I(21f) cry every time my bf (20m) follows a new girl on insta.

I(21f) cry every time my bf (20m) follows a new girl on insta. I don't have any social media presence but i regularly check his accounts therefore i do believe there is a stronger meaning behind forming a mutual online. He repeatedly says it means nothing and "she followed" me first etc etc but it seems to alwavs be someone he's
"heard of" or "knows about" already. Am i being irrational because i personally don't follow any guys to make him feel secure. He says the reason for him following. them is to "develop connections which can help him in the future and for business opportunities" like what could he possibly want from them/ be trying to sell to them? He says repetitively that i don't understand because i don't have the platform. in this generation intimacy and romance are dead because every guy wants every girl and see nothing wrong with befriending them on the internet.
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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Why do you cry about it? Do you think he doesn't love you because he looks at other girls?

    >He says the reason for him following. them is to "develop connections which can help him in the future and for business opportunities" like what could he possibly want from them/ be trying to sell to them? He says repetitively that i don't understand because i don't have the platform.
    This is bullshit lmao. Ain't nobody following some thot with 200k followers for "business opportunities" lmao.
    Does he follow thots or girls that he knows personally? If the latter, then it makes sense because that's how young people make friends, they add each other on instagram

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      yes i think that it's emotional cheating to be looking at other girls whom he knows provocatively and i am not naive enough to know why guys befriend girls is to slide into their dms. i'm a brunette and it always seems to be blonde girls he follows. his ex is also blonde which makes me question does he even fancy me because i don't have an account for him to look at. i genuinely think it's unfair that he can look at all the girls when i had to unfriend my guy friends for him and stop speaking to them. he doesn't really follow well-known thots. but guys and girls can't be friends cmon now. what can a 20 year old offer the opposite sex of the same age other than sex? i don't have any guy friends bcuz of him and i don't look at them and bow my head to them out of respect. why can't he do the same for mee? i feel like ive shown my love enough just to have it thrown back in my face because he's being hypocritical.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        So if it bothers you, you told him, and he doesn't care enough to stop, you need to either give him an ultimatum or accept it and not bring it up

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          This probably won't work unfortunately. E-girl following and DM/PM addiction is a real problem and a sign of deeper issues. It also means that you are not enough for him.

          I know someone personally who had a partner with a problem like this and it destroyed their marriage.

          It's a big deal if it's a big deal to you.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Get your hair lightened and see the reaction.

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    You'll NEVER EVER be a woman

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Go vegan

    It’s incredibly hypocritical of you to say that you are a victim while victimizing others

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Stop complaining and make a decision, dwelling on this will just make you unhappy.
    >1. following random girls he doesn't know irl is a red flag and something you will leave him for
    or
    >2. it is okay to follow random girls he doesn't know irl and you're fine with it

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      reading the second sentence will never compute in my brain

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Then make the first decision. If you feel bad about it but ignore it, it won't be good for you.

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Don't lose hope OP. If you don't like it you don't need a reason to stay. A lot of guys myself included don't really do the whole social media thing that much.

    I would think if I had someone to spend time with I'd be busy doing that instead of talking to insta-e-girls.

    There are dudes out there who prioritize quality time and plan romantic things in a thoughtful way. We're just hiding. A lot of times in plain site.

    Since extroverted men are more likely to hit on women and women tend not to make advances toward men due to cultural expectations (mostly) a lot of the romantic types don't get discovered.

    There are tons of us out there. Go find you one.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >I(21f) cry every time my bf (20m) follows a new girl on insta
      hahahah. HAHAHAHAH

      sorry man, she aint trying to date some loser. Shed rather stay with Cheating Chad

      Girl, you need a guy who doesn’t use social media. Guys who use social media are gross and need to get a life. You can do better.

      Crab Bucket.

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Also sweet frickin' lunch box.

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Dump him. He sounds like a loser who has a lot of time on his hands.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      he doesn't he works 9-6 everyday and goes to bed early which makes this hurt even more because the limited time we have together which is over the phone atm bc it's spring break he uses it to basically see others.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Dead bedroom on top of it? Woof.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          haha we're not staying together as of now because we're both home for midterm break but back in college we'd be sleeping together otherwise. if this is tmi i apologise but clearing this up.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            It is TMI (NSFFW has a lot of viewers and a lot of them are creeps). But thanks for clarifying and glad you're not in a live in situation with someone who does this to you. They can get creepy when you try to leave.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Girl, you need a guy who doesn’t use social media. Guys who use social media are gross and need to get a life. You can do better.

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Get over it you moron

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      sorry i'm trying to by venting here i thought you would convince me im being delusional

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        No your situation has cleared measurable flags for break up. Get out. You're too young to be stuck in a situation like this. Cheaters always try to talk their way out of it too. Don't let him. Write down the reasons you left and keep it on you if you get tempted to go back...

        Run like hell and go get some attention!

