I got plowed in the butt for the first time and it was kind of unpleasant.

I got plowed in the butt for the first time and it was kind of unpleasant. It was my first time so it was painful but I didn't stop my boyfriend though since I felt bad. I just let him go until he was finished. I told my cis female friends about it and they said it was rape even though I didn't stop him. They said if you're ever uncomfortable then its rape because it means you were coerced and he should have noticed that I didn't like it and stopped. Is this true?

  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    No. You have to say something it’s not rape unless you tell them to stop you partner can’t read your mind

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Shitty top, but not a rapist

  3. 1 month ago
    Azunyan

    if there was any way for him to reasonably tell that you were in distress and he didn't even ask if you were okay I would tend more to yes,
    But if there was no way for him to reasoanbly know that you were in pain, then I think no.
    But you definitely should talk to him first about how it was painful and why you didnt want to say anything. It's important bc I am sure he wants it to feel good for you too

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you explicitly decided to let it keep going that’s not rape

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Unironically yes, that's rape. Women reserve the right to revoke consent at any moment.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      yeah but she should've told him she revoked it. unless OP was threatened or coerced into continuing even when she didn't want it then he would have no clue to know he's doing that

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I mean you usually can tell, he probably just decided to ignore it so he could coom. It's gross, rapey and malebrained but you cannot arrest somebody over that

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >he probably
          quit injecting your own assumptions into a story before casting judgement idiot.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        "any time" means "even retroactively"

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          If a sexual encounter starts with consent then it would be assumed to continue with consent unless a safeword is used or other sort of indication is made that the situation has changed. In other words if you give consent then you also have the responsibility to make it clear when you've withdrawn said consent.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I wanna link a thread I once saw about a similar topic, but not really:
    https://archived.moe/lgbt/thread/22156366/

    In this one, the top gave his trans gf a "safe word" of biting him if she's in discomfort. Instead, when she bit him, he got turned on, and went even harder. He made a thread asking for advice, and rightfully got called a rapist.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      that thread is definitely a rape situation, but hiding your discomfort + your partner not being an omnipotent mind reader, as seen in this thread, is not rape.
      OP is entitled to feeling bad after the whole thing, but it's pretty much just her fault.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        No. You have to say something it’s not rape unless you tell them to stop you partner can’t read your mind

        pls stay away from women

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          You can consider someone to be a selfish lover without calling them a rapist.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            OP's buttfucker is a rapist whether OP calls him one or not.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          pls stay away from men

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    its kind of rape-ish but its not really his fault he cannot read your mind. its very common for women to "let him finish" even if they dont want to to avoid confrontation and potential danger

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I guess with that definition but if he had no way to know you weren’t into it he’s not in the wrong. You aren’t either, just talk to him about it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      yeah it reminds me of another thread where a top had accidentally raped her gf because she was facing away from him and he couldn't see he was hurting her and she didn't say anything. it really sucks for everyone involved, it's traumatic for the victim and the bf obviously didn't want to rape his gf

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's in rape territory but I wouldn't hold it against him.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    wtf no, consensual sex is not rape.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You didn't like the sex and didn't COMMUNICATE FOR HIM TO STOP? Are you retarded?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I don't know if you can say that without it being victim blaming. I think both parties here could have done better.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        yeah OP is not in the wrong here, the bf could or could not be in the wrong depending on how it happened

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          OP is in the wrong if she accuses him of rape, which she hopefully won't do.
          Otherwise she just didn't communicate because she is dummy, they talk about it, everything gets back to normal, the motherfucking end.

  12. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Rape is sex without consent.
    If you don't communicate consent, then you aren't consenting.
    If you do communicate consent, then you are consenting.
    If you communicate a withdrawal of consent, then you are no longer consenting.
    If you don't communicate a withdrawal of consent, then from the perspective of your partner, you are still consenting.

    Rape is a crime, but crimes require two components, generally. These are the guilty act, and the guilty mind. The first of these is obvious: did the person do the illegal thing? The second is a bit more nuanced: did some component of the person's mental state indicate criminality? This might be intentionally doing something, or it might be negligence in some way. But if someone has done their due diligence in seeking your consent, and listening for the withdrawals of it, they cannot have such a guilty mind. That is to say, they are acting in good faith to obey the law, and the fact that they have broken it unintentionally (i.e. continuing to have sex with you while you have secretly withdrawn your consent) cannot be held against them.

    Taking this information in mind, your boyfriend is no rapist. He performed under the limited information that he had. In the future, you should consider that communication is important within a relationship. If you're not comfortable with something, say it! The two of you should be able to work out a way to please yourselves that works for the both of you.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >If you don't communicate a withdrawal of consent, then from the perspective of your partner, you are still consenting.
      but not from the perspective of the victim, which is the legally relevant perspective.

  13. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It's not rape. Your cisf friends have grown up in a world where anything they dislike is supposedly rape.

    Your bf however is shit but you're also dumb. If it's your first time getting dicked you're supposed to prepare until it is not painful. If it is painful you're doing it wrong. Both of you. Communicate with him. Tell him he's too big that you need time and experience.

  14. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    kill yourself op

  15. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You're both retarded

  16. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you're stupid for voicing your discomfort or starting slow
    your boyfriend is stupid for being a shitty lover
    and the women are just stupid

  17. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Not rape, because you didn't express you didn't want it.

    That said, consider his dick shape and whether and how it bends and then pick a position that will target the right spot. It stops the painful feeling when you're turned on and it's easier to take in.

  18. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    he's a terrible partner for not noticing your discomfort and not communicating with you. how you feel was to him irrelevant; he used you like you were nothing more than a fleshlight. he took advantage of your reluctance and guilt, this reads as emotional abuse.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      that's kinda hot

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >how you feel was to him irrelevant; he used you like you were nothing more than a fleshlight. he took advantage of your reluctance and guilt, t
      giwtwm

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      hard to tell if a bottom is in pain, they always make that weak little grunt sigh, so they always sound like they're in some kind of undesirable place but continue to take it

      bottoms do not have rights, they enjoy not having them

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  20. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It's not rape. I used to have no libido but still gave my bf blowjobs just to keep him from becoming frustrated. That was a conscious and calculated decision that I made out of love for him. What you did sounds similar, but like less work since you just have to endure a bit of pain.
    But just so you know, it's possible to enjoy sex. Try different positions that don't hurt. If the penetration depth is too deep you can use OhNut, although it's a bit expensive.

  21. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Is this true?
    no. You consented in the first placer and nothing you said or did changed that in anyway. You are just a suffering fool.

  22. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I gave consent and didn't say I wanted the sex to stop but my bf should have the mutant ability to read minds was I raped???

    Troons really are as bad as women.

  23. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >All these retards that don't know what rape is that will wrongfully throw an innocent person in jail for rape

    The only person in the wrong is you op for not being open about your feelings with your sexual partner and blaming them for your feelings YOU didn't communicate. I would dump you based on that. You can't communicate if I'm hurting you? How can I possibly trust you? Why would you make me hurt you? Just open your mouth and say let's use more lube or I can't fit you yet and I need more training. Let me finish you off with my hands or mouth and we'll practice until I can.

    Why the fuck are you having sex with people you can't even talk too? What the fuck is wrong with you zoomers.

  24. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    just because you didn't enjoy the sex doesn't mean its rape lmao

  25. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    nobody raped anybody in this circumstance and nobody is in the wrong. stop listening to cis women and don't ruin random people's lives, this is the whiniest shit I've ever seen and I'm a bottom

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