My type of man is a (stereotypical) woman in a man's body. Empathetic, sweet, cute, thoughtful, sensitive, submissive, timid/shy, subjective, "girly", and straight. However, the men I encounter are not like this at all- and the ones that seem feminine enough always turn out to be gay. I've only met my type on the internet, but never irl. I know that they tend to be shut-ins, so where and when can i catch one out in the wild? Or am I just being unrealistic and it's all a lie?
date a woman, a man like this doesn't exist our brains aren't wired like that
i guess i will, thanks for the response
Guys like this are avoidant. Literally or just in the sense that even if there was one they would be too difficult to form a relationship with.
That's me described to the last detail.
Bad news though, when you say we're all shut ins yes we are. There isn't a way to catch one out in the wild whatsoever. Our interests are usually random and have no pattern. As such you really have no way of being able to find one. It's unrealistic.
This too.
fuck you're right, but i'm pretty assertive so i don't think forming a relationship would be too much of a problem. i just need to find him
thank you, i'll definitely give that a try
there are people in this world who don't care about appearances, me included. love yourself, so that people can love u. also moving to a different place could help
Feminism, women wanted ruthless masculine men. If you act as sissy fag women wont like you. Actual women not troons
>My type of man is a (stereotypical) woman in a man's body. Empathetic, sweet, cute, thoughtful, sensitive, submissive, timid/shy, subjective, "girly", and straight.
You must be a woman because you're contradicting yourself, no man has those qualities and is actually not a gay. If you dated a man that was exactly like this, your vagina would dry up as fast as possible, and you would grow bored of him within six months. You unironically don't even know what you want.
>If you act as sissy fag women wont like you
This, when men display feminine qualities, in the back of most women's brains they begin to think less of that man as a potential mate. It's instinctual. Like how women say they're okay with men that cry in order to seem like they're empathetic and not shallow, but the second a man cries they lose all respect for them. That's exceedingly common in marriages from my friends and stories that I keep coming across.
>i'm pretty assertive so i don't think forming a relationship would be too much of a problem. i just need to find him
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Or stumble into a group that adopted that introvert
He doesn't exist.
>i'm not going to settle
You're setting yourself up for failure, take our advice, rescind on some of your standards, they're pretty unreasonable.
Also, what's your body count? age? Employment? etc? You keep talking about what you want, but what do you offer in exchange?
Try taking a class or getting into a hobby that these types of people are into. Check for some sort of art gathering or some nerdy hobby meet up and you might get lucky.
Or stumble into a group that adopted that introvert
>nerd hobby
No longer full of introverts
>art gathering
If it's a gallery it will be full of nothing but old people, all the would be young artists would still not be introverts, but won't even be there, if it's a class of some sort it's likely going to be full of women and old people as well, again interests for introverts vary so there isn't any good advice on where to find them.
in truth, that sounds like me, but I'm likely quite a bit older than you
I'm like that but black, nobody wants to date black guys. Not even black women.
It's over.
Oh I'd like to add that in addition to just being unrealistic I think you should just change what minimums you'll take in a man, or better yet simply date conventional men over the one's you want, one of the sad bitter truths of life is that you eventually have to give up and settle for someone you will never love or die alone.
i'm not going to settle. i feel hopeful that i'll find who i'm looking for. u should have some hope too. u don't have to accept the bitter 'truth" of life
Ah so you're going to delusionmaxx, excellent choice until you hit 40 and get the worst of both worlds because now you won't be able to enjoy any relationship, or have a family, but you can still settle form divorced dad's who are still not introverts because the men you like despite also being 40 accepted dying alone long ago.
i'll kill myself. either i find love and grow old with him or die alone but at a good age (￣ヘ￣)
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Solid choice, I wish I could do the same, sadly I have to stay on earth for a while longer, I have business to take care of, once it's done though I'll follow in your footsteps, and you probably will do so first.
i'll remember u stranger, hope u can find what u were looking for
>rather than by behaviour, seek by interest
will do, thank u!
how old are you?
whats your preference in looks?
I’m not really very submissive, more equal, and I meet all the rest of that very closely
Hey anon, I'm basically what you described. Except perhaps rather than feminine (despite my physical androgyny), I am... like a shy boy? Well, when I was a kid, I was a shy boy, but growing up as a man, shyness is not acceptable and I don't really have any real shyness in me left, just avoidant. The point I'm trying to make is that the aspects you seek in a man:
>Empathetic, sweet, cute, thoughtful, sensitive, submissive, timid/shy, subjective, "girly"
Will either get stamped out by society (no, not just other men), at least to extent where those qualities stay useful to society, if not the by the men themselves or a man will just learn to not display them. The only ones that can still display those in their behaviour are men that are already outside the "norm" which is probably why you've mostly met gay men.
So, rather than by behaviour, seek by interest and you'd do better. They're generally interested interested in "deeper" topics such as Philosophy, psychology, history or heck, even maths. Arts and musics also work.
If you want a guy with those qualities but who are also attractive, not to toot my own horn but I am, then you'd be lucky to meet one that's still available. I've noticed that most women that ask where all the good men are gone are pretty much seeking men with the same qualities you are. The answer is that they're taken. Especially since the women that are interested in them are looking for LTRs.
>inb4 trans.
Nope. But I think there's a lot of trans-men that fit your criteria actually, OP, if you don't mind being with them.
I'v met men like that. They are out there.
But that's besides the point. Many "tough" men will warm up to you once you meet them. (I've never been in a relation so I'm just guessing)
Date an mtf tranny
You're looking to date a girl with a dick? Not gonna happen.
I was like that and my ex cheated on me with a different guy. I don't know what to tell you but make sure you are not ruining someone's self image.
>I was like that and my ex cheated on me with a different guy.
Was the guy more traditionally masculine? A bad boy?