You can't really cope with it.
If it's something like alzheimers or dementia.
Then unfortunately all you can do is try to help them not hurt themselves, anon. Unless you're a savage like me; I'd find the nearest volcano and relieve my folks of losing their entire identity via madness.
I'd expect my kids to do the same for me if I was losing my literal mind and memory.
It's just people are so tragic there's like an umpteenth point of sad reached where obvious values are gone. You don't know what you got...ever...and really though there's a dark side to people and so you have to hold onto it otherwise a wedge between you and sanity even might be lost forever.
I'm watching my father lose his mind, he's so combative and believes he's always right so it's particularly frustrating.
I don't know, OP, I wish I knew.
My mom has showered less than 50 times in my 20 Plus years of existence. She hasnt showered for at least 400 days
What do I do?
I dont want her in my life
I hate doing anything with my mother. She's always so angry and wants me to do things for her. She can't relax and drive like a normal person. If a total stranger inconveniences her for a second they must be doing it deliberately. If they're not doing it annoy her it's because they're Chinese/Indian/old/young/female. She zooms around and cuts people off like a psychopath. She doesn't ever travel at the legal speed limit either. I just kinda sit there and listen to her unload on me like I'm her therapist. She'll complain about everything. Friends, family, religion, the government. I think she watches too much television. If she doesn't want me there so she can vent it's so I can do things for her that she can easily do herself. Carry something. Make her food or a drink. Drive somewhere to pick up crap she bought online. I don't really mind doing stuff like that if she were genuinely busy but she procrastinates and works less than I do. I'm already taking my niece to dance and swim lessons (which requires I participate) that she signed her up for because she said she'd take her. She got sick and suddenly I'm doing it most weeks because she can't because she's "recovering."
my mother has always been crazy and she's getting worse thanks to 30 years of alcoholism. im pretty sure she's in the early stages of early onset alzheimers. she's been a fiend her entire life so it doesn't surprise me. our dog just died a month ago. she neglected that dog her entire life but consistently pats herself on the back thinking she was a great dog owner.
she convinced my idiot father to get another dog, the same breed... couldn't even wait a couple months, just impulsively decided to get another one. it makes me sick dealing with her, she never had a brain but she has even less of it now. and she's only going to get worse from here on out. shes just a miserable piece of shit and everyone hates her
Mhm many such cases. Be grateful you see it clearly and you're not like her. I wish there was a better solution but all you can really do is avoid people like that. Remove them from your life. I had to remove all my relatives to live in peace and sanity.
shes basically livia soprano but with 100x more screaming. basically her hobby is screaming on the phone with her mother all day long, they get in big fights on the phone like once every 4 or 5 months and stop speaking to each other then repeat the cycle. both of them are insane
Normies to self reflect and ask themselves if they actually enjoy fighting and haven't realized it yet. I did. It's why I both stopped fighting and I kind of fight harder. I straight up tell people they're just yelling and screaming for a dopamine hit.
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y'know, this is the best advice i've gotten on here in a long time, anon. what kind of responses do you get when you tell people that?
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They either snap out of it and realize they're doing it and apologize... or they just go into denial mode but you can tell it's effecting them. I experimented with a similar approach of meditating when I'm being yelled at or cussed out.
It freaks them out.
Them: >YOU ARE NOT LISTENING TO ME!!! >YOUR EYES ARE CLOSED!
Me: >This is how I listen to the universe, and it's not good enough for YOU? >What value is in your words?
See because sitting down with your eyes closed and legs crossed is the OPPOSITE POSITION of what they want. They want a fight where you cower in fear of them. Meditating in their face not only signals you don't fear them, but it shows they don't even want you to LISTEN they want you to EMOTIONALLY REACT. They want to read your emotions and show themselves as the victor. Denying them that puts them in this socially awkward position they can't handle.
It looks pretty bad when your opponent is chilling there in the lotus position meditating while you're yelling and screaming at them, doesn't it? Makes them look like the asshole real fucking quick.
My mother is unironically a child.
She is what has made me mysoginistic asf, her assesed iq is 110 and she acts like a child, speaks loudly like a child and cannot hold a debate because she is unironically deluded that her life is a film, lqst week she was driving me to the gym, some naggers on the side of the street were pushing each other and fkn around, she honks qt them and start screaming, like bruh do you think this is a 90s movie?
>She is what has made me mysoginistic asf,
Same for me, which is funny because they like to pretend one can only start loathing women because of a lack of sex, but our mothers are the females we're exposed to the most and that gives us a clue how they all operate.
And they're all crazy, idiot, child-like creatures playing pretend-adult to get a free meal ticket from horny men.
Just realize she's human like so and prone to human problems. Best you can to is be the anchor of reality for her.
You can't really cope with it.
If it's something like alzheimers or dementia.
Then unfortunately all you can do is try to help them not hurt themselves, anon. Unless you're a savage like me; I'd find the nearest volcano and relieve my folks of losing their entire identity via madness.
I'd expect my kids to do the same for me if I was losing my literal mind and memory.
