Desensitization works best when you combine it with something like CBT (you don't necessarily need a therapist, but it might help) otherwise you might just reinforce your negative thought patterns.
Desensitization works best when you combine it with something like CBT (you don't necessarily need a therapist, but it might help) otherwise you might just reinforce your negative thought patterns.
Unless you can unfuck your brain by ridding it of negative thought patterns, getting rejected will only reinforce your own negative views about yourself
I got over my self esteem issues by emulating and adopting the personalities of confident and boisterous fictional characters like Gilgames & Ozymandias from fate series and others. I stole small traits little by little and made an entirely new persona that I use when chatting with women and they love it. I’ve also made a lot of friends. I dress very loud now. Its to the point where I find most women boring unless they like anime, reading, cool shows, or video games like me. They smell when they can’t have you and they want you more. As far as rejection goes, In my world there is no rejection. Only people too ignorant to realize how cool you are or have their own hang ups. And sometimes this is genuinely true. I’ve encountered women that are too self conscious and low self esteem to feel like they deserve a partner. Or that I’m too good for them but that may be from only aiming for nerdy liberal art chicks.
>they smell when they can't have you and they want you more
Untrue, you live in a world of your own delusions. Women love egomaniacs and narcissists. They know they have a chance of winning your attention if they stroke your oversized ego the right way. And when you become dependent on her sex & validation, you will become the paypig of her dreams.
When a man is truly unreachable, and a woman senses this right off the bat, she will quickly disengage - that is, if she even bothered to try flirtation in the first place. A man who is asexual or devoid of any emotional response, for example.
Way to cherry pick, autist. Having confidence got me many friends, laid with 4 women, two of whom I’m still friends with, and a good full time job that I wasn’t qualified for but knew the manager. What’s your contribution other than sounding like you don’t go outside vs me who is responding to you between TFT games, 2 Bumble conversations, and YouTube essays at a desk job that pays me to sit around answering phone calls. Tonight I’m getting my hair done for a road trip to a video game tournament tomorrow at a beer brewery. Swallow my entire dick.
Why should it NOT hurt to be rejected?
To feel means you are still human.
To hurt from rejection means that you genuinely wanted it to work out, but it didn't, for whatever reason.
Embracing emotionless existence is the ultimate doompill. Women will disengage and drift away after only a few minutes of chatter, unless you can engage on an intellectual level - which is quite rare with women, tbh.
First you have to respect yourself for who you are, emphasizing on your positive aspects that make you (you).
Be it the shape of your mouth, one of your stronger skills, your intellect, your unique taste in music or other arts, anything.
Ideally you should reach a state of self-respect where you can conclude it's the girl's loss if she rejects you.
Well did you ever reject anyone, like did you not agree with someone. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and sometimes that opinion may not align with your point of view and that's ok because you people are not the same.
If you think about this from time to time you will reach to the conclusion that this thought process isn't a personal attack on you in sort of way.
By knowing rejection isn't necessarily failure. The only failure is you not asking her out at all. Even if she says no, you take it with grace, move on, learn from the experience and feel proud that you had the balls to at least ask, most guys would not have.
I'm not saying rejection can't hurt, it probably will but not knowing and regretting hurts far more.
Take the stoic pill. It's a lot easier to be rejected when you shrug it off as "something you can't fix now, so why worry about it?" Learn from it and keep moving forward.
Remember that death comes, in the face of death everything is trivial. Remember too how shallowly you sometimes reject people, sometimes for no reason at all, sometimes not in a serious manner, sometimes you regret rejecting them instantly too; rejection doesn't have to 'mean' anything at all.
bamp, I need strategies or tips
desensitizing yourself to rejection by getting rejected alot
that hasnt worked for me. other people say it works. idk what is wrong with me
I feel like everyone fucking hates me and doesn't want to be around me, and I don't know if I'm imagining it because I have low self esteem
Work your self esteem
Or stop caring about the self esteem
any tips for working on my self esteem?