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        You are. Who the frick is telling you that your boyfriend having female friends on social media is a form of cheating? Yes he's interested in them hypothetically for sex in the future but I think that's his right. You're not married. However I do think he's an insecure gay for making you unfriend men on social media. This is a sign that you're dating a huge beta and you should break up with him for this piece.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          i wouldn't care as much if he let me keep my friends while he goes of with his but no he has everything at his fingertips and can do whatever he wants while i'm left with nothing.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            there are tonnes of loser dudes who have no idea NSFFW exists who would love to make you be the only girl in the world

            we have no sympathy that chad doesnt love as much you want him.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >chad

            Spends time talking to instas instead of out playing the field

            No

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            I do social media when I shit. Keeps my head on right, taking a shit while swiping through the sewer.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >chad
            Lmao. Guy who simps for girls on instagram (maybe pays them too) is definitely not a chad

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Hey bb it's chad on your insta wut u doin rite now

            I'm life of the party here layin' next to my cute gf doin' talkin to u

  9. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    You're ugly and they're hot. He likes blonde women and is only with you because he can't get a hot blonde woman. You're an insecure ugly b***h obsessing over a dude looking at porn and claiming its cheating because you don't understand men at all.

    He's going to dump you and you will sleep around trying to make yourself feel better. If you haven't already done so. All ugly women who can't compete offer cheap pussy as they know its all they're good for.

  10. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    lmao this generation is so fricked

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      how

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You love to see it.

  11. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    eita farofa

  12. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

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    Kill your fricking self normalgay.

  13. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    From a female here, if this guy hurts your mental health, therefore, you: leave him.

    I personally studied social interactions and men and women who have Instagram is really people to avoid, yes, they could change but I won't hang out with them that much because I understand part of their life is for fame (which is stupid, I think), which they would spend an incredible amount of time trying to impress people - cropping pictures, some of them talking shit about others in that platform, they're creating an image (I respect their hobbies but bruh, I am not going to spend time with weird people scrolling on social media all day).

    Bye!

    I stopped having Instagram myself few years back realizing how its a lot of work and waste of time (for me anyway).
    Also, following these people on Instagram for business?? If you're serious about business you would take economics, Masters in business, actually selling things on fairs, AND not following questionable people on Instagram.

    Increase your standards, girl. If you feel like this guy is hurting you mentally, leave him. Go have fun with someone else who would not try to hurt you mentally.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You can tell this woman isn't self aware.

      Instagram is a cancer but in some businesses its a nessecary evil like Facebook. Artists, store owners and craftsman can use social media as free marketing for their wares.

      Just because you're a prostitute flaunting your dog eared breasts and getting loans to buy crap you can't afford and signal on Instagram doesn't mean everyone else is c**t.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You can tell this is actually a woman by the moronic appeal to authority and lack of understanding of the subject she's speaking about.

  14. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Leave him, let's see how he reacts. Then leave him for real anyway. Guys like that needs to be taught a lesson.

  15. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    He is still young and therefore very likely addicted to the porn/social media trap

    I was until just last year and I'm 26 m

    The porn and online thot trap tricks guys into thinking there are all these hot available women and that the good life is being a bachelor and fricking many different girls on the side
    The reality is actually the opposite, and guys want this
    The porn trap is so ingrained that guys themselves do not know they actually want a loyal, pretty, kind wife material girl instead of a lot of thots; I myself did not even know this until quitting porn

    There is no way to get an addict to stop if he doesn't want to first
    If you are confident that you are 100% in the right when confronting him and don't budge an inch as far as letting him think what he's doing is justifiable, you will achieve the best results that are possible from this situation.

    What that means is:
    Because what he did is objectively sus, (your insecurity around being insecure about it has actually nothing to do with this fact) your moral confidence has a way of making the person you're confronting go directly to the issue at hand, rather than "compromising" on fake issues like "you didn't respect my privacy" or "you're just being insecure babe"
    and when confronted with this issue, he will either accept it or reject you
    If the addict (of which many of us are) refuses to stop then there really is nothing you can do, but if he sees how his use is hurting you, he may actually learn a real lesson he has not been taught by any firm and consistent teacher before, and he might actually want to change

    Do not take any guilt for "disrespecting his privacy", as that is merely a grievance he will try to use to justify his unrelated misdeed of being sus to other girls
    You know it and he knows it, pretending you shouldn't feel this way or pretending he doesn't know how it makes you feel is useless

    Old fashioned ladies knew this

  16. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    well, if he asked you to unfollow your male friends and you complied, you also have the right to ask him to unfollow those girls that he doesn't even know personally
    say this shit to him and if he doesn't comply, give him the ultimatum "them or you"

  17. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Is Instagram like a normal thing for youngsters to have or what? I guess I'm old as frick here but I've never had one, or really knew anyone who had one lol. What's the point, exactly? What's Instagram do that Facebook doesn't? Is it because everyone's parents are on Facebook, so they go to Instagram to post the scandalous pictures and whatnot?

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