move onto doing this or that." Wish I could just have the equivalent of an arranged marriage, but for a relationship in itself (that can turn into marriage down the line if it works out well enough).
>I mostly agree with the schooler guy
>And dunno if it's due to me being legitimately autistic
Yes.
Have you actually read his posts? he thinks WOMEN are the ones who stay inside in their rooms not knowing how to make eye contact and talk to people and have friends.
He doesn't believe that conversations outside of school are real. he thinks that all dating apps are own by one schizo company.
I wouldn't go that far, but I do agree with him that most relationships form either through friendship groups or within education & work environments where you get to interact with the same people over a long period of time. So if you're out of school, don't have a large friend group that affords you the possibility of meeting new chicks and your workplace has no single women, then you're more or less fucked.
If all your friendships end after graduation, those people in class weren't really your friends.
Also, get some real hobbies, join a gym, do some volunteer work.
>Also, get some real hobbies, join a gym, do some volunteer work.
Meh, the chances of meeting someone that way who'd enjoy being a fellow couch potato to lazily spend time with at home after work are too slim (which is what I want from a relationship). I'm tired enough as it is without squandering away my limited free time partaking in social activities that I don't care about.
>hey can where I meet people?
>here, at these places and events
>meh, I don't care now apparently
okay cool
I don't care about meeting socially outgoing women who wouldn't be compatible with me for the purposes of a relationship, yes.
why wouldn't they be compatible with you
you hoping to meet some fat NEET bitch instead?
I am a couch potato, I want a couch potato. Simple as. Someone who's into volunteering and social hobbies is not a good fit and would lead to resentment from whichever partner ends up sacrificing their way of spending their own free time in order to be with the other.
I just asked my dad how he met my mom.
Apparently they were in the same club, my dad liked here and approached her to dance and they hit it off.
But apparently according to some women in this thread this would constitute harassment by today’s standard.
Hook up culture is part of club culture, no one is gonna say shit about that but also
Your moms a whore, and youre an incel