I have a crush on a discord friend who has a bf IRL and idk how to feel about it.

I have a crush on a discord friend who has a bf IRL and idk how to feel about it. Most of the time it's fine because we text a lot but when we don't I miss her a lot. No one else can replace her right now because she's the only one I NEED. Literally everyone else means little to me compared to her. I'd probably move on if she ghosted me like I did the last time that happened but she responds enough to keep me hooked. Obviously she only texts me when she's bored and has nothing else to do. It's so painful that she's not MY GF!! And I rarely even think of her sexually ok I just wanna be close to her, whatever that means.

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >I have a crush on a discord friend who has a bf IRL and idk how to feel about it.
    If it's a good idea, keep doing it.
    If it's a bad idea, stop.
    >she's the only one I NEED
    Oh, you're a fricking moron.
    Well, go ahead and make yourself miserable.
    You must realise that being emotionally addicted to someone you don't control (and who isn't even interested in you) is a fricking stupid move, right?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Ok but how do I stop having these feelings?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        This board acts like controlling your emotions isn't an intuitive part of being conscious.
        You just do willpower at the emotion you want to have and stop doing willpower at the one you don't.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah I guess you're right it's just hard sometimes.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          And what if you have something wrong with your brain that means you quite literally can not control waht you think or feel?
          I can only control my reaction, which is usually staying away from people and suffering on my own

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Why the frick are you talking to a girl with a bf? Dont you have manners?
    But to be fair, its a gigant redflag, if it evere where that you to would hook up, think about how you met every time she talks with another guy on discord!

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      She has autism and she only talks to me when she can't talk to her bf. We don't flirt. She doesn't like me like that. We're not even in the same country. If her bf doesn't like it it's his job to say something ok?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Yea but going for another mans girl is nothing i would recommend, if there was a possibility that you guys ever became something more you took a bullet for the man she was with, in the same time digging your own grave.
        If she would leave him for a guy she never met, why do you think she wont do the same to you?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I'm not GOING for anything, I'm a secret admirer, not trying to seduce her because if I tried she'd block me like she has all the other guys who tried that on her.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        She's got issues and need someone to talk to constantly, which is why she's emotionally cheating on her bf with you. She relies on guys like you who also have issues and need a b***h to give you attention in order to feel good about yourself

        The way I stopped doing it was going through hell 3 or 4 times, now i don't do that any more. Frick them hoes

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          That's probably true. You know she made it seem like she was single for a long time when we first met. I think she wanted me to pine for her despite what she said to the contrary. But now that that secret's out that dynamic is much weakened.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        You're resorting to pushing your guilt onto someone else so there's one red flag for yourself to notice about you. Then there's also the redflag she has which is using other men to emotionally cheat, which she'd do to you as well if you were to get her.

        You're a piece of shit, so is she, don't blame the boyfriend for your misdeeds so you can feel like a good boy. "it's HIS fault she's cheating with me!" Frick you.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Cheating? She practically ghosts me as soon as she can see him irl lol. Rn he's working a lot and can't see her irl due to distance hence us talking so much.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            And most cheating (both emotionally and physically) happens "when she can't see her bf/husband". What's your point? She's only all over me once she isn't all over her boyfriend so it isn't bad? lol. Frick off.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Bro we have mostly impersonal chats about politics and fashion on DISCORD. I guess women can't have friends?

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Women in relationships can't have private friendships with men. Yes. You think otherwise only because you're the other man and benefiting from it, but the moment you have someone (LOL) you won't want her off with some other guy regardless if she's sucking his dick or talking about the economy. ESPECIALLY when that guy is a hardcore simp and it's obvious to everyone involved, or worse, if he doesn't know about you at all.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            You have a point. I always wanna ask her if her bf knows about me when she talks about him but I'm afraid of that topic for obvious reasons. Is it not much better if she doesn't show any interest in me and puts her bf first? She's madly in love with him I swear.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >I guess women can't have friends?

            the EXACT problem you have is you don't see her as JUST a friend. if you considered you two to be friends you wouldn't have made this thread because you wouldn't care she's not your girlfriend

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    You're a fricking simp homosexual prick, I'll tell you that much. Imagine this from her boyfriend's perspective. You aren't important here, you're just a toy on the side for her, you exist to cure her boredom. Find a girl that isn't already taken, wienersucker.

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    As someone who's been through a very similar thing IRL, lt me clarify something for you.
    What you're likely doing is projecting your loneliness as an attraction to a very taken girl. Because she gives you attention and makes you feel accepted you have developed feelings for her, most likely those feelings are real but they're not feelings of genuine attraction. Would you say OP that you have a slight bit of narcissism surrounding your self-worth? For me it was a girl being very friendly towards me, basically acting like a guy friend would just bantering and shooting the shit, that got me to believe that I was in love with her. But unless there's any serious reciprocation (aka sensual touching and kissing) it's nothing more than a friendship and you projecting her being friendly with you as affection. Chances are it's not.
    Eventually you'll get over it, but for now I'd say if you enjoy her conversation then keep it like that. Don't let her know how you feel or you will frick that relationship to death.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah I'm narcissistic but I'm not under the impression that she's attracted to me. Thanks for reminding me not to confess. I vaguely did when I found out she had a bf and it was awkward.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Don't talk to her next time she DMS you "hey my bf won't talk to me what do u think about politics and fashion you?"
        Here's what you do you find some other b***h to talk to or a few, or even guy friends. Tell her u can't talk because you're in voice com with the boys, or because you're watching a movie, or studying or working, practicing guitar, tell her ur fricking busy, and see how she reacts. You may be Surprised to see what happens if you pick up your balls. She'll probably get wet as frick

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          You're making a LOT of assumptions here. I'm not gonna steal her from her bf whom she's autistically devoted to. She doesn't say things that are clearly disrespectful like that lol. Usually I text her first and she responds eventually, unless I sent her 50 messages then she might not which kinda offends me but I'm used to it. If she texts me first it's just some random observation. I won't tell her I'm busy because if I really am I'll just respond later. Sometimes I get bored of texting and say ttyl and she never minds. I feel good when I do that tho because it means she didn't get bored first so I was finally less needy.

          Bap is a israelite and a fed

          Ok so what he's fun.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >Usually i text her first and she responds eventually unless i send her 50 messages then i get mad
            Omg this is a real life simp, simping over some sperg with a bf, i didn't know that it was a real thing

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Bap is a israelite and a fed

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >crush
    >discord friend
    unironically kys

    online isn't real. you have no grounds to mess with someone's real life where they have someone that they actually know in it

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      What am I messing with?? She talks to me voluntarily.

      >Usually i text her first and she responds eventually unless i send her 50 messages then i get mad
      Omg this is a real life simp, simping over some sperg with a bf, i didn't know that it was a real thing

      I never said I'm mad.

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