How to not be so sensitive anymore and thin skinned?
I believe everything is about me, everyone is laughing at me and that it matters. I am a grown man (21) and still act like an overgrown toddler, just fraught and riddled with insecurities and shame. I am trying to get better, trying to not be an asshole, but it seems like I am not or wasn't strong enough
It will take years to get better. Either way you wont die from sensitivity.
I can consciously acknowledge that being sensitive doesn't kill me, but it is ridiculous being 21 and acting like such a teenage girl, melodramatic and taking everything to heart. The world is much tougher than that but this is seriously getting out of hand and affecting my ability to live on a basic level. I quit jobs, I run from situations, I avoid things because I know just how sensitive and pathetic I am
Yea ok. Nothing you can do about it besides trying to get better.
I am trying, but I have a history and a pattern, I seem to have fallen back into old habits.
Ok. It is what it is.
Touche
I know it is narcissism, social anxiety, or some form of ocd. Maybe it is plain ol neuroticism or maybe it is having an over inflated sense of self to where you think everyone is worried about you, it is weird because I can consciously acknowledge these things, but putting them into practice is a struggle. I struggle with my mind trying to convince me of things I know to be untrue.
Listen to
what always helps me is actually dealing with other people. I'll never know what exactly is going through their minds, and I have spent too many time trying to be that mastermind who can predict everything. It's too stressful and I wouldn't desire it for anyone I care for
If you don't have regular social interactions like in college or your workplace, try just walking around at first. Talk to elders, for they are less judgmental I think (most people really aren't), about the weather or their grandkids
Then you can go for people around your age. Sports and the new blockbuster movies are always hotshots, but don't force yourself to something you don't enjoy. Ideally, find something you both like, and share contacts
The last level is women. Most people in the chans fail there, but it helps to think of them as normal humans like you and I, and not vicious as judging creatures who'll kick you in the balls and call you an incel or something.
Humor is always the best way to talk to others.
It usually happens to me when I spend a while away from people around my age. I always feel out of touch, as I have to learn how to be social again, kek
But it doesn't take long until I come back to normal
Not really, you're closer to a teenager girl than you are to me
Time waits for no one, before you know it 5 years have passed and you haven't actually gotten to the core of the situation. I am not saying I will be gone tomorrow, I am saying the day is over before you know it, and those days add up, you get the point. It is one thing to fear change, fear the unknown, it is another to fear not changing for the better. I got overwhelmed and it got to be too much for me, I get overwhlemed easily. I know I got issues, I tried being positive and convincing myself it isn't the end of the world, because it never is, but somehow the truth failed me. My emotions got the better of me.
I'm on the same boat. I'm 18 and I can't get rid of the thought of being always observed for every minimally shameful thing (the way I walk, talk, my little mannerisms)
What helps me cope is that, even if others remember about these small things, I most likely won't have to deal with it because they're not in my social groups, and if they are, I wouldn't care about the judgment of others when I disagree with it's validation.
The logic is, if a friend of mine comes at me mocking somebody for such small things, I'll be on the third person's side. How would that be any difference if I'm the third person?
I'm just saying give yourselves a break. You can't force stuff like this.
Agreed. Some people simply aren't build for constant societal interactions. I think they used to be blacksmiths or act in any other role that asked for a lot of skill as little socialization. Bad thing is, these people are now forced to be incels or npcs by their lack of incentive to either invest in their passion or capacity to excel socially
Sorry bad wording, me englishn't good
I grew up sheltered, babied, and coddled. "protected" from the outside world.
That shit fucked me up
let out of your ego, detach yourself from your image
I am trying to be less egotistical because I was in the past, but I don't know why that damn thing keeps coming back.
Sounds weird but try forcing yourself out of your comfort zone more often. Like do stuff that intimidates you and seems weird on purpose. If you like you can do it in a town over but literally try just laying down in random places, stare down random people you don't know for no reason, just basically do shit that makes other people uncomfortable for a while and you'll start to realize most people don't care and those that do are retarded. Might sound kinda unrelated but it will help you not to be so serious about everything
You should get pussy on your cock regularly, that makes you mentally tougher
I'm mentally tougher than you and I never had any pussy on my cock.
We should have a mental fight to see who's tougher
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God, I feel the same way. I can't fucking live like this, it's difficult to just exist in a public space where I'm open to any sort of ridicule from any person that may see me, I feel as if it's impossible for a person to be aware of me and not notice something off or awkward or unpleasant about me
I'm not particularly emotional but this has been gnawing away at me for a while, I wish I wasn't so fucking unnatural, it's like I was born to be mocked by the people that "get it"
Yeah, it is rough at times, even though it is all in our heads and our constant negative affirmations. I am trying to be better, to not be negative or blame other people for my problems, to not breakdown and be a bawling mess, to get it together and not be a loser, but I know I can't go back in time and undo the things I am ashamed of. I am reduced to nothing because I am nothing.