Don't listen to psychos on the internet too they're all like literally nazis.
also people are so fallen you really can't listen to them just salvage the relationship then it will matter later, she's just psychic or something
It's just people are so tragic there's like an umpteenth point of sad reached where obvious values are gone. You don't know what you got...ever...and really though there's a dark side to people and so you have to hold onto it otherwise a wedge between you and sanity even might be lost forever.
Is Alzheimers really that bad for the person going through it? Seems like it's far worse for the family.
Put her down like ol' Yeller, there is no point preserving someone who's no themselves anymore
Unrelated but I'd fuck the the shot out of judy
i just give her risperidone
that's not nothing but really it will be like nothing since she's so fundamental it's a bad sign too
I'm watching my father lose his mind, he's so combative and believes he's always right so it's particularly frustrating.
I don't know, OP, I wish I knew.
My mom has showered less than 50 times in my 20 Plus years of existence. She hasnt showered for at least 400 days
What do I do?
I dont want her in my life
What's the smell like?
Originally.
I hate doing anything with my mother. She's always so angry and wants me to do things for her. She can't relax and drive like a normal person. If a total stranger inconveniences her for a second they must be doing it deliberately. If they're not doing it annoy her it's because they're Chinese/Indian/old/young/female. She zooms around and cuts people off like a psychopath. She doesn't ever travel at the legal speed limit either. I just kinda sit there and listen to her unload on me like I'm her therapist. She'll complain about everything. Friends, family, religion, the government. I think she watches too much television. If she doesn't want me there so she can vent it's so I can do things for her that she can easily do herself. Carry something. Make her food or a drink. Drive somewhere to pick up crap she bought online. I don't really mind doing stuff like that if she were genuinely busy but she procrastinates and works less than I do. I'm already taking my niece to dance and swim lessons (which requires I participate) that she signed her up for because she said she'd take her. She got sick and suddenly I'm doing it most weeks because she can't because she's "recovering."
She should have her driver's license revoked.
She was always insane you're just maturing enough to see it now. Best cope is to move and get away from her.
my mother has always been crazy and she's getting worse thanks to 30 years of alcoholism. im pretty sure she's in the early stages of early onset alzheimers. she's been a fiend her entire life so it doesn't surprise me. our dog just died a month ago. she neglected that dog her entire life but consistently pats herself on the back thinking she was a great dog owner.
she convinced my idiot father to get another dog, the same breed... couldn't even wait a couple months, just impulsively decided to get another one. it makes me sick dealing with her, she never had a brain but she has even less of it now. and she's only going to get worse from here on out. shes just a miserable piece of shit and everyone hates her
Mhm many such cases. Be grateful you see it clearly and you're not like her. I wish there was a better solution but all you can really do is avoid people like that. Remove them from your life. I had to remove all my relatives to live in peace and sanity.
shes basically livia soprano but with 100x more screaming. basically her hobby is screaming on the phone with her mother all day long, they get in big fights on the phone like once every 4 or 5 months and stop speaking to each other then repeat the cycle. both of them are insane
I swear people ENJOY that cycle. Blood gets pumping. They feel ALIVE when fighting. So they keep provoking fights.
both of my retard parents are like this. hated it so much
Normies to self reflect and ask themselves if they actually enjoy fighting and haven't realized it yet. I did. It's why I both stopped fighting and I kind of fight harder. I straight up tell people they're just yelling and screaming for a dopamine hit.
y'know, this is the best advice i've gotten on here in a long time, anon. what kind of responses do you get when you tell people that?
They either snap out of it and realize they're doing it and apologize... or they just go into denial mode but you can tell it's effecting them. I experimented with a similar approach of meditating when I'm being yelled at or cussed out.
It freaks them out.
Them:
>YOU ARE NOT LISTENING TO ME!!!
>YOUR EYES ARE CLOSED!
Me:
>This is how I listen to the universe, and it's not good enough for YOU?
>What value is in your words?
See because sitting down with your eyes closed and legs crossed is the OPPOSITE POSITION of what they want. They want a fight where you cower in fear of them. Meditating in their face not only signals you don't fear them, but it shows they don't even want you to LISTEN they want you to EMOTIONALLY REACT. They want to read your emotions and show themselves as the victor. Denying them that puts them in this socially awkward position they can't handle.
It looks pretty bad when your opponent is chilling there in the lotus position meditating while you're yelling and screaming at them, doesn't it? Makes them look like the asshole real fucking quick.
Take that dog and let it loose in some random neighborhood
My mother is unironically a child.
She is what has made me mysoginistic asf, her assesed iq is 110 and she acts like a child, speaks loudly like a child and cannot hold a debate because she is unironically deluded that her life is a film, lqst week she was driving me to the gym, some naggers on the side of the street were pushing each other and fkn around, she honks qt them and start screaming, like bruh do you think this is a 90s movie?
I honestly think this woman might be schizofrenic
>She is what has made me mysoginistic asf,
Same for me, which is funny because they like to pretend one can only start loathing women because of a lack of sex, but our mothers are the females we're exposed to the most and that gives us a clue how they all operate.
And they're all crazy, idiot, child-like creatures playing pretend-adult to get a free meal ticket from horny men.
you dont
life sucks
i haven't seen nor spoken to my mother in about 6 years
Let me guess, she's a single mother? *sigh*