How do you get over someone you genuinely thought was ‘the one’? It’s been six months and I still feel horrendous over it.
How do you get over someone you genuinely thought was the one?
How do you get over someone you genuinely thought was ‘the one’? It’s been six months and I still feel horrendous over it.
It took me 4 years, she was in the background of a friend's Halloween party pics (must have been someone's +1 as they didn't know each other), and she hit the wall incredibly hard in her mid 20s. Looks less like a daughter and more a little sister of both of her parents. Her late 30s sister looks younger than her. Somehow that sight freed up something within me.
>when his love and obsession about the one is pure physical attraction
gosh we humans are fucking pathetic man
Hey man whatever it takes
murder
>How do you get over someone you genuinely thought was ‘the one’?
They say you get over it half the time you spent together, but that's just the saying. The way I healed and helped myself was to study what I did wrong. What moves that became my errors. How I treated her vs how she wanted to be treated. How I acted and what I thought was going to make her happy, vs what she actually wanted me to act like so she is truly happy. There's much relief in studying your actions and what led to certain conclusions. You have your own closure, even if she didn't give you a real one. Do a self-analysis.
There exists no such thing as ‘the one’. It’s a lie of the fuckin’ devil, and exists only in Disney and Hollywood, so cut yourself some long overdue slack. Be thankful it doesn’t actually exist. Once you realise what’s really happening, what real love actually is, you’ll see that the notion of ‘the one’ is a cheap knock-off of actual proper love. You might even laugh at it when reality hits you and you see how stupid you had been.
‘The one’ isn’t your wife. It’s your life lesson, so learn it as efficiently and quickly as you can and you’ll thank yourself for it, years down the line when you finally learn that there was no ‘one’, there was two. It’s a fucking relationship bro, did you forget you existed or something? The only way the oneitis logic adds up is when someone feels like a fucking zero and + one person in a ‘relationship’. No shit they seem like ‘the one’ in that equation. And it’s a broken equation. Because you’re not in it, not even when you had them around. You’re the one, except you didn’t allow yourself to identify as the one. So you looked for someone else to do that for you. And it went to shit. So treat yourself like the one and forgive yourself, shit.
read “the other side of grief”. thank me later
I'm crying my eyes out over my ex 5 months after break up. I'm so lame
You’re crying over a phantom. And don’t you go calling yourself lame, leave yourself alone fuck sake lol. Nothing lame or invalid about your pain dude. The pain is real, if it wasn’t real, you wouldn’t be feeling it.
But that doesn’t make the ghost you’re haunting yourself with real, the idealised image of your ex that you keep putting above yourself, even now, at a time when you need yourself the most. That’s the shit that need to go, not your pain or your crying.
Thank you
No problem. Be sure to thank yourself for hangin’ in there and we’re even
You just do man. It sucks, it's painful, but you'll get through it.
If she doesn't care about you she wasn't the one.
Escorts, strippers, or slam some random fanny
I done fucked up in the past not doing this
Do that
>slam some random fanny
Would if could. I don't know what women want but it clearly isn't me lmfao
>Would if could.
its difficult, but at the same time easy to deal with women, if you've been with them for a while. The meta is to keep them interested in you. That's the whole game. If they were interested in you in the beginning, you were doing something right. You just didn't know what to do after that to keep her around and probably lost her to another dude.
>I don't know what women want but it clearly isn't me lmfao
women want a man who acts like a man, not a pussy bitch. She wanted a dude who would tell her how to act in a relationship. That if she was doing something to piss you off, you needed to tell her off and let her know how you wanted her to act around you. She doesn't want you to please her at all, or try to make her happy. Because once you do that to women, they leave in a hurry. As a man, you needed to mind your own and worry only about your own business. That you should have always been building your life to be better, everyday. She just adds to your life like a delicious flavoring- but you don't say the "sprinkles on top" of the sundae is the entire desert. It just adds to an already-great life. Men make the mistake of focusing everything they're doing on the girl and wondering why they're pushing her away more and more. Sulking and crying about it isn't helping you none either. LEARN. So it doesn't happen again. The next girl that finds you attractive- you know how to treat her next time. Like an asshole. But not a violent or rapist one. Like a guy that cares nothing about what she thinks or says and just minds his own business. If she wants to get dicked down, good. Don't force her. This is where being nice comes in, without being that "nice guy." Remember this shit.
It took 2 girls to learn this. Haven't found a third yet. It's grim out there
I go out every weekend
6 months isn’t enough time. You have to give it at least a year, maybe 2. Sometimes even longer. But it will get better.