Desensitization works best when you combine it with something like CBT (you don't necessarily need a therapist, but it might help) otherwise you might just reinforce your negative thought patterns.
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Unless you can unfuck your brain by ridding it of negative thought patterns, getting rejected will only reinforce your own negative views about yourself
I love her so much, I dont care if she rejected me if I at least got to speak with her
You got to speak with ana de armas?
I wish
same. I just like looking at her from time to time. I would probably give up my entire life savings to have her as an AI gf
Same. I am categorically against an AI gf because I want a real human connection. But if Joi went up for sale IRL id buy immediately
I got over my self esteem issues by emulating and adopting the personalities of confident and boisterous fictional characters like Gilgames & Ozymandias from fate series and others. I stole small traits little by little and made an entirely new persona that I use when chatting with women and they love it. I’ve also made a lot of friends. I dress very loud now. Its to the point where I find most women boring unless they like anime, reading, cool shows, or video games like me. They smell when they can’t have you and they want you more. As far as rejection goes, In my world there is no rejection. Only people too ignorant to realize how cool you are or have their own hang ups. And sometimes this is genuinely true. I’ve encountered women that are too self conscious and low self esteem to feel like they deserve a partner. Or that I’m too good for them but that may be from only aiming for nerdy liberal art chicks.
>they smell when they can't have you and they want you more
Untrue, you live in a world of your own delusions. Women love egomaniacs and narcissists. They know they have a chance of winning your attention if they stroke your oversized ego the right way. And when you become dependent on her sex & validation, you will become the paypig of her dreams.
When a man is truly unreachable, and a woman senses this right off the bat, she will quickly disengage - that is, if she even bothered to try flirtation in the first place. A man who is asexual or devoid of any emotional response, for example.
Way to cherry pick, autist. Having confidence got me many friends, laid with 4 women, two of whom I’m still friends with, and a good full time job that I wasn’t qualified for but knew the manager. What’s your contribution other than sounding like you don’t go outside vs me who is responding to you between TFT games, 2 Bumble conversations, and YouTube essays at a desk job that pays me to sit around answering phone calls. Tonight I’m getting my hair done for a road trip to a video game tournament tomorrow at a beer brewery. Swallow my entire dick.
Why should it NOT hurt to be rejected?
To feel means you are still human.
To hurt from rejection means that you genuinely wanted it to work out, but it didn't, for whatever reason.
Embracing emotionless existence is the ultimate doompill. Women will disengage and drift away after only a few minutes of chatter, unless you can engage on an intellectual level - which is quite rare with women, tbh.
It hurts but the feeling passes. Learn to love yourself first if you feel like it's not bearable to get rejected.
"Their loss."
First you have to respect yourself for who you are, emphasizing on your positive aspects that make you (you).
Be it the shape of your mouth, one of your stronger skills, your intellect, your unique taste in music or other arts, anything.
Ideally you should reach a state of self-respect where you can conclude it's the girl's loss if she rejects you.
Well did you ever reject anyone, like did you not agree with someone. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and sometimes that opinion may not align with your point of view and that's ok because you people are not the same.
If you think about this from time to time you will reach to the conclusion that this thought process isn't a personal attack on you in sort of way.
I rejected women constantly when I was handsome but now I am fat and balding and they treat me like shit. Everyone treats me like shit including men.
By knowing rejection isn't necessarily failure. The only failure is you not asking her out at all. Even if she says no, you take it with grace, move on, learn from the experience and feel proud that you had the balls to at least ask, most guys would not have.
I'm not saying rejection can't hurt, it probably will but not knowing and regretting hurts far more.
Take the stoic pill. It's a lot easier to be rejected when you shrug it off as "something you can't fix now, so why worry about it?" Learn from it and keep moving forward.
I don't talk to other people.
Remember that death comes, in the face of death everything is trivial. Remember too how shallowly you sometimes reject people, sometimes for no reason at all, sometimes not in a serious manner, sometimes you regret rejecting them instantly too; rejection doesn't have to 'mean' anything at all.
because most women are fucking idiots