I got my own.

I am so relived to have found other people who feel the same way about love as I do. All my friends and family thought I was making stuff up when I told them I wanted nothing to do with love.

However, many people that suffer from philophobia have had a traumatic event to cause them to develop such a mind state. I haven't experienced such an event. Sure, my heart has been broken here and there, but I don't believe it has to do with me developing philophobia. I lead a fairly normal life with confidence and peace, but no love to give a companion.

Is it possible to be born not wanting romantic love? Am I just crazy that I don't want anything to do with it?

I strongly believe that the only person that I need to love in this life is me.

  1. 10 years ago

    HI...I feel ur pain...i used to get drunk to sleep with a guy so i didn't have to deal with emotions and i desperately needed intimate attention due to having a void i developed from childhood, but the only way i would get it was when i was drinking heavily and hooked up with someone...I want the emotional bond..so i had to drink because i felt guilty for just sleeping with someone out of nowhere...it's such a double edge sword, because i want the attention yet i'm scared to death of it...horrible way to live! You are not a whore you are just trying to be human and this condition doesn't allow us to be without protecting ourselves and fleeing before an emotional encounter happens and makes us lose control of ourselves!

    Good luck..i'm hoping therapy will help or i'm fucked!! So Far it's a 20 year Dilemna..i mean death sentence!

  2. 10 years ago

    Hello, yes absolutely helpful to know that there's other people out there that suffer from this condition...on top of having this problem and having to suffer ..we can't even hide the problem, because family and friends are always wondering why we still haven't find someone...it's like they know we have issues...it's not bad enough that we have this issue, we also have people judging us, thinking we're crazy, even homosexual because we don't have a partner....plus there's no official cure on top of everything else!

    That's a good question, about whether or not we're born with it...I did experience trauma in my childhood though...i was terrified of my mother because she hated me and was very abusive. I'm sure that has something to do with it..i think not feeling safe or being abused by a parent makes you fear love later because the most trusting and unconditionally loving person should start with your parent and if you don't receive that it changes your outlook of love forever.

    Good luck fellow sufferer!!

    Maybe more prayer is the only way 🙂

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